19 Zochita ndi Zosachita Pambuyo pa Kutha

Simudziwa kuti chibwenzicho chingakhale kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji kapena sichikhalitsa. Nthawi zina mapeto amakhala mwadzidzidzi moti palibe amene akanatha kuwaona akubwera. Ngakhale chikanakhala choyenera kuchita, mmodzi kapena nonse akanakhalabe okhumudwa kwa nthawi yaitali. Zimenezi n’zomveka, chifukwa vuto la maganizo limene limabwera chifukwa chosudzulana ndi lovuta kupirira. Ndipo kudziwa zomwe mungachite mukatha kutha ndizovuta kwambiri.

Kusweka kumakhudza kwambiri thanzi ndi malingaliro amunthu. Kuchokera kudzimvera chisoni ndi chisoni kupita ku mpumulo ngakhalenso chisokonezo; sudziwa zomwe zikubwera kwa iwe. Mutha kumva zonsezi nthawi imodzi, kapena chimodzi pambuyo pa chimzake, kapena mosatsata dongosolo linalake. Kumasokoneza kugona ndi kadyedwe kake, ndipo kungachititse munthu kuvutika maganizo. Komabe, kuchira pambuyo pa kusudzulana n’kosapeŵeka.

Kuti tithandizeni kufulumizitsa ntchitoyi, talemba mndandanda wa zinthu 19 zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi zomwe simuyenera kuchita mutathetsa chibwenzi chanu kuti muthe kupirira nthawi yovutayi mosavuta. Lero, tikukambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Nandita Rambhia , yemwe ndi katswiri wa CBT, REBT, ndi uphungu wa okwatirana. Pitani pansi kuti mupeze malangizo enieni amomwe mungamvere bwino mutathetsa chibwenzi chanu.

19 Zochita ndi Zosachita Pambuyo pa Kutha

Kutha kwa chibwenzi kumakhudza thanzi la maganizo la aliyense pamlingo winawake, ngakhale atakhala ndi chithandizo chambiri chamaganizo. Ndipo nthawi yopuma yomwe mumakhala nayo mukatha chibwenzi ingakusiyeni mukuganizira zolakwa zakale, mukuganizira kuti 'bwanji-bwanji' ndi 'bwanji'. Padzakhalanso nthawi ina yomwe mudzadziimba mlandu nthawi zonse chifukwa chovulaza munthu winayo. Izi zingakugwetseni m'dzenje la kugwedezeka ndi kutopa.

Kulephera kudziwa zoyenera kuchita mutathetsa chibwenzi kungalepheretse kuchira kwanu. Ndipo ngati simuphunzira kuchira mukatha kutha, maubwenzi anu amtsogolo adzasokonekera chifukwa cha katundu ndi zowawa zomwe mukunyamula kuchokera ku zomwe munakumana nazo m'mbuyomu. Ndi zachilendo kumangokhalira kukakamira pamene mukusweka mtima koma, monga nthawi zonse, kumapeto kwa ngalandeyi kumakhalanso kuwala. Ndipo titha kukuwonetsani momwe mungafikire kumeneko mwaumoyo.

Ngati mukukumana ndi zothetsa banja ndipo simukudziwa choti muchite, mndandanda wazomwe mungachite ndi zomwe simuyenera kuchita mutasudzulana udzakuthandizani kuti mutuluke mu gawo loipali la moyo. Nawa upangiri wathu waukatswiri pazomwe tingachite mukatha kutha, komanso zomwe muyenera kupewa:

Kudzisamalira

Kumva ngati mulibe kanthu mukatha kusudzulana n'kosapeweka. Koma tikukulimbikitsani kuti mudzipatse nthawi yoti mudutse bwino magawo amalingaliro. Gawoli siliyenera kukhala mapeto a moyo wanu. Kuchira mukatha kusudzulana n'kotheka, monganso chibwenzi mukatha kusudzulana. Koma, kuti mukonzekere, muyenera kukumbukira zinthu zingapo. Musadandaule, tikuzilemba pansipa! Choyamba, muyenera kuyamba kudziika patsogolo m'njira zotsatirazi:

1. Pangani kupuma koyera

Makamaka ngati mukudabwa choti muchite pambuyo pa kutha kwa ubale wautali. Simufunikanso katswiri wa zibwenzi kuti akuuzeni izi, chifukwa uwu ndi mutu wakale kwambiri m'bukuli. Ngakhale kuti zimamveka zovuta, ndizofunikira. Zinthu zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino:

• Pewani bwenzi lanu lakale kwa nthawi yonse yomwe mukufunikira
• Osayesa kuzembera wakale wanu pazama TV; aletseni ngati ndizomwe zimafunika kuti mukhale kutali
• Osakumana ndi mabwenzi apamtima mukatha kutha ngati kuwawona kumakuyambitsani kapena kumabweretsa zowawa
• Mungaganize kuti n’zotheka kukhalabe abwenzi ndi ex, koma nthawi zambiri, zimaphulika mochititsa chidwi. Kuchira kuchokera pakutha kumayamba mukamapumula bwino, m'malo mobwerera m'malo akale, zowawa ndi machitidwe.
• Kumbukirani kuti ubalewo unatha pazifukwa, palibe chomwe chatsala kuti chipulumutsidwe. Ndi bwino kungochokapo ndi ulemu wanu

2. Vomerezani mmene mukumvera mutatha kupatukana

Chinthu chachiŵiri chofunika kwambiri ndicho kuvomereza zopweteka zonse ndi malingaliro oipa amene kutha kumabweretsa. Pamene mukumana ndi chisudzulo chomvetsa chisoni, n’kwachibadwa kumva chisoni, kukwiya, ndi kukhumudwa. M’pofunika kuvomereza maganizo amenewo m’malo mongowakana.

Tikufunsa katswiri wathu: Kodi mungatani kuti zinthu ziyende bwino mutapatukana pamene mukukondanabe? Nandita akuti:

• “Kudzipatsa nthaŵi yolira ndi kuvomereza malingaliro anu ndiyo mbali yofunika kwambiri ya kuchira
• Simuyenera kumva bwino posachedwa. Khalani omasuka kulira ndi kukuwa - zizolowezi zotere zimathandiza kumasula malingaliro olakwika
• Lembani maganizo anu aakulu ndi ang'onoang'ono; kulemba zinthu ndi njira yabwino yothanirana nazo”

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3. Dziwani zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala

Mwayi mumamva ngati munataya gawo lanu mutataya chikondi cha moyo wanu. Koma ndi nthawi yoti mudzinyamule ndikudzisisita pamsana. Ganizilani izi motere, wokondedwa wanu wakale tsopano wasiya moyo wanu ndipo muli ndi nthawi yonseyi kuti mupeze zinthu zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala.

• Khalani nokha: Tengani nthawi yopuma, khalani ndi inu nokha, ndikuzolowera kampani yanu
• Yambani ntchito zina zakale: Chitani zonse zomwe mumakonda kuchita koma mnzanu wakale sanafune kuchita. Mwina mumakonda kusambira koma mnzanuyo sanali wosambira. Yakwana nthawi yobwereranso kudziwe!
• Dzipezeni nokha: Pitani pamasiku aumwini ndikudzisangalatsa. Konzani misomali yanu, gwiritsani ntchito mtundu watsopano watsitsi, kapena ingowonjezerani zovala zanu. Yambani kupita ku kalasi ya yoga kapena konzani zosangalatsa zatsopano kapena yambani kupalasa njinga kuzungulira mzindawo kuti mupume mpweya wabwino m'mawa. Mudzamva bwino… pamapeto pake

Tsopano popeza mwatuluka muubwenziwu, tengani nthawi yoganizira za inu nokha ndikupeza zomwe zimakusangalatsani. Mudzamvetsetsa kufunika kwa nthawi yokhala nokha ndipo mudzaphunzira momwe mungakhazikitsire malire muubwenzi wanu wamtsogolo. Mwanjira yabwino, muyenera kuphunzira kukhala osangalala mukakhala ndi inu nokha musanaganize zopanga chibwenzi mutathetsa chibwenzi . Izi zidzakuthandizani ndikutsimikizira kuti mwakonzeka bwino maubwenzi anu onse amtsogolo.

4. Funsani anzanu ndi achibale anu

Mukakambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, amakuuzani kuti ndikofunikira kukhala ndi njira yothandizira mukakumana ndi zovuta zotere. Ndipo n’zimenenso Nandita akusonyeza. Iye anati: “Muzikhala ndi anthu amene amakumvetsani, amene amakumvetsani, amene amakuthandizani kuti mukhale bwino. Pezani thandizo kwa omwe angakuthandizeni kukusokonezani ndikusiya malingaliro anu kutali ndi wakale wanu. Muzicheza nawo kuti mukumbukire mmene mumakondera.

Koma mungapitirire bwanji mutatha kupatukana mukadali mchikondi? Nazi zomwe timapereka:

• Muuzeni zakukhosi kwanu kwa munthu amene mumamukhulupirira. Afikireni kwa iwo ndikuwauza zakukhosi kwanu
• Funsani abwenzi ndi achibale kuti akupatseni malangizo pa zomwe anachita pa nthawi yofanana
• Onetsetsani kuti muli ndi wina woti afotokoze zakukhumudwa kwanu, mkwiyo, ndi chisoni, ndikuti munthuyo asakuweruzeni.
• Izi ndizofunikira chifukwa ndizosapeŵeka kuti mudzapitirizabe kugwa m'magawo a chilakolako ndi zowawa kwa kanthawi; mudzafunika wina woti muululire naye zakukhosi
• Mwanjira iyi, mumapeza mnzanu woyankha, yemwe angakuthandizeni kuti mukhalebe pa nthawi yovutayi

Kusintha

Kuthetsedwa kwa unansi wosakwatirana kungapwetekedi mofanana ndi chisudzulo. Choncho musamadzipeputse pamene muli mkati mozama ndipo mukumva chisoni ndi zomwe zakuchitikirani. Nthawi zina, ndikofunikira kuti musinthe zina ndi zina m'moyo wanu, kuti mutha kukhala munthu watsopano. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chokhudza kutha kwa zovuta ndikuti akhoza kukusandutsani kukhala munthu watsopano yemwe simumadziwa kuti mukufuna kukhala.

5. Tulukani kapena kongoletsaninso malo anu

Malo omwe muli pafupi akhoza kukhudza kwambiri maganizo anu. Kusintha ndi kukonzanso malo anu okhala kudzakuthandizani kukonzanso maganizo. Zinthu zomwe zingakuthandizeni motsimikiza:

• Kuchoka pambuyo pa kutha kwa banja: Ngati inu ndi wakale wanu munakhala limodzi, tulukani mwamsanga momwe mungathere. Kusudzulana mutatha kukhala pamodzi kungakhale kovuta kwambiri koma mukhoza kuchoka bwino
• Kupanga malo okhalamo atsopano: Ngati mumakhala nokha, kongoletsaninso nyumba kapena chipinda chanu. Zingakhale zophweka monga kusintha mapepala anu a bedi kapena kupanga malo anu kukhala okongola kwambiri. Bwanji osapita kukagula kalirole watsopano wokongola?
• Kuchotsa zinthu za ex wanu: Ngati muli ndi zikumbutso za wakale wanu wagona, kuzichotsa kudzakuthandizani kuchira. Simufunikanso kumangopunthwa pa sweti yawo mu zovala zanu kapena kununkhiza kandulo yonunkhira yomwe adakugulirani Khrisimasi yatha.

6. Pezani nthawi yodzisamalira

Kutenga nthawi yodzisamalira nokha kungagwire ntchito modabwitsa pa thanzi lanu. Nawa maupangiri ochepa ngati mukulimbana ndi chisamaliro chamtunduwu:

• Khalani ndi chizoloŵezi chomwe mumakhala otanganidwa koma osangalala: Werenganinso buku lomwe mumakonda, onerani makanema, phikani chakudya chomwe mumakonda, kapena yitanitsani
• Chitani zachilendo: Pitani nokha ku mzinda watsopano womwe simunapiteko. Pali makanema okwanira aku Hollywood kuti akuuzeni kuti ulendo wapawekha ukhoza kuchita zabwino zambiri kwa munthu yemwe akumva kukhumudwa atapatukana.
• Khalani athanzi komanso achangu: Pitirizani kuyenda ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi atsopano. Sungani kutikita minofu, pitani kuthamanga, chilichonse chomwe chimakupatsani chisangalalo ndicholandiridwa. Studies sonyezani kuti chakudya chimathandiza munthu kuchira ku kusweka mtima, choncho idyani chakudya chokhazikika ndi kusunga zakudya zopatsa thanzi ndi ndiwo zamasamba
• Sibwino kukhala wosapindulitsa: Kukhala 'waulesi' ndikonso kudzisamalira. Lembani mndandanda wamakanema abwino kwambiri omwe mungawone mutatha kupatukana ndikukhazikitsa tsiku loti muzingowawonera onse nthawi imodzi. O, ndipo musaiwale kusunga mufiriji ndi ayisikilimu!

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7. Gwiritsani ntchito bwino nthawi yanu yaulere yomwe mwapeza kumene

Ndi kupatukana kumabwera nthawi yambiri yaulere. Igwiritseni ntchito kuti ikhale mtundu wanu watsopano. Nthawi yaulereyi imatha kukupangitsani kutaya malingaliro anu ndipo imatha kukupangitsani kufuna kulumikizana ndi wakale wanu. M’malo motaya nthawi yodzimvera chisoni, igwiritseni ntchito kusintha zinthu zina zabwino pa moyo wanu. Yambani kuphunzira chilankhulo chatsopano, yesani luso latsopano, yambitsaninso nokha - zosintha zonsezi zimakuthandizani kuti mukule ndipo mudzakonda mtundu wanu womwe wasinthika.

8. Fufuzani ndikukhala moyo wolingalira

N'zosavuta kudzimva chisoni ndi nkhawa mutatha kusudzulana . Ndipo kukhala ndi moyo woganizira bwino ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera vutoli. Kukhala woganizira bwino kumatithandiza kukhala chete ndikukhala chete kwakanthawi. Izi ndi zomwe muyenera kuchita:

• Phatikizani mphindi zochepa za kusinkhasinkha ndi yoga muzochita zanu zatsiku ndi tsiku
• Phunzirani zolimbitsa thupi zochepa kuti muthe kuthana ndi malingaliro olemetsa ndi malingaliro
• Mukakonzeka, itanitsani gulu la zigawenga kuti musangalale
• Pitani kuvina, kukagula, kudumphadumpha m'bar, kapena kungopita kukadya chakudya chamasana. Koma dzikumbutseni kuti mubwerere ku zomwe zilipo pamene malingaliro akuyendayenda. Ndizovuta, koma pitirizani kuchita zimenezo mpaka chizolowezi

9. Zoyenera kuchita pambuyo pa kutha kwa ubale wautali? Pezani chithandizo

Malangizo onse omwe tatchulawa ndi poyambira bwino. Koma chinthu chomwe chingathandize kwambiri ndi thandizo la akatswiri. Ngakhale mutayamba monyinyirika, mupeza chidziwitso pazomwe mukufuna komanso momwe mungapitire patsogolo kuchokera pano. Sizidzangokuthandizani kuthana ndi ululu wanu moyenera komanso kukupatsani chidziwitso pamakhalidwe anu. Izi zitha kukhala zothandiza kwambiri pakuwongolera maubwenzi amtsogolo.

Anthu ena amafunsa kuti, kodi pali nthawi yokwanira yoti mukaonane ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo mutasudzulana? Ayi, koma kufunafuna thandizo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo kumakhala kofunika kwambiri ngati mukuvutika ndi mavuto monga nkhawa kapena kuvutika maganizo mutasudzulana. Ngati mukufuna thandizo, alangizi aluso komanso odziwa zambiri omwe ali pagulu la Bonobology ali pano kuti akuthandizeni.

10. Dzipatseni nthawi

Mwina chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuchita mumkhalidwe wovutawu ndicho kukumbukira kuti nthaŵi ndi mchiritsi wamkulu. Nandita akulangiza, "Dzipatseni nthawi yochuluka ndi TLC yambiri - chisamaliro chachikondi, chachikondi - kuti mutuluke mumkhalidwe umenewu." Nazi zina zotsimikizira ndi zikumbutso kwa inu:

• Khalani wodekha kwa inu nokha monga momwe mungakhalire ngati mnzanu wapamtima akukumana ndi zomwezo
• Kumbukirani, zinthu zidzakhazikika pakapita nthawi
• Khalani okoma mtima nokha ndikumvetsetsa kuti muyenera kudutsa zonse magawo a chisoni pambuyo pa kutha kwa banja zinthu zisanayambe kumveka bwino
• Nkhawa pambuyo pa chisudzulo zidzakhazikika, zinthu zidzakhala bwino, ndipo mudzapita patsogolo
• Mudzayamba kuyang'ana zam'tsogolo ndi chiyembekezo

Khalani pamenepo ndipo khalani oleza mtima kwa miyezi itatu kapena kuposerapo; zinthu ziyamba kuyenda bwino posachedwa! Chofunika koposa, monga momwe wakale wanu akukhudzidwira, musayese kukhalabe mabwenzi pambuyo pa kutha. Osati pa nthawi ino.

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11. Ngati mukufuna kuvomera kuti banja lanu litha, musalole kuti zichitike

Werengani nkhaniyi mosamala. Kuganizira zomwe zikanatheka ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuposa zomwe sitiyenera kuchita mutathetsa chibwenzi . Monga momwe Nandita akunenera, “Mukangoganiza kuti mwathetsa chibwenzi, yesetsani kuchotsa mafunso/zochitika zilizonse zomwe zingakuvutitseni.” Maganizo opanda pake amenewa amawononga kwambiri, ndipo si abwino. Ndipo tiyeni tikhale oona mtima apa, palibe chomwe chingapindule kuchokera kwa iwo, choncho siyani kuwaganizira.

Kudzifunsa nokha mafunsowa kumangosunga zowawa patsogolo pa malingaliro anu, ndikuyimitsa machiritso akufa m'njira zake. Muyenera kuyeseza kutali maganizo. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungadzichitire nokha komanso maubwenzi anu amtsogolo ndikuti musamangoganizira za izi:

• Zolakwa zanu kapena zakale
• Zinthu mukadachita mosiyana
• Kuyesera kudziwa chomwe chidalakwika pakati panu nonse
• Zikadachitika bwanji mukadaletsa vuto loyamba muubwenzi, kapena lomaliza

12. Osalowa muubwenzi wobwereranso

Pamene munthu akupita patsogolo, nthawi zina amagwera mumsampha wosankha zinthu zoipa kwambiri. Mwayi mungayesere kulowa muubwenzi wobwereranso kuti muiwale wakale wanu, ndipo mutha kuyesanso kucheza ndi bwenzi lanu lapamtima lomwe limakuthandizani panthawiyi. Koma, tikuuzeni, ndi chisankho cholakwika.

• Osatengeranso mphamvu zanu kukhala munthu watsopano: Osathamangira mu a mgwirizano wobwerera kungoti mukuyesera kudzaza chosowa m'moyo wanu pakadali pano. Yendani mosamala, kapena mungotenga chidani ndi chisoni muubwenzi watsopano, ndikuuwononga
• Osayesa kupanga nsanje wokondedwa wanu wakale: Ndi bwino kupewa chizolowezi chotumiza zithunzi zapa social media kuti wakale wanu kapena anzawo aziwona. Osayesa kunena kuti muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu watsopano. Musakhale osakhulupirika kwa inu nokha kapena wina aliyense. Zidzangokupangitsani kumva kuti mulibe kanthu

13. Osamunyoza mnzako

Mutha kukopeka kwambiri kuti mudzudzule wakale wanu, amakupwetekani! Koma, musatero. Musati mulowe mu bwalo zoipa badmouthing wakale wanu. Pezani magwero ena ofotokozera kukhumudwa kwanu. Osalankhula mwaukali za mnzako wakale kwa wina aliyense, zivute zitani. Ichi ndichifukwa chake:

• Zimenezi n’zofunika kwambiri makamaka ngati muli ndi anzanu ofanana. Ikhoza kusiya kumbuyo malingaliro oipa a inu
• Zidzakupangitsani kumva chisoni chifukwa chidani chidzakhalabe patsogolo m'malingaliro anu
• Idzatsimikizira zimenezo mumaganizirabe za ex wanu, ndipo sitikufuna zimenezo eti?
• Izi zipangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwa inu nokha komanso wakale wanu. Ngati simukufuna kuwakhumudwitsa, ndi bwino kumeza mawu anu kapena kuwalemba m'magazini

14. Pewani kusintha kwambiri moyo wanu mukatha kutha

Mutasiyana ndi munthu wina, chisoni cha zonsezi chingakupangitseni kufuna kusintha kwambiri - kwa inu nokha ndi umunthu wanu. Dikirani kwa kanthawi musanatenge ma bangs osweka, kapena kongoletsani tsitsi lanu lofiirira. Upangiri womwewo ukugwiranso ntchito pa tattoo yomwe muyenera kukhala nayo pakali pano kapena kusiya ntchito yanu, kapena zosankha zilizonse zazikulu pamoyo wanu. Osasokoneza kukhutira kwa moyo wanu chifukwa chinthu chimodzi chalakwika.

Simupanga zisankho zazikulu mukavutika ndi kutayika. Maganizo anu mwina amakhala odzaza ndi zinthu zambiri ndipo mudzanong'oneza bondo zisankho izi zosayembekezereka. Chifukwa chake, pewani kusintha umunthu wanu kapena mawonekedwe anu - mudzadziyamikira nokha chifukwa cha zimenezo mtsogolo. Musalole chilakolako chofuna kudzisintha mwadzidzidzi kuti muthane ndi kutha kwa chibwenzi.

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Chinthu chokhudza machiritso onsewa pambuyo pa kusweka kolimba ndikuti zimatenga nthawi. Simudzapambana bwenzi lanu lakale lachikondi mu tsiku limodzi. Mwina osati ngakhale miyezi itatu kapena miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, kapena zikavuta kwambiri, chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri. Zikatero, ndikofunikira kuti muzichita zomwe simuyenera kuchita kuti musakhetse mkaka nthawi zonse.

15. Osapita kumalo amene amakukumbutsani za ex wanu

Kodi pali malo aliwonse omwe inu ndi mnzanu wakale munakonda kuchezera limodzi? Mwina mumakumbukira zinthu zosangalatsa zomwe munakumana nazo kumalo ogulitsira kapena malo okongola a khofi mumsewu momwe munakumana? Chabwino, pakadali pano, pewani malo awa ndikudziikira malire. Malo awa amatha kuyambitsa malingaliro anu ndikukubwezeretsani muulendo wanu wamachiritso pang'ono. Kuphatikiza apo, nthawi zonse pamakhala chiwopsezo chothamangira wakale wanu m'malo awa, zomwe zingakugwetseni m'mawu achisoni komanso kukhumba mobwerezabwereza.

Chifukwa chake, ndibwino kusankha nthawi yomweyo kuti musapitenso kumalo awa. Malo aliwonse omwe mudapitako ndi wakale wanu, kapena mukudziwa kuti amakukondani, akuyenera kuikidwa malire. Tikhulupirireni, mudzadzipulumutsa kudziko la zowawa.

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16. Pewani kumangodzimvera chisoni

Musapangitse kuti kutha kwa banja kukhala moyo wosatha. Woyamba kale si munthu wofunika kwambiri m’moyo wanu, ndipo ubwenzi umenewu sunali chinthu chokhacho m’moyo wanu. Osawapatsa mphamvu zokhala ndi malingaliro ambiri ndi kukhalapo kwanu. Zotsatira za kutha kwa chibwenzi zimakhala zovuta kwambiri ndipo zimakupangitsani kumva kuti simukukakamira. Vomerezani mmene mukumvera mutatha kupatukana, koma musakhale pansi ndi kudzimvera chisoni.

Nandita akupereka lingaliro lakuti, “Landirani kuti mudutsa m’gawo lotsika, koma panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, musalole kuti zikuthenitseni. Mphindi yomwe mukumvetsetsa kuti mwakhala mukusudzulana, vomerezani zomwe mukumvera, lirani momwe mukufunira, koma pamapeto pake, pitani patsogolo. Osamvera nyimbo zachisoni kosatha ndikuyamba kuchira msanga momwe mungathere. Mudzathokoza nokha chifukwa cha izo!

17. Musagwere mumsampha wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo

Kafukufuku wosiyanasiyana wasonyeza kuti chisoni chingayambitse khalidwe lofunafuna mphoto. Samalani ndi zilakolako zotere. Musalole kuti mutenge botolo la wisiki lomwe mukufuna kwambiri chifukwa mukuganiza kuti lidzakuthandizani kupulumuka kusweka mtima . M'malo mwake lidzakubweretserani mavuto atsopano ndikukupangitsani zinthu kukhala zovuta kwambiri mtsogolo.

Ngakhale wakale wanu atakufunsani kapena kuyesa kucheza, musamagwiritse ntchito mowa kapena zinthu zina kuti mukhazikitse mkuntho m'maganizo mwanu. Khalani kutali ndi zinthu zosokoneza pa nthawi yovutayi. Kuledzera si nthabwala, ndipo kungawononge moyo wanu. Chifukwa chake, ndibwino kuti muzidzilamulira nokha. Itanani mnzanu nthawi yomweyo mukamva ngati mukumwa mowa kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kapena mukakhala ndi chikhumbo chofuna kuzimwa.

18. Zonse zomwe zanenedwa ndikuchita, musafulumire machiritso

Kusudzulana kungamve ngati kutha kwa dziko. Zikatero, m’pofunika kuti mupumuleko. Muyenera kudzipatsa nthawi ndi nthawi kuti mumve chisoni. Ziribe kanthu momwe chibwenzicho chinatha, malingaliro anu ndi omveka. Ndipo kuthetsa malingaliro amenewo ndi ulendo wokha. Osadzimva kuti ndi wokakamizika kulumphiranso kuchitapo kanthu patangotha ​​​​kutha, zitha kutenga nthawi kuti mumve ngati wekhanso. Kuthetsa chibwenzi kumatanthauza kutaya gawo lalikulu la moyo wanu. Kungoti mwadzidzidzi ndi wakale wanu, sizikutanthauza kuti simuwakondanso!

Kutaya chikondi kumatenga nthawi ndipo ino ndi nthawi yomwe muyenera kupereka. Musayambe ubale wina ndi mnzake mwamsanga kenako n’kulakwitsanso zomwezo. Mabwenzi anu amtsogolo akuyenera kukhala ndi moyo wabwino komanso wochira. Kulira chifukwa cha kutha kwa ubale ndikofunikira. Choncho lirani kutha kwa ubale wanu ngati mmene mungachitire ndi imfa ya wokondedwa wanu. Khalani omasuka kudutsa mu malingaliro osiyanasiyana. Chifukwa chisoni n’choyenera, zivute zitani.

19. Osasokoneza moyo wanu wonse kwa wakale wanu

Osasintha chilichonse chokhudza moyo wanu chifukwa chakuti mukulira kutha kwa chibwenzi. Yesetsani kukhala ndi chizoloŵezi, kaya chosavuta kapena chovuta. Pitirizani kuchita zonse zomwe munkachita musanathe. Khalani pafupi ndi okondedwa anu nthawi zambiri. Zimathandiza kukhala ndi kupitiriza ndi kusasunthika m'moyo ndipo kumapangitsa kuti pakhale kosavuta kuthetsa chibwenzicho bwinobwino.

Ngati wakale wanu anali gawo lalikulu lachizoloŵezi chanu, pangani chizoloŵezi chatsopano. Idzagwira ntchito modabwitsa pa thanzi lanu lamalingaliro ndikuthandizira kuchiritsa nkhawa mukatha kusweka. Pezani nthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi - kuthamanga, kukwera mapiri, kapena kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Awa ndi maupangiri abwino amomwe mungakhalire bwino mukatha kutha komanso kuti mukhale amphamvu. Koma chofunika kwambiri, zidzakupangitsani kukhala otanganidwa ndikukulepheretsani kukwera m'maganizo okhudza wakale wanu ndi ubale wanu.

Pali magawo asanu a chisoni - kukana, kukwiya, kukambirana, kukhumudwa, ndi kuvomereza. Ndipo kutaya munthu wofunika kumawayambitsa onse. Ziribe kanthu komwe muli mumzerewu, dziwani kuti ndizotheka kuchiza mutasiya. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti kulekanako kunali kowawa chotani, kupita patsogolo nkotheka.

Yesetsani kupirira m’njira zabwino monga kudziikira malire, kulankhula ndi anzanu, ndi kupanga chizoloŵezi chatsopano. Zowawa za ubale walephera m'kupita kwanthawi zimakhala zosavuta kuthana nazo. Ndiyeno, ndani akudziwa, monga magawo ovuta kwambiri m'moyo, izinso zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino, wamphamvu, komanso wanzeru. Tikhulupirireni, pali moyo wokongola pambuyo pa kusweka ukukuyembekezerani.

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