Izinhlobo Eziyi-18 Zocansi Nezincazelo Zazo

Sezadlula izinsuku lapho umqondo wokunambambili wobulili, ohlanganiswe ne-heteronormativity, uholele ekutheni abantu bangahloniphi i-spectrum yobulili. Namuhla, umphakathi usuqala ukufunda ukwamukela uketshezi njengento evamile uma kukhulunywa ngokuthi singobani kodwa nokuthi sithanda bani nokuthi sithanda kanjani. Sifunda kabanzi ngezinhlobo ezahlukene zocansi. Futhi njengoba abantu abaningi benyuka ukuze bavume ubulili babo kanye nobunikazi bobulili, amagama amasha nezigaba zihlale ziziswa ku-repertoire.

Ucwaningo lwamuva nje luthole ukuthi abantu abangaphezu kwezigidi ezingu-1.3 eNgilandi naseWales bazibiza ngokuthi bangabantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo, abathandana nabobulili obufanayo, noma abathandana nabobulili obufanayo. Abantu abangaba ngu-165,000 bazibiza ngokuthi 'okunye' ukuthambekela kobulili. Futhi abantu abangu-262,000 bathi ubunikazi babo bobulili buhlukile kunobulili babo obubhaliswe lapho bezalwa. Kusobala ukuthi sikuyo yonke indawo kodwa, ngezindlela eziningi, ingxoxo mayelana nobulili obuhlukile ayikafiki ngendlela obekufanele ifike ngayo.

Ukuze senze ingxenye yethu ekushintsheni lokho futhi sikunike ukucaca okungcono ngale ndaba, ake sibheke kabanzi izinhlobo ezahlukene zobulili ngokubonisana nodokotela wengqondo olulekayo kanye nomqeqeshi wamakhono okuphila oqinisekisiwe uDeepak Kashyap (Masters in Psychology of Education), ogxile ezindabeni ezahlukene zempilo yengqondo kanye nokwelulekwa kwe-LGBTQ kanye nokwelulekwa okuvalekile. Uyachaza, “Ubulili bumayelana nokuthi ubani okukhangayo, nokuthi ukhangwa kanjani ngabantu. Futhi ubunikazi bobulili bunquma ukuthi uziqonda futhi uzibheka kanjani ekubonakalisweni komphakathi komzimba wakho. Izibizo zidlala indima enkulu kulokho kuziqinisekisa.”

Ngokuphathelene nezabizwana, u-Deepak uyanezela, "Ukhuphukela kulowo muntu futhi ubuze, "Iziphi izabizwana engizisebenzisayo kuwe?" Kulula kanjalo nje.” Kubantu abangazi lutho, abangabazi noma okunye, leli qoqo lamagama elikhula njalo lingaba namandla kakhulu. Kodwa ungakhathazeki, zingane ezifuna ucansi nabalingani abasha, ngoba ngizozama ukukunikeza isifundo esincane sokuphahlazeka se-LGBTQIA+ okusho, umehluko phakathi kobulili nokuthambekela kwezocansi, phakathi kokukhangwa kwezothando nokukhangwa ucansi, kanye nokuphendula imibuzo efana nokuthi, "kuyini ubulili", "ingabe ubulili buyi-spectrum", kanye "nokuthi zingaki izinhlobo zocansi ezikhona".

Buyini Ubulili?

Ngokusho kwesazi sezocansi uCarol Queen, Ph.D., yindlela umuntu azizwa ngayo futhi aveze ngayo ubuhlobo bakhe nobulili, isifiso, inkanuko, kanye nokuvusa inkanuko. Ukukhangwa komuntu ngokobulili, ngokomzimba, noma ngokomzwelo kubantu. Kunezinhlobo eziningi ezahlukene zocansi, eziyi-18 zazo zisetshenziselwe phambili.

Ubunikazi bobulili buyashintshashintsha futhi bungaguquka – zonke izinhlobo zobulili nezincazelo ziyashintsha. Ungamangali uma ngemva kweminyaka yokuba ngungqingili, ngokuzumayo ubona ukuthi ukhangwa nabesilisa . Noma ngemva kokuba ngumuntu oqondile impilo yakho yonke, uqaphela eminyakeni yakho engama-40 ukuthi empeleni ungumuntu othanda ucansi futhi uzizwa sengathi ukhangwa ngokocansi nangokwethando yizo zonke izinhlobo zabantu.

Yini enomthelela ekuhlonzeni ubulili? Indlela esisebenzisana ngayo nomhlaba, indlela esigcina ngayo imiqondo yethu ivulekele kokuhlangenwe nakho kanye nengxubevange egcwele yemizwa yabantu, indlela esizikhulula ngayo emibhalweni evamile, indlela ipolitiki yethu ethuthuka ngayo (ukuheha kungokwepolitiki, yebo), indlela esizijwayeza ngayo emicabangweni emisha futhi siyivumele ukuba igxile kithina - konke lokhu kuthinta ngokwemvelo indlela esiphila ngayo ukukhangwa ngokocansi.

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Kuwubuwula ukucabanga ukuthi singafaka into eguquguqukayo, engabonakali, futhi eguquguqukayo kwezepolitiki njengokukhangwa ucansi. Cabanga ngalokhu: Ukube bekungekho ukuthandana kwabantu bobulili obuhlukile njengokuzenzakalelayo, besingeke sidinge noma iyiphi enye ilebula. Abantu bangayeka ukuthatha ubulili obuthandayo, futhi ngeke kudingeke ukuthi sichithe isikhathi esiningi sichaza ukuthi kungani ubulili obuthile buvumelekile noma bungokwesayensi. Abantu bazovele bakhangwe ngabantu. Ngakho-ke, umqondo wobulili/ukuthambekela kwezocansi ukhona kuphela ngoba sibheka ukufana kwabantu bobulili obuhlukile njengento evamile.

Enye incazelo yobulili yile: Ubulili futhi buyindlela yakho yokuzwa imizwa yobulili. Isibonelo, umuntu oqondile angasho into efana nale: “Uma ngigqoka le ngubo, iqinisekisa ubulili bami” noma “Umlingani wami uyangikhuthaza kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngami ukuhlola ubulili bami noma ukuzama embhedeni .”

Isho ukuthini i-LGBTQIA+?

Futhi imelelani i-LGBTQ? I-LGBTQIA+ isisho sokuqala esimele izitabane, izitabane, abathandana nabesilisa nabesifazane, abashintsha ubulili, abaqwayizi kanye nokubuza imibuzo, abathandana nabobulili obufanayo, abangabobulili obufanayo, kanye nephunga elimnandi. Kuyitemu eliyisambulela somphakathi wama-queer futhi lihlanganisa konke ubulili KANYE nokuhlonza ubulili. Isibonelo, u-B umele ukuthi abathanda ubulili obuphindwe kabili - ukukhetha ocansini, kanti u-T umelela i-transgender - identity yobulili. I-+ isho zonke izinhlobo zobulili nobulili obungenakuchazwa/ukulebula noma lezo esizoqhubeka nokuzithola.

Ingabe kubalulekile ukwazi ubulili bakho?

Ngaphambi kokuthi sifunde uhlu lokukhetha ukuya ocansini, ake sibone ukuthi kubalulekile yini ukwazi ubulili bakho/ukuziphatha kwakho kwezocansi. Hhayi-ke, kungase kube nzima futhi kukhulule, kodwa kungase kungabi 'isidingo' ukuze uthole.

• Ngabe ngiyisitabane noma ngithandana nabesilisa nabesifazane? Akudingeki wazi ngokuqinisekile. Abantu abaningi emphakathini we-LGBTQIA+ baqhubeka nokushintsha uma kuziwa kobunikazi babo futhi balungile ngokungabi nalebula, noma bathathe ilebula elikhudlwana njengokuthi 'queer' noma 'gay' ukuze bazichaze bona. 
• Izigidi zabantu 'abaqondile' nazo, zithanda ukungacabangi ngesimo sangempela sesifiso sabo nokukhanga impilo yabo yonke.
• Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungase ufise ukwazi ukuthi umi kuphi kwezocansi ukuze a) uzizwe unokuthula nawe, b) uqonde imizwa yakho yothando/yocansi futhi mhlawumbe bonisa uthando ngokwakho, c) qamba ingcindezelo obhekene nayo (i-acephobia, i-biphobia, njll.), d) thola indawo ephephile kanye nomphakathi wabantu abanomqondo ofanayo 
• Uma kunjalo, ngicela wazi ukuthi kuzothatha isikhathi nesineke ukuthi ungafundi/ufunde futhi uzodinga ukuba mnene kuwena.
• Ngisho nangemva kokuba usuwazi amalebula alungile ngokwakho, akudingekile ukuphumela kunoma ubani. Ubunikazi bakho yiqiniso lomuntu siqu
• Incazelo yakho yezocansi ingase ihluke kwabanye abanomumo ofanayo, futhi lokho kuvamile

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Ingabe ubulili bune-spectrum?

Ayikho indlela yokuchaza umumo wezocansi. Indlela engibona ngayo ubulili, ifana nokunyakaza koketshezi lolwandle, futhi ukhetha umthunzi namagagasi okukufanela kakhulu. Akuyona i-spectrum eqondile esuka kobulili obuhlukile iye kobungqingili (njengokusikiselwa kwe-Kinsey Scale). Bonke lobu bunikazi bakho, kungaba izingcezu ezintantayo zamalebula ahlanganayo, agqagqene, futhi ahlukanise nesikhathi nokwazi.

Umehluko phakathi kobunikazi bobulili kanye nobulili

Akudingeki uphume ekhabetheni , nanini. Kodwa udinga ukuqaphela umehluko phakathi kobulili bomuntu kanye nobunikazi bobulili. Ubulili buhlanganisa izici zomphakathi, zengqondo, zamasiko, kanye nokuziphatha kokuba yindoda, owesifazane, noma olunye uhlobo lobunikazi bobulili. Ngakho-ke, ubunikazi bobulili yilokho obona ubulili bakho buyikho, kanti ubulili/ukuthambekela kobulili kubonisa ubulili(obulili) obukhangayo.

Isb: Uyi-trans man futhi uqondile. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ubulili bakho 'ngowesilisa', futhi ubulili bakho 'bubobulili obuhlukile', okusho ukuthi ukhangwa abantu besifazane kuphela.

Umehluko phakathi kokuzijwayeza kwezothando kanye nezimo zocansi

Sihlanganisa 'imizwa' emibili kangangokuthi sicabanga ukuthi ukukhangwa ngokocansi kanye nokukhangwa ngokothando kumele kusebenze ndawonye ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa-ke, ukuthambekela kothando kubonisa ubulili (noma ubulili) obuthandayo (kungenzeka ukuthi awuthambekele kubo ngokocansi), kanti ukuthambekela kocansi kumayelana nobulili (noma ubulili) obuthandayo (kungenzeka ukuthi awuthambekele kubo ngokothando).

Wena, njengowesifazane, ungase ukhangwe ngokocansi kwabanye abantu besifazane. Ngakho ungongqingili. Kodwa ukhangwa ngokothando (hhayi ngokocansi) emadodeni. Lokhu kukwenza ube ne-heteroromantic KANYE nobungqingili. Yilowo umehluko phakathi kokukhangana ngokocansi nokuthandana/ukuthambekela kwezocansi.

Izinhlobo Eziyi-18 Zocansi Nezincazelo Zazo Ezenziwe Lula

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungubani, uthanda bani, nokuthi ukhetha kanjani ukuveza imizwa yakho kothile omthandayo – kukhona indawo yakho kuleli zwe. Kungumqondo omuhle-ke ukwazi zonke izinhlobo zobulili nezincazelo. Phela, noma amalebula engabalulekile, ayakusiza ukuthi uthole umphakathi. Uma ufisa ukukhuluma ngobulili bakho, uDeepak unaleli cebiso kuwe, “Okokuqala qiniseka ukuthi uzohlala uphephile ngemva kokuphuma. Futhi uma uphuma, ungalokothi usebenzise ithoni yokuxolisa. Uvele usho ukuthi ungubani.”

Ngaphambi kokungena emagameni, ake sibheke emuva emlandweni okwesikhashana. Ngemva kocwaningo olukhulu, isazi sezinto eziphilayo saseMelika kanye nesazi sezocansi uKinsey wasungula isikali sobubanzi bobulili ukuze kuhlukaniswe kangcono izinhlobo ezahlukene zobulili. Naphezu kokuba umsebenzi oguqula izinto, isikali sikaKinsey silahlekelwe ukubaluleka kwaso ezweni lanamuhla ngoba sehluleka ukubamba izincazelo ezicacile kanye nezinye izici zobulili eziyinkimbinkimbi.

Ngakho-ke, zingaki ezocansi ngo-2023? Bonke ubulili nezincazelo zabo zizoqhubeka zikhula, futhi lokhu akulona uhlu oluphelele. Kodwa uma usahlola ubuwena, lona umhlahlandlela ofanele wena. Ngaphandle kokuqhubeka kwesikhathi, nalu uhlu nezincazelo zezinhlobo ezingu-18 ezahlukene zocansi laphaya:

1. Ukuthandana kwabantu bobulili obuhlukile

Ake siqale ingxoxo yakho konke ucansi kanye nencazelo yako nabantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo, abantu abakhangwa ngokocansi futhi abazibandakanya kwezocansi. Abantu abanalolu hlobo locansi bangathola ukukhangwa kokubili kwezothando nangokomzimba kubantu. Umhlaba njengamanje usebenza ngomcabango ozenzakalelayo wokuthi wonke umuntu unobulili obuhlukile, owaziwa nangokuthi i-allonormativity.

2. Ubulili

Abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo bazizwa bezonda ucansi noma bangase bazizwe bekhangwa ngokocansi okungenawo/okungaphelele/okunemibandela. Kujwayelekile ngokuphelele ukungazizwa bekhangwa ngokocansi yinoma yiluphi ubulili. Abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo bangaba nemizwa yothando ngabanye abantu, nokho. Ukuthambekela kothando okuhlobene (hhayi ukuthambekela ngokocansi) nokungathambi ngokocansi kuyi-aromantism.

Abantu abathakazelayo abaqondi, abafuni, futhi/noma abadingi uthando. Abanakho ukukhangwa abantu banoma yibuphi ubulili noma ubulili. Zingaba yi-asexual noma i-allosexual futhi zingaba nanoma yikuphi ukukhetha ocansini. Ama-aromatics abhekana nesikhathi esinzima sokuqonda umqondo wokuthatheka kothile noma ukuthandana. Abakholelwa ukuthi ubudlelwano bezothando buyisidingo kubantu, umqondo owaziwa ngokuthi amatonormativity.

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3. Androsexuality

Abantu abathandana nobulili obufanayo yibo abazizwa bekhangwa abesilisa noma abantu abakhombisa ukuthambekela kobudoda. Umuntu othandana nabobulili obufanayo kanye nabantu abakhangwa yibo, bobabili izinhlangothi kungaba yi-cisgender, transgender, noma nonbinary. Lolu hlobo locansi alugcini nje ekusebenziseni imibono esontekile yobulili obabelwe, ubulili, kanye/noma isimo somzimba futhi lubhekisela ngokubanzi ekukhangweni okutholwa yinoma iyiphi indoda noma umuntu wesilisa.

4. Ubulili besifazane

Abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo bazizwa bekhangwa ngokocansi noma bekhangwa ngothando ngabesifazane nabesifazane. Leli gama alizibekeli umkhawulo ngobulili, ubulili, noma ukwakheka komzimba. Liyigama elihlanganisa wonke umuntu elihloselwe ukufaka zonke izimpawu zokukhangwa umuntu angase abe nazo kunoma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane kanye/noma owesifazane. Ungabhekisela kulokhu kuqondiswa njenge-gynephilia futhi.

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5. Ukuthandana kwabantu bobulili obuhlukile

Ngokuvamile okubhekiselwa kukho njengokuqondile, ubulili obuhlukile bubhekwa ngokungalungile 'njengokuzenzakalelayo' ohlwini lobulili. Kufaka phakathi labo bantu abathanda ucansi kanye nabantu abathanda ucansi abantu, ngokwezincazelo ze-archaic gender binary, abangabobulili 'obuphambene'. Ngakho-ke, lokho kungasho indoda ekhangwa owesifazane futhi ngokuphambene nalokho.

6. Ubungqingili

Leli elinye lalawo magama amadala ahlanganisa abantu abakhangwa abantu bobulili obufanayo/ubulili obufanayo noma ubulili obufanayo. Izitabane zivame ukuhlukaniswa zibe izigaba ezimbili, okungukuthi, izitabane kanye nabesifazane abathandana nabanye, kuye ngobulili babo. Umuntu oyisitabane kungaba yindoda ekhangwa ngabantu bobulili obufanayo, okusho ukuthi uzokhangwa ngamadoda. Owesifazane othandana nobulili obufanayo angaba ngowesifazane okhangwa abantu besifazane.

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7. Ubulili obuhlukile

Lokhu kubandakanya ukukhangwa ngokocansi noma kwezothando kubantu abavela kubulili obuhlukahlukene. Ukuthambekela kwe-Polysexual kufaka phakathi ubungqingili, i-pansexuality, i-spectrasexuality, ukuthanda ubulili bonke, kanye nobuqueerness, phakathi kokunye. Abantu abathanda ucansi oluningi basebenzisa lelo gama ukukhombisa ulwazi lwabo lwezinhlobo ezahlukene zokukhetha ucansi.

I-Polyromanticism iwukuhlotshaniswa kwe-romantic orientation, okuyilapho uthola ukukhangwa ngokobulili okuningi, kodwa hhayi konke, ubunikazi bobulili. Lokhu kuphetha 7 izinhlobo zobulili, kodwa, kukhona okuningi okwengeziwe.

8. Ubulili obubili

Ngaphambi kokuba ubuze ukuthi, “Kuyini ukuthandana nabantu besilisa nabesifazane?”, cabanga ngalokhu: ingabe umcabango othi “ Ngithandana nabantu besilisa nabesifazane ” ubulokhu ukukunika injabulo noma injabulo? Abantu abathandana nabantu besilisa nabesifazane noma abantu abathandana nabantu besilisa nabesifazane yibo abazizwa bekhangwa abantu besilisa nabesifazane abangaphezu kobulili obubodwa, okuhlanganisa nokukhangwa ngabantu bobulili obufanayo. Bangakhangwa abantu besilisa nabesifazane abathandana nabantu besilisa nabesifazane kanye nabantu abashintsha ubulili kanye nabantu abangebona abantu besilisa nabesifazane.

Awukwazi ukuhlukanisa abantu abathandana nobulili obubili ube izingxenye ezimbili ezihlukene zobungqingili kanye nobungqingili. Ukukhangwa akukhona nje ucansi, noma kunjalo, futhi kungabandakanya ukuheheka kwezothando nangokomzwelo. Ukuma okuhlotshaniswayo kwezothando nobubili i-biromanticism. Abantu be-Biromantic bayathandana, kodwa hhayi ngokocansi, bakhangwa ubulili obungaphezu kobodwa, kuhlanganisa nokwabo.

9. I-Bicuriosity

Abantu abathanda ubulili obubili yilabo abasahlola futhi abaqiniseki ukuthi bathanda ubulili obubili yini. Abafuni ukwamukela ubulili obubili njengelebula okwamanje/nanini. Ngakho-ke, bangase bavulekele ukuthandana noma ukulala nabantu babo kanye nabanye ubulili, okungenani baze baqinisekise ukuthi bathandani. Isibonelo, uma ubulokhu uzichaza njengomuntu othanda ubulili obubili futhi manje ufuna ukuthola indawo yobulili obubili, ungazibiza ngokuthi uthanda ubulili obubili. Umuntu angahlala ethanda ubulili obubili impilo yakhe yonke, angagxili kulelebula elithile.

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10. Pansexuality

I-pan isho ukuthi bonke, ngakho-ke, abantu abathanda ucansi bangakhangwa abantu ngokunganaki ubulili babo, ubulili, noma indlela abami ngayo. I-Panromanticism iwukuzijwayeza okuhlotshaniswayo kwezothando nalobu bulili, okusho ukukhangwa abantu ngothando ngaphandle kokucabangela ubulili babo, ubulili, noma umumo.

11. Ukungabi nabulili

Ukuthandana kwabantu bobulili obufanayo kuwela ku-ace - noma ku-asexual - spectrum. Abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo bangakhangwa abantu ngokocansi kodwa ngokuvamile badinga uxhumano oluqinile ngokomzwelo noma lothando ukuze kusungulwe kuqala. Uma leso simo sesihlangatsheziwe, abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo bangajabulela ucansi njengenjwayelo kodwa bangase bangahlanganyeli ocansini njengoba nje umuntu ongebona abobulili obufanayo ebengenza.

Njengabantu abathandana nabantu bobulili obuhlukile, abantu abanobuntu obuhlukile nabo badinga ukuhlangatshezwana nezimo ezithile ngaphambi kokuba bazwe noma yimiphi imizwa yothando ngomuntu. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kusho ukuthi badinga ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo ukuze basungulwe kuqala ngaphambi kokuba bazizwe bethanda noma ubani.

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12. Ubungqingili

Abantu abathandana nabobulili obumpunga, futhi, bangabantu abangebona ocansini ohlwini lwabantu abathandana nabobulili obuhlukile. Bayazizwa bekhangwa ngokocansi futhi bayafisa ucansi ngezikhathi ezithile kodwa kaningi, lapho umlingani wabo ezizwa efisa , bangase bangabi njalo. Laba bantu bakhululeka kakhulu ngokusondelana ngokomzimba okungeyona eyocansi njengokugonana. Ubulili obumpunga buyindawo ephakathi kobulili obuxubile kanye nobulili obungenabo ocansini, eduze nobulili obungenabo ocansini.

Umumo wothando ohlobene nalokhu yi-grayromanticism. I-Grayromantics iku-spectrum yephunga elimnandi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi banemizwa yothando ngabantu kodwa hhayi njengabanye. I-Grayromantics ayizwani neze nesifiso sokuqala ubudlelwano bothando noma ngabe ukhangwa othile. Zikhona esigabeni esimpunga phakathi kwezothando kanye nephunga elimnandi.

13. Ubulili obufanayo

Leli kwakuyigama elisha ngisho nakimi, futhi lingenza ngizibuze futhi, “Zingaki izinhlobo zobulili ezikhona?” I-Cupiosexuality ihlanganisa abantu abavamile (noma abantu abangathandi ubulili) abathi, yize bengenalo uthando lobulili, bafuna ukuhlangana , babe nobulili, futhi benze imisebenzi efanayo yomzimba. Ukuthambekela kothando okuhlobene: i-cupioromantisticism. I-Cupioromantics ifuna ubudlelwano bothando yize ingenalo uthando.

14. Ubulili obuzenzakalelayo

Ukuthandana nomuntu nomuntu ngokobulili kuwukukhangwa ngokocansi. Abaningi babo bangase bakhethe ukushaya indlwabu kunokuba balale nabanye noma ngisho nomlingani. Khuluma ngokuzimela, akunjalo? Ukuthambekela kothando okuhlobene nakho kuwukuthanda umuntu ngokobulili. Bazizwa bethandana nabo ngokwabo. Banobunzima bokuveza noma ukwamukela izenzo zothando , kodwa bathanda ukugcwalisa amaphupho abo ngabo. Abantu abathanda ukuzithandana nabo bangase babe nokukhangwa ngokobulili ngabanye abantu.

15. Ubulili obuhlukile

Ukuthandana kwabantu bobulili obufanayo yilapho abantu bezwa ukukhangwa ngokocansi ngabantu abashintsha ubulili kanye nabantu abangebona abalingani bobulili obufanayo. Leli gama ALIbhekiseli ekuthandweni, ukwenziwa ucansi, kanye nokubekwa icala kwabantu abashintsha ubulili/abangalingani. Ukuthandana kwabantu bobulili obufanayo, okuhlobene nokuthandana, kuhilela ukukhangwa ngothando kubantu abashintsha ubulili kanye nabantu abangebona abalingani bobulili obufanayo.

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16. I-Sapiosexuality

Ngokuvamile kubonakala kuzinhlelo zokusebenza zokuthandana , futhi ikakhulukazi zisetshenziswa ngendlela engafanele, abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo yilabo abazizwa bekhangwa ngokocansi ngokusekelwe ekuhlakanipheni, kunokuba kube ngokobulili, ubulili, ukubukeka, noma ezinye izici zobuntu. Ungaba nanoma yikuphi okunye ukuthandana ngokocansi kanye nokuba umuntu othandana nabobulili obufanayo. Ukuthambekela kwayo kothando okuhlobene, i-sapioromantism, kuhilela ukukhangwa ngothando ngabantu ngokusekelwe ekuhlakanipheni.

17. Ubungqingili

Abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo banobulili obushintshashintshayo, okusho ukuthi bashintshashintsha phakathi kwezinhlobo ezahlukene zokukhanga kanye nobulili impilo yabo yonke. Babonisa iqiniso lokuthi ukukhanga ngokocansi kuhlala kuguquka futhi kungashintsha amandla namalebula. Ngokufanayo, abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo banombono wothando oshintshashintshashintshayo impilo yabo yonke.

18. I-Heteroflexibility kanye ne-homoflexibility

Umuntu ovumelana nezimo ezishintshashintshayo angase azichaze njengabathanda ubulili obuhlukile kodwa angathola ukukhangwa ngezinye izikhathi ubunikazi bobulili obufanayo noma obunye. Umuntu onobungqingili angase azichaze njengongqingili kodwa angathola ukukhangwa ngezinye izikhathi kobunye ubulili.

Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuba siphethe, ake ngikubuze umbuzo – Ingabe sesamukela kakhulu manje, njengomphakathi, izinhlobo ezahlukene zobulili? Kwenzeka ukuthi uDeepak akholwe, “Kungcono kunangaphambili. Kodwa asikwazi ukuzibiza ngokuthi singumphakathi owamukelayo okwamanje. Sinabantu abamukelayo emphakathini futhi sibona imibono eshintshayo ngocansi nokukhanga, kodwa asinawo ukwamukelwa okwanele ezingeni lezenhlalo, lezomthetho, nelihlelekile ukuze sizichaze njengomphakathi owamukelayo.”

Usekelo lomphakathi we-LGBTQIA+

Uma udidekile noma unenkinga yokubona/ukwamukela ukuthambekela kwakho kocansi kanye/noma kothando kodwa ufuna ngempela ukuhamba ngale ndlela yokuzihlola, ukufuna ukwesekwa ezinsizeni ezifanele kungaba yinto engcono kakhulu ongazenzela yona. Amanye amaqembu kanye nemitholampilo abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo abangaphendukela kuyo ukuze bathole ukwesekwa, ngokusho kwe- Medical News Today , yile:

• I-Trevor Project: Le nhlangano izichaza njengokuhlinzeka ngolwazi nokweseka umphakathi we-LGBTQ
• Iphrojekthi ye-Audre Lorde: Isekelwe eDolobheni laseNew York, le nhlangano ikhuthaza ubulungiswa bezenhlalakahle kubantu abathandana nobulili obubodwa, abathandana nobulili obubili, imimoya emibili, i-trans and gender nonconforming (LGBTSTGNC) People of Color
• I-Zuna Institute: Le nhlangano emelela ongqingili abamnyama igxile emikhakheni yezempilo, inqubomgomo yomphakathi, ukuthuthukiswa komnotho, kanye nezemfundo.
• I-National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance: Le nhlangano ithi "inika amandla i-LGBTQ+ Asiaans kanye ne-Pacific Islanders ngokwakha amandla okunyakaza, ukumela inqubomgomo, nokumelela."
• I-American Institute of Bisexuality: Eyaziwa nangokuthi i-Bi Foundation, le nhlangano isekela abantu abahlonza njengabobulili obubili
• CenterLink: Abantu base-United States, Australia, Canada, Colombia, China, nase-Uganda bangasebenzisa le webhusayithi ukuthola izikhungo zomphakathi ze-LGBTQIA+
• I-Equality Federation: Le nhlangano ihlinzeka ngohla lwemibhalo lwezinhlangano ze-LGBTQIA+ zezwe lonke

Singethemba kuphela ukuthi isithombe sizoshintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi abantu kuzo zonke izinhlobo zobulili nobulili bazothola amalungelo alinganayo, ukuguqulwa kwezomthetho, ukuchibiyela, ukuhlonishwa, nokuqinisekiswa. Yize lesi sihloko sibala nje izinhlobo eziyi-18 zocansi, yazi ukuthi ziningi ezinye ezikhona. Uma ucabangela ukuthi zingaki izenzo zobulili ezikhona, kungase kube nzima ukuthola ukuthi ungubani ngokushesha. Kodwa ngisho noma ungahlobani nobulili nezincazelo zabo ezibalwe lapha, yazi ukuthi imizwa yakho nokuba khona kwakho kuyasebenza. Ungavumeli muntu akutshele ngenye indlela.

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