Kei reira tonu te tangata kotahi i roto i tō tātou ao e āraia tonutia ana e tātou i te awatea, e wetewete ana hoki i te pō (hei tiro noa ki tana pikitia kōtaha). Nō reira, ki te mea i hiahia koe ki te ārai i tō hoa o mua, ā, i whakaaro koe ki te wetewete i a ia, ehara i te mea ko koe anake. E hiahia ana koe ki te arokite i tōna ao kia kite ai koe i ana mahi o nāianei, engari e pouri ana hoki koe ina tino ātaahua ia i roto i te hāte kikorangi i arohaina e koe i mua. Nō reira, e whakaaro ana koe ki te ārai i tō hoa o mua kia āraia ai hoki ngā kare ā-roto e puta mai ana i te kitenga i a ia.
8 Ngā Take Hei Ārai i tō Hoa o Mua
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Kaua e whakapataritari i a koe anō. He tino whakamarie te kite kua piki ake tōna taumaha, kua takakau tonu, kāore? Engari, he mea hauora tēnā. Mā te kite tonu i a ia i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori ka noho ora tonu ia me ana maharatanga i roto i tō hinengaro, ā, ina ngana koe ki te wareware i a ia, kāore tēnā e whai hua. He mahi koretake te aukati i te nama waea a tō hoa o mua? Kāore rawa, ki te mea kei te ngana koe ki te tīmata anō i tō oranga, ā, e mōhio ana koe ka uaua ake te kite i a rātou.
Kāore mātou e tono ana kia mauahara koe, kia whakahē rānei ki tō hoa o mua. He hohonu ake te hinengaro o te aukati i tētahi hoa o mua i tēnā. Ehara i te mea ko te tango noa i a rātou i ō wāhi ipurangi engari ko te pupuri i tō hinengaro pai. Ki te kite tonu koe i a ia i konei, ka kī tonu ō whakaaro i ngā 'mehemea'. Anei tētahi rārangi tino mārama o ngā take e waru he mea nui te aukati i tō hoa o mua kia neke atu ai koe!
1. Ka pau tō kaha
Whakapono mai ki ahau; he tino hoha, he mamae te ngākau, he tino pōuri hoki te kite i te tangata e whai ana tō hoa o mua i a ia, ko wai e whai ana i a ia, e pai ana ki ana whakaahua whaiaro i muri i te whare takaro. Kātahi ka kite ohorere koe i tēnei @cutiegal roro-pūmau me te tātari rāpeti e 'aroha ana' ki ana whakaahua katoa. Ka tīmata te kōrero a ngā hoa – "He tino wahine whakahihi. Kei te kohi ia i ōna kākahu mai i te wāhanga tamariki?" – kei te whaiwhai kē koe i tō hoa pai i Rānana, e tīmata ana ki te whai i tana kōtaha.
Ā, i mua i tō mōhio, kua waenganui pō kē, ā, kua iti noa iho te tūponotanga ka ara ake koe mō tō oma 6 i te ata. Me hiahia koe ki ēnei mea koretake katoa? Whakarongo ki ā mātou tohutohu, ā, whakaarohia te aukati i tō hoa o mua i muri i te wehenga mēnā kei te pirangi koe ki te penapena i tō wā me tō kaha mōu ake, ka tīmata. neke haereHe aha te take o te manukanuka nui ki tētahi tangata kāore i roto i tō ao?
2. Te kēmu whakatairite
Kei te hiahia koe ki te whakaatu i tētahi oranga tino pai? Āe, kāore he wāhi pai atu i te pāpāho pāpori hei mahi i tēnā. E mōhiotia ana te pāpāho pāpori mō te whakapehapeha tonu hei whakaoho i te hae o te hoa o mua mai i te whakaatu i ō mahere tina ki ngā hararei, kātahi ka panuku haere tonu ki te tirotiro mēnā kua kite rātou i tō kōrero, kua pai rānei ki tō pou. Ki te mea kāore anō kia aukatia e koe tō hoa o mua, ka kite koe i ana takiuru ki ngā wāhi tauhou me ngā kōrero e ki ana i ngā tae (me ngā homoni?).
"Āe, he pai ake tōku oranga," ka menemene koe, ka tono wawe i tētahi whare papai. Kaua e waiho hei rā utu mōu. Kāore he he o te haere tahi me ō hoa me te ngahau, engari me mahi e koe māu ake, kaua hoki e meinga tō hoa o mua kia hae.
3. He māmā ake te neke whakamua
Whakapono mai ki a mātou, ko te aukati i tō hoa o mua i runga i a Whatsapp, i ētahi atu pāpāho pāpori rānei, koinei pea te mea pai rawa atu māu. Me whakamārama atu mātou me pēhea. Kei te mahara koe ki aua rā i haere tahi ai koe i ngā tau tōmua o te rautau 2000? Kei te whakaaro anō koe ki aua tāne? Ae, kāore. Nā te mea kua momona, kua pakira hoki rātou ināianei. Engari he pono, kāore aua wehenga i tino pā ki a mātou. I ora mātou i roto i te wā, ā, i tipu ake i roto i tēnā. I ora mātou nā te mea kāore mātou i whakatuwhera anō i ō mātou patunga.
Engari mō ētahi hoa o mua, he rerekē te āhua, inā koa he kotahi te porowhita hoa. Kei te noho tahi tonu ā mātou hoa o mua ināianei. He hoa ōrite anō hoki ā mātou, ā, he uaua ki te neke whakamua, ki te wareware ki a rātou. Ka pātai tonu mai tētahi i tētahi pāti ki a koe mō rātou, ka kōrero mai rānei mō rātou, ā, ka tīmata anō tō pōuri. Kia aukatia rā anō tō hoa o mua i runga ipurangi, kāore koe e ngaro nui i a ia nā te mea kāore koe e kite pinepine i a ia. Ka roa pea, engari ka neke atu koe i te mutunga.
4. Kaua e rapu kupu whakamāori
Me aukati e koe tō hoa o mua i muri i te wehenga? Ki te hiahia koe ki te neke atu, āe! Kati te hoatu take ki a koe anō kia kaua e pena. "Ka whakaaro ia e kino ana ahau ki a ia", "Ka ahua kino rawa atu tēnā" - he kanohi noa iho ēnei whakamārama katoa, ā, e mōhio ana koe ki tēnā. Ka whakaarahia e koe ēnei āwangawanga katoa mō te me aukati e koe tō hoa o mua i muri i te wehenga nā te mea kāore koe e hiahia ki te pera? He pono. Ko te mea pono, kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakarērea ia. Nā te mea, ina pēnā koe, kāore koe e whai wāhi atu ki tōna wāhi noho.
Engari koinei tonu te whanonga whakahāwea me mutu e tātou. Kāore anō koe kia rite ki te neke ki tētahi atu puni nā te mea kua roa rawa te whakamarie o tēnei. Kei te ngana noa koe ki te karo i te pono hei painga mō te moemoeā pai. Ko te pupuri tonu i tēnei moemoeā ko tētahi o ngā tohu nui me ārai koe i tō hoa o mua i tēnei rā.
5. Whakawāteahia ētahi wāhi
Ahakoa tō kākahu, tō oranga rānei – me whakahou katoa ngā mea i ia wā, i ia wā. I a tātou e haere ana, he maha ngā hoa ka ngaro i a tātou, ā, e whakaae ana tātou he poto noa iho te wā e haere tahi ai tātou me rātou. He aha ai e kore ai ō tātou hoa o mua?
Mā te aukati i tō hoa o mua i runga i a Instagram, i a Facebook rānei, ka wātea ake he wāhi nui i roto i tō ao, ā, ka taea e koe te tuku atu ki ētahi atu mea nui ake. Kāore koe e manukanuka ki ō whakaahua whakaatu, ki ō whakahōunga tūnga rānei! I ia wā ka tuku koe i tētahi whakaahua kōtaha hou, kāore koe e whakapau i tō wā katoa ki te tumanako ka kite ia i a koe, ka kī mai hoki ki a koe te ataahua o tō āhua. Hei tāpiri, ka whakatuwhera koe i ngā tirohanga hou, ā, ka arohia koe e te hunga tika.
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6. Whakakorea te wā 'āue'
Ina kei runga tō hoa o mua i tō rārangi hoapā, tera pea ka waea atu koe ki a ia i te wā e haurangi ana, ka tuku karere haurangi porangi, ka waea atu rānei ki a ia i te pō e haere tahi ana kōrua ko ngā kōtiro e ngahau ana. He mea kino mena kei te ara ia – ka karere haurangi koe, ā, kāore e mahara ki tetahi mea i te ata e whai ake nei.
He kino rawa atu mēnā kua moe ia – ka kite ia i ō karere i te aonga ake, ā, ka hiahia ia ki te kōrero. Ka tīmata koe i tētahi rā hou mā te keri hohonu ki roto i tō hītori, te tākaro whakapae, me te pōuri i te mutunga. Nō reira, ki te whakaaro koe kei te aukati koe i tō hoa o mua, kia mahara ehara i te mea pērā. He pai ake te pupuri i a ia kia kore e taea te toro atu, kia kore hoki e kitea, kaua e rapu take hei waihanga i tētahi wā pōuri!
7. Me timata mai i te wahanga
Kaua rawa e wareware ki te take i wehe ai kōrua – he takahi i te whakawhirinaki, he rerekētanga kāore e taea te whakatau, he kore hiahia rānei. Ahakoa he aha, kia maumahara koe he rawaka koe; kāore koe e hiahia ki te piri ki tētahi kāore e kite i tō uara tuturu. Tīmata hou. Mukua ngā kōrerorero me ngā īmēra tawhito. Mukua tana nama waea. Kia pukumahi.
Ko tētahi o ngā take pai rawa atu mō te aukati i tō hoa o mua ko te tuku i te wā ki a koe anō ki te arotahi ki a koe anō. He mea whakamiharo ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi, me te nui ake o tō pai ake hei tangata mēnā ka karohia e koe ngā mea kino, ka whakaaro ki tō ake tipu. Me whakaora tō ngākau me tō hinengaro. Nui atu tō manukanuka ki tēnā, kaua e pātai ki a koe anō, "Mā te aukati i tō hoa o mua ka ngaro rātou i a koe?" Kāore koe e hiahia kia ngaro rātou i a koe. Me hanga hou koe i a koe anō.
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8. Te aituā PMS
Me noho tō hoa o mua hei tangata tuatahi e whakaarohia ana e koe ina pāngia koe e tētahi o aua huringa kare ā-roto rongonui. Ka tukino tonu koe i a ia, engari ka puta he pupūtanga ohorere o te kare ā-roto i mua tata tonu o tō paheketanga. Ā, ki te mea kāore anō kia āraia e koe ia, ka ngokingoki koe ki te moenga me te ipu aihikirīmi, ka mahi i te mea e hiahia ana koe ki te taatai me te aroha i te wā PMS, ā, ko te kore o taua aroha ka nui ake te whakarihariha i a koe.
Ka maka atu e koe ngā maharatanga tawhito, ka peita anō i aua pikitia oraora māna – te wā i hanga tiakarete wera ai ia, ā, i whakamama i ō mamae ki te pēke wai mahana. Ka whakaaro ia kei te hiahia koe ki te hoki tahi, engari kāore anō kia pāngia koe e te mamae i muri i te taenga mai o tō paheketanga. Nō reira, whakaarohia te aukati i tō hoa o mua i runga i a Whatsapp, i a Instagram rānei. Ka nui ake te pai o tāu mahi i taua ara.
4 Ngā Take Kāore e Pai kia Āraia tō Hoa o Mua
Nā te mea kua kōrerohia e tātou te painga o te whai i te aukati i tō hoa o mua i runga ipurangi ki tō wairua me tō oranga, me kōrero anō hoki tātou ki te taha kē o te tautohetohe. I ētahi wā, ina noho tonu tō hoa o mua i roto i tō oranga, he mea tino pai pea. Engari ko tēnei katoa kei te nui o tō tipu hei tangata, me te mea kua tupu kē koe. i aro atu ki te mamae o te ngākau.
Mena kei te hiahia tonu koe ki a rātou, ka tūtohu mātou kia mau tonu te aukati i tō hoa o mua, kia kaua hoki e uru atu. Engari, ki te mea kua neke atu koe i tētahi wāhi nui, ā, kei te pai tō tūranga i roto i tō ao – kāore he kino o te noho hei hoa, hei hoa rānei. Nō reira, ahakoa kua kōrerohia e mātou he maha ngā take hei aukati i tō hoa o mua, anei ētahi take kāore koe e tika ana kia mahi.
1. Kei te hiahia koe ki te tīmata i tētahi whanaungatanga
Tērā pea kāore tō kōrua wehenga i tino kino rawa atu, engari he pai ake te whanaungatanga me te whakahoahoa. Mēnā koinā, ngā mihi nui ki a koe! He onge noa iho ēnei momo wehenga, nō reira me ngana kia kaua e whakararuraru i ngā mea i muri mai. Mēnā kāore i pai tō kōrua wehenga, ā, e whakapono ana koe kei te pirangi koe ki te noho hoa ki tō hoa o mua, kāore rawa e taea te aukati i tō hoa o mua i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori!
Ki te whakaaro koe ka pai koe ki te mātakitaki i a rāua e whanake ana, e tipu ana hoki i roto i te ao, i a kōrua e mahi ana i taua mea anō, kua tae kē kōrua ki te tihi o te pakeketanga i muri i te wehenga, ā, he mea whakamiharo tēnā. Kāore he take ki te pēhi i te pātene aukati i roto i taua āhuatanga.
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2. Kei te hiahia koe ki te whakamātau anō
I ētahi wā ka mutu te whanaungatanga i te wā e werawera ana, nā te riri rānei, me te kore e mōhio ki ngā hua o taua wehenga. Ki te whakaaro koe i hohoro te wehenga o kōrua, me whakaaro koe he aha te aukati i tō hoa o mua ehara i te mea pai māu. Ki te whakaaro koe kei te tata mai te wā e tūtaki ai anō, ā, he wā poto noa iho kia tae rā anō ki te wā e... ka tīmata ia ki te ngaro i a koe, kātahi ka tatari ki a ia.
Tērā pea kei te noho noa ia i tērā taha o te mata, e tatari ana kia mahi tuatahi koe. Āta tirohia te āhuatanga, ā, whakaarohia te mea e hiahiatia ana e koe. Mēnā koinei te āhua, tērā pea ehara i te mea tika māu te aukati i tō hoa o mua i muri i te wehenga.
3. Kāore anō kia oti i a koe ēnei mahi
He pai ake te kore e aukati i tō hoa o mua i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori, kaua e waiho noa iho ngā mea. Mena he nui ngā pōuri kei roto i a koe e hiahia ana ki tētahi putanga, ka mārama mātou he aha koe kāore ai e aukati i a ia i tēnei wā. Tērā pea he nui atu ngā mea hei kōrero mā kōrua, ā, mā te aukati i tō hoa o mua ka whakararu noa i taua tukanga.
Ae, he mea nui kia aukati i tō hoa o mua kia neke atu, engari ki te whakaaro koe he nui ake ngā mea hei kōrero, hei mahi rānei i konei, ka taea e koe te whakamutu. Tērā pea he mea anō hei whakaaroaro mā kōrua, hei kōrero anō hoki.
4. He rite tonu tō porowhita hoa
Ko te mea nui, ina he rite tonu te porowhita o ō kōrua hoa o mua, ka raru pea te whanaungatanga o te katoa i te wehenga. Nō reira, ki te hiahia koe ki te whakaora i te whanaungatanga e tohaina ana e kōrua katoa, kaua e aukati i tō hoa o mua, kaua hoki e hanga he āhua whakararuraru mō te katoa. E mōhio ana mātou he utu nui tēnei, engari i tēnei wā, he mea pakeke ake pea tēnei, kaua e rapu huarahi ki te mahi. kimihia te kati.
Ko te tumanako, kua mārama kē koe ki te hinengaro o te aukati i tētahi hoa o mua, engari me te aha hoki i ētahi wā, ehara i te mea pai mōu. Whakamahia ēnei tohutohu hei aromatawai i tō āhuatanga whaiaro, kia mārama ai koe ki te whakatau pai mōu. He tukanga te wehenga, ā, i ētahi wā, mā te aukati i tētahi hoa o mua ka tere ake te tukanga. I ētahi atu wā, kāore i te tino pai. Whakaarohia, ā, me whakatau tika māu ake i tēnei rā.
E rua tekau tau te roa, engari i taea e au te aukati i taku hoa o mua.
Kāore e taea te ora i muri i te wehenga. E waru marama kua pahure…
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