Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakatau āhea te wā e wehe atu ai i tētahi whanaungatanga. Nā te mea, i haere mai koe me te tini o ngā tumanako me ngā moemoeā, i atawhai koe i te hononga me tō aroha, tō ngākau aroha, me tō manaaki. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te wehe atu i ēnā mea katoa ina tīmata te puta ake o ngā raruraru kino. I ngā wā tuatahi ka kite koe kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga pouri, ka kī pea koe ki a koe anō he wā uaua noa iho. Heoi, tera pea ka huri hei tauira.
"Aroha mai, kāore e tupu anō." "Kāore au e hiahia ki te whara anō i a koe." "Ka huri au, homai he whai wāhitanga anō ki ahau." "Ka oati ahau ka rerekē ngā mea ināianei." Mā ēnei kupu whakaari me ngā kupu whakamana koe e whakakī ki te tumanako mō tētahi āpōpō pai ake. Ka whakaaro koe ki a koe anō, "Pai, kotahi te wā whakamutunga. Ka haere atu ahau ki waho mēnā kāore ngā mea e huri." Engari i roto i te ao tūturu, kāore he mea e huri, ā, kua mau koe i roto i te porowhita o ngā wāhi uaua me ngā kupu whakaari teitei kāore e tutuki. Ko tā ēnei kupu whakaari anake he whakararuraru i a koe mai i te kite i ngā tohu mārama kua tae ki te wā ki te wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga.
Kāore e kore ka rerekē te whakautu ki te pātai "āhea te wā ki te wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga" mō ia tangata. Engari tera ētahi wā kāore he whiringa atu i a koe engari ko te tuku atu me te haere atu. Kāore, ehara i te mea nā te tukino tinana, kare ā-roto, ā-waha rānei i ngā wā katoa. He maha atu anō ngā āhuatanga, ngā wā rānei e pātai ai koe ki te uara o tētahi whanaungatanga. Me rapu tātou he aha ēnei i runga i te kōrero tahi me te tohunga hinengaro haumanu. Prachi Vaish (M.Phil. i roto i te Hinengaro Hauora), he mema hono ia nō te American Psychological Association, he tohunga whara haumanu whaimana me te kaiwhakaora hinengaro e tohunga ana ki te whakatau i ngā take pēnei i te whakarere, te moepuku i waho o te marena, me ngā whanaungatanga tukino.
He aha ngā take hei wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga?
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Me pēhea te mōhio āhea te wā tika hei wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga? Ko te take he maha ngā tāngata e uaua ana ki te kimi whakautu ki tēnei pātai, ā, e mangere ana ki te wehe atu i tētahi hononga pakaru Ko tā rātou he kore e tino mōhio mēnā he tika te wehe atu i ngā take e pāngia ana e rātou. Kātahi ka tae mai te tumanako, te kupu whakaari mō tētahi āpōpō pai ake e whakaroa ai rātou i te mea e kore e taea te karo, e mau tonu ai hoki i roto i ngā whanaungatanga kino mō te wā roa atu i te wā e tika ana.
"Ko te take matua, he tumanako tonu tā tātou ki te huringa (engari kāore e mahi i tetahi mea mōna). Kei te whakaaro tonu tātou mā roto i ā tātou whakaaro, ā tātou mahi, me ā tātou inoi, ka huri tō tātou hoa. Ko te whakaae ki te rerekētanga me whakaae he whakatau hē tā tātou i te whiriwhiri i tēnei tangata. Ā, koinei te take huna e pupuri ana i a tātou kia mau tonu," te kī a Prachi.
Ki te kitea koe i tētahi wā ōrite, ā, kei te whakaaro tonu koe, "Me noho tonu ahau i roto i tēnei whanaungatanga, me wehe atu rānei?", tera pea he āwhina te pātai ki a koe anō, "He aha te take o te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga kāore e kawea mai he harikoa, he whai hua rānei ki a koe?" I te mea ka taea e koe te rongo i roto i ō wheua kāore tēnei whanaungatanga i te tika mōu, ko ō take mō te hiahia ki te wehe atu ehara i te mea koretake, i te mea hurihuri rānei. Whakarongo noa ki tā tō kare ā-roto e kī ana ki a koe, ā, ka mōhio koe āhea me wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga.
Mena kei te hiahia koe ki te whakapumau ake kei te mahi koe i tēnei mō ngā take tika, anei ētahi hei whakamana i te haere atu:
- Kāore he whakatutukitanga o te ngākau: Ko ngā whanaungatanga aroha e hangai ana i runga i te hononga kare ā-roto hohonu i waenganui i ngā hoa. Mena kei te ngaro tēnā i roto i tō whanaungatanga, ā, kei te whakaaro tonu koe kāore ō hiahia kare ā-roto i te tutuki, i te kino atu rānei, he take tika tēnā hei wehe atu.
- Te ngākau māhaki i roto i te whanaungatanga: Ae, he mea maori noa iho te āhua o te whanaungatanga aroha ki te mōhiotia i muri i ētahi wā, ā, ka memeha haere te harikoa. Heoi, i te wā kotahi te ngākau māhaki i roto i te whanaungatanga Ka tīmata te whanaungatanga, ā, ka wareware noa kōrua ko tō hoa tetahi ki tetahi, ā, kāore kōrua e aro ki ngā āhuatanga o te tangata kē, kua wehe kē kōrua. He mea noa iho te wā ka noho tauhou kōrua tetahi ki tetahi, he aha ai te roa o tō kōrua mamae?
- Te hinga ki te aroha ki tētahi atu: Āhea te wā hei wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga? Āe, ki te mea kua aroha koe, kua kukume rānei tō hoa ki tētahi atu tangata, he tohu mārama tēnā kua mutu tō kōrua whanaungatanga.
- Te kore o te taatai: He rerekē ngā wāhanga me ngā taumata o te whanaungatanga roa, tae atu ki te hekenga o te whanaungatanga ā-ira tangata. Ehara i te mea koinei anake te tohu kua tae ki te wā hei wehe. Heoi, ki te mea he kaha tō hiahia ā-ira tangata, ehara i te mea mō tō hoa, he tohu mārama kua mutu te aroha i pā ki a kōrua tetahi ki tetahi.
- Te tukino i roto i tetahi ahua: Ko te tukino ā-hinengaro, ā-tinana rānei tētahi atu tohu mārama me whakamutu e koe tētahi whanaungatanga hei tiaki i a koe anō. Kaua e whakaroa, e whakaaro me pēhea te wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga kino i a koe e aroha tonu ana ki te tangata. Haere atu i ia wā, i ia wā, me mahi i te mahi e tika ana kia ora ai i ngā patunga kare ā-roto o tētahi whanaungatanga tukino, kia ngaro ai ō kare ā-roto mō tō hoa.
- Ngā take moni: Ki te kore ō whakaaro mō te moni e ōrite, ki te mea rānei he ahotea pūtea kei roto i te whanaungatanga, he uaua ki te titiro ki tua atu i tēnā. Ko te tautohetohe mō te moni he tohu kaha kei te tika te whakatau māu mō te wehe atu.
- Te whanaungatanga paitini: Te ahua kei waho āhea te wā hei wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga kino ka rua pea te uaua nā te mea he maha ngā wā ka whāngai ngā hoa e rua i tēnei paitini. Heoi, ki te mea kei te pā kino tētahi whanaungatanga ki tō hauora hinengaro, ā, kei te mea koe kia manukanuka, kia mataku, kia āwangawanga, kia kaua e harikoa, kia makona, kia haumaru, ko te mahi hei tiaki i a koe anō te mea tika – ahakoa te nui o te kī a tō hoa e aroha ana ki a koe, e whakaaro ana rānei koe e aroha ana koe ki tō hoa.
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Nā te mea kua tirohia e tātou ngā āhuatanga whānui e tohu ana i te wā tika hei wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga, me aro atu tātou ki ngā āhuatanga motuhake. Nō reira, kei roto i a koe tētahi reo e kī ana kāore tō whanaungatanga i te tino tika. Ina tae ki te wā hei wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga, ka tīmata te puta o te whakaaro momotu. Tērā pea kāore koe e tino piri ki tō hoa, e āwangawanga rānei mō rātou pērā i mua.
Heoi, anei koe, e raru ana ki tētahi whakatau uaua, kāore e taea te mahi i runga i ngā kōrero a ō kare ā-roto. He aha ai? "Ka whai tonu te tangata i ngā tauira o ngā mahi hei whakaputa huringa, me te tumanako ki tētahi putanga rerekē. Kāore e taea tēnā. Ā, kia tae rā anō ki taua wā, ka noho mōhio rawa te āhuatanga mamae ki te wehe atu me te tūhura i te mea kāore i te mōhiotia," te kī a Prachi e whakamārama ana he aha i ētahi wā he uaua rawa te wehe atu i tētahi e noho tahi ana koe me te noho tahi.
Engari ehara te whanonga i te take pai hei noho tonu ki ngā whanaungatanga kino. I ētahi wā, kāore pea koe e mōhio engari he nui ngā tohu, ki te aro nui koe, ka akiaki i a koe ki te whakaaro ki te wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga. Pānuihia tonu kia kitea ai mēnā e pā ana ki a koe:
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1. He tukino te whanaungatanga
"Ka taea te tukino ā-waha, ā-hinengaro, ā-tinana rānei. He haki whero NUI tēnei, ā, kāore he whakamārama mō tēnā," te kī a Prachi. Mena he kōrero whakakatakata mutunga kore tō kōrua ko tō hoa, ki te mea kei te pāngia kōrua e ngā tawai me ngā kōrero whakaiti, ki te mea kei te whakahaere tō hoa i a koe i roto i ngā kare ā-roto kia tutuki ai tā rāua e hiahia ana, ki te mea rānei kua pāngia koe e te tutu ā-whare, kua tae ki te wā kia mutu katoa ai.
Kaua tetahi e noho tonu i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga tukino. Kāore he tohu mārama atu i te tukino mēnā kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te mōhio āhea me wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga. Ahakoa ka taea e koe te kite i ngā tohu whakatūpato wawe e whakaatu ana he whanonga tukino tō hoa, ehara i te mea kino te whakaaro ki te wehe atu i te whanaungatanga i runga i tō kare ā-roto anake. Inaa, ka akiaki mātou i tēnei. Kāore he pai ki te noho tonu ki te rapu mēnā he tukino tō hoa, kāore rānei. Ki te whakapae koe, haere atu.
2. Kua ngaro te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi
"Ko te whanaungatanga hauora e ahu mai ana i te whakaute."Te whakaute i roto i te whanaungatanga "ko te tikanga he whakawhirinaki kei te pakeke tō tātou hoa rangatira, ā, he hinengaro anō tōna, ā, e mōhio ana ia ki tā rātou e mahi nei. Ki te kore he whakaute tetahi ki tetahi hei tangata, kāore e taea te aroha," te kī a Prachi.
Kāore ngā tohu o te kore whakaute i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga e herea noa ki ngā whanonga tukino, ki te whakaiti rānei a tētahi hoa i tētahi atu. Tērā pea ētahi tohu ngaro ka kitea pea e koe i roto i ngā kōrero o ia rā me tō hoa. Ki te kore rātou e aro ki ō whakaaro, kāore e aro ki ō kōrero, ā, ka tapahia tonutia tō kōrero, ko te tikanga kāore rātou e aro nui ki tō tuakiri. He pai ake te noho tonu ki roto i tētahi whanaungatanga kāore e whakanuia tō tuakiri?
3. Kua tinihangatia koe neke atu i te kotahi
Āhea te wā ki te wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga, e pātai ana koe? Āe, mēnā he āhuatanga noa te kore whakapono i roto i tō whanaungatanga, kāore e tika ana kia noho tonu, āe? Mēnā kua tinihanga tō hoa i tō whakawhirinaki, ehara i te mea kotahi noa engari he maha, he tohu mārama tēnā kāore rātou e tino whakaute ana i a koe. Ae, ina puta ā rātou hara, ka inoi pea rātou kia murua ō rātou hara, ka oati ki te whakatika i ō rātou ara, ā, ka tuku tumanako mō tētahi heke mai pai ake.
Kātahi ka hoki anō rātou ki ā rātou tauira tawhito. Mā te tinihanga koe e huri, ā, ki te pāngia tonutia ēnei patunga, ka taea e rātou te whakararu i te ngākau, te mamae hoki o te ngākau. Kaua e pupuri i a koe anō nā te mea kāore e taea e koe te whakaaro me pēhea te wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga kino ina aroha tonu koe ki te tangata. Me whakatau uaua te haere atu, me te arotahi ki te whakaora i te mamae o te ngākau i pā ki a koe e tō hoa, kia taea ai e koe te whakatuwhera i tō ngākau me tō hinengaro ki ngā whanaungatanga hauora, aroha hoki ā muri ake nei.
4. Kāore e taea te karo i ngā tautohetohe
Ahakoa he pono ka puta ngā pakanga me ngā tautohe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga katoa, ki te roa te wā, ka tino kino te whanaungatanga. Tērā pea ka mataku koe ki te kōrero uaua tetahi ki tetahi i te wehi kei tīmata anō he pakanga, ā, nō reira, ka tīmata pea ō raruraru ki te puranga. Ko ngā raruraru kua purua ka hua ake te mauahara i roto i te whanaungatanga, e whai wāhi ana ki te pouri me te ahua o te kore e tutuki. Kei te kite koe i te huarahi e anga atu nei tātou ki tēnei?
Koia te take ko tētahi o ngā tohu mō te wā tika hei wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga ko te mea kua noho ngā tautohetohe me ngā totohe hei kaupapa matua i roto i tō hononga ki tō hoa rangatira. E kī ana a Prachi, "Ko te kore e taea te whakatau i ngā pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga he tohu i ētahi atu take matua pērā i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ngoikore, te paitini, me ngā tauira piripono kino. Ka āwhina pea ki te keri hohonu me te rapu i te pūtake o ēnei take. Ahakoa kāore e taea e koe te whakaora i tēnei whanaungatanga, i te iti rawa ka whai mōhio koe ki a koe anō kia kaua e whakahoki i ēnei tauira ki ngā hoa rangatira o muri mai."
5. He kaha rawa te pakanga mana
Tērā pea he whakaaro utopia te ōritetanga katoa i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, engari ki te ngana tetahi ki tetahi ki te whakahaere tetahi i tetahi, ko te mutunga he ahotea. "Ina whakakapia te taurite e te te pakanga mana i roto i te whanaungatanga", ka arahi tonu atu ki tētahi pakanga o te kotahitanga, ehara i te hononga tūturu," te kī a Prachi. Ko te tangata 'ngoikore' ka rongo i te ngoikore me te kore e whai whakaaro.
Ko te whanaungatanga aroha he whanaungatanga whakaute, whakawhirinaki, me te manaaki. Kaua rawa te tangata whai mana e waiho hei mea nui. Kaua tō whanaungatanga e rite ki te pakanga tonu ki te whakatū mana. Ā, ki te pērā, ko te wā tēnā hei wehe atu i te whanaungatanga.
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6. Te whakaputa kōrero whakaiti mō tō hoa
Ko te kore whakaute e kitea pinepine ana i roto i ngā kōrero whakatoi me ngā kupu whakaiti a ngā hoa ki a rātou anō. "Ko te whakama tinana i te hoa, te kī i ngā mea pēnei i te, "Ka kite ahau he ataahua ake koe mēnā ka whakaitihia tō taumaha", te whakahē me te tawai i ā rātou whiringa, i ā rātou mahi, te tawai i ō rātou āhua, i ō rātou hoa rānei, me ērā atu mea, he tohu kua tae ki te wā ki te wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga," te kī a Prachi.
Ina ngaro tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō i runga i te ingoa o te aroha, kaua rawa e whakaarohia me pēhea te tiki kaha ki te wehe atu i tētahi e arohaina ana e koe. Mēnā he hoa e kōrero ana ki a koe mō ngā kōrero whakaiti a tōna hoa mōna, me kī atu koe kia mutu te whanaungatanga i te wā e taea ai! Whakaaturia te atawhai ki a koe anō, me te arotahi ki te anga whakamua, ki tētahi heke mai pai ake.
7. Kei raro koe i te rama hau
gaslighting He momo tukino ngawari te whakakāhore i te pono o te hoa mā te kī he porangi rātou, mā te kī rānei he mea nui tonu te koretake o te mea nei. "He maha ngā momo o te whakakāhore i te hau. Ko te whakamātau i te tangata kia pātai i āna whakatau, kia whakaeke rānei i tōna mana ake he tauira anō hoki o te whakakāhore i te hau. Ā, ka tino kino ki te oranga ngākau o te tangata kei te taha e whiwhi ana i te whakakāhore. Me waiho hei tetahi o ngā mea e kore e taea te whiriwhiri hei wawahi i te whakaaetanga i roto i te whanaungatanga ina mōhio te tangata i pāngia ki ngā mea e pāngia ana rātou," te kī a Prachi.
Ka taea e te whakahāngai hau te whakararuraru i a koe ki ō ake whakatau/te whakararuraru i tō mahara ki ngā kaupapa. Kaua tetahi e whai mana ki te mea i a koe kia whakararuraru i ō ake whakaaro me tō kaha ki te whakatau i a koe anō. Kaua e whai wāhi tēnei momo mahi tinihanga hinengaro i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Mena kua pāngia koe e te whakahāngai hau, ko te mōhio koinei te taahiraa tuatahi ka taea e koe te mahi hei whakaora i a koe mai i tētahi whanaungatanga kua whakakahoretia tonutia tō mana whakahaere. Kia pērā koe, ka mārama ake te huarahi ki te anga whakamua.
8. Ina ngana tō hoa ki te whakarerekē i a koe
Ahakoa te mōhio, te kore mōhio rānei, ka ngana tātou ki te awe i ō tātou hoa. He pai te huringa, inā koa mēnā he mea hei whakapai ake i a koe, hei āwhina rānei i a koe ki te whakatipu i ngā tikanga pai ake, i te momo noho pai ake rānei. Heoi, ina ngana tō hoa ki te huri i tō tuakiri, ki te whai awe kino rānei ki a koe, ka pā kino pea ki a koe i te wā roa.
Ki te hiahia tō hoa ki te whakarerekē i a koe, ko te tikanga kei te rapu ia i tētahi mea kāore e kitea i roto i a koe. He tohu tēnā kāore pea kōrua e hototahi tetahi ki tetahi. Me nui tēnei hei mōhio māu ki te wā tika hei wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga. Haunga tēnā, ki te ngana koe ki te whakarerekē i a koe anō i runga i te tono a tō hoa, ka kore koe e pai ki a koe anō. Me pēhea koe e harikoa ai ina kāore koe i te marino ki tō āhua? Ā, he aha te take o te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga e kore ai koe e noho hei ko koe tonu, e kitea rānei te harikoa?
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9. Kāore tō hoa e whakaae ana ki āu tamariki, ki āu mōkai rānei
Ko ngā hononga aroha angitu e hangai ana ki te whakaae katoa ki ngā āhuatanga katoa o te oranga o tētahi ki tētahi – te pai, te kino, me te kino. Ki te kore tō hoa e mahi i tēnā, tera pea ko ia te mea tika māu? hoa whaiaro Tērā pea ka kī atu koe ki a koe i roto i ngā marama e rua o te whanaungatanga kāore rātou i te pai ki ētahi āhuatanga o tō koiora kāore e taea te whakarerekē.
Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakarērea o tētahi e arohaina ana e koe engari kāore i te pai mōu, engari ki te kore tō hoa e tautoko i ngā āhuatanga o tō ao e nui ana ki a koe, hei tauira, ō hoa aroha – tamariki, mātua, mōkai rānei – me ō kawenga rānei ki aua mea, kātahi ka tino māmā noa iho te kōwhiringa.
10. Kāore ō whāinga e ōrite
Ka uaua ake, ka mamae hoki te ngākau i te wā e kore ai e pāngia tō āhua e ngā tohu kino kua whakahuatia ake nei. Tērā pea kāore he he o tō hoa rangatira, engari kāore pea kōrua e tika mō tētahi ki tētahi nā te mea kāore ō kōrua whāinga e ōrite. He tokorua rerekē rawa atu pea kōrua, ahakoa te aroha o tētahi ki tētahi, kāore e kitea he huarahi hei hanga i tētahi oranga.
Tērā pea he rerekē ngā mea e hiahia ana koe i roto i te ao, ā, kāore he huarahi e kitea ai he ara waenga. He maumau te tuku i ō wawata, i ō whāinga rānei hei painga mō te whanaungatanga, nā te mea ka riri noa iho kōrua tetahi ki tetahi i te mutunga. He mea pea tēnei. te tangata tika i te wā hē he āhuatanga, he nui atu te mamae i te aroha ki tētahi kāore koe e hototahi. I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, ko te whakarērea i tētahi e arohaina ana e koe mō tōna ake pai te mea tika, ahakoa he mamae!
11. He rerekē ō uara matua me ō tirohanga ki te ao
Kāore ngā mea rerekē e kukume i ngā wā katoa. I te nuinga o te wā, ko ngā uara me ngā waiaro ōrite te pūtake o tētahi whanaungatanga pakari. Ina kore e whakaae te tokorua ki ngā take nui me ngā whiringa oranga - te whakapono, te moni, me ngā tamariki, hei tauira noa iho - ka uaua te haere i te haerenga o te ao hei hoa. He maha ngā wā ka tae mai he rā paunga mō ēnei whanaungatanga.
He mea tino nui kia mōhio koe ki te wā tika hei wehe atu i tētahi he whanaungatanga kāore he heke maiHe pai ake te mahi i tēnei i mua i te tino piripono o tētahi o ngā hoa. He uaua te wehe i tētahi e arohaina ana e koe me te kore e whara i a rātou, engari ki te rerekē rawa ō kōrua tirohanga, ka mutu ka whara kino tetahi i tetahi. He pai ake te tango i te awhina, kaua e whakaroa i te mea e kore e taea te karo.
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12. He kino ō maharatanga me ō wheako
He aha ō kare ā-roto ina whakaaro koe ki tō hoa? Mā te whakaaro ki a rāua ka puta mai ngā kare o te harikoa, te ngākau māhaki, me te ngākau māhaki? He mataku, he manukanuka, he āwangawanga rānei koe? Me meinga koe kia noho haumaru, kia arohaina, kia makona hoki i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Me taea e koe te titiro whakamuri me te aroha ki ngā wā i noho tahi ai kōrua, ā, me rere noa ngā kōrero "kia maumahara ki te wā".
Ki te kore koe e pērā, tera pea nā te mea he nui ake ngā wheako me ngā maharatanga kino i ngā mea pai. Tērā pea kei te tumanako koe ka pai ake ngā mea. Engari ki te mea kāore anō kia pai, he aha te take e whakapono ai koe ka rerekē te āhua ā muri ake nei? Ko te hītori pouri me te heke mai kāore i te tino mārama he tohu mārama mō te wā me whakamutu ai i tētahi whanaungatanga.
13. Ko te take e noho tonu ai koe, he whakamataku koe i te noho takakau
He tokomaha te hunga e mataku ana ki te wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga, ahakoa te kino, te kore hauora rānei, nā te mea kāore e taea e rātou te whakaaro kia noho mokemoke. Ko te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga pouri nā te mea kāore koe e mōhio me pēhea te noho ko koe anake, he take kino tēnei hei whakamanawanui i te mamae. Kia maia ki te wehe atu.
Tohutohu Matua
- He uaua te mōhio ki te wā tika hei wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga, ina koa kua roa kōrua e noho tahi ana, ā, kua nui rawa te whakapau kaha ki tō hoa.
- Ko te tukino, te tinihanga, te kore whakaute, te puremu, te ngākau māhaki, ko ētahi o ngā tohu mārama me haere atu koe.
- Heoi, kāore i te tino kaha, kāore hoki i te tino kitea ngā tohu e whakaatu ana kua tae ki te wā hei whakamutu i tētahi whanaungatanga; i ētahi wā, ka ārai pea ngā āhuatanga pēnei i ngā whiringa me ngā whāinga rerekē o te ao i tō kōrua heke mai hei tokorua.
- I te nuinga o te wā, e mōhio ana koe ki te wā tika hei wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga. Kaua e wareware ki taua reo iti i roto i tōu mahunga, ā, ka mōhio koe ki tāu e tika ana kia mahia.
Ahakoa me kī tonu me whakapau kaha te tangata kia angitu ai tētahi whanaungatanga, ki te mea kei te whakaaro tonu tētahi wāhanga o koe me pēhea te mōhio āhea me wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga, kāti kua takoto kau noa iho te tuhituhi. He pai ake te wehe atu i tō hoa i te noho mauhere i roto i te porowhita o te hoatu "he whai wāhitanga whakamutunga" tetahi ki tetahi.
FAQs
He uaua te wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga nā te nui o ngā kare ā-roto me ngā mahi e whakapaua ana ki roto. I ētahi wā, ka mataku pea koe, ka ngoikore hoki ki te noho mokemoke, ā, ka whakaaro pea koe he pai ake te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga i te noho takakau. He uaua te whakaae me wehe atu koe i tētahi whanaungatanga, nā te mea ko te tikanga hoki me whakaae koe i hē koe i te urunga atu ki te whanaungatanga.
Ina kore he aroha e toe ana i roto i te whanaungatanga, ina he maha ngā tinihanga e puta mai ana, ina rerekē ō kōrua uara matua, ina wehe kē kōrua, ā, ina kite koe kei te nui ake te mamae e homai ana e tō whanaungatanga i te harikoa, kua tae ki te wā hei wehe.
Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakamutu i tētahi hononga ki tētahi e arohaina ana e koe, engari ki te kore koe e harikoa ki taua hononga, ā, e mau tonu ana te ngoikore, me whakatau koe ka whakarērea tō hoa.
Āe. I ētahi wā, ehara i te mea ka mutu tō aroha ki tētahi, engari me whakarērea e koe nā te mea kua kore kē kōrua e aroha tetahi ki tetahi, he rerekē rānei ō kōrua hiahia i te ao. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te wehe i tētahi e arohaina ana e koe, e noho tahi ana hoki, engari ki te pāngia tō hauora hinengaro, me whakarērea e koe te whanaungatanga ahakoa te nui o tō whakaaro e aroha ana koe ki tēnei tangata.
He uaua ki te wehe atu i tētahi e noho tahi ana kōrua. Me āta whakaaro pea koe ki tēnei āhuatanga. Me whakarite hoki e koe tō mahere wehenga atu mō te āhua o tō nekehanga atu, ngā tikanga o taua nekehanga, me te pānga ki tō oranga.
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