Nā, kua tupu tēnei: Kei roto kōrua i tētahi whanaungatanga. Whai muri i ngā marama o te whakaipoipo noa, i tētahi āhua taumaha, kāore i te mārama, me te rongo tonu i te "kia kite tātou i te mutunga o tēnei," kua oti kē te whakatakoto i tētahi tapanga mō kōrua ki a kōrua. He tino WHAKAHIHI te noho tahi i te whārangi kotahi, i roto hoki i tētahi whanaungatanga aroha. Engari kei te taunga tonu kōrua ki tēnei huringa nui o te ao. I a kōrua e anga whakamua ana i roto i tēnei whanaungatanga hou, kāore e taea e tō roro te kore e pātai, "He tere rawa te neke o tēnei whanaungatanga? Kei te tika tā tātou whakahaere i tēnei?"
Ki te pēnei ō whakaaro, he tino harikoa ahau mōu, nā te mea he tohu pai tēnei ki ahau. He mātau koe, ā, kāore koe e matapohia e ō kare ā-roto i ngā wāhanga tuatahi o tēnei hiahia aroha. He mea nui kia ngahau, kia whakapuaki i te aroha, engari kaua e riro noa i a koe.
Nō reira, kāore he take e whakama ai koe mō te pātai i ēnei pātai. Me tēnei tangata hou i roto i tō ao, tera pea ka raru koe i te maha o ngā kare ā-roto, ā, ko te hiahia noa kia tiakina koe. Mēnā kei te pōhēhē koe mō te tere o tēnei hononga kare ā-roto, kua tae mai koe ki te wāhi tika i tēnei rā. Noho noa mai, ā, tukua mātou kia āwhina i a koe i roto i ēnei feaa. Kei a mātou tō tuara.
Kia pēhea te tere o te tere rawa i roto i te whanaungatanga?
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Mena kua mutu tō hononga aroha nui me tētahi atu, ā, e rua wiki i muri mai ka kitea koe kei te whai i tētahi hononga aroha pōuriuri, he tere pea te uru atu ki tētahi mea hou. Tērā pea i tēnei wā, kua uru atu koe ki tētahi whanaungatanga whakaora nā te mea kāore anō kia mārama ki a koe ngā hua o tō wheako o mua.
Tētahi atu āhuatanga: Kua tīmata noa koe ki te kite i tētahi i ētahi wiki kua pahure ake nei, ā, kua tino whakapono koe ko ia tō hoa rangatira. E hiahia ana koe kia noho tahi rāua mō te wā roa. Tērā pea he tohu tēnei kei te tere rawa tō aroha. Ahakoa kāore he wā kua whakapumautia mō te ahunga whakamua o te aroha me ngā whanaungatanga, he ngāwari te whakateretere i ngā mea ina kei roto koe i te ngau o te aroha.
Kāore mātou e kī ana kia kaua e ngahau, e tūtaki rānei ki te tangata. E kī ana mātou he mea nui kia tere te whakarite i tētahi whanaungatanga mō te wā roa, kia mōhio pai hoki ki te tangata i mua i te whakapuaki i ngā kupu whakaari wairangi. Kia kore ai koe e tere rawa te uru atu ki tētahi whanaungatanga, ā, kia tika hoki te tere o te whai i tēnei hononga, pānuihia tonutia.
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13 Ngā Tohu Kei te Tere Rawa Koe i roto i te Hononga
He tokomaha te hunga e whakaaro ana kāore e taea te tere, te puhoi rānei i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. He mea nui ngā kare ā-roto, ā, me mahi koe i ngā mea e puta noa mai ana ki a koe ina noho koe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Engari he haurua noa iho tēnei o te tika.
Me mahi e koe te mea e tino pā ana ki a koe, engari ki te mea ka pāngia koe e te taumahatanga o tō whanaungatanga, he tohu tēnā kāore koe i te tino pai ki tāu e whakaaro nei. He mea tino noa te whakaaro kei te tere rawa ngā mea i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, kaua e wehi i tēnā. I tētahi atu taha, tera pea e mōhio ana koe kei te tere te haere o tō whanaungatanga engari he tika ki a koe i taua wā tonu. Me karo hoki i tēnei mea nā te mea ka pā he pānga mō te wā roa.
Ko ngā whanaungatanga e tere haere ana, he nui ake te tūponotanga ka hinga, engari ki te hanga koe i ngā huringa e tika ana, kāore he mea hei manukanuka. Kia maumahara ki tēnei, anei ngā tohu 13 e whakaatu ana kei te tere rawa te haere o tō whanaungatanga:
1. Ki tō whakaaro he tino tika tō hoa
Me tīmata tātou me tētahi mahi iti; whakamātauria te whakarārangi i ngā mea e rima mō tō hoa aroha kāore koe i te pai ki a ia. I taea e koe te whakaaro i tētahi mea? Ki te kore, kei roto koe i te raruraru.
He āhuatanga anō kei ia tangata kāore e pai ki a ia mō tōna hoa. Ahakoa kua tīmata kē kōrua te kite tetahi i tetahi, tera tonu ētahi āhuatanga kāore e taea e koe te aro atu ki a ia. Ahakoa he rā tuatahi, he nui noa iho hei whakakino i a koe ki tētahi mea, pērā i te āhua o tā rāua noho, o tā rāua kai rānei. Ki te whakaaro koe he tino tika tō hoa, kāore koe e kite ana i a ia hei tangata, ā, kāore anō koe kia whai wā tika ki te mōhio pai ki a ia.
2. He nui rawa tō kōrua awe i ngā whakataunga a tētahi ki tētahi
He aha te mea e kiia ana he tere rawa te neke i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga? Mena i tīmata kōrua te kite i a kōrua i ētahi wiki kua pahure ake nei, ā, kua noho kē rāua hei pokapū o tō ao, koinā te whakautu. Ko taku hoa, ko Dayna, he whaiāipo tūmanako ā, he tere rawa tana neke i roto i ana whanaungatanga. Ahakoa he aha te tono wairangi e tukuna ana ki mua i a ia, ka mahia e ia. I hiahia tana hoa wahine ki te tūtaki ki a ia i te ata Rātapu. I teka ia ki tōna whānau mō tōna mate kia puta ai ia i te whare karakia, kia taea ai e ia te mahi i te mea i tonoa e tana hoa wahine.
Ehara tēnei i te āhua o tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, ahakoa te roa o tō kōrua whakaipoipo. Mena kei te huri haere tō mahinga katoa hei whakatutuki i ngā hiahia o tō hoa, he nui rawa tōu aro ki tō whanaungatanga. Me whakataurite e koe tō oranga me ō hiahia whanaungatanga. Kia mahara, ehara tō hoa hou i tō oranga katoa.
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3. Kei te tere rawa te whiti i ngā tohu paetae whanaungatanga
Ka whakaaro koe, "He tere rawa tā tātou nekeneke?" Āe, me titiro tātou ki ngā tohu rerekē o te whanaungatanga i tēnei wā. Ko te tikanga o ēnei ko te rā tuatahi, te kihi tuatahi, te whawhai tuatahi, te kī atu e aroha ana ahau ki a koe, te neke tahi, me ētahi atu Kia tīmata koe ki te whakaipoipo i tētahi, me whiti mārire ēnei tohu i a kōrua e mōhio pai ake ana tetahi ki tetahi. He rite ki te piki ake i tētahi taumata i roto i tētahi kēmu ataata nā te mea kei te pai haere tō pūkenga. Kāore koe e whakaaro ka kī atu koe ki tētahi e aroha ana koe ki a ia i muri i ētahi wā poto noa iho.
Mena kei te tae atu koe ki ēnei wā matua i ngā marama tuatahi, he tohu tēnei kei te tere haere te whanaketanga o tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Hei tauira, kei te neke tahi kōrua i te marama tuatahi, kei te moe tahi rānei i te wiki tuatahi.
4. Ngā tohu kei te tere rawa tō nekehanga i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga: He maeneene te haere, kāore he whawhai
Ahakoa te āhua rerekē o tēnei kōrero, whakapono mai ki ahau, he mea tino nui. Whakaarohia tō kōrua whanaungatanga tae noa mai ki tēnei wā. Kia pēhea te roa? He torutoru marama. I tēnei wāhanga tuatahi, kua whai hononga kē kōrua? tō pakanga tuatahi? I pā mai ētahi māramatanga hē ki a kōrua? Ki te kore, ko te tikanga kua tino kaha rawa tō urunga ki tō whanaungatanga, ā, kua nui rawa tō tuku i ngā mea kia haere.
Tērā pea kua whakaaro koe kei te tere haere tō whanaungatanga, engari kei te tika tonu te āhua o tō whanaungatanga i tēnei wā tonu. Mēnā koinei te āhua, tērā pea kāore koe i te aro ki ngā raruraru kua pā mai. Engari, tera pea ka puta ake aua raruraru i roto i te wā poto.
5. Kāore he wāhi, kāore he rohe
I te tīmatanga o tētahi hononga, he mea noa te hiahia ki te whakapau i ia hēkona me tō hoa. He tikanga tā te hunga hou ki te tuku i ō rātou wā katoa ki tā rātou hononga. Ko ngā wāhine me ngā tāne e tere rawa ana te neke i roto i ngā hononga ka tere rawa te whai whakaaro. Ahakoa he mea noa tēnei, ehara i te mea hauora. He mea nui kia whakatakotohia e kōrua ngā tumanakohanga pono mai i a kōrua.
Mā te whakapau kaha rawa atu ka huri tō kōrua whanaungatanga hei taha kotahi. Ahakoa e hiahia ana koe ki te whakapau i te wā kounga ki a koe anō, tera pea he rerekē ngā whakaaro o tō hoa. Ko te whakataurite i waenga i te whakapau i te wā ki a koe anō me te te tuku wāhi tetahi ki tetahi i roto i te whanaungatanga he mea tino nui.
Ko tētahi atu raruraru o ngā whanaungatanga hou ko te korenga o ngā rohe. Ina oti ngā mea katoa te whakarite, ka taea e te hononga te piki haere ki tētahi taha. Ka tīmata te noho "Kei te tere rawa tana neke tinana" me "Kei te piri rawa ia" nā te mea kāore anō kia whakatakotoria he rohe ki tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Kāore ngā rohe e whakaiti i te aroha; ka taea e koe te tipu tahi me te whānau. Ka rite te āhua o ngā rohe hauora ki tēnei:
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- Kia toru pea ngā rā i roto i te marama
- Kia kaua e waiho ngā pakanga kia kore e whakatauhia
- Kōrero i te waea i tētahi wā motuhake o te rā
- Kaua e moe tāne tae noa ki te ono o ngā rā
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6. Kāore koe e 'whakaaro' ana mō tō whanaungatanga
Ko te tīmatanga o tētahi whanaungatanga me aro atu koe ki te tangata. He mea nui ngā kare ā-roto, engari kia tīmata te whanaungatanga, me whakaaro hoki koe ki ngā āhuatanga whai hua. He wāhanga tō ngākau me tō roro o roto i a koe, nō reira me ōrite te noho tahi o rāua i roto i tō whanaungatanga.
Ka whakaroa te roro i te mea ka haere te ngākau, ā, hohoro rawa te hinga ki te arohaKoia te take he maha ngā whanaungatanga kāore i te "tika" i ngā wā katoa. He mea nui te whakaaro; koinei anake te huarahi e taea ai e koe te mārama ki ngā kare ā-roto e pā ana ki a koe, me te kore e wareware ki te mārama ki tō hoa. Ki te kore koe e whakamahi i tō hinengaro i roto i te whanaungatanga, he tohu tēnā kei te tere rawa te haere o tō whanaungatanga.
Me manawa koe, me arotake hoki tō hononga. Koinei anake te huarahi ka mārama ai koe ki te ahunga o tō whanaungatanga, mehemea kei te hiahia koe ki te whakapau kaha, me te aha te mahi e whai ake nei.
7. Ko te nui o te moe tāne engari kāore e kōrerohia he tohu kei te tere haere tō kōrua hononga
He aha te mea e kiia ana he tere rawa te neke i roto i te whanaungatanga? Ko te whakautu, ko te peke atu i ngā turanga katoa ka peke tika ki te taatai. Ko te taatai te wāhanga whakamutunga o te whanaungatanga ā-tinana i roto i te whanaungatanga. He tohu tēnei e whakawhirinaki ana kōrua ko tō hoa tetahi ki tetahi engari kāore e pēnei mena kua hohoro kōrua te uru atu.
Tērā pea he rerekē te tikanga o te matū ā-ira ki a kōrua. Tērā pea ko te take anake i moe ai kōrua ko tana tere rawa i te tinana, ā, kāore koe i hiahia ki te "whakararuraru i ngā mea mā te kī "kāo". Tērā pea he pai te moe māu, engari kāore mā rāua. I ētahi wā, kāore pea koe e mōhio ki ō whakaaro pono mō te moe. Ki te taka koe ki raro i tētahi o ēnei kāwai, he ... haki wheroKaua e warewaretia.
Ko te huarahi pai ki te mārama mēnā kei te tere rawa tō whanaungatanga tinana, ko te mātakitaki i ngā whanonga a tō hoa ki te taatai. Kei te tuwhera rāua ki te kōrero mō tēnei mea? Kei te kōrero kōrua mō ō kōrua mea e pai ana ki a kōrua me ō kōrua mea e kore e pai ki a kōrua i te moenga? Ki te karo koe i ēnei kōrero, kei te wehi koe ki te tū atu ki te tūponotanga kāore anō tō kōrua whanaungatanga kia rite mō tēnei taumata o te whanaungatanga piripono.
8. Kei runga tonu tō whanaungatanga i ngā pāpāho pāpori
Kua whanakehia he āhuatanga rua o te whakaipoipo i ēnei rā. Ko tētahi he āhua tinana, ko tētahi he āhua mariko. Mai i te taupānga whakaipoipo tuihono Mai i te tīmatanga o te ipurangi, kua tino māmā haere ngā mea katoa, mai i ngā kōrerorero ataata ki te tuku karere kuputuhi.
Ko tō kōtaha pāpāho pāpori te wāhi e taea ai e koe te whakaatu i tō whanaungatanga, engari me mahi noa tēnei ina kua tino pakari tō whanaungatanga, ā, kua whiti i te wā marena hou. Mena kua tīmata noa koe ki te whakaipoipo, ā, kī tonu tō whāngai i ngā pou mō tō "boo", kei te tere rawa koe.
Ina tuku koe i tō whanaungatanga ki tō Instagram, ki tō Pukamata rānei, kei te kōrero koe ki te ao mōna. Ki te kore ngā mea e puta pērā i tāu i tumanako ai, he tino mamae te ūkui i tō whanaungatanga mai i tō oranga mariko i te aroaro o te marea. Kia tino mōhio koe ki ō kare ā-roto i mua i te whakamōhio i te ao mō tō whanaungatanga.
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9. Ka whakawhirinaki koe ki tō hoa, kāore he tūpato
Mena ko koe tētahi o aua wāhine, tāne rānei e tere rawa ana te neke i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, tera pea he nui rawa tō whakawhirinaki ki tō hoa. Pātai atu ki a koe anō he aha te mea e whakawhirinaki ai koe ki a rātou. Ahakoa he pai rātou ki a koe, ehara i te mea ka whakawhirinakihia rātou.
Kua kōrerotia kētia e koe tō kōrero mō tō oranga, ō 'mea ngaro' me ō 'whakamā' katoa? Mēnā āe, me whakamutu e koe tēnei hononga. Ahakoa he mea nui te whakawhirinaki, me whakawhanake tonu i roto i te wā. Kaua e wareware he tauhou tonu rātou, ā, he torutoru noa ngā marama kua mōhio koe ki a rātou. Kia mōhio pai koe ki a rātou i te tuatahi. Ka hinga te nuinga o ngā whanaungatanga ina kite ngā hoa kua nui rawa atu ā rātou mahi ki tētahi tangata kāore rātou i te tino mōhio.
10. He tohu te aroha nui kia ata haere kōrua
He ātaahua te mahi ngā mea aroha i te pō whakatā e tumanakohia ana rānei he huritau marena. Engari ki te mea kotahi marama noa iho kōrua e noho tahi ana, kāore anō kia maha ngā wā pēnei. Ki te mea kei te hoatu e koe he koha me he putiputi ki tō hoa i ia rā, kei te tere rawa te haere o tō kōrua whanaungatanga.
Heoi anō, kua tūtaki kē koe ki ngā hoa o tō hoa rangatira, me ngā hoa o te whānau whānui? Kāore koe i te tino mōhio ki tā rātou kurī tuatahi, engari kua whakamōhiotia kētia koe e tōna whānau hei hoa wahine hou? Mena he pono tēnei, tera pea kua tīmata wawe rawa tā kōrua whakaipoipo i tō hoa rangatira.
11. Kua rerekē ō whāinga
He āhua āwangawanga tēnei engari he whakamārama tino tika mō te pakaru o ngā whanaungatanga mēnā ka tere rawa te haere. Mēnā kua tīmata kē koe ki te whakaipoipo, ā, ka kite koe kei te huri koe i tō heke mai mō tō hoa, he tohu tēnei kei te tino aro nui koe ki tō whanaungatanga. Mēnā ka kite koe i tēnei i roto i tō hoa, me whakaaro anō koe ki te āhua o tō hoa.
He mahere ā te katoa. Ka whakatakoto koe i ngā whāinga hei ārahi i tō umanga me tō oranga ki tētahi huarahi, engari ko koe tonu te kaupapa matua o ēnei. Ina whai hononga nui koe, he mea noa te whakaaro ki te tūranga o tō hoa rangatira i roto i tō mahere ā muri ake nei. Engari ka puta tēnei i te nuinga o te wā ina kua noho koe i roto i tētahi... whanaungatanga ono marama.
Tērā pea ka mea koe, "Kei te tere haere taku whanaungatanga engari he tika te āhua, nō reira he aha te kino?" Ko te whakautu ko tō heke mai te wāhanga o tō oranga nāu. Ki te tīmata koe ki te whakarite mahere me tō whanaungatanga i roto i te hinengaro, ā, kāore ngā mea e pai ana, ka ngaro i a koe te wā o nāianei me tō heke mai. Ka kino te kare ā-roto. Nō reira, kati i a koe i te wā ka tīmata koe ki te whakaaro ki ngā taiapa ma me ngā whare o waho. Tukua te heke mai kia haere i tōna ara. Ki te āwangawanga koe mō te ngaronga o tō hoa rangatira, he wehi tēnā kāore e taea e koe te whakatika mā te whakakotahi i ō whāinga me ā rātou.
12. Kei te ngaro tō tuakiri
Mena kei te tīmatanga o tō kōrua whanaungatanga, ā, kua whakaae kē kōrua ki ngā mea katoa e kōrerohia ana e rāua, kei te oma kōrua pērā i te tereina matā. Koinei tētahi o ngā take e kore ai e angitu ngā whanaungatanga tere haere. Nō reira, kaua e tīmata ki te mau i ngā kanohi kanohi e whakapataritari ana i ō kanohi nā te mea he pai ake ki tō hoa te noho tahi me koe me te kore ō mōhiti. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te mutu te mau i te PB&J nā te mea e kino ana ia ki te pata pīnati.
Ahakoa te āhua iti nei ēnei, he nui te āwhina i a rātou ki te hanga i tō tuakiri i roto i tēnei āhuatanga. Kāore e taea e koe te patunga tapu koe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga hei whakamanawareka i tō hoa rangatira. He tino morearea te ngaronga o tō tuakiri i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, inā koa tētahi kua tīmata noa.
13. Kei te whakatau tonu koe i ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe?
Ina tino piripono koe ki tētahi whanaungatanga, ka whai tonu koe i ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e tō hoa. Kei te hiahia ia ki te hokohoko? Kua oti. Kei te hiahia ia ki te mātaki Netflix me te whakangā i ia rā? Kua oti. E kiia ana tēnei he whanonga whakararuraru engari ehara tēnā i te mea koinei tonu.
Ka whakaarohia he whakaaetanga ina tūtaki ngā tāngata e rua i waenganui. Hei tauira, ki te mea kei te te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata whakama, kātahi ka hiahia rātou ki te karo i te haere ki tētahi wāhi tūmatanui i ngā wā katoa. Ka pai ake rātou ki te noho ki roto, ki te noho i tētahi pō marino. Ko koe ia, ka hiahia pea koe ki te haere ki tētahi pāti me te pārekareka ki te puoro i te nuinga o te wā. Nō reira, ko te otinga ko te haere i waho i tētahi taraiwa roa. Engari ko tētahi tangata e piripono ana ki tētahi atu, ko te kimi i tētahi huarahi waenga e pai ana ki a kōrua.
Kei te haere tahi tonu koe me tō hoa tāne i ngā wā whakatā takirua me tōna tuakana me tana wahine ahakoa kāore koe i te pai ki tēnā? Ko koe tonu te tangata e ara wawe ana ki te tango i ngā para? Kaua e tukua tēnei whanaungatanga kia horapa ki runga i ō hiahia me ō wawata i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Ki te pērā koe, he mārama kāore anō kia whakatūria he turanga pakari mō tēnei hononga, ā, kei te tere rawa te neke.
Te pānui e pā ana: Ngā whanaungatanga haumaru - he aha rātou, ā, he aha te āhua?
Me pēhea te whakaroa i tētahi whanaungatanga e tere rawa ana te haere?
Ki te mea kua mōhio koe kua tere rawa tō takahi i tēnei herenga, ā, kei te mataku kei hinga ngā mea katoa, kei konei mātou hei āwhina i a koe. He tokomaha te hunga ka tere rawa te piri, ka hohoro te uru ki tētahi whanaungatanga. Ahakoa ehara tēnā i te mea pai, tera ētahi huarahi hei whakaroa i te tere rawa o te haere o tētahi whanaungatanga.
1. Whakaritea nga rohe hauora
He huarahi hauora hei aukati i tētahi whanaungatanga ko te whakarārangi i raro i te ngā rohe nui mō te hononga kaha akeKaua e tino whakarerekē i ngā mea mā te tango i tō kī whare i a rātou, mā te kite rānei i a rātou kotahi noa i te wiki mai i te mea o mua i ia rā. Ka taea e koe te āta tohutohu atu ki tō hoa me pēhea te whakaroa i ngā mea:
- Whakaitihia te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero: Kaua e tuku karere kuputuhi, kaua hoki e waea atu ki a rātou i te roanga o te rā. Whakaroahia te tere, kia kaha ake te mahi, te kite rānei i ō hoa. Kia mau tonu te whakapā atu ki tō hoa, me te tirotiro i a rātou, engari whakaitihia te auau.
- Kia wehea ō hoa: Kaua e noho tahi me ngā hoa o tō hoa mō tētahi wā, kaua hoki e tono i tō hoa kia tūtaki ki ō hoa.
2. Ki te hiahia koe kia āta haere, kati te whakararuraru i ō hoa
Ka mutu te aro nui o tātou katoa ki ō tātou hoa ina uru tātou ki tētahi whanaungatanga. He whanaketanga tūturu tēnei, ā, ka puta i roto i ngā whanaungatanga katoa. Ko ngā kōrero pakiwaitara katoa i kōrerotia e koe ki tō hoa pai i mua ka kōrerotia inaianei ki tō hoa rangatira, nā te mea he maha ngā wā ka kite koe i a ia.
Ko tētahi wāhanga nui o te wehenga mai i tō hoa ko te whakawhanake i ō whanaungatanga kare ā-roto kē atu, mā te te whakapau wā me ō hoaIna rongo koe i te aroha me te whakamoemiti a ētahi atu i tō taha, ka tipu haere tō pūnaha tautoko. Pēnei, ka iti ake tō whakawhirinaki ki tō hoa, ā, kāore koe e hiahia ki te waiho i a ia hei mea katoa māu.
3. Kaua e whakarērea te wā whaiaro
Kei te mahara koe ki tō wā i pai ai koe ki te haere ki ngā kiriata ko koe anake? Me pēhea rānei koe i tūtaki ai ki tētahi hoa kotahi mō te kawhe i ia Rāhoroi? Mena kua rerekē katoa tēnā mai i tō tīmatanga ki te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata hou, kua tae ki te wā ki te whakahoki i aua tikanga ki te huarahi tika. Ko tētahi o ngā hua o te tere rawa o te neke i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ko te ngaro o tō mōhio ko wai koe. Engari ki te hiahia koe ki te whakaroa, me whakahoki anō koe i a koe anō ki tō āhua o mua:
- Mahihia ō mahi whakangahau: Haere ki te rēhita mō ngā akomanga peita i mutu i a koe te haere, mō te awheawhe uku rānei i mahue i a koe i te Rāhoroi kua taha ake nei nā te mea i kai parakuihi koe me tō hoa.
- Waihangahia he mahinga: Whakakorikori tinana, tuhi i tētahi puka tuhituhi, me te whakapau i te wā ki te taiao. Mahia ngā mea katoa hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakapai ake i tō tuakiri tūturu.
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4. Kaua e whakatau ohorere
Hei tā te kōrero, kua tono ia kia haere tahi koe me ia ki te marena o tōna tuahine hei rā. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakaaro kia noho tahi kōrua ko tō hoa rangatira i roto i tētahi rūma hōtēra mō ngā pō e rua, kātahi ka whakaae ki te tono. Whakaarohia ngā mea katoa. Kua rite rānei koe mō tēnei momo herenga? Kua rite rānei koe ki te noho hei hoa rangatira mā tētahi i te aroaro o te marea i tēnei wā o tō whanaungatanga?
I runga i ō wheako ki ngā hoa o mua me ō kare ā-roto i tēnei wā, aromatawaihia te rite, te kore rānei, o tōu rite ki te mahi i ētahi mea i roto i tō whanaungatanga. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te tūtaki ki ngā mātua nā te mea e whakaaro ana koe ka koa tō hoa. Kaua e whakamātauria; whakatauhia ngā whakatau i runga i tō ake taumata whakamarie.
5. Kōrero ki tō hoa mō te whakaroa i te whanaungatanga
Ko te huarahi anake hei whakatika i te raruraru o te tere rawa o te whanaungatanga ko te whai wāhi atu ki ngā kōrero pono me tō hoa. Kāore e taea e koe anake te whakatakoto i te tere, me te hiahia kia mārama hoki rātou ki te raruraru o tō whanaungatanga.
Me pēhea te kī atu ki tētahi kei te tere rawa te haere o te whanaungatanga? Nohoia rātou, ka kōrero atu ki a rātou kei te pōuri koe. Kaua tākarohia te kēmu whakapae ā, ka tīmata te tohu i ō maihao ki te tangata e peke ana i te pū.
- Whakaaturia māramatia ō āwangawanga: Whakaaturia ki a rātou tō aroha ki a rātou engari kei te āwangawanga koe kei pakaru noa iho tō hononga i te wā e hohoro ana koe ki te mahi i ngā mea.
- Whakaarohia ō rātou kare ā-roto: Ā, whakarongo hoki ki ō rātou whakaaro ina kōrero mai rātou i ō rātou kare ā-roto ki a koe. He mea noa iho kia pōuri rātou mō tētahi wā; me whakarite he wāhi mō tēnā.
- Hangaia he mahere mahi: Kimihia me pēhea te anga whakamua. Whakatakotoria he ture hou mō tō kōrua whanaungatanga.
6. Kia noho ki te ao o nāianei; kaua e aro nui ki te ao o āpōpō
Tuhinga nui te whakaroa i te whanaungatanga Kei te pārekareka koe ki ia wā, ki tōna āhua tūturu. Tirohia ngā kanohi o tō hoa rangatira, kia mōhio ki a rātou, kia kata tahi me rātou, ā, kia noho tahi me rātou nā te mea kei te pārekareka koe ki a rātou, kaua nā te mea kei te whakarite mahere mō te heke mai mō te wā roa me rātou. Kaua e kōrero mō ngā whare, mō ngā pēpi rānei, mō te āhua o ō tau tekau e whai ake nei hei tokorua. Me noho tahi noa, me te aro atu ki ngā mea i ia rā, i ia rā.
7. Me mahi ki te mārama ki ō ake kare ā-roto
I hohoro koe ki te uru atu ki tēnei whanaungatanga nā te mea he momo mamae kāore anō kia whakatauhia? Kei te mea kei te hiahia nui koe ki tēnei tangata nā tō momo piripono? Ko te whakaiti noa i te tuku karere ki a rātou, te haere rānei ki te whare takaro, kāore e tino āwhina i a koe ki te whakapai ake i tēnei whanaungatanga. He nui te mahi whaiaro me te whakaora e hiahiatia ana kia mārama ai koe he aha koe i pēnei ai i te tuatahi. He tokomaha o tātou e hiahia ana ki te aroha me te ngākau aroha, ā, nā reira ka whakanuia te tangata.
He mea nui kia mārama koe ki ngā take e tere ai tō piri ki te tangata. Nō reira, kia taurite tō oranga kia taea ai e koe te whakaatu i te aroha pono me te te whakapau kaha i roto i te whanaungatangaKāore he mea miharo ina tere rawa te haere o tētahi whanaungatanga, ka mutu te whanaungatanga i waenganui i te tokorua, ā, i taea rā e rāua te noho tahi. Nā te mea kua kitea e koe ngā take o te kaingākau, ko tāu noa he whakaroa i te haere o ngā mahi. Kei te mārama koe!
Tohutohu Matua
- Mena i roto i ētahi wiki o te whakaipoipo, kei te whakaatu koe i tō whanaungatanga ki te ipurangi, kei te hono atu rānei koe ki tō hoa, tera pea kei te tere rawa koe.
- Mena kei te whakatau tō hoa māu, ā, kei te whakatau tonu koe i ngā mea e tika ana mā rāua, tera pea kua hohoro te mahi.
- Whakaroahia tō whanaungatanga mā te noho tahi me tō hoa i tēnei wā, engari me whakarite hoki he wā mōu ake.
Mena ko tō hoa rangatira tētahi o ngā wāhine, tāne rānei e tere rawa ana te neke i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, noho tahi me rātou, ka kōrero ki a rātou i ō kare ā-roto. Tērā pea ka paku mamae rātou, engari me kōrero ki a rātou te nui o tō rātou hiranga ki a koe. Mā tēnā ka pai ake ai ō rātou wairua. I tētahi atu taha, ki te mea ko koe te tangata e tere rawa ana te neke, me whai wā koe ki te whakahaere i a koe anō. Tātarihia tō whanaungatanga, ka ngana ki te titiro ki te tirohanga whānui. Ko tā mātou e tino tumanako nei kia pai ngā mea katoa māu.
I whakahoutia tēnei tuhinga i te marama o Ākuhata 2023.
FAQs
Ka tere rawa te haere o te whanaungatanga ina tino piripono rawa koe ki te whanaungatanga i roto i te wā poto. Ka tere rawa te eke ki ngā taumata tiketike o te whanaungatanga, ā, kāore tetahi o kōrua e whai wāhi ki te mārama ki te hototahitanga o tetahi ki tetahi.
Ki te tere rawa te haere o tō kōrua whanaungatanga, me whakaroa te haere. Ko te huarahi pai ki te mahi i tēnei ko te whakaiti i te wā e noho tahi ana kōrua. Kaua e whakahē noa i tō hoa. Kōrerohia ō whakaaro, ā, whakatau tahitia tēnei.
Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
