I tēnei rā, kei roto tāua i tētahi kōrero whakamā, engari he whakamārama. He uaua pea te whakaoti, engari ki te oti, ka mihi mai koe ki ahau. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te tautuhi i ngā āhuatanga kino o tētahi e arohaina ana. Engari ko te whakaae ki te raruraru te taahiraa tuatahi ki te whakaoti. Kei konei ahau hei āwhina i a koe ki te tautuhi i ngā āhuatanga 13 o tētahi hoa tāne kino, me ngā taahiraa e 3 ka taea e koe te mahi hei whakatau i tēnā.
Nā te mea he uaua te kaupapa o ngā whanaungatanga hauora kore, ā, he uaua hoki ngā otinga, i whakapā atu ahau ki tētahi o ngā tino tohunga o te ao – Tākuta Aman Bhonsle (PhD). Kua whakawhiwhia e ia ōna whakaaro ki ētahi māramatanga me ngā kitenga whakakatakata mai i tana mahi hei kaiwhakaora hinengaro whanaungatanga.
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13 Ngā Āhuatanga o te Hoa Tāne Tino Paitini
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Puritia te waea mō te meneti kotahi. Kua noho te kupu 'paitini' hei kupu matua mō te kāinga. He whakaaro anō tō ia tangata mō te tikanga o te 'whanonga paitini'. He mea mōrearea tēnei whakaaro takitahi, nā te mea ka taea te kī he paitini ngā mea katoa i ēnei rā.
Koia te take he rerekē te whakautu ki te pātai 'He aha te mea e paitini ai te hoa o mua?' i ia tangata, i ia tangata. Hei kaupapa o tā tātou kōrero, kia mārama tātou ko te tikanga o te 'paitini' ko ngā whanonga, ngā mahi rānei ka pā kino ki te tinana, ki te hinengaro rānei o ētahi atu e karapoti ana i a tātou. Ki te pā kino mai te whanonga a tētahi ki a tātou, kei te whakaatu mai rātou i ngā āhuatanga paitini.
Ehara te tangata e pai ana ki te paināporo i runga i te pīta i te mea paitini, kia pono tātou. Engari tangata e tahu hau ana ā, e tino whakahaere ana i a tātou. Mā te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata e whakaatu ana i aua whanonga ka pā kino ki a tātou, ka pā kino hoki ki te whanaungatanga. Anei ngā tohu 13 o tētahi hoa tāne kino ka hoatu he tirohanga hou ki a koe mō tō hoa.
Kia tūpato ki ngā pōma pono ka tukuna atu e au. Me ruku hohonu ake tātou ki ngā āhuatanga kino o te hoa tāne kia taea ai e koe te whakautu tika i te pātai – "He hoa tāne kino ia?"
1. He tangata whakahāwea ira tangata ia, ā, e mōhio ana ia ki tēnā
Me kōrero atu anō ahau? E 'tuku' ana tō hoa tāne i a koe ki te mahi i ngā mea? E mōhio ana ia kāore koe e hiahia ki tana whakaaetanga? E aukati ana ia i ō kākahu me ō haerenga? He aha rā, e taku wahine, e whakamanawanui ana koe ki tēnei whakahāwea wahine?
Ko te hoa whakahāwea ira tangata he tikanga tonu tēnei mō te whanaungatanga kore taurite. Kāore i te taurite te mana nā te mea he tangata tika ia, ā, kāore e aro ki ngā wāhine. Me noho ōrite tonu te whanaungatanga i waenganui i te tokorua, ki te kore ka arahi pea ki te whanaungatanga kaha. te pakanga mana i roto i te whanaungatanga.
Kei te akiaki atu ahau ki a koe kia maumahara ko te whakahāwea ira tangata ehara i te mea ko ngā kōrero whakaiti anake, engari ko ngā kupu whakamihi whakahāwea pērā i te ""Kāore koe i rite ki ētahi atu wāhine" ranei ""He tino pai tō taraiwa mō tētahi wahine," or "He tino pai koe mō te wahine." He tauira katoa ēnei o te 'aroha aroha ki te ira tangata', ā, kaua e warewaretia noatia.
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2. Ka whakamoe ia i ō whakaaro – ngā āhuatanga kino o te hoa
He pai rawa te kī a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Ko te tangata tukino te tangata tino kino rawa atu. Kāore ia e tuku i a koe kia noho ko koe anake, ā, ka takahi i tōu pono."
Ko te hoa tāne kino e hiahia tonu ana kia whai i tana ake huarahi. He mea tauhou ki a ia te whakaae ki te hoa, ā, ko tētahi o ngā āhuatanga kino rawa atu tēnā o te hoa. Ki te hiahia koe ki te kai Hainamana hei tina, ā, e hiahia ana ia ki te pīta, me whakaaro koe – he pīta hei tina. Koinei te āhua o te nuinga o ngā whakataunga o tō whanaungatanga.
Koinei tonu te take me whakaaro koe te whakamutu i ngā whanaungatanga paitiniMe noho te whanaungatanga hei taurite hauora i waenga i ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e te tokorua. Ko te mōhio ki ngā hiahia me ngā whakaaro o tō hoa he āhuatanga nui o te whanaungatanga. Ko te paitini ko te akiaki i tō hiahia ki runga i tō hoa.
3. Ehara i a ia, engari ko te ao
Ko te āheinga ki te whakaae i ngā kawenga pea te āhuatanga tino iti rawa te aro o te tangata. E mōhio ana koe ki te mea e kitea ana e au he mea ātaahua i roto i te tāne? Tōna āheinga ki te whakaae ki ana hapa, nā te mea he te kounga o te whanaungatanga me whai kia mau tonu ai te whanaungatanga. Ko te tangata e whakapae ana i ngā mea katoa o waho, he tangata hauora kore ia, ā, he pono, he tangata tino uaua ki te noho tahi me ia.
Me kī atu kei te taraiwa kōrua ko tō hoa tāne. Ka takahi ia i te rama whero, ā, ka aukatia ia e ngā pirihimana. He mārama nōna te he i whiwhi ai ia i te tīkiti, engari ka tīmata ia ki te amuamu mō te koretake o te āhuatanga. I tahuri te rama i waenganui, ā, kua whiti kē ahau. He tauira mārama rawa tēnei o tōna kore e taea te kī noa, "āe, he kino." Me pātai pono ki a koe anō, e hiahia ana rānei koe ki te noho tahi me tētahi tangata pēnei?
Ka whakaatu te tangata pēnei i ana raruraru, kāore e whakaaroaro hohonu, ā, e kore rawa e kite i tō taha. Ki te kaha rawa te tangata ki te whakarite kia tika tonu ia, e kore rawa ia e noho hei tangata tika hei hoa. He ngāwari te ngaro i ēnei tohu tōmua o te whanaungatanga kino i te tīmatanga, i te wā rānei o te marena hou, engari ka arahi pea ki ngā raruraru whanaungatanga nui ā muri ake nei.
4. He aha te mahi a ngā hoa tāne kino? Ka whakawā rua rātou i a koe
Ko te tinihanga te mea kino rawa atu ka pā ki te hoa, nā te mea ka tinihangatia ia te tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga ka puta te kare ā-roto o te koretake. Ko te takaro ki ētahi atu wāhine, te tirotiro rānei i a rātou he whanonga kino anō hoki (me te kore e whakahua i te whakahāwea ira tangata).
"Ka kī tonu mai ia he harakore noa iho, ā, he 'whakangahau' noa iho tāna. He aha ia me whakangahau ai i a koe e kore ai e pā ki ō kare ā-roto me tō whakaute?" te kī a Tākuta Bhonsle, ā, ka pā anō ki te tohu!
Ki te mea kei te rapu huarahi koe mō ngā whanonga whakahāwea a tō hoa tāne, kia mārama koe kāore ia i te rite te aro ki a koe. Ki te mea kua whakatau kōrua kia noho motuhake ki tētahi hononga, he aha atu ngā kōrero hei whakawhitiwhiti? Kaua rawa koe e whakaae kia haere ia me tētahi atu. Mā ēnei āhuatanga kino o tētahi hoa tāne ka huripokitia tō ao.
Ki te mea ko ia anake te mea nui ki a ia, ā, ko ia anō hoki te mea nui ki a koe – e hine, ā, me pēhea koe?
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5. Kaitātari o te tau
Ko tētahi o ngā āhuatanga whānui o te hoa kino ko tana whakahē i a koe anake, engari ki tana whakaaro he mea tino nui tana whakahē. Me i waiho māna, ka tīmata ia i tētahi blog hei kōrero mō ō whakatau. Kia maumahara tātou ki ngā kōrero a Benjamin Disraeli, "E te māmā ake o te arohaehae i te tika. "
He rite tonu te ahua o te whakaipoipo i tētahi hoa kino ki te tirotiro i raro i te karuārai. Kāore e taea e koe te mahi i tetahi mea tika. Ahakoa te kaha o tō ngana, ka angitu rātou ki te kimi hapa. Kāore he take ki te kī, he taiao pōuri tēnei hei noho, ā, he he tohu whakatūpato mō tētahi whanaungatanga paitini.
Ā, ki te āta tirohia e koe, e kore tō hoa tāne e māia ki te whakaae ki ngā whakahe. He aha ngā mahi a ngā hoa tāne kino? Ka ārai tonu rātou i a rātou anō. He mea whakamere…he paitini, engari he mea whakamere.
Nā, me pēhea te whakatau i tētahi hoa tāne kino, ko ia te kaiwhakahē o te tau? Me tīmata koe ki te whakaaro ki te wehe i tētahi hoa tāne kino? Pānui tonu kia kitea ai ngā whakautu.
6. Kāore a Māmā i te pai ki a ia
E whakaaro ana ia tangata ko ia te tangata e mōhio ana ki a ia anō. Ahakoa koe, me tō whanaungatanga kino, e whakapono ana koe e mōhio ana koe ki tāu e mahi nei. Nā te mea, me pēhea e mōhio ai tētahi atu he aha te mea pai mō tātou?
Āe, kāore te tīma o ngā tohunga hinengaro i Te Whare Wānanga o Washington i whakaae. ako kua whakakitea mai e te ao whānui he mōhio ake te hunga e karapoti ana i a tātou ki ō tātou tauira whanonga me ngā au. He arotakenga pono tā rātou mō tātou – kāore he hapa o aua tirohanga!
Nō reira, ki te mea kei te ruarua tonu tō whānau me ō hoa mō tō hoa tāne, ki te mea kei te kī tonu mai tō hoa pai me tō māmā kia 'whakaarohia ngā mea katoa,' tera pea he mea hei āwangawanga māu. He maha ngā wā ka kite te hunga e hiahia ana ki te manaaki i a koe i ngā tohu o te hoa tāne kino i mua i a koe.
He pai ake te kite a tō māmā i ngā āhuatanga kino o tētahi hoa tāne i a koe, nō reira, ki te mea he kare ā-roto kino ōna mō tēnei, kaua e whakakorea.
7. He wera ia, he makariri hoki – he āhuatanga paitini i roto i te hoa tāne
E mea ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Ehara te ora i te waiata a Katy Perry" ā, e tino whakaae ana ahau ki a ia. Ko te pumau o ngā whanonga he tohu mō te tangata hauora. Ka rerekē te tangata kino i waenga i te aroha, kātahi ka wehe atu.
Tērā pea ka tangohia e tō hoa tāne te aroha hei 'whiu'. Tērā pea ka 'utu' ia i a koe ki te aroha. Tērā pea ka hoatu e ia ki a koe maimoatanga puku i ētahi wā hei whakaako i a koe i tētahi akoranga. Ko te raruraru o tēnei tikanga ko tana hiahia kia meinga koe kia mahi i tāna e hiahia ana. Ka utua e ia te mea e pai ana ki a IA.
He whero ake tēnei haki i te aporo o Snow White. Me pātai anō koe 'he hoa tāne kino ia'?
"Ko te hoa pai he tangata e tautoko ana i a koe ahakoa kāore ia e mārama ki tōu āhua." Whakarongo ki a Tākuta Bhonsle, he nui ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua tūtaki ia ki te kite i tētahi āhuatanga kino.
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8. He aha te mahi a ngā hoa tāne kino? Ka tukino rātou i a koe
Nō reira, kei te takaro tō hoa tāne i ngā kēmu hinengaro, kei te whakahaere i a koe i raro i te kākahu o te kī he 'aroha'. Ka whakamahia e ia tōna mana whakahaere mā te kaha, ā, kei te huna koe i ngā maru. He hoa tāne kino ia? ĀE, koia ia.
Ka pā te tukino ki te hinengaro, ki te tinana rānei, ā, he pānga roa ki ngā āhua e rua. Ka whakaitihia e te hoa tukino tō roanga o te ora mā te nui o te ahotea e puta mai ana i roto i a koe. Ahakoa te pai o te taatai, kāore rawa taua momo ahotea e whai hua.
I te taha o taku hoa piri, a Molly, i tētahi tāne i whakamahi i ngā nekehanga tinana ngawari hei 'tohu i tōna mana'. Ka hopukia e ia tōna ringa kia tino kaha rawa, ka pēhi i tōna pakihiwi, ka tū rānei ki runga ake i a ia. Kāore e kitea ngā mea pēnei, engari kia aro ki tōna kaha me tōna auau. Kei te hanga tō hoa tāne kino i tō ao kia reinga.
9. He tangata whakahihi ia (e whakahaere ana) i a koe
Kei te whakaaro koe i ētahi wā kei te whakaipoipo koe i tētahi poari tirotiro? Koinei tētahi o ngā tohu matua o tētahi mate kino hoa tāne e tino tiaki anaKo te hoa e aroturuki ana i ngā mea katoa e kōrero ana koe, e mahi ana rānei, kāore e pai ki a koe tō āhua tūturu. Nā tēnei ka waiho hei tētahi o ngā āhuatanga kino rawa atu o te hoa.
Ki te kore ia e whakaae ki a koe mō tō āhua, ka ngana ia ki te hanga i a koe kia rite ki tāna e pai ai. Engari kāore e taea e tāua te whakarite i tā tāua hoa pai ake – ehara tēnā i te huarahi tika. Nō reira, me whai akoranga pea tō hoa tāne mō te tuakiri.
Tirohia te whanaungatanga pērā i te tūtohi Venn. Ko ngā porowhita takitahi e rua ko koe me tō hoa. Ko te wāhi e tūtaki ai rāua ko tō whanaungatanga. Kei te takahia tō porowhita takitahi? He kai e waru ngā wāhanga hei whakaaroaro.
10. Kāore he mutunga o te tatari
Ko tētahi tohu matarohia o tētahi hoa tāne kino, ko tō tumanako tonu ka pai ake ia. He wā anō, whakaaro koe. Kotahi marama, neke atu rānei, ā, ka ea i a ia. Ka tohutohu atu ahau ki a koe kia rite ki ngā kupu a Elizabeth Gilbert: "Me kati te mau i tō iwi hiahia ki te wāhi e tika ana kia noho tō iwi tuarā."
Kaua e pohehe, he pai ki ahau te tumanako. Engari kei reira anō te mea e kiia nei ko te 'manaaki koretake,' ā, he mahi wairangi noa iho tēnā. He maha ngā whai wāhitanga kua hoatu e koe ki a ia kia tutuki ai āna kupu whakaari. Nā te mea kua hinga koe. hohonu te aroha, ehara i te mea me ngaro katoa tō whakaaro whaitake.
Whakakāhoretia atu aua tumanako teka, ā, tirotirohia mēnā kua tino ahu whakamua ia. He poto te ora, kaua e whakawhirinaki ō tumanako ki tētahi kāore e hiahia kia pai ake te noho hei tangata.
Ka tāpiri atu a Tākuta Bhonsle, "E ai ki aku wheako, he onge te puta o ngā panonitanga nui. Kāore koe e ara ake i tētahi rā ka whakatau ka huri koe. He kōwhiringa mohio tā tātou e hanga ana i te panoni. Mena kāore anō kia whakatauhia te kōwhiringa, he aha ngā tūponotanga ka mahia ā muri ake nei?"
11. Te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero kino – ngā tohu tōmua o tētahi whanaungatanga kino
Ki taku whakaaro he nui ngā tuhinga kei te ipurangi e kōrero ana mō te hiranga o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i roto i te whanaungatanga, nō reira kāore au e whakahua anō i aua tuhinga. Engari māku e kōrero ki a koe he aha ngā tauira whakawhitiwhiti kōrero kino.
He aha ngā mahi a ngā hoa tāne kino ina tae ki te wā whakawhitiwhiti kōrero? Anei. Ko te kore e pai ki te kōrero uaua, te karo i ngā kaupapa hohonu, i ngā kaupapa whai kiko rānei (he aha te heke mai, te āhua o te whanaungatanga, te anga atu rānei, me ētahi atu), te whakanui i te reo i te wā tautohetohe, te piko ki te whakaeke whaiaro, te pupuri i te mauahara mō ngā wā roa, te pukuriri noa iho rānei, he tohu katoa ēnei o tētahi hoa tāne kino.
Ko kōrua anake kāore e taea te mutu te whawhaiHe raruraru tēnei ka taea te whakatika mā te tohutohu whanaungatanga. Mēnā kei te hiahia tō hoa tāne ki te mahi pēnā, ā, ki te mea kei a ia ētahi o aua āhuatanga kino o te hoa, kāti, e tino ruarua ana ahau…
12. Kei te mahi tonu koe i ngā mahi taumaha
Kāore he whanaungatanga e ora tonu ana i runga i te kaha o te hoa kotahi. Kāore e taea. Ki te whakaaro koe kua roa koe e ngana ana ki te whakatutuki i ngā mea katoa, me te kore he utu mai i te taha o tō hoa tāne, kei roto tō korua whanaungatanga i te onepū tere.
He aha te mea e kino ai te hoa o mua, he aha rānei ngā tohu tōmua o tētahi whanaungatanga kino? Ngā mahi taha-kotahi. Kāore e taea e ngā mahi taha-kotahi te whakatutuki i tēnei. Tērā pea ka ngaro koe i a koe anō i a koe e ngana ana ki te whakaora i tō whanaungatanga. Aue, ka kino te ao i ngā hoa tāne kino. Koinei tonu te take me whakaaro koe ki te whakamutu i ngā whanaungatanga kino.
Ko te wareware i te hononga e hono ana kōrua, me te kore e mahi i te mahi e tika ana, he tohu tēnei o te kore aro, he kino atu rānei, te kore whai whakaaro. He hoa tāne kino ia? Ki taku whakaaro. He whakaaro pai te whakamutu i tēnei whanaungatanga kino? 10/10 āe.
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13. Ko te 'T' mō ngā take whakawhirinaki tētahi o ngā āhuatanga kino maha o te hoa tāne
Ko te āhuatanga tino kino ko tōna kore e whakawhirinaki ki a koe. He tangata pōuri, he hae hoki ia i ngā wā katoa. Tukua ahau kia kōrero i tētahi kupu tawhito ki a koe – ko te whakawhirinaki te tūāpapa o ngā whanaungatanga katoa.
Heoi anō, kāore e taea e ia te tino pono ki a koe mōna ake. Kāore ia e whakaatu i tōna taha ngoikore ki a koe, ā, nō reira, kāore i te hohonu tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Kia angitu ai te whanaungatanga, me mōhio kōrua ki ngā ngoikoretanga me ngā kaha o tētahi ki tētahi. Mēnā kei te pā tēnei momo hihiri, ka uaua ki a kōrua te whakawhirinaki ki a ia, me te whakawhanake hoki. take whakawhirinaki nau ake!
I kite ahau i tēnei kōrero whakahirahira nā Ashley Lorenzana i te wiki kua taha ake nei: "Ko te huarahi māmā ki te whiwhi whakawhirinakitanga mai i tētahi ko te whiwhi i taua whakawhirinakitanga. Me tino māmā noa iho tēnei, ki te whakaaro koe kei te noho koe hei tangata pono, ā, he pono hoki. He iti noa iho te kaha."
E hia o ēnei tohu o te hoa tāne kino i tirohia e koe? Ki taku whakaaro ka taea e au te matapae i tō pātai e whai ake nei - me pēhea te whakatau i tētahi hoa tāne kino? Kei a māua ko Tākuta Bhonsle ngā whakautu e hiahiatia ana e koe. Me haere tonu tātou ki ngā kaupae e toru ka taea e koe te mahi ina kei roto koe i te pīkari hoa tāne kino.
3 Ngā Hipanga Ka Taea e Koe te Mahi Mena He Hoa Tāne Paitini Tāu
Ehara i te mea uaua te kimi huarahi hei whakatau i ngā āhuatanga kino o tētahi hoa tāne. He uaua, engari he māmā noa iho. Kua wehea e Tākuta Bhonsle kia toru ngā taahiraa ka taea e koe te mahi. Ahakoa kei te whakaaro koe ki te wehe i tētahi hoa tāne kino, he mea nui kia mārama koe ki ēnei taahiraa.
1. Te Aromatawai Whaiaro
Hei te haere tonu ki te kaupapa, e kī ana a Tākuta Bhonsle ko te taahiraa tuatahi ko te whakaaroaro. "Me pātai koe ki ō ake paerewa (me ō rātou korenga rānei) ina kitea koe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga kino. He maha ngā wā ka aro atu koe ki ēnei momo tāne? He rite tonu te kōrero ki tēnei?"
I a ia e whakamārama ana i ngā whanonga e hokihoki ana tātou katoa ki roto, ka kōrero ia mō ngā 'kaupapa' e puta tonu ana i roto i ō tātou ao. "Kei te puta tonu ētahi kaupapa? Ngā kaupapa kare ā-roto, ngā kaupapa whanaungatanga, ngā kaupapa e pā ana ki te mahi? Ka taea e koe te kite i a rātou e tupu ana? Ā, ki te taea e koe, he aha koe e kore ai e pātai ki a koe anō he aha te take. HE AHA ahau ka ngāwari ki ēnei kaupapa? HE AHA ahau ka kukume (ā, ka kukume ahau ki) tētahi momo tāne?"
Me whai wā okioki koe, me noho tahi me koe anō. Arotakehia mēnā he iti tō whakaaro ki a koe anō, mēnā kei te rapu whakamanahia koe e te tangata. He aha koe i pai ai ki te noho hei whāriki tatau? Kei a koe ētahi whakaaro ngā whanonga whakakino i a koe anō· Me mahi ki te hanga anō i tō whakaaro ki a koe anō me tō mana i mua i te manukanuka ki ngā mea e kōrerohia ana, e mahia ana rānei e ngā hoa kino.
2. Rapua he awhina
I muri i tā kōrua kōrero ki a koe anō, whakatauhia mēnā me rapu āwhina ngaio koe. Me whai wā koe ki te ako me te pupuri i a koe anō kia pakari ake ai tō whakaaro. Me whakarerekē koe i ngā mea kua akohia, me ako anō.
"Mā te whakaora koe e āwhina kia mārama ake. Ka taea e koe te kite māu ake he aha te mea e aukati ana i a koe. Ko te tauira kua kitea, he hauwhā tauira kua whakatauhia." E whakamārama ana hoki a Tākuta Bhonsle me pēhea te whakatau i ngā raruraru whanaungatanga me te hoa kino ina tīmata tātou ki te mahi ki a tātou anō. He nanakia te ao, ā, kāore te iwi e whai whakaaro. He tino pōuri te whakaaro pērā i a rātou, engari koinei te āhua. Me tū koe mōu ake nā te mea kāore he tangata kē atu e mahi."
Ka taea hoki e koe te haere ki roto mō tohutohu hononga me tō hoa tāne hei whakaora i tētahi whanaungatanga kino, engari ka puta mai tēnā i muri i tō whakatau mēnā kei te pirangi tonu koe ki te haere tonu me ia. Kei te pirangi koe ki te whakarērea tō hoa tāne kino? Mā tēnei tātou e ārahi ki tā tātou mahi e whai ake nei – te aromatawai mōrearea.
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3. Aromatawai mōrearea
Ko te mea whakamutunga hei mahi ko te aromatawai mēnā he pai te wā me te kaha o tō whanaungatanga. E kī ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Ka utua e tātou ngā mea katoa i te wā. Koinei te moni tino utu nui o te ao. Whakatauhia mēnā he tika te whanaungatanga, me tō hoa tāne hoki, kia whiwhi i tēnei moni āu."
Kei te kī koe kei te whakararuraru te hoa tāne kino i te ao, engari kei te piri tonu ki a ia. He aha te mea ka ngaro i a koe mēnā ka mau tonu tēnei whanaungatanga? He nui rawa te mōrearea? Ki te mea ko te whakautu he āe, whakarērea tō hoa kino, ā, ko koe te mea nui. "Kia tupato ki te whanaungatanga. Engari kia tupato hoki ki a koe anō." Mēnā he kōwhiringa whakaaro nui te whakamutu i tētahi whanaungatanga kino (ahakoa he mea mamae), kaua tātou e mangere ki te mahi.
Ko te pūtake o tēnei ko te pātai, mehemea kei te kite koe i tētahi heke mai harikoa, hauora hoki me rātou. He pai te noho tahi mō te wā roa? Kei te hiahia koe ki te whakarērea te hoa tāne kino?
He maha ngā pātai ka taea e koe anake te whakautu.
Kei te whakaaro ahau he nui ngā mea kei roto i tō hinengaro i muri i te pānui i tēnei i a koe e ngana ana ki te whakaaro ki ngā tohu tōmua o te whanaungatanga kino i roto i tō hoa. Hangaia he kapu kawhe māu, kia rua rānei, ka whai wā whakaaroaro pai. E whakapono ana ahau ka whakatau pai koe, ā, kua rite koe ki ngā mōhiohio katoa e hiahiatia ana e koe! Ā, ki te mea kei te pōhēhē tonu koe, kei a mātou tō tuara. He rōpū kaitohutohu pūkenga a Bonobology, he iti noa iho te hunga e mahi ana i tēnei. pawhiri atu ā, ka taea e ia te āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i ō āwangawanga katoa. Ngā mihi nui ki a koe – poroporoaki!
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Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
