Te Wāhi Hurihanga: I whakatau ahau i te waranga tarukino a taku tāne mā te aroha noa ki a ia

E waru tau ahau e marena ana. He mahi pumau tā māua tokorua. I harikoa māua tahi. I whakamahere māua i tō māua whānau i muri i ngā tau e toru o tō māua marena, kātahi ka tahuri taku aro ki tētahi atu mea...te whanonga a Shiv. He tino marino ia i te kāinga. I hoki mai ia ki te kāinga, ka noho ko ia anake. Engari kāore ia i te riri, i te pukuriri rānei, he kore noa iho ia e aro. Kāore rawa ia i te pai ki te kai. Ahakoa i whakamahere māua i te pēpi, kāore ia i te hiahia ki te moepuku. E whā tau ki muri i te marena, ka mōhio ahau he tangata whakamahi tarukino ia. Kāore au i te mōhio ki te whakamahi tarukino, kāore anō hoki au i tūtaki ki tētahi tangata whakamahi tarukino. Nō reira, i te wā i tupu ai tēnei mea i roto i tōku kāinga, kāore he huarahi hei tautuhi i a ia, hei whakatau hoki i te whakamahi tarukino a taku tāne.

He ohorere kino ki ahau te waranga o taku tāne ki ngā raau taero

I whakaaro ahau kua kore ia e aroha, kāore rānei ia i te hiahia ki te moepuku. I tino ohorere ahau i tēnei waranga. I pōhēhē ahau kua tinihangatia, kua takahia hoki. Ki ahau nei, he wāhanga noa iho ngā waranga nō ngā kiriata Hindi, ā, ināianei kua tae mai ki taku tatau. Ehara i te moemoeā engari he mea tūturu hei aro atu. I tino mōhio ahau ehara te waranga i te mea i muri i te marena.

I te wehi kei whakakitea taku tāne, kāore au i kōrero ki tētahi i te tīmatanga. I tētahi wā i whakaaro ahau ka whakapaetia ahau mō te āhuatanga nā te mea i te nuinga o te wā ko te wahine te hunga e whakapaetia ana mō ēnei take.

I te kitenga o tana tari kāore ia i te tino whai hua, ka panaia ia e au i te mahi, ka whakautua e au te waea.

I tīmata tana waranga ki ngā raau taero i mua i te marena

I kī mai ia kua mutu tana mahi kia whiwhi ai i tētahi tuku pai ake. Engari kātahi ka waea mai tana hoa a Manav ki ahau, ā, ka pakaru te mirumiru mōku. He tangata whakamahi tarukino a Shiv i mua i tana marena . Kāore ōna mātua i te mōhio. I tīmata tēnei hei mea ngahau i te kāreti. I mutu tana mahi i ngā raau taero i muri i tana tīmatanga ki tētahi mahi, i a Shiv e kore e taea te mutu.

I whakaaro ahau nō hea ahau i tau ai, i noho ai i te teka e kīia nei ko te tarukino i roto i tōku ao mō ngā tau e whā. Kāore au e pai ki te teka, ā, i hangaia taku marena i runga i tētahi. I pakaru ahau.

Kāore i taea te muru i te teka

I hiahia ahau ki te whakarērea te marena, ka neke atu ko au anake? I hiahia ahau ki te noho tonu i roto i te marena, ki te whakatika i ngā mea? I pātai atu ahau ki a ia he aha ia i teka ai ki ahau, ā, ko te mea anake i riro mai i ahau ko te wahangu mō tētahi whakautu. Nō reira, kua mārama ahau ko au anake te tangata i roto i te marena, ā, koinei anake taku pakanga. I noho ahau ki te whare engari i neke atu ki te rūma manuhiri.

He tāne aroha ia

I waimarie a Shiv ki te whiwhi mahi hou. I tētahi pō, i a au e takoto ara ana, ka paunatia e au ngā painga me ngā huakore o tā māua marena. He tāne aroha nui a Shiv . Kāore ia i rahua i roto i tētahi āhuatanga o tā māua marena, engari ko te waranga tarukino. I te matenga o tōku tuakana i tētahi aituā, ko ia te tangata i tautoko i tōku whānau katoa. E aroha ana ahau ki a ia, ā, koia te take i noho tonu ai ahau ki te kāinga. I te ata i muri mai ka ara ake ahau me tētahi whakatau i roto i tōku hinengaro.

I hiahia ahau ki te āwhina i a ia kia puta i te waranga. I whakatau ahau ki te hoatu i tētahi whai wāhitanga ki a ia.

I tīmata ahau i te tukanga whakakore waranga

E rua atu ngā rā i pau i ahau ki te kōrero ki a ia i aku whakaaro. I whakarongo ia ki ahau, ka tahuri, ka moe. I whakaarahia anō e ahau te kaupapa.

Ko tana wahangu tōna hinganga, ā, i mōhio ahau ki tēnā. I tangohia e au te āwhina a Manav, ā, ka tīmata ahau me ngā tikanga whakakore waranga mō Shiv. He tino mahi tahi a Shiv, he manaaki hoki. He nui tana uaua. He mamae te kite i a ia e uaua ana.

E ono marama ahau i whai tonu ai i te maimoatanga. Nā te mahi me te tiaki i a Shiv i pāngia ai tōku manawanui. I tino mōhio te tākuta kei te āwhinahia a Shiv e tetahi e tata ana ki te tiki i te horopeta māna. I taku kitenga kei te tinihanga ia mā te tiki i tana rongoā, he mea tino mōhio te tākuta ka tupu; kāore au i kaha ki te manawanui atu.

I kaha ahau ki te pupuri i tōku hinengaro

I pōuri ahau, kāore he tangata hei āwhina i ahau me tōku āhuatanga. I pupuri tonu ahau i te mahi me tōku hinengaro pai. I mutu tā mātou maimoatanga a Shiv i a au e tango rongoā ana. Kāore tōna whānau i haere mai ki te āwhina nā te mea i whakapae rātou i ahau mō te waranga. Ko Manav anake i haere mai hei tautoko.

I te mokemoke ahau, he pakanga takitahi tēnei, ā, i kite ōku mātua i ahau e mamae ana, engari kāore rāua i tuku āwhina mai. I karohia ia e te katoa me te mea he mate whakamataku tōna.

I roto i tēnei mahi, i whara anō hoki ahau. I wehi ngā hoa noho tata kei whakapōrearea a Shiv i ā rātou tamariki, ā, i kōrerotia tēnei mea i roto i te hui a te rōpū whare noho . I tino pōuri ahau.

I te mutunga ka mārama ia ki taku e pā nei

I puta he mea whakamiharo i muri i ngā marama e toru. Ko Shiv te pūtake o tōku kare ā-roto. I kite ahau i te pono o tōna aroha ki ahau. I mārama ia ki tōku ahotea, ā, i āwhina i ahau ki te whakatau i tōku āhuatanga, engari kāore i taea e ia te āwhina i a ia anō. Kāore ia i whakaae, kāore hoki i oati mō te pai ake o tōna āhua. I pai ia ki te āwhina i ahau engari kāore i a ia anō . I kite ahau he hohonu ake te pūtake o te raruraru i te waranga.

I whakarerekē ahau i aku tikanga

Ka mutu taku whakapae i a ia, ka mutu taku tuku tohutohu i a ia, ā, ka anga atu ahau ki te mārama he aha te mea e whakararuraru ana i a ia.

I roto i tā māua kōrero, ka mōhio ahau i pāngia ia e te raruraru tuakiri i a ia e tipu ake ana. I pāngia ia e te iti o te whakaute ki a ia anō nā te mea i whakakahoretia ia e ōna mātua.

I mea ia, nā te mea ko tōna tuakana te tuakana, i arohia tonutia ia e ōna mātua, ā, i arohaina hoki ia e ia. Nō reira, ka uru ia ki ngā raau taero hei rapu i te harikoa me te aroha mōna ake.

I hurihia e ia tētahi rau hou

Ko tāna i hiahia ai ko te whakaae me te aroha.

I taku kōrero ki taku tākuta hinengaro, i kī mai ia ko te huarahi pai rawa atu mā Shiv ki te āwhina i a ia anō ko te whai tikanga i te ao, me te aha ka puta ina rongo ia i te aroha me te hiahia. I hiahia ahau ki te mahi i tēnā māna.

I a au e arotahi ana ki a ia, ka kite ahau i te putanga mai o tētahi Shiv hou, he tangata mārama hoki. Kua taea e au te whakatau i te waranga tarukino a taku tāne.

Mai i te āwhina ki te tautoko kare ā-roto

I neke atu ahau i te āwhina ki te tautoko kare ā-roto . I tōna mōhiotanga kua mārama ia, ā, kua tautokona ia, ka tīmata ia ki te whakautu mai ki ahau me te pai ake. Ka tīmata ia ki te kōrero mō te heke mai, me te hiahia ki te tīmata whānau.

I taku kitenga i ngā tohu i roto i a ia, ka tīmata ahau ki te pai ake. Kātahi ia ka tīmata ki te whakamutu i te waranga, ā, ka whakaorangia ia.

I haere ahau i roto i aku wāhanga

I roto i ngā tau e toru, i pāngia ahau e ngā kare ā-roto maha. I taku kitenga i te waranga tarukino a taku tāne, i tino pakaru ahau. Kātahi ka whakatau ahau ki te āwhina i taku marena, engari i roto i taua tukanga, ka uru ahau ki te pouri . I a au e āwhina ana i te hoa rangatira ki te whakahaere i te waranga, he tino ngawari te taka ki te mate pouri. I taku taenga ki te pūtake o te raruraru, ka taea e au te āwhina i a Shiv.

Ka taea ngā mea katoa me te aroha

Ko te aroha ki te tangata te pūtake o te katoa. I taku aroha mutunga kore, i hiahia ia ki te ora me te whai i tētahi oranga whānau noa. He uaua engari ka taea te mahi.

I ētahi wā ka hiahia koe ki te whakapae i a koe anō, pērā i te ao katoa e whakapae nei i a koe; engari me haere tonu tātou kia noho noa rā anō ngā mea katoa.

Ahakoa i nāianei, ehara i te mea ngāwari ki ahau, nā te mea kei te mau tonu tōku wehi kei hoki anō ia ki te waranga i ngā wā katoa o te ao. Kei te ora tonu ahau i taua wehi i ia rā, i ia rā.

(E ai ki ngā kōrero ki a Jaseena Backer)

Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.