I ētahi wā, ka arai tātou i te hanga i tō tātou ake harikoa ake ake. Koinei te āhua e tautuhia ana e ngā tohunga hinengaro he whakakino i a koe anō i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Ka taea tēnei te tautuhi hei pūkenga hei wawahi i tō whanaungatanga, ahakoa i roto i te hinengaro, i te hinengaro rānei. Mō te tini o te tangata, he tino āhuatanga tūturu te whanonga whakakino i a koe anō, ā, kāore e taea e rātou te kite i ngā tauira raruraru.
Kāore he wāhi hei whakatika i te ara, ā, ka whakangaro pōhewatia te whanaungatanga. Hei aukati i ngā whanaungatanga e whakangaro ana i a koe anō, me ako koe ki te tautuhi i ngā tohu me ngā take mō tēnei whanonga. Ko reira anake ka taea e koe te wawahi i te huringa, ka hoatu he whai wāhitanga tūturu ki a koe anō ki te hanga hononga aroha whai tikanga.
Ka kōrero mātou ki te tohunga hinengaro Jayant Sundaresan (Tohu Paerua i roto i te Hinengaro Āwhina), he tohunga ki te tuku tohutohu mō ngā momo take whanaungatanga pēnei i te pakaru o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, te whakahaere i ngā tumanakohanga, te puremu, te wehenga me te whakarere, kia mārama ake ai koe ki te take e takahi ai te tangata i ā rātou whanaungatanga. Ka tukuna e ia ngā māramatanga mō ngā take o te whanonga, me aha te tangata ina mōhio rātou ki ā rātou tauira, me pēhea te āwhina a tēnei mōhiotanga i a koe kia tipu.
He aha tātou ka whakangaro ai i ngā whanaungatanga aroha i a tātou anō?
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He maha ngā wā ka puta te tukino i a koe anō hei āhuatanga e whakangaro ana i ngā whanaungatanga, ā, he rerekē ngā take i ia tangata, i ia tangata. E kī ana a Jayant, "Kāore te tukino i te mea nui rawa atu pērā i te tango tarukino, engari me noho noa iho. Ko te karo i tētahi mea me te whakaroa he momo tukino i a koe anō. Ka tata atu koe ki te whāinga, ka nui ake tō hiahia ki te oma atu i taua mea. Nā te mea kei mua i a koe te wāhanga e whai ake nei o te ao, ā, kāore e taea e koe te whakahaere i tēnā. Ko te karo i te wāhanga e whai ake nei o tētahi whanaungatanga, o tō ao rānei, ka arahi ki te manukanuka me te tukino i a koe anō i ngā whanaungatanga."
E whakamārama ana hoki a Meghna Prabhu, he kaiwhakaora hinengaro, he mema hoki nō te APA, he aha tātou ka whakangaro i ngā whanaungatanga aroha i a tātou anō, "Ahakoa he rerekē ngā take e whakangaro ai i a tātou anō, kotahi te mea e puta ai - ehara i te whakatuwhera i ō tātou kare ā-roto, engari ko te hanga i tētahi whanaungatanga piripono."
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E ai ki a Meghna, ko te nuinga o tēnei āhuatanga ka puta nā te mea e mataku ana tātou kei kore e angitu te whanaungatanga. Tērā pea ka mahi tātou i ngā mea pēnei i te kimi take hei wehe i te whanaungatanga, te tautohetohe mō ngā mea kāore e arohia e tātou i te nuinga o te wā, me te aro nui ki ō tātou ake oranga, kaua ki te whanaungatanga.
Ko te take matua mō ēnei mea katoa ko te wehi kei kore te whanaungatanga e roa. Nō reira, kāore tātou e hiahia ki te haumi, ki te whakatuwhera rānei i te whanaungatanga, ā, tera pea ka wehe atu tātou i mua i te wehenga atu o te tangata kē. He huarahi tēnei hei pupuri i te mana whakahaere, hei whakapono rānei kei a tātou te mana whakahaere. Ka tāpiri atu a Jayant ki tēnei, "He tokomaha o ēnei tāngata e whakaaro ana ko au te tangata whakarērea, kaua ko te tangata whakarērea. Anō, he mea hei pupuri i te mana whakahaere." Ka ngana ētahi ki te whakahaere i ō rātou hoa kia whiwhi ai i tētahi hua, i tētahi tauhohenga rānei.
Haunga, a hoa mahi he iti te whakaaro ki a ia anō he nui ake te tūponotanga ka whakangaro i a ia anō i tētahi whanaungatanga. Ko te whakaaro kāore koe i te pai, kāore rānei e tika kia arohaina, ka waiho hei take mō ēnei āhuatanga. E kī ana a Jayant, "Ko te hunga he iti te whakaaro ki a rātou anō ka whawhai ki te whakaaro kāore rātou i te tika mō te aroha o tētahi. Ka whakaaro rātou, "Ka mōhio taku hoa he tangata tinihanga ahau. Ka whakaaro rātou kāore au i te tika, kāore au i te tino pai"."
Ko ngā mataku e arahi ana ki ngā whanaungatanga aroha e whakangaro ana i a rātou anō, ka puta mai i ngā whanaungatanga o mua i rahua. Ka mahi anō hoki ētahi i ēnei mea nā te mea he whakamataku te noho ngoikore, nō reira ka mutu ka whakangaro i tētahi whanaungatanga. Engari ko te noho ngoikore me te piripono ki ō tātou hoa he mea nui kia pai ai te whanaungatanga. Ka kite koe, ko te take o te wehi kei pakaru ō tātou ngākau. He tikanga taketake tēnei a te tangata ki te karo i te mamae.
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Ngā Tohu o te Whanoke Whakangaromanga i a Koe Anō
E kōrero ana a Jayant mō te āhua o te whakakino a te tangata i ō rātou whanaungatanga. "Ka whiriwhiri koe i tētahi tangata kāore e pai mōu, kāore rānei i te hototahi ki a koe nā te mea kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakapau kaha, ki te noho tahi rānei. Waihoki, ko tētahi atu huarahi ki te whakakino i a koe anō ko te hokihoki tonu ki ngā mauahara i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. He rārangi roa tōu o ngā mea i hē, i ngā mea kei te hē tonu rānei. Ka tohu atu anō koe i ngā mea kāore e taea te whakatika, pērā i te teitei o tō hoa, ngā mea rānei mōna, mō tōna whānau rānei i mōhiotia e koe mai i te tīmatanga."
"Ko te wehi kei neke atu i tētahi wāhanga o te ao ki tētahi wāhanga e whai ake nei ka whakararuraru hoki i ngā whanaungatanga. Kei reira anō te wehi kei koroheketia, te wehi kei kawenga – inā koa ko ngā kare ā-roto, ngā kare ā-roto rānei." kawenga putea – me te wehi mēnā ka noho hei mātua pai, kāore rānei. Tērā pea he raruraru whakawhirinaki ki te hoa rangatira.
"Mēnā kua tinihangatia koe i mua, ka whakaaro koe ka tinihangatia hoki koe e tēnei hoa. Nō reira, ka mau tonu tō whakapono ki te whanaungatanga. Ka noho hei poropititanga whai hua. Ā, kei reira ētahi tāngata e mataku ana kei ngaro tō rātou tuakiri. Ko ētahi kāore e hiahia kia whai kawenga ki tētahi, e hiahia ana rātou ki te noho i ō rātou ake oranga, kaua ki te whakatutuki i ngā hiahia o tētahi."
He tino noa tēnei whanonga, ā, he tokomaha te hunga e haere tonu ana ki te whakangaro i a rātou anō i roto i ngā whanaungatanga aroha, me te kore e mōhio kei roto i a rātou te raruraru. Mena he maha ngā whanaungatanga i rahua i mua, he pai ki te whakaaroaro mēnā nā tēnei āhua huna. Anei ngā tohu o te whanonga whakangaro i a koe anō hei tirotiro māu:
- Te karo i ngā kare ā-roto kino: He tohu nui te kore e aro atu ki te riri, te mauahara, te ruarua, te pouri rānei ki tō hoa rangatira, ki tō whanaungatanga rānei.
- Paranoia: Te mataku kei te hē te mahi a tō hoa, kāore he pūtake, he taunakitanga rānei. Hei tauira, ko te tangata he āhua whakararuraru i a ia anō, ka whakapono pea kei te tinihanga tana hoa ahakoa kāore he taunakitanga, he tohu rānei hei whakaatu i tēnā.
- Te arohaehae i te hoa: Ki te arotahi tonu koe ki ngā ngoikoretanga me ngā hapa o tō hoa, ā, ka tukua tēnei tirohanga kia taupokina ōna āhuatanga pai me ōna kaha katoa, tērā pea kei te whakangaro huna koe i tētahi whanaungatanga.
- Whakakino matū: Ko te whakawhirinaki ki ngā tikanga kino pēnei i te inu nui, te momi hikareti, te whakamahi tarukino rānei hei huarahi ki te whakatau i ō āwangawanga he tohu mārama anō hoki o te whanonga whakangaro i a koe anō.
- Te maimoatanga wahangu: Te whakamahi i te tutu o te wahangu i roto i ngā pakanga nā te mea kāore e puta noa mai te kōrero pono ki a koe
- Te pupuri mauaharaKi te kore e taea e koe te tuku i ngā tautohetohe o mua, ā, ka mau tonu te riri ki tō hoa i muri i te mutunga o te tautohetohe, o te kōrero rānei, he huarahi tino tika tēnei ki te whakangaro i te whanaungatanga.
- Te karo i te whakapau kaha: Ko tētahi atu tohu matua kei te whakangaro pea koe i tētahi whanaungatanga nā te wehi, ko te tango atu i te arotahi ki tō whanaungatanga, ka tīmata ki te whakarite i te mahi, i ngā hoahoa, i ngā mahi whakangahau rānei i te wā tonu ka tīmata te kaha haere o ngā mea.
- Te takahi i ngā kupu whakaari: Te hoki whakamuri āta ki ngā kupu whakaari ki te haumi ki te whanaungatanga, ki ngā mahere rānei ki te whakapau i te wā ki te noho tahi. Ehara i te mea kei te whakangaro noa koe i te whanaungatanga engari kei te whakapataritari hoki tō hoa i a koe mō taua mea. Mā te mahi pera, kei te whakatakoto koe i te turanga mō ngā whanaungatanga e whakangaro ana i a koe anō.
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Me pēhea te karo i te whakakino i a koe anō i ō whanaungatanga?
I pātai mātou ki a Jayant mēnā kei te mōhio te tangata ki tāna whanonga whakakino i a ia anō. E mea ana ia, "Kāo, kāore rātou i te mōhio. Ka kitea māramatia e te katoa tōna tauira, engari kāore te tangata e mōhio ana. He rite te kite i āna tauira whakangaro ki te pupuri i te whakaata. Ko wai rā ka waiho hei whakapae? Ko rātou anō. Nō reira, ko te kore mōhio." Te rongoa korero "e āwhina ana ki te aro atu ki ō tauira, e āwhina ana hoki ki te whakanui ake i tēnei mōhiotanga nui."
I a ia e kōrero ana mō te karo i te whakakino i a koe anō i ō whanaungatanga, e kī ana a Meghna, "Ko te mea nui ko te mārama ki te take. Me kimi e koe te take o te wehi, ā, me aro atu ki tēnā. Ka taea tēnei mā te whakaaroaro, mā te kōrero rānei ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro mō te whakaora takitahi, takirua rānei." Ko te kimi i te pūtake o te raruraru te huarahi anake hei aukati i te whakakino i a koe anō i ngā whanaungatanga. Nō reira, me ngana tātou ki te whakamārama he aha tāu e taea ai hei karo i te whakakino i a koe anō i ō whanaungatanga.
1. Kia mārama ki te momo piripono hei aukati i te whakakino i ngā whanaungatanga ki a koe anō
Mena kei te raru koe ki te pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga mō te wā roa, he pai ki te tahuri i tō aro ki tō momo piripono. He maha ngā wā, ko te huarahi e piri ai tātou ki ētahi atu i a tātou e pakeke ana he whakaata i ō tātou wheako tamarikitanga, taiohitanga rānei. Ko te tangata kua pāngia e te whakarērea, te whara, te mate, te paitini rānei i ōna tau tīmatanga, ka tipu ake pea ka whanake he momo piripono koretake.
Ka taea e tēnei te arahi ki ngā kare ā-roto pērā i te hae me te riri, ā, ki te kore koe e mōhio me pēhea te mahi whakahaere i te hae i tō riri rānei, ka taea e ia te arahi i a koe ki te whakangaro i ngā whanaungatanga aroha. Waihoki, ko te tipu ake i roto i te taiao makariri me te mokemoke ka taea e te tangata te hiahia ki te whakamarie me te aro. He tauira tawhito tēnei o te hoa rangatira he iti te whakaaro ki a ia anō, he tangata kua hangaia hei whakangaro i ā rāua hononga aroha mā te whakararuraru i te tangata kē atu ki ā rāua hiahia tonu.
I a ia e kōrero ana mō te manukanuka me ngā whanaungatanga e whakangaro ana i a koe anō, ka kōrero a Jayant mō te hītori o te tamarikitanga me te pānga o ngā mea e pā ana ki a tātou i a tātou e tamariki ana ki tō tātou māramatanga ki ngā whanaungatanga. "Ko te hītori whaiaro o te mamae o te tamarikitanga ka whakawhāiti i tō tātou tirohanga ki te ao. Kāore he māramatanga o tātou ki te ao i tua atu i tā tātou e kite nei i a tātou e tamariki ana. Ka whakataurite koe i ngā whanaungatanga kino o tō tamarikitanga, ā, ka whai i aua whanaungatanga i muri mai i ngā āhuatanga pakeke o tō oranga."
"Mēnā he whānau tukino tō whānau, he whānau rānei kua wareware i a koe i a koe e tamariki ana, ka mōhio koe kāore i te pai tēnā ina whiwhi koe i te hononga pai ki ngā whānau o ētahi atu tamariki. Kātahi koe ka mārama he ara anō hei oranga me te aroha. Nō reira, ko ngā whakaaro taketake o ō tātou whanaungatanga i ahu mai i tō tātou tamarikitanga, te wā i ngāwari ai ō tātou hinengaro. Ina tukua koe e tētahi pakeke i tino whakawhirinaki koe, ka pā mai ēnei ki a koe i muri mai."
Ka taea e ēnei mea katoa te akiaki i te tangata ki te whakangaro i tētahi whanaungatanga nā te wehi me te mamae. Heoi anō, kāhua āpitihanga kāore e pumau. Mā te āwhina tika, ka taea e koe te mahi i a koe anō me te whakakore i ngā tauira kino kia taea ai e koe te hanga hononga aroha angitu.
2. Whakapūmau ki te kōrero pono
Ko tētahi o ngā arai nui mō te tangata e hiahia ana ki te whakangaro i tētahi whanaungatanga i roto i te hinengaro ko te wehi ki te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Ina koa, ina tae ki te kōrero mō ngā āhuatanga kāore i te tino pai o te whanaungatanga. Nō reira, hei wawahi i te huringa o te whanonga whakangaro i a koe anō, me wikitoria e koe tēnei. raruraru korero.
Ko te huarahi pai ki te mahi i tēnei ko te tīmata i tētahi kōrero mō ō wehi, ō āwangawanga, ō ruarua, me ō manukanuka. Mā te mahi i tēnei, me whakamōhio atu ki tō hoa rangatira ngā mea katoa e whakararuraru ana i a koe mō te heke mai o te whanaungatanga, me te waihanga i tētahi taiao e taea ai e rāua te mahi i taua mea anō. Kōrerohia ō raruraru, me te kimi i te huarahi pai mō kōrua. Kaua e waiho kia roa rawa ngā raruraru kia kore ai e taea te whakatau i ngā rerekētanga i waenganui i a kōrua.
Ka tāpiri atu a Jayant, "Kia mutu ai te whakakore i te whanaungatanga nā te wehi, ko tētahi atu momo kōrero pono me whai koe ko te kōrero ki a koe anō. Me a) whakaae koe he tauira whakakorekore tāu, me b) mārama ki ō tauira. Noho ki raro, whakaarohia he aha ō wehi nui rawa atu. Pātai atu ki a koe anō mēnā kei te whai whakaaro koe ki te uru atu ki ngā whanaungatanga kua ngā haki whero e tika ana kia oma koe.
"Whakaarohia tō whanaungatanga ki a koe anō i te tuatahi. Whakahouhia ō ake whāinga me ō uara, ka pātai atu ki a koe anō i ngā pātai matua mō tō tuakiri: Ko wai ahau? He aha aku whāinga? Me pēhea taku tirohanga ki ahau anō? Kātahi ka whakaarohia he aha tāu e hiahia ana me tāu e hiahia ana. He mea motuhake ēnei e rua. Inehia mēnā kei te ōrite rāua."
3. Tāutuhia te mea e whakaoho ana i a koe ki te aukati i ngā whanaungatanga e whakakino ana i a koe anō
Hei aukati i ngā whanaungatanga e whakakino ana i a koe anō, me mārama koe ki te take o taua mataku. Nō reira, tīmata mā te aro ki ngā mea e whakaoho ana i a koe. Ina hiahia koe ki te motu i te taura nā te mea kei te mataku koe kei kore ngā mea e puta pērā i te mea i tumanakohia, whakaaroarohia te take i puta ai taua mataku.
I roto koe i tēhea āhuatanga? I pēhea ō kare ā-roto? He aha koe i mataku ai? Ki te puta ō wehi, he aha te pānga ki a koe? He mea pai kia tīmata te pupuri i tētahi rekoata o ēnei wā me tō aromatawai i aua wā. I roto i te wā, ka tīmata koe ki te kite i tētahi tauira, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki te hono atu ki ō ngoikoretanga.
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4. Akohia te manawanui mēnā ka pakaru ngā whanaungatanga i roto i tō hinengaro
Ina whakakino te tangata i tētahi whanaungatanga, he tauira mārama kei muri – ka pāngia te whanaungatanga e ngā uauatanga, ā, ka whakatau rātou ki te wehe atu i ō rātou kare ā-roto kia kore ai e whara. Ko te mea nui i konei ko te mahara kāore he whanaungatanga e tino tika ana, kāore he whanaungatanga e ngāwari ana. He pono ka piki, ka heke.
Ko te whakatau kia noho tonu, kia whawhai mō tō kōrua kotahitanga te mea e pumau ai ngā whanaungatanga. Nō reira, me ako koe ngā huarahi hei manawanui ā, piri atu ki tō hoa ina uaua te āhua. He āwhina te hanga i tētahi pūnaha tautoko hei āwhina i a koe i roto i ēnei wā pōuri, me te kore e manukanuka kei hinga tō ao katoa.
5. Rapua he tohutohu hei karo i te whakakino i a koe anō i ō whanaungatanga
Ehara i te mea ngāwari te mōhio me te whakaae ki ō whanonga kino. Ahakoa ka aro nui koe ki te raruraru, kāore pea koe e mōhio me pēhea te whakatau. Koia te take e tuku ai a Bonobology i ngā āhuatanga takitahi me ngā āhuatanga rerekē. ngā kaitohutohu mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhineng He huarahi pono ēnei hei karo i te whakakino i a koe anō i ō whanaungatanga. Ka hoatu he taiao haumaru, tautoko hoki ki a koe me tō hoa rangatira hei matapaki i ō āwangawanga. Haunga tēnā, ka taea e te kaiwhakaora hinengaro whakangungu te whakaatu i te huarahi hei wawahi i te huringa o ngā whanaungatanga whakakino i a koe anō i roto i te huarahi aroha me te kore whakahē.
E kī ana a Jayant, "Ka taea e koe te tomo ki tētahi wāhi whakaora mā te kī pēnei i te, "Kāore i angitu aku whanaungatanga whakamutunga e toru" me te "Kei te pōhēhē te ao i ahau". Kātahi ka pātai pea te tangata ki te kaiwhakaora hinengaro: Me pēhea taku whakamutu i te whakangaro i ahau anō i taku whanaungatanga hou? Kātahi ka arotakehia e te kaiwhakaora hinengaro ō rātou āhuatanga o mua, ā, ka kitea ngā kaupapa noa i roto i tētahi tukanga āta haere. Ka ārahi rātou i a koe ki te whakaaroaro i ēnei tauira, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki te tango i te kawenga marie.
"I te tīmatanga, i a koe e mōhio ana ki ō tauira, ka tīmata koe ki te tiaki i a koe anō. Me māia koe ki te whakarere i te kopare, me te kia pono koe ki a koe anoHe tino mānumanu tātou i a tātou anō. I a tātou e mimiti ana, ka puta te ngākau pouri me te pouri mō te wā kua moumouhia, me ngā mea kua pahure atu.
"Ka riri koe. Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe, "I ngaro ahau i taua whanaungatanga kotahi noa iho i te ao" "I whakararuraru ahau i aku hoa" "Kāore au e kite anō i tētahi pēnei". Nā te mea kua neke atu aua tāngata, ka arahi pea tēnei ki te riri me te pouri." Ka taea e te kaiwhakaora hinengaro te āwhina i a koe ki te tukatuka i ēnei kare ā-roto. Mena kei te whakapau kaha koe ki te mahi i a koe anō, ka taea e koe te hoki mai i tēnei whanonga kino, me te whakaora anō hoki i ō whanaungatanga hou.
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6. Kaua e hohoro te whai hononga
Ka taea e te rārangi o ngā whanaungatanga kore angitu te waiho i te tangata kia pōuri, kia ngenge, kia ngenge hoki. Engari kaua e hohoro te uru atu ki tētahi whanaungatanga me te hiahia nui kia angitu. Hei tauira, kaua e tīmata te whakaipoipo i te tāne ātaahua e tūtaki ana koe i tētahi pae inu i te rā i muri i tō wehenga atu i tētahi whanaungatanga, kia pai ake ai tō whakaaro mōu ake.
Ki te hē anō tētahi atu hononga, ka nui ake te wehi kei whara koe, kei mahue rānei koe. Mā tēnei ka nui ake te kino o tō hiahia ki te whakangaro i ngā hononga aroha. Kia mōhio koe ko ō whanonga anō tētahi wāhanga o te raruraru, me whai wā koe ki te whakaaroaro mō te momo hoa e hiahiatia ana e koe. Kātahi, me tatari marie kia tae mai te tangata tika.
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7. Kati te takaro i te patunga
I te mea ko te hunga e whakaatu ana i ngā whanonga whakakino i a rātou anō ka mahi i runga i te wehi, ā, he maha ngā wā ka puta ko rātou he hoa rangatira iti te whakaaro ki a rātou anō, he tino ngāwari ki a rātou te noho i roto i te aroha ki a rātou anō. Me mutu te tākaro i te kāri patunga hei whakaora i a koe i tēnei tauira o ngā whanaungatanga aroha e whakakino ana i a koe anō.
Mā te tirohanga 'tino rawakore' ka whakakaha ake i ō whakaaro pōuri. Ka huri tēnei hei tauira raruraru pērā i te noho motuhake i roto i ngā kare ā-roto, te tākaro i te hāngū-pukuriri kēmu me tētahi hoa aroha, me te mea kia pekepeke tō hoa aroha i roto i ngā porowhita hei whakamana i tō mana whakahaere. Kua kite kē koe i te huarahi e ahu atu ai tēnā.
Nō reira, arotahi ki ō kaha. Me mahi kia nui ake tō māia me tō whakapono ki a koe anō. He tangata kāore e hiahia kia whakahaere tonu i tētahi whanaungatanga. Ina mahia e koe ēnei huringa, ka kite koe ka taea e koe te uru atu ki tētahi whanaungatanga me te ngāwari ake.
8. Ko te mea nui, ako ki te wehe atu i ngā mea o mua
Ko te āhua o te whakangaro i tētahi whanaungatanga i roto i te hinengaro, e pā ana ki ngā wheako o mua kāore i te pai, i ngā wheako mamae rānei. Ko te wehi me te manukanuka e pā ana ki a koe, tera pea i ahu mai i tētahi aituā, i tētahi raupapa rānei o ngā huihuinga i tino pā ki a koe. Ko ēnei wheako, ko te iti rawa rānei o ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi tangata i aua wheako, ka waiho hei whakaoho i te whanonga whakangaro i a koe anō. Me ako koe ki te momotu i te taura, ā, kia houhia te rongo ki tō mua.
A te wā anō ka pōuri koe i tētahi āhuatanga, me tūpato, me te whakaaroaro mēnā he wheako o mua kei te mea kia tauhohe koe i runga i te koretake. Kāore pea e mahi i ngā wā katoa, engari mā te mōhio ki tēnei tūponotanga ka āwhina i a koe ki te neke ki ngā tauira whanonga hauora ake. Ko te tauira o ngā whanaungatanga e whakangaro ana i a koe anō he wheako whakararuraru, engari ehara i te mea ka noho tonu koe me te noho tahi. Kia ako koe ki te tautuhi me te whakaae ki te raruraru, he maha ngā huarahi hei whakatika me te wikitoria. Ki te mea kei te uaua koe ki te anga whakamua i a koe anō, kia mōhio koe ko te rapu awhina tohunga he mahi tiaki i a koe anō.
Mō te hunga e whakaaro ana, "Ka āwhina tēnei i ahau ki te mutu i te whakakino i ahau anō i taku whanaungatanga hou?", e hiahia ana a Jayant kia mōhio koe ki tēnei: "Ina mōhio koe ki ō tauira, ka rerekē ō whiringa, ā, ka tau ō tumanakohanga mai i a koe anō me te hunga e karapoti ana i a koe. Ka hono koe i ngā ira o mua, ka huri i tētahi upoko hou. Kei reira te tumanako."
FAQs
Ko te mea tuatahi me mahi e koe ko te titiro ki ō wheako o mua. Tērā pea he tamarikitanga kino, he rārangi hononga pakaru rānei e whakararuraru ana i a koe anō. Hei whakamutu i te whakararuraru i a koe anō i ō whanaungatanga, tautuhia te pūtake, kia pono, kia kōrero hoki, rapua he tohutohu, ā, kia manawanui.
Me mahi ki te whakakore i te manukanuka, te mataku ki te whakapau kaha, me te kore whakawhirinaki e arahi ana i a koe ki ngā whanaungatanga pana-tōKati te tākaro i te kāri patunga, me te wehe atu i a koe i ngā wā o mua. Kaua e hohoro te uru ki ngā whanaungatanga, engari me ata noho, kia mōhio hoki ki tāu e hiahia ana mai i tētahi hoa.
E mōhio ana koe kei te whakangaro koe i tētahi whanaungatanga ina whakaaro koe ko koe anake te mea e pā ana ki a koe, he nui tō whakahē i tō hoa, ā, ka manukanuka, ka pōuri hoki koe ina nui haere ngā mea i waenganui i a kōrua. He raruraru whakawhirinaki tō kōrua, he nui rawa ō kōrua whakaaro, ā, kāore e taea e koe te whakarere i tō mua.
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