Ina akiakihia tētahi hoa e te hiahia mō te hononga, ā, ko tētahi e te hiahia mō te tawhiti, ka tīmata te whanaungatanga pana me te kukume. Ahakoa he māmā noa iho te ahua o tēnei whakamārama, he onge te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga pēnei.
Nā te mea he maha ngā take matua e ārahihia ana e tēnei whanonga pana kukume i waenganui i ngā hoa aroha e rua. Mai i ngā momo herenga raruraru ki te wehi o te whanaungatanga i tētahi taha, me te wehi o te whakarērea, te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō, me ētahi atu i tētahi taha. Nō reira, ka kite koe i te pānga o tēnei kanikani wera, makariri, tata, tawhiti ki te hinengaro o te hunga kua mau i roto i tēnei whanaungatanga paitini.
Hei whakanui ake i te kino o te āhuatanga, ka haere tonu te huringa o te whanaungatanga pana-tō. Ka waiho tēnei hei wāhi okiokinga mō ngā hoa tokorua mai i te pēhanga tonu, te koretake, me te pakanga. Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe he nui te whai me te whaiwhai kei roto i ō whanaungatanga me tō hoa, kia aro ki te tikanga o te whanaungatanga pana-tō, me pēhea e taea ai e koe te wikitoria.
He aha te whanaungatanga pana-tō?
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Ka tīmata te whanaungatanga pana-tō, pērā i ngā atu katoa. Ka tūtaki te tokorua, ka aroha tetahi ki tetahi, ā, ka puta he whanaungatanga. Inaa, ko te wā honi o ēnei whanaungatanga he tohu i te ngākau nui. Heoi, i te tīmatanga o te whanaungatanga kia tau ki te auau, ka puta te hiahia mō te tawhiti i tetahi taha o te hoa, ka puta te wehi o te ngaronga me te mataku i tetahi atu. Ka tīmata te huringa whanaungatanga pana-tō.
I roto i tēnei momo whanaungatanga, ka whakaatu tetahi o ngā āhuatanga tawhito o te mataku ki te whakapau kaha, ā, ka karo kaha i te whanaungatanga piripono, he mea e hiahiatia ana e te hoa. Ko te hoa e ngana ana ki te karo i te whanaungatanga piripono, ka noho puku pea, ka memeha haere te hihiri me te ngākau nui i whakaaturia e rātou i te tīmatanga o te whanaungatanga. Ka tīmata pea rātou ki te whakatapua i te wā nui ake ki ngā hiahia me ngā mahi whakangahau takitahi, ka rapu rānei i ngā take kia kore ai e noho tahi me tā rātou hoa. Nā tēnei ka pōuri, ka pōhēhē, ka māharahara hoki te hoa kē atu mō te whakarērea.
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Nā te mataku i puta mai i ēnei kare ā-roto, ka akiaki i a rātou ki te whakapau kaha ki te kukume i tā rātou hoa e rere ana kia tata atu. Tērā pea ka ngana rātou ki te kukume i a rātou mā te aro nui atu ki ō rātou āhua, te whakarongo ki ā rātou tono katoa, te amuamu rānei mō tō rātou kore aro. Ka whakanui te urupare a te kaihoe i te pēhanga ki te kaihoe, ka akiaki i a rātou kia noho wehe atu.
Ehara te whanonga pana kukume i te ara kotahi. Tērā pea ka huri ngā hoa e rua i waenga i ngā tūranga pana me te kukume i roto i te whanaungatanga, ka nui ake te uaua o ngā mahi.
He aha ngā tohu kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga pana-tōia?
Pērā i ngā whanaungatanga tangata, he maha ngā āhuatanga me ngā uauatanga o te kaha pana-tō. Ahakoa ngā āhuatanga motuhake o tēnei hononga aroha, ka taea te kī he hononga paitini tēnei . Ka taea e koe te whakaaro ka tupu tēnei momo paitini i roto i te whanaungatanga pana-tō me te tangata whakahihi. Ka whakamahia e te tangata whakahihi tō aroha hei hinu rapu aro, ā, ina kua makona rātou, ka whakarērea koe e rātou ka haere. Engari kāore i te tino. Ka whakarite rātou ka waiho e rātou he aho iti o te aroha ki a koe hei kukume i a koe ki roto, i ngā wā katoa e hiahia ana rātou ki te aroha me te whakanui ake.
Ka hoatu e te tangata kukume te whakamoemiti katoa e hiahiatia ana e te tangata whakahihi – te moepuku, te kare ā-roto me te hinengaro – kia mau tonu ai te whanaungatanga. Ko te tangata pana, i tēnei wā, ka tupu pai i runga i ngā wāhanga katoa, engari kāore e whakanuia te tangata e mahi ana i ngā mahi katoa. Ki te pārekareka tetahi o ēnei tauira whanaungatanga pana me te kukume ki a koe, ā, ka kite koe kei roto koe i te whanaungatanga pana me te kukume me te tangata whakahihi, tēnā me wehe atu i tō hoa mō tētahi wā.
Whakaarohia te nui o te utu e tika ana māu, te iti o te whiwhinga e riro mai ana i a koe, me te āhua o te manaakitanga tonu ki a koe. Kaua e whakaaro me pēhea te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga pana me te tō i roto i tēnei horopaki. Ko tāu e hiahia ana he wehenga atu i tēnei tangata. Kaua e tumanako ki te whakatikatika me te whakapāha mai i a rātou (kia mahara, he tangata whakapehapeha rātou). Koinei tētahi o ngā tauira kino rawa atu o te whanaungatanga pana me te tō, ā, ko te tumanako ka ora wawe koe i ēnei whara.
Ae, ka puta pea tēnei āhuatanga ina kāore tetahi o te hoa rangatira e whakapehapeha ana ki a ia anō. Hei whakaora i a koe anō i ngā uauatanga o tētahi whanaungatanga mataku pēnei, me mārama koe ki te tikanga o te takirua pana me te kukume. Ki te rapu koe i ngā tohu mō tētahi whanaungatanga pana me te kukume, kia mōhio koe e whitu ngā wāhanga motuhake e tohuhia ana:
Wāhanga 1: Te Whainga
I tēnei wāhanga, ko te tangata – ko te tikanga he tangata e raru ana ki te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō me te wehi o te piripono – ka kitea e ia he tangata e arohia ana e ia. Ka whakatau ia ki te whai i te tangata kē. Tērā pea ka whakaatu ia i tētahi mea hei huna i ō rātou āwangawanga huna, ā, ka ngana ki te whakaatu i a ia anō he ataahua, he atawhai, he atawhai, he ngākau aroha.
Tērā pea ka uaua te mahi a te tangata e whaia ana – he whanonga e ahu mai ana i te wehi o te mokemoke me te whakarērea. Ahakoa e wehi ana tēnei tangata kei ngoikore ia, ko te aro e whiwhihia ana e rātou ka pai ai tō rātou whakaaro ki a rātou anō, ā, he pai hoki mō tō rātou whakaaro iti ki a rātou anō. Whai muri i te wā o te takaro wera me te makariri, ka tukua e rātou.
Wāhanga 2: Harikoa
Ka tīmata te whanaungatanga i runga i te taumata tiketike, e tohuhia ana e te ngākau nui me te kukume i waenganui i ngā hoa e rua. E pai ana ngā hoa e rua ki te whakahihiri, ā, e hiahia ana ki te whakapau i ia wā e ara ana ki te noho tahi. He werawera, he mura hoki te whanaungatanga ā-tinana. Heoi, kotahi te āhuatanga e ngaro ana i tēnei whanaungatanga e ahua tino pai ana - ko te whanaungatanga ā-hinengaro.
Nā te mea ka karohia e ngā hoa e rua te whakawhanake i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora i roto i te whanaungatanga. Koinei tētahi o ngā tohu e whakaatu ana kei te kaha haere te whanaungatanga pana-tō. "Kāore au i makona ki a ia, ko ia anake taku i whakaaro ai. He tino pai i ngā huarahi katoa, ā, i whakaaro ahau he 'tika' kia pēnei te kaha kore whakaaro, e mōhio ana koe? Ko te kaha te mea e tika ai. I hē ahau. I tere ake te pakaru o te katoa i taku i whakaaro ai," te kōrero a Fern.
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Wāhanga 3: Te Whakakorenga
I tēnei wā, ka tīmata te kotahi o te hoa ki te pōuri i te kaha o te whanaungatanga. Ina koa, mēnā kei te kite rātou kua tīmata te hohonu o te whanaungatanga i waenganui i a rātou. Ka hiahia pea tēnei tangata ki te wetewete i a ia anō, ki te mahi rānei i ngā mea katoa e taea ana e ia hei whakaiti i te kaha. Nō reira, ka noho motuhake pea rātou, ka noho tawhiti, ka kore hoki e taea te noho tahi me te tangata, te tangata rānei, me te tangata anō hoki e taea te noho tahi me ia.
Wāhanga 4: Te Whakahē
Ko tētahi atu tohu mārama o te whanaungatanga pana kukume ko te tīmatanga o te wehenga, ka riro i te hoa kē te tūranga o te kaiwhaiwhai, e akiakihia ana e te wehi huna o te whakarērea. Ka whakapau kaha rātou ki te tiki i te aro me te aroha o tā rātou hoa. Heoi, he rerekē te pānga o tēnei ki te hoa e wehe ana. Kātahi ka uru atu tēnei tangata – te kaipana – ki te wāhanga 4 o te whanaungatanga pana kukume, ka rongo rātou i te whakarihariha o tā rātou hoa.
Wāhanga 5: Tawhiti
Ka whakatau te tangata kukume, te tangata whai rānei ki te hoki whakamuri i tēnei wā. Koia te take he tohu mārama ngā karakia o te tawhiti tinana me te tawhiti kare ā-roto mō ngā whanaungatanga pana kukume. Ko te whakatau ki te wehe i a koe anō i tō hoa i roto i te whanaungatanga pana kukume i ahu mai i te wehi kei whakarērea.
Kua mataku kē tēnei tangata kei mahue, kei mokemoke rānei, nō reira ka hoki whakamuri ia hei tiaki i a ia anō, hei ora i te mamae o te ngākau mēnā ka mutu te whanaungatanga. Heoi anō, ko te wehi tonu kei whakarerea ia, kāore ia e whakaae kia mutu. "Kāore au i te whakahīhī ki tēnā. I oma atu ahau i te whanaungatanga, kāore i taea e au te tu atu i te pēhanga. I rite ki te mea kei te manawa māua tetahi ki tetahi i ngā wā katoa. Kāore he wāhi i mahue mōku – ko te mea tonu i tino arohaina e au i tīmata te whakamataku i ahau," te kōrero a Colin.
Wāhanga 6: Huihuinga
Nā, kua whiwhi te tangata e akiaki ana i te whanaungatanga i te wāhi e hiahiatia ana e rātou, ka tīmata anō rātou ki te titiro pai ki tō rātou whanaungatanga. Ka tīmata rātou ki te hiahia kia noho mai tō rātou hoa, ka tīmata anō ki te whai i a rātou. Mai i ngā whakapāha nui ki te tuku koha ki a rātou, kāore rātou e mutu i tetahi mea hei kukume i a rātou. Ka tukuna e te tangata e kukume ana i mua te tangata e akiaki ana kia hoki mai, ahakoa he āwangawanga, nā te mea e hiahia ana rātou kia rongohia te hiahia me te arohaina.
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Wāhanga 7: Te Whakaōrite
Ka hoki anō te whanaungatanga ki roto i tētahi atu wā harikoa o te rangimārie, te harikoa, me te rangimarie. E harikoa ana te tangata e pana ana i te whanaungatanga kāore i tino piripono, i tino nui rānei. E koa ana te tangata e kukume ana i te whanaungatanga kāore i mutu. Ina tīmata anō te kaha o te whanaungatanga, ka hoki te tangata e pana ana ki te wehe. Mā tēnei ka tīmata anō te huringa whanaungatanga pana kukume.
Ki te tirohia pai, he rite tonu ngā wāhanga 6 me te 7 ki ngā wāhanga 1 me te 2, engari ko te mea i konei, kāore te tangata e whai ana i tētahi hoa aroha mō te wā tuatahi, engari e ngana ana ki te riro i te aroha o tētahi kua noho tahi rāua. Nā te mea he porowhita tonu te mahi a ēnei wāhanga, pērā i te hamster e oma ana i runga i te wira, ka noho te tangata hei tangata e hiahia ana ki te pana-tō i ngā whanaungatanga i mua i te taea e rātou te tautuhi i ō rātou paitini.
Me pēhea te wikitoria i te whanaungatanga pana-tōia?
Ko te ahotea, te manukanuka, te whanonga piripono, me te iti o te whakaaro ki a koe anō ētahi noa iho o ngā hua o te whanaungatanga pana-tō. He pono, kāore ēnei mea e pai mōu. Nō reira, he aha te mea ka taea te mahi hei whakatika i te āhuatanga? Me pēhea te whakatika i te whanaungatanga pana-tō? Ko te wehenga o te whanaungatanga pana-tō anake te huarahi hei tiaki i a koe mai i ngā kino ka puta mai i aua āhuatanga?
Heoi anō, he mea nui ake, ka taea e koe te tino mōhio he pumau tonu te wehenga ina ka haere tonu koe ki te kanikani anō, anō, anō? Ki te kore, me pēhea e koe te whakaora i a koe kei waranga ki ngā whanaungatanga pana-tō? Ā, me pēhea te mahi pera me te kore e mutu te mahi tahi me tō hoa? Nā te hinengaro o te whanaungatanga pana-tō, ka uaua ki a koe te kite i ngā tohu o te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga pēnei kia kino rawa atu rā anō ngā mea.
Kia hoha rā anō ō hoa ki te whakarongo ki a koe e tangi ana mō taua tangata anō, mō ia anō. Kia ngenge rā anō koe i te whakapāha, i te tatari rānei kia hoki mai te tangata kē. Kia ngenge rā anō koe i te kaha tonu o te whanaungatanga, he āhuatanga e arohaina ana e kōrua, e kinongia ana hoki e kōrua. Engari ka taea te wehe atu i tēnei huringa hoha me te kore e ngaro te hoa e arohaina ana e kōrua. Anei ētahi tohutohu mahi e iwa hei āwhina i a koe ki te wikitoria i te whanaungatanga pana-tō, me te kore e poroporoaki tetahi ki tetahi:
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1. Kia mōhio ki te raruraru tūturu
Ina he rerekē ngā hiahia me ngā tirohanga a ngā hoa e rua i roto i te whanaungatanga, he ngawari te taka ki te mahanga o te titiro ki tō hoa wahine hei pūtake o ngā mea katoa e pā kino ana ki tō whanaungatanga. Hei tauira, ka karohia e ngā kaiwhaiwhai te aro ki ngā raruraru whanaungatanga, ka meinga pea e te kaiwhaiwhai te whakaaro kāore rātou e aro. Waihoki, ka nui rawa ngā whakaaro o ngā kaiwhaiwhai, ka meinga pea e te kaiwhaiwhai te whakaaro he nui rawa atu rātou.
He āwhina te mōhio kāore tetahi o ngā hoa rangatira i te raru i konei. Ko te whanonga pana kukume te raru. Mā te arotahi ki te raruraru tūturu o te hinengaro pana whanaungatanga, ka pai ake tō mārama me huri e koe ngā āhuatanga o tō whanaungatanga, kaua ko tō hoa rangatira tonu. Mā tēnei ka whakatairanga i te whakaaro 'tātou' me te whakaaro raruraru noa, kaua ko 'koe' me 'ahau'.
2. Whakatōkia te aroha
Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakawātea i a koe i tēnei paitini me te kore e pā ki te wehenga o te whanaungatanga pana-tō , ko te aroha ki a ia tō hoa pai. Kia mōhio koe he pana-tō rānei koe i roto i te whanaungatanga, me mahi i ngā mahi iti hei mārama ki tō hoa.
He aha ngā take matua e whakaoho ana i ā rātou whanonga? He aha ō rātou wehi me ō rātou ngoikoretanga? He aha ngā wheako o mua kua whai wāhi ki te whakawhanake i ēnei whanonga? I te mea kei te pāngia koe e ō raruraru, kāore e uaua te aroha ki tō hoa. Kia oti, me āwhina kōrua tetahi i tetahi ki te wikitoria i ēnei āwangawanga, mataku, me ngā momo piripono āwangawanga.
3. Whakaaetia te utu o ngā nekehanga pana tō
Ahakoa kei te hiahia koe ki ngā whanaungatanga pana-tō, e mōhio ana koe he nui te utu mō tēnei kanikani wera me te makariri. Mō tō hauora hinengaro, koia tēnā. Ko te ahotea, te manukanuka whanaungatanga , te mokemoke, te pōhēhē, te pouri, te wehi, me te riri ka noho hei mea pumau i roto i tō koiora ina mau koe i roto i ēnei whanaungatanga kino.
Mā te mōhio ki ēnei utu ka āwhina i a koe ki te kite mārama me huri koe kia pai ake. Ki te kore koe e noho i roto i te whanaungatanga pana-tōia me te tangata whakahihi, kei reira tonu te tumanako ka taea te whakatika i te huarahi. Mā te kaha me te manawanui o ngā hoa e rua, ka taea e koe te ahu whakamua.
"I kī mai tētahi hoa me whakatikatika tāua. Kua hoha katoa ō māua hoa, engari i tū mai tēnei hoa, ā, i kī mai he tauira noa iho māua he whanaungatanga pana-tō. Kāore e taea e māua te whakaae me te kore tōna pono, kua roa pea māua e whakakahore ana, e whakapataritari ana tetahi i tetahi," te kōrero a Harry.
4. Whakahonoretia o rereketanga
Ko ngā momo herenga rerekē me ngā hiahia whanaungatanga kei te pūtake o te whanaungatanga pana. Hei tauira, ka hiahia pea te tangata pana ki te kōrero roa mō te whanaungatanga i ia wā, i ia wā, hei whakamana i a ia anō kei te pai ngā mea katoa, ā, e kore tōna hoa e whakarērea ia ia. Ka taea e ēnei kōrerorero auau te waiho i te tangata pana kia pōuri, ka meinga kia wehe atu ia.
Hei whakamutu i te huringa whanaungatanga pana-tō, ako ki te whakaute i ō kōrua rerekētanga. Hoatu he rangimārie ki te meka he rerekē te āhua o kōrua, ā, ngana ki te whakauru i te huarahi whakahaere whanaungatanga a tētahi ki tētahi i ngā wā katoa e taea ana. "I whakaaro māua e mōhio pai ana māua tetahi ki tētahi, engari i hē māua. I te tīmatanga o te kōrero mō ngā mea whakaoho me te haerenga o ngā momo piripono o tētahi ki tētahi, ka hohonu ake te keri, ka nui ake te aroha i ia rā," te kōrero a Vanya.
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5. Ehara te tawhiti i te mea kino
Ki te tangata e kaha ana ki te whakamātau, he rite te wā hararei ki te hau hou e whakakaha ana i a rātou. Ka āwhina hoki ki te whakamanawa i a rātou kāore rātou e whai ana i tētahi whanaungatanga me te utu mō tō rātou ake tuakiri. Ki te tangata e kaha ana ki te whakamātau, ka taea e te tawhiti te whakararuraru. Ka taea e ia te whakaoho tonu i a rātou ki te manukanuka me te manukanuka mō te heke mai o te whanaungatanga. Heoi, ehara i te mea kino te tawhiti me ētahi wāhi whaiaro i roto i te whanaungatanga .
Mā te whakaae mārire ki tēnā, ka taea e te tangata e kukume ana te whakamutu i tēnei whanaungatanga pana kukume kino, ko ia anake. Mena ka mōhio te hoa e hiahia ana ki te wehe atu, ka taea e ia te tango i tētahi wā hararei – ahakoa he rā, he wiki rānei – kia kore ai e whakahengia, e whakahēngia rānei mōna, e kore ia e uru ki te huringa wehe-whakarihariha ina hiahia ia ki te wā hei whakamarie i a ia anō. Hei utu, ka hoki anō ia ki te whanaungatanga me te tirohanga pai, ka hoatu ki te tangata e kukume ana te aro me te aroha e tupu ana ki a ia.
6. Mahi ki a koe ano
He nui ngā raruraru o ngā hoa e rua i roto i te whanaungatanga pana-toia. Mā te mahi i ēnei hei whakapai ake i a rāua anō ka nui te rerekētanga ki te whakamutu i te kanikani pana-toia. Hei tauira, ki te raru ngā hoa e rua i te iti o te whakaaro ki a rāua anō, me mahi kia whiwhi i te whakapono ki a rāua anō.
Mā te whakarerekē i te tirohanga ki a koe anō ka āwhina i te whakaiti i te wehi me te āwangawanga. Mā te titiro ki roto, me te whakatika i ngā mea e whakaoho ana i tēnei whanonga kukume uaua, ka taea e koe te whakaora i tō whanaungatanga. Mena kāore e taea e koe te ahu whakamua ko koe anake, ka taea e koe te whakamahi i ngā painga o te tohutohu. Ko te ārahi a tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro whakangungu ka taea te huri i te kēmu ki te wikitoria i ō raruraru.
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7. Akohia te noho ngoikore
Ki te hiahia te tangata e kukume ana i te whanaungatanga kia ako i te tawhiti tirohanga pai, me ako hoki te tangata e pana ana me pēhea te noho ngoikore ki tana hoa. Ko te wehi o te whanaungatanga piripono e ahu mai ana i te wehi huna kei ngoikore te kare ā-roto ki tētahi atu tangata.
Tērā pea kua pā mai ētahi wheako whakarihariha ki a koe i mua. Koinei pea te take e hiahia ana koe ki te kati i tō wairua, ki te hanga taiepa hei tiaki i ō whakaaro me ō hiahia tino pakarukaru. Ahakoa rā, ka taea e koe te huri i tētahi whārangi hou mā te tīmata iti, me te whakatuwhera mārire ki ō hoa mō ō wehi, ō āwangawanga, ō wheako o mua, ō whakaaro, me tō āhua kare ā-roto.
Kia angitu ai te tangata e ngana ana ki te tuku i tōna tiaki, me manaaki e tōna hoa tēnei tuwhera me te tautoko, te aroha, me te mārama. Mēnā ka whakahengia te tangata, ka hoki wawe atu ia. Mā tēnei ka nui haere te wehi o te whanaungatanga piripono.
8. Waihangahia he hihiri mana ōrite
Ko te kaha taupatupatu te tohu o te whanaungatanga pana kukume. Kei te hoa tonu te mana e wehe ana, e uaua ana ki te tiki, e wehe ana rānei i a ia anō i tetahi atu. Ko te kaiwhai – ahakoa ko te kaipehi, ko te kaitō rānei – he ngoikore tonu, he ngoikore hoki. Nō reira, ko te waihanga i tētahi kaha hauora he tīmatanga pai hei ārai i te huringa whanaungatanga pana kukume.
Mō tēnei, me whakapau kaha ngā hoa e rua kia ōrite te mana o te tangata ki roto i tō rāua whanaungatanga. Mai i ngā mea iti pēnei i te whakatau me pēhea te noho tahi mō te rā kotahi, ki ngā whakataunga nui pēnei i te nui o te wāhi me te tawhiti e tika ana kia hoatu tetahi ki tetahi, te whakatau rānei he aha te wā kounga - me noho tahi ngā whiringa katoa.
9. Whakarerea ō whakaaro
Ko te āhua o ā tātou whanonga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga e tino whakahaerehia ana e ō tātou wheako me ngā whakaritenga o te ao. Mā tēnei ka whakamārama mai ki a tātou te āhua o te whanonga a ngā hoa aroha tetahi ki tetahi. Hei tauira, ki te kite koe i ō mātua e wehe atu ana i ā rātou tamariki me te kore whakatūpato, kōrero, whakamōhio rānei, he mea noa iho ka pā te manukanuka ki a koe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga tawhiti.
Ina rapu wāhi tō hoa i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, ka kiia pea ia he kore aro, he makariri, he pōturi rānei te kare ā-roto. Engari, me pēhea mēnā ko te mea e kitea ana e koe he 'kore aro, he makariri' koia anake tō hoa? Me pēhea mēnā, e ai ki a rātou, koinei tonu te āhua o ngā whanaungatanga? He mea nui te karo i ō kōrero me ō whakaaro hei tautoko i te tirohanga a te tangata kē, inā koa mēnā he tino rerekē ki tō ake.
Mā te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga pana-tō ka pā kino ki tō hauora hinengaro, ka kino ake hoki ngā take e whakaoho ana i ēnei whanonga. Mā te mōhio ki ngā tohu ārai me te tango i ngā mahi whakatikatika ka taea e ngā tāngata e rua e hiahia ana ki te whanonga pana-tō te noho tahi me te kore e ngaro te hinengaro pai. Ki te kite koe kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga pēnei engari kāore e taea e koe te ahu whakamua i te huarahi tika, kia mōhio koe he pāwhiri noa te awhina a te tohunga.
Me pēhea te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga?
Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
