Kusankha mmodzi, kudzipereka kwa iwo, kumanga moyo pamodzi - kunyumba, ana, ntchito, et al, kupeza mabwenzi ndi kulera chitetezo, kupanga chilengedwe chaching'ono mu chachikulu ichi, kusamalira ndi kusamalidwa, kuluka ukonde wodzitetezera okha awiri, ulusi ndi ulusi ndikukhala mosangalala mkati mwa makutu ake mpaka kalekale. Umu ndi mmene ukwati ulili kwa ambiri a ife, mwina mwachisawawa.
Ukwati ndi kunyumba, ngakhale zitakhala zosagwirizana ndi ntchito, monga momwe ma tabloids otchuka ndi akatswiri amatiuza. Kwa zolengedwa za ng'ombe zomwe ndife, ukwati watipatsa chitsanzo chogwirira ntchito, wakonza magawano a ntchito m'banja, watipatsa dongosolo loti tikhale ndi ana ndi kulera, kutulutsa ndondomeko ya zachuma pa moyo - kusamutsa katundu ndi ndalama, kunatipatsa malo okhudzidwa ndi malingaliro a moyo wogawana ndi chimodzi mwa zofunika kwambiri, malo ovomerezeka kuti tilowe m'galimoto yathu.
Ndife okwatiwa kwambiri ku lingaliro laukwati, kotero kuti aliyense amene amanyoza zikhalidwe zake, amawonedwa ngati wosokonekera kapena watsoka wamba kapena wosowa mwanjira ina ndipo singleton ndiyotsimikizika kuti iwonongedwe! Ngakhale kuti ukwati uli wofunika kwambiri, ndi dongosolo lothandiza limene lili ndi dongosolo lochirikizira ntchito zina zovuta za moyo, limafunanso zambiri kubwezera. Zofanana kwambiri ndiyagnas <ghee, kuti, khoi, kwa mulungu wamoto pa zomwe wapemphedwa kubwezera. Ukwati umawonjezera kwa 'ife,' wina amalenga monga momwe amachotsera tanthauzo la 'ine'.
Ndipo 'chotengedwa'cho ndi chopukutidwa ndi mpweya kapena kuoneka ngati chaching'ono. Kawiri kawiri timakambidwa ndi ubwino wa mgwirizano wokha. Ganizirani za malonda a mabiliyoni ambiri omwe amatigulitsa chimwemwe ndi tanthauzo kudzera mu chikondi ndi ukwati. Ganizirani za mabungwe ndi mautumiki kuti awongole gudumu ngati litayika, taganizirani za kudzudzula ndi manyazi zomwe zimakakamizika kwa otchedwa mavericks omwe amayesa kunena za kukayikira kapena kusakhutira kwawo.
Kuopa kunyozedwa ndi kusiyidwa, kuchokera kwa achibale awo kupita kwa omwe akuyang'anira bungweli - malamulo, chipembedzo ndi anthu, ndizokwanira kuti tisiye kukwiya kwathu ndikuvomerezana, ngakhale kuseri kwa zitseko zotsekedwa komanso mobisa titha kuchita zomwe tikuganiza kuti titha kuthawa! Koma tonse timadziwa ndikunjenjemera ndi zotsatira zake zikawululidwa!
Pali ndalama, ndalama zatsiku ndi tsiku, zomwe mgwirizanowu umapereka, kaya tikuwavomereza kapena ayi ndipo amatichotsera, nthawi zina pang'ono, nthawi zina ndalama zambiri, kaya ndife ochita malonda ake kapena ayi. Ndipo, monga momwe zimaperekera ndizofunikira, zomwe zimachotsanso, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zofunikira!
Aliyense amene ali kunja kwa mgwirizanowo ali ndi mwayi wochepa wopeza aŵiriwo mumgwirizanowo ndipo amene ali m’katimo angangokulitsa unansi wochuluka ndi amene ali kunja kwa mgwirizanowo. Apa ndikugwiritsa ntchito ubale wapamtima mokulirapo, kuphatikiza malingaliro, malingaliro ndi uzimu osati thupi lokha. Ife, gulu lamagulu, muzinthu zenizeni komanso nzeru zolungama, timatsogozedwa ndi gulu lonselo kapena kuchenjezedwa kuti tisapange maubwenzi ozama nawo.
Tangoganizani kutayika kwa kulekerera ziwalo za ife tokha, kuwululidwa kokha poyankha wina mwamphamvu. Tangoganizani kupendekera kwa mayanjano ochepera oterowo ndi kunyong'onyeka kotereku kumabweretsa, ganizirani za mphamvu zowonongeka ndi chilakolako chosowa ntchito ndi pamene wina amapereka, ganizirani za ululu wa kuperekedwa ndi chinyengo.
M'malo mwake, mphamvu zambiri, nthawi ndi zinthu zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pawekha zimawoneka ngati zotsutsana ndi mgwirizano komanso kudzikonda kwambiri, zomwe zimatsutsana ndi zomwe zimakhala 'mnzako' wabwino kapena mwamuna kapena mkazi. Ndi kuti komanso bwanji, timalankhula zosagwirizana zomwe timamva tsiku ndi tsiku, kaya m'mitima yathu, matupi athu kapena malingaliro athu motsutsana ndi zomwe zakhazikitsidwa ngati chikhalidwe chamagulu?
Chikondi chenicheni chimakhala kwamuyaya. Anzathu amoyo adzakwaniritsa zosowa zathu zonse. Ndife olakwa mwanjira inayake ngati tikopeka ndi wina. Monogamy ndi za kusinthika. Tidzafuna omwe timawakonda!
Buku limene ndikugwira ntchito, limafunsanso mfundo zimenezi. Ndiko kufunsa za tsogolo la chikondi, kugonana, chikondi ndi chilakolako cha kusakhulupirika ndi kusakhulupirika mu ubale wautali. Kodi chikondi ndi zikhumbo zimatsata njira yowongoka monga tauzidwa? Kodi pali bwenzi la moyo kwa aliyense ndipo ngati timupeza tidzafika pa chikondi chamuyaya ndipo china chilichonse chidzagwera m'malo mwake?
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Kodi ndi bwino nthawi zina kudana ndi munthu yemwe timamukonda? Kodi makonzedwe a ukwati amayendera limodzi ndi chibadwa chathu? Kodi tinapangidwadi kukhala ndi mwamuna mmodzi (ogonana naye m'modzi yekha)? Kodi ndizosavuta, monga momwe amanenera otsatsa? Mugule cologne kapena piritsi ili kuti mukhumbe, ma diamondi amenewo kapena chakudya chamadzulo chausiku chamakandulo chachikondi? Ngati tikopeka ndi wina, kodi zikutanthauza kuti sitikonda mnzathu kapena mnzathu? Kodi zinthu zilidi zoyera ndi zakuda?
Kafukufuku amene ndalemba wokhudzana ndi bedi laukwati. Poganizira kuti bedi laukwati lili mkati mwa chipinda chogona, ndizovuta kumvetsetsa momwe maanja amakhudzirana wina ndi mnzake mu chikhalidwe chomwe chilipo. Ngakhale kuti kugonana ndizochitika zachinsinsi, zikhalidwe zake zimakhazikika mobwerezabwereza kudzera m'njira zosiyanasiyana, nthawi zingati zomwe zimakhala zachilendo, zomwe zimakhala zachilendo, lingaliro la kukula kwake, libido ya amayi poyerekeza ndi amuna ndi zina zotero.
Nditafunsana ndi asing'anga ambiri, akatswiri ofufuza za kugonana ndi alangizi, ndidayamba kuyankhulana maso ndi maso kuti ndimvetsetse chifukwa chomwe ndidasonkhanitsa kuchokera kwa iwo. Zinadziwika komanso monga momwe zimayembekezeredwa, kuti anthu sakhala omasuka kukhala oona mtima monga akadakhalira, ngati sakudziwika. Kuopa kuweruzidwa ndi kunyozedwa ndi kwakukulu kuposa kungofuna kuuza ena zoona zake zenizeni. The kafukufuku anabadwira mu mpata umenewo.
Komabe, masiku ano kapena odziwitsidwa tikhoza kudzitcha tokha, chowonadi ndi chakuti pali kusakhutira kwakukulu, chisokonezo, mikangano yokhudzana ndi chikondi, kugonana ndi kukhulupirika m'banja lakumatauni. Ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri, izi zimatsukidwa pansi pa kapeti chifukwa cha kusunga chikhalidwe, (werengani ana, mtendere panyumba, zokolola kuntchito ndi zina zotero.) Koma kusagwirizana kumatuluka ndipo ngati sikunathetsedwe kumawola maziko enieni a kukula, chimwemwe ndi mtendere zomwe ife mosadziwa timayesera kuchirikiza. Nthawi zina, zimachedwa kwambiri. Kafukufukuyu amakufunsani mafunso pabedi lanu laukwati, zisakutengereni kupitilira mphindi zingapo koma zikhala ndi inu kwamasiku ndikukupangitsani kufunsa mafunso omwe mwakhala mukukumana nawo mopepuka kapena mukulimbana nawo.
Limodzi la mafunso m’kafukufuku wathu linali lakuti, ‘Kodi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amasangalala ndi moyo wa kugonana?’ Ponseponse, 53% anthu adayankha Ayi ndipo (zoyipa kwambiri), 'Sindikudziwa.' Mafunso angapo pambuyo pake, ndinafunsa kuti, 'Ngati ndipo pamene panali nkhani yokhudza kugonana, kodi munapitako kwa dokotala kapena phungu?' 93% adamwalira. Ndipo ngati, ndipo pamene, mmodzi wa okwatiranawo agonjera ku kuyimitsidwa kwa usiku umodzi kapena chibwenzi, anthu omwewo mwachiwonekere adzapita m’kugwedezeka kwakukulu, kukwiya, ndi kukhumudwa. Kafukufukuyu adzakupangitsani kuganiza, kodi pali kusiyana pakati pa zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri komanso momwe timazichitira. Dokotala wina amene ndinakumana naye posachedwapa anati 'fufuzani mbiri ya galimoto ya anthu, imayenda pa tsiku', afunseni ngati akwaniritsa mbiri yawo yapachaka ndipo simunatchulepo kanthu!'
Tikubwereranso ku kafukufukuyu yankho lina lochititsa chidwi la funso lakuti: 'Kodi munayamba mwakhalapo ndi chibwenzi kunja kwa banja?' anali, 'kucheza pang'ono ndi amuna ena kumandipangitsa kukhala wosangalala.' Izi zidatibweretsa ku mafunso ozama: Kodi ndizowona kuti libido yamwamuna ndi yamphamvu kuposa ya kugonana kosangalatsa?
'Monkey Survey' samafunsa dzina lanu kapena imelo id. Imasunga chinsinsi komanso kusadziwika. Palibe njira yomwe gawo lililonse la mayankho/mayankho anu lingalumikizidwe ndi inu.
Mayankho anu okha ndi omwe adzalembedwe.
Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
Inde. Ukwati ukhoza kutsimikizira chikondi ndi chilakolako. Zilibe kanthu kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi ali m'banja nthawi yayitali bwanji, zitha kukhala zaka 50 koma chikondi ndi chilakolako zitha kukhalapo. Ukwati uli ngati Munda Wobiriwira Wobiriwira. Amuna okwatirana amakhalapo kuti asunge Garden ndi Grass Green. Okwatirana amatha kulima dimba lobiriwira kapena kusiya dimbalo kuti liwonongeke ndikuumitsa dimba, kudzudzula dimbalo ndikuyang'ana kwina komwe Gross ndi wobiriwira. Izi n’zimene zimachitika m’banja. Sikuti ukwati ndi wautali choncho chithumwa/moto/chilakolako/chikondi chapita. Ndi chifukwa chakuti okwatirana ndi odzikonda, sachitapo kanthu kukulitsa chikondi, chikhumbo ndi chikondi ku moyo wosangalala, ndi kutaya makhalidwe, makhalidwe, makhalidwe, malumbiro a ukwati ndi kudzipereka ku fumbi ndiyeno amayamba chinyengo mwina usiku umodzi kapena zochitika zawo podzudzula zina kapena zochitika zawo. Oyenera kuimbidwa mlandu - osati dongosolo laukwati, koma m'modzi yekha wodzudzulidwa ndi wodzikonda, wopanda manyazi, waulesi, wamantha komanso okwatirana opanda khalidwe chifukwa aliyense wa m'banjamo sakanatha kutsogolera ndi kukonza zinthu popanda njira zomwe zilipo, palibe njira zomwe zingathandize kuti chikondi ndi chisangalalo zipitirize kukhala ndi moyo ndi anthu omwewo omwe sakanatha kuyambitsa ndipo iwo ndi amantha kapena sakanatha kusangalala ndi chiyanjano. moyo monga momwe amafunira koma mopanda manyazi kusiya ulemu ndi makhalidwe abwino ndikuchita chinyengo pogona ndi munthu wachitatu. Wobera aliyense amati, kaya ndi chibwenzi kapena usiku umodzi, amafufuza maudindo osiyanasiyana, masewero osiyanasiyana ndi ena ambiri, amagazi omwe anawaletsa kuti afufuze ndi anzawo ofunikira? Kodi adakambiranapo zomwe amayembekezera ndikuchita izi ndi anzawo ofunikira, sichoncho? Kodi adafikirapo kwa alangizi othandizira, sichoncho? Chifukwa chiyani chifukwa sakonda anzawo ofunikira (amasokoneza udindo wawo ndi chikondi) ndipo safuna kukonza ukwati wawo mogwirizana ndi zomwe akuyembekezera kuti athe kunyenga ndikusangalala ndi munthu wachitatu mopanda manyazi kumbuyo kwa mnzawo ndikuwadzudzula chifukwa cha izi. Ndicho chifukwa chake onse onyenga samagwirira ntchito zaukwati wawo asanachite chinyengo kuti azisangalala kugona ndi munthu wachitatu kuti athe kuimba mlandu mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo ndi mikhalidwe. Onyenga zomwe adathandizira kuti ukwati wawo ukhale wabwino, palibe ndipo amayembekeza kuti chilichonse chichitidwe ndi anzawo. Onyenga onse amapita patsogolo pa mfundo yakuti "Ghar Ki Chor Ko ngakhale Mulungu sangagwire". Pali mabanja ambiri omwe chikondi, chikondi ndi chikhumbo zimakhalapo ngakhale pambuyo pa 40 yrs m'banja koma zili m'manja mwawo. Amatha kuwononga kapena kupangitsa kuti ukwati ukhale wosangalatsa. Momwe munthu angakhalire ndi munthu yemweyo kwa 40 yrs ndi zifukwa zina ndi zifukwa zomveka zochitira chinyengo. Ndizomwezo. Spark, chikondi, zilakolako zili m'malingaliro ndipo ngati wina ali wowona kwa wina wake & malingaliro omwewo amatulutsa chikhumbo ndi chikondi kwa ena ofunikira. Ngati diso la munthu lili lokongola—amatha kuona zabwino mwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo, amayamikira zimene ali nazo mwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo, akhoza kuyamikira zimene mwamuna kapena mkazi wake ali, amakhala ndi chikondi chopanda dyera kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo, chikondi ndi chikhumbo sizidzatha mosasamala kanthu za msinkhu ndi zaka za m’banja, apo ayi aliyense kunja kwa ukwati wawo adzawoneka wachikondi ndi wotentha kupatulapo mwamuna kapena mkazi wake. Ndi pyshe ndi malingaliro omwe amapangitsa chikondi ndi chikhumbo kukhala chatanthauzo kapena kuwapangitsa kukhala onyenga poimba mlandu chilichonse kupatula iwo okha.