Kodi ubale wabwino umawoneka bwanji kwa inu? Mwina lonjezo la chikondi chopanda malire, chosagwedezeka? Kapena mwina chikondi changwiro ndi ubale waukulu ndi munthu simungathe kupeza zokwanira. Winawake mumamumvetsa, wina amene amakumvetsani. Ubwenzi umene mumadziwana mkati, ndipo palibe malo oweruzira.
'Ubale wangwiro' wakhala kale maloto osamveka omwe aliyense akuyang'ana kuti asinthe. Zikayamba kuwoneka ngati mpikisano wolimbana ndi nthawi komanso ngati kuti milungu sakukuyang'anirani, ziyembekezo zanu zopeza 'ubwenzi wabwino' zitha kungogunda.
N'zosadabwitsa kuti palibe ubale wangwiro. Ngakhale mukakhala m'gulu limodzi, zimatha kuwoneka ngati palibe chinthu chabwino kwambiri kuposa zomwe kutengeka kwanu kumakupangitsani kuwona. Tiyeni tikambirane zambiri za momwe ubale wangwiro umakhalira, ngati ulipo, komanso momwe ubale wabwino ulili.
Kodi “Ubale Wangwiro” Umatanthauza Chiyani?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kukonda ndiko, choyamba, kuchotsa munthu pagulu la anthu, kuchotsa dziko lapansi, ndikunyalanyaza chilichonse chomwe sichikondedwa. Wosankhidwayo ayenera kutsimikizira tsiku lililonse kuti wokondayo anali wolondola kumuyika pamtengo ndikunyoza ena omwe angakhale oyenerera.
Ganizirani momwe mumakhalira / kukhala / kugwira ntchito ndi amayi anu kapena mamembala ena atsiku ndi tsiku kapena abwenzi apamtima mnyumba mwanu kapena kumalo omwe mumawadziwa. Ndinu, wokondweretsa ndi zosasangalatsa, zotsekemera ndi zowawasa, zokongola ndi zosautsa, et nonse. Ndiwe phukusi, wowona ngati enawo. Tsopano, taganizirani chakudya chamadzulo chomwe mwakhala mukumwalira kuti muitanidwe. Umu ndi momwe udzakhalire. Ndipo inu mukutero. Mwadzidzidzi, malingaliro akuti 'sindisamala' asinthidwa ndikukonza chilichonse chomwe chikuwoneka chocheperako. Mumasintha kangapo, gwiritsani ntchito tsitsi lanu, khungu lanu, ngakhale malingaliro anu.
Mumapukuta ndi kuyeretsa, mumalamulira ndikuletsa, mumabwereza zokambirana m'mutu mwanu, ngakhale muthamangire pa data bank kuti mudziwe zambiri, ndipo mumayika phazi lanu patsogolo pamene mukulowa phwandolo. Wokondedwa wanu amachitanso zimenezo! Cupid imagunda ndipo nonse awiri mwagunda.
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Pamene "ubwenzi wangwiro" umakhala weniweni
Pali awiri a inu mukuyika nkhope yanu yabwino kutsogolo ndiyeno pali Cupid, zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti musawone china chilichonse koma zabwino mwa zina. Ndipo magawo a chikondi omwe Stendhal amakamba akuyamba; kuchokera ku kusilira 'ena', mumapita kukayembekeza (zingakhale bwanji kukhala ndi okondedwa m'manja mwanga) ndiyeno kukonda monga wokondedwa imabweretsa kukhudzika mtima. Pakuti, chomwe chili chokongola kuposa kusangalala ndi zosangalatsa za chikondi, kuwona, kugawana, kukhudza, ndi kukondedwa mobwezera.
Inu mbiri chikwi angwiro kwa wokondedwa wanu monga iye / iye amachitira kwa inu. Nanga bwanji phukusi, mbali inayo, yopanda ungwiro? Kodi sichosangalatsa kwambiri, chokwiyitsa kapena chotsutsa, gawo losagwirizana? Iwo kulibe kapena sakuwoneka kapena kuzimiririka kukhala zosafunikira!
Monga ananenera Stendhal mu chiphunzitso chake cha crystallization, "munthu amangofunika kulota zangwiro kuti awapeze mwa wokondedwa."
Ndipo podziteteza, tinganene kuti amakhulupirira ungwiro umenewu ndi mphamvu zawo zonse. Sanapusitsidwe akamuuza kuti iye ndi munthu wofunika kwambiri, wokonda zakuthupi padziko lapansi, ngakhale abwenzi ake onse atamuganizira kuti ndi wotopa. Saname akamuuza kuti ndi wanzeru komanso wokongola, ngakhale palibe amene angavomereze.
Kodi Chikondi Chiyenera Kukhala Changwiro Nthawi Zonse?
Ndipo kotero inu mumamuyika iye pa chopondapo ndipo iye amakuikani inu pa chopondapo. Komanso saloledwa kukwera pansi! Kuyesa kulikonse kutsika kumawonedwa ngati kusakhulupirika. 'Mwasintha', ndi zomwe nthawi zambiri timaneneza wokondedwa wathu, kapena kutiimba mlandu.
Pamene mphamvu ya chikondi ikuchepa, timasiya maganizo ndikuyamba kuona zinthu zomwe sitikonda mwa okondedwa athu. Sikuti sitikonda omwe iwo ali kwenikweni, kungoti izo zinkawoneka, mu chinyengo cha chikondi, kuti iwo anali chirichonse chimene ife timakonda kwenikweni. Ndipo kotero pamene tikumenyana ndi kugonana, kusunga nyumba, ndalama, zakumwa zingati paphwando kapena mausiku angati a mbawala pamwezi, tikukambirana za nitty-gritty yokhala pamodzi ndi munthu 'weniweni' yemwe timakumana naye tsiku lililonse kamodzi crystallization yatha.
Wolemba ndakatulo wina dzina lake DH Laurence anati: “Tapanga vuto lalikulu la chikondi kuyambira pamene tinachita bwino.” Zolinga zimakhala ngati cholepheretsa chibadwa, chilakolako, ndi kuyamikira chikhalidwe cha munthu monga momwe zilili.
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Chikondi sichangwiro
Baibulo pa 1 Akorinto 13 limati: “Chikondi n’choleza mtima, n’chokoma mtima, sichichita nsanje, sichidzitama, sichidzikuza, chimateteza nthawi zonse, chimakhulupirira nthawi zonse, chiyembekeza nthawi zonse, chipirira nthawi zonse. Ngakhale kuti maubwenzi sali angwiro, mwinamwake wapafupi omwe tingayembekezere kufika ku chikondi changwiro ndi womwe umapirira nthawi zonse.
Timakonda mmene anthu angakonde, ndiko kuti, mopanda ungwiro. Chikondi n'chopanda ungwiro choncho n'chopunduka kosatha. Kusinthasintha kumapangitsa kuti ubale ukhalepo ndikusintha zosowa ndi zikhumbo. Kukonda kuli ndi mbali ziwiri, kukonda munthu chifukwa cha mmene iye alili ndiponso kukonda munthu ngakhale kuti iye si munthu wotani.” Tagulitsidwa lingaliro ili la 'chikondi chamuyaya' Ndipo ngati sichili changwiro ndiye tiyenera kuchikonza ndipo kuti tichitepo kanthu, kuchokera pamakhadi kupita ku zovala zamkati kupita ku diamondi kupita kutchuthi, kumafuta onunkhira, mpaka…
Ibibazo
Palibe munthu yemwe ali wangwiro, choncho lingaliro la "chikondi changwiro" likhoza kukhala nthano chabe. Ayi, chikondi sichiyenera kukhala changwiro kuti chikhale chokhutiritsa, chokhutiritsa ndi cholimbikitsa. Ubwenzi suyenera kukhala wabwino nthawi zonse kuti okondedwawo akhale osangalala.
Ubale wangwiro umamangidwa podalirana, kulankhulana momasuka ndi kulemekezana. Zomwe zimafunikira paubwenzi uliwonse zimasintha kuchokera ku banja kupita ku banja, koma zoyambira, zina zomwe tazilemba, ziyenera kupezeka mu ubale uliwonse. The makhalidwe a ubale wabwino zonse ziyenera kukhalapo kuti ubale wanu ukhale "wangwiro".
Ngati mukufuna ubale wabwino, madeti okongola ndi mphatso zosayembekezereka zonse zikuyenda bwino, koma chofunikira kwambiri ndi momwe inu nonse mumalumikizirana wina ndi mnzake. Ubale wanu uyenera kukhala ndi kukhulupirirana, kulemekezana, kulankhulana momasuka, malire abwino komanso, chikondi. Ubale wangwiro ndi chinthu choti mufotokoze, koma zoyambira monga kudalirana ndi ulemu ziyenera kupezeka mu ubale uliwonse.
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