Kukhala m'chikondi ndi kukondedwa pobwezera mwina ndikumverera kodabwitsa kwambiri padziko lapansi. Koma tiyeni tivomereze, ngakhale maubwenzi abwino kwambiri amasokonekera chifukwa cha zifukwa zambiri. Nthawi zina, izi zitha kuchitika chifukwa cha zinthu zakunja - munthu wachitatu, mavuto azachuma, kapena mavuto am'banja, kungotchula ochepa chabe - koma kodi munamvapo za kuwononga ubale?
Nthawi zina timatha kuwononga ubale wathu mosazindikira, osadziwa zomwe tikuchita. Zikatero, zinthu zikavuta, tiyenera kudziyang'ana tokha nthawi yayitali ndikuzindikira mavuto athu. Komabe, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita. Kuti titsimikizire kuti simukukhala mumkhalidwe woipawu, tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni kukulitsa chidziwitso chokhudza machitidwe odziwononga pogwiritsa ntchito nzeru kuchokera kwa katswiri wolangiza Kavita Panyam (Masters in Counseling Psychology), Masters in Psychology komanso wogwirizana ndi bungwe lapadziko lonse la American Psychological Association), yemwe wakhala akuthandiza maanja kuthana ndi mavuto awo aubwenzi kwa zaka zoposa makumi awiri.
Kodi Kudziwononga Ndi Chiyani?
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Kodi n’chiyani chimayambitsa khalidwe lodziwononga muubwenzi? Kuwononga ubale mosadziwa kumachokera kwa munthu wotsutsa wamkati. Malinga ndi Kavita, khalidwe lodziwononga nthawi zambiri limabwera chifukwa cha kudziona kuti ndi wosafunika komanso kulephera kudzimasula ku nkhawa. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna angawononge ubale chifukwa cha nkhawa yokhudza chibwenzi.
Makhalidwe odziwononga muubwenzi angatanthauzidwe ngati machitidwe omwe amabweretsa mavuto m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku ndikusokoneza zolinga zanu, kaya m'malo mwanu kapena pantchito. Koma zotsatira zoyipa kwambiri za machitidwe otere zingakhale pa moyo wanu wachikondi. Kodi chitsanzo cha kuwononga ubale chifukwa cha mantha chingakhale chiyani? Nkhani iyi ya m'modzi mwa owerenga a Bonobology ochokera ku Milwaukee ingathandize kuyika zinthu moyenera. "Ndinawononga ubale wanga ndipo ndinadandaula. Ndinkachita chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wabwino koma nthawi zonse ndinkaganiza kuti, " Kodi akunyenga kapena ndikuopa?" Umu ndi momwe ndinamuthamangitsira kutali ndipo pamapeto pake, ndinamutaya," akutero.
“Khalidwe lodziwononga pa maubwenzi lili ngati kukhala ndi munthu wosuliza wamkati.” Kumawononga malingaliro, zolankhula, zochita, ndi khalidwe, ndi kukulepheretsani kukhala ndi mayanjano atanthauzo, moyo wokhutiritsa wantchito, ndipo potsirizira pake kumakhudza mbali iriyonse ya moyo wanu,” akutero Kavita. Nthawi zambiri, simungazindikire kuti mukuwononga ubale wanu mosadziwa. Zitha kukhala kudzera m'mawu kapena zochita, koma mumangothamangitsa anthu omwe mumawakonda komanso omwe, kaya mumakhulupirira kapena ayi, amakukondani.
Izi ndi momwe zizindikiro zodziwonongera muubwenzi zimawonekera:
- Mumakhala osatetezeka paubwenzi wanu ndipo pamapeto pake mumayimba mafoni 20 kwa okondedwa wanu tsiku lonse
- Mukuvutika kutumizirana mameseji nkhawa. Ngati mnzanuyo sabwereranso ku lemba lanu nthawi yomweyo, mumakhumudwa ndipo mumamva kuti simukunyalanyaza
- Simungathe kuthetsa kusamvana mwamtendere. Mwina mumalimbana ndi ndewu zonyansa kapena mumachoka pazochitika zinazake ndikupitiriza kumugenda wokondedwa wanu
- Mumavutika ndi kuledzera kapena vutoli ndipo kulephera kwanu kuthana ndi kumwerekera kwanu kwawononga ubale wanu
- Mumasuntha kuchoka ku ntchito ina kupita ku ina, kumazengereza ntchito zofunika ndipo simungathe kuyanjana ndi aliyense, kaya muzantchito zanu kapena pamoyo wanu.
- Nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi malingaliro odzigonjetsera, kukayikira luso lanu komanso kukhutiritsa nthawi yomweyo ngati zakudya zopanda thanzi.
- Nthawi zonse mumaganiza kuti ubale wanu utha ndikukupweteketsani, kotero simukufuna kuwonetsa mbali yanu pachiwopsezo kwa wokondedwa wanu
Nchiyani Chimachititsa Makhalidwe Odziwononga?
Funso lalikulu: Chifukwa chiyani timachita izi? N’cifukwa ciani timaononga zinthu zimene zimatipatsa cimwemwe? Nthawi zambiri, zochita zathu ngati akuluakulu zimatha kutsatiridwa ndi zomwe takumana nazo paubwana wathu komanso momwemonso. Nazi zifukwa zina zodziwonongera pa maubwenzi:
- Kudziona kopanda ulemu komanso kudzilankhula kolakwika
- Makolo poizoni amene nthawi zonse amadzudzula, kulamulira ndi kukhomerera mantha kulephera mwa inu
- Makolo ochitira nkhanza kapena kuchitira umboni paubwenzi wankhanza
- Kusweka mtima ndili wamng'ono
- Kuopa kusiyidwa
- Masitayilo olumikizidwa osatetezedwa
“Makolo odzudzula, kholo lamwano, lodzidalira, kapena kholo lodzichitira okha zinthu nthawi zambiri ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu za khalidwe lodziwononga.” Amenewa ndi anthu amene sakulolani kuti mulephere, kufufuza, kapena kulakwitsa zinthu.
"Amakupatsirani malangizo okhwima oti mukhale ndi moyo ndikugwira ntchito, koma popeza simunafufuze luso lanu, simungathe kuchita bwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mulibe malingaliro odziona ngati ndinu ofunika kapena odziona kuti ndinu ofunika. Ndipo ngati simukuchita bwino, amakuimbani mlandu chifukwa cha zimenezo. Ili ndi lupanga lakuthwa konsekonse," akutero Kavita.
Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mkazi amene amawononga ubwenzi kapena mwamuna wofuna kudziwononga sikophweka ndipo kungayambitse mikangano yakuya ndi kupatukana. Pamene munthu woteroyo afika mu ubwenzi wotsatira, iwo nthawizonse amaona kuti zingapite njira yomweyo ndipo iwo amayamba sabotaging izo subconsciously. Kuti muchotse maganizo odziwononga oterowo, m'pofunika kuzindikira kaye zizindikiro zowononga maunansi awo kuti muwawononge.
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Kodi Maubwenzi Odziwononga Ndi Chiyani?
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani mukamaliza kuwononga ubale chifukwa cha mantha? Maubwenzi odziwononga okha ndi awa:
- Mgwirizano wovuta kwambiri komanso wopanda thanzi pakati pa zibwenzi
- Kuopa kosalekeza kuti ubalewu utha ndipo sungathe
- Nsanje, kusatetezeka, kukhala ndi chuma, ndi nkhawa
- Kudya molakwika, kumwa/kusuta kwambiri
- Kukhala chete kapena kumenyetsa miyala
- Zoyembekeza zosayembekezereka komanso kudzudzula kwambiri mnzanuyo
"Wotsutsa wanu wamkati ndi woyang'anira ntchito wokhwima yemwe ndi wovuta kumukondweretsa ndipo nthawi zonse amayang'ana khalidwe lofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa. Izi ndi zopanda nzeru chifukwa anthu ndi opanda ungwiro ndipo amatha kusintha kosatha. Zokakamizika zomwe mumadziika pa nokha nthawi zambiri zimakupangitsani kulephera kugawira ena ntchito ndikukusiyani wodzaza ndi nkhani zodalirika, kusatetezeka, ndi chizolowezi chosunga zakale.
11 Zitsanzo za Makhalidwe Odziwononga
Katswiri wazachipatala komanso wolemba Robert Firestone akuti nthawi zonse timalankhulana ndi mawu athu amkati nthawi iliyonse yomwe tichita chilichonse. Koma pamene liwu lamkatilo likhala "lodzitsutsa", ndiye kuti timadzitsutsa tokha ndikukhala odzidzudzula komanso odziwononga tokha. Timatha kuwononga maubale athu mosadziwa.
Takuuzani zizindikiro za khalidwe lodziwononga komanso zomwe zimayambitsa khalidwe lotere. Tsopano, tafika pa momwe izi zimawonongera maubwenzi mosazindikira. Kuti timvetse zimenezo, tiyeni tikambirane zitsanzo 11 za momwe anthu owononga amachitira zinthu.
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1. Kukhala wonyada komanso wosakhulupirira
Nkhawa ndi malingaliro omwe aliyense amakumana nawo mwanjira ina iliyonse, koma kwa anthu ena, nkhawa imeneyi imatha kukhala yofooketsa komanso yowononga kwambiri moti imayamba kukhudza mbali iliyonse ya moyo wawo. Myra ndi Logan anayamba kukhala limodzi atakhala pachibwenzi kwa chaka chimodzi. Poyamba Myra ankaona khalidwe la Logan ngati nkhawa yatsopano paubwenzi koma anazindikira kuipa kwake atangoyamba kukhala limodzi.
“Nthaŵi zonse ankadera nkhaŵa kuti chinachake chingandichitikire.” Ndikachedwa ndi theka la ola kuchokera kuntchito, ankaganiza kuti ndachita ngozi.
Myra ndi Logan anasweka patapita chaka chimodzi pamene Myra sanathenso kutenga nkhawa yaikulu ya Logan. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chodziwika bwino cha momwe nkhawa ingabweretsere malingaliro odziwononga komanso chifukwa chake muyenera kuphunzira kuthana ndi nkhawa zanu kuti mupange ubale wanu.
2. Kudzimvera chisoni kwambiri
Kodi mumangodzidzudzula nthawi zonse? Kodi ndinu osangalatsa anthu? Kodi simudzitamandira? Kudziletsa nokha ndi kudzichepetsera mwina zimagwirizana mwachindunji. Pano pali chitsanzo cha mkazi amene sabotages ubwenzi. Nthawi zonse Violet ankangokhalira kudwala ndipo mayi ake ankamupha ndi njala nthawi zonse kuti achepetse thupi. Mayi ake angamuchititse manyazi ndipo anakula ndi maganizo oipa.
Pamene adapita kukacheza ndi anyamata ndipo adamuyamikira, sakanatha kuwakhulupirira ndipo adawona kuti akunama ndipo sanabwererenso tsiku lina. Anali wodziwononga yekha popanda kuzindikira.
"Ndinachita chibwenzi ndi amuna awiri koma ndinali wotanganidwa kwambiri ndi thupi langa ndipo nthawi zonse ndinkangokhalira kudzudzula maonekedwe anga, mawonekedwe anga, nkhope yanga moti ananditopa mwamsanga. Ndinapita kuchipatala ndipo kenako ndinaphunzira kudzikonda ndekha," akukumbukira motero Violet. Pazimenezi, Kavita akuti, “Kugwirizana kwabwino ndi kumene umakhala wololera kuyamikila ena ndi kusakhalanso pansi. Pamene sumva bwino mokwanira, ukakhala wodzazidwa ndi mawu oipa, ukhoza kuyambitsa nsanje ndi kudzidzudzula koopsa.”
3. Kukhala wotsutsa kwambiri
Sikuti inu nokha ndi amene mumaona kuti mukudzudzulidwa mopanda chifukwa, mungakumanenso ndi mnzanuyo mosadziwa ndi mawu ndi zochita zosayenera. Nthawi zambiri, munganene zinthu zomwe mumadzimvera chisoni nazo pambuyo pake , koma pakapita nthawi, kuwonongekako kumakhala kwatha. Mwa kungoseka nkhani zazing'ono, kusonyeza kukayikira komanso kusakhulupirirana, mukuwononga ubale wanu mosazindikira.
Betty ndi Kevin anali atakhala m’banja zaka ziŵiri, ndipo m’kupita kwa nthaŵi, Betty anayamba kuzindikira kuti kudzudzulidwa kunam’pangitsa Kevin kukhala wodziletsa. “Ndikapanga pasitala ndi kulongedza kaamba ka chakudya chake chamasana, iye amandiyitanadi kuchokera kuntchito kundiuza kuti ndaiwala oregano. Betty anasudzulana ndi Kevin patatha zaka ziwiri, pozindikira kuti kudzudzula kwake kunali kukuipiraipira ndipo mwina kunali kozama kwambiri kuti asinthe.
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4. Kuchita modzikonda
Marisa akuvomereza kuti nthawi zonse ankapanga ubale wake ndi iye mwini. Ankaganiza kuti anali ndi chibwenzi chodzikonda koma sanazindikire kuti ndi iye amene anali wodzikonda. "Nditakwatiwa, nthawi zonse ndinkadandaula kuti mwamuna wanga sankandisamalira. Ngakhale nditagwira ntchito mwakhama tsiku lonse, ndinkafuna kuti andimvere, anditengere kukadya chakudya chamadzulo, komanso kuti azipita nane kokayenda. Nthawi zonse ndinkangoganizira za ine. Ndinazindikira zomwe ndinachita pamene adapempha chisudzulo," akudandaula.
“Chomwe chimakhudza khalidwe lodziwonongera m’maubwenzi n’chakuti mumapanga zibwenzi n’kumaganizira zimene simukuzifuna ndiyeno n’kumayesetsa kuchita zimene mukufuna,” akutero Kavita, “Choncho, m’malo moganiza kuti, “Ndikufuna mnzanga amene amandimvetsera,” mumaganiza kuti, “Sindikufuna mnzako amene sandipatsa zimene ndikufuna. Ili likhoza kukhala lamulo lalikulu kwa mnzako aliyense kuti apirire ndipo alibe thanzi lililonse. ”
5. Kuwomba zinthu mopanda malire
Kodi mumakhala ndi chizolowezi chopereka tanthauzo ku zinthu zomwe mulibe? Kodi mumalankhula mochepa ndikusanthula zambiri? Ngati mutero, dziŵani kuti malingaliro owononga oterowo angaphatikizepo imfa ya unansi wanu. Rose anawomba top yake atazindikira kuti bwenzi lake lili ndi zolaula.
Anamupempha kuti asawonenso zolaula koma adadabwa atazindikira kuti adazichitabe ngakhale atakwatirana. Rose anati: “Ndinapanga nkhani yaikulu chifukwa ndinkaona kuti wandinyenga poyang’ana akazi ena.” Tinasudzulana, koma tsopano ndikaganizira za m’mbuyo, ndimaona kuti ndinapanga phiri kuchokera ku phiri linalake.
6. Kuyesera kukhala munthu yemwe simuli
Akazi ndi akatswiri pa zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana ndipo amuna amakhala ovuta kuwawerenga, koma mukapitirira muyeso, mumadzionetsera kuti ndinu munthu amene simuli, mutha kuwononga ubale wanu mosazindikira. Ravi, Mmwenye yemwe anakhazikika ku US, anachokera m'banja lokonda kusunga malamulo. Veronica atamukonda, anayamba kudzionetsera ngati mtsikana amene banja la Ravi lingamukonde.
Anali munthu wopanda mzimu, yemwe ankakonda maulendo a tchuthi okhaokha monga momwe ankakonda kukhalira limodzi kumapeto kwa sabata ndi abwenzi ake, koma kuti akope Ravi adayesa kukhala mbalame yakunyumba. Koma ndizovuta kupanga umunthu wabodza kwa nthawi yayitali. Ravi adaziwona ndikuzisiya. Koma Veronica, yemwe amamukondabe, akuwona kuti amayenera kukhala paubwenzi, m'malo moyesera kupanga munthu wabodza.
7. Nkhani zokhulupirirana ndi makhalidwe odziwononga zimayendera limodzi
Iye anakuyimirirani inu pa Thanksgiving? Mwina nchifukwa chakuti anakakamira mumsewu kapena china chake chinabwera mwachangu ku ntchito osati chifukwa amacheza ndi Nancy kuofesi yake. Anapita kukamwa ndi anzake aku koleji? Chabwino, ukhoza kungokhala madzulo osangalatsa ndi abwenzi popanda aliyense kuyesera kuti alowe mu thalauza la aliyense.
Ngati yankho losavuta nthawi zonse likuwoneka ngati lolakwika ndipo mukutsimikiza kuti mnzanuyo akukuperekani kapena akufuna kukupwetekani mwanjira ina, ndiye kuti mukuvutika ndi nkhani zozama zokhulupirirana, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimagwirizana ndi machitidwe odziwononga. "Anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro amphamvu mkati nthawi zonse amaona kuti sali okwanira. Amaopa kuti anthu awagwiritse ntchito, kuwavulaza, kapena kukhala ndi zolinga zawo nthawi zonse. Izi zimapangitsa kuti pakhale mavuto aakulu okhulupirirana m'maubwenzi onse, achikondi, a platonic, komanso aukadaulo," akuchenjeza Kavita.
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8. Nsanje yosayenera
Anthu amawononga ubale wawo akalephera kugawana chisangalalo cha zomwe mnzawo wakwaniritsa. Nthawi zina amamva ngati asiyidwa pamene mnzawo wachita zambiri ndipo m'malo momuthandiza kapena kuona kupambana kwawo ngati ntchito ya gulu, amapeza kuti ali m'mavuto a nsanje yosafunikira. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zoyipa kwambiri za kudziwononga nokha muubwenzi.
Kavita anati: "Nsanje siibwino," akutero Kavita, akuwonjezera kuti, "Zimaonekera ngati kudzidzudzula koopsa komwe susangalala ndi zomwe ukuchita. Choipa kwambiri, chingafike poti kudzikayikira kumakupangitsani kuzengereza. Mumadziuza kuti palibe chofunikira chifukwa wina aliyense ali bwino. Mumadziuza kuti muchita zinazake zabwino komanso zathanzi. ena, ndipo wotsutsa wanu wamkati adzakhala wofuula. "
9. Kufunika kukhala wolondola nthawi zonse
Izi zitha kukhala chifukwa nthawi zonse mumafunikira kuwongolera ndipo mumatha kukhala kulamulira wina mu chiyanjano.
Patrick ndi Pia anali ndi malingaliro osiyana a ndale koma mmalo mokangana bwino ponena za izo, iwo amalowa mu ndewu zonyansa ndipo Patrick amalimbikira kupeza mawu omaliza.
Ngakhale palibe kutsutsa kuti malingaliro osiyanasiyana a ndale amatha kuyambitsa mavuto mu maubwenzi, pankhani ya Pia ndi Patrick, chinali chitsanzo chabe cha njira zake zolamulira. “Anali mnyamata wabwino, ndinkamukhulupirira koma sindinkatha kulimbana ndi vuto lake lodzilamulira.” Sindinathe kudziletsa koma kuganiza mosalekeza kuti, “Chibwenzi changa chikuwononga ubale wathu,” anatero Pia.
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10. Kukopana kopanda vuto sikovulaza
Kuseweretsana kopanda vuto kungakhale kothandiza paubwenzi koma kumakhala koipa mukadutsa malire. Anthu ena amakhala ndi chilakolako chosalamulirika choseweretsana ndipo sasamala ngati mnzawo akumva manyazi kapena kupwetekedwa mtima chifukwa cha zimenezi. Izi zimatha kuyambitsa mkangano pakati pa okwatiranawo ndikuwononga ubale wawo. Ndipotu, sizodziwika kuti anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zowononga amabera anzawo ndikuwononga chinthu chabwino chomwe akuchita.
11. Kusakhoza kusiya zakale
"Tangoganizani izi," akutero Kavita, "Mukakumana ndi munthu, mumayesa kukhala mabwenzi, ndikuwona ngati ndinu woyenera. Koma ngati ndinu mwana wa makolo osokonekera, zizolowezi zanu zosokonekera zidzakulepheretsani kupanga ubale weniweni ndi iwo. Mudzayamba kukayikira ubalewo, ndikumakayikira ngati mukupereka mopambanitsa.
“Mumasonkhanitsa zokumana nazo zakale ndikugwiritsa ntchito ngati chizindikiro cha zomwe simukufuna. Kumbukirani, anthu ogwira ntchito bwino amasiya katundu wochulukirapo ndikuyang'ana kwambiri zomwe akufuna,” akuwonjezera. Izi zimachitika makamaka ndi anthu omwe adapwetekedwapo kale ndipo safuna kuti zichitikenso. Amakhala anthu oopa kudzipereka ndipo sangathe kumanga ubale chifukwa amangokhalira kumangotsatira zolakwa zakale. Izi zimachitika kawirikawiri ndipo ichi ndi chitsanzo choipa kwambiri cha machitidwe odziwononga muubwenzi.
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Monga tanenera pamwambapa, kuzindikira ndi sitepe yoyamba yothana ndi khalidwe lanu ndikulikonza. Tonsefe tili ndi ufulu wokhala ndi ubale wabwino womwe umatipangitsa kukhala olemera, osangalala, komanso otetezeka. Zachidziwikire, moyo nthawi zambiri sumakhala wosalala ndipo nkhani iliyonse yachikondi imabwera ndi katundu wake wamaganizo koma pali njira zomwe mungathanirane ndi zizolowezi zanu zodziwononga.
Kodi mungapewe bwanji kuwononga maubwenzi, mukufunsa? Nazi zina zomwe mungayesere:
- Khalani odzikonda
- Yambani kulemba nkhani pafupipafupi momwe mungathere
- Ganizirani musananene kapena kuchitapo kanthu. Samalani mphindi iliyonse
- Siyani zowawa zanu zakale
- Lekani kudziimba mlandu. Kudzidzudzula kwambiri ndi kudzimvera chisoni, kumalire ndi khalidwe la masochist kungakhale kudziwononga. Poyamba, mukhoza kupeza chifundo kuchokera kwa mnzanu, koma posakhalitsa mukhoza kunyansidwa. Ndiyeno, ndi ulendo wotsikira
- Chokani pamalo anu otonthoza. Kaya muzochitika zaukatswiri kapena zaumwini, yesani ndikuchita china chake kuti muphwanye dongosolo. Yambani ndi masitepe ang'onoang'ono. Simunakonde ndemanga yake yonyozeka, yosasamala pa chovala chanu? Muuzeni kuti m’malo momudzudzula posankha mafuta onunkhiritsa, monga mmene munachitira poyamba. Kuthana ndi mavuto mosiyana
- Fufuzani a thandizo la mlangizi. Kuphwanya machitidwe omwe ali ozama kwambiri mu psyche yanu ndipo akhoza kutsatiridwa mpaka ku ubwana wanu kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Kugwira ntchito ndi katswiri wazamisala wophunzitsidwa bwino kumatha kukhala kothandiza kwambiri pakuphwanya machitidwewa ndikuyika zisankho zathanzi.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Makhalidwe odziwononga okha ndi chifukwa cha kuleredwa molakwika komanso kudziona ngati wosafunika
- Amayambitsa kukhumudwa kwambiri, kusatetezeka, komanso kupsinjika mu maubwenzi
- Zimayambitsanso nkhani zodalirika komanso kufunikira kowongolera
- Kuti mupewe makhalidwe otere, yambani kulemba, kusiya zakale ndikupeza chithandizo
"Mukagwidwa ndi khalidwe lodziwononga mu maubwenzi, mumayika anthu pansi pa maikulosikopu, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mwasiyidwa opanda maubwenzi ogwira ntchito kapena nangula. Ingokumbukirani, simungakonde aliyense. Komanso simungakhale osangalala ngati mukuweruza ndi kulemba anthu nthawi zonse, kudzidzudzula nokha ndi iwo chifukwa chosakhala angwiro. Mukangotuluka, mudzakhala ndi moyo wabwino, khalani ndi moyo wabwino, khalani okhoza kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. komanso payekha,” akulangiza motero Kavita.
Ibibazo
Khalidwe lanu lodziwononga limabweretsa kuwononga ubale wanu. Pamene muli gehena-wofuna kudziononga ubwenzi ndi mantha nthawi zonse kuti sizingagwire ntchito ndipo waonongedwa kuyambira pachiyambi, ndi pamene ubale wodziwononga umayamba.
Alangizi ndi akatswiri a zaubwenzi amanena kuti kudziwononga nokha kungakhale chifukwa cha mavuto odzidalira omwe angayambe kuyambira muli mwana. Makolo oipa omwe nthawi zonse amakudzudzula, kulamulira komanso kuopa kulephera akhoza kukhala omwe amachititsa kuti mudziwononge nokha mukakula.
Pali njira zina zomwe mungachite kuti musiye kudzikonda nokha, kuyamba kulemba nkhani zanu nthawi zambiri momwe mungathere, kuganiza musananene kapena kuchitapo kanthu, kukumbukira nthawi iliyonse kapena kusiya zakale zanu.
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
