Tsopano anthu akhala akupatsidwa malo ochezera kuyambira kalekale ndipo mwina simungakhale woyamba ndipo simudzakhala womaliza m'mbiri ya anthu. Julianne adapatsidwa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti mu Ukwati wa My Best Friend's chifukwa anali bwenzi la Michael ndipo amamuwona ngati 'bwenzi'. Ngakhale kuti Julianne anayesa kusokoneza ukwati wa Michael kapena kunena kuti amamukonda, sanadziwe momwe angatulukire malo ochezera a pa Intaneti.
Mufilimu inanso, The Perks Of Being A Wallflower, Charlie amacheza ndi Sam ndi mchimwene wake wopeza Patrick ku High School, koma ubwenzi wawo umasokoneza maganizo awo.
Ambiri a ife timakhala ndi zochitika ngati zimenezi pamene tinkangokhalira kucheza tsiku lonse ndi munthu amene tinakumana naye kwa mwezi umodzi kapena iŵiri kubwerera, tikumafunsana za nyimbo ndi anthu. M’maganizo mwathu, nthaŵi zambiri imeneyi ndi mbali imene mukum’dziŵa bwino munthuyo. Koma kenako bam, bug ya friendzone yatiluma ndipo tabwereranso pagawo limodzi. Tonse timadziwa kumverera kokhala ndi ubwenzi ndipo mukangogunda khoma, mumamva ngati sikubwerera kumasiku abwino akale.
Koma chomwe simukudziwa ndi momwe mungatulukire mu friend zone , kapena momwe mungapewere friend zone poyamba, ndipo ngati muli mu friend zone, chifukwa chake zingakhalenso zabwino.
N'chifukwa Chiyani Kupeza Mabwenzi Ndi Bwino?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Mtsikana akamapereka ubwenzi, amatanthauzadi ndipo amangofuna kucheza nanu malo ena. Choncho, nthawi zina, ndi bwino kuyesa kuti musachoke pa chithunzicho ndikuwona momwe zikugwirira ntchito kwa inu.
- Mumagawana mulingo wotonthoza - Ndiwomasuka kukhala paubwenzi ndi inu- Mukamufunsa kapena kuyesetsa kuti ayambe kukukondani kuyambira pachiyambi, mwayi ukhoza kupita njira zonse. Koma ngati mwakhala mumalo a friendzone kwakanthawi, mwayi sangawononge zomwe nonse mumagawana.
- Ubwenzi wanu ndi wamtengo wapatali - Sadzakulolani kuti mukhale pakati chibwenzi ndi ubwenzi gawo kwa nthawi yayitali. Akakufunsani kuti mukhale bwenzi lake, musakhumudwe chifukwa mungakhale wamtengo wapatali kwa iye ngati bwenzi lake ndipo adzachitanso mtunda wowonjezera kuti asunge zimenezo. Chifukwa chake, kukhala paubwenzi sikuli koyipa kwenikweni.
- Mumapeza malangizo abwino kwa atsikana - Ngati ndinu 'mabwenzi chabe' ndi mkazi, mutha kupita kwa iye kuti akupatseni malangizo okhudza atsikana ena ndikugawana nkhawa zanu nthawi iliyonse! Adzakuthandizani ndi malingaliro achikazi omwe angakhale othandiza kwa inu.
- Palibenso chisokonezo - Mukadziwa motsimikiza kuti mukupeza friendzoned, sipadzakhalanso chisokonezo za komwe ubale wanu wayima. Simuyenera kukhalabe paziyembekezo zabodza ndipo mutha kuyang'ana zokonda zina.
Ubwino wa friendzone:
- Akazi amapeza mabwenzi abwino, olimbikitsa maganizo.
- Abwenzi achikazi amatha kupereka uphungu waukulu pankhani ya maubwenzi ndi akazi ena chifukwa anyamata ambiri amakhala ndi vuto pankhani yomvetsetsa akazi.
- Anyamata ganizani akazi abwenzi akhoza kukhala mapiko akuluakulu kwa iwo ndipo akhoza kukuthandizani kukumana ndi atsikana omwe mudzawakonda ndikugwirizana nawo.
- Nthawi zonse zimakhala zopindulitsa kuti amuna aziwonanso momwe akazi amawonera, komanso kufunsanso malangizo osavuta monga mafashoni.
Kodi Mungatuluke Bwanji Mu Malo Anzanu?
Komabe, ngati muli gehena wofunitsitsa kuphunzira momwe mungachokere mu friendzone, chabwino, tili ndi zolozera.
- Onetsetsani kuti nthawi zonse mumakhalapo ndi munthuyo ndikumuthandiza koma kumbukirani kuti musakhale chopondera pakhomo. Mutha kuwonetsa kusakhudzidwa kwanu pamene mukumva kuti zikungochitika kuti a ubale wa mbali imodzi. Zidzakhala zotsegula maso kwa munthu yemwe ali kumbali ina.
- Yesani kukhala MIA kapena kupangitsa kuti kusapezeka kwanu kumveke kwakanthawi kuti munthu winayo ayambe kukusowani. Iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yoti mupitirire ngati mukufuna kutuluka m'dera la anzanu.
- Nthawi zonse onetsetsani kuti mumayamika ndikusunga bwenzi lanu kukhala losangalala, komanso kumbukirani kuti simudumphira ndikuvomereza zabwino zilizonse zomwe angafune. Aloleni kuti ayesenso pang'ono kuti akusungeni m'moyo wawo. Pang'onopang'ono ndi pang'onopang'ono, mukupita patsogolo abwenzi kwa okonda, ndipo kupeza mabwenzi sikudzakhalakonso.
Kuwerenga kofanana: Kodi mumauza bwanji munthu amene simukufuna kukhala naye pachibwenzi?
Chifukwa chake, mumawona kuti sinthawi zonse za momwe mungapezere malo ochezera abwenzi kudzera pa meseji kapena kuyimba foni, kapenanso kutulukamo poyamba. Tonsefe timafunikira mabwenzi abwino aamuna kapena akazi m'miyoyo yathu ndipo kupeza mabwenzi ndi njira ina yokwaniritsira izi.
Pakadali pano, m'chilengedwe china chofananira, Urban Dictionary imatanthauzira kukhala abwenzi monga:
Ngati munthu yemwe si mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzathu (kawirikawiri mukufuna kuti mugonane naye) anena kuti ndinu “mnzanu chabe”, potero amawononga mwayi wonse wogonana.
Ibibazo
Kupeza mabwenzi sikuli koyipa monga kumamvekera. Osataya mtima kapena kumangokhalira kudabwa momwe mungapewere malo a anzanu. M'malo mwake, dziwitsani mnzanuyo kuti ndinu 'mabwenzi chabe' ndipo mumadziwa malire. Mutafotokoza zimenezi momveka bwino, ubwenzi wanu sudzawonongeka ndipo mukhoza kukhalabe ndi ubwenzi wabwino.
Ngati simukudziwa ngati muli ndi mwayi wachikondi kapena mumangoyang'ana ngati bwenzi, ndiye zindikirani zinthu zazing'ono. Ngati sachita zinthu zolimbitsa thupi monga kugwirana chanza kapena kugwirana ngakhale muli nokha, ndiye kuti pali mwayi wopeza ubwenzi. Ngati amalankhula nanu mokondwa za kusweka kwawo kapena kutengeka kwawo, ndiye kuti ndi chizindikiro china choti muli mdera lowopsa.
Ndi bwino kudziwa momwe mungapewere malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kusiyana ndi kuyesa kupeza momwe mungachokere kumalo a anzanu mukakhalamo. Osanyozetsa munthu winayo pochita zinthu “za anzanu” monga kukhala bwenzi lawo lonamizira kapena kupita kocheza nawo kuchita zinthu zachipongwe. Onetsani mnzanuyo kuti mumamukonda ndipo musachite manyazi kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu. Ndi bwino kukanidwa kusiyana ndi kukhala bwenzi.
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