13 Kuyimitsa Kwakukulu Kwambiri Kwa Amuna

Nthawi ina mnzanga wina wamkazi anandifunsa kuti ndi chiyani chomwe chimakhala chachikulu kwambiri kwa anyamata. Maso anga adachita chidwi chifukwa anali ochepa. Ndinamuuza kuti anyamata ndi atsikana amakonda kukhala ndi zina zomwe zimasintha - monga ukhondo. Koma iye ankafuna kudziwa zambiri chifukwa ankafuna kuti mnyamata wina azimukonda ndipo ankafuna kuchita zonse bwino. Chifukwa chake, ndidaganiza zosewera mapiko ndikumuthandiza kuzindikira zinthu zomwe anyamata amatayidwa nazo.

Amuna kwenikweni amakonda akazi omwe ali ndi umunthu - munthu wachifundo komanso wodziyimira pawokha. Sakonda mkangano kapena sewero, koma nthawi yomweyo, amasangalala pang'ono ndi mantha. Amuna ambiri amakonda kuphweka komanso zosasangalatsa paubwenzi. Ndipo zomwe amakonda zimakhalanso ndi yankho la zomwe sakonda mwa yemwe angakhale bwenzi lake. Zosokoneza? Werengani ndipo muwona ndendende zomwe ndikutanthauza.

Kodi Turn-Offs ndi chiyani?

Mavuto muubwenzi ndi makhalidwe (ganizirani: kuyankhula kwa ana) omwe amabweretsa malingaliro oipa, monga chisoni, nsanje, ndi mkwiyo. Chifukwa amatha kusintha malingaliro a munthu kapena momwe amaonera munthu wina, amatha kusokoneza ubale.

Mwachitsanzo, zomwe zimachotsa anyamata pa tsiku loyamba ndi akazi kulankhula za wakale wawo kwambiri. Izi ndi zomwe mkazi sangakondenso. Ngakhale kuti mawu oti “kuzimitsa” ndi “kuyatsa” nthawi zambiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito pankhani ya kugonana, alinso ndi matanthauzo ena. Munthu wina akachita chinthu chimene chimakukhumudwitsani kapena kukukwiyitsani mpaka kuyamba kuwaona molakwika, khalidwe limenelo likhoza kufotokozedwa ngati kutembenuka mtima.

Ma Turn Off 13 Aakulu Kwambiri Amuna

Mndandanda wazomwe zimasiyidwa kwambiri kwa anyamata ndizokwanira koma ndizofunikira. Kalozerayu wa zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi zomwe musachite zikuthandizani kuyang'ana pazovuta zomwe zingachepetse chidwi cha abambo pa inu. Langizo tisanayambe mndandanda: nthawi zonse khalani enieni pamene mukuyesera kupanga mgwirizano wapamtima. Palibe (mwamuna kapena mkazi) amene amakonda anthu abodza. Tsopano, tiyeni tilowe m'mikhalidwe 13 yotsimikizika yomwe ingapangitse mwamuna kupatukana ndi mkazi yemwe wakhala akumunyengerera.

1. Kusewera osayankhula ndizovuta kwambiri kwa abambo

Mzimayi yemwe mwadala amatsitsa nzeru zake kuti apeze chidwi chochuluka ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zotembenukira kwa amuna. Amuna amakonda akazi ochenjera komanso odziwa bizinesi yawo. Kusalankhula kulibe chokopa koma ndi njira yachibwanabwana yomwe akazi ayenera kupewa kuzigwiritsa ntchito. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwana wanu amalankhula mokoma, ndikuuzeni kuti sichoncho.

Kupatula apo, ndikufuna kufunsa chifukwa chake mkazi angakonde kuchita zinthu zopusa. Kodi kungofuna kukopa mwamuna amene amakukondani? Sizikutanthauza kuti cholinga cha chibwenzi ndi chimenecho. Ngati mukufuna kumanga ubale weniweni ndi munthu wachikondi, muyenera kumulola kuti akuoneni monga momwe mulili. Ingokhalani inu nokha, ndipo mutha kupeza zambiri kuposa zomwe mumafuna.

2. Kukhala wodzikuza kungapangitse anthu kuchoka kwa inu

Azimayi omwe amanyoza anthu kapena kuyika chishalo mwamwano pamphuno zawo ndizovuta kwambiri kwa anyamata. Ndi nzeru kuzindikira kuti kudzikuza si chidaliro. Mwamuna amaona osati mmene mumalankhulira naye komanso mmene mumachitira zinthu ndi ena. Ndipo, ngati mwakhala mukunyozedwa, mkhalidwe umenewu ukhoza kukuikani m’maganizo oipa.

Ndizowonanso kuti abambo amafuna okondedwa omwe angalankhule nawo ndikugawana nawo malo otonthoza. Pali chisangalalo chokoma pakutsegula. Kudzikuza kungalepheretse mgwirizano wanu. Nazi zina mwa zizindikiro zamwano zomwe amuna aziwonadi:

• Kuchedwa komanso osapepesa
• Kuchita mwano ndi odikira
• Kukhumudwa kapena kukangana ndi zinthu (koyenera)
• Kunyalanyaza mavuto awo ngati aang'ono komanso osawamvera
• Kukhala wodzitama nthawi zonse

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3. Kusaona mtima ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zimasokoneza kwambiri anyamata paubwenzi

Kudalirana ndiye maziko a ubale uliwonse - tonse tingavomereze pa izi, sichoncho? Njerwa za maziko awa zimapangidwa ndi kuwona mtima. Njerwa yosowa apa ndi apo ingawononge maziko - ndikutanthauza kuti mabodza adzawononga chikondi chanu. Kusakhulupirika si nkhani yaikulu yokha, komanso ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zimalepheretsa anyamata omwe ali pachibwenzi.

Pamene mwamuna adziyika yekha pachibwenzi, amadzipereka kugawana chilichonse. Kunama kungathe kuononga zimenezi mpaka kufika pamlingo wosasinthika ndikusintha ubale wanu kukhala woipitsitsa. Munthu amene chidaliro chake chatha ndiye kuti sangathe kukuyang'anani momwe amachitira poyamba, ndipo izi zidzakhudza mbali iliyonse ya ubale wanu - maganizo, thupi, ndi kugonana.  

4. Kudziganizira mopambanitsa kumalepheretsa anyamata kukhala kutali ndi inu

Kudzikonda kuli kwakukulu. Narcissism si choncho. Pewani kupanga masewera ndi galasi m'mawa uliwonse. Anyamata ambiri amakonda akazi omwe amakhala omasuka pakhungu lawo kusiyana ndi omwe amafunikira zodzoladzola za cakey kuti azidziona kuti ndi ofunika. Mosakayikira ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zosinthira pompopompo kwa anyamata.

Koma tonse tikudziwa kuti kudzikonda sikungokhala chabe chabe. Amuna amakonda akazi opatsa ndipo amatha kupanga zisankho mogwirizana ndi momwe zinthu zilili. Chifukwa chake, ngati mkazi ayamba kubweretsa zambiri za "ine ndi zofunika zanga", kapena "Ine ndi ine ndekha" mu equation, izi zitha kukhala zopanda pake kwa mwamuna.

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5. Kodi ma turnoffs akulu akulu kwa mwamuna ndi chiyani? Kuzipanga izo

Ayi, sindikunena za kugonana kokha - koma inde, chimenecho ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimasokoneza anyamata pabedi. Kupatula kuzinamiza pakama, amuna amanyansidwa nazo mkazi akamanamizira kuti amakonda zimene ananena kapena kuchita kuti amukonde. Kukhala wosakhulupirika m'mbali iliyonse ya moyo kungapangitse kuti zikhale zovuta kuti mwamuna azikuwonani ngati munthu amene angamukhulupirire komanso kugwirizana nanu. Ndicho chifukwa chake kulimbana ndi matenda ndi imfa. Zina mwa zochitika za fake ndi:

• Kudzionetsera kukhala ndi chidwi ndi ntchito yake pomwe mulibe nazo ntchito
• Kunena kuti mumakonda chinachake, monga mpira, pamene momveka bwino mungakonde kuonera kanema
• Kumanamizira kuti amakonda anzake kapena achibale ake koma amadana nawo mukakhala nokha. 
• Kuchita zosangalatsa / ma orgasms

Ndipo n'zosavuta kuona chifukwa chake. Palibe amene amafuna kukhala pachibwenzi chonyenga . Mwamuna amene ali wotetezeka sadzadandaula ngati simukukonda kapena kuyamikira chilichonse chimene amachita kapena kunena bola ngati simuli wamwano (onani mfundo: kudzikuza).

6. Kusaukhondo ndizovuta kwambiri kwa anyamata pabedi

Kukumbatira kuyenera kukhala chochitika chachikondi osati chofanana ndi kunyamula thumba la ndiwo zamasamba zotayidwa. Chifukwa chake, siziyenera kudabwitsa kuti ukhondo woyipa ndiwodziwikiratu kwa amuna. Zachidziwikire, sizimayembekezereka kuti nthawi zonse mumanunkhiza ngati dimba la tulip, koma ukhondo woyambira ukuyembekezeka. Nawa maupangiri aukhondo omwe muyenera kukumbukira kuti musakhumudwitse munthu yemwe mumamukonda:

• Onetsetsani kuti mwasamba ndi kununkhiza bwino
• Sungani tsitsi lanu bwino
• Oyeretsa mano ndi mpweya wochepa
• Valani bwino; valani zovala zaukhondo ndi zosita

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7. Nthawi zonse kuyang'ana pa foni yanu? Amuna adzachoka 

Amuna amakonda chidwi ndipo amafuna kukhala ndi munthu amene amawakonda ndipo amatha kukambirana naye. Akazi omwe amamatira mafoni awo amatumiza uthenga wakuti sakufunadi mwamuna amene ali naye, zomwe zingawapangitse kusokonezeka kwambiri. Kulemba pa Instagram m'malo mokhala ndi nthawi yochepa sikokongola ndipo akazi ambiri amalephera kuzindikira izi.

8. Kusakayikira sikuyamikiridwa ndi amuna

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazofala kwambiri zotembenukira kwa amuna. Kudzikayikira sikokongola; kotero ngati mukuchita kuti mumve chidwi, mudule. Zitha kukwiyitsa pang'ono ndipo zitha kulumikizidwa ndi kusewera osayankhula. Amuna ngati akazi omwe amadziwa zomwe akufuna, amatha kulamulira, ndikudzisamalira okha. Komanso, kupanga zisankho ndi luso lamoyo lomwe munthu ayenera kukhala nalo. Zimakupangitsani kukhala wodziimira komanso kudzidalira. Chifukwa chake, musakhale ndi vuto lamanjenje, samalirani ndipo mukhala bwino.

9. Kuyesa kumuchitira nsanje sikuthandiza

Nsanje ina ingakhale yosapeweka ngati anthu awiri ali ndi ubale wapamtima. Nsanje yabwino ingathandizenso kwambiri kuchepetsa kukhutitsidwa ndi kukakamiza mwamuna kuti achite khama muubwenziwo . Koma ngati mukumukondera anyamata ena ndi kupatsa mwamuna wanu diso lakumbali kuti amupangitse kukhala ndi nsanje mwadala, zingamupweteke kwambiri kuposa zabwino.

Kutulutsa mosafunikira chilombo chamaso obiriwira mwa munthu wanu chidzabweretsa zinyalala zosatha za mkwiyo. Kukopera kuyandikana ndi amuna ena kuti mumvepo kanthu kungakhale chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimasokoneza kwambiri anyamata. Choncho, pewani nazo. M'malo mwake, yang'anani kwambiri pakuwongolera njira yolankhulirana ndikuphunzira kufotokoza zosowa zanu momveka bwino.

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10. Kusewera molimbika kuti mupeze ndikusintha kwakukulu kwa anyamata

Kodi zinthu zikukuvutani bwanji? Funsani munthu aliyense funso ili ndipo chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zili pamndandandawu ndi pamene mtsikana akuchita zinthu molimbika kwambiri kuti apeze chibwenzi . Amuna amakonda khama lawo komanso zoyesayesa zawo kuti abwezeredwe ndipo asagwidwe mu masewera a mphaka ndi mbewa. Chizolowezichi ndi chizindikiro choipa kwa anyamata chomwe chingawononge chidwi chawo kwamuyaya.

Komanso, pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kukhala coy ndi kusewera mwakhama kuti mupeze. Coyness ali ndi kudzichepetsa kugwirizana nazo. Kusewera molimbika kuti mupeze ndimwadala kwambiri. Koma Hei, zomwe zati, kusewera pang'ono kumaloledwa. Chifukwa ngati mnyamata sangayesetse kuti akugonjetseni, kodi ndi wofunika? Chakudya choganiza.

11. Kukhala woweruza kungathe kukhumudwitsa anyamata

Kukhala woweruza moyipa ndi chimodzi mwazomwe zimalepheretsa amuna. Amuna ngati akazi amene ali ndi maganizo omasuka ndi ololera ndi kuvomereza. Ndi khalidwe limene, ndikukhulupirira, mwamuna ndi mkazi aliyense ayenera kukhala nalo osati kuti athe kumanga maubwenzi abwino koma kuti dziko likhale malo abwinoko. Ngati mukudabwa zomwe zimayenera kukhala zoweruza, nazi mbendera zofiira:

• Nthawi zonse muzipereka ndemanga za momwe anthu amavalira
• Kupereka ndemanga zoipa za anzanu kapena abwenzi ake
• Kupeza zolakwika nthawi zonse mwa anthu omwe mumakumana nawo
• Kukhala woweruza pa zosankha zake popanda kuzimvetsa

12. Kusathandiza ndi vuto lalikulu kwa anyamata

Zomwe zimalepheretsa anyamata pa tsiku loyamba kapena 10? Mkazi wochita zinthu mopanda mphamvu. Amuna amakonda akazi omwe amawoneka ogwirizana komanso olamulira. Kukhala ndi mtsikana yemwe ali m'mavuto kwa nthawi yayitali kungathe kuthamangitsa mwamuna. Kuonjezera apo, pamene mnyamata nthawi zonse akupeza kuti akugwira ntchito zanu ndikukupulumutsani kuzinthu zoopsa, angayambe kumverera ngati akudyetsedwa.

Kupewa maudindo nthawi zonse kungayambitse mavuto osafunikira, ndipo kungawononge maziko a ubale . Nazi zizindikiro zina za kusowa chochita zomwe akazi ambiri amaganiza kuti ndi zokongola, koma kwenikweni ndi zinthu zomwe amuna ambiri amakumana nazo:

• Kudalira pa chilichonse
• Kumupempha kuti akupulumutseni kuzinthu zazing'ono kwambiri
• Kuyembekezera kuti iye adzakhala wamphamvu nthawi zonse

13. Kusayamika kungakhale kuchedwetsa

Munthu yekhayo amene sadzavutitsidwa ndi kusayamikira kwanu ndi amene sakukufunani. Kuyamikira ndi kuyamikira kumathandiza kwambiri pakukulitsa ubale, ndipo ngati mupitiriza, kumauza mwamuna amene muli naye kuti simuyamikira zomwe amabweretsa muubwenzi. Kaya kumuyamikira chifukwa cha zinthu zazing'ono zomwe amakuchitirani kapena kumuyamikira chifukwa cha maonekedwe ake, nzeru zake, kapena zomwe wakwaniritsa - izi ndi ziyembekezo zazikulu muubwenzi , zomwe ngati sizikwaniritsidwa, zimatha kuthamangitsa mwamunayo.

Tsopano popeza tafotokoza zakusiyana kwa amuna, mutha kukulitsa masewera anu obwebweta. Koma kuposa zonse, zomwe amuna (ndipo ndikutsimikiza kuti amayi nawonso) amakonda ndi munthu wachifundo komanso weniweni yemwe amamva fungo labwino (haha!). Kodi sitigwirizana pa zimenezo? Ingokhalani nokha ndikuchita khama kuti mulumikizane naye, ndipo simudzadandaula za kutembenuka ndi kutembenuka.

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