Njira 15 Zothetsera Mavuto Achibwenzi Popanda Kuthetsa Chibwenzi

“N’zopindulitsa kwambiri kuthetsa mkangano kuposa kuthetsa ubale,” anatero Josh Mcdowell, wolemba buku lakuti The Secret of Loving . Kodi sichoncho chomwe mukufuna pa intaneti lero? Chimene chingakuthandizeni kudutsa mu vuto ili ndi cholinga, kuleza mtima, ndipo chofunika kwambiri, chidwi chofuna kudziwa momwe mungathetsere mavuto a ubale popanda kusweka. Tikudziwa kuti maubwenzi athu ali ndi mavuto ambiri. N’zosapeŵeka. Koma zingakhale zovuta kuyesa kupeza momwe mungathetsere mavutowa tsiku ndi tsiku ndikuonetsetsa kuti sakupitirirabe kubwera m’moyo wanu.

Tinabweretsa Shazia Saleem (Masters in Psychology), yemwe ndi katswiri pa nkhani yopereka uphungu wopatukana ndi kusudzulana, kuti agawane nzeru zina za njira zothetsera mavuto muubwenzi musanayambe kusudzulana. Munkhaniyi, tikulankhulanso za mavuto omwe amakhalapo nthawi yayitali muubwenzi komanso momwe angawathetsere.

Zomwe Zimayambitsa Mavuto mu Ubwenzi

Gay ndi Kathlyn Hendricks, m'buku lawo lakuti, Conscious Loving: The Journey To Co-Commitment , amati, “Simumakhumudwa nthawi zonse pazifukwa zomwe mukuganiza kuti mukulakwitsa.” Mavuto a ubale omwe akukumana nawo ndi “mndandanda wa thovu lomwe limatuluka m'madzi kupita pamwamba. Thovu lalikulu lomwe lili pafupi ndi pamwamba limayamba chifukwa cha chinthu chakuya koma chovuta kuwona. Thovu lalikululi ndi losavuta kuwona ndipo motero timakopa chidwi chathu.”

Shazia nayenso akubwereza mfundo ya Hendricks yokhudza kusweka mtima. Iye akuti, “Mavuto amenewa omwe okwatirana amawaona ngati osafunika poyamba amakhala ang’onoang’ono kwambiri moti saonekera mpaka akuluakulu ataonekera, kapena mwadzidzidzi mukumva ngati mukulephera kapena kukayikira.” Koma si mapeto ake. Iye akuwonjezera kuti, “Pamene anthu awiri ayamba kunyalanyaza ubale wawo, ndi pamene amakonzekera kulephera kwawo mosadziwa.”

Kodi mavuto amenewa a m'banja akuchokera kuti ndipo ndi mavuto ati akuluakulu omwe mabanja ambiri amakumana nawo?

• Kukondana wina ndi mzake ndi kuyesetsa kuthetsa kusamvana ndi mchitidwe wadala. Mavuto ambiri a ubale amayamba ndi kusowa kwa khama, pamene okondedwa amasiya kugwira ntchito pa chiyanjano
• Ngati m’modzi apatsa mnzake zifukwa zokwanira zosiya chikhulupiliro mwa iwo ndi maziko a ubalewo, ndiye kuti mavuto adzayamba
• Kusakhulupirika pazachuma, kusowa ufulu wazachuma, kapena kusasamalira bwino ndalama kungawononge ubale wachikondi.
• Kwa okwatirana amene akukhala pamodzi kapena okwatirana, kugaŵikana kosalinganika kwa ntchito zapakhomo ndi mathayo ena kungayambitse mkwiyo
• Mgwirizano wapamtima pakati pa anthu okondedwa nthawi zambiri umasokonekera chifukwa cha kusamvana kapena kusalankhulana bwino, makamaka pa maubwenzi akutali.
• Mukalephera kuyamikira zinthu zonse zomwe zili zosiririka za mnzanuyo, sangamve kukondedwa komanso kukhala wofunikira monga kale
• Kusiyana kwa malingaliro aulele kungasokoneze okwatirana achimwemwe

Shazia akuti, “Chifukwa chakuti munanyalanyaza mavuto ang’onoang’ono, mwina munayamba kukayikirana ndi kusokonezeka. Mumadzimva kuti mwatopa kwambiri ndipo mumayamba kuyankha m’njira zosagwira ntchito kapena zosayenera, zomwe zimawononga kwambiri ubale womwe wasweka ndipo zingachititse kuti uthawe. Kenako mumadabwa momwe mungathetsere mavuto omwe alipo popanda kusiya mnzanu.” Kuti muletse ubale wanu kutha, pitirizani kuwerenga kuti mudziwe zambiri za mavuto omwe amapezeka paubwenzi.

Njira 15 Zothetsera Mavuto Achibwenzi Popanda Kuthetsa Chibwenzi

Yakwana nthawi yoti muyang'ane momwe mungathetsere nkhani muubwenzi popanda kusokoneza. Zachidziwikire, chithandizo cha mabanja ndi njira yoti tifufuze, koma tiyeni tiwonjezepo gawo losangalatsa ku funsoli lomwe lingathetse kupitilira theka la chisokonezo chomwe mwakwiriridwa. Ndi chiphunzitso cha Dr. John Gottman cha mavuto osatha ndi mavuto omwe angathetsedwe. Inde, ndi zophweka monga momwe zimamvekera.

Iye akunena m'buku lake lakuti, Mfundo Zisanu ndi Ziwiri Zopangira Ukwati Kugwira Ntchito , kuti mavuto onse a m'banja amagwera m'gulu limodzi mwa magulu awiri awa.

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• Zotheka: Mavutowa akhoza kuthetsedwa. Amawoneka ochepa kwambiri koma amasonkhanitsa pakapita nthawi. Zimayambitsidwa ndi kusafuna kuwona malingaliro a wina ndi mzake, kunyengerera, kubwera pamfundo imodzi, ndipo chabwino, kungowathetsa.
• Zosatha: Mavutowa amakhalapo mpaka kalekale ndipo amangobwerabe m’moyo wa anthu okwatirana mwanjira ina. Mavuto osatha atha kuwoneka ngati mikangano yamalingaliro kapena kaganizidwe, njira zolerera ana, nkhani zachipembedzo, ndi zina zotere zomwe anthu amaziwona kukhala zovuta kusintha mwa wina ndi mnzake.

Chochititsa chidwi kwambiri apa n’chakuti Dr. Gottman ananena kuti muubwenzi wabwino, okwatirana oganiza bwino “amapeza njira yothanirana ndi vuto lawo losasunthika kapena losatha kotero kuti lisawatheretu.” Aphunzira kulisunga m’malo mwake ndi kukhala nalo nthabwala.

Ngati okwatirana akanatha kuthetsa mavuto awo ambiri, akanapanga njira zogwira mtima ndi chidaliro chokwanira kuti athe kulolera zovuta kapena zosatha asanaganize zothetsa banja. Choncho, puma mozama, ndipo tiyeni tidumphire mu nsonga 15 za momwe tingathetsere mavuto paubwenzi popanda kutha. Ugh, osachepera omwe amatha kusungunuka:

1. Vomerezani kuti ubale wanu si wangwiro

Kodi tingayang'ane bwanji patsogolo ndikuyesetsa kupeza zambiri popanda kudzichepetsa ndi kuvomereza zofooka zathu? Monga anthu, maubwenzi athu achikondi amachepetsedwa kwambiri ndi zomwe takumana nazo pa moyo wathu, zolakwa zathu zakale, malingaliro athu, ndi malingaliro athu. Vomerezani kuti chikondi sichingakhale changwiro nthawi zonse . Dziwani kuti ubale wa palibe amene uli wangwiro ndipo tengani chitonthozo ndi chidziwitso chimenecho.

Lingaliro la mavuto osatha limachita zomwezo. Zimalimbitsa kukhudzika kwanu kuti palibe vuto kukhala ndi mavuto ndipo ndi zabwino kuti zikuoneka kuti sizikuthetsa. Ubale wachimwemwe, wopambana nawonso umayang'anizana ndi mavuto amenewo koma satha chifukwa cha kulemera kwawo. Tsopano kuti kupanikizika kwatha - phew! - malangizowa otheka kuthetsa mavuto a ubale adzawoneka ngati otheka.

2. Perekani nthawi wina ndi mzake

Kulola kuti nthawi iwonekere bwino ndi njira yosavuta kwambiri yomwe munthu angatsatire. Vuto ndilakuti tikakumana ndi mikangano, timagwidwa ndi chilakolako chofuna kudzionetsera kuti ndife olondola kapena kuthana ndi mikanganoyo mwachindunji kotero kuti timakana kubwerera m'mbuyo. Yankho lake ndi chiyani? Khalani okonzeka. Mukuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yoti mupumule muubwenzi wanu , koma mwina mukungofunika kutenga nthawi ndi malo kuti muwunikenso. Malangizo a Shazia paubwenzi kwa owerenga athu ndi awa:

• Nthawi iliyonse mukakumana ndi mkangano muubwenzi wanu womwe umakhala wovuta kwambiri kapena wovuta kuthana nawo, ingotenga nthawi pang'ono.
• Osapanga zisankho mopupuluma ndipo ganizirani bwino za nkhaniyi
• Zingatanthauze kupuma pang'ono kuti muganizire za mavuto anu
• Yesetsani kuti musathamangire kumapeto kwina kulikonse ndipo khalani ndi nthawi yomvetsetsa malingaliro a munthu winayo ndikumveketsanso zanu pokhala pachibwenzi.
• Kudzikonzekeretsa nokha ndi njira zoyenera ndi ntchito yamkati kudzakuthandizani kupanga kutsimikiza kumeneko
• Nthawi ina mukadzakumana ndi mkangano, ubongo wanu udzalanda chibadwa chanu ndikukukumbutsani kuti muchitepo kanthu mwanzeru.

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3. Perekani mpata wina ndi mzake

Kulolana wina ndi mzake kaonedwe ka nthawi mwachibadwa kumathandizidwa ndi kaonedwe ka danga. Ndikoyenera kuti mutenge nthawi muubwenzi osatha ndikuchoka pamavuto ngati zikukuvutani. Koma m’pofunika kuonetsetsa mmene mnzanuyo akumvera. Chifukwa chake, chitani mofatsa mutatha kufotokozera chifukwa chake kwa mnzanuyo ndikumutsimikizira kuti mubwereranso mukamva kuti ndinu okhazikika.

Kuchoka mwadzidzidzi kungapangitse mnzanuyo kuganiza kuti mukumuwombera mwala, zomwe zingakhale zopweteka kwambiri. Shazia anati: “Osati kokha pofuna kuthetsa vuto linalake popanda kupatukana koma kupeŵa mavuto poyamba, okwatirana ayenera kulolerana malo omasuka kumene angakhoze kukhala, ponse paŵiri mwakuthupi ndi mophiphiritsira.” Aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi mwaŵi wa kukhala wachinsinsi ku malingaliro ake ndipo chimenecho ndicho mfungulo ya ubale uliwonse wachipambano.

4. Lankhulani zakukhosi kwanu moyenera kuti muteteze ubale wanu

Mutatenga nthawi ndi malo, ngati mwasintha maganizo ndipo mwakwanitsadi kusiya, ndiye kuti zili bwino! Koma ngati muli ndi malingaliro kapena zinthu zomwe mukuganiza kuti muyenera kugawana, zilankhuleni. Kaya mukhulupirire kapena ayi, kuthetsa kusowa kwa kulankhulana kungathe kuthetsa theka la mavuto anu. Koma dziwani njira zolankhulirana zomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito panthawiyi.

• Onetsetsani kuti mnzanu nayenso ndi wokonzeka kukambirana
• Bwerani pamodzi ndi cholinga chofuna kupeza yankho
• Khalani aulemu kwa okondedwa anu ndi ubale wanu
• Musalole kuchita kapena kunena chinthu chokhumudwitsa kwambiri
• Maluso omvetsera mwachidwi ndi gawo limodzi la kulankhulana kwabwino. Onetsetsani kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo mumamvetsera mwachidwi pamene mukufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu
• Ndipo ngati ziyambanso kukhala zovuta kwa aliyense wa inu, perekani mwayi wopempha 'nthawi yopuma' kuti muwonjezere.

Shazia akuti, "Nthawi zonse payenera kukhala kulankhulana momasuka muubwenzi, osati kungothetsa mikangano koma kumanga mgwirizano wapamtima ndi chiyanjano chothandizira ndi SO wanu. Ndi sitepe yodzitetezera osati kuchiritsa kokha." Mutha kukonza zovuta zaubwenzi ndi bwenzi lanu / bwenzi lanu potengera chida ichi ndi malangizo ophunzirira kuti muzitha kulumikizana bwino kuyambira pachiyambi.

5. Khalani ndi ulemu m’mikangano

M’nyengo yotentha, anthu nthawi zambiri zimawavuta kukana zilakolako zawo zachibadwa komanso kuvulaza kwambiri maganizo a mnzawo. Ngati mukuganiza momwe mungathetsere zovuta zaubwenzi popanda kutha, onetsetsani kuti simuchita chilichonse chokhumudwitsa kapena kunena chilichonse chochititsa manyazi kapena chopanda ulemu kwa wokondedwa wanu. Sipangakhale njira yodziwikiratu yothetsera mavuto muubwenzi popanda kuthetsa.

Shazia anati: “Nthawi zonse yesetsani kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino, muzilemekeza mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu komanso banja lanu.” Chikondi chiyenera kugwirizana ndi ulemu.

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6. Osasewera mlandu

Masewera olakwa ndi chikoka choyipa chomwe chingasokoneze ubale wosangalala. Gary ndi Kathlyn Hendricks akunena kuti kuthetsa kulimbirana ulamuliro, zosankha ndi izi:

1. Gwirizanani kuti wina ndi wolakwa ndipo winayo ndi wolondola
2. Gwirizanani kuti nonse mukulakwitsa
3. Gwirizanani kuti nonse mukulondola
4. Chigwetseni ndi kupeza njira yomveka bwino yolumikizirana

Kenako amaloza ku chosankha chodziŵika bwino, akumati: “Njira zitatu zoyambirira n’zosatheka m’kupita kwa nthaŵi chifukwa chabwino ndi choipa chiri mkati mwa mikangano yaulamuliro. Mkangano waulamuliro ukhoza kuthetsedwa kokha pamene mbali zonse zivomereza kukhala ndi thayo lathunthu la kupangidwa kwa nkhaniyo. Mbali zonsezo zimavomereza kufufuza magwero a nkhaniyo mwa iwo eni.

Ndiye, kodi mungathetse bwanji mavuto muubwenzi? Ngati mukufunadi kusintha zinthu, kupewa kudzudzulana kudzakuthandizani kusintha maganizo anu kuchoka pa wina ndi mnzake kupita ku vuto lomwe lilipo. Nthawi zina zimenezo zimakwanira kuteteza ubale wanu ku mavuto. Mukangoyamba kutenga udindo pa zochita zanu ndi mawu anu m'malo modzudzulana, mudzakhala ndi mwayi wokwanira wothetsa mavuto.

7. Nthawi yabwino ndiyofunikira pakuthetsa nkhani muubwenzi popanda kutha

Okwatirana nthawi zambiri amakodwa mumsampha wa tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo amataya ubale wawo chifukwa samakhala ndi nthawi yocheza. Mavuto ambiri angapewedwe kapena kuthetsedwa mosavuta ngati okwatirana atakhala ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri ndikuchita zinthu zonse zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala ogwirizana. Katswiri wathu akupereka njira zingapo zoletsera kusweka kwa chibwenzi ndikuthana ndi kusiyana kwakukulu nthawi imodzi:

• Sungani foni yanu kutali mukamalankhulana
• Njira yabwino yosonyezera wokondedwa wanu kuti ndi yofunika ndi kuwapatsa nthawi yodzipereka
• Mungayesere kuphika chakudya wina ndi mnzake, kuyenda koyenda, kapena kukonzekera mausiku amasiku onse
• Yesani zochitika zingapo zomwe nonse mumakonda komanso zomwe zimakulitsa kuyandikira kwanu
• Ubwenzi wakuthupi ndi wofunikanso kuti uchepetse kusakhutira kwanu ngakhale zitatanthawuza kukhudzana kosagwirizana ndi kugonana monga kukumbatirana kapena kugwirana chanza.

Mfundo ndi yakuti muyenera kukulitsa zomwe mumafanana kuti mukhale ndi zambiri zomwe mungagwirizane nazo kusiyana ndi kusagwirizana nazo. Kusintha kosavuta kumeneku kungapulumutse ubale.

8. Osalankhulana kudzera mwa anthu ena

Kodi mukuyesera kupeza momwe mungathetsere zovuta zaubwenzi popanda kutha, koma mukuwopa kuyankhulana ndi mnzanu? Muyenera kudziwa kuti kuphatikiza wina aliyense, kupatula katswiri, sikumayenda bwino muubwenzi. Maanja omwe ali mkangano omwe amalephera kulankhulana bwino komanso mwachindunji amatengera anthu ena, monga wachibale wa mnzako, abwenzi, ngakhale ana ake.

Izi sizikhala bwino ndipo ndi limodzi mwamavuto akulu a kulumikizana mu maubwenzi. Ndi kusalemekeza ubale wanu, kwa inu, ndi wokondedwa wanu. Osachita izo. Chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muzitha kugwiritsa ntchito njira zolankhulirana zogwira mtima. Lembani kalata ngati simungathe kugawana nawo malingaliro anu pamasom'pamaso.

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9. Dulani chitsanzo cha mkangano wanu

Mofanana ndi zochitika zathu za tsiku ndi tsiku, maanja onse ali ndi ndondomeko yofanana yotsutsana. Ngati ndondomeko yanu yakhala yopindulitsa kwa inu nonse pothana ndi mikangano mwaumoyo, ndiye zabwino kwa inu, khalani nazo! Koma ngati muli paubwenzi wovuta kapena wozunza, mungafunike kuyang'ana mkangano wanu ndi diso lotsutsa.

• Mmodzi wa inu akanena kuti akumudera nkhawa, kodi mnzanuyo amatani?
• Kodi mkangano umayenda bwanji?
• Kodi chiganizo choyamba chimaoneka bwanji?
• Kodi thupi? Kodi zitseko zikugundidwa? Kodi kuchotsedwa ntchito? Kutseka? Kodi kuli kulira? Muchitsanzo chanji?

Yang'anani izi ndikuyimitsa tonde pomwe ikufika pa inu. Ngati ndinu amene mukufuna kufotokoza nkhawa zanu, yesani kuchita mosiyana. Ngati inuyo ndi amene mumatuluka pakhomo n’kutsekera, ganizirani mmene mungayankhire. Dzikonzekereni nokha ndi kuyankha moyenera. Ndi malingaliro amenewo, mwayi ndikuti mkangano wanu uwona njira yabwino.

10. Momwe mungathetsere mavuto muubwenzi? Pepani mukapepesa

Kupepesa chifukwa cha kulakwa kwanu ndiko kuvomerezadi udindo wanu pachibwenzi. Ndi ntchito yochiritsa kwa munthu amene akufunika kupepesa komanso kwa munthu amene wapereka. Kupepesa kumalola kuti njira zolankhulirana zitsegukenso, zomwe ndi zofunika kwambiri pothetsa kusamvana.

Kudziwa kuti munalakwitsa ndi chinthu china koma kupepesa kumatanthauza kuvomereza cholakwacho pamaso pa munthu wina, chomwe anthu ambiri amavutika nacho. Koma ngati muli ndi chidwi ndi ubale wanu m'malingaliro, ndikwabwino kubisa kudzikonda kwanu ndikupepesa mogwira mtima komanso moona mtima.

11. Sinthani zoyembekezera zanu

Mukachita zonse zomwe tafotokozazi, ndikofunikiranso kuyang'ana zomwe mukuyembekezera potsatira zotsatira. Lolani winayo kutenga nthawi. Kuyembekezera kuti mnzanuyo achitepo kanthu mofanana kapena nthawi yomweyo monga inu ndi chitsanzo cha kuyembekezera mopanda chilungamo.

Yang'anirani ndi kuyesa kukhalabe ndi malire pakati pa zomwe sizingachitike ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera. Izi zimagwira pa ubale wonse osati pa nkhani za mikangano. Pamene mukuyesera kupeza njira zothetsera ubale wanu, musaiwale kuti palibe mphotho yoyembekezera mopanda nzeru.

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12. Khalani ndi moyo waumwini

Mavuto ambiri amadza muubwenzi wachikondi chifukwa cha kudalirana. Zomwezo zitha kuthetsedwa ngati okondedwa apeza njira zambiri zopezera chisangalalo (kapena chisoni). Zingakhale zosokoneza kwambiri pachibwenzi pamene okondedwa akuyang'ana wina ndi mzake kuti akwaniritse zosowa zawo zonse. M'malo mwake, mutha kungotenga nthawi muubwenzi popanda kutha, poganizira za inu nokha komanso mbali zina za moyo wanu.

Kukhala ndi moyo waumwini ndi zolinga zanu kudzakuthandizani inu ndi mnzanuyo kukhala osangalala (komanso otanganidwa). Zidzakupangitsaninso kukhala kosavuta kuti mupeze chinthu cholimbikitsa kuti mukhazikitse malingaliro anu pamene mukupatsa mgwirizano wanu nthawi ndi malo. Kuphatikiza apo, anthu okhutitsidwa kwambiri amapanga mabwenzi oleza mtima komanso okoma mtima.

13. Sankhani ngati mukufuna kuti chibwenzicho chiyende bwino

Palibe chomwe chingathandize ngati anthu omwe akukhudzidwawo sakufuna kuti ubalewo ugwire ntchito. Kodi mungathetse bwanji mavuto a ubale popanda kusweka ndiye? Okwatirana onse awiri ayenera choyamba kupatsana mwayi wokonzanso, kuyesanso, ndikumanganso chidaliro cha wina ndi mnzake kuti mfundo zilizonse zomwe zili pamwambapa zikhale zabwino.

Kudzikakamiza kuti mupange chisankhocho kungakhale mphindi yomveka bwino kwa mnzanu wosatsimikizika. Mukangoganiza kuti mukufuna kuti ubalewo ugwire ntchito, cholinga chanu chimasinthiratu njira yopezera mayankho. Munthawi yolingalira mozama, mutha kuzindikiranso kuti simukufunanso ubale, ndichifukwa chake mwakhala mukuyimitsa kupita patsogolo kulikonse pakuthetsa kusamvana. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, mudzatha kutuluka m'mavuto momveka bwino.

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14. Gwirizanani kuti musagwirizane

Kodi nthawi zonse mudzakhala ndi yankho logwira mtima la momwe mungathetsere nkhani muubwenzi popanda kuthetsa zinthu ndi okondedwa wanu? Mukukumbukira m'mene tinakambira za mavuto ena amene sangathetsedwe? Shazia akumaliza kukambirana ndi mfundo yofunika kwambiriyi. Iye anati: “Musaiwale kuti kusemphana maganizo sikumapangitsa munthu kukhala wabwino kapena woipa, ndipo nthawi zina sipangakhale chabwino kapena cholakwika, muyenera kungovomereza kuti simukugwirizana nazo.

15. Funsani thandizo la akatswiri

Tonse ndife anthu osweka mwanjira ina. Ubale umayambitsa zowawa zathu komanso magawo athu omwe sanachiritsidwe. Njira ina yowonera ndi yakuti maubwenzi amaperekanso mwayi wochiritsa mabalawo. Pokhapokha ngati pali nkhanza zakuthupi kapena zamaganizo ndi kunyalanyaza paubwenzi, mavuto pakati pa anthu awiri omwe ali ndi zolinga zabwino angathetsedwe kupyolera mwa akatswiri.

Musamachite manyazi kupempha uphungu wa ukwati kwa akatswiri, ndipo musadikire nthawi yayitali. Palibe chifukwa chomveka chochita zinthu zosokoneza musanapite kwa mlangizi kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo. Lingaliro la akatswiri likhoza kufunidwa pachiyambi kwambiri kuti likuthandizeni kuchita ntchito zina zamkati. Ngakhale mnzanuyo asanakhale wokonzeka kulandira uphungu wa okwatirana, kuchira kwa munthu payekha kungakhale kofunikira kwambiri pochepetsa mavuto a m'banja. Ngati mukufuna thandizo limenelo, gulu la alangizi odziwa bwino ntchito a Bonobology lili pano kuti likuthandizeni.

Kodi zimenezi zikuyankha funso lanu loti mungathetse bwanji mavuto a m'banja popanda kutha? Tikukulangizani kuti mukonze mavuto a m'banja ndi chibwenzi chanu/mnzanu mwa kukumbukira mfundo izi, potero kupewa kutha kwa ubale. Koma sitikutanthauza kuti munthu ayenera kunyalanyaza zizindikiro zowopsa muubwenzi kapena kulekerera nkhanza. Nkhanza, kaya zakuthupi, zamaganizo, kapena zamaganizo sizivomerezeka. Ngati ubalewo suli woyenera ululu womwe ukukupwetekani, ndibwino kupita kwa mnzanu wodalirika kapena mlangizi wopatukana kuti akuthandizeni pankhaniyi.

Nkhaniyi idasinthidwa mu Julayi 2023. 

Ibibazo

Kodi Mungathetse Bwanji Chibwenzi Chomwe Munayambitsa? Katswiri Amalimbikitsa Zinthu 9 Izi

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Kulimbana Muukwati - Malangizo 10 Ochitira Bwino

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