Usiku wina, Pia amadzuka ali thukuta lozizira, thupi lake likunjenjemera, zibakera zake zidakulungidwa. Ena ankangogwedezeka ndi kutembenuka, osagona n’komwe. Kumayambiriro kwa zaka za m'ma 20, Pia adayenera kukwatiwa ndi Anand m'miyezi ingapo. Ngakhale kuti iwo anali okonzekera masewero, iwo ankacheza kwa masiku angapo, kuti adziwane. Pambuyo pa chaka chakudya chamadzulo, maulendo apakanema ndi maulendo ataliatali pagombe, Pia anali wotsimikiza kuti akukwatiwa ndi mwamuna wabwino.
Anasangalala kwambiri ndi lingaliro loti azigawana naye moyo wake. Koma ukwatiwo utayandikira, chinachake chinali kumudya. Pia anali namwali. Ndipo lingaliro loti ataya unamwali wake linkamupangitsa kukhala wodandaula kwambiri. "Akazi ambiri amabwera kwa ine ndi vutoli," akutero katswiri wa zachiwerewere Dr. Rajan Bhonsle (MD, MBBS Medicine and Surgery), Mtsogoleri wa Dipatimenti Yoona za Zachiwerewere ku KEM Hospital ndi Seth GS Medical College, Mumbai.
Iye akuwonjezera kuti: “Kaŵirikaŵiri, kuopa kuchitidwa chifukwa cha chidziŵitso chonama. Amagwirizanitsa ululu ndi kukhetsa mwazi ndi mchitidwewo koma imeneyo ndi nthano yopitirizidwa ndi anthu amene sadziwa bwino lomwe. Tiyeni tikambirane za kufunika kopereka uphungu musanalowe m’banja pankhani zokhudza kugonana ndi kugonana.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Monga Pia, achinyamata ambiri tsopano akupita kwa akatswiri kuti akathetse mavuto awo a ubale. Anthu osakwatira, okwatirana, okwatirana omwe ali pafupi kukwatirana, okwatirana omwe ali pachibwenzi chodzipereka, omwe akufuna kukhala pachibwenzi chodzipereka: Onsewa. Okwatirana omwe adapatsidwa uphungu asanakwatirane anali ndi chiŵerengero chapamwamba cha 30% cha kupambana m'banja kuposa omwe sanatero, malinga ndi ziwerengero . Nzosadabwitsa kuti okwatirana ambiri akufunafuna alangizi kuti akhale ndi ukwati wabwino komanso wathanzi. Nazi nkhawa zina zomwe zimapangitsa okwatirana kukhala ndi alangizi osakwatirana:
1. Maanja akuwopa kutaya unamwali wawo, ngakhale ndi lingaliro lodzipangira
Akazi amada nkhawa kuti kugonana koyamba kungabweretse ululu waukulu komanso kusokonezeka maganizo. Koma amuna ena amada nkhawa kwambiri ndi kutaya unamwali wawo. "Amanyozedwa ndi anzawo komanso anthu osiyana nawo," akutero Dr. Bhonsle . Ndipo sikuti ndi kusowa chilakolako koma mwayi womwe umayambitsa vutoli. "Amafuna kugonana koma samawoneka kuti amapeza mwayi. Amayamba kumva kuti sanasankhidwe ndipo akuvutika ndi kudziona ngati wopanda pake."
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2. Kukwanilitsa kugonana monga chinthu chofunika kwambiri
Masiku ano pamene anthu akugonana mosavuta komanso akugonana kwambiri, akazi amafuna kusangalala pabedi ndipo pamapeto pake akupeza mawu awo. "Akhoza kukhala pachibwenzi chawo chachitatu koma akazi ambiri amakono amadandaula kuti sanafike pachimake ndi okondedwa awo," akutero Dr. Bhonsle. "Amvetsetsa kuti nawonso akuyenerera pachimake. Sakufuna kukhala ngati amayi awo omwe ananamizira kuti ali pachibwenzi ndipo sanadandaulepo - Ndipo ali okonzeka kufunafuna chithandizo kapena kufunsa katswiri kuti awapatse upangiri ngati akuona kuti iwowo kapena okondedwa awo akufunikira."
3. Kufananiza bwenzi ndi ena
Kukhala ndi orgasm ndikofunikira kwambiri. “Kuyerekeza,” anatero Dr. Bhonsle. “Anthu ambiri amakonda kuyerekezera mosadziwa mmene munthu wina amachitira zinthu ndi mnzake.” Izi si choncho.
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4. Ntchito imasokoneza
Si zachilendo kwa okwatirana atsopano kulola ntchito kusokoneza moyo wawo wogonana. Chilakolako chawo chokhala ndi ndalama zambiri komanso moyo wabwino chikuchepetsa chilakolako chawo cha wina ndi mnzake. Iye anati, “Akazi safuna kusankha pakati pa ntchito ndi banja . Sakufuna kusiya ntchito zawo zopindulitsa kuti abereke ana chifukwa akuganiza kuti zingakhale zovuta kwambiri kuti abwererenso mu mpikisano. Ndipo kwa amuna, chiyembekezo chodzakhala ndi ndalama zokha n’chovuta.” Kulera ana kumatayidwa mosangalala pankhaniyi, koma onse awiri ayenera kukhala pa mfundo imodzi. Izi zitha kuchitika kudzera mu uphungu.
5. Malire a malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ayenera kukambidwanso musanalowe m'banja
Onjezani kusakanizikaku malo ochezera a pa Intaneti omwe si ochezera anthu ndipo muli ndi njira yopezera maubwenzi owopsa. Dr. Bhonsle akuti anthu okwatirana tsopano ali ndi mbiri ya mbiri ya okondedwa awo pa Facebook, ndemanga, anzawo, ngakhale macheza awo pa WhatsApp ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo. "Zomwe zimayambitsa kukayikira, kukhala ndi katundu komanso kukayikira, koma izi ndi kusamvana komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha mawonekedwe a anzawo pawailesi yakanema - vuto lomwe silinakhalepo kale."
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6. Zolaula ndi zosangalatsa zothandizira
Zochitika paubwenzi zikuvutitsanso zotsatira za zolaula. “Anthu okwatirana akufunitsitsa kuyesa malo osiyanasiyana, zipangizo zosiyanasiyana tsopano,” akutero Dr. Bhonsle. Koma nthawi zina, zinthu zimatha kusokonekera. “Mnyamata wina ankafuna kuchita zinthu zitatu koma sanayese kuyambitsa nkhaniyi ndi mkazi wake chifukwa choopa kukanidwa ndi kunyozedwa. Koma akuganizira kwambiri za lingaliro lakuti tsopano wayamba kuvutika maganizo. Mkazi wina anazolowera kugwiritsa ntchito chida chothandiza kusangalala ali wosakwatiwa kotero kuti atakwatiwa, khama la mwamuna wake lofuna kumusangalatsa silinali lokwanira.”
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Maanja omwe analandira uphungu ukwati wawo usanachitike anali ndi chipambano chokwera ndi 30% kuposa omwe sanachite, monga ziwerengero. N’zosadabwitsa kuti maanja ambiri akufunafuna alangizi kuti akhale ndi banja labwino komanso lathanzi
- Zambiri zomwe zimachititsa maanja ku uphungu asanalowe m'banja zimachokera ku nkhawa zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi
- Maanja, pa nthawi yolangizira, amakambirana zinthu monga kukhutira pakugonana, 'kutaya unamwali,' kukhala kholo, kufunitsitsa ntchito, ndi malire ochezera pagulu.
Ndiye kodi okwatirana amasiku ano ayenera kuchita chiyani? Kodi amasunga bwanji maubwenzi awo omwe nthawi zonse amakhala osalimba? “Lankhulani, Lankhulani zosoŵa zanu momasuka ndi momasuka.” Osapeŵa nkhani zopusitsa. Khalani ndi nthaŵi yochuluka pamodzi ndi wina ndi mnzake” ndiwo uphungu wa dokotala.
Ibibazo
1. Kodi uphungu umatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji?
Zimatengera! Maanja ena amachita magawo angapo, pomwe ena amakonda a
2. Kodi uphungu usanalowe m'banja ndi okhawo omwe ali ndi mavuto?
Ayi! Ndi ya maanja onse amene akufuna kulowa m’banja momveka bwino, molimba mtima, komanso mwaluso lolankhulana bwino.
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