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“Moni wokondedwa, kwanu kapena kwanga?,” “Moni mtsikana! Chithunzi chabwino kwambiri cha mbiri yanu!,” “Zamoyo zanu ndi zodabwitsa kwambiri. Kodi ndingakufuneni kuti mupite nafe kokacheza usikuuno?” – Kodi mauthenga awa akumveka bwino? Akazi amalandira mauthenga oterewa pafupifupi zana akangolembetsa pa pulogalamu yamakono yopezera chibwenzi. Kafukufuku waposachedwapa adapezanso kuti nthawi zambiri akazi amakana 80% ya machesi omwe amalandira pa mapulogalamu opezera chibwenzi. Ndiye, kodi chibwenzi pa intaneti kwa akazi n’chosavuta kapena n’chovuta kwambiri? Chenjezo la Spoiler: sichophweka.

Tinayang'anitsitsa mutuwo ndikupeza mfundo zosangalatsa. Tiyeni tiwerenge kuti tisangodziwa momwe akazi amakhalira zosavuta (kapena zovuta) pazibwenzi komanso kuti tipeze njira zingapo zomwe amayi angayendetsere malo ochezera a pa intaneti bwino kwambiri. 

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Tonse takumana ndi ma meme a amuna akusewera mwamphamvu kudzera mu mapulogalamu a chibwenzi poganiza kuti akufuna kupeza womuyenerera. Mwachitsanzo, ganizirani za Aron, yemwe ndimagwira naye ntchito. Iye ali pa mapulogalamu ambiri a chibwenzi. Koma nthawi ina anandiuza zakukhosi, nati, “Womuyenerera akabwera, pali mwayi wochepa woti zigwira ntchito.” Ndipotu, sanathe kupeza mnzanu. Chifukwa chake, amachotsa mapulogalamuwo, kenako n’kuwayikanso sabata yotsatira. Koma kodi zomwe zikuchitika ndi zomwezo pankhani ya chibwenzi pa intaneti kwa akazi? N’chifukwa chiyani anthu ena amakhulupirira kuti chibwenzi n’chosavuta kwa akazi pa intaneti?

Ngakhale machesi samawuluka kwenikweni kwa amuna, kudandaula za momwe "dongosolo lakhalira" silimveka. Mkangano wonse wa "zibwenzi zapaintaneti ndizosavuta kwa akazi" zimachokera ku mfundo yakuti akazi amakonda kupeza machesi ambiri, koma voliyumu sizitanthauza kuti ndizosavuta. 

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Mlandu wa kuchuluka motsutsana ndi khalidwe 

Tisanalowe mwatsatanetsatane za chibwenzi cha pa intaneti chomwe chili chosavuta kwa akazi, tiyeni tiwone zomwe wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit akunena za izi, "Ayi, koma ndizovuta m'njira zosiyanasiyana." Inde, machesi ndi mauthenga amabwera mwachangu kwa akazi, koma si chinthu chabwino kwenikweni. Choyamba, mwina ndi choncho chifukwa ogwiritsa ntchito Tinder oposa 70% (osachepera ku US) ndi amuna.

Malinga ndi kafukufuku waposachedwa , 57% ya akazi adanena kuti adalumikizidwa kudzera pa mauthenga kapena kudzera pa maakaunti achinsinsi ochezera pa intaneti atanena kuti sakufuna. Pafupifupi 57% adalandira mauthenga kapena zithunzi zolaula zomwe sanapemphe. Chifukwa chake, ngati muwona anzanu achikazi akunyalanyaza mauthenga zana omwe sanawerenge pa mbiri yawo ya chibwenzi, mwina ndi chifukwa chomwe zili mu mauthengawo zimawapangitsa kuti aziopa kutsegula pulogalamuyi poyamba.

Koma n’chifukwa chiyani pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa momwe amuna ndi akazi amagwiritsira ntchito mapulogalamu ochezera? N’chifukwa chiyani chibwenzi pa intaneti chili chovuta kwa amuna, monga momwe onse amavomerezera? Mwina zonsezi zitha kutengera zamoyo. Kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti malingaliro achilengedwe ndi oona m’dziko la chibwenzi pa intaneti. Amuna amasamala kwambiri za kukongola kwa thupi, ndipo akazi amaganizira zinthu zina zingapo, monga makhalidwe azachuma. Zimenezi zikufotokoza chifukwa chake timaona amuna akusuntha kumanja ngati kuti sakudziwa kuti pali 'kusuntha kumanzere', ndi akazi akuyesera kupeza singano mu udzu.

"N'zosavuta kupeza machesi chifukwa anyamata ambiri amangosewera pa aliyense," akutero wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit , polankhula za momwe chibwenzi cha akazi pa intaneti chilili. Iwo akuwonjezera kuti, "Pambuyo posewera, sizimakhala zosavuta kwenikweni . Amangosewera pa chithunzi, sanawerenge mbiri ya moyo wawo, akungofuna kukhala ndi thupi komanso kunama kuti apeze machesi. Ngati mukuyeseradi kukhala pachibwenzi, nthawi yomweyo zimakhala zovuta kwambiri."

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Zowopsa za chibwenzi pa intaneti 

Tangoganizani, masewera ochezera a pa Intaneti si ophweka kwa aliyense. Koma ndizowopsa kawiri pankhani ya chibwenzi pa intaneti kwa azimayi. N’chifukwa chiyani zili choncho? Tiyeni tiwone zitsanzo zingapo:

• Ndi kuvina kosasangalatsa kokankhana komwe nthawi zambiri kumakhala anthu awiri omwe amadikirira kuti maola oyenerera adutse asanayankhe uthenga kuti asawonekere osimidwa.
• Pali nkhawa yeniyeni yokhudzana ndi chitetezo. Malinga ndi a kafukufuku, atsikana ali ndi mwayi wowirikiza kawiri kuopsezedwa kuvulazidwa kapena kutukwanidwa kuposa amuna anzawo. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti azimayi amakumana ndi milandu yambiri yozunzidwa pa intaneti, ndipo tonse tikudziwa momwe zimakhalira kulowera mu ma DM a winawake zingakhale. 
• Kuchuluka kwa machesi kumatha kuchulutsa akazi ndikupangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuti akhazikike pamunthu m'modzi
• Zambiri zaumwini, kuphatikiza zithunzi, zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito molakwika ndi ena

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Ndiye, kodi munthu angathane bwanji ndi mavuto a chibwenzi pa intaneti kwa akazi? "Zochitika zathu zoyipa kwambiri ndizosiyana kwambiri," akutero wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit , ndikuwonjezera kuti, "Amuna sapita ku chibwenzi chodziteteza okha. Sadandaula za kugwiriridwa. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti sizichitika kwa amuna, koma ndimamva amuna ambiri akunena za kukanidwa (zomwe aliyense amakumana nazo) ngati kuti ndicho chinthu choipa kwambiri chomwe chingachitike pa chibwenzi."

Kupatula apo, pafupifupi theka la anthu aku US akuti chibwenzi chakhala chovuta kwambiri m'zaka khumi zapitazi. Ngakhale akazi amapeza mabwenzi ambiri pa mapulogalamu ochezera, pomwe chinthu chokhacho chomwe mabwenziwo amabweretsa ndi nkhawa yoti anyozedwa kapena kuopsezedwa, mutha kuwona chifukwa chake sakugwirizana ndi lingaliro lakuti chibwenzi pa intaneti n'chosavuta kwa akazi. Tsopano popeza tikudziwa kuti chibwenzi pa intaneti kwa akazi si njira yosavuta, tiyeni tiwone kalozera wanzeru wopezera chibwenzi wa momwe akazi angathanirane ndi zovuta za chibwenzi pa intaneti. Chifukwa chake, nayi momwe mungakhalire pachibwenzi ngati mkazi ngati muli pa mapulogalamu ochezera:

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1. Khalani oona mtima pa zomwe mukufuna

Mmodzi wa zabwino Intaneti chibwenzi nsonga kwa akazi ndi kunena moona mtima za zosowa zanu ndi zofuna. Monga akazi, taphunzitsidwa nthawi zambiri kuti misampha ya ludzu imatha kukopa zokwawa. Ambiri aife timachita manyazi kuvomereza kuti titha kufuna kuthamangitsidwa kapena kuyimirira usiku umodzi m'malo mokhala ndi ubale wautali. Sitingakhale ndi malingaliro abwino kapena mkhalidwe wangwiro wa ubale weniweni. Choncho, chinthu choyamba kuchita pamene mukuyang'ana chibwenzi ndi munthu kuti zolinga zanu zimveke. Khalani achindunji komanso osachita manyazi pofotokoza zomwe mukufuna.

Kuchita khama kuti mupeze chibwenzi ndi njira yachikhalidwe yopezera chibwenzi kwa akazi yomwe mungapeze kuti ikubwerezedwanso mu bukhu lililonse lovomerezeka la chibwenzi. Mukachita bwino komanso m'njira yoyezera, imagwiranso ntchito bwino kwambiri pa chibwenzi cha pa intaneti. Sungani mauthenga anu afupikitsa pachiyambi. Amuna amakonda kuthamangitsana. Chifukwa chake, sungani chisangalalo chanu ndipo mulole kuti atumize uthenga kaye. Nazi malangizo ena angapo okhudza izi:

• Pewani kuyambitsa mauthenga tsiku lililonse
• Kulemberana mameseji pawiri si tchimo, koma lolani kuti padutse nthawi musanamuuze kuti mukumusowa bwanji.
• Pewani kutumiza ndime. Mwachidule, "Moni, zikuyenda bwanji?" Ndi bwino kumuyimbira foni kapena kutumizirana mameseji ngati amakukondani

Buku la Reddit ili ndi mfundo zosangalatsa zokhudza malamulo opezera chibwenzi kwa akazi. Amati, “…mukhoza kutumizirana mauthenga ambiri chifukwa mukufotokoza mopitirira muyeso chifukwa mukufuna kutsimikiza kuti mukulankhulana zomwe mukutanthauza molondola komanso kuti zikubwera bwino? Ngati mauthenga ataliatali akuyendetsedwa ndi nkhawa zimenezo, mwina mungafotokozere mnzanuyo ndikuwapempha kuti afunse mafunso aliwonse, kapena ngati angakuuzeni ngati akuganiza kuti chinachake kutengera zomwe mwanena sichingakhale cholondola. Mwanjira imeneyi simukumva kuti mukukakamizidwa kutumiza mauthenga mopitirira muyeso nthawi iliyonse.”

2. Osaulula zambiri zanu posachedwa

Tsopano, wotsogolera aliyense wopeza chibwenzi angakuuzeni izi. Ndipo pali chifukwa chomveka. Mukukumbukira The Tinder Swindler ya Netflix ? Intaneti ndi malo opanda chifundo. Amuna achinyengo, achinyengo, ndi zigawenga zankhanza apanga malo awo opezera anthu osalakwa ntchito yogwira ndi kukopa anthu osalakwa. Ndipo ngati simukukhulupirira, yang'anani zina mwa milandu yaposachedwa yakupha anthu omwe akupha anthu awo pa mapulogalamu opeza chibwenzi.

Chifukwa chake, muyenera kukhala osamala pazigawo zoyamba za chibwenzi. Samalani kuti musaulule chilichonse mwa izi posachedwa:

• adiresi yanu
• Zambiri za banki yanu
• Tsatanetsatane wa pasipoti yanu
• Tsatanetsatane wa malo anu antchito
• Zina zilizonse tcheru, monga mapasiwedi amakalata, ndi zina.

3. Osanama

Imodzi mwa malamulo akuluakulu a zibwenzi kwa amayi ndi kupewa kunama. Ndi chinthu chimodzi kuteteza zambiri zanu, koma muyenera kuwonetsetsa kuti simumaliza kupanga munthu wabodza, mwina ndi chidziwitso cholakwika kapena zithunzi zosefedwa. Nazi zina zomwe simuyenera kuzikumbukira ngati mukufuna kudziwa bwino zamakhalidwe ochezera a azimayi:

• Osakokomeza za mbiri yanu yantchito. Ndibwino ngati mukufuna kuti musanene zambiri, koma osanama
• Pewani kutumiza zithunzi kapena zithunzi zakale zokhala ndi zosefera ndi zosintha. Izi zikufanana ndi kupha nsomba, yomwe si njira yabwino yopezera chibwenzi pa intaneti
• Osanama zolinga zanu. Ngati mukufuna kukhala pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali, nenani. Ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi nthawi yochepa, nenaninso

Kupatula mabodza akuluakulu, anthu nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito bodza pazinthu zopanda pake pa mapulogalamu ochezera. Ena amaona kuti n'kosavuta kunama popanda chifukwa kudzera m'mauthenga . Palinso mawu oti mabodza oyera. Kafukufuku wina anawatcha 'bodza la bwanamkubwa'. Angakhale okhudza chinthu chosavuta monga kunama chifukwa chomwe sangakumane tsiku linalake. Ngakhale mabodza oterewa savulaza kwambiri, amachepetsa kudalirika kwa wabodza ngati atawululidwa pambuyo pake.

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4. Osakhudzidwa ndi kusagwirizana

Monga momwe zibwenzi zapaintaneti zikuchulukirachulukira, momwemonso kusagwirizana kukuchulukirachulukira. Ghosting ndikosavuta komanso kutsekereza. Koma ngakhale simunafanane ndi anyamata otentha patsamba / pulogalamu, musadzitengere nokha kapena mulole kuti zikhudze moyo wanu. Ndipo ndithudi musalowe mu kupsinjika maganizo. Imodzi mwa malamulo ofunikira kwambiri a zibwenzi kwa amayi ndikutenga ndi mchere pang'ono, ndikusunthira ku akaunti yatsopano yomwe amakonda.

Mnzanga wina, Andrea, yemwe anali ndi chisoni chifukwa cha kukanidwa mobwerezabwereza, anati, “Ndatha chibwenzi pa intaneti. Sindingathe kupirira kukhumudwa mobwerezabwereza.” Ndinamupempha kuti achepetse kukwiya pang'ono. Anapita kukacheza payekha tsiku lotsatira ndipo anali kusangalala kwambiri ndi nkhani yake ya Instagram. “Zinagwira ntchito,” iye anati, “Ndikumva bwino kwambiri.” Ulendo wopita yekha ku cafe yomwe amakonda unamulimbikitsa. Chifukwa chake, mukuona, chinthu chabwino kwambiri kuchita pazochitika zotere ndikudzisamalira. Siyani omwe akukusiyani. Ganizirani nokha.

5. Osamamatira patsamba limodzi/pulogalamu imodzi yokha

Kaya ndi Tinder, Hinge, kapena Bumble, mapulogalamu ochezera pa intaneti amatha kukhala osasangalatsa pakapita nthawi. Chifukwa chake, kuti muwonjezere luso lanu locheza pa intaneti, tikukulangizani kuti musinthe pakati pa mapulogalamu ochezera pa intaneti. Izi zimapangitsa kuti muzitha kusinthasintha pazochitika zanu zonse zochezera komanso zimakuthandizani kusankha zomwe mukugwirizana nazo kwambiri. Msuweni wanga, Rhea, ali ndi chizolowezi chosintha kuchokera ku pulogalamu kupita ku pulogalamu. Zikuoneka kuti, njira yomweyo yolankhulirana (mapulogalamu ena amafunsa mafunso oyambitsa , pomwe ena amayamba nkhani zachilendo) zimamukwiyitsa, ndipo amakonda kuyika zinthu zosiyanasiyana muzochita zake.

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6. Khulupirirani matumbo anu

Kumva chisoni ndi njira yoyamba yodzitetezera ku mavuto. Chifukwa chake, mukamayang'ana mbiri yanu ya chibwenzi, mverani zomwe chibadwa chanu chikunena. Kodi njira yake imakuuzani kuti pali cholakwika? Kodi mauthenga ake akuti "Moni sexy" amakupangitsani mantha? Musadikire mpaka mutakumana naye kuti mumukane. Wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit anati, "Kwa anthu omwe amati khulupirirani mtima wanu, ali ndi ufulu. Ngati mtima wanu ukukuuzani kuti pali cholakwika, mwina sichili bwino. Pomaliza, musakhazikike. Muli ndi udindo wokhala ndi munthu amene mukufuna kukhala osati chifukwa choti muli nokha."

7. Kuletsa popanda kulakwa

Chotsatira chothana ndi matumbo anu kumverera kuti china chake chalakwika ndikutsekereza munthuyo. Inde, musaope kubwezera kapena kuchita zoipa. Azimayi ambiri amasangalala ndi khalidwe lotayirira kapena losayenera pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti chifukwa amawopa kuti amunawo angatani atakanidwa. Osagwera mumsampha. Mukaniretu. Chotsani, chotsani, musafanane, nthawi isanathe. Osalimbikitsa zomwe simukumasuka nazo.

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8. Funsani mafunso

Momwe mungachitire chibwenzi ngati mkazi pa mapulogalamu ochezera popanda kuwononga chitetezo chanu komanso thanzi lanu la maganizo ndi nkhani yofala kwambiri. Njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli ndikudziwa zambiri. Inde, ndikofunikira kupangitsa mwamuna kukuthamangitsani , makamaka kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi. Koma muyeneranso kudziwa za iye kuti muthe kupanga chisankho. Chifukwa chake, njira yabwino kwambiri yochitira izi ndikufunsa mafunso ndikuwunika mayankho ake. Kodi mayankho ake akumveka achilendo kapena enieni? Mufunseni za maphunziro ake, banja lake, komanso ubwana wake. Mufunseni mafunso omwewo m'njira zosiyanasiyana kuti mudziwe ngati wakhala akunama.

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Popeza tsopano mukudziwa zoyenera kuchita komanso zomwe simuyenera kuchita pazibwenzi zapaintaneti ngati mkazi, tiyeni tikupatseni chidziwitso chochepa pamasamba abwino kwambiri ochezera pa intaneti/mapulogalamu a azimayi. Nayi kusankha kwathu:

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Maganizo Final

Chibwenzi chapaintaneti chilipo. Ndipo sitingachite zambiri pankhaniyi. Komabe, pankhani yodziteteza, mwina akazi amafunikirabe kumanga khoma lalitali kuposa amuna. Ndipo tikukhulupirira kuti maupangiri azibwenzi apa intaneti a azimayi omwe ali mu kalozera wa zibwenzi awathandiza kukwaniritsa izi. Ndipo tikukhulupirira kuti simukudabwabe momwe mungakhalire ndi chibwenzi ngati mkazi. Ndi bwino kukhala woona mtima koma sichoncho kukhala pachiwopsezo, makamaka pamene intaneti yakhala likulu la anthu ochita zachinyengo komanso onyenga. Chifukwa chake, izi zimapita kwa azimayi onse omwe ali pazibwenzi: tsiku mwanzeru koma motetezeka.

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