Aliyense ali ndi zinsinsi. Monga momwe timalimbikitsira kukhulupirika, tiyeni tinene kuti, tonse tikubisa chinachake. Kuphwanya mwachinsinsi, malo ochezera achinsinsi, kapenanso maswiti obisika, chifukwa nthawi zina simufuna kugawana nawo. Komabe, zinsinsi zina zili pamalo otuwa. Ubale wobisika ndi chinthu chimodzi chotere.
Lingaliro la chikondi chobisika likhoza kuwoneka losangalatsa kwambiri. Kunena zoona, zingakhale zosangalatsa kwambiri. Kuyang'ana mopitilira muyeso, kumwetulira kwachinsinsi, mwangozi maburashi mwadala, zonsezi zimapangitsa kuti mitima yathu ikhale yothamanga. Palibe cholakwika ndi kufuna kusunga ubale wachinsinsi. Koma ngati mnzanuyo akupitiriza kutsindika zachinsinsi ndikupereka zifukwa zopanda pake ngati zifukwa zosungira chibwenzi chanu, pali chifukwa chodera nkhawa.
Kukhala pachibwenzi chobisika mosafuna kungakuwonongereni chidaliro. Zingakhale zopweteka kuona kuti munthu amene mumamukonda kwambiri akubisa ubale wanu, ngati kuti akukuchitirani manyazi. Koma, kodi zimenezo zikutanthauzadi, kapena pali zina zambiri? Tiyeni tiwone zonse zomwe tikufunika kudziwa zokhudza ubale wobisika, mothandizidwa pang'ono ndi mphunzitsi wa chibwenzi Geetarsh Kaur , yemwe anayambitsa The Skill School, yomwe imadziwika bwino popanga ubale wolimba.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Gawo loyamba loti mudziwe ngati muli pachibwenzi chachinsinsi ndikudziwa kuti ndi chiyani kwenikweni. N'zosavuta kusokoneza chibwenzi chachinsinsi ndi china chachinsinsi. Geetarsh amathandiza kuthetsa vuto la ubale wachinsinsi ndi wachinsinsi.
"Popeza kuti malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri la moyo wathu, anthu amakonda kulengeza zochitika zawo zonse, kuphatikizapo maubwenzi." Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi omwe ali pachibwenzi sagwiritsa ntchito njira zoterezi kulengeza za ubale wawo, zimatchedwa ubale wachinsinsi.
Kumbali ina, mu ubale wachinsinsi, palibe wina aliyense koma awiriwo amadziwa za ubalewo. Palibe achibale kapena bwenzi amene akudziwa za ubalewu.”
Kodi ubale wake pa Facebook umanena kuti ndi wosakwatiwa, koma wakukudziwitsani kwa abwenzi ake, mlongo wake wamng'ono, ndi galu wake? Kenako, ali pachibwenzi chenicheni . Ngati ubalewo sunadziwike bwino ndipo palibe amene akudziwa kuti muliko, ndiye kuti pali china chomwe chikubwera.
Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti ubale wachinsinsi sikuyenera kukhala chinthu choipa, makamaka ngati onse okhudzidwa avomereza kuti asunge chete. Mwachitsanzo, ngati anzako aŵiri ayamba kukondana koma malo awo antchito salimbikitsa antchito kukhala pachibwenzi, ubwenzi wobisika ndi njira yachibadwa. Mtundu woterewu ukhoza kudziwikanso ngati wachinsinsi, koma osati ubale wachinsinsi.
Komabe, ngati ubalewo ndi wachinsinsi chifukwa m'modzi akufuna kuti zisungike momwemo pomwe winayo sangaganizire zolemba za Instagram kapena ziwiri, pali chifukwa chachikulu chodetsa nkhawa. Kukayika kulikonse kumatha kulowa m'maganizo mwanu, ndipo mutha kukayikira zomwe muli.
Musanadziŵe mmene mungathanirane ndi mkhalidwe wotero, muyenera kudzifufuza ngati muli nawodi. Tiye tikambirane mmene mungadziwire ngati anthu awiri ali pachibwenzi mobisa komanso chifukwa chake mnzanuyo angafune kukhala pachibwenzi chotere.
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N'chifukwa Chiyani Okondedwa Wanu Amafuna Kukhala Ndi Ubale Wachinsinsi?
Ubale ndi nkhani yachinsinsi. Ndipo ndi nkhani ya mnzanu komanso chisankho chanu nthawi, momwe mungachitire, komanso mpaka pati pamene muulula ubale wanu. Koma ngati mnzanu akufuna kusunga chinsinsi chonse, muyenera kudziwa chifukwa chake akufuna kuti ukhale choncho. Ngakhale zifukwa zina zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwakanthawi, zina ndi zizindikiro zowopsa zomwe siziyenera kunyalanyazidwa.
"Ubwenzi wachinsinsi ukhoza kupita njira imodzi yokha mwa njira ziwiri," akutero Ben Harcum, wojambula. “Pamapeto pake zimaonekera poyera kapena kutha.
Ngati mukukayikira kuti panopa muli pachibwenzi chobisa, maganizo anu angalumphe kuganiza moipitsitsa. Tikupeza, si chinthu chokonda kwambiri padziko lapansi kupeza kuti mnzanuyo sangakudziwitseni kwa anzanu. Asanaganize ngati, “Kodi akundibisira chinsinsi? zimalowa mu malingaliro anu, yang'anani pazifukwa zotsatirazi zomwe mnzanuyo angafune kuzibisa.
1. Sali otsimikiza za ubalewo
Tsopano apa pali chifukwa chomwe chiri kwenikweni mu imvi. Ngati wokondedwa wanu wangotuluka kumene pachibwenzi chachikulu ndipo mwangoyamba kumene chibwenzi, ndiye kuti ichi chingakhale chimodzi mwa zifukwa zosungira chibwenzicho chinsinsi. Angakhale akuonetsetsa kuti ubalewo ukupita kwinakwake, asanauwonetse poyera.
Ngakhale kuti n'kwanzeru kusunga zinthu zachinsinsi kwa kanthawi, siziyenera kukhala zosatha. Ngati mwakhala pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo akukayikirabe kufalitsa chibwenzicho kapena kuyika chithunzi pa Instagram , kukambirana kungafunike.
2. Ndiwe nsomba chabe m’nyanja
Chifukwa chakuti timaganiza kuti munthu ndi mnzathu wa moyo, sizikutanthauza kuti ndife ake. Ndi maganizo omvetsa chisoni, koma ndi zoona komabe. Ngakhale mungakhale otanganidwa kwambiri muubwenzi wanu ndipo simungathandizire kuthamangira ku BFFs za momwe wokondedwa wanu alili wodabwitsa, angakhale akumva mosiyana.
Ngati mnzanu akuyesera kubisa chibwenzicho, ndiye kuti pali kuthekera kwakukulu kuti sakukuganizirani kwenikweni ndipo akukugwiritsani ntchito . Akufuna kupindula ndi ubale wachinsinsi pamene akudikira nthawi yawo mpaka wina wabwino atabwera. Mnzanu sakufuna kuwononga mwayi wake ndi anthu ena polankhula momveka bwino za momwe alili paubwenzi.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti ichi chikhoza kukhala chifukwa cha ubale wobisika womwe muli nawo, muyenera kuwunika masitepe anu molingana. Mwamsanga mukakambirana za izo ndi wokondedwa wanu, ndi bwino. Zikapezeka kuti mukunyozedwa, tikukulimbikitsani kuti muchoke paubwenziwu chifukwa kuberedwa kumatha kusiya zotsatira zoyipa zokhalitsa.
3. Chikakamizo cha banja kapena chikhalidwe cha anthu chikhoza kukankhira anthu mu maubwenzi obisika
Nthawi zambiri anthu amatha kugwirizanitsa tanthauzo la ubale wachinsinsi ndi chibwenzi choletsedwa. Koma sizili choncho nthawi zonse. Pali zikhalidwe zina pomwe malingaliro a makolo amakhala ndi gawo lalikulu pankhani ya chikondi cha mwana wawo. Anthu okwatirana amafunika kuvomerezedwa ndi makolo awo asanayambe chibwenzi.
M'madera ngati awa, kukhala ndi maubwenzi achinsinsi ndi chinthu chachizolowezi kuposa kungosiyana. Ndipo maubwenzi ambiri amathanso chifukwa cha kukakamizidwa ndi mabanja ndi anthu. Zambiri mwa izi zimagwirizananso ndi momwe banja lanu limakhalira , ngati munthu nthawi zonse amaletsedwa kuchita chibwenzi, sangavomereze mokweza kuti akuchita zimenezo.
M'madera monga awa okhala ndi maubwenzi obisika ndizochitika zachilendo. Ndipo maubwenzi ambiri amatha chifukwa cha kukakamizidwa ndi mabanja komanso anthu. N’chimodzimodzinso ndi John, wophunzira zamalamulo amene anakhala pachibwenzi ndi Caroline kwa zaka pafupifupi zitatu. M’masiku amenewo, iwo ankafunika kubisa ubale wawo ndi achibale awo.
John anati: “Pamene tinali ku koleji, zinali bwino kuti tizicheza koma sitikanapita kukacheza kunja kwa sukulu. “Tinkalephera ngakhale kupita kokamwa khofi ngakhale titagwirana chanza pamaso pa anthu.” Nthaŵi zonse tinali ndi mantha oti tingadziŵike ndi achibale athu kapena achibale athu.
“Pambuyo pa zaka 3, tinaganiza zouza makolo athu kuti: “Tinkakondana kwambiri komanso tinali ndi ntchito zabwino, zokhazikika, choncho tinkayembekezera kuti makolo athu avomereza chibwenzicho.” Koma sanatero.
M’madera amene kukhala ndi chibwenzi sikumalimbikitsidwa kwenikweni, n’zoonekeratu kuti n’zoonekeratu kuti n’chifukwa chiyani pali maubwenzi obisika. Ngati makolo a mnzanuyo ali mtundu womwe angakhale ndi vuto ndi ana awo pachibwenzi, zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chomwe mnzanuyo akuganiza kuti ndi bwino kuti musalole aliyense kuti amve zomwe mukuchita.
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4. Okondedwa wanu akadali pa chibwenzi ndi ex wawo ndipo akufuna kuti abwererenso
Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomvetsa chisoni kwambiri zomwe munthu amabisira chibwenzi chake ndi chakuti chibwenzi chake chakale chikukhudza ubale wake wakale , chifukwa sanasiyebe chibwenzi chake chakale. Ndikudziwa kuti mukufuna kuthandiza mnzanu. Mumamugwira ngakhale atakhala ngati bafa lodzaza ndi madzi.
Chisoni chanu chimakupangitsani kukhala odabwitsa komanso okoma mtima, koma mwayi uli, iwo samawona zimenezo nkomwe. Kwa iwo, ndiwe wobwereranso. Wina yemwe angagwire dzanja lake ndikutonthoza zowawa mpaka wakale wake atabweranso ndipo amathamangira kulowa kwa dzuwa. Ndiye ngati mukuganiza kuti ndinu “chibwenzi chobisika” kapena “chibwenzi chobisika” kwa munthu wina, fufuzani kuti mnzanuyo anatha kalekale bwanji. Ngati inali nkhani ya miyezi, kapena kuipitsitsa, masabata apitawo, muli ndi yankho lanu.
5. Chinyengo: Chifukwa chosunga ubale wanu mwachinsinsi
Munthu sangalankhule za maubwenzi obisika popanda kuthana ndi kuthekera kwa chigololo. Kunyenga, mwatsoka, ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zofala kwambiri za chibwenzi chachinsinsi. Mochuluka kwambiri, kuti mukatchula za ubale wachinsinsi ndi munthu, kungoganiza kuti pali chinyengo chamtundu wina.
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Oscar Wilde adanenapo kuti, "Chinthu chodziwika bwino ndi chosangalatsa ngati m'modzi yekha abisala," ndipo ndizovuta kutsutsa. Zinthu zobisika mwachinsinsi zimakhala ndi chidwi. Chipatso choletsedwa chimakopa kwambiri chifukwa choletsedwa. Ubale wachinsinsi umakulolani kudya chipatso choletsedwacho.
Zikanakhala choncho. Bodza limodzi limafuna ena 1,000 kuti likhale lokhulupirira.” Kuopa kudziwika, kuchotsa mauthenga ndi zina zotero, kuda nkhawa kwambiri chifukwa cha zimenezi n'koopsa kwambiri,” akufotokoza motero Geetarsh.
Kukhala pachibwenzi chobisika kungakhale kovuta. Komabe, zimakhala zowawa kwambiri mukazipeza mosadziwa. Kodi pali mantha owopsa kumbuyo kwa mutu wanu kuti zonse sizingakhale momwe ziyenera kukhalira? Nazi zizindikiro 10 za ubale wachinsinsi kuti zikuthandizeni.
1. SO wanu amakudziwitsani ngati bwenzi
Mukakhala pachibwenzi, mudzatuluka. Ndipo mwayi ndi pamene mutero, mumakumana ndi mabwenzi. Ngati mnzanuyo akuuzani inu ngati bwenzi kapena akuumirira kuti akudziwitsidwe ngati mmodzi, ndiye kuti mungakhale otsimikiza kuti akufuna kusunga chiyanjanocho chinsinsi. Ndi chinthu chimodzi kubisira anzanu akuntchito kapena kuuza makolo anu ngati mwangokumana kumene, koma anzanu amakuvomerezani. Ngati kukongola kwanu kumabisanso ubale wanu kwa iwo, ndiye kuti ndi mbendera yofiira.
Muzochitika zotere, m'malo momukakamiza mnzanu, kungakhale kwanzeru kufunsa mnzanuyo chifukwa chake munamudziwitsa kuti ndinu mnzanu osati mnzanu. Ngakhale kuti mungakhale ndi mkwiyo wochuluka, yesani kumva mnzanuyo za zifukwa zomwe zingamupangitse kukhala pachibwenzi. Mwina mudzazindikira kuti muli pachibwenzi chachinsinsi chifukwa mnzanuyo akuyesera kubisa izi kwa makolo awo.
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2. Zochita zamagulu ochezera a pa Intaneti zimatumiza zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana
Anthu ambiri masiku ano amaona kuti malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi Wikipedia yatsopano. Ngati zili pa social media, ndiye kuti ziyenera kukhala zenizeni. Iwo samawona ubale wovomerezeka pokhapokha atapangidwa kuti Facebook ikhale yovomerezeka. Koma si zimene Mindy ankamva. "Kwa ine, maubwenzi ndi achinsinsi, ndipo sindinamvepo kufunika kolengeza za ubale wanga pawailesi yakanema," akutero Mindy. Koma monga momwe zikanakhalira, ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti omwe adapangitsa Mindy kuzindikira kuti chibwenzi chake sichinali chowona mtima.
Chibwenzi cha Mindy, Jay, anali wotanganidwa kwambiri pazama TV. Mindy anawonjezera kuti: “Anali m’zonsezo, anapanga zitsulo, kujambula zithunzi za chakudya chake, ndi kuziika pamwamba pake, mukudziŵa ntchito zake, “Nthaŵi zonse ndakhala ndikukhulupirira kuti chinsinsi cha ubale uliwonse wachipambano n’choonekera poyera, ndipo ndimayesetsa kutsimikizira zimenezo m’maubwenzi anga. Mindy adafotokozera Jay kuti sanali munthu wansanje.
Koma Jay adatenga kusamala kwake ngati chizindikiro cha kufooka. Patatha miyezi itatu kuchokera pachibwenzi, Mindy adayamba kuzindikira china chake. "Jay ankaika zithunzi ndikulemba akazi koma osati ine, zomwe zinali bwino mpaka nditawona ndemanga. Akazi ankamukopa ndipo iyenso ankamukopa. Sikunali kukopa kopanda vuto lililonse . Kungakhale chinthu chonga, 'Sindingasiye kuganizira za iwe' kapena china cholimba ngati 'Ndikukhumba ukanakhala nane pakali pano, kuti ndikuwonetse momwe ndikumvera'."
Mindy anali atatsala pang'ono kufika pomwe paja paja text inalowa mufoni yake. Anali m'modzi mwa atsikana omwe amacheza nawo ndipo adati, "Fungo lako limakhala pamapepala anga." Kwa Mindy, kunalibe kubwerera kuchokera kumeneko.
Mindy amakhulupirirabe kuti sizinthu zonse zomwe zimayenera kukhala pawailesi yakanema, koma zimakudziwitsani zambiri za komwe ubale wanu ukuyima.
3. Palibe mnzawo kapena abale awo amene akudziwa kuti muli pachibwenzi
Tonse tili ndi munthu m'modzi ameneyo m'miyoyo yathu yemwe timamuuza chilichonse. Munthu ameneyo amadziwa zinthu zonse zofunika kwa ife, kaya zikhale zazikulu kapena zazing’ono. Ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe mnzanuyo aliri wachinsinsi, iwonso adzakhala ndi munthu amene amamuuza zakukhosi.
Ngati mwakhala naye pachibwenzi kwa nthawi ndithu ndipo simunakumane kapena ngakhale kulankhula ndi bwenzi lawo lapamtima, ndiye n'zotheka kuti ali kale munthu, kapena choipa, kale okwatirana. Anthu ambiri amadana ndi chibwenzi chobisika pambuyo pa ukwati. Ichi ndichifukwa chake SO yanu ikhoza kubisala ngakhale kwa BFF yawo. Ngati mnzanu wabwino kwambiri sakudziwa za kukhalapo kwanu, ndiye kuti ndi mbendera yofiira.
Kukhala pachibwenzi chachinsinsi chamtunduwu kwa nthawi yayitali kungakupangitseni kukayikira. Simudzamva chilichonse chokhudza anzanu a mnzanu, kapena sadzakuuzani zambiri za komwe ali komanso nthawi yomwe ali. Kuphatikiza pa mfundo yakuti ndinu chibwenzi chachinsinsi kapena chibwenzi chachinsinsi, mudzawonanso zizindikiro zonse za mnzanu wonyenga pankhaniyi.
4. Mumayenderanso malo omwewo
Ngati mupeza kuti mukupita ku malo angapo osankhidwa mobwerezabwereza, ndiye kuti ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za ubale wachinsinsi. Ndi zachilendo komanso zathanzi kuti anthu awiri aziyesa zinthu zatsopano komanso kufufuza malo atsopano. Tonse tili ndi malo omwe ndi apadera kwa ife ndipo timapitako pafupipafupi.
Koma ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo pitirizani kukumana pa malo omwewo, ndi pang'ono kuti palibe kusintha wanu tsiku zizolowezi, ndiye mwina chifukwa iwo ali otsimikiza kuti iwo sadzakhala anapeza ndi aliyense malo awa. Ndipo akhoza kupitiriza façade pamene akupeza ubwino wa ubale wachinsinsi.
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5. Amakhala ndi mphwayi akakhala nanu pagulu
Mukakhala pachibwenzi, kodi mnzanu nthawi zonse amasankha malo amdima kwambiri kapena malo ochezera? Ndikukhulupirira kuti amanena kuti “sakufuna kuti wina aliyense asokoneze chibwenzi chanu.” Musavomereze zimenezo, ndi chinyengo. Chowonadi ndi chakuti kusiyana pakati pa ubale wachinsinsi ndi wachinsinsi ndikuti pamene muli pachibwenzi chachinsinsi, inu ndi mnzanu simungaulule chikondi chanu kwa wina ndi mnzake kuchokera padenga, koma aliyense wa inu simudzaopa kudziwitsa winayo ngati chibwenzi/chibwenzi chake kwa munthu amene mumadziwana naye.
Koma ngati kukongola kwanu kumangoyang'ana paphewa pawo ndikugwetsa pansi pa tebulo kuti apewe anthu omwe amawadziwa ali nanu, ndiye nthawi yoti mufufuze zenizeni. Choncho yang'anani zizindikiro ngati mnzanuyo kusiya dzanja lanu nthawi iliyonse akuganiza kuti awona munthu amene amamudziwa, kapena pamene iwo sadzachita nawo PDA iliyonse.
6. Madeti anu nthawi zambiri amakhala Netflix ndi ozizira
Kunyumba ndi komwe mumadalira mpando wa chimbudzi. Palibe chomwe chimakhala bwino ngati kunyumba. Mukudziwa kuti chakudya chidzakhala choyera, chopatsa thanzi komanso momwe mukufunira, mutha kuledzera popanda kuda nkhawa ndi kugona pansi pa msewu. Komanso, ndi lingaliro losavuta kwambiri la chibwenzi . Chifukwa chake lingaliro la Netflix ndi kupumula pa chibwenzi nthawi zambiri limalandiridwa.
Komabe, ngati tsiku lililonse lomwe muli nalo limakhala m'nyumba nthawi zonse, mungafunike kuwomba mabelu. Zachidziwikire, zifukwa zina monga zomwe ndalembazi zitha kukhala zomwe zimakulimbikitsani kuti musamuke, koma sizimapweteka kutuluka nthawi iliyonse, sichoncho? Ngakhale mutakwanitsa kutulutsa mnzanu m'nyumba, mwina sangakhale ndi chidwi chogwira dzanja lanu. Izi zikachitika, simuyenera kudzifunsa ngati, "Kodi amandibisira?" yankho lanu muli nalo kale.
7. Amakhumudwa mukawauza anzanu
Kulankhula bwino za ubale wa munthu ndi chinthu chomwe okwatirana ayenera kukambirana ndi wina ndi mnzake ndikufikira pamapeto. Nina anachitadi zimenezo. Analankhula ndi Mark ndipo onse awiri adaganiza zosunga zinthu mopanda nzeru. Koma momwe zinthu zinalili mopanda nzeru, Nina anazindikira atangouza mnzake wapamtima za ubale watsopanowo.
"Mark anali wokwiya kwambiri. Ndinali nditangouza BFF wanga kuti sindingathe kukumana naye tsiku limenelo chifukwa ndinali nditapangana kale ndi Mark. Ndipo izi zinapangitsa Mark kuwuluka kuchoka pa chogwiriracho. Anayamba kufuula ndi kuponya zinthu ndipo anakhumudwa kwambiri. Zinandisokoneza maganizo. Ndinatenga makiyi anga ndikupita kumalo a mnzanga kuopa kukhala ndekha," akutero Nina.
Mark anamuimbira foni Nina mawa lake kuti amupepese, koma nthawi inali itatha. Iye anati: “Ndimamvetsa kuti kusunga ubwenzi wachinsinsi kuli ndi ubwino wake.” Koma ngati ndiyenera kubisira anzanga apamtima, ndiye kuti zimandichititsa manyazi kwambiri.” Ndipo sindine womasuka nazo.
Muubwenzi wachinsinsi koma osati wachinsinsi, mutha kutchulabe mnzanu kwa anzanu apamtima nthawi ndi nthawi. Komabe, muubwenzi wachinsinsi kwathunthu, mutha kukumana ndi zomwe Nina adakumana nazo.
8. Mnzako amakutengera ngati bwenzi pagulu
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kukhala paubwenzi ndi mnzanu. Chinsinsi cha ubale uliwonse wabwino ndi kuwonekera poyera ndipo kukhala paubwenzi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kudzakulolani kuchita zimenezo. Koma ngati chibwenzi chanu chikukupangitsani kumva ngati ndinu mchimwene wake wa mayi wina pagulu, ndiye kuti mungafunike kuchitapo kanthu.
Simufunikanso kukhala maso pamtima wina ndi mzake nthawi zonse. Sitikukupemphaninso kuti mukhale ndi gawo lazodzikongoletsera pamalo agulu. Ndipo inde, mutha kuwomberana nkhonya kuti muyamikire wina ndi mnzake. Koma kungotengedwa ngati "bro" pagulu zikutanthauza kuti akuyesera kuwonetsa kuti palibe chokopa pakati panu. Ndipo izo zimangomva zolakwika.
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9. Simupeza chidwi chomwe mukufuna
Geetarsh anati: “Munthu amene ali kale pachibwenzi kapena amene ali pabanja akachita chibwenzi mobisa, amalephera kusamala kapena kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi aliyense.” Kodi mumamva ngati mnzanuyo kulibe pamene mukumufuna kwambiri? Kodi mumangowawona pamadongosolo awo? Mwina ali pachibwenzi chobisika ndi inu.
10. Mkhalidwe wa ubale ndi chinsinsi
Anthu ena amachita bwino masewera a chibwenzi. Angakudziwitseni kwa anzanu akadali aang'ono, koma pakapita nthawi, simukupita patsogolo kwambiri. Mukakumana ndi anzawo, sadziwa momwe angachitire nanu. Kodi ubale wake ndi inu umaoneka ngati chinsinsi kwa anzawo? Kodi akufuna kukubisani kudziko lapansi ngati chinsinsi chaching'ono?
Chenjerani, zizindikiro za ubale wachinsinsi zili ponseponse. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, mnzanuyo adauza abwenzi ake kuti chibwenzi sichili chachikulu, kapena choyipa, kuti akufuna kuthetsa nanu koma simungawalole. Werengani zizindikiro, mverani malingaliro anu, ndipo ngati mukumva kuti chinachake sichili bwino, ndiye nyamuka ndikuchoka. Aliyense amene sakuchitirani zabwino sakuyenera.
Palibe kukana pali ubwino ndi kuipa kwa ubale wachinsinsi. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zina ndi bwino kusunga ubale wobisika, nthawi zambiri zimadzetsa mavuto. Chofunikira ndikudziwa komwe mumayimilira pachibwenzi, ndipo ngati ubale wanu sukupatsani ulemu ndi chisangalalo, mutha kuganizira zosiya. Mukuyenerera chikondi chonse ndi zabwino kwambiri zomwe dziko lingapereke ndi zina. Kumbukirani zimenezo.
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