Zizindikiro 12 Zomwe Mukunong'oneza Bondo Chifukwa Chosiyana Ndipo Muyenera Kupatsa Mpata Wina

Mumalowa mu ubale ndi chiyembekezo cha "mwachimwemwe mpaka kalekale". Koma tsiku lina, munaganiza zothetsa chibwenzicho chifukwa chibwenzicho sichinayende bwino. Dikirani, kodi mukungoganizira za chisankho chanu tsopano? Kodi pali kachinthu kakang'ono mumtima mwanu komwe kakufunabe kuti munthuyu abwerere? Ziribe kanthu chifukwa chomwe chinayambitsa kutha, ziribe kanthu momwe ubale wanu unakhalira nthawi yayitali, kutha kwa ubale wanu kudzakhala kopweteka kwa inu, makamaka ngati munong'oneza bondo pakutha.

Munthu amene poyamba anali wofunika pamoyo wanu sadzakhalanso pambali panu. Komabe, bwanji ngati simungathe kupitiriza ndi kunong’oneza bondo? Mwina munapatukana chifukwa chaukali ndipo mumanong’oneza bondo kuti munakhumudwitsa wokondedwa wanu komanso inuyo. Mutha kusokonezedwa ndi malingaliro anu pakutha.

Timakonda kuganiza kuti anthu awiri akamasiyana ndi chifukwa chakuti mmodzi wa iwo adabera kapena adakhala wankhanza kapena wowopsa. Chabwino, sizili choncho nthawi zonse. Nthawi zina anthu awiri okwatirana omwe amakondana kwambiri amatha kupatukana chifukwa cha kusiyana kwa zolinga ndi zosankha pamoyo wawo kapenanso nkhani zabanja.

N’zosachita kufunsa kuti panthaŵiyo, chifukwa chimene chinapatsirana chinkawoneka chomveka kwa inu. Pamene mukulola mtunda kulowa mkati, chisudzulo chophwanyidwa mopupuluma chimakukhudzani kwambiri. Ndipo, musanadziwe, mwayambanso kuganiza kuti, "Damn, ndikunong'oneza bondo kuti ndisiyane naye. Kodi ndinapanga chisankho mopupuluma?".

Mkhalidwe wokayikitsa umenewo ndi gehena weniweni. Ubongo wanu umakutsimikizirani kuti mwachita zoyenera. Koma mtima umafuna zomwe umafuna eti? Ngati ndi pamene inu muli, musadandaule. Nkhaniyi ifotokoza zinthu zimene zingakuthandizeni kuzindikira ngati mukunong’oneza bondo chifukwa chosiyana ndi chibwenzi chanucho kapena ayi.

Zifukwa Zomwe Zimayambitsa Chisoni Pambuyo pa Kusweka

Choyamba, m’pofunika kuti mumvetse zifukwa zimene zingakupangitseni kudziimba mlandu komanso kudzimva chisoni chifukwa cha kutha kwa chibwenzi chanu. Yang'anani mozama ndikuyesa kuwona zomwe zimayambitsa zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva chisoni mutatha kutha. Zina mwa zifukwazo zingakhale:

• Kuthetsa posachedwa: Mwina munasudzulana ndi bwenzi lanu posachedwa ndipo simunapatse mwayi kuti ubale wanu ukule
• Kutha msanga: Mwina munaganiza zothetsa chibwenzi mwachangu ndipo simunathe kutsekedwa kofunikira paubwenzi wanu
• Kusungulumwa: Mumasungulumwa ndipo simunakonzekerebe kukhala mbeta
• Kuopa chibwenzi: Mukuwopa kulumphira m'dziko la chibwenzi kachiwiri
• Kutaya bwenzi labwino: Mumada nkhawa kuti simudzapeza wina aliyense wabwino ngati mnzanu wakale

Kudzimvera chisoni mutatha kusudzulana kungapangitse moyo wanu kukhala wovuta, chifukwa nthawi zonse mumakhala mukusoŵa wakale wanu ndipo simungathe kupeza mtendere. Choncho muyenera kuthana nazo ndipo mwina mupatse chibwenzi chanu mwayi wina mukatsimikiza za momwe mukumvera. Nthawi zina, zimatenga nthawi yaitali kuti anthu amvetse kufunika kwa wakale wawo m'moyo wawo.

Msuweni wanga, Andrew, anali ku koleji pamene anathetsa chibwenzi cha zaka 3 pa nkhani yaing'ono. Anali kuchita bwino atatha kutha, ngakhale adabwereranso mumasewera modabwitsa molawirira. Kenako, m’mawa wina ndinakumana naye pamalo ogulitsira khofi.

Tsiku limenelo Andrew adandiuza kuti adayamba kudandaula kuti adasiyana naye miyezi ingapo. Atakumana ndi anthu atsopano, m’pamene anazindikira kuti zimene anali nazo zinali zamtengo wapatali kwambiri. Onetsetsani! Simudziwa nthawi yomwe ubale wakale udzaponyera mthunzi wake waukulu panjira yanu kuti ikulepheretseni kupita patsogolo kapena mtendere wamalingaliro.

Zizindikiro 12 Zomwe Mukunong'oneza Bondo Chifukwa Chosiyana Ndipo Muyenera Kupatsa Mpata Wina

Pambuyo pa kulekana kulikonse, n’kwachibadwa kumva kupsinjika maganizo ndi kupwetekedwa mtima. Chisoni chimayamba ndipo wina amayamba kudabwa chifukwa chake zidachitika. Zizindikiro za chisoni zimayamba kuonekera ndipo munthu amasokonezeka. Komabe, ngati mukuonadi kuti sichisoni chimene chikukupwetekani, ndicho chisoni, ndiye kuti muyenera kuiwala zowawazo ndikupatsanso ubwenzi wanu.

Kupweteka kwenikweni ndi gawo la kutha kwa chibwenzi koma kutha kwa chibwenzi sikuti kumakusiyani mukunong'oneza bondo. Ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kusiyanitsa malingaliro awiriwa. Tiyeni tikuthandizeni kudziwa ngati mukudandauladi chifukwa cha kutha kwa chibwenzi chanu kapena ichi ndi chisoni chomwe chikuchitika mutathetsa chibwenzi. Ndi zizindikiro 12 izi:

1. Mwamuna wanu wakale amakhala m'malingaliro anu nthawi zonse

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoyamba zomwe mumanong'oneza nazo bondo chifukwa chosiyana ndi chakuti simungathe kumuchotsa m'maganizo mwanu wakale. Ngakhale kuyesetsa konse inu kupanga kuiwala wanu wakale, iye / iye zakhazikika mu malingaliro anu. Chilichonse m'moyo wanu chikuwoneka kuti chikukumbutsani za iwo.

Nyumba yanu ili ndi zinthu zambiri zokumbutsa anthu, kuyambira chikho cha khofi mpaka makatani omwe mudasankha limodzi. Mumakhala ngati chimbalangondo chonunkhiza mukapeza chovala cha hoodie chomwe adachisiya kwanu m'nyengo yozizira yatha. Mumaganizirabe zomwe zinalakwika komanso chifukwa chake mudasankha kulekana . Ngati malingaliro anu okhudza wakale wanu nthawi zambiri amakhala abwino, ndi chizindikiro chakuti mukudandaula kuti munalekana naye.

2. Palibe amene angagwirizane ndi mfundo zake

Mutatha kutha, mumabwereranso pachibwenzi. Koma tsoka! Simungapeze aliyense wofanana ndi zomwe anali nazo kale. Palibe amene angakusangalatseni kapena kukusungani nthawi yayitali chifukwa wakale wanu akadali ndi malo apadera mu mtima ndi malingaliro anu. Mumanong'oneza bondo chifukwa chosiyana ndi bwenzi lanu kapena chibwenzi chanu ndipo mumadzikwiyira nokha chifukwa chowapweteka.

3. Muli bwino ndi lingaliro lokhala paubwenzi ndi wakale wanu

Kuyambira pamene mnzanga wapamtima analekana ndi wakale wake, ndalandira mauthenga zana monga "M'bale, ndikudandaula kuti ndinalekana naye. Kodi ndimuyimbire kale foni ndikupepesa? Kodi mukuganiza kuti angavomereze kukumana nane kuti timwe khofi? Monga mabwenzi?" Ngati mukudandaula za kulekana kwanu, ndiye kuti mudzayesetsa kulankhulana ndi wakale wanu. Chifukwa chake, mwachionekere mudzakhala omasuka ndi lingaliro lokhala bwenzi ndi wakale wanu ndipo nthawi zonse mukhale okonzeka kumuthandiza mwanjira iliyonse yomwe mungathe.

4. Mwakonzeka kusiya nkhani zakale

Mudzaona mbali yatsopano ya inu mutatha kutha. Mudzayamba kusiya nkhani zakale zomwe zinayambitsa kutha ndipo mwina mukhululukire wakale wanu chifukwa cha zolakwa zomwe adachita. Mudzazindikiranso kuti wakale wanu si wangwiro ndipo ali ndi zolakwa. Koma mudzamvabe ngati simunawalole kupita.

Apa, yesani kusiyanitsa pakati pa kuvomereza zofooka ndi khalidwe lililonse loipa. Inde, mukudandaula kuti mwathetsa chibwenzi chanu. Koma kodi n'koyenera kubwerera ku mkhalidwe wosagwirizana muubwenzi womwe ungakuvutitseni nonse awiri?

5. Ex wanu anakuthandizani kukhala munthu wabwino

Wakale wanu ali ndi udindo waukulu wochita mwa munthu amene mwakhala lero, ndipo mutatha kusudzulana, mukhoza kudzimva kuti mwatayika pang'ono. Mudzamva kuti mulibe kanthu komanso osalimbikitsidwa kutsatira njira ya moyo yomwe mudazolowera mukakhala ndi wakale wanu ndikulakalaka kuti mubwererenso.

6. Nonse mumamvabe kuti muli ogwirizana

Nonse mwakhala pamodzi kwa miyezi kapena zaka. Kotero ndizochibadwa kuti munamanga mgwirizano umene sungathe kusweka mosavuta. Komabe, ngati mupeza kuti mukuyesetsa kukulitsa kulumikizanako ndipo mumadalira wakale wanu pachilichonse, zikutanthauza kuti simunakonzekere kupita patsogolo.

7. Mumaganizira kwambiri za moyo wa wakale wanu

Ngakhale mutathetsa chibwenzi, mumakhala ndi chidwi ndi zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wanu wakale. Chifukwa chake mumangoyang'ana mbiri yawo yapa media kuti mumve zosintha, kuwatumizira mauthenga / kuwaimbira foni ngati kuli kotheka, komanso kupereka zifukwa zokumana ndi wakale wanu. Kodi akukumana ndi ndani tsopano? Kodi alidi osangalala popanda inu? Kodi adagawana mawu amodzi achisoni atagawanika?

Kodi mukufunabe kudziwa chilichonse chokhudza moyo wawo? Kutsatira wakale wanu pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi chizindikiro chachikulu choti mukudandaula kuti mwathetsa chibwenzi chanu miyezi ingapo pambuyo pake kapena kuti mukumusiyabe ndipo mukufuna mwayi wina.

8. Umalephera kupeza mtendere wamumtima

Ndizachibadwa kumva ngati mulibe kanthu mukatha kusudzulana chifukwa chibwenzi chimakutengerani khama lanu, nthawi yanu ndi malo anu amaganizo. Koma ngati muli ndi zifukwa zomveka zosudzulana, mumamvanso mpumulo. Kusudzulana kudzakupangitsani kumva bwino ngati muli otsimikiza za izi. Ngati mukulephera kupeza mtendere wamumtima ndikumva kuti muli ndi mlandu, ndiye kuti pali vuto.

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9. Umalakalakabe kugonana ndi ex wako

Izi zingakhale zomvetsa chisoni kwambiri mutatha kusudzulana ngati munali ndi ubale wabwino kwambiri ndi mnzanu. Mungadzifunse kuti, "Kodi ndidzakhalanso ndi ubale wotere ndi wina aliyense? Kodi ndiyenera kuchita khama lotani kuti ndimudziwe bwino munthu watsopanoyo?"

Muyenera kuti mudagawana nawo nthawi zina zamphamvu komanso zokonda kwambiri ndi wakale wanu. Pambuyo pa kutha, mumalakalakabe kugonana ndipo palibe amene angawoneke ngati akufanana ndi kugwirizana komwe mudagawana nawo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mutha kukhalabe ndi malingaliro a wakale wanu.

10. Mumayamba kukhulupirira kuti chifukwa chimene chinachititsa kuti banja lanu lithe

Mukakumbukira nthawi yomwe munatha, mumayamba kuzindikira kuti mwina chifukwa chomwe chinapangitsa kuti banja lanu lithe. Mumakhulupirira kuti nonse mungathe kupeza njira yothetsera vuto limene linayambitsa kutha. Ndipo kumverera uku ndi umboni wokwanira wakuti mumanong'oneza bondo chifukwa chosiyana.

11. Zizindikiro zachikondi zoperekedwa ndi wakale wanu ndizofunikabe kwa inu

Kawirikawiri munthu akatha kusudzulana kwamuyaya, amachotsa zotsalira zonse za ubalewo. Koma ngati simungathe kusiya zizindikiro za kuyamikira ndi chikondi chomwe wakale wanu adakupatsani pamene munali limodzi, ndi chizindikiro chakuti simungathe kuchotsa zokumbukirazo.

Mukupitirizabe kulakalaka, kuyesera kubwezeretsanso nthaŵi zabwino mwa chuma chakuthupi. Chifukwa chiyani? Izi zimachitika pamene mukunong'oneza bondo chifukwa chosiyana ndipo mulibe chidaliro pa chisankho chanu. Mukufuna kupereka mwayi wina ku ubale wanu.

12. Koposa zonse, mumaphonya ubale wanu

Mumaphonya ubale wanu, wakale wanu, kumverera kwa chikondi ndi kukondedwa, kukumbatirana ndi wakale wanu, kugwirana manja pamodzi, ndi zina zotero. Mumaphonya zonsezi ndipo mukaganizira za ubale wanu, mumakhala achisoni komanso odandaula.

Ngati zizindikirozi zakutsimikizirani kuti mukunong’oneza bondo chifukwa cha kutha kwanu, ndiye kuti ndi nthawi yoti muchite zinthu m’manja mwanu ndikuyesera kukonza ubwenzi wanu mwamsanga. Lekani kudandaula ndipo sinthani kuti mubwezeretse chikondi chanu m'moyo wanu.

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Kodi mungatani kuti mupatsenso mwayi wina pachibwenzi chanu?

Kupatsanso mwayi wina paubwenzi wanu ndi wakale wanu sikophweka. Muyenera kubwerera m'mbuyo ndikuwunikanso ubale wanu. Onetsetsani kuti muli ndi ziyembekezo zenizeni paubwenzi wanu komanso malingaliro othandiza paubwenzi wanu kuti mupange chisankho chanzeru.

Tiyeni tidutse zizindikiro zomwe mukunong'oneza nazo bondo chifukwa chosiyananso. Nthaŵi zonse mukakhala wosungulumwa, dzifunseni kuti, kodi mulibe chifuno chotsimikizirika m’moyo? Kodi mukufuna kubwereranso kwa wakale wanu kuti mukwaniritse zosowazo? Mukufuna ngati palibe chomwe ubwenzi uyenera kukhala, kuti mumve mawu awo kapena kukumana nawo. Kodi mukutsimikiza kuti ndinu olimba mokwanira kuti muthane ndi malingaliro onse ndi kupitiriza? Chifukwa zimenezi zingabweretse mavuto aakulu kuposa kungonong’oneza bondo chifukwa choti banja linatha.

Mungakhale ndi chiyembekezo chilichonse chomwe mukufuna, koma kuganiza kuti ubale wanu ndi iwo sungathe kutha m'makangano ochepa. Mwaganiza zosiya kukumbukira zinthu zomvetsa chisonizo ndikuyambanso, koma kodi zatha? Nanga bwanji ngati mwawapweteka kwambiri? Pamene mukuyesera kuthetsa chisoni chanu chothetsa banja mwadzidzidzi, bwanji ngati wakale wanu akuona kuti ndi dalitso lobisika ndipo asankha kusuntha?

Tsopano, tsopano, sindiri pano kuti ndikugwetseni mtambo wodetsa nkhawa ponena za chiyembekezo chanu choti mubwererane ndi wakale wanu wakale. Ndikungoyala zochitika zingapo patsogolo panu, ndikubweretsa chidwi chanu ku zomwe zingasokonezeke. Ndi zabwino kwambiri ngati mungaganize kuti, “Ziri choncho, sindidzanong’oneza bondo kuti ndisiyane nayenso. Ngati mukutsimikiza kuti bwenzi lanu lakale kapena bwenzi lanu lakale ndi lanu, yesetsani kuti izi zitheke nthawi ino - ndizo zonse.

Ngati mukufuna kutsimikiza za chisankho chanu, ganizirani kukambirana ndi anthu omwe amakulimbikitsani pa moyo wanu. Khalani ndi nthawi yochulukirapo ndi iwo kuti muwongolere mavuto anu muubwenzi ndikumvera malangizo awo. Kuphatikiza apo, onetsetsani kuti nthawi zabwino zaubwenzi zikuposa zoyipa; pamenepo ndi inu nokha amene mungapeze chisangalalo popereka mwayi wina.

Mukhozanso kupereka mwayi wina paubwenzi wanu pamene nonse muli okonzeka kutenga udindo pa zolakwa zakale ndipo mwakonzeka kuyesetsa kusintha machitidwe anu kuti akhale abwino. Khama lochokera kumbali zonse ziwiri ndilofunika kuti mwayi wachiwiri ukhale wopambana. Ngati mumanong'oneza bondo chifukwa chokhumudwitsana ndipo simungathe kupitiriza ngakhale patapita miyezi ingapo mutasiyana, muyenera kukhala pansi ndikuvomereza maganizo anu. Mwinanso muphatikizepo wakale wanu.

Choncho kambiranani ndi wakale wanuyo ndi kukonza zinthu. Ngati nonse mumakondana moona mtima, ndiye kuti timakhulupirira kuti chikondi chanu chikhoza kupambana pazovuta zonse. Choncho pitirirani ndikupatsanso chibwenzi chanu mwayi wina.

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