18 Zizindikiro Zachibwenzi Zakale Zomwe Amakukondani

Ngati mukuyesera kupeza zizindikiro zoyamba za chibwenzi zomwe amakukondani, muli pachibwenzi chosangalatsa paulendo wanu wa chibwenzi. Mwinamwake, mwangoyamba kumene chibwenzi ndi mnyamata uyu ndipo agulugufe omwe ali m'mimba mwanu amakupangitsani kukhala okondwa komanso pamtambo wachisanu ndi chinayi nthawi zonse. Ngakhale zili choncho, n’zimene anthu ambiri amaganiza. Koma si zokhazo, sichoncho? Inde, mumayembekezera mwachidwi malemba ake, mumamwetulira nthabwala zake, ndipo mtima wanu umadumpha nthawi iliyonse akakufunsani.

Koma, pali zambiri ku nkhani yanu. Kodi amakukondanidi? Ndipo ngati inde, kodi akufuna kukhala paubwenzi ndi inu? Ndi Bambo kulondola? Ndipo pansi pamtima, kodi nayenso amadabwa ngati ndinu munthu woyenera kwa iye? Kodi mayankho awa mumawapeza bwanji ndipo ndi zizindikiro ziti zomwe muyenera kuyang'ana? Tiyeni tilowe mkati ndikupeza.

18 Zizindikiro Zachibwenzi Zakale Zomwe Amakukondani

Mukudabwa ngati mnyamata amene mwangoyamba kumene chibwenzi alidi ndi inu kapena ngati a mnyamata amakukondani mobisa. Izi zingakupangitseni kukhala ndi nkhawa, kupsinjika maganizo, ndi kusokonezeka. Tsopano ine ndiri pano kuti ndikuuzeni inu mukhoza potsiriza kunena zabwino zonse kwa nkhawa zanu zonse chifukwa pali oyambirira chibwenzi zizindikiro amakukondani ndipo ngakhale zizindikiro amakukondani pa tsiku lanu loyamba lokha. Tabwera kuti tikumasulireni iwo. Werengani kuti mudziwe motsimikiza momwe munthu wapaderayo amakumverani:

1. Amakuyamikani pafupipafupi

Ngati mwamuna amene mwangoyamba kumene chibwenzi amakuyamikirani mokoma nthawi ndi nthawi, zitengereni ngati chizindikiro kuti mukumukoka mtima. Yesetsani kumvetsetsa ngati kuyamika uku kulidi. Ngati inde, mwayi ndi umenewo akugwa m'chikondi ndi iwe ndikuyang'ana njira zazing'ono zokuthokozani. Nazi zitsanzo zingapo:

• Iye akuti, "Ndimakonda momwe mumamvekera mokongola mukamagona", panthawi yamafoni usiku
• Amalemba kuti, "Ndine wonyadira kwambiri ntchito yomwe mumagwira, mwachita bwino kwambiri", mukangolemba za zomwe mwachita bwino.
• Amakuuzani kuti, "Chovala chimenecho chikuwoneka chodabwitsa kwambiri", pa tsiku lanu lachakudya chamasana

2. Amamvetsera mwatcheru mukamalankhula

Ngati mwamuna amakukondani, amakumverani mukamalankhula za tsiku lanu, zomwe mumakonda, kapena chilichonse chomwe mukufuna kugawana. Ndipotu nthawi zambiri amakufunsani kuti, “Unali bwanji tsiku lako? Izi chidwi nkhani zanu ndi moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku zikusonyeza kuti amasamala za inu ndipo simuli mtsikana wina akupita naye zibwenzi. Ndinu wapadera, ndiye chifukwa chake mawu anu amafunikira kwambiri kwa iye.

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3. Amafuna kukumbatirana pambuyo pogonana

Ndikudziwa zomwe mukuganiza. Anthu ambiri amafuna kukumbatirana pambuyo pogonana, lankhulani pang'ono ndikupanga mpweya wofunda. Koma ngati mnyamata amene muli naye pachibwenzi akungofuna kutuluka kwa kanthawi ndi kugona nanu, angachite mosiyana.

Matt, mtolankhani wazaka zake zoyambirira za m’ma 20 anati: “Ngati ndilidi pachibwenzi, ndimakonda kukumbatirana naye. Kotero, ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi mnyamata yemwe amathera nthawi yambiri akukumbatirana ndikuonetsetsa kuti pali chikondi, ubwenzi, ndi chisamaliro, mwina akufunafuna chinachake kwa nthawi yaitali ndi inu.

4. Amakukonzerani ndondomeko za masiku anu

Mosakayikira ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoyambirira za chibwenzi zomwe amakukondani. Ndipotu amakukondani kuposa mmene mumaganizira. Amakonza madeti anu mosiyana. Ndipo nthawi zina mozama. Ndipo amakudziwani choncho. Ndipo apa pali zinthu zingapo zomwe angapewe:

• Kukutumizirani mameseji 3 koloko usiku, "Mukufuna kudzabweranso mawa?"
• Kunena mosamveka bwino, "Kodi mukufuna kuchita chinachake sabata ino?"
• Pomaliza tsikulo ndi, "Ndikutumiziraninso mameseji, ndikuganiza."

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5. Amakumbukira zazing'ono

Mwangotuluka naye masiku atatu. Ndipo wakuyitanani kuti, "Ndikudziwa kuti lero ndi tsiku lobadwa la galu wanu. Ndikukhulupirira kuti munthu wamkuluyo ali ndi nthawi yabwino!" Mukudabwa ngati ali ndi kukumbukira kwakuthwa. Inde, mwina ali ndi chikumbutso chakuthwa komanso ndi a munthu amene amakukondani zambiri. Ndicho chifukwa chake samayiwala tsiku lanu lobadwa, tsiku lobadwa galu wanu, kapena zomwe zinachitika pa msasa wanu woyamba wa sukulu.

6. Amafuna kukumana ndi anzanu komanso abale anu

Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi mnyamata ndipo amakukondani kwambiri, angafune kudziwa anthu amene mumawakonda kwambiri. Amafuna kuti adzidziwitse yekha ndikukhala nawo. Sikuti nthawi zonse kumakhala msonkhano wokonzekera. Mwina pambuyo pa chibwenzi, umati uyenera kunyamula mchimwene wako pamasewera ake ndipo mnyamatayu akufuna kubwera kudzanena moni. Amachita izi chifukwa akudziwa kuti zilimbitsa ubale wanu, ndipo mupatseni mwayi wokhala ndi inu nthawi yambiri.

7. Sadzakutaya nthawi

If mwangoyamba kumene chibwenzi mnyamata ndipo amawonekera pa nthawi yake, zikutanthauza kuti amakulemekezani. Ngati nonse munavomera kukumana ku cafe, adzawonekera molawirira kapena nthawi yake. Iye adzaonetsetsa kuti simupitiriza kumuyembekezera. Ngati ali mumsewu, amakudziwitsani nthawi zonse. Zimenezi zikusonyeza kuti amakukondani komanso ndi munthu woona mtima.

8. Amafuna kudziwa zambiri za inu

Ngati mukuyang'ana zizindikiro amakukondani pa tsiku lanu loyamba, ichi ndi chinachake kulabadira. Tangoganizani kuti muli pa tsiku loyamba ndi munthu uyu ndipo akuwoneka kuti akufuna kukudziwani. Angachite zimenezi mwa kukufunsani mafunso okhudza kumene munakulira, maganizo anu ndi otani pa kanema waposachedwapa, kapena zimene mumaganiza pa nkhani ya chakudya cha kumalo odyera kumene muli.

Ichi ndi chizindikiro chenicheni chimene akufuna lumikizanani pamlingo wozama. Zikatero, mungamufunsenso mafunso kuti mum’dziwe bwino ndi kuona ngati ndi munthu amene mukufuna kukhala naye pachibwenzi.

9. Iye ali wosamalira pa inu (m'masiku oipa).

Mukangoyamba kumene chibwenzi ndi mnyamata, zindikirani momwe amayankhira pamasiku anu oipa. Mwachitsanzo, akadziwa kuti mukudwala malungo, kodi amangokufunirani kuti muchiritsidwe mwamsanga n’kuyimitsa foni? Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti ali pachibwenzi basi ndipo sakuonani choncho.

Kumbali ina, ngati amakukondanidi, adzadera nkhaŵa za moyo wanu. Amakufunsani maora angapo aliwonse, kukutumizirani mameseji kapena kukuimbirani foni, kukufunsani, "Kodi mukumva bwino? Kodi pali chilichonse chimene ndingachite kuti ndikuthandizeni?" Ngati akuchita zimenezo kapena kutumiza maluwa m'mawa wotsatira ndi kapepala kakang'ono, zimasonyeza kuzama kwake amakukondani ndipo amasamala za ubwino wanu. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoyamba kuti mwamuna ali ndi inu.

10. Amagwiritsa ntchito mawu monga 'chibwenzi' ndi 'chikondi'

Zizindikiro zoyambirira za chibwenzi zomwe amakonda zitha kubisika pamawu ake omwe amasankha. M'malo mofunsa ngati mukufuna "kuzizira pamodzi" kapena "kucheza" kapena kungokumana naye, anganene kuti akufuna kukutengerani pa chibwenzi. Anganene mmene amakukonderani kapena mmene amakondera munthu amene mumamukonda. Izi zikusonyeza kuti samangopusitsa ndipo amamasuka kunena kuti nonse muli pachibwenzi.

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11. Iye amalabadira malingaliro anu

Tangoganizani inu anauza mnyamata pa tsiku lachiwiri kuti adzawoneka wokongola kwenikweni wakuda. Pa tsiku lachitatu, iye akutembenukira mu malaya wakuda. Kapena mwalimbikitsa mndandanda wapa TV ndipo amakuuzani zomwe amakonda pa tsiku lotsatira. Izi zikusonyeza kuti amakukondani komanso amalemekeza maganizo anu ndi malingaliro anu. Icho nthawizonse ndi chimodzi mwa izo mgwirizano wobiriwira mbendera bola ngati sizitsogolera ku mtundu uliwonse wa khalidwe obsessive kumene iye yekha kuvala zakuda kapena kungolankhula za mndandanda TV kuti tsiku lililonse.

12. Nthawi zambiri amakugwira dzanja lako kapena kukukumbatira

Kukhudza thupi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoyambirira za chibwenzi zomwe amakukondani. Ngati iye akusewera kukhudza tsitsi lanu pa kusangalala deti, akugwira dzanja lanu pamene akuyenda mumsewu, kapena kukukumbatirani inu pamaso kunena zabwino pa mapeto a deti, iye wakula ngati pamaso panu pa moyo wake.

Malingana ngati mukumva omasuka komanso okondwa kubwezera izi, zimagwira ntchito modabwitsa, makamaka ngati chinenero chanu chachikondi ndikukhudza thupi. Ikhoza kukometsera zinthu, kukutsimikizirani ngati kuli kofunikira ndikubweretsa chikondi chochuluka ndi chiyanjano mu chiyanjano. Komabe, ngati ayesa kuyandikira kwambiri pamasiku ochepa oyamba ndipo zimakupangitsani kukhala wovuta, ndiye mbendera yofiira momveka bwino kaya amakukondani.

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13. Adzayang’ana m’maso moonjezera

Tonse timakumbukira zochitika zomwe Rachel amauza Phoebe kuti Ross ndi iye anali ndi kanthu kakang'ono. Phoebe anasangalala kwambiri ndipo anafunsa kuti, “O mulungu wanga, ndimakonda zinthu, chachitika n’chiyani?” Rachel akuyankha kuti, “Chabwino, choyamba anandiuza kuti amasangalala ndi mmene ndimaonekera, kenako tinayang’anana… Febe akumuseka kuti, “Kuyang’ana m’maso?

Chabwino, ndi momwe kukhudzana ndi maso kumakhalira. Ngati mwayamba chibwenzi ndi mnyamata ndipo amapanga zambiri kuyang'ana ndi maso ndi inu, amakuyang'anani, kapena akuyang'ana m'maso mwanu, akuyesera kukutumizirani uthenga kudzera m'maso mwake.

Mphunzitsi wa ubale komanso woyambitsa wa Spark Matchmaking, Michelle Fraley akuti, "Kuyang'ana m'maso ndi chinthu chodziwikiratu komanso chosatetezeka, kotero kuyang'ana m'maso kumatha kukhala kopindulitsa kwambiri. Kuyang'ana maso kwambiri, kapena kuyang'anitsitsa kwa masekondi osachepera anayi, kungasonyeze kuti mumamukonda."

14. Akuponya zosonyeza kuti ali mwa inu

Mnyamata amene amakukondani akhoza kukuwuzani kuti akufuna kukhala pachibwenzi. Iye ndi wokondwa kukhala pachibwenzi ndipo tsopano akudziwa kuti ndinu apadera kwambiri, akufuna kupititsa patsogolo zinthu zina. Kufunsa mafunso achikondi panthawi yowona-ndi-kuyerekeza, kuseka kuwuza lingaliro lakuti nonse muli pachibwenzi, ndi kutumiza mphatso zapadera ndi zina mwa zizindikiro zomwe mnyamata amakukondani.

15. Amayang'ana malo anu ochezera a pa Intaneti

Tsikuli likatha, munthu akabwera kunyumba ndikukutumizirani mameseji pawailesi yakanema, ndiye kuti mudakali m'maganizo mwake. Iye akudabwa mmene munamvera pa tsiku ndi ngati mukufuna kukhala naye kachiwiri. Mwamuna yemwe amakukondani komanso amakukondani atha kuyang'ananso nkhani zanu za Instagram, kusiya ndemanga pazolemba zanu ndikuchita nanu pamacheza anu. Ichi ndi chizindikiro choyambirira kuti mwamuna ali ndi inu ndipo amakhala nthawi yambiri akukuganizirani.

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16. Akanena za m'tsogolo, inu muli mmenemo

Ngati mukuyang'ana zizindikiro zomwe mnyamata amakukondani, muyenera kuzindikira momwe amalankhulira zamtsogolo. Kodi mumamva kuti akulimbana ndi a kuopa kudzipereka? Kapena amayesetsa kukudziwitsani kuti akufuna kumanga nanu tsogolo?

Osandilakwitsa, izi sizikutanthauza kuti ayamba kusankha mayina a ana anu amtsogolo pa tsiku loyamba. Koma kumayambiriro kwa zibwenzi, mnyamatayu akhoza kutchula malo odyera omwe adapitako ndikunena kuti adzakutengerani kumeneko tsiku lina. Kapena angakumbukire filimu yabwino ya Khrisimasi ndikukuuzani momwe angakonde kuwonera nanu usiku wa Khrisimasi. Izi zikutanthauza kuti amakonda lingaliro loti mukhale gawo la tsogolo lake chifukwa wayamba kukukondani.

17. Amakutsegulirani

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoonekeratu kuti mwamuna ali mwa inu ndikuti akuyamba kukutsegulirani. M’malo mobisa malingaliro ake, ngati akugawana nanu zikumbukiro zake zaubwana kapena nthaŵi za chiwopsezo, kumatanthauza kuti amakukhulupirirani. Iye amafuna kugawana nanu zinthu zimenezi chifukwa chakuti ndinu wofunika kwa iye ndipo amakuonani kukhala wofunika.

18. Amayesa kukumwetulira

Kumbukirani chochitika chodziwika bwino cha sewero lachikondi la 2011 No Strings Attached? Ndimomwe Ashton Kutcher adabwera ndi masamba omwe amawoneka ngati mulu wa maluwa chifukwa Natalie Portman adamufunsa kuti asabweretse maluwa?

Ngati mnyamata nthawi zonse amapeza njira zazing'ono zokupangitsani kumwetulira ngati Ashton, amakukondani kuposa momwe mukuganizira. Amapita mtunda wowonjezera ndipo nthawi zina amachita zinthu zopusa kuti apange tsiku lanu. Ngati mumamukonda mmbuyo, ichi ndi chizindikiro chachikulu kuti muyenera kuyesetsa kuti zinthu zipite patsogolo. Kupatula apo, simungapeze bwenzi labwino kuposa yemwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala ngakhale masiku osadziwika.

Tsopano popeza muli ndi lingaliro loyenera la momwe mungamvetsetse malingaliro a munthu uyu kwa inu, mwina mukudabwa choti muchite. Ngati mumamukonda, mungaganize zolankhula ndi njovu m'chipindamo ndikukambirana kuti "zikupita kuti"? Kapena mophweka, mudziwitse kuti mungakonde kutenga chibwenzicho mpaka gawo lina.

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