Tonse takhala paubwenzi, ndipo sindikukokomeza ndimati chinthu chimodzi chomwe ambirife timachita mantha nacho ndichoti bwenzi lathu likunyengerera. Inde, kumverera kovutitsako kowona ubale wanu wowoneka ngati wangwiro ukutha patsogolo panu ndi zomwe ndikunena. Kupweteka ndi kukhumudwa kwa kusakhulupirika kumakhala koipitsitsa kwambiri pamene mnzanuyo abwera ndi zifukwa zonyenga kuti adzilungamitse zochita zawo.
Kubera ndi nkhani masiku ano. Banja lirilonse liri ndi chidziwitso pa zomwe amaziwona ngati "kuwoloka malire kukachita chigololo". Komabe, mosasamala kanthu za “mtundu” wa kubera, komabe ndi chokumana nacho chosautsa mtima kwa munthu amene wachitiridwa chinyengo. Chinthu chomaliza chomwe mungafune kuchokera kwa mnzanu wonyenga ndi mndandanda wa zifukwa zomwe zimati, 'Ndi vuto lanu kuti ndinali ndi chibwenzi'.
Komabe, zimenezi si zachilendo. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Mallika Pathak amafufuza mozama pazifukwa zachinyengo zomwe muyenera kuzisamala.
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Anthu ambiri okwatirana ali ndi njira yothanirana ndi nkhani ya chigololo podzudzula okondedwa awo pazimene achita. Imeneyi ndi njira yodziwika bwino yomwe imagwiritsidwa ntchito potengera malingaliro omwe ali kale achisoni kuti akhulupirire kuti mwachindunji kapena mosalunjika kunthawi yowopsa yaubwenzi.
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Chenjerani ndi zifukwa zoyipa zachinyengo izi zomwe nthawi zambiri zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati machenjerero kuti akusokonezeni ndi chisokonezo komanso kudziimba mlandu chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika kwa mnzako. Iyi ndi njira yakale kwambiri m'buku lamasewera la onyenga kuti atsimikizire zolakwa zomwe adachita. Nazi zifukwa zisanu zodziwika bwino zachinyengo zomwe mnzanuyo angagwiritse ntchito poyesa kukutsutsani chifukwa cha zolakwa zawo:
1. Sukundikonda monga unkakonda kale!
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zodziwika bwino zachinyengo zomwe zimaponyedwa ponseponse pamene cholakwacho chikuwonekera. Ngakhale amuna angachitenso zimenezo. Poyesa kupereka mwachindunji ndodo ya zochita zawo kwa mnzanuyo, wobera mnzakeyo adzaimba mlandu wachindunji kwa mnzanuyo.
Amadzilungamitsa ndi kulungamitsa khalidwe lawo ponena kuti kusowa kwawo kwa chikondi komwe amalingalira ndiko kunayambitsa kusakhulupirika. Ngakhale chikondi ndi chikondi zitakhala pa chibwenzi, sizimapereka chifukwa chochitira chinyengo.
Njira yoyenera nthawi zonse ndikuthana ndi mavuto anu m'malo mofunafuna zomwe zikusowa muubwenzi wanu kuchokera kwa munthu wachitatu.
2. Inunso munali ndi zinthu tisanakhale pamodzi; Ndinkangofuna kubwezera
Uwu ndi nkhani yachikale yonyenga, pomwe mnzake wobera amagwiritsa ntchito mopanda nzeru kuti akonze zomwe amachita (zodabwitsa, kulondola!). Kugwiritsa ntchito izi ndi ziganizo zina zopanda nzeru kusokoneza malingaliro awo kuchokera ku zolakwika zawo kupita kwa okondedwa ndi njira yochepetsera zawo. kunyenga wolakwa.
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zoyipa kwambiri zachinyengo, chifukwa palibe amene ali ndi chidwi chomvetsetsa momwe kuberedwera kungakhalire koopsa kuposa munthu yemwe adakumanapo nazo.
3. Umakhala wotanganidwa nthawi zonse, ndimatopa
Chowiringulachi chakhala chikugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi kubera okwatirana muubwenzi pomwe mkaziyo alinso ndi ntchito ndi zina zomwe zimamupangitsa kukhala wotanganidwa. Ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe amuna ambiri amachitira chinyengo zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito podzipalamula - kupangitsa mkazi kukhulupirira kuti mwanjira ina, ndiye adachita chinyengo.
Eya, ngati ali wotanganidwa kwambiri kuti asakhale ndi nthawi yocheza ndi inu ndi chibwenzi chanu, bwanji osangolowa ndi kumuchepetsera katundu wake, Bambo? Ngati mwamuna wanu akugwiritsa ntchito mawu awa pa inu, muuzeni izi: Mukadayesetsa kukhalabe ndikuthandizira kunyumba m'malo mofunafuna zifukwa zotuluka panyumba kuti mukakumane ndi wokondedwa wanu, funso loti mulibe nthawi yokwanira limodzi silikanabwera.
4. Simumandipatsa zachilendo. Ndinafunika kupuma kuchokera ku monotony.
Mwina mmodzi wa akale kunyenga munthu zowiringula ndipo moona konse amakalamba kwa iwo. Amuna ambiri amayesa kutengera mlandu wa kusakhulupirika kwawo pa "biology" ndi "kusowa kwawo kwachibadwa kwa zachilendo", m'malo moyankha zochita zawo.
Amakhazikitsa mkangano paziganizo monga "Simunandikhutiritse momwe ndimafuna" kuteteza chinyengo chawo, pamene njira yoyenera yothetsera moyo wosakhutitsidwa ndi kugonana ndikukambirana ndi wokondedwa wanu zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi maganizo anu.
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5. Ubale wathu udatha kalekale, ndidachita izi kuti ndikudziwitse zenizeni
Izi ziyenera kukhala chimodzi mwa zifukwa zoseketsa zochitira chinyengo munthu. Osakusiyani mumagawika moseketsa, koma zopusa komanso zoseketsa. Komabe, ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zochitira chinyengo zofala kwambiri poimba mlandu mnzanu.
Kugwiritsa ntchito chinyengo ngati njira "yofunafuna chidwi" m'malo mofotokozera nkhawa zawo pazaubwenzi mwachiwonekere si njira yothandiza kwambiri yothetsera vutolo. Izi zikunenedwa, n'zosadabwitsa kuti ndi anthu angati omwe amagwera chifukwa chopundukachi ndikuyamba kudziganiziranso za udindo wawo pa nthawi yovutayi ya ubale.
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Nthawi ya chilombo chachikulu: Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani mukazindikira kuti mnzanu akukunyengani?
Choyamba, mvetsetsani kuti palibe njira yomwe muyenera kuyankha mlandu chifukwa chakuti mnzanuyo anakunyengererani. SULI ndi udindo pa izo. Ziribe kanthu chifukwa chimene mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akupereka kwa inu. Zinachitika chifukwa mnzanuyo anasankha kubera, osati chifukwa cha zomwe munachita.
Chachiwiri, dzifunseni ngati mukuwona kuti mutha kupitilira chochitika ichi. Kodi aka kanali koyamba kuti izi zichitike? Kodi mukuona kuti muli ndi chisoni chenicheni pa khalidwe la mnzanu mutakumana nawo? Kodi athetsa chibwenzicho? Kodi ali okonzeka kutenga udindo pa zochita zawo?
Mayankho a mafunsowa adzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa zomwe muyenera kuchita. Osachita manyazi kufunafuna thandizo la akatswiri amisala, katswiri wa zamaganizo, kapena wogwira ntchito zamisala wovomerezeka. Lankhulani ndi okondedwa wanu za kupita kukalandira uphungu kwa maanja ndikuyesera kuthetsa mavuto anu paubwenzi.
Ibibazo
Ayi, palibe chifukwa chabwino chochitira chinyengo. Ngakhale ubale wanu utakhala wodzaza ndi nkhani, njira yoyenera ndikuyesa kuthetsa kusiyana kwanu kapena kuyimitsa. Kaya zinthu zili bwanji, kubera si yankho lolondola.
Zomwe wobera amanena atakumana nazo zimadalira ngati akunong'oneza bondo chifukwa chosiya kumukhulupirira ndipo akufuna kuti chibwenzicho chiyende bwino. Ngati atero, adzasonyeza chisoni chawo ndi kulonjeza kuti adzakonza zolakwa zawo. Ngati sichoncho, adzayesa kulungamitsa zochita zawo pokupatsirani mlandu.
Inde, si zachilendo kuti wonyenga adziteteze ndi kuyesa kulungamitsa zochita zawo. Izi zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chakuti amaona kuti alibe vuto ndipo sangathe kupirira liwongo ndi manyazi a chinyengo kapena chifukwa akhala akugwiritsa ntchito zifukwa izi kulungamitsa kubera kwa nthawi yaitali kuti akhulupirire kuti ndi zoona.
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Kubera ndi mlandu wosakhululukidwa kwa wokondedwa wanu, palibe chowiringula chomwe chingalungamitse kuphwanya kukhulupirirana ndikupweteketsa wokondedwa wanu. Komabe kubera mwina ndi chizindikiro cha vuto lalikulu mu ubale wanu. Chifukwa chake ngati mukuganiza zokhululukira okondedwa anu, ndikuyambiranso ubale wanu, muyenera kulankhula ndi bwenzi lanu ndikuzindikira zovuta zazikulu.
Ndi kulakwa kukaikira okondedwa wanu koma chimodzimodzinso kulakwa kukayikira ngati muli ndi zifukwa. Ndinkafuna chonga ichi ndipo ndinachipeza apa. Zabwino kukhala nazo.
Ndi kulakwa kukaikira giyo bwenzi koma mofanana kulakwa kusakayikira pamene muli ndi zifukwa. Ndinkafuna chonga ichi ndipo ndinachipeza apa. Zabwino kukhala nazo.