Iimpawu ezili-15 eziqinisekileyo zoMyeni wakho uneCrush komnye uMfazi

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iimpawu ukuba umyeni wakho uthandana nomnye umfazi
Ukusabalalisa uthando

Ngaba uthandana nelinye ibhinqa ngokweemvakalelo? – mna nawe sobabini siyazazi ezo zikrokro ngomyeni wakho aziphumi ndawo kumtshato osempilweni. Awuvuki ngenye intsasa kwaye ngokukhawuleza uqonde ukuba wena kunye nomntu wakho niphila iminyaka ekhanyayo ngaphandle kophahla olufanayo. Ndibheja ukuba imiqondiso yomyeni wakho inomtsalane komnye umfazi ibisoloko ikhona, ifihlakeleyo kuphela ukuba iphathwe njengobungqina obubambekayo.

Utshintsho oluthile kwindlela aziphatha ngayo njengokunqongophala kwamandla othando kunye nendlela yakhe yokuzikhusela yokuxambulisana kukhokelele ekuqondeni oko. Akukho ngqiqweni ukucinga ukuba “Kutheni umyeni wam efuna ukuba nomnye umfazi?” okanye “Ayisenamsebenzi na kuye?”. Njengoko oku survey ukuba uhlaziyo rhoqo, ngexesha lokuphonononga eli nqaku ngoMatshi 2023, iyonke 77% yamadoda atshatileyo baye babe nobudlelwane ngokweemvakalelo kunye 71.8% baye bama ubusuku obunye. Ke, leliphi inyathelo elilungileyo ngoku? Nangona kunzima, kufuneka uqale ukukhangela kwaye uvume iimpawu zokuba umyeni wakho unomdla komnye umntu, ngaphambi kokuba kubangele ukungathembeki.

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Ngaba ukhe waqaphela ukuba umyeni wakho ubajonga njani abanye abafazi? Okanye unayo umyeni ebethetha nomnye umfazi kakhulu mva nje? Xa indoda yakho inika omnye umfazi ingqwalasela eninzi kakhulu, ibophelelekile ukuba ibangele uloyiko lwakho lokuba isenokuba iyabhadula. Uyazama ukuthulisa loo mvakalelo yokuthukuthela ngenjongo yokugcina uxolo emtshatweni wakho, kodwa uyazi ukuba ilizwi elincinane entloko yakho alinakuze liphazame.

Umfundi wethu uSerena, umfundisi-ntsapho oneminyaka engama-38 ubudala waseNew Orleans, usithumelela ibali lakhe, "Uyenza njani into yokuba umyeni wakho uthanda umhlobo wakho 'ngaphezu komhlobo'? Ndiyibonile ukuba iphupha elibi lizalisekile kwaye ndahlala nalo iinyanga.

“Izinto azizange ziphelele apho. Ngokuthe ngcembe, uJean waqalisa ukumncwasa ndikhona. Wayedla ngokuvelisa igama lakhe kwiincoko zethu.Umhla nezolo, kwakucaca ngakumbi ukuba umyeni wam ubonakala engasenamdla kum yaye wayemtyumza elinye ibhinqa, umhlobo wam osenyongweni, hayi ngaphantsi.

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Xa ubona iimpawu zomyeni wakho unomnye umntu, kunokuba nzima ukufumana indlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nale meko. Kodwa kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ukutyumza kuqhelekileyo, kwaye wonke umntu unabo. Usenokuchukumiseka komnye umntu ngokunjalo. Asiyicimi irada yethu 'yabantu abashushu' xa sitshata. Siseza kuqhubeka ukuqaphela kwaye sibaxabise abantu abanomtsalane. Yonke into yendalo, ukuba nje ingajiki ibe kukungathembeki. Ke ukukusindisa kule meko yokungaqiniseki, nantsi imiqondiso eli-15 yokuba umyeni wakho unochuku komnye umfazi:

1. Uye watshintsha ngesiquphe

Sibhekisa kumdla wakhe kubudlelwane, kunye neenzame awayezisebenzisa ukuze enze unxibelelwano lwakho lothando lomelele. Ukuba impendulo yakhe ethi "Belunjani usuku lwakho?" utshintshile ukusuka kwi-lowdown ecacileyo yezinto ezenzekayo kwi-monosyllabic "i-monosyllabic" okanye "isiqhelo," mhlawumbi uyarhoxa kuwe.

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Umdla wakhe kubudlelwane bakho uyehla

Emva kweminyaka emihlanu sitshatile, ummelwane wam uNancy waqonda, “Bendisazi ukuba umyeni wam uyakha unxibelelwano ngokweemvakalelo nomntu xa eqala ukwenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo, into echasene ngokupheleleyo nokuziphatha kwakhe kwesiqhelo - ukusuka ekujongeni omnye komnye ngexesha leeseshoni zothando olunomdla kwaye kungabikho ukudibana kwamehlo konke konke! Wayeza kwenza iinzame zokuphonononga izikhundla apho bekunganyanzelekanga ukuba sijongane, konke oko egameni lokuzama.

Ukutshintsha kwesimo sakhe kwabonakala kuzo zonke ezinye iinkalo zobomi bethu. Sasinesithethe sokubhaka amaqebengwana ngeeCawa kunye. Layeka ngesiquphe. Ngaphambili ngenxa yokuba wayediniwe, waceba ngesiquphe nabahlobo bakhe endingabaziyo. Njengoko ndandimbukele ephelelwa ngumdla kum, ndaqalisa ukucinga enoba lo mtshato usafanele ugcinwe kusini na.”

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2. Uhlala ethe nca kwifowuni yakhe LONKE IXESHA

Ewe, iifowuni zethu ziye zaba yinxalenye yobomi bethu kwaye uninzi lwethu luchitha ixesha elininzi kuzo ngaphaya komda wexesha lesikrini esisempilweni. Kodwa kukho umahluko ocacileyo phakathi kokuziqhelanisa nezixhobo zombane kunye nokuzisebenzisa ukuzuza umdla wothando onokubakho. Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzilumkele:

  • Ngaba umyeni wakho uchitha ixesha lakhe elininzi ekhangela amaqonga eendaba ezentlalo xa ekuxelele ukuba kufuneka asebenze kwiprojekthi ebaluleke kakhulu?
  • Ngaba ngokoqobo uye wawenza inxalenye eyongeziweyo yomzimba wakhe, ewuthwala kuyo yonke indawo, kwanakwishawari?
  • Ngaba uyala ukukunika nokuba ungxamiseke kangakanani na?
  • Uphendula iitekisi zakhe ekrokra, ehlala encumile. Izandi ezihambelanayo?
  • Ngaba udla ngokuphuma aye kwelinye igumbi ukuze nje aphulaphule umnxeba, aphazamise iincoko zenu?

Azinakuba zonke zizenzekele nje, awucingi? Olu tyekelo oluyimfihlo lunokuba ngaphezulu kunemeko nje leyo izixhobo zombane ziyaluphazamisa ulwalamano lwakho kwaye isenokuba ziimpawu zokuxela ukuba umyeni wakho unomdla komnye umntu.

3. Unokukhanya okwahlukileyo okumjikelezileyo

Ukuthandana nomntu ongenguye iqabane lakho yindwe enkulu ebomvu kumtshato womntu omnye njengoko igungqisa isiseko sokuthembana nokunyaniseka? Umyeni wakho encoma omnye umfazi ngokungayekiyo ngelixa eneentloni akunakuba lula ukuma. Ngaphezu koko, akunzima ukuqonda enoba utsaleleka kulo mntu okanye akunjalo kwindlela amjonga ngayo xa ethetha naxa ehleka.

Usenokude aqhayise ngothando lwakhe ngokumbiza ngeziteketiso okanye usenokumfumana ekhankanya igama lakhe phantse kuyo yonke enye incoko. Ubukho bakhe bunokumenza abe noloyiko njengoko ebeya kukulumkela ukuyifihla indlela avakalelwa ngayo ngaye. Isenokude ifikelele kwinqanaba apho ukhangele khona iingcebiso malunga nokuba wenze ntoni xa umyeni wakho ekhusela omnye umfazi kweyona ngxabano incinci.

“UGloria ukhangela izityalo zesitiya sakhe, ngoko ndiye ndaya naye kwindawo yokugcina abantwana emva komsebenzi,” usenokukukhankanya ngokungakhathali. Kodwa ukuba luhlobo lomfo ongayazi into yokuqala malunga nomahluko phakathi kwezityalo ezinencindi kunye neentyantyambo, oku kufuneka ngokuqinisekileyo kunyuse i-hackles yakho. Enoba imeko injani na, isoloko ikhangela iindlela zokubhalelana naye. Olu chungechunge lweziganeko lukhomba ngokucacileyo kuzo zonke iimpawu zomyeni wakho akasathandani nawe.

4. Ukhangela iindlela zokungabandakanyeki

Ukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi engaphandle, lolunye lweempawu zothando umyeni wakho komnye umfazi. Usenokungasenamdla wokwenza izinto nawe kwaye nanini na uceba, uye aphuncuke kuzo ngesizathu esinye okanye esinye. Ngoku uchitha isixa esikhulu sexesha lakhe lokuphumla ehleli nabahlobo bakhe ongazi nto ngabo.

Nanini na esenza imisebenzi efana nokufumana igrosari okanye ukuzalisa igesi emotweni, kumthatha ixesha elide kunesiqhelo ukubuya. Uhlala ekhangela amathuba okuphumela ngaphandle kwendlu kuba kukho omnye umntu angathanda ukuchitha ixesha lakhe kunye naye. Kukho ithuba elihle lakho umyeni uyajola okanye ukuya kwelinye.

5. Uyaluphepha lonke uhlobo lokusondelelana nawe

Ngaba ubuhlobo obuhle, obusondeleyo phakathi kwakho nomyeni wakho buye bachaphazeleka mva nje? Ukuba uyakuphepha ukujonga emehlweni akho, ukukubamba, ukukuphuza, ukubamba izandla, okanye nasiphi na isenzo sothando ngokupheleleyo, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo kukho into ephekayo. Ukutsaleleka komnye umntu kunokulugubungela uthando analo ngawe yaye, emva koko, kuye kwachaphazela ukusondelelana kwenu ngokwasemzimbeni.

Khumbula ukuba isiqendu ukusuka sex Education apho uOtis ephendula ngokuthi “Kumnandi oko” kwikaRuby ethi “Ndiyakuthanda, Otis”? Ewe, ezo nzame zokungenzi nto zokuthintela ukusondelelana azingomabali nje amabali othando. Unokubabona emtshatweni wakho xa indoda yakho inika omnye umfazi uthando olufaneleyo, olufanelekileyo nolukwere. Kuthathele ingqalelo oku njengomnye wemiqondiso yokuba umyeni wakho unomdla komnye umfazi.

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6 Uhlala ecatshukiswa yiyo yonke into oyenzayo

Ukuba unamehlo ngomnye umfazi, nakwizinto ezincinci kunye nokungavisisani kuncinci kuya kumema ama-spats wesithandwa emtshatweni wakho. Usenokuhlala engxamile okanye enomsindo ngalo lonke ixesha, ekubek’ ityala ngezinto ezimkhathazayo. Angaya kwinqanaba lokukubiza 'njengomntu othandabuzayo,' 'unomona,' okanye 'uyakugxeka' beka ityala kulwalamano. Kodwa ngelo xesha, kuya kufuneka wazi ngcono ukuba ungaweli kumdlalo wakhe wokukhohlisa njengoko unokuyifumana ingcambu yomsindo wakhe.

UNancy uthi: “Umfanekiso weengxaki zakhe ngokuphathelele nantoni na endayenzayo wawukhula ngokuthe ngcembe.” Walibala indlela yokubonakalisa uxabiso kum, singasathethi ke ngokumncoma okumnandi kungakhathaliseki ukuba ndandizama kangakanani na ukumenzela into entle,” utsho uNancy, echaza iinguqulelo awazibonayo xa wabamba umyeni wakhe encoma omnye umfazi ngokugqithiseleyo.

7. Uyamcupha ngalo lonke ixesha

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uchitha lonke ixesha lakhe kwi-intanethi ethanda kwaye ephawula ngemifanekiso yakhe, luphawu olubi. Kukho umahluko phakathi kweentlobo zokuncoma ozinika umntu. Ukuncoma kunokuba yinyaniso kunye nokudlala ngothando.

Usenokuzama ukuzithethelela ngokuthi ubezama nje ukuba mhle kodwa uyazi xa kukho umntu ozama ukuncwasa. Ingakumbi xa ingumntu wakho. Ke, olu nxibelelwano lugqithisileyo lwemithombo yeendaba zentlalo lunokuba luphawu lokuba uthe phithi ngomnye umfazi, okanye mhlawumbi, nokuba ukukopela kwi-intanethi.

8. Uba nobubele kakhulu kuwe ngesiquphe

Ukuba umntu wenza into engalunganga, banokuzama ukuyibuyekeza ngokugqithisileyo ngokuzama ukwenza izinto ‘ezilungileyo’ ezigqwesileyo. Kungenxa yokuba ngaphakathi ngaphakathi bayaqonda ukuba bakuphatha kakubi kwaye abanakuzinceda ukuba uzive unetyala. Yenye yeendlela abantu abazama ngayo ukuziva bangoyiki kangako malunga nokungathembeki kumaqabane abo. Kunokwenzeka okufanayo ukuba umyeni wakho unamathelene ngokweemvakalelo kwelinye ibhinqa yaye uzama ukumsukela.

Umzekelo, ukuba uye waba umyeni livila ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye ngequbuliso iqala ukungena kunye nemisebenzi ngaphandle kokucelwa ukuba uyenze, kufanele iphakamise ukukrokra kwakho. Okanye ukuba ukunikela ingqalelo egqithisileyo kuwe akufani kakhulu naye, ngokuqinisekileyo inokuba lolunye lwemiqondiso yokuba umyeni wakho unochuku komnye umfazi.

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9. Uyayiphaphela inkangeleko yakhe

Umdlalo wesitayile somyeni wakho unyusa inotshi ukuba intliziyo yakhe iqalile ukuwela umntu omtsha. Iziqholo ezitsha, iindevu ezilungiswe ngokugqibeleleyo kunye neenwele, ukuchitha iiyure kwindawo yokuzivocavoca - uya kuhamba umgama owongezelelweyo ukuze abonakale edapper xa ezama ukukholisa umntu.

Utshintsho olukhawulezileyo kwi-wardrobe kunye nengqokelela entsha yefashoni izixhobo zefashoni zamadoda ikwayisipho. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uzame ukufumanisa esona sizathu sisemva koku ngaphambi kokuba ufikelele kulo naluphi na uhlobo lwesigqibo. Ukuba lo mtsalane mtsha wokujongeka kakuhle udityaniswa nezinye zezi mpawu zingasentla umyeni wakho akasakuthandi, ingalicebo elihle ukuqala ukucwangcisa ikhondo lakho elizayo.

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10. Uhlala engacacanga kwaye engacacanga kuwe

Akafane athethe ngoko kwenzekayo ebomini bakhe ngoku, indawo akuyo, okanye izinto ezincinane ezimvuyisayo nezimcaphukisayo. Ukuba oku kunjalo, kufuneka uphaphe. Ukungafuni ukuxoxa ngezicwangciso zexesha elizayo kunye nawe kwaye ungafuni uluvo lwakho xa usenza izigqibo, ezinkulu okanye ezincinci, zonke zizibonakaliso zokuba umbono wakhe wobomi afunayo kuye utshintshile.

Ngenxa yoko, umgama phakathi kwakho naye unokunyuka ngokuphawulekayo. Nobabini anisayi kubuyela omnye komnye ukuze nifumane izimvo kunye neengcebiso, kwaye ubudlelwane buziva icala elinye. Kwaye kungenxa yokuba ngokuthe ngcembe uya ephelelwa ngumdla kuwe. Le yenye yeempawu ezicacileyo ukuba umyeni wakho unomdla komnye umfazi.

11. Uyayeka ukuthabatha inyathelo

Wagqibela nini ukwenza into yothando kuwe? Ngaba uye wayeka ukwenza iinzame zalo naluphi na uhlobo olukwenza uhambe lonke mushy? Ngaba umtshato wakho ungene kwinqanaba lokulibala imihla ebalulekileyo kwaye uphoswe ngezihlandlo ezikhethekileyo?

Ukuba uyanqwala ewe, usenokuba ubeka la mandla kwenye indawo. Yile nzame encinci egcina naluphi na ulwalamano luphila. Kodwa ukuba uyaqhubeka ebanda okanye engakhathali emtshatweni wakho, akuseyomfuneko ukuba wenjenjalo menze aqonde ukuba ulahlekelwe nguwe. Siyaxolisa ngokukuqhekeza, kodwa sele ekuvalile ucango.

12. Izimbo zomzimba azifihlanga iimvakalelo zakhe

Masithi, umyeni wakho uyakwazi ukuhlala ethetha ngokungafihlisiyo ngobomi obumbaxa obuyimfihlo abuphilayo. Kodwa siyathandabuza ukuba angakwazi ukuzibamba iimvakalelo ezithambileyo ukuba zingabonakali ebusweni baloo mfazi ukhethekileyo. Kwaye elo lithuba lakho lokuthatha iimpawu zokuba umyeni wakho uyamthanda na umhlobo wakho, iqabane lakhe, ummelwane, okanye okubi ngakumbi, udadewenu.

Ngenene unokuziva uxinezeleko lothando (okanye lokwabelana ngesondo) xa eli nenekazi lingaqondakaliyo lingena. Amehlo akhe ayakuba ngakuye ubusuku bonke. Akayi kuphoswa nethuba lokuthetha naye. Indoda yakho inokuzama i-tad kakhulu ukumenza ahleke, kwaye aqhubeke nokumncoma. Iimvakalelo zakhe zazinokutolikwa ngeliso lakhe kanye.

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13. Uyayeka ukuba nomona ngawe

Khumbula ukuba kwakukho ixesha apho wayedla ngokukhwaza ukuba unokuthi "hi" kumntu ongamaziyo kuFacebook okanye ugone umhlobo oyindoda esitratweni? Ngezo mini isenokuba yayivakala ikruqula okanye ifuthaniseleka, kodwa ngoku akakhathali nokuba uncokola nabani okanye uhamba nabani. Kufuneka itswebe kancinane. Ndiyathetha, njani zonke iinkxalabo zanyamalala emoyeni? Mhlawumbi batshintshela komnye umdla wothando. Ycinge!

14 Ubamba ubuxoki bakhe obuqhelekileyo

Ubuxoki obumhlophe apha naphaya abuhlungu kodwa uyabubona umtshato wakho usengxakini xa umyeni wakho ekugcina emthunzini wenyaniso engaphelelanga. Umfazi omtsha ebomini bakhe unokuba sisizathu sokuba eze namabali oqweqwe olubi awenziwe kakubi malunga ngendawo akuyo. Izikrokro zibopheleleka ukuba zithi gqi engqondweni yakhe nabani na. Umazi kakuhle, kwaye ngelishwa, unokwazi ukubona xa exoka.

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15. Intuition yakho ithi indoda yakho iyamtyumza umfazi othile

Usenokuba okanye akazenzi izinto ezibalelwa njengemiqondiso yokuba umyeni wakho uyamthanda omnye umntu, ukanti amathumbu akho ahlala exela eyona meko imbi kakhulu. Uqala ukuziva ukude kuye kwaye intuition yakho ikuxelela ukuba ukhona ukuphuma eluthandweni emva kokungathembeki.

Uninzi lweempawu ezikhankanywe apha ngasentla zinokuvela kuba abantu badla ngokutshintsha ngokwendalo. Naluphi na uhlobo loxinzelelo lunokukhokelela kutshintsho olunjalo. Ke, iBonobology icebisa ukuba umamele iimvakalelo zakho zamathumbu. Kodwa musa ukukhawuleza ukhawuleze uye kuso nasiphi na isigqibo ukuba ubona nje imiqondiso embalwa yokuba umyeni wakho athabatheke komnye umfazi.

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Yintoni omawuyenze xa umyeni wakho ethanda omnye umfazi?

“Kutheni umyeni wam efuna ukuba nomnye umfazi?” uyazibuza, njengoko umyeni wakho ehlola abanye abafazi phambi kwakho kwaye ubonisa phantse zonke iimpawu zokungathembeki ezikhankanywe ngasentla. Ukulilela umtshato wakho oqhawukileyo kuyinto yokwemvelo okwangoku kodwa unako ukulungisa ibhulorho eqhawukileyo phakathi kwakho naye. Ukuba uwagcina kuwe la mathandabuzo noloyiko, uzibeka esichengeni sokuvula amasango entiyo emtshatweni wakho. Ukuba uthetha neqabane lakho, kunokubonakala ngathi uyamtyhola. Emva koko kufuneka wenze ntoni?

Okokuqala nokuphambili, kufuneka uqiniseke nge-100% ukuba into oyibonayo njengemiqondiso yokuphuhlisa iimvakalelo zomnye umfazi ayikho intelekelelo yokungakhuseleki kwakho kunye nomona. Unokuba nengcaciso esengqiqweni emva kokuchitha ixesha kunye nomfazi omnye rhoqo-ngelixa uhleli apha, ukonakalisa ukuzithemba kwakho ngokubona. iimpawu zobudlelwane bomyeni wakho ngokweemvakalelo yonke indawo. Ke xa iqabane lakho lithandana nomnye umfazi, nantsi into onokuyenza:

  • Musa ukujongana naye ngezikrokro zakho ngaphandle kokuba unobungqina obubambekayo
  • Ukuba awunabo ubungqina, kodwa amathumbu akho akuxelela ukuba kukho into ecinyiweyo, linda iintsuku ezimbalwa ukuze ulandele indlela yakhe yokuziphatha etshintshileyo uze uthethe naye ngale pateni ngokuphandle.
  • Nje ukuba wazi ngokuqinisekileyo, yenza indawo yencoko enempilo kwaye uthethe naye ngendlela oziva ngayo, ngokuthe ngqo nangokulula
  • Amaxesha okuphelelwa lithemba afuna amanyathelo angxamisekileyo. Ukuba uyala ukuvuma iimvakalelo zakhe, ngekhe sikusole ngokujonga iinkuni zakhe zokufowuna, iingxelo zebhanki, okanye iiakhawunti zemidiya yoluntu ukuqokelela iinyani zokulwa intsomi yakhe.
  • Uyazi ukuba awukwazi ukunyanzela umntu ukuba akuthande kwakhona, akunjalo? Ngoko ke, zama ukuqonda (ngobulali) ukuba kutheni ethanda omnye umntu
  • Jonga ukuba kukuphosakela nje okwexeshana, isiphazamiso esisempilweni nesingenabungozi, okanye uphawu olusisigxina kubudlelwane bakho.
  • Mbuze ukuba uvakalelwa njani ngaye, kwaye ukuba ucinga ngekamva kunye naye malunga nothando okanye ukwabelana ngesondo okanye kwindawo ethile phakathi
  • Ukuba ukubudlelwane obuvulekileyo, ngoko ukutyumza kwakhe umntu kuya kuzisa iingxoxo ezininzi, kodwa ngokufanelekileyo, akukho nanye kuzo kufuneka ibe malunga nokuqhawula umtshato wakho. Kule meko, ngekhe ubone iimpawu ezininzi ezidweliswe apha ngasentla
  • Ukuba nineqabane lomtshato omnye yaye ukuba ukuthabatheka kwakhe kusisigaba nje esingenabungozi sokwexeshana, ngoko ninokukwazi ukufumana indlela yokuvelana naye, nihleke ngako oko, okanye nide nimgculele ngeemvakalelo zakhe.
  • Ukutyumza kuqhelekile, ukuba nje akuphazamisi into eninayo nobabini. Ungade uxoxe naye ngeminqweno yakho
  • Ukuba nobabini ningumfazi omnye kwaye ukutyumza kwakhe kuye kwaba sisiphazamiso esikhulayo, mbuze ukuba uzimisele ukuyiyeka kwaye asebenze kubudlelwane bakhe bokuqala kunye nawe.
  • Ukuba impendulo yakhe nguhayi, kwaye ukuba iqabane lakho ulahlekelwa umdla kubudlelwane, ungazama ukulungisa ibhondi yakho ngomsebenzi omninzi kunye nonyango, okanye ungamyeka ahambe aqale ukuphilisa.
  • Ukuba ewe, sicebisa ukuba uwuyeke kwangoko umdlalo wokutyhola kwaye uyeke ukutsala umntu wesithathu kwinxaki yakho. Yenza olu lwalamano lube ngumbindi wengqwalasela yenu nobabini
  • Xubusha ngokukhululekileyo imigibe (ukuba ikho) esenokuba yamkhokelela ekubeni athande omnye umfazi ukusa kwinqanaba lokuba angathembeki.
  • Qala ukuthandana kwakhona, uchithe ixesha elisemgangathweni ekhaya, ubhalisele imisebenzi yezibini, thatha uhambo, ufumane amava kwigumbi lokulala - nantoni na esebenzayo ukunisondeza nobabini, ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwengqondo, ngokwasemzimbeni.
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Iimpawu eziphambili

  • Ukuba umyeni wakho ngequbuliso uqala ukuswela amandla akhe endalo kunye nomdlandla wobudlelwane benu, unokuba nomdla wokuthandana omtsha.
  • Ukunamathela kwakhe kwifowuni yakhe kunye nobuxoki obuqhubekayo kunokunika okuninzi malunga neenjongo zakhe ezifihlakeleyo
  • Ukuba uqaphela ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kunye nolwimi lomzimba lutshintsha malunga nomfazi othile, unokuba nguye osentloko yakhe imini yonke
  • Ukungakhathali kwakhe naluphi na uhlobo lokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni ngomnye umbonakaliso wokuba ukhule ethabatheke ngomnye umntu
  • Khumbula ukuba ukuba nokutyumza kuyinto yendalo ngokupheleleyo nje ukuba ayilonzakalisanga kulwalamano lwakho nangayiphi na indlela
  • Ukuhleka kunye naye malunga nokutyumza kwakhe kumanqanaba okuqala kungcono kunokuba ubhukishe iiseshini zonyango emva kokuba ijike yaba lityala elipheleleyo lokukopela.

Masijongane nayo, ngemonotony esiyiziswe ngumtshato, abantu bayatshintsha. Ngamanye amaxesha bawela eluthandweni, okanye bacinge, kwaye ngokufuthi benza ubugwenxa bokukrexeza. Khumbula nje ukuba, ayisosiphelo sehlabathi ukuba umyeni wakho athande omnye umfazi. Ungahleka, uxolele, usebenze, okanye uphilise indlela yakho ngale nto.

Eli nqaku lihlaziywe ngoFebruwari 2023. 

FAQs

1. Ngaba indoda etshatileyo ingathandana nomnye umfazi?

Yinto yendalo ukuba indoda etshatileyo ibe nokuthanda omnye umfazi/indoda. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo yindlela azimisele ngayo ukumsukela loo mntu, indlela anyaniseke ngayo kwiqabane lakhe, nokuba uyazixhasa iimvakalelo nezenzo zakhe.

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Ngokuqinisekile! Kungenxa yokuba umntu unokutyumza kancinane akuthethi ukuba uya kumlahla iqabane lakhe kunye nobomi obufezekileyo bomfanekiso abaye bakha kunye. Ukutyumza kuyadlula, kujongwe ukuba kufike nokuhamba. Ngokufanelekileyo, akufanele kuchaphazele iimvakalelo ezinamandla indoda etshatileyo eyonwabileyo enayo entliziyweni ngeqabane layo.

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