Ingabe Kufanele Uthethelele Umuntu Okhohlisayo? Izinto Ezingu-8 Okufanele Zicatshangelwe

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Cabanga ngalokhu: Umlingani wakho ukukopele nomuntu osebenza naye. Wazi ngakho kamuva kakhulu. Bathi baluqedile udaba kodwa badinga ukuphumela obala. Futhi cela intethelelo yakho. Kodwa namanje awukwazi ukwamukela isimo. Ulokhu uzibuza ukuthi kufanele umxolele yini umkhohlisi? Ungakwazi, ngempela? Ingabe buthaka ukuthethelela othile ngokukopela? Umuntu unquma kanjani ukuthi uzohamba nini ngemva kokungathembeki? Ingabe udidekile mayelana ne-equation phakathi kokukopela nokuthethelela?

Nokho, azikho izimpendulo ezilula noma eziqondile zale mibuzo. Uyabona, ukukopela kungaba yizinhlobo eziningi, ngokwesibonelo, ngokomzwelo noma ngokobulili. Umthelela wokukopela ebudlelwaneni ungancika emvelweni wabo, ngokwezinga elikhulu. Izinto ezifana nesimo sobudlelwano bakho, ukuthi usengozini engakanani, kanye nokuzisola komlingani wakho ngokukhaphela ukwethenjwa kwakho nakho kunquma ukuthi ukuthethelela ngemva kokungathembeki kuyisinqumo esifanele noma cha.

Okubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi usukulungele yini ukuthethelela nokubuyela kumlingani wakho noma ukuqhubeka nokuphila ngaphandle kwakhe. Kulesi sihloko, sizochaza izinzuzo nezingozi zokuthethelela umlingani okhohlisayo kanye nezici okufanele uzicabangele ngenkathi uthethelela okhohlisayo. Ngosizo lomeluleki wethu wobudlelwano ochwepheshe uRuchi Ruuh (I-Postgraduate Diploma in Counseling Psychology), sizobheka namathiphu ambalwa okubhekana nesimo esinjalo. Ngakho-ke, uma ulwa nenkinga ethi, “Ungamthethelela yini umuntu okukopele?”, ake siqale…

Ukukopela Nokuthethelela: Izinzuzo Nebubi Okufanele Kucatshangelwe

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Hhayi-ke, ngaphambi kokuthi sijule ekuphenduleni umbuzo othi, umthethelela kanjani umuntu ngokukopela, ake siqale ngomthelela wokukopela kumlingani okhaphele. URuchi uthi, “Ukukopela, kungaba ngokwezimali, ngokomzwelo, noma ngokobulili, kubangela ukusabela okudabukisayo ngokomzwelo.

Ukuze uthole imininingwane eyengeziwe esekelwe uchwepheshe, sicela ubhalisele yethu Isiteshi se-YouTube.

Ukucabanga ngokuthethelela ngemva kokungathembeki kungaba nzima. Nakuba kungase kube nesifiso sokuthethelela umlingani wakho, ikakhulukazi uma kube ubuhlobo besikhathi eside , kukhona nesifiso sokuzivikela ekulimaleni. URuchi uzizwa kanje, “Ukukhohlisa nokuthethelela akuhambisani kahle. Uma uzama ukunquma ukuthi kufanele yini umthethelele umuntu okhohlisayo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi asikho isidingo sokusheshisa inqubo. Umuntu kufanele avumele ukuthethelela kuze ngesivinini sako.” Uphinde aveze izinzuzo nezingozi okufanele uzicabangele lapho ucabanga ngokuthethelela ngemva kokungathembeki:

Ubuhle bokuxolela umkhohlisi	Ububi bokuxolela umkhohlisi
2. Enye yezinzuzo ezingaba khona zokuthethelela umkhohlisi kungaba ithuba lokwakha ukwethembana nokuqinisa ukuxhumana. Ngenkathi ozakwethu bebhekana nokungezwani, ukuthethelela kunikeza indlela yokulungisa ubudlelwano futhi baqonde lokho okudingayo	1. Ukuthethelela kungase kuhlale kuyingozi, ngoba asikho isiqinisekiso sokuthi umkhohlisi uzoshintsha izindlela zakhe futhi angaphinde akhohlise. Lapho othile ezama ukwakha kabusha ubuhlobo, elinye icala lokukopela lingase liholele ekulimaleni okwengeziwe nokukhaphela.
2. Enye yezinzuzo ezingaba khona zokuthethelela umkhohlisi kungaba ithuba lokwakha ukwethembana nokuqinisa ukuxhumana. Ngenkathi ozakwethu bebhekana nokungezwani, ukuthethelela kunikeza indlela yokulungisa ubudlelwano futhi baqonde lokho okudingayo	2. Abantu abaningi ababathetheleli ukukopela abalingani ngoba abafuni ukuba sengozini ngokomzwelo phambi kwalowo muntu obazwise ubuhlungu. Ukwesaba ukulinyazwa kubenza bagweme ukukhuluma ngobuthakathaka babo
3. Kungaholela ekukhuleni komuntu siqu. Ukuxolela umkhohlisi iphinde ivumele ukuzihlolela kanye nokuqwashisa ngezidingo zakho. Okuhlangenwe nakho kozwela nozwela kungaholela nasekukhuleni okungokomoya. Labo ababekade beziba ngaphambi kokuba baqale ukutshala imali ekukhuleni kwabo lapho benquma ukuthethelela abalingani babo bokukopela	3. Kuhlala kunethuba lokulahlekelwa ukuzihlonipha. Lapho othile ejaha ukuthethelela umngane wakhe womshado okhohlisayo, kungase kube isenzo sokukhaphela kubo. Ngakho-ke, nakuba bethethelela noma benza sengathi bayabathethelela abalingani babo abakhohlisayo, ezikhathini eziningi, empeleni abaxoleli futhi bazizwe bengafaneleki ngaphakathi.
4. Uma udedela amagqubu namagqubu, ukungqubuzana kuyashabalala, kungene ukuzwana. Manje, ukuthethelela umenzi wobubi ngokuphindaphindiwe kungase kungabi into enhle, kodwa uma umlingani wakho ezama ngempela ukulungisa isimo futhi exolisa, kungase kube isinqumo esihle ukuthethelela nokunciphisa ukungqubuzana.	4. Ukuthethelela akuyisusi imbangela. Ngaphandle kokuvuma izindaba zangempela, noma ukuhlala phansi, ukukhuluma, nokuzixazulula, ukuthethelela akunancazelo. Isibonelo, uma othile ekopele ngoba engazizwa esekelwe ngokomzwelo ekhaya, ukuthethelela ngemva kokungathembeki komlingani wakho yedwa akwanele ukubuyisela ubuhlobo esimeni.

Ingabe Kufanele Uthethelele Umuntu Okhohlisayo? Izinto Ezingu-8 Okufanele Zicatshangelwe

Ingabe kubuthakathaka ukuthethelela umuntu ngokukopela? Umthethelela kanjani umuntu ngokukopela uma uqinisekile ukuthi uzokopela futhi? Ingabe ubudlelwano bakho bufanele ukulondolozwa? Futhi ungamthethelela kanjani umuntu okopela uma engumlingani wesikhathi eside? Okubaluleke kakhulu, kufanele ukwenze? Nakhu okwashiwo umsebenzisi weReddit mayelana nokuthi angamthethelela yini umuntu okopela, “Ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, yebo. Kwenzeka lokhu futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukuxhumana kuyaphela. Kodwa angizukusuka ebudlelwaneni beminyaka eyi-12 uma ezimisele ukubhekana nakho futhi efuna ukukhuluma ngendlela yokukulungisa.”

Ngakho-ke, uma ungakaqiniseki ukuthi umthethelele yini umlingani wakho okhohlisayo futhi udidekile ngokuthi uzokwenza kanjani, qhubeka ufunda. Futhi ngaphambi kokuba sifinyelele kumathiphu okuthethelela umuntu okhohlisayo, ake siqale sithole ukuthi yiziphi izinto okufanele uzicabangele ngaphambi kokuba unqume ukuyeka ubuhlungu nokukhashelwa bese wamukela ukuzwana. URuchi usisiza ngezinto ezimbalwa okufanele uzicabangele ngaphambi kokuphendula lo mbuzo, ingabe kufanele umthethelele umuntu okhohlisayo? Ngakho-ke, uma uzibuza ukuthi kufanele uhambe nini ngemva kokungathembeki nokuthi kufanele ubambelele nini, noma udidekile ngokuthi ungamthethelela kanjani umlingani okhohlisayo, qhubeka ufunde:

Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Yini Engeyona Ukukhohlisa Ebudlelwaneni? Lezi Zinto Eziyi-10

1. Izinga lokukhashelwa

Ukubuyisela umkhohlisi kudinga ukucabanga okuningi. Ingabe kuwukukhaphela ngokwezimali, ngokocansi, noma ngokomzwelo umlingani wakho akubeke kukho? U-Ruchi uthi, “Kubalulekile ukuqaphela incazelo yakho yomuntu othile ongayihloniphi imingcele yakho yokwethembeka futhi alinganise umonakalo ngendlela engokoqobo.” Ngakho-ke, esikhundleni sokuthonywa ukuxolisa, zama futhi ulinganise ubukhulu bomonakalo owenziwe bese uqhubeka. Yilokhu okufanele ukwenze uma umlingani wakho ekukhohlisa.

2. Ingabe ukuxolisa kuyiqiniso?

Ungamthethelela kanjani umuntu okhohlisayo ongethembekile ezinhlosweni zakhe? URuchi uthi, “Ukuze uthethelelwe, umlingani wakho kufanele azisole ngempela. Mthethelele kuphela uma ezimisele ukushintsha ukuziphatha kwakhe futhi ethatha umthwalo wemfanelo ebudlelwaneni .” Nakhu okungafanele ukukubekezelele:

Bakwenza uzizwe kabi ngokusabela kwakho
Bakwenza ucabange ukuthi awubaqondi
Babeka icala kuwe
Akukho ukuzimisela kweqiniso ukushintsha izindlela zabo

lapho uhamba ngemva kokungathembeki — Ngaphambi kokuthi uxolele umuntu okhohliwe, udinga ukuhlola ukuthi uyaxolisa ngempela yini

3. Umlando wabo wokukopela

Ngakho-ke, kufanele uhlale nomuntu okhohlisayo? Kubaluleke kakhulu ukucabangela umlando wokuziphatha kokukopela uma ucabanga ukwenza ubudlelwano busebenze. URuchi uthi, umuntu kufanele abuze imibuzo elandelayo:

Ingabe umlingani wakho unephethini engaguquki yokukopela kuwe?
Ingabe leli iphutha lesikhathi esisodwa?
Ingabe uke wabaxolela njalo esikhathini esidlule?

Uyanezela, “Uma ukukopela kuwe kuyingxenye yendlela enkulu, kudingeka kuqondwe ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuyiyeka .” Ungamthethelela yini umuntu okopelayo ojwayele ukukopela? Cha, akunjalo!

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4. Ingabe kube khona ikhefu lokuxhumana?

Abantu abaningi bavele bangena egobolondweni ngemuva kwesigameko sokukopela. Kodwa abangaqapheli ukuthi ukuthethelela ezimweni ezinjalo kudinga ukukhulumisana okunempilo. URuchi uthi, “Ozakwethu kudingeka babe nolwazi oluningi ngomunye nomunye ukuze banqume ukuthi bahlale noma baqhubeke.

"Isibonelo, indlela isigameko sokukhohlisa esithinte ngayo ubudlelwano bothando phakathi kwenu nobabili. Umuntu kumelwe aqonde ukuthi ukuzizwa ekhululekile komunye nomunye kuyingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yokuthethelelana. Kuzodingeka uqonde umbono wabo futhi ubenze baqonde owakho. Nokho lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uvumele ukunganaki kulawule ubudlelwano ."

5. Ingabe unalo uhlelo oluqinile lokusekela?

U-Ruchi uthi, “Abangane bakho, umndeni, nabelaphi bobudlelwano bangakusiza kakhulu ekusebenzelaneni nokungathembeki komlingani wakho.” Ingabe kufanele uhlale nomuntu okhohlisayo? Impendulo ayilula. Eqinisweni, ukuthethelela, ezimweni ezinjalo, akufanele kuphuthunyiswe. Umuntu kufanele akwazi ukucabangela imibono eminingi (owabangane bakho abaseduze noma umeluleki wakho) ukuze afinyelele isinqumo.

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6. Ithumbu lakho lithini?

Ngezinye izikhathi, kufanele uthembele emuzweni wakho wangaphakathi . URuchi uthi, “Ekugcineni uzokwazi ukuthi kufanele ubathethelele nini uma ulalela izimpendulo ezingokomzwelo nezingokomzimba ohlelweni lwethu.” Zibuze ukuthi kulungile noma akulungile noma usukulungele ukuthethelela nhlobo. Nakhu okufanele ukwenze uma umlingani wakho ekukhohlisa.

7. Ingabe ikhona imingcele enempilo ebuhlotsheni bakho bothando?

URuchi uthi, “Imingcele enempilo ibaluleke kakhulu futhi kufanele ibe isici esibalulekile esinqumweni sakho sokuthi uyamthethelela yini umlingani wakho.” Ngokwesibonelo:

Uma ubacele isikhathi ungekho, ukugxila kuwena, ukuhlangana nabanye abantu, futhi ugxile ekuzinakekeleni, futhi abakakulungeli ukukunikeza lokho, cabanga ukungabaxoleli.
Uma bekuncenga ukuthi uxolele, nakho lokho kuyifulegi elibomvu
Abakhwabanisi bavame ukubuya (yibize i-karma yabakhohlisayo) kodwa abakazihloniphi izidingo zakho. Leso futhi isimo lapho akufanele ubaxolele

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8. Eyakho imizwa

Ukubuyisela umkhohlisi kudinga ukubhekwa kakhulu. URuchi uthi, “Kubalulekile ukucabanga ngemizwa yakho, izidingo, nezindinganiso zakho siqu.” Ngakho-ke, zibuze imibuzo, enjengokuthi:

Lokhu kuthethelela kusho ukuthini kuwena?
Yini oyilindele kulesi senzo sokuthethelela?
Ingabe ukhulisa izindinganiso zakho noma ululaza ikhampasi yakho yokuziphatha ngokuyithethelela?

Isibonelo, omunye wabangane bami, uTrish, washaqeka lapho ezwa ngokuthandana ngokomzwelo komyeni wakhe nomuntu asebenza naye. Babengenabo ubudlelwano bocansi, ngisho nokuthumelelana imiyalezo yocansi, kodwa babevame ukushintshana imiyalezo evamile ngempilo yabo, ngezikhathi ezingajwayelekile. Ngenkathi uhlelo lukaTrish lokulinganisa luthi lokhu kwakuyisenzo esikhulu sokukhohlisa, njengoba ayekwazisa ukwethembeka ngokomzwelo, umyeni wakhe wayekholelwa ukuthi lokhu kwakungeyona into enkulu. Ngakho-ke, izindinganiso zabo zazingavumelani. Ukuthethelela esimweni esinjalo akuyona indlela engcono kakhulu yokubheja.

Indlela Yokuthethelela Uzakwethu Wokukopela: Amathiphu angu-7 Asekelwe Uchwepheshe

Ngakho-ke, usunqume ukuthi ufisa ukuthethelela oshade naye okhohlisayo. Kodwa umbuzo omkhulu manje ukuthi kanjani. Ukuthethelela akubi lula ngemuva kokungathembeki. Kulokhu, umsebenzisi we-Reddit unesizathu esilula kakhulu, "Ngifisa sengathi ngingakutshela ukuthi ungathethelela kanjani, kodwa angazi impendulo. Khumbula nje ukuthi ukuthethelela akusho ukuhlala noma ukukhohlwa - ukuthethelela kunamandla kuwe, ngaleyo ndlela uyeka ukubamba intukuthelo nentukuthelo. Ngamthethelela umyeni wami okokuqala futhi ngaqhubeka phambili, yize izinto zingazange zifane. Eminyakeni eyi-6 kamuva, wakwenza futhi kodwa okubi kakhulu."

Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Lapho Ukuthethelela Indaba Kungivimbela Ukuzibulala

Njengoba ubona, indlela eya entethelweni ngemva kokungathembeki ingase igcwale ukungabaza, ukungazethembi, nokwesaba ukuphinde uphile kulolo phupho elibi. Kodwa-ke, uma ufisa ukuhamba kulo mgwaqo futhi unikeze ubuhlobo bakho elinye ithuba, zikhona izindlela zokuthethelela umlingani okhohlisayo ngempela. U-Ruchi usisiza ngamathiphu angu-7 asebenzayo okuthi ungamthethelela kanjani uzakwethu okhohlisayo:

1. Izwa imizwa yakho

Ngakho-ke, umthethelela kanjani umuntu ngokukopela? URuchi uyeluleka, “Zivumele uzizwe futhi ubhekane nobubanzi bemizwa emibi, kungaba intukuthelo, ukudabuka, noma ukudabuka. Ukungazinaki lezo mizwa kuyiphutha elikhulu futhi kungaphazamisa isinqumo sakho sokuthethelela umlingani wakho wokukopela.” Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukulungisa imizwa yakho yinto yokuqala okufanele uyenze ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo esikhulu kangaka sokulungisa ubuhlobo bakho obuphukile.

Ukuze ucubungule imizwa yakho, ungazama:

I-Journaling
Ukukhuluma
Ukukhetha ukwelashwa

yini okufanele uyenze uma umlingani wakho ekhohlisa — Ukuze uxolele umkhohlisi, udinga ukucubungula imizwa yakho engemihle

2. Xhumana ngobuqotho

Ngakho-ke, ungamthethelela yini umuntu okukhohlisile? Yebo impela. Kodwa udinga ukukwazi ukuxhumana naye, ngokwethembeka nangokusobala. URuchi uzizwa kanje, “ Ukukhulumisana okungesabi nokukhululekile kuyicebiso elihle kakhulu lokudlula kulesi sigaba esinzima kakhulu sokuthethelela ngemva kokukopela.” Ngakho-ke, ungakhuluma ngalokhu:

Ukuthi ikuthinte kanjani
Okufanele ukwenze ukuze uqhubeke
Lapho umlingani wakho ekhona ngokuya phambili
Yiziphi izinhloso zakho, izimiso, kanye nemibono, futhi lapho kungqubuzana khona nomlingani wakho

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3. Misa imingcele

Umthethelela kanjani umuntu ngokukopela uma engenandaba nokuthi uzizwa kanjani? Ukuthethelela kuyasiza kuphela uma kukusiza uzizwe uhlonishwa futhi ubalulekile. URuchi uthi, “Ukuphela kwendlela ukuthethelela umuntu okopelayo okungakwenza uzizwe kahle ngayo uma imingcele yakho ihlonishwa. Udinga ukukhuluma ngemingcele ecacile nenempilo uma ucabanga ukuthi ubuhlobo bufanele ukulwelwa.”

Nakhu ukuthi eminye imingcele ibukeka kanjani:

Ukubeka izindinganiso zokuxhumana: Kwenze kucace ukuthi badinga ukuphendula izingcingo zakho nemibhalo, futhi batholakalele ingxoxo enempilo lapho kudingeka
Ukucaca ngezinga lokungafihli lutho: Kwenze kucace uma ufuna ukuthi bayeke ukuthumela ama-exes abo noma abantu abangabazi okungahleliwe ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Yabelana ngamaphasiwedi noma imilayezo yenkundla yezokuxhumana, uma kudingeka
Ukufika encazelweni okuvunyelwene ngayo yokwethembeka: Ithini incazelo yakho ngokwethembeka futhi ukubheka njengokukopela? Ingabe yilokho kanye umlingani wakho akucabangayo? Khuluma futhi ubeke imingcele ethile

4. Funa usizo lochwepheshe

Ukwakha kabusha ukwethembana kuyisici esibalulekile sokuthola indlela yokuthethelela uzakwethu okhohlisayo. Nokho, akulula, ikakhulukazi uma ukwenza wedwa. Kungakho ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe kanye nokungena ekwelashweni kuhlale kuyinketho engcono kakhulu uma ungazi ukuthi ungamthethelela kanjani oshade naye okhohlisayo futhi ukhathazekile ngempilo yakho yengqondo.

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URuchi uthi, “Umuntu wesithathu ongathathi hlangothi, ikakhulukazi uchwepheshe wezokwelapha noma umeluleki wobudlelwano, angakunikeza njalo ukuqonda okubalulekile uma uzibuza ukuthi ungamthethelela kanjani umlingani wakho okhohlisayo. Ngaphandle kokusekelwa, banikeza indawo ephephile yokuthola umbono ngesikhathi senqubo yokuphulukiswa. Ngakho-ke, qhubeka ukhethe ukwelulekwa kwemibhangqwana.” Ngakho-ke, uma udinga usizo lokuxazulula inkinga yokungathembeki nokuthola indlela eya ekuthetheleleni, ungangabazi ukuxhumana nezinsizakalo zokwelulekwa zeBonobology.

5. Gxila kwesimanje

Yebo, siyaqonda! Kunzima ukuqhubeka nesigameko sokukopela bese ukhohlwa okwedlule . Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthethelela umuntu ngokukopela? Izinyanga, noma mhlawumbe iminyaka! Imicabango ingase ihlale ibuya kuwe. Kuthiwani uma ubhekene nesimo esifanayo futhi? Ukuze alwe nalokhu, uRuchi uyeluleka, “Uma uhlela ukuthethelela umlingani wakho, gxila kulokho okwenzekayo manje bese wenza umzamo wokuqhubekela phambili ndawonye, ngaphandle kokugxila esikhathini esidlule. Yileyo ndlela kuphela lokhu okuzosebenza ngayo.”

6. Zijayeze

URuchi uthi, “Izikhathi eziningi, abantu bayeka izinto abazijabulelayo uma bezizwa bekhashelwe ebudlelwaneni . Kodwa inhlalakahle enempilo ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba ibaluleke kakhulu uma ufisa ukuthethelela umlingani wakho.” Ngakho-ke, zama lawa macebiso okuzinakekela nokuzitholela:

Ukuzivocavoca
Hlala nabangani
Thatha umsebenzi omusha wokuzilibazisa noma uzilolonge obuwukhohliwe
Thatha uhambo olude
Hamba eholidini

Okubaluleke kakhulu, yenza noma yini ekwenza uzizwe ujabule ngawe futhi uziqonde kangcono, ikusiza ukuthi unakekele impilo yakho yengqondo, noma usheshise inqubo yokuthethelela. Ngale ndlela, uzokwazi ukubhekana nezinselele ngempumelelo.

I-7. Iba nesineke

Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuxolela umuntu ngokukopela? URuchi uthi, “Inqubo yokululama ayilandelani, kuthatha iminyaka futhi ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nokuphila konke, ukuba abantu bathethelele abalingani babo abakhohlisayo. Ngakho, khumbula, ukuthethelela kuthatha isikhathi nokubekezela. Ungajahi. Yiba mnene futhi welaphe ngejubane lakho. Ungazihlonizi noma uzicindezele. Hlonipha ijubane lakho lokuthethelela.

Izikhombi Ezibalulekile

Ezinye izinto ezinhle zokuthethelela umkhohlisi ukukhula komuntu siqu, ukukhulula umthwalo ongokomzwelo, kanye nethuba lokwakha ubuhlobo obunempilo.
Obunye ububi bokuxolela umkhohlisi buhlanganisa ukuntula isiqinisekiso sokuthi ngeke kuphinde kwenzeke, ukuba sengozini ngokomzwelo kozakwethu okhohlisiwe, kanye nobubanzi bokuthi ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba
Ingabe kufanele umxolele umkhohlisi? Ezinye izici okufanele uzicabangele lapho unquma ukuthi kufanele yini umxolele umuntu okhohlisayo imizwa yakho, ubuqotho bokuxolisa, nohlelo lwakho lokusekela.
Amanye amathiphu okuthethelela umlingani okhohlisayo ukubeka imingcele, ukuzijwayeza ukuzinakekela, nokubekezela

Nakuba ukukopela nokuthethelela kungekona okuhamba phambili, sethemba ukuthi manje usuzazi izimpendulo zemibuzo efana nokuthi, “Ungamxolela umkhohlisi?” Uma ubhekene nokungathembeki, khumbula, ekupheleni kosuku, okubalulekile ukuthi ngabe ulungile yini ngesinqumo sakho sokuthethelela owakwakho okhohlisayo futhi uma usukulungele ukwakha kabusha ukwethembana. Akekho omunye, noma abangani bakho noma umelaphi wakho, ongakunqumela yona ngoba uzazi kangcono.

Ngakho-ke, qhubeka, yenza lolo cingo! Kodwa qiniseka ukuthi awubekezeleli ukuhlukumeza noma ukuziphatha okubi. Lesi yisikhathi sokuhamba ngemva kokungathembeki. Finyelela kubantu abangasiza. Futhi ungangabazi ukuqeda izinto uma usufinyelele ekugcineni. Sithemba ukuthi lesi sihloko sikusize unqume ukuthi kufanele yini uyeke noma umxolele umlingani wakho. Noma iyiphi indlela, nakhu ukuya phambili.

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