15 Ngā Tohu Kāore e Taea te Whakatikatika i tō Hononga

"Kāore au e aroha ana ki a koe i ēnei rā" "Kāore au e harikoa ana ki a koe i ēnei rā" – Ko te tohu tuatahi kua mutu tō whanaungatanga ko ēnei kupu pea. He uaua ngā whanaungatanga. Kāore he tangata e kōrero ki a koe he aha te āhua o te whanaungatanga pai, kāore he tangata e kōrero ki a koe he aha te wā pai hei whakamutu. Ka waiho koe kia noho noa iho, i runga i ō kare ā-roto. Engari ki te angitu koe ki te tinihanga i a koe anō ki te whakaaro kāore he tikanga nui o ngā tohu kāore e taea te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga, kei te tata koe ki te whara kare ā-roto tuturu.

Ā, he māmā noa iho te kite i te take e mau tonu ana koe. Tērā pea kua nui rawa te wā, te kaha, me ngā kare ā-roto kua pau i a koe ki tēnei tangata, ā, ki te whakaae kua mutu, he rite tonu ki te whakaae he hē tō whakatau mōna. Ahakoa rā, kei konei koe, e pānui ana i tēnei tuhinga. 

Ina kore e taea te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga, tera pea ka pā ki roto i ō wheua. Engari nā te mea kāore tōu āhua pakeke e whakaae kia whakaaetia e koe, i kawea mai e mātou he tohunga hinengaro. Anita Eliza, (MSc i roto i te Hinengaro Āwhina), he tohunga ki ngā take pēnei i te manukanuka, te pouri, ngā whanaungatanga, me te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō, hei āwhina i te tohu i ngā tohu kāore e taea te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga.

E kī mai ana tētahi tohunga he 15 ngā tohu kāore e taea te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga

Ka taea te pakaru rawa te whanaungatanga? Ae, ka taea. Aroha mai ki te whakapuaki atu ki a koe, engari i ētahi wā kāore ngā mea i te rite ki te mea i whakaritea. "I taku mohiotanga kāore e taea e taku hoa te whakahaere i tētahi kare ā-roto kotahi i whakatakotoria e au ki mua i a ia, ko te rā i whakarērea ai e au taku marena. I rite māua ki te noho tahi, he mate hinengaro, ā, kei te noho tinana me te mea nei e hiahiatia ana e te ture," te kī a Euleen, e kōrero ana mō tana marena tekau tau te roa kua pirau haere. 

Kāo, ehara i te "pōrearea" noa iho mēnā kua roa kōrua e tautohetohe ana mō ngā mea katoa. Kāo, e kore te "whakatā" e whakatika i ō kōrua raruraru katoa. Kāo, e kore e angitu te ngana ki te whakamutu i tētahi pakanga kino i waenganui mā te kī "Aroha ana ahau ki a koe" me te kihi tetahi ki tetahi pērā i roto i ngā kiriata. 

Ina nui rawa te kino kua pā mai, ā, kāore e taea te whakaora i tētahi whanaungatanga, ka whakakapia ngā kare ā-roto o te aroha me te manaaki e te kore aroha me te whakaaro nui, e ai ki tā Euleen i kite ai. Ahakoa i tōia e ia tōna tinana whanaungatanga ngenge hinengaro ahakoa i roa atu i te wā i tika ai, ka tae ki te mutunga kino. 

"Ina rapu tohu koe kua kore rawa tō whanaungatanga e taea te whakatika, ko te āhua o tā kōrua kōrero te tohu tino kitea. Mā ngā kupu, mā te reo, me te āhua o tā kōrua kōrero ka taea te kōrero ki a koe i ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana koe ki te mōhio mō te āhua o tō kōrua whanaungatanga," te kī a Anita.

Nō reira, kei te tohu tō kupu me tō reo i tētahi mea? Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai kua kore rawa tō whanaungatanga e taea te whakatika? He aha ngā tohu? Kia kore ai koe e huna i ō kanohi ki ngā tohu tino kitea, me titiro tātou ki ngā tohu 15 e tino kitea ana kua kore rawa tō whanaungatanga e taea te whakatika:

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1. Kāore e mutu te mahi tonu, te mahi tonu, te mahi tonu 

Ina wehe te tokorua, he maha ngā wā nā te mea he raruraru i ārahi i a rāua ki te whakapono kāore e taea te noho tahi. Engari ina pahemo ngā wiki e toru, ā, ka hoki mai te whakaaro "Kei te hiahia noa ahau ki te awhi anō i a ia", ka wareware koe ki ngā raruraru katoa i pā ki a koe. Heoi anō, pērā i te putea hikareti i whakaaro koe kāore e kitea e tō whaea, ka hoki mai ngā raruraru i huna e koe ki raro i te whāriki me te kaupapa hei whakararuraru i ngā mea. 

Ahakoa he kore e taea, he kore rānei e pai ki te mahi i ngā take, e mōhio ana pea koe ka puta tonu he raruraru i roto i ō raruraru. Ina whara koe i te tahae rawa, he mea nui kia tū atu koe mōu ake, kia whakapau kaha hoki ki te tiaki i a koe anō. Mā te aroha me te whakaute i a koe anō ka whai hua koe i te wā roa. 

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2. He whakahawea kei roto i te whanaungatanga 

"I roto i aku wheako me ngā kiritaki e haere ana i roto i ngā raruraru riri mō te marena"... "Ka taea e au te kī ko tētahi o ngā tohu nui kua kore rawa tō kōrua hononga e taea te whakatika ko te wā e whakahawea ana te tokorua. Ka kore e aro, ka kore hoki e whakaute ngā hoa ki ngā kare ā-roto me ngā whakaaro o ētahi atu. Ka whakaiti tonu rātou i te tangata hei whakamatau i a rātou anō," te kī a Anita.

Ko te mau tonu o te mauahara i te rangi, tera pea ka huri hei haunga paitini i te wā e haere ake nei. Ina whakarihariha koe ki tētahi e tika ana kia noho tahi māua mō te toenga o tō oranga, kua tae ki te wā ki te whakaaro anō ki ngā mea. 

3. He ariā tawhiti te whakapau kaha 

Ae, ko te aroha te mea e hiahiatia ana hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatū hononga kaha ki tō hoa. Engari ehara i te mea koinei anake te mea ka āwhina i te whanaungatanga kia ora tonu i roto i te whakamātautau o te wā. Pērā i te kore o tētahi tipu o te ao e ora i a koe e oati ana ki a ia mō te wai me te rā katoa o te ao, me atawhai hoki te whanaungatanga kia ora tonu ai.

Ko te kaha i whakapaua e koe ki a koe anō, te whakapau kaha i whakapaua e koe ki tō whanaungatanga, me te kaha o tō mahi tahi me tō hoa rangatira, ka āwhina katoa ki te pupuri me te atawhai i tō kōrua hononga. Ina mutu tāu mahi ki a koe anō me tō hononga ki tō hoa rangatira, ka nui haere te whakaaro o te mōhio nui, te ngākau māhaki, me te kore e aro ki tō kōrua whanaungatanga, ka pakaru ai tō kōrua hononga. 

4. Ngā tohu kāore e taea te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga – Kei te hikoi koe i runga i ngā anga hua manu

"Ina hiahiatia ana e tetahi hikoi i runga i ngā anga hua manu "Mēnā kei te taha tonu koe i tō hoa rangatira i ngā wā katoa, ka tino whakarihariha pea te haere tonu o te whanaungatanga. Tērā pea kāore tetahi, e rua rānei o ngā hoa rangatira e pai ki te noho ko rātou anō. Mēnā me noho tonu koe hei tangata kē atu kia mau tonu ai te rangimārie i roto i tō whanaungatanga, ka puta he pakanga i roto i a koe. Ka whawhai tonu koe ki a koe anō nā te mea he putanga tūturu koe nōu ake, kāore koe e hiahia kia noho," te kī a Anita.

Ki te whakaaro koe me huri haere i ngā kaupapa kia kore ai e whakaoho i te pakanga, tera pea ka hinga koe i te wā e tata mai ana. Nō reira, me pēhea koe e mōhio ai kua kore rawa tō whanaungatanga e taea te whakatika? Ki te mea me noho koe hei tangata kē atu hei pupuri i te whanaungatanga, he tohu pai tēnā kua nui rawa ngā kino kua mahia. 

5. He tawhiti rawa ngā pakanga i te ā-iwi 

I te wā e whawhai ana kōrua ko tō hoa, ka mōhio koe ki tōna āhua tūturu. Tērā pea ko ia te tangata tino pai o te ao, e tuhi rotarota ana, e tuku ana hoki i ngā tōnati ohorere ki tō whare, engari ina whakaatuhia mai e ngā whawhai tētahi taha kino o aua taha kāore e taea e koe te karo, ka waiho hei raruraru nui. 

Te taupatupatu raru, mō ngā momo whanaungatanga katoa, he mea nui. Ina koretake ō pakanga, ina kore whakaute, ā, ina mataku koe mō tō haumaru tinana, hinengaro rānei, he tohu pea tēnei kua kore e taea te whakatika i tō marena, kua kore rānei tō whanaungatanga e angitu. Tērā pea ka puta mai ngā whanonga tukino i te kore whakaute, e tohu ana ko te pūtake tonu o tō whanaungatanga he pakaru. 

6. He kore aro me te kore aro 

"Ko tētahi atu tohu e kore e warewaretia kua kore rawa tō whanaungatanga e taea te whakatika ko te wā e kitea ana te kore aro o te hoa," te kī a Anita, me te tāpiri atu, "Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe kāore tō hoa e aro ki a koe, kāore rānei rātou e aro ki ō kare ā-roto, ki ngā mea rānei e pā ana ki tō koiora. Ina kore rawa e taea te whakaora i tētahi whanaungatanga, ehara i te mea ko ngā wā pakanga anake tēnei. Ka noho te aro ki te kore aro hei huarahi noho. Ina kore aro ngā hoa tokorua, kei te kī ā-waha atu rātou ki tētahi kāore he mea nui ki a rātou."

Whakaarohia, ina te āhua nei kāore tō hoa e aro nui ana ki tāu mahi, ki te āhua o tō rā, ki te whara rānei koe i tētahi mea, me tumanako atu rānei koe ka tautoko rātou i a koe ina hiahiatia? Haunga tēnā, ina whara koe i te tangata, ka mutu pea koe i roto i te āhua kore aro. 

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7. He tino koretake te aroha 

"Kua kore rawa e taea te whakatika i taku whanaungatanga?" Ko tētahi o ngā tohu, mehemea he te kore o te aroha i roto i tō whanaungatangaHe maha ngā āhua. Tērā pea ko te whakahē anake te mea e pā ana ki a koe, kāore rānei koe i te whakaaro kua whakamanahia ō kare ā-roto. Ko te kore whakaute, te kore maioha, te kore kawenga, he tohu katoa ēnei e tohu ana ki te raruraru nui ake. 

I tana kōrero mō te kaupapa, i kī te tohunga hinengaro Jaseena Backer i kōrero i mua ki a Bonobology, "Ko te aroha ki ngā whanaungatanga ko te mārama ki ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata kē. Ki taku whakaaro, koinei te mea tino nui i roto i te whanaungatanga, nā te mea ka taea e ia te āwhina i a koe ki te kite i ngā mea mai i te tirohanga a tō hoa, me te mārama ki ō rātou kare ā-roto me ō rātou tirohanga."

8. Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai kua kore rawa tō whanaungatanga e taea te whakatika? Kāore he whakawhirinakitanga

"Ki te kore e taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki tō hoa rangatira, ka noho mataara tonu koe. Ka āwangawanga tonu koe mō ngā mahi a tō hoa rangatira, ā, ka haurangi koe i tō hinengaro manukanuka. Ka taea e tēnei manukanuka te whakapohehe i tō tirohanga ki te tangata kē. Ki te kore e whakatikahia i te wā tika, ka hanga he taiepa i waenganui i a kōrua, he uaua rawa ki te piki ake, ki te wawahi rānei," te kī a Anita.

Ae, ka taea te whakatika i te kore whakawhirinaki. Engari, e ai ki tā Anita, me whakatika wawe tonu. Ā, ki te mea ko koe te tangata i kino ai te whanaungatanga, me kimi he huarahi hei whakatika. me pēhea te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga i pakaru i a koe tērā pea te āhua kāore e taea. Heoi, ki te oti pai, tera pea he pai te whakamātau. 

9. Kāore e taea te whakakore i tētahi whanaungatanga paitini 

Ki te mea kei te tino whakapono koe kei te kino haere tō whanaungatanga ki tō hauora tinana, ki tō hauora hinengaro rānei, kāore he take e rapu atu ai koe i ētahi atu tohu kāore e taea te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga. Ka taea e tētahi whanaungatanga kino te whakararu i tō hauora hinengaro me tō oranga tinana mō te wā roa, ā, mā te mutu i tētahi i te kitenga tonu i ngā tohu ka taea e koe te whakaora i a koe i ngā tau maha o te mamae me te tukino.

10. Te kore whakawhitiwhiti kōrero

Ki te pātai koe ki a koe anō, "Kua kore rawa e taea te whakatika i taku whanaungatanga?", kia mōhio koe koinei tētahi o ngā tohu tino pono e pērā ana. Ae, ka taea te whakatika i te kore o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, engari i ētahi wā, mā te huarahi e kōrero ai kōrua ka mārama te tautuhi i ngā mea e mahi ana, me ngā mea kāore. E whakamārama ana a Anita, "Mā te kore o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ka wehea ngā hoa kua roa e noho tahi ana. Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe kāore koe i te "mōhio" ki tō hoa rangatira.

"Ehara i te mea ko te kōrero he kupu anake. Ko tōna tikanga he kōrero mō ō whakaaro, kare ā-roto, whakaaro, me ngā kare ā-roto ki tō hoa, me te whakamōhio atu ki a rātou he aha te mea e tupu ana. Ā, ehara i te mea ko ngā take anake e tika ana kia kōrerohia, Tuhinga o mua He rite tonu te hiranga. He maha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua tūtaki ahau ki te kore e kōrero ki tā rātou hoa e aroha ana rātou ki a rātou. Ka mutu, ka noho rite rātou ki ngā hoa noho, ā, ehara i te mea nui ki a rātou te wehe atu i te whanaungatanga.” 

11. Kāore e taea te wehe atu i ō whāinga ā muri ake nei

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu kua kore rawa e taea te whakatika i tō kōrua marena, ā, kāore pea i arohia e kōrua i mua, ko te rerekētanga o ō kōrua whāinga ā muri ake nei. Tērā pea kei te hiahia ia ki te noho i te ao Ibiza, ki te hoko whare penthouse, ā, ko tāu e hiahia ana he noho marino i te tāone iti. 

Tērā pea kei te hiahia ia ki te reti wawe, ā, kāore e taea e koe te noho ora me te kore e haereere i te ao katoa me te mahi. Ahakoa te āhua nei kāore he mea nui ina hui tahi kōrua, tera pea ka titiro whakamuri koe ka mea, "I te wā i mōhio ai māua kāore tō māua putanga o te ao kei te heke mai i rite, ko te rā tēnei i whakarērea ai e au taku marena."

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12. Kāore koe e rongo ana i te harikoa i ēnei rā 

"Kei te pouri ahau i a koe e noho tahi ana" – Ko te tohu tuatahi kua mutu tō whanaungatanga ko ēnei kupu pea. Mā te noho mangere me tō hoa, me te kore e mahi tahi me rātou, ka noho marino koe, ā, ka whakawhetai pea koe mō ngā mea kei a koe. Engari, ki te mea he mahi uaua, me whakaaro pea koe ki ētahi mea.

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu kua kore rawa e taea te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga ko te wā kua mimitihia te harikoa me te harikoa e tika ana kia pā ki ngā hoa. Tērā pea kei te mataku koe mō tētahi pakanga, kāore rānei koe i te harikoa ki te kite i tō hoa. Ahakoa pēhea, me whakaaro koe kia puta, nā te mea ka whakaatu noa iho kua whara rawa koe. 

13. He tohu kei te kore rawa e taea te whakatika tō kōrua hononga? Kei te whakaaro tetahi o kōrua ki te moe tāne 

te ngā meka hinengaro mō te tinihanga kōrero mai ki a mātou he maha ngā wā ka taea te rapu hononga ina kore ngā hoa rangatira e harikoa i roto i tā rāua whanaungatanga. Mena kua tae tō hoa ki tētahi wā e kaha haere ana te hiahia ki te kimi i tētahi atu i ia rā, me arotake pea. 

Kaua e tinihanga, engari me whakamutu te whanaungatanga ki tō hoa o nāianei i mua i te rapu i tētahi atu. Ki te kore, tera pea ka waiho koe hei rapu whakautu ki ngā pātai pēnei i te pehea ki te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga i pakaru i a koe. Haunga tēnā, kāore e tika ki tō hoa mēnā ka tinihanga koe i a ia.

14. Kāore he whanaungatanga piripono

Ko te whanaungatanga ā-hinengaro me te whanaungatanga ā-tinana te pūtake o te nuinga o ngā whanaungatanga. Mēnā ka rongo koe i te hononga ā-hinengaro ki tō hoa, ka pai koe ki te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro ki a rātou. I te korenga o tētahi wāhi haumaru, tera pea ka uaua ki a koe te hono atu. Ahakoa kāore pea e tohu i te mate e tata mai ana, ka tino puta he āhuatanga kāore e tino whai hua. Haunga tēnā, ina whara koe i te taha tinana, i te taha wairua rānei, he uaua ake te whakahoki anō i te whanaungatanga ā-tinana, ā-hinengaro rānei ki a rātou i te āhua e kitea ana.

15. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakamātau anō 

Ina taea e koe te kite i a koe anō te mawhiti atu i tō hoa engari ki te kore koe e ngana ki te whakaora, kei a koe te whakautu ki tō raruraru "kāore e taea te whakatika i taku whanaungatanga". Kāore he tohu nui ake kua kore e taea te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga, kua nui rawa rānei te kino i te wā e rite ana te whawhai mōna ki te mahi uaua, kaua ki te mea kāore e taea te whiriwhiri. Ki te ngaro tō hiahia ki te ngana, kia mōhio koe he raruraru kei reira.

He uaua pea ki te whakaae ki ngā tohu kua whakarārangihia e mātou, engari ko te tango i te whitiki whakaora te mea anake hei āwhina i a koe. Ko te taahiraa tuatahi ki te whakaoranga ko te whakaae, ā, ko te kaha ki te whakaae ki ēnei tohu me te whakamutu i tāu e mau nei ka whakawātea i a koe. 

Me pēhea te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga kāore e taea te whakatika?

Kei te maumahara pea koe ki ngā rā i tino pai ai tō kōrua whanaungatanga, i tino aroha ai, i tino manaaki ai tetahi ki tetahi. Heoi, kāore i rite i ēnei rā, ā, kei te whakaaro koe kei hea te hē. I pai koe ki te noho tahi me tō hoa rangatira, ki te kōrero ki a rātou, engari ināianei kāore koe e kōrero nui ana. Ahakoa ka kōrero koe, ka mutu he pakanga, he tautohetohe rānei. I roto i te poto, he nui rawa ngā kino kua pā mai.

Ka taea te pakaru o tētahi whanaungatanga, ā, kāore e taea te whakatika? Ae. Engari ka taea te whakatika? Āe hoki. Nā te mea kua mōhio koe ki ngā tohu kāore e taea te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga, kia mārama hoki koe he taea te whakatika. E mārama ana mātou he nui te kino o te kino o tō hononga ki a koe, engari ka taea te whakakore i te kino. Mena kei te pātai tonu koe ki a koe anō, "Ka taea te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga kua pakaru?" "Me pēhea taku whakatika i taku whanaungatanga ki taku hoa tāne, ki taku hoa wahine rānei?", tukua mātou kia āwhina i a koe. Anei ngā huarahi e rima hei whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga kāore e taea te whakatika:

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1. Kōrero tahi ki a rātou anō

Kāore e taea te whakanui rawa i tēnei. Kua hoha pea koe ki te whakarongo anō ki tēnei, engari koinei te pono. Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero te mea nui ki te whakatau i ngā tautohe i roto i te whanaungatanga. He mea nui tēnei mēnā e hiahia ana koe kia pai ake tō hononga ki tō hoa. Whakapuakina ō whakaaro, ā, tukua tō hoa kia whakapuaki i ō rātou kare ā-roto ki a koe. Me kōrero pono kōrua mō ngā take i roto i tō whanaungatanga me ngā mea i hē. Koinei te taahiraa tuatahi ki te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga e kore e taea te whakatika.

2. Rapua he rongoā

Mena kāore e taea e koe te whakahaere i te āhuatanga, he nui rawa rānei ngā kino kua pā mai, rapua he āwhina ngaio. Whakapumautia nga tokorua Ko tētahi o ngā whakautu tino whai hua ki te pātai "Ka taea te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga kua pakaru?" me te "He huarahi hei whakatika i taku whanaungatanga ki taku hoa tāne, ki taku hoa wahine rānei i muri i te whara kino rawa atu?" 

Ka taea e te kaiwhakaora hinengaro, e te kaitohutohu marena rānei te titiro ki te raruraru mā te tirohanga kore whakaaro, me te tuku tirohanga hou, hei āwhina pea i a koe ki te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga ki tō hoa aroha. Mā ā rātou tikanga me ā rātou mahi whakaora koe e āwhina ki te whakatere i te raruraru me te whakapai ake i tō whanaungatanga me tō hoa. Mena kei te rapu āwhina koe, tirohia ngā kaiwhakaora hinengaro whai raihana me te wheako i runga i Te rōpū a Bonobology kei konei mo koe.

3. Kimihia mēnā he pai te whakaora i te whanaungatanga

I mua i tō ngana ki te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga, hoki whakamuri, ka pātai ki a koe anō mēnā he pai te whakaora. Mēnā kua pāngia koe e tētahi momo tukino, kia mōhio koe he nui rawa ngā kino kua pā. Kua tukinotia pea koe, kua whara hoki, ā, kāore e taea te whakatika, ā, kāore he whanaungatanga tukino e tika ana kia whakaorangia. Heoi, ki te mea he iti ake te kino o ngā raruraru o tō whanaungatanga, ā, ki te whakaaro koe ka taea tonu e koe te whakaora i te iti o te toenga, me haere tonu. Whakamātauria tō kaha. Heoi, ki te kite koe ko koe anake te tangata e whakapau kaha ana, kua tae pea te wā ki te whakaaro anō ki tō whakatau kia noho tonu ki te whanaungatanga.

4. Whakaaetia ō hapa, ā, whakapāha mai

Koinei tētahi o ngā mea tino nui hei mahi mēnā kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga i pakaru i a koe. Ahakoa ehara pea koe i te tangata anake e whai kawenga ana mō tō whanaungatanga, mō te pakaru o te marena, he kaitautoko koe. Arotakehia ō hapa, whakaae atu, ā, whakapāha atu ki tō hoa mō taua mea anō. I te nuinga o te wā, ka pakaru te whanaungatanga nā te mea kāore ngā hoa e whakaae ki te kawenga mō ā rātou mahi, ka puta te mauahara i waenganui i a rātou. Engari, ki te hiahia koe ki te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga kua pakaru, ko te whakaae me te whakapāha mō ō hapa te taahiraa tuatahi ki te mahi i tēnā.

5. Hanga anō i te whanaungatanga piripono

Te hanga i ngā kare ā-roto me te whakawhanaunga tinana He mea nui te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga kua pakaru. Me kōrero whai tikanga tetahi ki tetahi. Me whai hononga tinana whai hua hei āwhina i a koe kia rongo i te aroha me te hononga. Ko te pupuri ringa, te awhi, te awhi rānei ki tō hoa e whakaatu ana kei te aroha tonu koe ki a ia, kei te manaaki hoki i a ia. Kia mau tonu te titiro kanohi, whakarongo ki ngā mea e hiahia ana tō hoa ki te kōrero, pā atu ki a ia i roto i ngā huarahi kore-ira, ā, i te wa ano, ngana ki te whakaoho i te wairua i roto i te rūma moe.

Ina kite koe i ngā tohu kāore e taea te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga, e rua ngā mea ka taea te mahi. Ka mutu tō mahi ki tō hoa me te whanaungatanga, ka neke atu, ka whakapau kaha rānei ki te whakatika i ngā mea. Ki te whiriwhiri koe ki te mahi i te mea whakamutunga, kia mōhio koe me nui te manawanui me te whakapau kaha nui nā te mea te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga pakaru Ehara i te mea ngāwari. Engari, mā te āwhina tika me ngā kōrero kua whakarārangihia i runga ake nei, ko te tumanako ka angitu koe.

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