18 Tohutohu Hei Whakawai i tō Hoa Tāne, Hei Whakaporangi i a Ia

Ahakoa kua tīmata kē kōrua te whakaipoipo, ā, e hiahia ana ki te whakamahana i te whanaungatanga, kua roa rānei kōrua e noho tahi ana, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te tāpiri i te kaha ki tō kōrua whanaungatanga, ko te whakawai i tō hoa tāne te ua tuatahi i roto i aua marama raumati uaua. Kei reira te harikoa, te tumanako, me te nui o te makona e whai ake nei. Ā, ka kōrero atu mātou ki a koe me pēhea te whakawai i te tāne.

"Ehara te whakawai i te mea e hanga ana i tētahi ki tā rātou e kore e hiahia ana ki te mahi. Engari he kukume i tētahi ki tā rātou e hiahia puku ana ki te mahi." Ko te tangata nāna i kī ngā rārangi i runga ake nei kua whakamārama i te whakamāramatanga tino tika o te whakawai. Ahakoa e kī ana ētahi he mahi toi te whakawai (e tino whakaae ana mātou ki tēnā), pērā i te uku, i te hoahoanga rānei, e kiia ana e ētahi he makutu.

Ko Robert Greene, te kaituhi o Toi Whakapohehe, e kī ana ko te whakawai he "kēmu hinengaro, ehara i te ataahua" ā, "kei roto i te ringa o te tangata te noho hei tohunga ki te kēmu". He pono tēnā. Ko te whakawai he kēmu o te whakahihiri, te hiahia, te kitenga, me te makona. I roto i te ao o te aroha, he pūkenga nui hei whakaoho i tō whanaungatanga.

I ētahi wā, ina maroke ngā āhuatanga i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga roa, hoha hoki, he whakawaiwai e whakahou ana i tō oranga. I tētahi wā o ō tātou oranga, ka takaro tātou katoa i te whakawaiwai. Nō reira, me ako koe i ngā ture ināianei. I tētahi atu taha, he tino ngahau te whakawaiwai i tō hoa. Ā, anei ngā huarahi 18 ka taea e kōrua ko tō hoa tāne te whai i taua haerenga whakaharikoa, ā, ka taea hoki e kōrua te ako i te toi o te whakawaiwai.

He aha te tikanga o te whakawai i tō hoa tāne?

Ko te whakawai i tō hoa tāne he rite tonu ki te whakaatu i tō hiahia i roto i ngā huarahi e hiahia ana ia, e harikoa ana, e hono hohonu ana ki a koe. Ko te whakawai, i tōna uho, he pōwhiri ki te whanaungatanga piripono e pārekareka ana ki ngā hoa e rua. He mea hanga tēnei i runga i te whakakotahitanga o te hononga kare ā-roto, te kukume tinana, me te tumanako takaro hei kukume i a ia kia tata atu, hei whakaoho i te hiahia. 

Ahakoa he tokomaha ngā tāne kāore pea e whakaae whānuitia, e pai ana ki a rātou kia whiua e koe te mataono tuatahi. Nō reira, kaua e tukua kia aukatihia koe e ngā aukati. Mena he tino whakamataku te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro tino kino, me pēhea mēnā ka taea e koe te whakawai i tō hoa me te kore e kōrero? Ae, he tika tāu i pānui ai. He maha ngā huarahi hei whakawai i te tāne tinana me te kore e whai i te ara o te kōrero kino.

He kēmu hinengaro te toi o te whakawai. Ehara i te pakanga o te ataahua, o te tinana whakamīharo rānei. Ka taea e te tangata te ako me pēhea te whakawai i tā rātou hoa tāne. Ko te mea nui ko te mārama ki ngā mea e whakaoho ana i tō hoa, te māia ki tāu e taea te tuku atu, me te mōhio ki te wā e whakatoi ai, me te wā e tuku ai. A ako i whakaputaina i roto i te retaata Ko nga whakapapa i kitea ko ngā whanaungatanga roa e hiahia ana ki te aro tonu ki ngā kare ā-roto me ngā hiahia ā-ira tangata, ā, ko te whakawai, e mahia ana hei mahi toi o ia rā, ka āwhina i te pupuri i te kukume, te whakatairanga i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, me te whakapakari i te whanaungatanga piripono i roto i te wā.

"Ko te whakawai i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga pumau e aro ana ki te mea kia kitea tō hoa, kia hiahiatia, kia haumaru hoki ō kare ā-roto. Kāore koe e hiahia ki ngā mahi tinihanga, ki ngā tikanga rānei. Ina whiwhi ngā hoa e rua i te momo aro tika, ka whai mai te whanaungatanga ā-tinana."

—Rashmi Shah, tohunga hinengaro me te kaitohutohu whanaungatanga

He aha te Hiranga o te Whakangau i roto i te Hononga

Ki te mea i whakaaro koe ko te whakawai anake te mea hei whakanui i te moe, he hē koe. Mā te toi o te whakawai ka whakapakari i tō hononga ki tō hoa tāne, ka eke ki te taumata e whai ake nei, ka noho ko kōrua ngā wawata o tētahi ki tētahi, ā, ka tutuki ai. Ina meinga e koe te hiahia o tētahi tāne ki a koe, ka whakaarahia anō e koe te mura o tō whanaungatanga, ka whakapakari hoki i tō kōrua whanaungatanga piripono. Anei te mahi:

Ka whakaoho anō i te whanaungatanga o ngā kare ā-roto

Ehara i te mea ā-tinana te whakawai. He tohu tēnei ki tō hoa kei te tino hiahia tonu koe ki a rātou. Mā taua whakamarie kare ā-roto ka hanga te whakawhirinaki, te piripono, me te whakaaro kei te whai mana koe. I roto i ngā whanaungatanga roa e taea ai e ngā mahi o ia rā te whakaiti i te hihiri, ahakoa ngā mahi whakawai iti nei ka whakamahara i ngā hoa tokorua he aha i whiriwhiri ai rāua tetahi i tetahi.

Ka whakapakari i tō hononga i tua atu i te whare moenga

Ina whakapau kaha koe ki te whakawai i tō hoa tāne, kei te haumi koe ki te whanaungatanga. Ko te tumanako, te takaro, me te ngoikore o aua wā ka hanga i ngā maharatanga me ngā katakata o roto e hono ana i a koe. Ka huri te whakawai hei reo aroha o ōna ake.

Ko te hinengaro kei muri i te hiahia me te kukume

rangahau E whakaatu ana ngā rangahau mō ngā whakaohooho tirohanga me te whakaohooho a ngā tāne he nui ake te kaha o te whakahohenga o te pokapū whakahaere kare ā-roto o te roro, te amygdala, i roto i ngā tāne e mātakitaki ana i ngā whakaohooho tirohanga moepuku i ngā wāhine e mātakitaki ana i ngā whakaahua ōrite. Ko te tikanga o tēnei, ko ō kākahu, tō nekehanga, me tō whakaaturanga i a koe anō ka waiho he pānga nui ki te hiahia o tō hoa tāne. 

Engari i tua atu i ngā tohu tirohanga, ko ngā tohu kare ā-roto pēnei i te tumanako, te ohorere, me te hiahia ka whakaoho i te tukunga o te dopamine me te oxytocin, arā, ngā matū roro e kawenga ana mō te ahuareka me te hononga.

Hei whakawai i tō hoa tāne, ko te hiahia anake tāu e hiahia ana, ko te hiahia, ko te āhua whakahihi i roto i a koe, ā, kua rite koe ki te whakakā i tō oranga moepuku. Kāore e roa, ka tono atu ia kia nui ake āu. Ahakoa kāore pea ia e whakaae, tera pea i whakaaro tō hoa tāne kei te hikoi koe i tētahi rā.

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18 Ngā Huarahi Hei Whakapati i tō Hoa Tāne, Hei Waiho i a Ia kia Hiahia Anō

Anei ngā tohutohu 18 hei kukume i te tinana me te hinengaro o tō tāne. Kei te hiahia koe ki te mōhio? Me tīmata tēnei akomanga matua mō te whakawai i te tāne.

1. Whakatoi i a ia

He huarahi māmā noa iho tēnei, he huarahi tawhito hoki hei whakawai i te tāne, me te kore e kōrero, ā, he huarahi whai hua tonu. Mauria he kākahu moe reihi mārama, kākahu tahanga i raro. Whakatoi i a ia, engari kaua e tukua kia pā atu ia ki a koe. Ka taea hoki e koe te kai tiakarete rewa, me te titiro paru ki a ia i ētahi wā me te mitimiti i ō maihao.

Aki pro: Ka whai hua te tikanga whakatoi-me-te-tō-muri nā te mea ka whakaoho i te tumanako. He nui ake te dopamine e tukuna ana e tōna roro i te wā e hiahia ana i tērā i te wā e whiwhi ana.

2. Whakamātauria te ture kore-ringa

Ka taea e koe te titiro, engari ko te pā pea te huarahi māmā ki te kukume i te hiahia o te tāne ki a koe, kia nui ake ai tōna hiahia ki a koe. Ki te angitu tāu mahi tinihanga, ka tono ia kia nui ake. Engari ki te whakamahia e ia ōna ringa, me kī atu he rāhui. Ka nui ake tōna harikoa. Ka kite koe i ngā momo huarahi auaha ka taea e ngā tāne te whakaaro.

3. He paru te kupu

Nā te hangarau kei ō tātou ringaringa, he maha ngā huarahi hei whakawai i tāu tāne ahakoa kāore ia i a koe. I a ia e mahi ana, e ngaro ana rānei, whakawai i tāu tāne mā roto i ngā karere kuputuhi. Ka puta he wairua tumanako mōna. Me kī atu pēnei i te "E hiahia ana ahau ki te mahi i ngā mea tino porangi ki a koe i tēnei rā, kāore e taea e au te kī atu". Ki tā mātou whakaaro kei te rapu ia i ngā take hei tere ki te hoki ki te kāinga ki a koe me te whakaatu i te wā pai ki a koe.

4. Tukuna mai ngā pikitia whakamīharo

Hei whakawai i te tāne, me whakaatu koe i a koe anō. He aha atu te huarahi pai atu i tētahi pikitia ataahua engari he mea whakamīharo. Kāore, ehara i te mea kei te kōrero tahanga mātou, engari he mea rite ki tētahi tihi mārama, kāore he pūeru. He remu poto rānei me te āhua o tō papa anake. Koinei te momo pikitia ka whakaara ake i ana homoni moe. Taria ia kia hoki wawe mai.

Aki pro: Me whakarite kia pai kōrua ko tō hoa ki te whakawhitiwhiti whakaahua piripono. Ko te whakaae me te whakawhirinaki te tūāpapa o te whakawai hauora.

5. Kawea ia ki te hokohoko

Kāo, ehara i te haerenga noa ki te toa hokohoko. E mōhio ana koe, pērā i a mātou, koinei tētahi o ngā huarahi hei whakawai i tāu tāne. Mēnā he aha, ka mate tōna hiahia. Kei te kōrero tātou mō te hoko kakahu o roto. "Kei te haere tāua ki te hoko kakahu o roto, ā, māu e whiriwhiri," he tino wikitoria mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te whakawai i tētahi tāne mā te kupu kotahi. Me noho ia ki te taha o te rūma whakawa, ka tono atu kia titiro mai. Kei te hiahia ia ki te tango i aua mea mai i a koe, i reira tonu? Āe! He huarahi pai tēnei hei whakawai i tāu tāne.

6. Whakaohokia ia ki tētahi āhua whakawai

Ina kei roto koe i tētahi hononga roa, kāore koe e aro ki tō āhua. Ko te pōtae paru me te pajama te tikanga kakahu mōu. Engari i te wā e pā ana ia ki te pere tatau, mihi atu ki a ia me te makawe tuwhera, te hanga-ake iti, me te mahi i tō āhua noa. Ka tino whakaohooho ia i a ia. Koinei te huarahi e whakawai ai koe i tētahi tāne me te kore e kōrero. Kua oti tāu mahi hei wahine whakawai i konei. Kua tae ki te wā ki te kawe i ngā mea ki te taumata e whai ake nei.

Aki pro: Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakarerekētanga katoa. I ētahi wā, mā te whakapoto noa i tō makawe, te kakahu i tētahi kākahu ātaahua, te kakahu rānei i taua kākahu i mihia e ia i mua, ka nui hei whakaoho i a ia.

7. Kātahi ka wetekina ō kākahu

I te tīmatanga o tōna hiahia ki te hopu i a ia, me mea ia kia noho ki runga i te tūru, me riringi pea he inu māna, ka tango i ō tarau poto me tō pōtae i mua i a ia. Ki te kore koe e mōhio, he pai ake. Ka aru ia i a koe pērā i te kurī iti. He huarahi whakamiharo tēnei hei whakawai i te tāne. Ētahi atu mea ngaro o te moenga, māu anake!

8. Whakatakotoria he takaro i mua, kātahi ka haere atu

Me pēhea te whakawai i tētahi tāne, me te whakapōrangi i a ia? Mā te waiho i a ia kia hiahia nui atu. Hoatu ki a ia ngā mea katoa e hiahiatia ana e ia, kātahi ka haere atu i mua i te mahi whakamutunga ki te kaukau, me te kī atu rānei me haere koe ki tētahi pāti mō te pō katoa. Mātakitaki i a ia e hiahia ana ki a koe i runga i te moenga. Kaua e whakatoi, engari hoki mai ki te whakaoti i tāu i tīmata ai.

9. Kaukau tahi me ia

Ina kore ia e tumanako, me haere puku atu ki te wharepaku. He wāhi tino pai te kaukau hei whakawai i te tāne, ina koa i te wā kāore ia e tumanako. Ka mura te hiahia o kōrua tokorua. Whakangahau tahi me ia, me te takaro pea i mua i te moe, me te kī atu ki a ia kia mau tonu taua whakaaro mō te toenga o te rā. Ka oati mātou ka tatari mai te moe pai rawa atu o tō ao ina tūtaki kōrua i te mutunga o te rā.

10. Waiho tō kakara

Whakamahia tō hinu kakara tino pai, tō hinu kakara rānei. Hīkoi, waiho tō kakara whakahihiri ki a ia. Āe… ka porangi ia. He pūtaiao kei roto i te kakara me te wairua, whakamahia hei painga mōu. Ko te kakara tika te huarahi hei whai mēnā kei te rapu huarahi koe ki te whakawai i te tāne me te kore e kōrero.

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11. Waihangahia te wairua

Ngā tohu aroha iti kei roto i ngā huarahi tino kore e rahua hei whakawai i tāu tāne. Whakamahia te huarahi tawhito, ka whakapau kaha. Ka whakatangihia e koe he waiata aroha, ka tahuna he kānara kakara, ka mau i tētahi kākahu angiangi, ka tatari ki a ia me ngā rōhi. He nui te mahi, engari whakapono mai ki a mātou, he pai te utu. He pai te whakawai i tētahi tāne.

12. Hei kai mirimiri māna

Me pēhea te whakawai i tētahi tāne? Mā te mea i a ia kia pārekareka ki te pā o tōu pā, me te kore e mārama he aha te hua. I a koe e mirimiri ana, kia tūpato ki te pā ki ōna wāhi e hiahia ana koe. He kihi ki tōna korokoro, he ngau ki ōna taringa, ā, he porowhita ki ōna mowhiti pito. Ka tauhohe tōna tinana ki tō pā i roto i ngā huarahi e kore e taea te whakaaro. Ka taea e koe te whakamātau i te kanikani paru.

13. Whakamaherehia he mutunga wiki aroha

Ehara i te mea ko te tinana anake te take o te whakawai. He mea anō hoki kia wātea te hinengaro. Kia wātea ai. Whakaritea he ohorere. haerenga ki tētahi wāhi aroha ā, whakakīia tō haerenga ki ngā mahi whakahihiri mō te tokorua pēnei i te mirimiri, te tina rama me te parakuihi i te moenga. Ka whakawhetai ia, ka piri aroha hoki ki a koe. He momo ataahua rerekē tēnei ka mau i a ia. Hei whakawai i tētahi tāne mā te kupu kotahi, me kī atu ki a ia, "Kei te hararei tāua i tēnei wiki mutunga."

14. Takarohia te poker strip

Hei whakawai i tō hoa, me te kore e kōrero, takaro pōka me te whakakorikori. Ā, kia nui ake āu hinganga i mua i te tīmatanga o te toa. Ka taea e koe te tāpiri i ō momo rerekētanga. Kia auaha!

15. Te whakaari

Pātai atu ki a ia mō āna moemoeā, ā, whakapuaki mai hoki i ō moemoeā. Pātai atu ki a ia ko wai te whetu kiriata e tino paingia ana e ia. Ā, miharotia ia mā te whakaari i tana kotiro moemoeā i te ao tūturu. Me whai pūkenga whakaari katoa koe i konei. Ka taea e koe te whakamātau BDSMKo te hiahia ki te pana i ngā rohe o ō wheako moepuku, me te tuwhera ki te whakamātautau i runga i te moenga te mea ngaro ki te hiahia o te tāne ki a koe.

16. Pā atu ki a ia i te aroaro o te marea

Kāore e taea e tātou katoa te mahi i te whakaaturanga ararewa o Christian Grey i roto i Rima tekau atarangi o KereiEngari ki te mea kei te taha kōrua, ngana ki te hopu i tōna waewae ki ō waewae tahanga. Pā atu ki a ia i raro i te tēpu, kātahi ka pā mārire atu ki a koe anō. He mea ātaahua tēnā, he tohu, he mea manaaki hoki. Ka mārama ia ki te tohu. Koinei te huarahi hei whakawai i tō hoa me te kore e kōrero.

17. Whakamātauria tētahi tūranga hou i runga i te moenga

He pai ki ngā tāne te whakahaere a ngā wāhine i te moenga. Nō reira, miharo ia ki ētahi mea ngā nekehanga hou me te maia i runga i te moenga. Tērā pea ka hoki mai anō ia ki a koe mō ētahi atu mea. Pātai atu ki ō hoa mō ngā tūtohutanga, pānuihia ngā kōrero mō ngā tūranga moepuku, tirohia rānei āna kiriata pakiwaitara rongonui i runga ipurangi, ka tahae i ētahi nekehanga mai i reira. Whakamātauria tēnei, ā, e hine, ka miharo ia ki a koe.

18. Akohia ētahi nekehanga whakaipoipo

Ki te tika te whakahaere, ka kukume ia i ngā nekehanga kanikani tika i roto i ngā meneti. Ka taea e koe te ako i ētahi nekehanga, kātahi ka whiriwhiri i ngā kākahu whakahirahira. I a koe e kanikani ana, ka taea e koe te tango i ō kākahu, te purei rānei i tō tinana, me te whakaatu tonu engari he nui ake te huna. E mōhio ana koe ki ngā rohe erogenous i roto i ngā tāneKi te kore, me ngana koe ki te rapu i te huarahi tika.

Me pēhea te whakawai i tō hoa tāne mā te tuhinga

Kāore koe e hiahia kia noho tahi i te rūma kotahi hei whakawai i tō hoa tāne. Inaa, ko ētahi o ngā whakawai tino whai hua ka puta mā te mata, inā koa kei roto koe i tētahi hononga tawhiti, kei te hiahia noa rānei koe ki te whakatupu i te tumanako i mua i te kitenga tetahi i tetahi.

Ngā tohutohu sexting hei hanga i te hiahia

Te whakawhitinga He tino whai hua te kōrero ina he puhoi te mura o te kōrero. Kaua e whakaatu nui rawa i te wā kotahi. Tīmata ki tētahi mea e whakaaro ana ki te āhua o te pō nei, pērā i te "Kāore e taea e au te mutu te whakaaro mō te pō whakamutunga", ā, waiho kia whanake noa te kōrero. Kia tūpato, kaua e tuhia. Ko te mea nui ko te mea kia pai ia ki a ia, me te whakatoi anō hoki i ngā mea kei te heke mai.

Ngā karere pai o te ata whakakatakata

Mā te kī noa "Mōrena koe, e te wahine ataahua. I moemoeā ahau mōu inapo" ka taea te whakatakoto i te wairua mō tōna rā katoa. Kāore i te tino manakohia ngā karere mihi ata whakakatakata. Ka kī atu ki tō hoa tāne ko ia te mea tuatahi kei roto i tō hinengaro, he mea tino ātaahua tēnā.

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He tino whai hua ngā whakaahua whakaaro nui

He kaha ngā whakaahua ātaahua. Engari he mea nui te wā. Mā te tuku whakaahua whakaahua e whakaatu ana i tōna āhua i mua tonu i tana wehenga atu i te mahi ka puta te hiahia mō te pō. Kia ātaahua, kia waiho he wāhi mō te whakaaro auaha. He pakihiwi tahanga, he tirohanga ki roto i tō hāte, he whakaahua whakaahua noa iho rānei i roto i ōna kākahu tino pai.

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Me pēhea te whakawai i tō hoa tāne me te kore e kōrero

Mena he hou tonu koe ki tēnei, ā, he āhua māia ki te whakapuaki i ō hiahia, kia mōhio koe ka taea e koe te whakawai i tō hoa tāne me te kore e kōrero. Inaa, ko ētahi o ngā whakawai tino kaha ka puta me te kore e kōrerohia he kupu. Ka whakamahia e te whakawai kore-waha tō reo tinana, ō kanohi, tō kakara, me tō aroaro tinana hei whakapuaki i te hiahia.

• Whakapiri kanohi: Koinei tō patu tino kaha. Titiro atu ki ōna kanohi, ka pupuri i a ia mō tētahi wā roa atu i te tikanga. Kia rongo koe i tō whakapono ki a koe anō, ā, ka kitea tō aura mā taua titiro. Ki te titiro mai ia ki a koe, ā, ka tūtaki ō kōrua kanohi, kua whakapuakina kētia e kōrua tō hiahia. Kaua e whakama. Ataata. He tino ātaahua.
• Reo Tinana: Tukua tō tinana kia mahi i te toenga. Ko te āhua o tō kawe i a koe ina noho tahi kōrua ko ia hei whakaatu i ngā mea katoa. Piko atu ki raro ina kōrero ia. Ngauhia tō ngutu o raro. Tākarohia ō makawe. Whakaatahia āna nekehanga mā te ata. Ka hangaia e ēnei tohu iti he kukume huna e kukume ana i a ia ki a koe.
• Paepae: Pa kikokiko Koia te piriti i waenganui i te takaro me te takaro i mua. Mā te pā mārie ki tōna tuara i te wā e mihi ana ki a ia, mā te neke mārire i ō ringaringa mahana ki raro i tōna ringa, mā te mahi āwangawanga rānei ki te whakatika i tōna kara ka taea te tuku hiko ki roto i a ia. Tīmata ki ngā pā ngāwari, mārire. Akene he pa atu ki tōna ringa i te wā e kōrero ana, waiho tō ringa kia roa ake i te mea e tika ana. Whakamahia he iti noa te pā kia rite ai te āhua o ia wā, kia whai pānga hoki.
• ahua: Tukua te āhua o tō kawe i a koe kia kōrero i mua i tō mahi. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakakakahu i ngā kākahu whakahirahira. Engari kia āta whakaaro ki te āhua o tō whakaaturanga i a koe. He kākahu pai kua whiriwhiria e whakapaipai ana i tō tinana, he kakara motuhake, me te māia e puta mai ana i te mōhio he ātaahua koe, he nui hei whakawai i te tāne me te kore e kōrero.

Te pānui e pā ana: Me pēhea te whakawai i te tāne, me te mea kia haurangi ia ki a koe

Ngā Hapa Whakangau Noa hei Ārai

He rite te hiranga o te mōhio ki ngā mea KAUA e mahia, ki te mōhio ki ngā mea e whai hua ana. Anei ngā hapa tino noa e whakamate ana i te wairua, kaua e whakatupu ake:

1. Te tere rawa o te wātea

Ki te hoatu e koe ngā mea katoa ki a ia i te wā kotahi, kāore he mea e toe ana hei hiahia. Ko te ture koura o te whakawai ko te waiho tonu i a ia kia hiahia nui atu. Hangaia he tumanako, whakatoi, hoki whakamuri, ā, tukua ia kia haere mai ki a koe.

2. Te mahi nui rawa, te akiaki rānei i te wairua

Me āhua māori te whakawai, kaua e rite ki te mahi whakaari. Ki te kaha rawa tō whakapau kaha, te pānui i tētahi tuhinga, te whakatakoto i tētahi mea e ahua māharahara ana, te akiaki rānei i a ia i te wā e kitea ana kāore ia i te hiahia, ka hoki mai te hua. Pānuihia te rūma. Ko te whakawai pai rawa atu he māmā noa iho.

3. Te wareware i te hononga kare ā-roto

He koretake te whakawai tinana me te kore he whanaungatanga kare ā-roto. Mena he taumahatanga, he riri, he tawhiti kare ā-roto rānei kāore anō kia whakatauhia i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga, kāore e taea e te whakawai anake te whakatika. Me aro atu ki te pūtake kare ā-roto i te tuatahi. He nui ake te aro o te tāne e piri ana ki a koe ki te whakawai tinana.

4. Kāore e pānui ana i ana tohu, i tana taumata whakamarie rānei

He ara rua te whakawai. Kia aro ki tana reo tinana me ana kupu. Ki te mea he ahua kore whakamarie, he ngenge, he mea rānei e pōrearea ana, ehara i te mea ko te akiaki kaha te otinga. Ko te whakaae me te whakamarie te tūāpapa o tētahi taunekeneke piripono hauora. Ko te hoa e rongo ana i te whakaute me te haumaru ka nui ake te tuwhera ki te whakawai.

5. Te whakataurite i a koe ki etahi atu

He mea whaiaro rawa te whakawai. Ko te mea e whai hua ana mō tētahi atu, kāore pea e whai hua mōu, mō tō hoa tāne rānei. Kaua e ngana ki te tārua i tētahi mea i kitea e koe i roto i tētahi kiriata, i pānuihia rānei i runga ipurangi mēnā kāore e rite ki tō āhua tūturu. Ko tō kaha ahurei, tō tuakiri, me tō hononga ki tō hoa tāne te mea e kaha ai tō whakawai.

Te pānui e pā ana: Me pehea te hanga whakawhirinaki i roto i te hononga   

Tohutoro Tere: Kōwhiria te Huarahi Whakangau Tika

Ehara te whakawai i te mahi kotahi noa iho, engari he mahi tonu. Ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e takaro tonu ana, e miharo ana tetahi ki tetahi, e whakatairanga ana i te whanaungatanga ā-tinana me te ā-hinengaro, ka nui ake te pai o te whanaungatanga. Anei tētahi whakarāpopototanga poto mō te whakamahi i ngā huarahi rerekē hei whakawai i tō hoa tāne, i runga i tō āhuatanga:

Huarahi Whakangau	Best For	Taumata Mahi
Te tuku karere me te tuku karere whakakatakata	Te tawhiti, te tumanako ki te awatea	Easy
Āhua ohorere / panoni kākahu	Te mura o ia rā, te mahi pakaru o ia rā	Easy
Te ohorere o te kākahu o roto, te tango kakahu rānei	Ngā pō whakaipoipo, ngā huihuinga motuhake	wawaenga
mirimiri taikaha	I muri i te rā roa, te piripono puhoi	wawaenga
Te tākaro tūranga, te tūhuratanga wawata rānei	Ngā whanaungatanga kua whakapumautia, ngā mea hou	Arā
He hararei romantika mō te mutunga wiki	Te honohono anō i ngā kare ā-roto + te whakawai	Arā

Te pānui e pā ana: Ngā Huarahi Hei Whakaatu i te Aroha: Ngā Tohutohu Whai Hua, Ngā Tauira, Me Ngā Tohutohu a Ngā Tohunga

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E ngā wāhine, anei rā—ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana koe kia mōhio mō te kukume i tō ara ki te tinana me te hinengaro o tāu tāne. Ehara i te mea ko te mahi toi o te whakawaiwai te whakaoho i a ia i ngā wā katoa. He tikanga tino whai hua, he tikanga takaro hoki hei whakapakari i tō whanaungatanga ki tāu hoa tāne. Kaua rawa e wareware ki te ture koura: ehara i te mea ko te tuku i a ia katoa i te wā kotahi. Engari ko te waiho i a ia kia hiahia nui atu. Tīmatahia tāu whakamahere me tāu mahi tinihanga. Kei te tatari ia!

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