15 Ngā Āhuatanga Whakatūpato o te Kaitātari Tinihanga Raupapa—Oma atu mēnā ka Kitea e Koe ēnei

Ko ētahi o ngā kaipahua raupapa he tangata whakahihi, he tangata whai mana rānei e ārahi ana i a rātou. Ko ētahi e tinihanga ana nā te mea kua hoha rātou, kua iti rānei te whakaaro ki a rātou anō. Ko ētahi e pai ana ki te whakahihiri o ngā mahi huna - te huna me te mawhiti. Ko ētahi e tinihanga ana nā te mea e wehi ana rātou i te whanaungatanga piripono. Kātahi ka whai ētahi e tinihanga ana nā te mea kāore anō kia tutuki ā rātou hiahia kare ā-roto, ā-tinana rānei i roto i tā rātou whanaungatanga. 

Ahakoa te take o te tinihanga o te hoa, he mea kino te noho tahi me tētahi tangata he tikanga tinihanga tōna, ā, ka pā kino ki tō hauora hinengaro me tō whakaaro ki a koe anō. Hei āwhina i a koe ki te tiaki i a koe anō, kei konei mātou hei whakamārama i ngā āhuatanga matua o tētahi tangata tinihanga auau me pēhea te whakatau i tētahi, me ngā tirohanga mai i te tohunga hinengaro haumanu taihara. Shincy Nair Amin (M.Phil., Hinengaro Tūpāpaku), he tohunga ki te mahi tahi me ngā tāngata i pāngia e te whakaekenga ā-ira tangata me ngā kaihara ā-ira tangata, te tuku tohutohu mō te pouri me te manukanuka, ā, he kaiako ora whaimana hoki.

Ko wai te tangata tinihanga raupapa?

He nui ngā kōrero a te tinihanga mō te tangata, ā, he nui ngā whakautu a te hunga kua whiti i te rohe o te pono. Heoi, mō ngā tāngata tinihanga mate pāwera, ka rerekē te whai i te hua rāhui. Ka rapu tonu te tangata tinihanga raupapa i ngā hononga aroha/ira tangata i waho ahakoa kei roto i tētahi hononga pumau, kotahi te hoa rangatira. He maha ngā wā, kāore he whakama, he pouri rānei mō ā rātou mahi nā te mea kāore rātou e kite i ēnei hara hei hapa engari hei mea e tika ana mā rātou. Ko ētahi o ngā āhuatanga tino tautuhi o te tangata tinihanga raupapa ko:

• He tika te tinihanga: Kāore ngā tāngata tinihanga taumau e titiro ana ki ā rātou mahi he he, he mamae rānei. Ki a rātou, he tika te tinihanga.
• E tinihanga ana ahau, engari e aroha ana ahau ki a koe: Ka uru rātou ki te puremu rangatahi, kātahi ka hoki anō ki te kī atu ki tā rātou hoa, "Aroha nui ana ahau ki a koe", me te kore e moe i te mea kua tinihangatia rātou. 
• Kore hara: Kāore te tangata tinihanga pathological e pāngia e tetahi te hara tinihangaKāore i roa, nā te mea ki ō rātou whakaaro he tika ā rātou mahi.
• Te whanonga ātete: Kāore e taea e ia te mutu te tinihanga. Ahakoa kāore e taea e ia te whakapau kaha ki tētahi tangata, nā te āhua rānei o te hoha, ka uaua ki a ia te noho pono ki tōna hoa.
• Te kore o te kawenga whaiaro: Tērā pea ka kī atu te tangata tinihanga anō he mahi kotahi noa iho tēnei, engari he mahi tinihanga anō tēnei mā rātou kia kore ai e whai kawenga mō ā rātou mahi.
• He āhua noa iho te puremu: E ai ki te ingoa, he tinihanga te tangata. He maha ngā wā. I roto i ngā tau. Mō ngā hoa. Mō ngā inu me ngā hui pakihi. Kāore rātou e hiahia ki te motuhaketanga i te taha o te moepuku ahakoa kei roto rātou i tētahi hononga kotahi, pumau.

Te hinengaro tinihanga raupapa

Nā te mea kua pā tātou ki ngā āhuatanga o te hunga tinihanga pukumahi, me kōrero tātou mō te take o tēnei tauira o te tinihanga. I te whakamārama i te hinengaro tinihanga raupapa, e kī ana a Shincy, "Ko te mate hinengaro tinihanga raupapa ko te tauira tonu o te rapu i ngā tāngata mō ngā hononga moepuku ehara i te hoa rangatira, me te kore e mōhio, e whakaae rānei te hoa rangatira o nāianei. Ka kitea tēnei whanonga i roto i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine."

Nā reira, ka kitea ētahi āhuatanga ōrite i roto i te tāne me te wahine. ngā tauira whanonga tinihanga me ngā take matua mō ā rātou whanonga taupatupatu i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. ako I whakaatuhia i roto i ngā rangahau hinengaro o te hunga tinihanga mau tonu, ko te mahi i te mahi tinihanga mō ngā take moepuku, kare ā-roto rānei, e pā ana ki te pikinga o te oranga hinengaro i te mea ka piki ake te taumata o te whakaaro nui ki a rātou anō. Ka taea te kī ko te taumata tiketike o te tangata tinihanga, arā, ko te makona o te hinengaro me te hinengaro mai i ngā whanonga kore tikanga, nā runga i ngā painga kua kitea pēnei i:

• Te whakanui ake i te mana motuhake
• He āhuatanga e pai ai te ngākau
• He wairua harikoa i te whakamātau i ngā tūponotanga me te mawhiti atu i tētahi mea

Mena ko te harikoa me te ngākau harikoa te mea e pupuri ana i a rātou, tera pea koe e whakaaro, he aha ngā tāngata tinihanga raupapa e rapu ana i ngā whanaungatanga pumau, kotahi te hoa? E whakamārama ana a Shincy, "He mea whakamere, he rerekē ngā momo tāngata tinihanga, ā, ehara i te mea ko ngā tāngata tinihanga katoa e tinihanga ana mō ngā take kotahi. Ko te mate tinihanga pukumahi e tohuhia ana e ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te whanonga whakahaere, te āhua kore pāpori, te whakanui nui i a ia anō, ngā whanonga pāpori, me ētahi atu. Ka puta mai ēnei i:

• Nga raruraru o te moodoi
• Te tahumahu tangata
• Te mana whakahaere iti
• Ngā mamae o te tamarikitanga pērā i te kāinga pakaru, te tukino
• Te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō, te kore rānei o te mana
• Haumaru kāhua āpitihanga

"Heoi, he takahi i te whakawhirinaki te tinihanga, ā, ko te nuinga o ngā tāngata i tukinotia ka pāngia e te raruraru hinengaro e pātai ana i tō rātou uara, i tō rātou hē rānei mō te korenga o taua whanaungatanga. Engari, kāore he pānga ki te tāngata i tukinotia, ā, ko te take katoa he tangata hara/kaitinihanga me ō rātou āhua whakangaro i a rātou anō. Ahakoa rā, mō te hoa e tinihangatia ana, he wheako whara."

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I te tirohanga tuatahi, ko te tangata e tinihanga ana, e kore e taea te tinihanga, engari tera pea he tangata māia rawa atu. taupokina ō rātou ara ā, mawhiti atu i ā rātou hara. Heoi, ki te aro nui koe, ka tīmata koe ki te kite i ētahi tauira whanonga ka whakaatu i ā rātou mahi tinihanga, tinihanga.

"Ko ngā āhuatanga tino kitea o ngā tāngata tinihanga raupapa ko te iti o te aroha, te kore aro, me te aro nui ki a rātou anō. He āhuatanga tō ēnei tāngata hei āwhina i a koe i roto i aua āhuatanga," te kī a Shincy. Ki te kore e taea e koe te whakakore i te whakaaro kua tinihangatia tō whakawhirinaki e tō hoa, kia aro ki ēnei tohu:

1. Kua tinihanga rātou i mua

rangahau kua whakaatuhia e toru ngā wā ka nui ake te tūponotanga o te hunga i tinihanga i mua ki te tinihanga anō. He pono tonu te kīanga "he tinihanga kotahi, he tinihanga tonu" i tēnei take. I a ia e whakamārama ana he aha i pērā ai, e kī ana a Shincy, "E mōhiotia ana ko ngā tāngata tinihanga auau he whakaatu i ngā āhua kore-pāpori, he āhua-pāpori rānei, e tohuhia ana e te kore aro tonu ki ngā ture me te pono ki te katoa i roto i ō rātou oranga."

2. Ka whakawhitihia e rātou te whakapae mō ā rātou mahi

Ko te hunga whai mate tinihanga pukumahi ka whakapae tonu i ngā āhuatanga o waho, i ētahi atu tāngata rānei mō ā rātou mahi. Kia mataku mēnā ka ngana tō hoa, tō hoa aroha rānei ki te whakakore i ngā kawenga katoa mā te kī pēnei:

• Kāore i te pai katoa ā rāua hoa o mua i mua i a koe
• Ko rātou te patunga i roto i ō rātou whanaungatanga o mua
• Nā tō rātou hoa o mua i tinihanga ai rātou

E whakamārama ana a Shincy, "Ko te hunga whai waranga tinihanga he tikanga tō rātou ki te te huri-whakapae ā, ka kitea tonutia he huarahi hei whakapae i ētahi atu mō ā rātou whanonga kino, mō ā rātou hapa rānei. Ka taea e rātou te mahi i ngā mahi hinengaro tino whakamiharo hei whakaatu ko ētahi atu te kawenga mō ā rātou mahi kino, mahi pōuri rānei.”

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3. He tino aro nui rātou ki ō rātou āhua

Nā te mea he tangata tinihanga tonu ia, he tangata tirotiro haere, ā, he tino aro nui ki tōna āhua. Ahakoa kei te moe tahi rāua me tētahi atu, e hiahia ana rāua kia ātaahua, kia tika hoki te āhua i ngā wā katoa. Ki te titiro kore e mōhiotia, kāore pea tēnei whanonga e rerekē. Heoi, ina tata te aro ki te āhua me te whakapaipai ki te aro nui ki te āhua, ka taea te waiho hei mea whakahihi. tohu whakatūpato mō te tinihangaTērā pea kei te aro nui tō hoa ki tōna āhua, nā te mea koinei te taputapu nui rawa atu i roto i tā rātou ngeru hei kukume i tētahi hoa aroha/hoa moepuku i waho o te whanaungatanga.

4. Ka angitu te tangata tinihanga i te huna i ana mea

Ahakoa he mea noa te teka ki ngā tāngata tinihanga maha, he tino pai ki a rātou te huna i ō rātou whakaaro. Ina noho tahi koe me tētahi, ka rite tonu koe ki te mea kei reira tētahi wāhanga o rātou e kore e taea e koe te toro atu. Ka tawhiti rātou i ngā huarahi maha, ka nui te koretake hei whakarato i ngā wāhi hina e hiahiatia ana e rātou kia haere tonu ai ā rātou hara. He rite tonu te āhua? Kia aro ki ēnei tohu kei te piri koe ki tētahi tangata tinihanga:

• Kāore tō hoa e kōrero ki a koe mō ngā āhuatanga o tōna oranga
• Kāore i te mārama ngā whakautu mō āu pātai mō ō rātou oranga, mō ō rātou rā, mō ā rātou mahi rānei
• He tino rohe rawa atu rātou mō ā rātou taputapu.
• Kāore koe i te mārama ki ngā taipitopito o tō rātou oranga pāpori

E ai ki a Ashlyn, i moe ia i tētahi tāne i tinihanga i a ia me ētahi wāhine i te roanga o te wā e noho tahi ana rāua, ko tana te noho puku i roto i te whanaungatanga i hongi ia i te kiore, ā, i hohonu ake tana keri. "I tīmata te kitea o ngā tohu he tangata tinihanga taku tāne i taku kitenga i tana huna i ngā mea mai i ahau, kātahi ka teka hei huna i ana mahi. I roto i te wā, ka hinga taku whakapae, ā, i tētahi pō, ka tīmata ahau ki te tirotiro i tana waea i muri i tana moe. Nā, tokotoru ngā wāhine i moe puku ia. I roa te wā i pau i ahau ki te wareware i te mamae o tana tinihanga, engari kei te pai ake taku wāhi inaianei," tana kī.

5. He tino ataahua rātou

Ko tētahi atu āhuatanga motuhake o te tangata tinihanga ko tōna āhua ataahua. Ka taea e rātou te kukume i a koe, ā, he māeneene tonu i roto i ngā horopaki pāpori katoa. Nā te mea e pai ana rātou ki te aro, he huarahi tā rātou ki te tuku atu i te aro ahakoa kei hea rātou. Ko ō hoa, ko ō hoa mahi, ko ō rātou hoa, ko ō rātou hoa mahi, ko ngā tāngata tauhou, tae atu ki a koe, kua miharo kē ki tēnei ataahua me te karisma. Me te mea nei he huarahi tā rātou ki te kukume i te tangata ki a rātou. 

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6. Kāore ō rātou pouri

He aha te tangata tinihanga ka tinihanga anō ai, e whakaaro ana koe? Āe, kei te haere tonu te hunga tinihanga raupapa ki te tuku i te whakawhirinaki o tā rātou hoa nā te mea kāore rātou e pouri, e whakama rānei mō ā rātou mahi. Ina pai koe ki a koe anō, he uaua ki te whakahawea ki taua mea.

"Ka taea te tautuhi i te mate hinengaro o te tangata tinihanga raupapa mā te hiahia ki te tūpono me te rapu kare ā-roto. Ahakoa he āhuatanga whakahihiri tēnei hei takahurihuri, ā, e kitea ana ko te pūtake o te kukume i roto i te tini o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine taitamariki, ka taea e tēnei whanonga rapu adrenaline te uru ki roto i te ao aroha, ā, ka meinga rātou hei tangata tinihanga," te kī a Shincy.  

7. Kāore rātou e tino whakanui ana i te whakapau kaha

Ahakoa ehara pea te hunga tinihanga taupatupatu i te mea he te wehi ki te whakapau kaha, Kāore anō rātou kia rite ki te whakauru katoa ki tētahi whanaungatanga. Ka nui ake te riri o tēnei ki tētahi whanaungatanga i ēnei wā hangarau e whakamahia ana, ina tata noa te huarahi tinihanga ki te katoa.

Ka taea e tēnei taumata iti o te whakapau kaha te arahi ki ētahi tohu ārai. Hei tauira, ka kī pea tō hoa kāore anō kia tangohia e ia a Tinder nā te mea "he mea ngahau te aroturuki i ngā mea kei waho", engari, kei te whakamahia pea e ia hei rapu hoa pea. Mā wai e mōhio, kei te tuku karere kuputuhi pea rātou, kei te tuku karere kuputuhi rānei ki tētahi i runga i te taupānga.

8. He tino kaiwhakahaere rātou 

Me hoatu e koe ki a rātou, he huarahi tā rātou hei awe i te tirohanga a te tangata ki a rātou. He tangi iti, he kata iti, me ētahi te aronganui a whatumanawa ka makahia ki roto i te ranunga, ā, ka mawhiti rātou i ā rātou mahi nā te mea,

• He huarahi tā rātou hei akiaki i te tangata kia aroha ki a rātou ahakoa ngā āhuatanga katoa
• Ki te tata tetahi ki te hopu i a rātou, ka tīmata pea rātou i te parade aroha
• Ka whakakino rātou i a koe mā te huri i te tēpu, mā te whakaahua i a rātou anō ko te patunga, me te mea kia whakama koe mō tā rātou mahi.

Āe, he tino pūkenga rātou ki te whakaari i ngā āhuatanga. Ina tūtakihia, ko te tangata e tinihanga ana, kāore pea e mataku ki te kī i ngā mea pēnei i te, "Kei te hiahia ahau ki te whakamomori i ahau anō." Nā te mea e mōhio ana rātou ka waiho koe e manukanuka ana, ā, ka whakaaetia te tahuritanga mai i te pono.

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9. Tērā pea ka whakaatu rātou i ētahi momo āhua whakapehapeha

E whakaponohia whānuitia ana ko te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō ka taea e te tangata te noho pūmau ki te tinihanga. Engari he aha ngā wāhine me ngā tāne he iti te whakaaro ki a rātou anō tinihanga? I a ia e whakamārama ana i te hononga i waenga i te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō, te koretake o te māia, me ngā whanonga whakapehapeha, me te hononga o ēnei katoa ki te kore whakapono, e kī ana a Shincy, "Tērā pea he āhuatanga whakapehapeha tō ēnei tāngata." 

"Ko te tangata e waranga ana ki te tinihanga, e rapu ana i ētahi atu hei whāngai i ō rātou whakapehapeha. I muri i te whakapehapeha, he māharahara rātou, ā, e hiahia ana ki ētahi atu hei whakamanawa i a rātou mā te whakamanawa tonu. Nō reira, ka uaua ki a rātou te mārama ki ngā hiahia o ētahi atu, te pouri rānei, te hara rānei mō ā rātou mahi." 

10. Ka tupu pai rātou i roto i ngā taiao pāpori

Ko tētahi atu āhuatanga motuhake o te hunga tinihanga taunga ko rātou te oranga o tētahi taiao pāpori. Ka noho rātou hei pokapū aro nā te mea ka taea e rātou:

• Whakamānawa/whakangahau i te tangata, kia whiwhi ai i tō rātou whakawhirinakitanga
• Huna ngāwari i ō rātou āhua tūturu
• Kia rūpahu, kia maeneene, kia māeneene

Tērā pea ka kite koe e whakawhirinaki ana rātou ki te waipiro, ki ētahi atu matū rānei, hei whakahaere i ō rātou āhua ataahua me te karisma o roto. Nā te mea ka heke te aukati, ka whiwhi rātou i te 'toa wai' ki te kotiti ke. Nō reira, ina mōhio tata atu koe ki a rātou, ehara i te mea uaua ki te kite ko rātou ngā kaikawe o hononga whero hakiKo te mea uaua ia, ahakoa te kite i ngā whanonga whakahāwea, tera pea ka taka koe ki ā rātou āhua kōrero ataahua, māeneene hoki.

11. Kāore e taea e rātou te aukati i ā rātou mahi whakaipoipo

Me pēhea te mōhio mēnā he wahine, he he maha ngā hoa o te tāne e hiahia ana rānei ki a rātou? Ka takaro rātou. He nui. Kātahi ka whakakorea mā te kī, "Kāore he kino." Anei ētahi tauira takaro me aro atu koe ki te mea kāore pea i te kino pērā i tā rātou e hiahia ana kia whakapono koe:

• Te hoko inu mā tētahi tauhou i roto i tētahi pae inu
• Te mihi ki tō hoa mō tōna āhua tinana
• Te whakapā atu ā-tinana ki tētahi hoa mahi
• Ka hoatu he wā ki tētahi 'wahine ātaahua' e pāhihi ana i a koe i roto i te toa hokohoko

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12. Ka tukuna e ō rātou hoa he tohu

Ahakoa te hunga e tinihanga ana i ngā wā katoa, ka taea tonu e rātou te whai hoa ātaahua. Mena kua hoatu e ō rātou hoa he tohu ki a koe mō te tinihanga a tō hoa, kaua e warewaretia rātou. He ngana pea ēnei ki te whakaatu mārire kei te tinihanga tonu ia. Anei ētahi atu whanonga hei whakaoho i a koe ki te pātai mēnā kei te mōhio ngā hoa o tō hoa ki tētahi mea kāore rātou e hiahia kia kitea e koe:

• Kei te māharahara rātou ki te whakaatu i a koe ki ō rātou hoa?
• Kei te ngana rātou ki te karo i te tūponotanga ka nui tō whakahoahoa ki a rātou?
• Ka wiriwiri rānei tō hoa i ngā kōrero a ō rātou hoa, i ngā āhua mōhio rānei ki ngā mea katoa?
• Ka hohoro rānei rātou te huri i te kaupapa, ka ārahi i te kōrero ki ngā wāhi haumaru ake?

13. Ka whakakāhia koe e rātou

Ko te tangata e tinihanga ana i ngā wā katoa, me huna tonu e ia ōna ara, me te whakakino i tōna hoa. gaslighting he taputapu whai hua hei whakatutuki i tēnā. Ka ngana tō hoa ki te whakamātau i a koe kia ruarua i tō ake tirohanga ki te ao tūroa mā te,

• Te whakakore i ō kare ā-roto mā te kī atu, "Kei te whakanui rawa koe i ngā mea." "Kei te nui rawa tō tauhohenga." "He aha koe i tino whakaari ai i ngā wā katoa?"
• Ka whakama koe mā te kī atu i ngā kupu pēnei i te, "Tirohia te mea i meinga ai ahau e koe kia mahi." "Me pēhea koe e whakaaro ai ka tinihanga ahau i a koe."
• Te whakakahore i te mooni. Tērā pea ka rongo koe i a rātou e kī ana, "Kāore i tupu tēnā." "He mea hanga noa iho tāu e whakaaro ana." "Kei roto katoa i tōu mahunga."

14. He tino pai rātou ki te kōrero pakiwaitara

Me ngā kōrero teka katoa, ngā mea ngaro, ngā moepuku, me whakarite rātou. E mōhio ana rātou me rua ngā hikoinga ki mua i a koe i ngā wā katoa kia kore ai e taea e koe hopukia tō hoa tinihanga. Koia te take ko tētahi o ngā āhuatanga rongonui o te tangata e tinihanga ana i ngā wā katoa ko tōna kaha ki te hanga kōrero matatini, pono hoki mai i te rangi kore. Akohia ā rātou whakautu ina pātai atu koe kei hea rātou. Ka mahi tonu te tangata tinihanga raupapa:

• Kia whai kōrero matatini
• He maha ngā mahi whakakatakata me ngā kōrero taipitopito mō te taiao me ngā āhuatanga
• Kua tino pai te whakaharatau, ā, ka whakahokia e rātou kupu mō te kupu, ahakoa te maha o ngā wā i pātaihia e koe

Te pānui e pā ana: 11 Ngā Tohu Tinana e Tinihanga Ana Ia Ki A Koe 

15. He karo te reo o tō rātou tinana

Mena kei te rapu koe ngā tohu hara mai i te tāne tinihanga/wahine/hoa, kia aro ki tā rātou reo tinana, ā, kia mōhio ai koe ki ēnei: 

• He ruarua kei roto i tā rātou kōrero?
• Ka tere te kimo o ō rātou kanohi, ka werawera rānei i a rātou e ngana ana ki te tito i tētahi kōrero pono hei huna i ō rātou ara?
• He maha ngā wā ka kitea e koe rātou e karo ana i te titiro kanohi i a rātou e kōrero ana ki a koe?
• Ka kite koe i a rātou e noho pōrearea ana, e nekeneke rānei ana ina kōrero mai rātou ki a koe? 

Mena kua whakautua e koe ngā pātai o runga ake nei, tera pea he hoa tinihanga tāu. Tērā pea ka pāngia koe e te raruraru kare ā-roto e pā ana ki a koe. Koinei te wā hei whakarite i a koe anō me tō oranga kare ā-roto. Anei ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi…

Me aha koe mēnā kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga me tētahi kaitukino raupapa

Ki te taea e koe te hono atu ki ēnei tohu ka tinihanga pea tētahi tangata i a koe i ngā wā katoa, kua tae ki te wā ki te whakaaro i tāu mahi e whai ake nei. Mō tēnei, e te tohunga hinengaro Nandita Rambhia e mea ana, "Ka taea e ngā tāngata tinihanga raupapa te huri? Ae, ka taea anake mēnā ka whakapau kaha rātou ki te mahi i ngā mahi e tika ana hei wawahi i ngā tauira kino, hei whakakapi hoki i aua tauira ki ngā tauira hauora. Ko te whakaora me te muru hara e hiahia ana kia nui te kaha o ngā hoa e rua. Ka taea anake mēnā ka kite rāua i te hiahia nui ki te hanga anō i te aroha mai i te tīmatanga. Mēnā he kaha, he pono, he pono hoki tēnei hiahia, he nui te tūponotanga ka anga whakamua."

Ahakoa rangahau e kī ana ko te whakawhirinaki anō ki tētahi hoa i whakararuraru i a koe—ahakoa nā te kore whakapono, te teka, te tinihanga, te te aronganui a whatumanawa—e hiahia ana kia tuwhera te ngākau, kia whai whakaaro ki te mahi tahi, kia tohatoha, kia tautoko tahi hoki i waenga i ngā hoa mahi. Anei ētahi tohutohu:

• Ka tīmata te tukanga mā te whakaae kei reira tetahi mea kua pakaru me whakatika
• Ko te huarahi anake hei whakakore i te kino ko te whakapau kaha ki te whakaora i te whanaungatanga
• Ruku hohonu ki te take i puta ai te kino, me ngā mea ka taea te mahi rerekē i tēnei wā
• Kaua e whakama i a koe anō mō ​​te noho tonu. Murua koe, ā, me waiho te tiaki i a koe anō hei kaupapa matua.
• Hei hanga whakawhirinaki, tīmata tahi i ngā mahi whakangahau hou, me te whakarite i ngā pō whakaipoipo ia wiki
• Kaua e whakamā ki te tango i te tautoko a te hunga pono
• Ki te kite tonu koe, me haere māia, me hikoi atu

Thoughts Final

He uaua te wikitoria me te whakaora i te tinihanga maha-wā, engari ehara i te mea kāore e taea te whakatika i te whanaungatanga ahakoa kua maha ngā wā o te tinihanga. Kei te kite koe i ngā tohu o te pouri pono i roto i tō hoa? Ko te mea nui, kei te tautokona aua tohu o te pouri e ngā mahi tūturu? I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, he pai ki te rapu tohutohu mai i tētahi e mātau ake ana, e pakeke ake ana, e kore e whakahāwea. Mena kei te rapu koe i tētahi rongoā, ko tā mātou ngā kaitohutohu mai i te rōpū a Bonobology he paato noa atu.

Hei whakamutunga, ki te mea he iti noa iho ō ruarua kei te hē tetahi mea, kia mataara tonu, kaua hoki e wareware ki ngā tohu whakatūpato ngaro e titiro mai ana ki tō kanohi. Kia kite koe i tō hoa e whakaatu ana i ngā whanonga maha, noho noa, whakaarohia te āhuatanga, ka whakatau i tāu huarahi mahi ā muri ake nei.

Kei te whakaipoipo koe i tētahi tangata whakahihi? Kāore pea! Whakamātauria tēnei pātaitai, ā, kimihia inaianei!

Te Tūranga o te Whakaaro Nui ki a Koe Anō i roto i ngā Hononga - Whakamātauria tēnei Whakamātautau hei Aromatawai i tāu i tēnei rā!

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Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

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