19 Ngā Mea e Me Mahi, Ngā Mea Kāore e Me Mahi i Muri i te Wehenga

Kāore koe e mōhio kia pēhea te roa, te kore rānei o te pumau o tētahi whanaungatanga aroha. I ētahi wā, he ohorere rawa te mutunga, kāore tetahi i kite i tōna taenga mai. Ahakoa he tika te mahi, ka noho pōuri tonu tētahi, e rua rānei o kōrua mō te wā roa. He mea mārama tēnei, nā te mea he uaua ki te aro atu ki te raruraru kare ā-roto e puta mai ana i te wehenga. Ā, he uaua ake te whakaaro ki ō mahi e whai ake nei i muri i te wehenga.

He pānga nui tō te wehenga o te hoa ki te oranga tinana me te oranga hinengaro o te tangata. Mai i te aroha ki a ia anō me te pouri ki te whakamarie me te pōhēhē; kāore koe e mōhio he aha te mea ka pā mai ki a koe. Tērā pea ka pāngia koe e ēnei mea katoa i te wā kotahi, i muri i tētahi, i te kore raupapa rānei. Ka whakararuraru i te moe me te kai o te tangata, ā, ka puta pea te pouri. Heoi, he mea nui te whakaora i muri i te wehenga.

Hei āwhina i te tere ake o te tukanga, kua kohikohia e mātou he rārangi o ngā mahi e 19 me mahi me ngā mahi kāore e tika ana i muri i te wehenga, kia ngāwari ai te puta atu i tēnei wā uaua. I tēnei rā, kei te kōrero mātou ki te tohunga hinengaro. Nandita Rambhia, he tohunga ki te CBT, REBT, me te tohutohu mō ngā tokorua. Panuku ki raro mō ētahi tohutohu pono mō te whakapai ake i te wairua i muri i te wehenga.

19 Ngā Mea e Me Mahi, Ngā Mea Kāore e Me Mahi i Muri i te Wehenga

He pānga kino te wehenga o te katoa Hauora hinengaro ki tētahi taumata, ahakoa he nui te tautoko kare ā-roto kei a rātou. Ā, ko te wā waatea kei a koe i muri i te mutunga o tētahi whanaungatanga ka waiho pea koe kia whakaaroaro ki ngā hapa o mua, me te whakaaroaro 'mehemea rānei' me 'mehemea rā'. Tērā pea ka tae ki tētahi wā ka whakapae tonu koe i a koe anō mō ​​te whara i tētahi atu tangata. Ka taea e tēnei te tuku i a koe ki raro i te rua rāpeti o te pouri me te ngākau pouri.

Ko te kore e taea te whakaaro me aha i muri i te wehenga ka ārai i tō tukanga whakaora. Ā, ki te kore koe e ako me pēhea te whakaora i muri i te wehenga, ka pāngia ō whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei nā te nui o ngā taumahatanga kare ā-roto me ngā mamae e mau ana i ō wheako o mua. He mea noa te noho pūmau ina pāngia koe e te mamae o te ngākau, engari, pērā i ngā āhuatanga katoa, he mārama kei te pito o tēnei kauhanga. Ā, ka taea e mātou te whakaatu ki a koe me pēhea te tae atu ki reira i roto i te huarahi hauora.

Mena kei te pāngia koe e te wehenga o te hoa, ā, kāore koe i te mōhio he aha te mahi i muri mai, ka noho tēnei rārangi o ngā mahi me ngā mea kāore e tika ana i muri i te wehenga hei aratohu māu hei whakaora i a koe i tēnei wā kino o te ao. Anei ā mātou tohutohu a ngā tohunga mō ngā mea hei mahi i muri i te wehenga, me ngā mea hei karo:

Te Tiaki i a Koe Anō

Te āhua takoto kau i muri i te wehenga kāore e taea te karo. Engari ka tūtohu mātou kia tukuna he wā ki a koe kia tika ai te haere i roto i ngā wāhanga kare ā-roto. Kāore tēnei wāhanga e tika kia waiho hei mutunga mō tō oranga. Ka taea te whakaora i muri i te wehenga, pērā anō hoki te whakaipoipo i muri i te wehenga. Engari, hei whakarite i a koe mō tēnā, me maumahara koe ki ētahi mea. Kaua e manukanuka, kei te whakarārangihia e mātou! Hei tīmatanga, me tīmata koe ki te whakarite i a koe anō i ngā huarahi e whai ake nei:

1. Whakataa he okiokinga ma

Ina koa mēnā kei te whakaaro koe me aha koe i muri i te wehenga o tētahi hononga roa. Kāore koe e hiahia ki tētahi tohunga whakaipoipo hei kōrero atu i tēnei ki a koe, nā te mea koinei te upoko tawhito rawa atu o te pukapuka. Ahakoa te uaua o te ahua, he mea nui. Ngā mea me mahi e koe hei oranga ngākau i te wā tonu:

• Āta karohia tō hoa o mua mō te roa e hiahiatia ana
• Kaua e whai i tō hoa o mua i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori; āraia rātou mēnā koinā te mea e tika ana kia matara atu koe.
• Kaua e tūtaki ki ngā hoa tahi i muri i te wehenga mēnā ka pā kino te kitenga i a rātou, ka puta rānei he kare ā-roto mamae
• Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe ka taea e koe te noho tonu hoa me te hoa o mua, engari i te nuinga o te wā, ka pakaru whakamiharo. Ka tīmata te whakaora i te wehenga ina wehe koe i tētahi mea hou, kaua e hoki ki ngā āhuatanga me ngā tauira tawhito, mamae.
• Kia maumahara he take te mutunga o te whanaungatanga, kāore he mea hei whakaora. He pai ake te haere atu me te mau tonu o tō mana.

2. Whakaaetia ō kare ā-roto i muri i te wehenga

Ko te tuarua o ngā mahi nui ko te whakaae ki ngā mamae me ngā kare ā-roto kino katoa e puta mai ana i te wehenga. Ina pāngia koe e te wehenga mamae, he mea maori noa iho te pouri, te riri, me te pouri. He mea nui kia whakaae ki aua kare ā-roto, kaua e ngana ki te whakakore atu.

Ka pātai atu mātou ki tō mātou tohunga: Me pēhea te neke whakamua i muri i te wehenga i te mea kei te aroha tonu koe? nandita ta:

• "Ko te tuku i a koe anō ki te pouri me te whakaae ki ō kare ā-roto te wāhanga nui rawa atu o te tukanga whakaora."
• Kāore koe e hiahia kia tere te pai o tō wairua. Kaua e mangere ki te tangi me te hamama — ka āwhina ēnei mahi ki te tuku i ngā kare ā-roto kino.
• "Tuhia ō kare ā-roto nui me ō kare ā-roto iti i roto i te pukapuka; he huarahi pai te tuhi i ngā mea hei whakatau i te raru."

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3. Kimihia he aha te mea e harikoa ai koe

Tērā pea kei te whakaaro koe kua ngaro tetahi wāhanga o koe i muri i te ngaronga o te aroha o tōu ao. Engari kua tae te wā ki te ara ake i a koe anō me te mihi ki a koe anō. Whakaarohia pēnei, kua ngaro atu tō hoa o mua i tō ao, ā, kei a koe te wā katoa ki te kimi i ngā mea hei whakahoki mai i tō harikoa.

• Whakapaua te wā mo koe anake: Tangohia he wā okioki, whakapaua ki a koe anō, kia taunga hoki ki tō ake kamupene
• Tangohia ētahi mahi tawhito: Mahia ngā mea katoa i pai ki a koe engari kāore tō hoa o mua i hiahia ki te mahi. Tērā pea he pai ki a koe te kaukau engari kāore tō hoa i te tino pai ki te kaukau. Kua tae ki te wā hei hoki ki te puna kaukau!
• Kimihia koe anō: Haere ki ngā rā takitahi, me te manaaki i a koe anō. Whakapaipaihia ō whao, hoko mai i tētahi tae makawe hou, whakapaipai noa rānei i tō kākahu. Tīmata ki te haere ki tētahi akomanga yoga, whakawhanake rānei i tētahi mahi whakangahau hou, tīmata rānei ki te eke pahikara huri noa i te tāone mō te hau hou i ngā ata. Ka pai tō wairua … ā tōna wā

Nā te mea kua mutu tō hononga, me whai wā koe ki te arotahi ki a koe anō, me te kimi i ngā mea e hari ai koe. Ka mārama koe ki te hiranga o te wā mokemoke, ā, ka ako koe ki te whakatakoto i ētahi rohe mō ō hononga ā muri ake nei. Ko te mea pai, me ako koe ki te harikoa i roto i tō ake kamupene i mua i te whakaaro ki te te whakaipoipo i muri i te wehengaHe mea whai hua tēnei, ā, ka whakarite kia tino rite koe mō ō whanaungatanga katoa ā muri ake nei.

4. Whakapā atu ki ō hoa me ō whānau

Ki te kōrero koe ki tētahi tohunga hinengaro, ka kī atu rātou he mea nui te whai tautoko i a koe i roto i tētahi wā uaua. Ā, koinā tonu te whakaaro o Nandita. "Taiawhiotia koe e te hunga e aroha ana, e mārama ana ki a koe, ā, e āwhina ana i a koe kia pai ake tō wairua. Ka taea hoki e koe te whakatau āhea koe e kite ai i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro i muri i te wehenga. Kaua tetahi e akiaki i a koe," tana kī. Rapua he āwhina mai i te hunga ka taea te āwhina ki te whakararuraru i a koe, me te karo i tō whakaaro ki tō hoa o mua. Whakapaua he wā ki a rātou kia maumahara ai koe ki te aroha o te tangata ki a koe.

Engari me pēhea te neke whakamua i muri i te wehenga i a koe e aroha tonu ana? Anei tā mātou e tūtohu nei:

• Whakapuakina ō whakaaro ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe. Whakapā atu ki a rātou, kōrerohia ō kare ā-roto.
• Tonoa he tohutohu mai i ngā hoa me ngā mema o te whānau mō ngā mea i mahia e rātou i roto i ngā āhuatanga ōrite
• Kia tino whai hoa koe hei whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto o te pouri, te riri, me te pouri, ā, kia kaua hoki ia e whakahe i a koe
• He mea nui tēnei nā te mea kāore e kore ka noho tonu koe ki roto i ngā wā o te hiahia me te mamae mō tētahi wā; ka hiahia koe ki tētahi hei whakawhirinakitanga atu.
• Mā tēnei, ka whiwhi koe i tētahi hoa mahi kawenga, hei āwhina i a koe kia mau tonu ki te huarahi tika i tēnei wā uaua

Te Huringa

He rite tonu te mamae o te wehenga o te hononga kāore i te marena ki te wehenga. Nō reira kaua e whakahawea ki a koe anō ina tino pouri koe, e pouri ana hoki mō ngā mea kua pa ki a koe. I ētahi wā, me huri koe i tō oranga, kia puta ai koe hei tangata hou. Ko te mea pai rawa atu mō ngā wehenga uaua ko te taea e rātou te huri i a koe hei tangata hou kāore koe i mōhio i hiahia koe kia noho.

5. Neke atu, whakapaipai anō rānei i tō wāhi

Ka pā kino pea tō taiao ki tō wairua. Mā te whakarerekē me te hanga anō i tō wāhi noho ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakahou i tō hinengaro. He tino āwhina ēnei mea i a koe:

• Te neke atu i muri i te wehenga: Mena i noho tahi kōrua ko tō hoa o mua, me wehe atu i te wā e taea ai. He tino uaua ngā wehenga i muri i te noho tahi, engari ka taea e kōrua te wehe atu me te ataahua.
• Te waihanga i tētahi taiao noho hou: Ki te noho mokemoke koe, whakapaipaihia anō tō whare, tō rūma rānei. Tērā pea he ngāwari noa iho te whakawhiti i ō whāriki moenga, te whakapaipai rānei i te wāhi kia kanapa ake. He aha e kore ai e hoko i tētahi whakaata hou, ātaahua hoki?
• Te whakarērea o ngā taonga a tō hoa o mua: Mena kei a koe ngā whakamaharatanga mō tō hoa o mua e takoto noa ana, mā te whakakore atu i aua whakamaharatanga ka āwhina i te tukanga whakaora. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te tūpono tonu ki te kite i tana hāte i roto i tō kākahu, ki te hongi rānei i te rama kakara i hokona mai e ia i te Kirihimete kua hipa.

6. Whakawāteahia he wā hei tiaki i a koe anō

Mā te whai wā ki te tiaki i a koe anō ka pai ake te hauora hinengaro. Ā, anei ētahi tohutohu mēnā kei te raru koe i tēnei momo tiaki:

• Whakauruhia he mahinga e noho pukumahi ana koe engari e harikoa ana: Pānuihia anō tāu pukapuka tino pai, mātaki kiriata, tunua tāu kai whakamarie, tono mai rānei
• Mahia tetahi mea rerekē: Haere ki tētahi tāone hou kāore anō kia tae atu koe. He nui ngā kiriata o Hollywood hei whakaatu ki a koe he nui ngā painga o tētahi haerenga takitahi ki te tangata e pouri ana i muri i te wehenga.
• Kia ora, kia kaha hoki: Kia mau tonu tō nekehanga me tētahi mahi whakakori tinana hou. Whakaritea he mirimiri, he oma, he mea e hari ai koe. Akoranga whakaaturia mai he āwhina te kai i te tangata kia ora mai i te mamae o te ngākau, nō reira kai i ngā kai auau, me te hoko kai me ngā huawhenua hauora
• Kāore he aha te kore hua: He manaakitanga anō hoki te 'mangere' ki a koe anō. Hangaia he rārangi o ngā kiriata pai hei mātaki i muri i te wehenga, ā, whakaritea he rā hei mātaki i aua kiriata katoa i te wā kotahi. Āe, kaua hoki e wareware ki te whakakī i te pouaka tio ki te aihikirīmi!

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7. Whakamahia tō wā waatea hou me te whakaaro nui

I te wehenga o te hoa rangatira, ka nui ake te wā waatea. Whakamahia hei whakaputa i tō ake āhua hou. Tērā pea ka pōuri koe i tēnei wā waatea, ā, ka hiahia pea koe ki te whakapā atu ki tō hoa rangatira o mua. Engari kaua e whakapau i te wā ki te aroha ki a koe anō, whakamahia hei hanga i ētahi huringa pai ki tō ao. Tīmata ki te ako i tētahi reo hou, whakamātauria he pūkenga hou, hanga hou i a koe anō - mā ēnei huringa katoa koe e āwhina ki te tipu, ā, ka aroha koe ki tēnei putanga hou o koe.

8. Tūhurahia, ā, ora i te oranga whai whakaaro nui

He ngāwari te ngaro i a koe anō i roto i te pouri, me te te manukanuka i muri i te wehengaĀ, ko te noho i roto i te oranga aro nui te rongoā pai rawa atu mō tēnei. Mā te aro nui tātou e āwhina kia marino, kia noho puku hoki mō tētahi wā. Koinei te mea me mahi e koe:

• Whakauruhia he meneti torutoru o te whakaaroaro me te yoga ki roto i tō mahinga o ia rā
• Akohia ētahi mahi whakaaroaro kia taea ai te whakahaere i ngā whakaaro me ngā kare ā-roto taumaha
• Kia rite koe, karangahia te tira kia huihui mai, kia ngahau hoki
• Haere ki te kanikani, ki te hokohoko, ki te haereere i ngā pā, ki te kai tina noa iho rānei. Engari kia maumahara koe ki te hoki ki te wā o nāianei ina kopikopiko te hinengaro. He uaua, engari me mahi tonu i tēnā kia noho hei tikanga.

9. Me aha koe i muri i te wehenga o tētahi hononga roa? Rapua he rongoā hinengaro

He tīmatanga pai ngā tohutohu katoa kua whakahuatia ake nei. Engari ko te mea tino āwhina ko te āwhina ngaio. Ahakoa ka tīmata koe me te kore e pai, ka whiwhi koe i ētahi māramatanga mō ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe me pēhea te neke whakamua mai i konei. Ehara i te mea ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakahaere i tō mamae i roto i te huarahi hauora ake, engari ka tuku māramatanga anō hoki mō ō whanonga. He tino āwhina tēnei mō te whakatere i ngā whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei.

Ka pātai ētahi, he wā poto te roa mō te toro atu ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro i muri i te wehenga? Kāore, engari ko te rapu āwhina mai i tētahi tohunga hinengaro haumanu, i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei, he mea nui ake mēnā kei te raru koe i ngā raruraru pēnei i te manukanuka, te pouri rānei i muri i te wehenga. Mēnā kei te rapu āwhina koe, he tohunga, he mātau hoki ngā kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro i runga i te Bonobology's rōpū kei konei mo koe.

10. Homai he wa mo koe

Ko te mea nui pea hei mahi i tēnei āhuatanga uaua ko te mahara he rongoā pai te wā. E kī ana a Nandita, "Hoatu he wā nui ki a koe anō, me te tiaki nui – te atawhai me te atawhai – kia puta ai koe i tēnei āhuatanga." Anei ētahi whakaū me ngā whakamaumahara māu:

• Kia ngawari ki a koe anō, pērā i tō atawhai mēnā kei te pāngia tō hoa tata e te taua āhuatanga.
• Kia maumahara, ka ea ngā mea i roto i te wā
• Kia atawhai ki a koe anō, kia mārama hoki me whai koe i ngā mea katoa ngā wāhanga o te pouri i muri i te wehenga i mua i te tīmatanga o te noho noa o ngā mea
• Ka marino te manukanuka i muri i te wehenga, ka pai ake ngā mea, ā, ka neke whakamua koe
• Ka tīmata koe ki te titiro whakamua me te tumanako

Kia manawanui, kia toru marama pea te roa; ka tīmata te pai haere o ngā mea! Ko te mea nui, mō tō hoa o mua, kaua e ngana ki te noho hei hoa i muri i te wehenga. Kaua i tēnei wā.

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11. Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakaae ki te wehenga me te neke atu, kaua e uru ki te aratau "mehemea"

Pānuihia tēnei kia āta tirohia. Ko te moemoeā mō ngā mea i taea te tupu, kei runga tonu i a tātou he aha e kore e mahia i muri i te wehenga rārangi. E ai ki a Nandita, "Ina whakatau koe kua oti te wehenga, kia ngana ki te maka atu i ngā pātai/ngā horopaki 'mehemea rānei' i roto i tō hinengaro." He nui ake te kino o ēnei whakaaroaro koretake, kāore he pai. Ā, kia pono tātou, kāore he hua o ēnei, nō reira kati te whakaaro ki aua mea.

Mā te pātai i ēnei pātai ki a koe anō ka noho tonu te mamae i mua i tō hinengaro, ā, ka mutu te tukanga whakaora. Me whakaharatau koe i te tawhiti i ngā kare ā-roto. Ko te mea pai rawa atu ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake me ō whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei ko te kore e whakaaroaro ki ēnei mea:

• Ngā hapa āu, ngā hapa rānei a tō hoa o mua
• Ngā mea i taea e koe te mahi rerekē
• E ngana ana ki te rapu i te he i waenganui i a kōrua
• He aha te mea ka tupu mēnā i āraihia e koe te pōrearea tuatahi o te whanaungatanga, te pōrearea whakamutunga rānei?

12. Kaua e uru ki ngā whanaungatanga hou

I a koe e neke whakamua ana, ka taka te tangata ki te mahanga o te whakatau i ngā whakatau kino rawa atu. Tērā pea ka ngana koe ki te uru atu ki tētahi whanaungatanga hou hei wareware i tō hoa o mua, ā, ka ngana pea koe ki te hono atu ki tētahi hoa pai e tautoko ana i a koe i tēnei wā. Engari, kia kī atu mātou, he whakatau hē tēnei.

• Kaua e huri i ōu kaha ki tētahi tangata hou: Kaua e peke tonu ki roto i tētahi whanaungatanga whakaora nā te mea kei te ngana koe ki te whakakī i te āputa i roto i tō ao mō tēnei wā. Kia tūpato, ki te kore ka haria noa e koe te mauahara me te pouri ki roto i tētahi whanaungatanga hou, ka whakapōrearea i te whanaungatanga.
• Kaua e ngana ki te whakapataritari i tō hoa o mua: He pai ake te karo i te tuku pikitia pāpāho pāpori kia kitea e tō hoa o mua, e ōna hoa rānei. Kaua e ngana ki te whakapae kei te piripono koe ki tētahi hou. Kaua e tinihanga ki a koe anō, ki tētahi atu rānei. Ka nui ake tō koretake.

13. Kaua e kōrero kino mō tō hoa

Tērā pea ka tino hiahia koe ki te riri ki tō hoa o mua, nā te mea i whara koe i a rātou! Engari, kaua e pērā. Kaua e uru ki te porowhita kino o te kōrero kino ki tō hoa o mua. Kimihia ētahi atu puna hei whakapuaki i tō riri. Kaua e kōrero kino mō tō hoa o mua ki tētahi atu, ahakoa pēhea. Anei te take:

• He mea nui rawa tēnei mēnā he hoa ōrite ōu. Ka waiho pea he whakaaro kino mōu.
• Ka noho pōuri tonu koe i te mea ka noho tonu te mauahara ki mua i tō hinengaro
• Ka whakarite kia kei te whakaaro tonu koe ki tō hoa o mua, ā, kāore tātou e hiahia ana ki tēnā, tika?
• Ka uaua ake te wā māu ME tō hoa o mua. Ki te kore koe e hiahia kia mamae rātou, he pai ake te horomia o āu kupu, te tuhi rānei i roto i tētahi pukapuka tuhi.

14. Kaua e hanga i ngā huringa nui ki tō ao i muri i te wehenga

I muri i tō wehenga atu i tētahi, ka taea e te pouri o te katoa te akiaki i a koe ki te hanga i ētahi huringa nui - ki a koe anō me tō āhua. Taria mō tētahi wā i mua i te whiwhi i aua pakau wehenga, i te tae papura rānei i tō makawe. Ka pā anō te tohutohu ki te moko e tika ana kia mau i a koe i tēnei wā, ki te whakarērea rānei i tō mahi, ki tētahi atu whakataunga nui rānei o te ao. Kaua e whakararuraru i tō harikoa o te ao nā te mea i hē tētahi mea.

Kāore koe e whakatau nui ina pāngia koe e te mate. Tērā pea kei te kaha rawa ō kare ā-roto, ā, ka puta te pouri ki a koe mō ēnei whakatau ohorere. Nō reira, kaua e huri i tō āhua, i tō āhua rānei – ka mihi koe ki a koe anō mō ​​tēnā ā muri ake nei. Kaua e tukua te hiahia ki te huri i a koe i roto i te pō kotahi kia taea ai te huri i a koe anō. kia ora i te wehenga.

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Ko te āhuatanga o tēnei tukanga whakaora katoa i muri i tētahi wehenga uaua, he roa te wā. E kore e taea e koe te wareware ki tō hoa aroha o mua i roto i te rā kotahi. Kāore pea i roto i ngā marama e toru, e ono rānei, i roto rānei i ngā wā tino kino, i te tau, e rua rānei. I taua wā, he mea nui kia mahi koe i ēnei mahi kia kaua e maringi te miraka ki runga i ō mahi katoa.

15. Kaua e haere ki ngā wāhi e whakamahara ana i a koe ki tō hoa o mua

He wāhi anō kei reira i pai ai kōrua ko tō hoa o mua ki te toro atu? Tērā pea he maharatanga pai kei a kōrua e pā ana ki te toa hokohoko, ki te whare kawhe iti rānei i te taha o te huarahi i tūtaki ai kōrua? Āe, i tēnei wā, karohia ēnei wāhi, ā, whakatakotohia he rohe mōu ake. Ka taea e ēnei wāhi te whakaoho i ō kare ā-roto, me te whakaroa i a koe i roto i tō haerenga whakaora. Hei tāpiri, kei reira tonu te tūponotanga o te tūtaki ki tō hoa o mua i ēnei wāhi, ka taea ai e koe te ruku anō ki roto i te pouri me te hiahia.

Nō reira, he pai ake te whakatau tonu atu kāore koe e toro atu ki ēnei wāhi. Ko ngā wāhi katoa i toro atu koe me tō hoa o mua, e mōhio ana rānei koe he hoa aroha tō hoa o mua, me tohu he wāhi kāore e taea te toro atu. Whakawhirinaki mai ki a mātou, ka ora koe i te ao mamae.

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16. Kaua e takahuri i roto i te aroha ki a koe anō

Kaua e waiho te pouri i muri i te wehenga hei oranga tuturu. Ehara i te mea ko tō hoa o mua anake te tangata nui i roto i tō ao, ā, ehara hoki i te mea kotahi tēnei whanaungatanga i roto i tō ao. Kaua e hoatu ki a rātou te mana ki te noho i tētahi wāhanga nui o ō whakaaro me tō oranga. He wā uaua ngā mea i muri i te wehenga, ā, ka taea e koe te noho pūmau. Whakaaetia ō kare ā-roto i muri i te wehenga, engari kaua e noho noa me te pouri ki a koe anō.

E kī ana a Nandita, "Whakaaetia ka pā koe ki tētahi wā pōuri engari i te wā kotahi, kaua e tukua kia pehia koe e taua wā. Kaua e noho roa i taua wā, kaua hoki e noho pōuri ki roto i te aroha ki a koe anō." Ina mōhio koe kua wehe kōrua i te aroha, whakaae ki ngā kare ā-roto, tangihia kia rite ki tō hiahia, engari i te mutunga, neke whakamua. Kaua e whakarongo tonu ki ngā waiata pouri, ā, tīmatahia te tukanga whakaora i te wā e taea ai e koe. Ka mihi koe ki a koe anō mō ​​tēnā!

17. Kaua e taka ki roto i te mahanga o te whakamahi kino i ngā matū

He maha rangahau Whakamātauria ka taea e te pouri te whakaoho i te whanonga rapu utu. Kia tūpato ki aua hiahia. Kaua e tukua koe kia toro atu ki taua pounamu wīkī e tino hiahiatia ana e koe nā te mea e whakaaro ana koe ka āwhina i a koe ora tonu i te mamae o te ngākauKa mutu, ka puta he raruraru hou, ā, ka kino rawa atu ngā āhuatanga mōu i te wā roa.

Ahakoa ka whakapā atu tō hoa o mua ki a koe, ka ngana rānei ki te kōrero, kaua e whakamahi i te waipiro, i ētahi atu matū rānei hei whakamarie i te ngaru o tō hinengaro. Kia matara rawa atu i ngā matū whakawara i tēnei wā uaua. Ehara te waranga i te mea whakakatakata, ā, ka taea e ia te whakangaro i tō oranga. Nō reira, he pai ake kia noho tonu koe ki te whakahaere i a koe anō. Waea atu ki tētahi hoa tonu ina whakaaro koe kei te nui rawa atu koe i te waipiro, i ngā tarukino rānei, ina hiahia rānei koe ki te kai i aua mea.

18. Kua oti katoa te kōrero, kaua e tere te tukanga whakaora

Ka rite te wehenga ki te mutunga o te ao. Mēnā he pēnei te āhua, he mea nui kia whai wā koe ki te whakatā. Me tuku e koe he wāhi me te wā ki a koe anō ki te pouri. Ahakoa te mutunga o te whanaungatanga, he tika ō kare ā-roto. Ā, he haerenga tonu te tukatuka i aua kare ā-roto. Kaua e whakaaro he mea tika kia hoki anō ki te mahi i te rā i muri i te wehenga, tera pea ka roa te wā kia rite anō ki a koe anō. Ko te tikanga o te wehenga ko te ngaronga o tētahi wāhanga nui o tō oranga. Ahakoa kua huri ohorere rātou hei hoa o mua, ehara i te mea kua kore koe e aroha ki a rātou!

Te hinga i te aroha He roa te wā, ā, koinei te wā e tika ana kia hoatu e koe. Kaua e tīmata wawe i ētahi atu whanaungatanga, ā, ka mutu, ka mahi anō i ngā hapa ōrite. Me whiwhi ō hoa aroha ā muri ake nei i tētahi putanga pai ake, kua ora ake. He mea nui te tangihanga mō te mutunga o tētahi whanaungatanga. Nō reira, me tangi te mutunga o tō whanaungatanga pērā i te tangihanga mō te matenga o tētahi e arohaina ana. Kaua e mangere ki te tirotiro i ngā kare ā-roto katoa. Nā te mea he tika te pouri, ahakoa he aha te mea i whakaoho i taua mea.

19. Kaua e whakararuraru i tō oranga katoa mō tō hoa o mua

Kaua e whakarerekē i ngā mea katoa o tō ao nā te mea kei te tangi koe mō te mutunga o tētahi whanaungatanga. Ngāna kia mau tonu ki tētahi tikanga, ahakoa he māmā, he uaua rānei. Me mahi tonu i ngā mea katoa i mahia e koe i mua i te wehenga. Kia noho tahi me ō hoa aroha i ngā wā katoa. He āwhina tēnei ki te whai i te haere tonu me te pumau o te ao, ā, ka māmā ake te wikitoria i te wehenga hauora.

Mena he wāhanga nui tō hoa o mua i roto i tō mahinga, hangaia he mahinga hou. Ka whai hua whakamiharo tēnei mō tō hauora hinengaro, ā, ka āwhina hoki ki te whakaora i te manukanuka i muri i te wehenga. Whakaritea he wā mō ētahi mahi ā-tinana - te oma, te hikoi, te whakakorikori tinana rānei i te whare takaro. He tohutohu pai ēnei mō te whakapai ake i te wairua i muri i te wehenga, me te whakanui ake i te hihiko. Engari ko te mea nui, ka noho pukumahi koe, ā, ka aukati i a koe kei huri haere ki ngā whakaaro mō tō hoa o mua me te whanaungatanga.

E rima ngā wāhanga o te pouri - te whakakahore, te riri, te whiriwhiri, te pouri, me te whakaae. Ā, ko te ngaronga o tētahi tangata nui te take o ēnei katoa. Ahakoa kei hea koe i roto i tēnei huringa, kia mōhio koe ka taea te whakaora i muri i te wehenga. Ahakoa te mamae o te wehenga, ka taea tonu te neke atu.

Ngāna kia aro atu ki ngā āhuatanga hauora pērā i te whakatakoto rohe, te kōrero ki ngā hoa, me te waihanga i tētahi tikanga hou. Ka māmā ake te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto mamae o tētahi hononga kore angitu. Ā, ko wai ka mōhio, pērā i te nuinga o ngā wāhanga uaua o te ao, ka āwhina hoki tēnei i a koe ki te huri hei putanga pai ake, kaha ake, me te whakaaro nui ake o koe. Whakawhirinaki mai ki a mātou, he oranga ataahua kei muri i te wehenga e tatari ana ki a koe.

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