21 Ngā Ture Matua mō te Whakawhanaungatanga hei Whakahōhonu ake i tō Hononga

He mea uaua ki te tokomaha te mārama ki ngā ture me ngā kawenga o te whanaungatanga. Nā te mea he ahurei ia tangata, ia tangata, he tino uaua te piri ki tētahi huinga ture whanaungatanga hauora e pai ana mō te katoa. Mēnā ko koe tētahi o te hunga e hiahia ana ki te mārama ki ngā ture e hiahiatia ana e tētahi whanaungatanga hei āwhina i a kōrua kia tata ake ai, kia hohonu ake ai hoki tō hononga me te whakaute, kei a mātou ētahi o ngā ture whanaungatanga tino whai hua māu. He tino nui ēnei tohutohu mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te tīmata whānau me te ako i ngā mea nui o tētahi whanaungatanga kia angitu ai.

He aha te hiranga o ngā ture whanaungatanga?

I mua i te peke atu ki ngā ture whanaungatanga, me whai wā tātou ki te mārama he aha te hiranga o ēnei ture. Mā te mōhio ki te hiranga o ēnei ture ka āwhina i a tātou ki te hanga i tētahi māramatanga pai ake mō ngā whanaungatanga, me te hanga hononga kare ā-roto kaha ake, hohonu ake hoki ki ētahi atu. He rite ki te whakatakoto i te turanga mō tētahi whanaungatanga kaha, hauora hoki. Anei ētahi take matua he mea nui te whai i ēnei ture taketake i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga:

• Mā ngā ture whanaungatanga ka āwhina ngā hoa ki te whakatere i ō rātou hononga me te mārama me te whai take
• Ko ngā ture i roto i te whanaungatanga ka whakatakoto i ngā rohe hei hanga i te whakawhirinaki me te whakaute i waenga i ngā hoa
• Mā te whai i ēnei aratohu ka mōhiotia ai te ngākau hari o ngā hoa tokorua, ā, ka mārama hoki rātou ki a rātou anō.
• Mā te aro atu ki ngā take pea i te tīmatanga, ka whakatenatenahia e ēnei ture te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera, ā, ka ārai i ngā taupatupatu.
• Hei whakamutunga, ko ngā ture whanaungatanga te pūtake pakari mō tētahi hononga harikoa, pumau hoki.

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Ko ngā ture me ngā rohe hauora, i te nuinga o te wā, he mea nui hei whakahaere i roto, engari he mea nui kia mārama ki ngā tirohanga a tētahi ki tētahi mō ngā ture. E ai ki tētahi rangahau , "Ko ngā ture pakari i tautokona ake i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, ā, i honoa nui atu ki te pakanga i ngā ture ngāwari." Nō reira, he pai ngā ture i raro nei ki te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine mō te wā roa, engari ka akiaki mātou i a koe kia whakarite i ngā ture o te whanaungatanga kia kitea ai e ngā hoa tokorua/ngā hoa katoa he anga whai hua mō te whanaungatanga pumau me te whai hua.

21 Ngā Ture Matua mō te Whakawhanaungatanga hei Whakahōhonu ake i tō Hononga

Ahakoa he motuhake ia whanaungatanga, he ture anō kei roto i te whanaungatanga hei maumahara, hei arotahi hoki kia mōhio ai kei te whai wāhi tō whanaungatanga ki te whawhai. Kia maumahara, ehara ēnei i te 'ture' pērā i ngā ture. E kapi ana ēnei ture taketake i roto i te whanaungatanga i ngā whanonga whānui me ngā āhuatanga e hiahiatia ana e ia whanaungatanga hauora , tae atu ki te marena, kia huri hei whanaungatanga roa. Ko tāu e pānui nei ko ētahi o ngā ture tino nui o te whanaungatanga:

1. Ko te korero te mea matua

Koinei tētahi o ngā ture matua o tētahi whanaungatanga kāore e taea te wareware. Kia ora ai, kia whai hua ai hoki tētahi whanaungatanga, me ako kōrua ko tō hoa ki te kōrero tetahi ki tetahi. He mea nui kia mahara ko te kōrero ehara i te kōrero. Ko te kōrero tuwhera ko te kōrero, te mārama, me te ngana ki te whakatutuki i ngā tūranga me ngā herenga e tumanakohia ana e tō hoa i a koe. Mō tētahi whanaungatanga roa, ko te whai kōrero tuwhera me te pupuri i tētahi ara kōrero haumaru te mea nui.

2. Ako ki te whakarongo

Nā te mea kua whakapūmautia te hiranga o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, me kōrero tātou mō tētahi o ngā mea tino nui - te whakarongo kaha. Koinei pea tētahi o ngā ture noa i roto i te whanaungatanga ka tautokona e ngā kaitohutohu whanaungatanga katoa. He paerewa kei roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, he mea nui tēnei. Me whakarongo koe. Ehara i te mea mō ngā kaupapa nui pēnei i te wehi, ngā tumanako, ngā moemoeā rānei anake tēnei, engari mō ngā raruraru iti e pā ana ki ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i roto i ō rātou oranga. Anei ētahi mea hei maumahara:

• Whakaharatauhia te whakarongo kaha mā te aro katoa ki tō hoa, me te kore e whakakorekore, e whakatakoto whakautu rānei i a rātou e kōrero ana.
• Whakaatuhia te aroha me te māramatanga mā te whakamana i ō rātou kare ā-roto me ō rātou tirohanga, me te poipoi i tētahi taiao e rongohia ai rātou, e whakanuia ai hoki.
• Whakarongo whakaaroaro, whakamāramahia ngā kōrero a tō hoa, kia mārama ai te katoa, ā, kia whakaatu hoki kei te tino hiahia koe ki ō rātou whakaaro me ō rātou kare ā-roto.

Mō te whanaungatanga kaha, angitu hoki, me tuwhera te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Mō ngā ture whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, he huarahi nui tēnei, ā, he huarahi anō hoki hei whakanui ake i te hononga aroha i waenga i ngā hoa.

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3. Te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi i runga ake i ngā mea katoa

Ko te tuatahi o ngā ture o te whanaungatanga ko te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi. Inaianei, tera pea koe e whakaaro ana ki a koe anō: "He kōrero rerekē tēnei. Ae, e whakaute ana ahau ki taku hoa, ā, he atawhai tonu ahau ki a ia." He whakaaro tika tēnei, engari ehara tēnā i te tikanga o te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi.

He ngāwari te atawhai ina koa koe ki tō hoa. Ko te tikanga o te "whakaute tetahi ki tetahi" ko te atawhai, te whai whakaaro, me te mārama ki tō hoa ahakoa i ngā wā raruraru, pērā i tāu e hiahia ana kia pērā rātou ki a koe. Koinei te āhua: 

• Te mōhio ki ō rātou kare ā-roto me ō rātou whakaaro mamae, me te whakatū i ngā rohe hauora
• Te kaha ki te tautohetohe hauora
• Te whakaatu i te taumata whakaute kotahi e tumanakohia ana e koe hei utu

4. He tīma koutou, ā, ka kōrerohia e ngā tīma ngā mea katoa

Ko tētahi o ngā ture koura mō te whanaungatanga mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ko te kōrero tahi i ngā mea katoa. Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe kua oti kē tēnei i a koe nā te mea kua kōrero koe ki tō hoa mō tō rā, ā, kua whakarongo koe ki a rātou, engari kāore te kōrero i te rite ki te kōrero noa mō tō rā. Ko te tikanga o te kōrero hauora ko te kōrero mō tētahi mea me te kimi i tētahi huarahi waenga mō ngā kaupapa nui, pērā i te whakatau i te whanaungatanga ā-tinana, me ētahi atu. Ko ētahi o ēnei kaupapa ko:

• Ko tēhea tāone hei noho
• He huringa mahi pea
• Ngā pūtea tahi
• Me pēhea te whakapau i ō rā
• Me pēhea te whai tautohetohe hauora

Ara, me kōrero tonu ki tō hoa ina he whakatau hei whakatau mā kōrua, inā koa mēnā kei te rapu koe i tētahi whanaungatanga roa. Koinei tētahi o ngā ture koura mō tētahi whanaungatanga hauora hei āwhina i a kōrua ki te hanga whakawhirinaki i waenganui i a kōrua. 

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5. Homai he waahi mo tetahi ki tetahi

Ko tētahi ture i roto i ngā whanaungatanga e warewarehia ana ko te hiranga o te hoatu wāhi ki tētahi ki tētahi. He maha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine hou e hē ana ki te whakapau i ō rātou wā katoa ki te noho tahi, ka tūpono ka ngaro ō rātou tuakiri, tō rātou kukume, me te whanaungatanga ā-tinana . Nō reira, ko te hoatu wāhi ki tētahi ki tētahi tētahi o ngā ture matua o te whanaungatanga tino nui hei whakatakoto. Anei ētahi mea ka taea e koe te mahi hei whiwhi wāhi i roto i te whanaungatanga:

• Whakapuakina māramatia tō hiahia mō te wā mokemoke ki tō hoa
• Whakaritea he wā mō ngā mahi whakangahau me ngā mahi e hari ai koe i waho atu i te whanaungatanga, nā te mea he mea nui anō hoki te whai wā mōku kia rongo ai koe i te arohaina.
• Whakapaua he wā ki te tirotiro i a koe anō, ki te mārama ki ō kare ā-roto me ō hiahia
• Kia mau tonu te whanaungatanga ki ngā hoa me te whānau hei tautoko me te tirohanga ki tua atu i tō hoa rangatira

6. Ako ki te whakaae

Kei te pukumahi koe ki te rapu huarahi hei whakapakari i te whanaungatanga me te hoa tāne/wahine/hoa rangatira? Kua rongo pea koe i tēnei kupu i ngā miriona wā: ko te whakaae te mea nui i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Engari koinei te mea: he tokomaha te hunga kāore i te tino mōhio me pēhea te mahi i tēnei me te kore e whakaaro kei te tino whakarērea e rātou. He tika te whakaaro o te tūtaki i waenganui, engari he maha ngā wā ka waiho koe me tō hoa kia kore e makona. He maha ngā tohutohu hei whakaae i te huarahi tika i roto i ngā whanaungatanga katoa.

• Whaia ngā otinga whai hua mō te katoa mā te mārama ki ngā hiahia o tētahi ki tētahi, me te kimi i ngā otinga auaha
• Whakarongo mārire kia mārama ai koe ki ngā tirohanga a tō hoa i mua i te tuku i tō ake whakaaro.
• Kia ngāwari, kia tuwhera te hinengaro, kia hiahia ki te whakarerekē i ō tumanakohanga, ki te kimi i ngā huarahi e ōrite ai, me te whakaae ki ngā arotake pai.
• Akohia me pēhea te whai tautohetohe hauora 

Pērā i ngā mea pai katoa, me whakapau kaha me te ngākau nui ki ngā whanaungatanga. Ko te whai ngākau nui ki te whakaae i ngā whakaritenga ka taea te waiho hei koti whakaora mō tō whanaungatanga i a koe e rere ana i ngā wai uaua.

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7. Kaua e whakarite i tō whanaungatanga ki ētahi atu

Ko te mea nui rawa atu o ngā ture me ngā whakaritenga whanaungatanga ko te kaua e whakarite i tō whanaungatanga ki ētahi atu. Ahakoa te āhua kino o te whakataurite i tō whanaungatanga ki ērā o ētahi atu i tō taha, he maha ngā wā ka arahi ki te ahotea koretake me te koretake. He motuhake ia whanaungatanga, ā, ko te mea e pai ana mō tētahi tokorua, kāore pea e pai mō tētahi atu. 

Ina ine tonu te tokorua i tō rāua whanaungatanga ki ētahi atu, ka puta ake ngā momo āwangawanga me ngā tumanakohanga koretake. Engari, arotahi ki tā kōrua ake haerenga. Whakanuia ō kōrua angitu, whakatauria ngā wero hei rōpū, ā, whakanuia ngā wā me ngā rā motuhake e motuhake ai tō kōrua whanaungatanga.

8. Whai wāhi atu ki ngā mahi whakangahau a tō hoa

He ture tino māmā mō te whanaungatanga ko te whai wāhi atu ki ngā mahi whakangahau a tō hoa. Ka taea hoki e ia te āwhina i a kōrua kia noho hei hoa pai. Kāore pea kōrua e mārama ki ngā mahi whakangahau a tō hoa, e hiahia ana rānei ki a rātou, kāore rānei e whakaae ana tō mahi pukumahi. Heoi, hei whakapakari i tō hononga ki tō hoa, hei whakapau i te wā kounga ki a kōrua, me whai wā koe ki te mārama he aha rātou i pai ai ki ā rātou mahi whakangahau, ā, me ngana ki te whai wāhi atu ki aua mahi.

He huarahi whakamiharo tēnei hei whakaatu i tō maioha ki tō hoa rangatira me ā rāua mahi whakangahau. Ehara i te mea me uru atu koe ki tō hoa rangatira i a ia e mahi ana i ā rāua mahi whakangahau, engari mā te uru atu ki a rāua i ētahi wā, me te whakaatu kei te ngana koe ki te mārama ki a rāua, ka āwhina i a koe ki te pupuri i tētahi whanaungatanga kaha.

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9. Kia mau tonu te whakaipoipo tetahi ki tetahi

Ehara i te mea ngaro ka taka ngā whanaungatanga ki roto i te mahanga o ngā mahi o ia rā i roto i te wā, ā, he huarahi pai te miharo i tō hoa mā te ngana ki te arotahi ki ā rāua mea e pai ana ki a rāua. Ngāna kia titiro ki a rāua hei hoa pai rawa atu māu. Kei te mahara koe ki te ora o tō whanaungatanga i te tīmatanga? I whakapau kaha koe ki te menemene i te mata o tō hoa. He hiko te hononga, ā, kāore i taea e kōrua te makona tetahi ki tetahi, tika? Ka taea e ētahi mea te whakaora i te aroha pono me te whakahoki mai i te mura . Tirohia ētahi ture whanaungatanga aroha hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakaara anō i te ahi o mua:

• Whakamaherehia he pō whakatā motuhake
• Whakaohokia rātou mā te hoko i ngā taonga kua roa e tirohia ana e rātou
• Whakamaherehia he hararei
• Whakapaua te wā ki te mahi tahi i ngā mea rerekē

Kāore he mea e kiia ana he nui rawa te aroha. He mea nui te whakaipoipo tonu tetahi ki tetahi kia mau tonu ai te mura o te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga mo te wa roa. He mea noa te uru atu ki ngā mahi o ia rā, e kore ai e pai ki te miharo i tō hoa. Nō reira, me waiho hei tetahi o ngā whakaritenga o te whanaungatanga te whakapau i te wā kounga tahi.

10. Kia noho hei tautoko e hiahiatia ana e tō hoa

Ko te tautoko i tō hoa rangatira te ture whanaungatanga tino nui. Ahakoa te āhua ngāwari o tēnei, koinei tētahi o ngā mea tino uaua ki te mahi. He ngāwari te whakaatu tautoko i roto i te whanaungatanga ina whakaae koe ki tō hoa rangatira. Ko te mahi tino uaua ko te ako ki te tautoko i tō hoa rangatira ina whakahē koe ki a rātou, te whakaae ki ngā whakahē pai, me te waihanga i tētahi wāhi haumaru mō ngā whakahē. Ka māmā ake mēnā ka titiro koe ki tō hoa rangatira hei hoa pai.

Me maumahara koe ko tō hoa rangatira tōna ake tangata, ā, he āhua, he uauatanga, he kare ā-roto, me ngā rapunga whakaaro o te ao anō hoki ōna. Me ako koe ki te tautoko i ā rātou whiringa ahakoa he rerekē rātou i tāu. Mā tēnei ka āwhina i te hanga whakawhirinaki me te waihanga i tētahi wāhi haumaru mō te tokorua kia noho tahi mārire ai.

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11. Ako ki te muru hara

He ture hauora te ako ki te muru hara , engari tera pea koinei te mea tino uaua. Ka hē tō hoa, ka whara koe, ka whakapōuri i a koe, ā, i ētahi wā ka meinga koe kia pātai mō te tika o te whanaungatanga me tōna whanaungatanga piripono. Koinei pea te ture tino uaua ki te whai i waenga i te hoa tāne me te hoa wahine, engari he mea hei ārai i ngā kare ā-roto mamae.

I ēnei wā pōuri, me whakaaroaro koe, me arotahi hoki ki ngā mahi pai katoa a tō hoa, me ngana hoki ki te muru i a rātou mō ā rātou hara o nāianei, mena ka whakaatu ia i te pouri mō ā rātou mahi. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te murunga hara, engari he mea tēnei me mahi e koe kia angitu ai te whanaungatanga. Arā, me ako koe ki te muru me te wareware.

12. Kaua e whakawehi ki te wehe

Ki te mea kei te rapu koe i ngā ture matua mō tētahi whanaungatanga, koinei tētahi e kore e taea e koe te wareware. Ahakoa te maha o ō tautohetohe, te kino o ngā tautohetohe, te riri rānei, kaua rawa e whakawehi ki te whakamutu i te whanaungatanga ki te kore koe e hiahia ki te mahi i tēnā. Kia mahara ki tō whakaaro i mua ko tō hoa te mea pai rawa atu hei pā ki a koe, me tō kī atu i a ia ko tō hoa tino motuhake? Nō reira, ina ara ake te whakaaro mō te wehe atu i a koe e tino riri ana, hoki whakamuri, ka marino i mua i te kōrero i ngā mea ka pouri pea koe.

Titiro mai, mā te whakawehi ki te wehe atu, ka huri pea te whanonga o tō hoa i te wā tuatahi ka mahi koe i tēnā. Engari ka hē tonu rātou mai i taua wā tonu. Kia tae ki te wā tuarima, tuaono rānei, tērā pea kāore rātou e aro, e whakaute rānei i a koe kia noho tonu ai, ā, ka kimi noa i ngā take hei whakamutu i te whanaungatanga mā rātou anō.

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13. He taputapu kaha te whakawai

Ko tētahi o ngā ture pai mō te whanaungatanga mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ko te whakapatipati tonu i a rātou anō. I ētahi wā, ina pai te noho o te tāne me te wāhine, ka mutu tā rāua whakapatipati tetahi i tetahi. He tika tēnei, he mahi uaua hoki te whakapatipati. Engari he mea tēnei e kore e taea te wareware ina hiahia koe ki te pupuri i tētahi hononga pono. Ā, ki te mutu tētahi, ka mutu anō hoki tētahi. 

Heoi, kia kore ai te whanaungatanga e tawhito, he mea nui kia mau tonu te takaro me te whakawai tetahi ki tetahi (ā, tera pea ka whakaatu pinepine i te aroha ki te marea ). Ko tētahi o ngā ture pai rawa atu tēnei hei whakatakoto i roto i te whanaungatanga. Mā tēnei ka mōhio te tangata kei te aro tonu koe ki a ia, ka āwhina i te whakanui ake i tōna whakaaro ki a ia anō, ā, ka whakapai ake i tōna wairua. Kaua rawa e wareware ki tēnei hei ture matua mō te whanaungatanga, kaua hoki e mutu te takaro. Whakapaua he wā kounga ki a koe, ā, kia whakarite kia whakaritea he pō i ētahi wā, kia aro noa ai koe ki ngā hiahia o tō hoa.

14. Me ako tonu tetahi i tetahi

Tērā pea he nui ake te mōhio o tētahi ki tētahi kaupapa, ko tētahi ki tētahi atu kaupapa. He ture nui te ako tetahi i tetahi mō te whanaungatanga, nā te mea ka āwhina i a tātou kia tipu ake, kia mārama ake ai tetahi ki tetahi. Ka kawea mai e ia tangata ngā wheako, ngā tirohanga, me ngā pūkenga ahurei, hei whakarei ake i te whanaungatanga me ngā māramatanga rerekē. Ko te aroha pono ko te āhei ki te ako tetahi i tetahi me te ngahau tahi. Mā te ako tetahi i tetahi, ehara i te mea ka tipu takitahi tātou engari ka whakapakari ake hoki i tō tātou hononga hei tokorua. Mā tēnei, ka whai wā pai kōrua tetahi ki tetahi. Anei ētahi tauira:

• Ka ako tō hoa i a koe ki te tākaro i tētahi taonga puoro, ko koe ia e āwhina ana i a ia ki te whakapai ake i ōna pūkenga tunu kai.
• Ka tohaina e koe ō mōhiotanga mō ngā au o te hangarau, ā, ka whakamōhio atu tō hoa i a koe ki ngā tuhinga tawhito.
• Ka whakaaturia e rātou ki a koe te whakatika i tētahi taputapu turuturu, ā, ka whakaakona e koe ki tētahi reo hou.
• Ka kōrero mai tō hoa i ōna pūkenga māra, ā, māu rātou e ārahi ki te whakatakoto i tētahi mahere tahua.

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15. Kaua e whakahoki anō i ngā huringa kino

He mea hanga te tangata i te tikanga. Ka kitea i ia rā. He momo mahi ia tangata, he kaupapa kāore e rerekē. Ka kitea anō hoki tēnei i roto i ō rātou whanonga me ō rātou āhua. Ko te raruraru, ka hoki anō tātou ki te whakahoki i ō tātou āhuatanga kino. He kino tēnei mō te whanaungatanga pai, ā, ka hē koe mēnā ka mau tonu koe i aua huringa. Ko tētahi o ngā ture tino nui mō te whanaungatanga hauora ko te kore e whakahoki anō i ngā huringa kino. Ko ētahi tauira o ngā huringa kino ko:

• Karanga-ingoa
• Te tere o te riri
• Te hoki whakamuri ki tāu kupu
• Te mahi i tētahi ara e ngaro ai te whakapono o tō hoa ki a koe

He mea nui kia mōhio koe ki ō tauira kino, kia ngana hoki ki te wikitoria i aua tauira. Ko te heke mai o tō whanaungatanga kei runga i tēnā. Nō reira, whakatūria tēnei hei tētahi o ngā ture o tētahi whanaungatanga e kore e taea te whiriwhiri.

16. Kia kotahi te whāinga

Mō ngā ture mō te whanaungatanga aroha, ko tētahi ture tino nui ko te whakatū i ngā whāinga ōrite. Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe he mea koretake tēnei, nā te mea he tokorua kōrua he whāinga takitahi ā kōrua. Ahakoa he pono tēnā, he tokorua anō hoki kōrua, ā, he tīma ngā tokorua. He whāinga ōrite ā ngā tīma. Nō reira, ka hohonu ake anō hoki te whanaungatanga wairua o tō kōrua whanaungatanga.

Kāore ō whāinga whanaungatanga e hiahiatia kia nui, kia whakarerekē rānei i tō koiora, ā, he māmā noa iho ēnei, pērā i:

• Te penapena mō tētahi hararei moemoeā
• Te tiki mōkai
• Te whakahaere i tētahi kaupapa, pērā i te whakapaipai tahi i tō rūma

Ehara i te mea nui te whāinga tonu, engari mā te whakatakoto me te whakatutuki i ngā whāinga ngātahi ka whakapakari ake i tō kōrua hononga, ā, ka nui ake tō kōrua whakawhirinaki ki tētahi atu. Ka puāwai noa te aroha pono mēnā ka whakapau kaha kōrua ki te angitu ngātahi. 

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17. Kia mārama ki ngā kaha me ngā ngoikoretanga o tētahi ki tētahi

Kāore tō hoa rangatira i te tino tika, me koe anō hoki. He kaha ō rātou, he ngoikore hoki ō rātou. Ko ēnei ētahi o ngā mea tino taketake me mōhio koe mō tō hoa rangatira . Ko tētahi o ngā ture nui mō te whanaungatanga hauora ko te mārama ki tō hoa rangatira, me te tuku i a rātou ki te ārahi i te wā e kaha ana rātou ki roto, me te ārahi anō hoki i ngā wāhi e ngoikore ana rātou.

Mā tēnei ka mōhio tō hoa ka taea e ia te whakawhirinaki ki a koe ina tae ki te wā, ā, ka āwhina hoki ki te hanga hononga hinengaro kaha i waenganui i a kōrua. Ko te whakatakoto i ngā ture whanaungatanga aroha ko te mōhio ki ngā kaha me ngā ngoikoretanga o tētahi ki tētahi.

18. Kōrerohia ngā pūtea

He ture nui te kōrero mō ngā pūtea, nā te mea ka whakatakoto i te tūāpapa mō te māramatanga me te pumau o ngā pūtea. He pūtake nui pea ngā take pūtea mō te ahotea me te taupatupatu i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, engari mā te kōrero tuwhera mō ngā tahua, ngā whakapaunga, me ngā whāinga pūtea ka āwhina i te hanga whakawhirinaki me te kotahitanga. 

He uaua te whakatakoto ture whanaungatanga mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Ka uru katoa tātou ki ngā whanaungatanga me tō tātou whanaungatanga ahurei ki te moni. Engari mā te mārama ki ngā tikanga me ngā uara pūtea o tētahi ki tētahi ka taea te whakatau pai ake me te whakamahere mō te heke mai.

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19. Akohia me pēhea te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto kino

Ko tētahi ture tino nui mō te whanaungatanga ko te mārama ki te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto kino o tō hoa. I roto i te whanaungatanga, ka riri tō hoa, ka pouri, ka pouri, ka manukanuka, ā, ka pā ki ngā kare ā-roto kino katoa ka taea e te tangata te rongo.

I ēnei wā, me mōhio koe ki te whakamarie i a rātou, me te ārai hoki i a rātou kei totohu ki te pouri. Me whakarite hoki kia kore e kore he hononga kare ā-roto . He mea nui te mōhio ki te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto kino o tō hoa rangatira hei pupuri i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora me te kore e whakatupu i te kawa. He pūkenga tēnei me whakawhanake e koe mēnā e hiahia ana koe kia roa tō whanaungatanga.

20. Akohia tō rātou reo aroha

Ko tētahi atu o ngā ture hauora mō te whanaungatanga ko te ako i te reo aroha o tō hoa, kātahi ka ringihia te aroha ki a rātou i te ara e pai ai rātou. He rerekē te reo aroha o ia tangata, ā, tera pea ka miharo koe ki te kite he tino rerekē te reo aroha o tō hoa i tōu. Kei raro nei ētahi tauira o ngā momo reo aroha me te whakamahinga:

• Hoatu-homai: He reo aroha noa tēnei, kāore e hiahiatia he whakamārama. Hokona, hangaia rānei tētahi mea hei koha mā tō hoa hei whakaatu i tō maioha.
• Pa tinana: Mena koinei te reo aroha o tō hoa, ko te tikanga ka tino maioha rātou mā ngā mahi aroha ā-tinana, pērā i te awhi, te kihi, te pupuri ringa, me te taatai.
• Ngā mahi ratonga: Mena he mahi āwhina te reo aroha o tō hoa, ko te tikanga ka maioha rātou ki ngā mea iti katoa e mahia ana e koe hei whakangāwari i tō rātou oranga. Kei roto i tēnei ko ngā mahi kāinga, te mirimiri, me te whakahaere i ngā mahi iti o ia rā.
• Wā kounga: E whakanui ana tēnei reo aroha i te hiranga o te noho tahi me tō hoa rangatira. Ehara i te mea ko te noho tahi anake te mea nui, engari ko te kounga o taua wā. Ahakoa he kōrero whai tikanga, he haerenga mōrearea, he pārekareka noa rānei ki te noho tahi me te kore he mea whakararuraru, ko te mea nui ko te whakatairanga i te hononga pono me te whanaungatanga piripono.
• Nga kupu whakapumau: Ka tupu pai tēnei reo aroha i runga i ngā kupu whakamihi, tautoko, me te whakatenatena. Ahakoa mā roto i ngā mihi aroha, ngā reta aroha, ngā kupu whakatenatena pono rānei, mā te kī noa ki tō hoa te nui o tō whakaaro nui ki a ia, te whakamoemiti ki ōna kaha, me te whakapuaki i te whakawhetai mō tōna aroaro ka tino whakarei ake i tōna oranga ngākau.

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21. Me whakapai tonu i a koe anō, i a koe anō hoki, hei tokorua

Koinei te ture tino nui hei whai māu i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora. Kaua e mutu te whakapai ake i a koe anō. He mea tonu kei a koe hei tangata pai ake. Ko te pai ake o tō noho hei tangata, ko te pai ake hoki o tō noho hei hoa. Kāore he whakapau kaha nui atu i te whakapai ake i a koe anō.

He maha ngā huarahi hei whakapai ake i a koe anō. Anei ētahi whakaaro:

• Hono atu ki tētahi whare takaro tinana
• Kohikohia he mōhiotanga mō ngā kaupapa e pārekareka ana ki a koe
• Akohia tētahi pūkenga
• Tūhurahia ōu hiahia

Mā te whakapai tonu i a koe anō ka āwhina i a koe kia ora tonu te whanaungatanga , ā, ka pai ake hoki tō hoa. Heoi anō, he ture tēnei kaua e warewarehia.

He uaua, he taumaha hoki te whakatakoto ture whanaungatanga mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. I nāianei, kua mārama kē tō whakaaro mō te whakapakari i tō hononga ki tō hoa. Mā te whai i ēnei ture whanaungatanga ka pai ake tō hoa, ā, ka tata ake anō hoki kōrua ko tō hoa. He mea nui anō hoki kia mahara ko te tikanga o tō whanaungatanga he mea ngahau. Nō reira, kaua e taumaha mā te whakaaro ki ngā mea katoa me mahi e koe. Kia noho ko koe anō, whakawhirinaki ki tō hoa, me te mahi kia harikoa tetahi ki tetahi. Koinā anake te mea e hiahiatia ana e koe mō te whanaungatanga pai.

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Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

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