I moe tahi māua ko tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, ā, i tumanako ahau kia ora tonu māua…

(E ai ki te kōrero ki a Shivi Goyal)

Kāore he take mō te kore aroha ki a ia, te āhua nei he tino pai ia ki ahau mai i te rā i tīmata ai māua i tētahi hononga. Kāore au i whakaaro rua i mua i te moe tahi me tētahi tāne kua mārenatia. I tūtaki ahau ki a Akash i taku wāhi mahi; he tangata pai, he tangata ngāwari ia, he tino piripono ki ō mātou hoa mahi katoa i te tari.

He hou ahau ki te kamupene. I noho māua hei hoa, i noho tahi māua i ngā wā, i te mahi, i te harikoa, i te mamae me te maha o ngā haerenga tahi. He mea pai ki te tūtaki ki a ia, ki te mōhio pai ake ki a ia, me te tata atu. Kātahi ka mōhio ahau kua moe wahine ia.

Taku Whakaipoipo me tetahi Tangata Kua Marenatia

I tata ahau ki a ia; i pai te hononga o māua, ā, i uru atu māua ki tētahi whanaungatanga tino piripono, tino hoahoa (tērā pea he nui ake i te whanaungatanga hoa). Tae noa ki taua wā, ehara i te aroha pumau, engari kāore hoki i warewaretia. Nā tana katakata whakakatakata ahau i hari ai; māua tahi i aroha ki ngā taputapu, te puoro, te haereere me te pāti. E toru tau te pakeke ake o ia i ahau, ā, i hiahia tonu ahau ki te awhi i a ia.

"I taea e au te aukati i a au anō kei tata atu ki a ia me te mōhio kua moe wahine ia, ā, he whānau anō hoki tōna. Engari i ētahi wā, kua whakaritea ētahi mea kia puta noa... I haere noa ahau i runga i ōku kare ā-roto." Ki ahau nei, ehara i te whanaungatanga moepuku, i te whanaungatanga piripono rānei, engari he mea kua uru hohonu ahau ki roto, i roto i te kare ā-roto me te aroha. I aroha ahau ki tētahi tāne kua moe wahine, ā, i mōhio ahau kei te teka ahau ki a au anō ka pēnei tonu ngā mea.

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Ngā Tohu e Manaaki Ana te Tāne Kua Mārenatia Ki Ahau

I puta mai te ohorere i a ia, engari koinei te tohu tuatahi e aroha ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki ahau, e hiahia ana hoki ki te noho tahi māua. I tētahi rā, i a māua e haere ana ki tētahi hui pakihi. I tono ia kia noho tahi māua mō tētahi whanaungatanga pumau. I mea ia, "Kāore e taea e au te noho me te kore koe, engari kāore hoki e taea e au te noho tahi me koe. Engari me noho koe hei hoa mōku i roto i tētahi... hononga tuwhera te wāhi e tūtaki ai tō wairua ki tōku (kāore e taea e au te whakahua i tōna ingoa, te whakamārama rānei ki ngā kupu).”

I pūhia katoatia ahau e te huruhuru manu – mō tētahi wā poto ka mea tōku ngākau, “Āe, koinei taku e hiahia ana ake ake!” Me pupuri e au te noho hei hoa mōna ake ake, nā te mea kāore au i hiahia kia kino tana marena. Engari i whakaae ahau kia noho hei hoa pai māna, nā te mea i aroha ahau ki a ia.

Kāore au i whakaaro mō ngā tūponotanga o te whakaipoipo i tētahi tāne kua mārenatia

I harikoa ahau ki te tīmata i tētahi hononga aroha ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, kāore rawa i whakaaro he aha ngā hua o tēnā, he aha ngā tūponotanga o te whakaipoipo ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia? I haere tonu ahau nā te mea i tino aroha ahau. Kāore au i whakaaro ki ngā uauatanga ture o te whakaipoipo ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia.

He wā tēnei i te ata ki te pō ko tōna ingoa te ingoa whānau i runga i taku waea pūkoro. I kōrero māua mō tōna oranga marena me tana wahine anō hoki. He pouri tana kōrero; kāore i taea e ia te whakatutuki i tana i hiahia ai i roto i te marena. He whakaaetanga tēnei māna, nō reira kāore te whanaungatanga i tuku i te hononga o ngā ngākau, te noho tahi, te whakahoahoa rānei ki a ia.

Kāore au i tino piripono ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, i hiahia ahau kia mārena, kia noho tahi kia tae mai rā anō a Akash. Kāore au i te whakaaro ki tōku ao i tua atu i a ia. I pahemo ngā marama, ā, ka āta kite ahau kāore e taea e au te ora me te kore ia. E mōhio ana ahau he hē, engari i kite ahau i te otinga i a ia e tata ana ki ahau. Ko ia taku pukupuku. Kāore au i hiahia kia pakaru tana marena, engari kāore hoki au i hiahia kia noho wehe atu i a ia. Kāore au i whakaaro ki te wehe i taku tāne kua mārenatia.

I mutu ohorere taku hononga ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia

I karanga mai ia i ahau ki tētahi whare kawhe, ā, i kī mai kāore e taea e ia te haere tonu me te whanaungatanga. Kāore i homai he whakamārama. I roto ahau i ngā roimata. I pōuri ahau tinihangatia, ā, whakamahia ana ā, i hiahia ahau ki te huri hei Rewera Wahine, ka wero i a ia i reira tonu.

"Kātahi ka mutu noa iho. I wehe atu ia i ahau. I mutu tā māua whanaungatanga e whā tau, kāore he take i homai. I noho mokemoke ahau i te whare kawhe, ā, i haere noa atu ia i muri i tana kīnga kua mutu."

I tūtaki tonu ahau ki a ia i te mahi i muri i tērā, ā, he tino uaua ki te wareware i tētahi tangata e tūtaki ana ahau i ia rā, i ia rā. He maha ngā pātai kāore anō kia whakautua i roto i tōku hinengaro, ā, kāore i kitea he otinga. 

He whakatoi tana wahangu ki ahau, me taku aroha hoki ki a ia. I mahara ahau he nama tāna ki ahau mō tētahi whakautu kāore i homai e ia ki ahau. I haereere ia i te tari me te whanoke kāore he mea i waenganui i a māua, ā, he hoa mahi noa iho māua.  He nui ngā mea i akohia e au mō te ao i muri i taku moepuku ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia.

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Kei te raru tonu ahau i tōku ao i muri i te moepuku

E toru tau ki muri tēnei. Kei te whakaaro tonu ahau ki a ia, engari e kino ana ahau ki a ia mō āna mahi ki ahau. Heoi anō, nā te mea kāore anō kia tae mai aku whakautu me ngā take mō te wehenga, he tino kino, he tino pōuri hoki te āhua.

Kua neke atu ia, engari kāore anō kia mārena ahau, nā te mea pea he uaua ki ahau te aro atu ki te wehenga me te whanaungatanga. Kāore au i te mōhio ko wai hei whakapae, me aha rānei. Nāku te he i taka ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, engari i te wā i mau ai te whanaungatanga, he tino pai, he tino whakahihiko, ā, i mahara tonu ahau he pumau tonu.

Ko te mea kotahi e tatari atu nei ahau, kia kotahi noa te titiro ki roto i ōna kanohi i mua i tōku matenga…kia kitea ai te take. Tērā pea ka makona ahau, ā, ka taea e au te neke atu… Tērā pea.E ai ki te kōrero ki a Shivi Goyal)

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