He mea noa te pāngia e te āhua pōrearea i roto i te marena. Ka memeha haere te ngākau aroha, ka memeha haere te manaaki, ka ngaro te aroha, ā, ka herea te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ki ngā mea e tika ana kia mahia, kia whakatikahia rānei. Ka riro i te matapae ngā āhuatanga katoa o te whanaungatanga, ā, ka pā atu ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki a rāua anō i te whare tira, i te kīhini rānei, me te kore e menemene, e titiro kanohi rānei. Ina tīmata te whānui haere o te tawhiti o te kare ā-roto, tera pea ka whakaaro koe, "He aha te take kāore taku tāne e aro mai ana ki ahau?"
He mea mōhio tēnei ki a koe? Kei te pupuhi ō kanohi i te roimata i a koe e mahara ana ki ō rā o mua i a kōrua e marena hou ana, ā, kāore i taea e kōrua te pupuri i ō kōrua ringa tetahi ki tetahi? He maha ngā wā ka whakaaro koe he aha te mea i tupu? He aha te take ka ngaro ai te hiahia o te tāne ki tana wahine? Ina tupu tēnā, he aha tāu e taea ai te mahi hei whakatika i te āhuatanga? Me tūhura, me matapaki tātou i ngā tohu me ngā take e ngaro ai te hiahia o te tāne ki tana wahine, me ngā mea ka taea te mahi hei whakaora i te whanaungatanga ina tae ki tēnei wā.
Ngā Tohu o te Kāre o te Tāne e Hiahia ki te Wahine
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He ngahau katoa te marena, ā, he moepuku hoki wā honi He mea whakamiharo hoki te whakapuaki i tō oranga ki te tangata e arohaina ana e koe. Heoi, kāore e mau tonu pēnei. Ahakoa pēhea, kāore e kore he mahi whai whakaaro, he mahi tonu hoki a ngā hoa rangatira e rua. Nō reira, ka memeha haere pea te hononga kare ā-roto i waenganui i a kōrua ko tō hoa rangatira, ka waiho māu he whakaaro "kāore te tāne e aro mai ki ahau".
Tērā pea nā te mea kua kite koe kāore tō tāne e hiahia ana ki te moe tāne, kāore e hiahia ki te kōrero, kāore rānei e pai ki te noho tahi me koe. Me tirotirohia anō te āhua o tō whanaungatanga, nā te mea he maha ngā wā kāore he take o tēnei whakaaro kei te hē tetahi mea i roto i tō whanaungatanga - ahakoa kāore e taea e koe te tautuhi i te take tuturu. Mā ēnei tohu e whakaatu ana kāore te tāne e hiahia ana ki te wahine e āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i te tika o ō whakaaro:
- Te āhua nei kāore tō tāne e hiahia ana ki te kōrero ki a koe
- Kāore ia e whakapuaki ana i ana hiahia, ana hiahia, me ana wawata
- Ā, e wareware ana ki a koe
- Kāore ia i te aroha ki a koe
- Kāore tō tāne e hiahia ana ki te moepuku, ki te te whanaungatanga o tetahi momo, ka waiho koe kia whakaaro, "Kāore taku tāne e aro ki ahau"
- He nui ake tana hononga ki tana waea pūkoro i a koe
- He pai ake ki a ia te whakapau i tōna wā waatea me ōna hoa, te mahi rānei i āna ake mea, ā, kāore koe i karangatia kia whai wāhi atu ki tētahi o aua mea.
- Kāore e taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki a ia i muri ake nei
- Kua kore ngā whakaaturanga aroha me te maioha i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga
- Engari, ka whakahē tonu tō tāne i ngā mea katoa e kōrerotia ana e koe, e mahia ana rānei e koe.
8 Ngā Take e Ngaro ai te Hiahia o ngā Tāne ki ā rātou Wahine
He mea whakararuraru pea te kite i ngā tohu o te kore aro o te tāne ki tana wahine. Ina tupu tēnā, tera pea ka whakaaro koe, "He aha te take e ngaro ai te aro o te tāne ki tana wahine?" Ehara hoki i te mea rerekē te ngaro o te tumanako ina kore e taea e koe te whakakore i te whakaaro "kāore taku tāne e aro mai ki ahau". Koinei te mea i pa ki taku hoa, ki a Margaret, he tohunga HR, he whaea hoki mō ngā tamariki tokorua.
He maha āna amuamu, "Kua ngaro te hiahia o taku tāne ki ahau. Kāore māua e noho noa ana, e kōrero ana tetahi ki tetahi pērā i mua. Te āhua nei kāore ia e hiahia ki te mahi tahi me ahau. Ahakoa he matua pai ia ki ā māua tamariki, kua noho ia hei tino tangata." te tawhiti o te kare ā-roto o taku hoa rangatira"Ae, kua pā tēnei ki te whanaungatanga piripono i waenganui i a māua. He aha te take kāore taku tāne e aro mai ana ki ahau i ngā wā katoa, i ngā wā katoa hoki?"
I te wā i noho ai tēnei hei kōrerorero auau, i kī atu ahau he nui ake te tūponotanga ka kitea e ia ngā whakautu mēnā ka kōrero ia ki tana tāne mō ngā raruraru e pupū ake ana i roto i tā rāua marena, kaua ki te whakapuaki noa i ōna whakaaro ki ana hoa. I tana kōrerotanga, i kitea kua ngaro tana tāne i te mea he maha ngā wā ka kitea e ia a Margaret he pukumahi rawa ki te mahi, ki te mātua, me ngā kawenga o te kāinga, he ngenge rawa rānei tōna hinengaro i te mutunga o te rā, kāore e taea e ia te hono atu ki a ia.
E kite ana koe, ehara i te mea kāore he take mō te kore aro o te tāne ki tana wahine. Nō reira, ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe, "He aha te kore aro o taku tāne ki ahau?", ki te hiahia rānei koe ki tētahi whakautu mō te pātai, "Me pēhea taku meinga taku tāne kia hiahia ki ahau?", tīmata mā te mārama ki te take o tēnei panonitanga. Hei whakatutuki i tēnā, anei ngā take matua e waru mō te ngaro o te aro o ngā tāne ki ā rātou wāhine:
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1. Ka waiho ia hei kawenga mō tō harikoa
"He aha i ngaro ai te hiahia o taku tāne ki ahau?" Ki te mea he maha ngā wā ka pātai koe i tēnei pātai, whakaarohia te taumaha o ō tumanakohanga i roto i te whanaungatanga. Kua riro tō tāne hei pokapū o tō ao? Kei te hiahia koe kia noho hei pokapū mōna?
Ina whakaaro tonu tō tāne ko ia te kawenga mō tō harikoa, ā, ka kite ia he maha ngā wā ka pouri koe, ka pōuri, ka riri rānei ki a ia, ahakoa te nui o tana whakapau kaha ki te whanaungatanga, ka tīmata pea ia ki te kore e aro ki ngā kare ā-roto. Ka tīmata pea koe ki te kite i ngā tohu "kāore taku tāne e aro mai ana ki ahau" pēnei i,
- Te kore korero
- Te kore aro ki ō waeatanga
- Me nui ake te wāhi whaiaro i mua atu
- Kāore i te whakatairanga i te whakapau i te wā kounga ki a koe
te te mea ngaro ki te marena harikoa Ko te mōhio ahakoa ka taea e tō hoa rangatira te whakarei ake i tō oranga, ko rātou (kāore rānei he tangata kē atu) te kawenga mō tō harikoa. Kei a koe taua kawenga. Kia ako koe ki te pupuri i a koe kia harikoa, ka kitea anō hoki i roto i te kounga o tō tāne. Nā wai i mōhio ko te whakautu ki te pātai me pēhea te pupuri i te hiahia o tō tāne ko te whai hononga pai ake ki a koe anō?
2. Kāore koe e tiaki ana i tō āhua
He aha te take e ngaro ai te hiahia o te tāne ki te wahine? Ina koa, ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe, "He aha te take kāore taku tāne e aro mai ki ahau i runga i te moepuku?", ko te whakautu kei roto pea i tō āhua, i ō kare ā-roto, me tō whakaahua i a koe anō. Tērā pea kua mutu tō tiaki i a koe anō, ā, tera pea ka pāngia e te nui o tōna hiahia ki a koe.
Mā ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te tau, ngā tamariki, ngā kawenga mahi me ngā kawenga whaiaro, me te ahotea ka uaua ake te aro ki a koe anō pērā i tō wā e takakau ana, e piripono ana rānei ki tāu tāne o nāianei. Ahakoa kāore te ataahua me tō whakaaro nui i te tino hohonu, ko te āhua o tō āhua - me ō whakaaro mōu anō - ka pā ki te hihiri o tō whanaungatanga ki tāu tāne.
Kāore pea koe e mōhio engari kua riro mai pea i a koe te taumaha i muri i te marena nā te pōrearea o ngā parāoa me ngā pajama e noho ana koe kua pā ki tō āhua ake, ā, ka whakama koe ki tō tinana. Tērā pea ka pā tēnei ki te huarahi e hono atu ai koe ki tō tāne. Nō reira, ki te mea kei te āwangawanga koe nā te mea kāore tō tāne e hiahia ana ki te moe tāne, ki te kore rānei e hono atu ki a koe i roto i te kare ā-roto, mā te haumi ki te atawhai me te manaaki i a koe anō ka āwhina pea i te whakapai ake i ngā āhuatanga i waenganui i a kōrua.
3. He nui ake tāu amuamu, he iti ake hoki tāu kōrero
He ahiahi Rāhoroi. Kei te moe ngā tamariki. Ka whakatau koe ki te inu i tētahi, i ētahi rānei. Ā, ka whai wā koe ki te kōrero. He aha tā kōrua e kōrero ana? He aha te kino o tō whakaaro? hungawai kua tae atu ki a koe? Ngā taumahatanga me ngā pakanga i te mahi? Te amuamu mō te hararei o tō hoa i a koe e mauheretia ana e ngā kawenga?
Mena koinei te āhua, kei a koe te whakautu ki te pātai, "He aha i ngaro ai te hiahia o taku tāne ki ahau?" Hei huri i te āhuatanga, hei whakaara anō i tana hiahia, whakaarohia te hoki whakamuri ki ngā maharatanga me te kōrero mō ngā wā pai i pā ki a kōrua i te wā e whai ake nei ka whai wā "tāua" kōrua. Engari ko te amuamu mō te hoha o tō kōrua oranga, whakaritea tō hararei e whai ake nei.
Pātai atu ki tō tāne mō te āhua o ngā mahi i te mahi. Akene, tunu kai tahi, kōrero rānei mō te ōhanga, kōrero rānei mō ngā mahi tōrangapū. Engari, kaua e manukanuka kei kore tō tāne e hiahia ki te moe tāne, he aha e kore ai e ārahi i a ia ki te whakawai i a ia?
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4. Kāore koe e maioha ana ki ngā mea e mahia ana e ia māu
He aha te take e ngaro ai te hiahia o te tāne ki tana wahine? Ko te take he ngāwari noa iho, pērā i te ngenge o te tangata ki te whakapau kaha engari kāore i te whakaaro he pai ana mahi. E hiahia ana te tangata katoa ki te mihi i ētahi wā. Ki te riri koe i tāu tāne mō āna mahi hē engari kāore e mihi ki ana mahi māu, ka mutu pea tana whakapau kaha. Koinei pea te take e whakaaro ana koe, "He aha te take kāore taku tāne e aro mai ki ahau?"
Hei ārai i tēnei kore hiahia kei piki haere ki te wāhi e tohu ai i te kino mō tō marena, whakaaroarohia, tirohia mēnā koinei te wāhi i hapa ai koe. Ki te pērā, akohia me pēhea te whakamihi ki tāu tāne. Whakawhetai ki a ia mō te whakangawari i tō oranga i ana ake huarahi. Hoatu he reta 'whakawhetai' ki a ia i konei, i reira.
I whakapuaki tetahi wahine i whakarerea tata nei tana tāne i tana pouri ki a Bonobology. I muri i ētahi tau o te marena, kua mutu tana tāne ki te mahi i ngā mahi aroha nui pērā i te miharo i a ia ki ngā koha utu nui, ki ngā hararei papai rānei, engari ehara i te mea kāore ia e aro ki a ia, e aroha rānei ki a ia.
I roto i tōna ao takakau hou, e kī ana ia e ngaro ana ia i te āhua o tana tāne e manukanuka tonu ana ahakoa kua tae atu ia ki te kāinga, kāore rānei. E ngaro ana ia i te āhua o tana manaaki i a ia i a ia e kore e pai ana, i te āhua rānei o tana whakarongo ki ana amuamu i a ia e riri ana. Kaua e warewaretia ngā mahi iti nei nā te mea kāore e rite ki tō whakaaro kia whakapau kaha ki tētahi whanaungatanga. Kia mōhio koe, ko ēnei mahi pea te kī ki te hanga i tō marena kia harikoa.
5. Kei te amuamu tonu koe ki a ia
He aha te take e ngaro ai te hiahia o te tāne ki tana wahine? Ko te tohe tonu i roto i te whanaungatanga te take pea. Ki te kore tō tāne e mahi i ngā mea i te ara e tumanakohia ana e koe, ko te tahuri ki te tohe tonu e kore e puta he huringa pai. Engari, ko te ngenge o te mahi tahi me te wahine pukuriri Tērā pea ka riri tō tāne ki a koe, ā, ka tīmata pea ia ki te mawehe atu i a koe. Ehara i te mea ko te tikanga o tēnei kāore tō tāne e tika kia whakawhiwhia ki a kōrua te kawenga.
Engari kaua e akiaki i a ia ki te mahi i ngā mea i tētahi ara, i tētahi wā rānei, engari me waihanga he wāhi me te wāhi e tika ana i roto i tō kōrua marena kia taea ai e ia te whai wāhi ki te marena i tētahi ara e pai ana ki a ia. Kaua e pupuri i tō hoa rangatira ki te whakaaro me pēhea te mahi i ngā mea, engari me whakaatu e ia ki a koe tōna whakaaro mō te tautoko i roto i te marena. Haere tonu mai i reira.
Kāore he aha mena he kai tunu kino ia, kāore rānei e pai ki te horoi rihi. Tērā pea ka whakapau kaha ia ki te mahi i ana mahi o te Rātapu i te ata kia pai ai te haere o te wiki. Nō reira, kia mihi atu ki a koe. Ki te hiahia koe ki te aro atu ki ngā wāhanga me mahi e ia, me mahi i runga i te whai hua. Ki te kore, ka kite pea koe i ngā tohu kāore te tāne e aro ki tana wahine. Hei tauira, ka karo pea ia i te kōrero ki a koe nā te mea e mōhio ana ia kei te haere mai tētahi atu kōrero whakatoi.
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6. Ka takaro koe i a ia i mua i ngā hoa, i ngā whanaunga rānei
He aha te take e ngaro ai te hiahia o te tāne ki te wahine? Ko tētahi take noa mō tēnei ko te whakaaro kāore koe i te aro ki te whanaungatanga. Ki te whakaiti koe i ngā hapa me ngā ngoikoretanga o tō hoa rangatira i mua i te aroaro o ētahi atu, kāore e taea e koe te whakapae i a ia mō te korenga o te hononga kare ā-roto i roto i tō marena. Mā te whakaatu i ngā hapa o tō tāne ki te aroaro o te marea, kātahi ka tautoko i ngā kōrero pēnei i te "Kāti, he kata noa iho" me te "Kāore au i te whakaaro pēnā" ka nui ake te kino ki tō hononga i tō whakaaro.
He rerekē te whakatoi takaro, he rerekē te kino ki ōna āwangawanga. Ka whakama pea tō tāne ina whakaititia ia e koe, ka tawaitia hoki i mua i ngā hoa, i te whānau rānei. Mā te tawai iti ki a ia ka mamao noa atu ia i a koe. Mā tēnei anō hoki ka ārai i a ia ki te whakapuaki i ōna ngoikoretanga ki a koe ā muri ake nei, ā, ka whakakino i te whanaungatanga piripono o tō kōrua marenaKa taea e tēnei tawhiti kare ā-roto te whakaatu i roto i ngā huarahi maha.
Hei tauira, ki te mea he maha āu pātai, "He aha te take kāore taku tāne e aro nui mai ana ki ahau?", tera pea ko te whakautu he mea nā te mea kei te whakaaro ia kāore ia i te whakautehia, kāore hoki i te whai mana i roto i tēnei hononga. Hei whakaora i tō kōrua hononga, me whakatairanga koe i te whakaute i roto i te whanaungatanga.
7. Kua rerekē ō kaupapa matua
He tamariki whanonga pai, he kakahu pai. He whare maeneene, he ma, he whakapaipai. He keke i roto i te oumu. Ngā hui. Ngā rā kati. Te whakatairanga. He uaua te whakahaere i ngā kawenga o te whare me te ngaio, me te whakatutukitanga i te taurite tika o te mahi me te oranga. Heoi, ki te mea ko ēnei anake āu e whakaaro ana, e kōrero ana, tera pea kei te pana atu koe i tō tāne.
I a koe e tangi ana, "Kāore taku tāne e hiahia ki te piripono ki ahau", e whakaaro ana rānei, "He aha i ngaro ai te hiahia o taku tāne ki ahau?", tera pea, e pouri ana tō hoa rangatira mō te hekenga rawa atu o ō kaupapa matua. Ko te oranga he mea hanga he taurite. He rite te hiranga o tō marena ki te oranga o ngā tamariki. Me whiwhi noa koe i tō ngā kaupapa matua mō te angitu o te marena mo te wā roa i roto i te raupapa
8. Kei te ora kōrua i ngā oranga mahi taumaha
He aha te take e ngaro ai te hiahia o te tāne ki tana wahine? Ko tētahi o ngā take, i a rātou e whai ana i ā rātou whāinga ngaio, ka kore e taurite te whanaungatanga o ngā hoa rangatira tetahi ki tetahi. Ka taea e ngā taupatupatu ngaio te uru ki roto i tō whare, ka whakahaere i tō oranga whaiaro. I ētahi wā, ka nui ake te whakapau kaha ki te mahi i ngā kupu whakaari i hoatu e koe ki a koe anō me ō whanaunga.
Ka piki haere pea ēnei kupu whakaari kāore i tutuki, me ngā tumanako kua ngaro, ā, ka pā kino ki tō hononga ki tō hoa. Kia taea ai e koe te wikitoria i ēnei wā uaua, he mea nui kia pono, kia tautoko hoki ngā hoa e rua tetahi i tetahi. Ki te kore, ka tūpono te e paheke ana he tino pono.
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Nā te mea kua mōhio koe ki te whakautu ki te pātai, "He aha te take kāore taku tāne e aro mai ana ki ahau?", ko te mahi e whai ake nei ko te whakatau mēnā ka taea te whakaora anō i tō kōrua hononga ahakoa kua tae te marena ki raro rawa, ā, mēnā koinā, me pēhea. Āe, ko te rongo pai tuatahi: mēnā kei te mau tonu te aroha me te whakaute i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, kāore tō kōrua marena e pōrearea ana e te mate, te tukino, te raweke rānei, ka taea te whakatau i ō raruraru.
Heoi, me whakapau kaha tonu, me te ngākau nui hoki o ngā hoa e rua ki te kimi huarahi ki a rāua anō. Kaua e tukua ngā whakaaro pēnei i te, "Kāore taku tāne i te aro ki ahau" me te "Kāore taku tāne e hiahia ki te piripono ki ahau" kia whakapōrearea i a koe. Engari, nekehia te arotahi ki, "Me pēhea taku whakaoho i taku tāne kia hiahia anō ki ahau?" Whakamātauria ēnei tohutohu hei whakatika i tō hononga ki tō tāne:
1. Kōrero ki tō tāne kia mōhio ai koe ki te take
Ki te mea kua tawhiti tō tāne, ā, kāore hoki e aro mai ki a koe, kaua e whakaaro nā te mea kāore ia i te makona ki tō oranga moepuku, ā, ka tīmata ki te rapu whakautu mō te pātai, "Me pēhea taku whakamanawareka i taku tāne i te moenga?" Engari, me whakapau kaha ki te rapu i te pūtake o te raruraru, ā, ko te huarahi pai ki te mahi i tēnā ko te kōrero tuwhera, pono hoki ki tō tāne.
- Kei te whakaaro ia kei roto koe i tētahi te faaipoiporaa pouri?
- E ahua ana ia kāore ia e rangona?
- Kāore rānei e tutukihia ana hiahia?
- Kei te riri/pōuri/āwangawanga ia nā tetahi mea?
Kia mōhio koe ki te take e pana ana i tō tāne kia matara atu i a koe, ka taea e koe te whakatau pai ake. Nō reira, ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te pupuri i te aro o tō tāne ki a koe, ko te mahi tuatahi ko te mārama ki ōna tirohanga mō te āhuatanga mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera.
2. Mahi tahi i ā kōrua take
Me pēhea taku whakatenatena i taku tāne kia hiahia mai ki ahau, e whakaaro ana koe? Āe, ina kitea e koe te take matua e ngaro ai te hiahia o tō hoa rangatira ki a koe, kua tae ki te wā ki te whakapau kaha ki te whakatika. Me uru atu koe ki roto, me haumi ki tō marena pērā i tō tīmatanga i tēnei haerenga, me te mahi tahi hei rōpū. Mā te mahi tahi ki te whakatutuki i tētahi whāinga kotahi kia pai ake ai tō marena ka āwhina i te whakau i tō hononga ki tō tāne. I te wā roa, ka āwhina i te whakaiti i ngā āwangawanga pēnei i te "kāore taku tāne e aro mai ki ahau".
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3. Ki te kore koe e anga whakamua i a koe anō, ngana ki te rongoā hinengaro
Ki te huri ngā kōrero a kōrua ki te tautohetohe, ā, kāore e taea e kōrua te tohu i te take kāore tō tāne e aro nui ana ki a koe, tera pea tohutohu marena ka taea te āwhina. Ina uru mai tētahi kaitohutohu marena ngaio, ka taea e kōrua te tautuhi i ngā raruraru me te tautuhi i ngā tauira kino e whakaatuhia ana e kōrua, ā, ka mōhio pū kōrua ki ngā mea me mahi hei whakatika i ngā take.
He wāhi haumaru te rongoā hinengaro hei matapaki i ngā take me te whakaoti i aua take i raro i te arataki ngaio. Ko te toenga, ko te tikanga, kei a koe. Ki te whakaaro koe me āwhina koe ki te whakaora i tō marena, Ngā ratonga tohutohu a Bonobology kei a koe te mana mai i te whakamarie o tō kāinga.
4. Mahi ki te whakapakari i tō whanaungatanga
Ka kino haere pea ngā tohu o te kore aro o te tāne ki tana wahine i roto i te wā, ā, ko tana kore aro ki a koe me te whanaungatanga ka tūpono ki te whakararu i tō kōrua heke mai. Hei whakaora i tō kōrua hononga, me tīmata koe i ngā kaupapa matua, me te whakapakari i tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Ki te kore tō tāne e aro, ngana ki te ārahi i a ia, me te whakaatu ki a ia te nui o tōna hiranga ki a koe. Anei ētahi mea ka taea e koe te whakamātau:
- Whakamaherehia ngā pō whakatā, tīmata i ia rua wiki, kātahi ka waiho hei wāhanga o ia wiki
- Me tono atu ki tō tāne kia hikoi i muri i te tina, ā, whakamahia tēnei wā hei kōrero ki a kōrua mō tō kōrua rā.
- Me whakapau kaha koe ki te awhi i tō hoa rangatira i mua i te moe
- Whakamaua te kī pinepine 'ngā mihi', 'tēnā koa', me te 'aroha ana ahau ki a koe'
5. Whakamātauria ngā mea i roto i te rūma moe
Mena nā te momotu o tō tāne i a koe e pātai ana, "He aha taku tāne kāore e aro mai ki ahau mō te moepuku?", ko te otinga pea, ko te tango i te take ki ō ringaringa.
- Tangohia te arataki i roto i te whare moenga
- Kawea mai ngā kākahu moe whakahihiri kua puehu mai i tō haerenga mai (me hoko rānei i ētahi mea whakahihiri ake)
- Whakamātauria he mea hou tūnga fakasekisualé
- Whakamātauria ngā taonga tākaro me ngā taputapu
Tohutohu Matua
- "He aha te take kāore ai taku tāne e aro mai ki ahau?" he pātai whakararuraru pea hei whakaaroaro
- E mōhio ana koe me mahi koe i tēnei ina tīmata koe ki te kite i ngā tohu pēnei i te hekenga o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me te hononga kare ā-roto, te kore aro, te ngaronga o te whanaungatanga piripono, me te pikinga o te whakahē me te whakatau.
- Mai i te whakaaro kāore koe e rangona, kāore koe e maioha, kāore hoki koe e whakaute, tae atu ki te amuamu tonu, me te kore e meinga kia rite koe ki tētahi o ngā mea nui, he maha ngā take e ngaro ai te hiahia o te tāne ki tana wahine.
- Ka taea e koe te whakatika i tēnei āhuatanga me te whakaora anō i tō whanaungatanga mā te whakamahi i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera, te tautuhi me te whakatau i ngā take matua, te rapu āwhina ngaio, me te mahi ki te whakapakari i te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto me te whanaungatanga ā-ira tangata.
He momo mamae te mātakitaki i tō hoa e mawehe mārire ana i a koe, ā, kāore e taea e koe te whakatau i tāu mahi e whai ake nei. Ina pā mai te rangirua ki a koe, kaua e wehi ki te rapu āwhina. Kōrero pono ki tō hoa, me te whakamōhio atu kei te pai koe ki te tuku i ōu kaha katoa kia taea ai e koe te noho tahi me ia tae noa ki te mutunga.
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Neke atu i te 25 tau māua ko taku tāne e noho tahi ana. Ki taku whakaaro ko ia tonu te tāne tino ātaahua rawa atu kua kite ahau, ā, 18 tau te pakeke ake i ahau. He ngenge tonu ia ina mutu tana mahi. He kaha tana mahi. Engari e ngana ana ahau ki te whakaatu ki a ia i ia rā te nui o taku mihi ki a ia me ana mahi katoa māku. Kāore au e mahi nā te mea e pai ana ia ki te tiaki i a ia, ka tangohia e au ōna pūtu, ka takai i tana pereti i te tina, ka kawea mai e ia tana e hiahia ana ina mātakitaki ia i te pouaka whakaata. He pai ki ahau te tiaki i a ia, nā te mea he whakarihariha ia ki ahau. Ko taku e hiahia ana, ka riro i ahau. He maha ngā wā i a māua e whakatipu ana i ā māua tamariki, kāore i te nui te hunga e taea e māua te āwhina i a māua. Engari i mahi māua i ngā mahi whare, i tiaki hoki i ngā tamariki. Inaianei kua pakeke rātou, ā, ko māua anake. Kua whakapau kaha tonu māua ki tō māua oranga me te whānau. Ā, ka mahia e au ngā mea katoa kia harikoa ai ia, ki taku whakaaro ka pērā anō ia māku. I kōrero tonu māua i te wā kāore i te whiwhi i ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e māua.
Ina whakaaro ahau kei te mahi ahau i ngā mea katoa, ā, kāore he hua e whakahokia mai ana, ka ngana ahau ki te mahara ki te mutu.. ā, ka waiho ahau i a au anō ki roto i tōna hu me taua kare ā-roto anō. Kātahi ka tino whakama ahau mō taua kare ā-roto. Ā, ina kōrero ahau ki a ia i ōku kare ā-roto me ngā mea i kitea e au, te āhua nei ka whakahoutia ia, nā te mea i kite ahau i a ia me ōna kare ā-roto, me te kore ia e kōrero mai ki ahau. Nō reira, ina whakaaro koe kei te hoatu e koe ōu kare ā-roto, ā, kāore he hua e whakahokia mai ana, tangohia he wā ki te waiho i a koe anō ki roto i ō rātou hu, nā te mea tera pea kei te pērā anō hoki ō rātou kare ā-roto. Ka taea e tēnei te hanga i te rerekētanga nui ki te ao.