Kua pāngia te taunekeneke a te tāne me te wahine i roto i ngā whanaungatanga i waenga i te pakanga mō te ōritetanga ira tangata?

Kotahi te haora i tomuri ai ia ki te rā. I rongo ahau i te reo o roto e kī ana (" Ehara i te rā, he tina noa iho i whakaae ia kia haere tahi tāua.")

Āe, engari kāre i te tino tika te tatari i tētahi wahine!

(Reo o roto: “ He mea nui, kei te mahi tonu pea ia. He aha ia me whakarērea ai ngā mea katoa kia noho ki tō taha?”)

Ahakoa te haere tonu o taku reo ā-roto, o waho hoki i tā rāua kōrero, ka tae mai ia, he ātaahua te āhua. I whakatau ahau kia mutu taku pōuri, ā, ka pania ōku kanohi ki te rīpene ngutu hou.

He reka te tina, ā, i ngāwari te rere o te kōrero. Kāore i roa kua tae te wā ki te haere. "Me pēhea koe e hoki ai ki te kāinga?" i pātai ia. "Tekesi," i whakahoki ahau. "Pai rawa atu, māku koe e ārahi ki tētahi," i menemene ia.

Ātaahua! Kua mutu te kōrero. Kāore he tono atawhai hei kawe i ahau ki te kāinga, ā, i muri mai, kāore hoki he tono 'kua tae atu koe ki te WhatsApp'. Ahakoa kāore ia i te hiahia, heoi anō kua taea e ia te whakarērea ahau, kāore au i kōrero ki tetahi, me te pupuri i te whakapehapeha paku pouri.

He pānui e pā ana: He rite te whanaungatanga pai ki te pūeru pai

( Reo ā-roto: Haere mai, e noho tata ana ia ki te wharekai. He kuware te tumanako ka haere ia i tua atu i tana ara! Ā, kati te whanonga tawhito, kāore koe e hiahia ki tētahi tāne hei kaiārahi i a koe, ka taea e koe te kimi i tō ara. He aha ia me whakararuraru i a ia anō?)

He kōrero tika tēnei. He aha rawa ia me pērā ai? Ā, he aha hoki ia e tumanako ai, i tēnei ao o te ōritetanga , ko te tāne anake hei whakatinana i ngā ture kua kainga e te pūrerehua o te upoko aratohu mō te whakaipoipo: 'Me pēhea te manaaki i tētahi wahine'?

He aha rawa te take e hiahia ai te wahine atamai, motuhake hoki kia mahia e te tāne ngā mea māna, ā, ka taea e ia te mahi māna ake? Pērā i te eke tekesi ka hoki ko ia anake ki te kāinga (ki te kore a Delhi!).

He pātai tika katoa. Ā, kotahi te whakautu, kāore pea i te tika: nā te mea he mahi toa te mahi pēnā.

Āe, te toa! Te mahi a ngā tāne e 'whakaaro māhaki ana ki ngā wāhine – e pupuri ana i te tatau mō rātou, e tuku ana i ō rātou koti ina makariri' me ērā atu mea. I te tīmatanga he ture whanonga e pā ana ki te whakatūnga o te mana toa o ngā tau waenga.

He kupu rerekē te kupu toa. Ahakoa te nuinga o aku hoa wahine e tohe ana kia kite ngā tāne i a koe he 'kotahi i roto i ngā ōrite', e whakataurite ana aku hoa tāne i te toa ki te mana rangatira ngawari. Ko ētahi e whakaaro ana he aha ngā wāhine e tangi kino ana ina KĀORE ā rātou tumanakohanga e tutuki ana, engari e tohe ana rātou kia kaua e rerekē te manaaki i a rātou i ngā tāne. Ko te tumanako kia whakapau kaha te tāne kia tiakina, kia manaakitia hoki ia, ka whakaiti i tōna ake mātauranga me tōna mana motuhake, e ai ki a rātou. "He pai ake ki a koe tētahi tāne e manaaki pono ana i a koe, ā, kei reira tonu ia ina hiahiatia e koe, he tangata rānei e whakapono ana ki te whakapehapeha? He aha ia me whakatuwhera ai i te tatau? He kaimahi ratonga ia? He aha mēnā ko te tangata e mahi ana i tēnā, e utu ana rānei i te pire i ia wā, ka puta ko ia he wairangi?"

He pānui e pā ana: Te raruraru uaua o te tina

Āe, mehemea kāore ia e whakapono ana? Mehemea rānei e whakapono ana ia ki ngā tika o ngā wāhine, Ā, kāore hoki e māharahara ki te whakatuwhera i te tatau o te motuka? Kāore e tika kia wehea te mana rangatira me te manaaki tetahi i tetahi, e tika ana? Ahakoa kei te kawe koe i tana putea, kei te pupuri rānei i tana koti, kei te whakarite pukapuka rānei koe i roto i tētahi wharekai kī tonu i te tangata, ehara i te mea he tangata whakahihi koe. Ka tino ataahua koe.

Ko te nuinga o aku hoa rangatira kāore anō kia tino hiahia ki te mahi i tētahi mea tino motuhake. He maha ngā wā ka rite taku hoa ki tētahi pō whakangahau mō ngā tāne, kaua ki tētahi tāne e kawe ana i tētahi kōtiro ki waho . Ka tūtaki māua, ka kōrero, ka ngahau, ka wehea te pire, kātahi ka hoki ahau ki te kāinga ko au anake. Kua ngaro i ahau te tatau i ngā wā i tuku karere kuputuhi ai ahau, 'Kia ora koe i tae mai, tukua mai he karere ina tae mai koe' ki te tangata e mahara ohorere ana ki te pātai 'Ae. Ā, ko koe?'

E ai ki aku hoa wahine, koinei anō te 'hau' e puta mai ana. Ko te āhua o ngā tāne, he pai ki a rātou te tiaki i ā rātou wāhine, engari ka pōhēhē rātou mēnā ka tukuna e te wahine te karere 'kia ora e hoa, ka taea e au te tiaki i a au anō'!

Kāore ngā toa o te rautau rua tekau mā tahi e pānui i ngā karere huna. Ki a rātou, kāore, kāore pea! Nō reira, ki te hiahia koe kia hikitia, kia whakatakahia rānei, me kī noa, kaua e whakaaro pēnā.

E ai ki tētahi o aku hoa aroha o mua, "I hiahia ahau ki te kawe i a koe i ngā wā katoa, engari kāore koe i whakaatu mai kei te hiahia koe, kei te hiahia rānei koe i tētahi mea mai i ahau." (Kei te hiahia? Kei te hiahiatia? I takaro ahau i te uaua ki te tiki engari i tino kore ia i mārama!)

Nā, he aha te toa i ēnei wā uaua? Ki taku whakaaro ko te wā e mahi ana ngā tāne i ngā mea ataahua i runga i te āhua maori, kaua e kitea noa iho. Hei tauira, ina takaro ia me te kore e whakatoi, ina titiro ia ki a ia me te kore e awhi i a ia, ina tirotiro ia i a ia mēnā kei te mate ia, ā, ina ohorere ia i a ia, kāore he take. Ehara i te mea me whakaaro noa ngā wāhine ki ngā tāne , me titiro kē atu rānei ina tae mai ki te utu pire (he āhuatanga raruraru tonu) me whakawhirinaki tonu ki a ia mō ngā mea ka taea e ia te mahi ngāwari. Ka puta te toa ina mahia he mea KĀORE e hiahiatia ana e koe māu. Kāore koe e iti iho i te kore o taua mea engari he iti ake te taonga o taua mea.

Nō reira, e ngā rangatira, he mea ataahua te noho tawhito i ētahi wā. Ko te whakamātautau mēnā ko Shakti Kapoor koe i roto i ngā kākahu o Rishi Kapoor, me tatari koe mō te rā e whai ake nei, kia mau rānei te whanaungatanga. Kia tae rā anō ki taua wā, he tino ataahua te whakatuwhera i te tatau o te motuka.

Pānui e pā ana: Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai kua kitea e koe te aroha pono?

Thoughts Final

Kua hurihia ngā whanaungatanga e te pakanga mō te ōritetanga o te ira tangata mā te wero i ngā tūranga tuku iho me te whakatipu i ngā taunekeneke taurite ake. Ahakoa ka puta he raruraru wā poto i tēnei nekehanga, ka whakatūwherahia te ara mō ngā hononga hauora ake, whakaute ake. Ka tupu pai ngā whanaungatanga ina awhi ngā hoa e rua i te tipu, te tika, me te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi. Kei konei ā mātou kaitohutohu mātau hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatipu i te māramatanga, te taurite, me te rangimarie i roto i tō whanaungatanga.

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