I roto i te kupu hou e whanake haere tonu ana mō te whakatau i ngā hoa, pērā i te groundhogging, te soft launch, me te wokefishing, kei reira tētahi kupu kāore i te tino mōhiotia whānuitia—ko te caspering, e whakaponohia ana he whanaunga hoa atu ki te mahi nanakia o te ghosting. Ko tōna tikanga ko te whakakore i tētahi hiahia aroha i roto i tō ao mā te kore e aro nui mai tae noa ki te wā e memeha ai te hononga. I te tīmatanga, tera pea he āhua ngāwari ake tēnei hei whakakapi i te tango ohorere i tētahi atu i roto i tō ao.
He uaua te whakamāori i te wairua, tika? Kāore te katoa e ngākau nui ki te whakamutu i te whakapā atu ki tētahi i te wā ohorere. Nā, me aha koe ina kore koe e hiahia ki te ārahi i tētahi? Ki te tini, ko te whakautu pea ko te whakamāori i te wairua, arā, ko te whakamāori i te wairua mārie. Engari he tino ngāwari, he hoa hoki tēnei huarahi? Me whakamahi rānei koe i tēnei? Ā, me aha koe mēnā ka kitea koe kei te taha o te tangata? Mā mātou koe e āwhina ki te rapu i tēnei aratohu katoa mō te whakamāori i te wairua.
He aha te Caspering?
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Ko te kupu caspering ka whakamahara tonu i te wairua hoa, kāore? Āe, ko tā tātou wairua hoa te pūtake o tēnei kupu whakaipoipo. Ko te Caspering, e ai ki te kōrero i mua ake nei, e kiia ana he wairua hoa. Ko te tikanga o te Caspering, e ai ki te Urban Dictionary, ko "te toi o te huna i tētahi i roto i te huarahi hoa. Ki te kore koe e ngākau nui ki te huna i a rātou, ka tīmata koe ki te tapahi me te whakaiti i ngā taunekeneke tae noa ki te wā e whakaae ana rātou ki te tohutohu ka mutu."
Nā, kua mōhio tātou ki te aha te caspering, me tahuri tātou ki te āhua o te mahi. Āe, ko te tangata e mau tonu ana i tēnei mahi ka mahi tonu i te ngākau māhaki me te manaaki, i te wā e ngana ana ki te kore aro ki te tangata e ngana ana ki te kōrero ki a rātou. Ka whakautu rātou ki ō karere kuputuhi i muri i te 8 ki te 10 hāora, kāore e whakautu i roto i te 3-4 kupu, engari he āhua manaaki. Mā tēnei ka whakapono koe he 'atawhai' rātou kia tae rā anō ki te wā ka mōhio koe kāore rātou e aro ki a koe.

Mā tēnei whakapā wā poto, wā poto noa iho ka pōhēhē, ka pouri hoki te tangata i te pito e whiwhi ana koe. Mēnā he tangata pōuri koe nā tēnei āhua huna ngāwari, tērā pea ka miharo koe he aha ia kāore ai e tuku karere tuatahi engari ka whakautu tonu, he aha rānei ka roa ai ngā hāora ki te whakautu i tō karere ina kite koe kua hohe tonu rātou ki te ipurangi, he aha rānei i waiho ai koe kia pānuihia mō ngā hāora, mō ngā rā rānei i ia wā.
"Kei te haere tēnei tangata ki te whakangāwari i a ia anō mā te waea pūkoro, ā, e rua noa ngā wā e whakamahia ana e ia tana waea i te rā?" tērā pea ka pātai koe ki a koe anō, i a koe e ngana ana ki te mārama ki te tikanga o te kōrero. I tētahi meneti ka tukuna e ia he karere kuputuhi, ka whakautu i ō karere kuputuhi "WYD" katoa, ā, i tētahi meneti ka whakatau ia me mutu tana whakamahi i te hangarau mō ngā haora e ono e whai ake nei.
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Ngā tauira Caspering
Hei whakamārama ake i te tikanga o te kupu "caspering" me tōna tikanga, me tango tātou i te tauira o Ruby rāua ko Kevin. E hiahia ana a Ruby ki a Kevin, engari kāore a Kevin. Heoi, kāore ia e hiahia ki te kōrero ki a Ruby, kāore hoki e hiahia ki te whakakore i a ia. Nō reira, kei te whakamahi ia i te "soft ghosting".
Ruby: Hei Kevin! Kei te aha koe?
*6 haora i muri mai*
Kevin: Kei te ako!
Rūpi: Āe, ka roa pea?
*4 haora i muri mai*
Kevin: Kāore au i te mōhio, he whānui rawa te marautanga.
Kaua e mamingatia tātou. Kāore he tauira e ako ana mō ngā hāora tekau, kāore he wā okioki. Kei konei a Kevin e ngana ana ki te kore aro ki a Ruby, e tatari ana kia rongo ia i te tohu kāore ia e hiahia ki te kōrero ki a ia. Anei tētahi atu tauira:
Ruby: Kia ora Kevin! Kei te hiahia koe ki te haere ki te kiriata i tēnei mutunga wiki?
Kevin: Āe! He pukumahi ahau i tēnei wiki mutunga. Akene i te wiki e tū mai nei?
*te wiki e tū mai nei*
Ruby: Kia ora! Kei te wātea koe i tēnei wiki mō te kiriata?
Kevin: Aroha mai, kei te pāngia taku hoa pai e ētahi āhuatanga, ā, me noho ahau ki tōna taha. Tērā pea i tētahi atu wā?
Ko te tere o te mōhio a Ruby kāore he "wā kē atu" e puta mai, ko te pai ake mōna. I te rā e whakatau ai ia ki te kore aro ki a ia mō te kore aro ki a ia , ka mutu tā rāua whanaungatanga. Ko te take anake e pai ake ai te tangata ki te huna i a ia anō i te huna, he kore e hiahia kia ahua kino, kia ahua hiahia rānei. Ā, kāore hoki e hiahia kia whara te tangata i te kanohi tonu.
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He pai te mahi a te caspering?
I roto i te raruraru o te "Caspering ghosting", ko te mea whakamutunga te āhua nei he huarahi pai ki te whakamutu i ngā hononga aroha. Heoi, ka taea te tautohe mā te tuku tumanako teka mā te whakautu ki ngā karere kuputuhi, kei te ārahi koe i te tangata , ka meinga rātou kia whakaaro ki a koe mō te wā roa atu i te mea e tika ana. Tērā pea kāore te "hoa" ghosting i te tino hoa, koia rā? Whakaarohia, ki te mea kei te pai tō whanaungatanga ki tētahi, ā, e 1.5 ngā rā pakihi katoa hei whakautu mai ki a koe, tera pea ka rapu noa koe i te kupu "Caspering" i Google, ka riri ki te hua rapu e titiro mai ana ki a koe ināianei.
Haunga tēnā, ina whiwhi koe i taua karere kuputuhi kotahi i ia ono hāora, ka hoki mai anō ki a koe ngā tumanako me ngā wawata katoa mō te tūtaki me te whakapā atu ki tēnei tangata, ahakoa ka ngana koe ki te pupuri i a ia. Mā te kite noa i tō mata e tiaho ana me tōna ingoa kei runga, kua tīmata kē koe ki te moemoeā. Mā te moemoeā mō te huri i tēnei hononga karere kuputuhi hei hononga tino ataahua, ā, ko te kōrero tuatahi i runga i te Instagram ka tukuatuhia e koe ki a rātou kei te rere kē i roto i tō hinengaro. Ko te tino take, mā te whakamātau i tētahi me te tuku i a rātou ki raro i roto i te āhua hoa, ka whakaaro pea koe kāore koe e mahi ana i tētahi mea kino, engari kei te mahi koe. Nō reira, ehara te 'whakamātau' i te tino hoa.
Caspering Vs Ghosting — He pai ake tētahi i tētahi?

Kua roa te tautohetohe mō te caspering me te ghosting e pā ana ki ēnei kupu e rua e pā ana ki te ipurangi. Kāore anō kia whakatauhia mēnā he pai ake tētahi i tētahi. I taua wā anō, he maha ngā tāngata e uaua ana ki te wehewehe i ngā mea e rua nā te mea he maha ngā huarahi e taupatupatu ana. Ko te Caspering, e mōhiotia ana ko te soft ghosting. Ahakoa he rite, he rerekētanga hoki i waenganui i ngā mea e rua, ko te mea tino rerekē i waenganui i te caspering me te ghosting ko te whakaaturanga o ngā whanonga. Anei te āhua o te ōrite o ngā mea e rua engari he rerekē:
1. He rerekē te whakatinanatanga
I roto i te whakapohehe, ka puta noa te tangata i te ao o tōna hoa rangatira me te mea kāore ia i te ora. Kāore ia e whakautu mai ki ā rātou waea, ki ā rātou tuhinga rānei. Nā tēnei ka tino āwangawanga te tangata kē atu mō te wairua, ka whakaaro mēnā kei te pai ia, mēnā rānei kua pā he mea kino ki a ia.
Ko te whakahāwea i te tangata, he āta haere, he roa hoki. I konei, ka haere tonu te tangata e hiahia ana ki te tapahi i ngā hononga me te taunekeneke ki ētahi atu engari ka iti haere te auau me te hiahia. Ka ngana rātou ki te atawhai engari ka whakaatu hoki i te kore hiahia i te wā kotahi. Ki te kī poto, ka tukuna e te tangata e whakahāwea ana i te tangata tetahi atu he maha ngā tohu rerekē ka waiho te tangata ke ki te whakaaro he aha te mea e tino hiahiatia ana e rātou.
2. He tinihanga ngā mea e rua
Ko te āhua ōrite o te caspering me te ghosting ko te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata i pāngia. Ko te whakaaro tonu, "He aha te mea e tupu ana?" me ngā whakaaro tonu mō ngā hiahia o te tangata kē atu he mea whakapoauau. He rite tonu te mamae hinengaro i ngā wā e rua, i te mea kua tata te tangata i te pito whiwhi ki te ngaro i tōna hinengaro pai.
3. I ētahi wā, ko te caspering te whiringa pai rawa atu
I roto i te tautohetohe mō te caspering me te ghosting, heoi, tera pea tētahi āhuatanga mārama e pai ake ai te caspering, ahakoa ehara i te mea tino pai ki te mahi—ina kua roa koe e noho tahi ana me tētahi tangata. Mā te tapahi ohorere i te whakapā atu i roto i ēnei āhuatanga ka waiho te tangata kei te taha e whiwhi ana i te whakapā kia manukanuka mō te oranga o tētahi atu.
Kia pono tātou, he mea noa te ngaro o te wairua i roto i te wiki, i ngā wiki e rua rānei i muri i te mōhio ki tētahi i roto i ā tātou mahi whakaipoipo o nāianei. Heoi, he uaua ake te whakatau i te ngaro o te wairua i muri i te noho tahi me tētahi mō tētahi wā. I ngā wā kua neke atu i te toru ō kōrua haerenga me tētahi, ā, kua kotahi marama pea te roa o tō kōrero ki a rātou, ko te "soft ghosting", arā, ko te caspering, te huarahi anake pea hei puta.
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Me aha koe mēnā kei te Caspering tetahi?
Ahakoa te āhua o te kupu "Caspering" he kupu whakaipoipo noa iho, ā, kāore pea koe e aro nui ki te āhua o te tutu, o te ngawari rānei, kia tae rā anō koe ki te wā e whakaipoipohia ana. He kino te "Caspering" i te wā whakaipoipo ki te hunga e pāngia ana e te mahi hoha. Ki te kite koe kei te pāngia koe e tēnei mahi nanakia, he huarahi hei whakatau i tēnei. Anei te huarahi:
1. Tukuna he karere kuputuhi mārama e pātai ana mō ō rātou hiahia
Tērā pea kei te whakahihiri tetahi hoa aroha i a koe nā te mea kāore ia e hiahia kia ahua kino, nā te mea rānei kāore ia e pai ki te tautohetohe. Me tuku karere kuputuhi koe ki a rātou, me te pātai atu, "He aha te mea e pā ana ki a koe, me kōrero mai?" Mā tēnei pea ka akiaki i a rātou kia kōrero i ō rātou whakaaro, ā, kia mōhio ai koe kāore rātou e hiahia ana.
2. Waihangahia he rohe wā
He mea mārama te pukumahi kotahi, e rua rānei ngā wā. Kāore e tika ana te whakautu roa, te karo i ngā hui, me te whakakore i ngā hui . Whakatakotoria he rohe wā māu. Mēnā ka roa ake i te toru hāora te whakautu, ka roa rānei he take hei whakautu i a koe i ia wā ka ngana koe ki te tūtaki ki a rātou, me waiho hei tohu kia neke atu koe. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te aro ki tēnā momo kōrero wairangi.
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3. Kaua e whakapae i a koe anō
He maha ngā wā ka whakapae te hunga i pāngia e te caspering i a rātou anō mō te piripono , te kōrero māhorahora rānei. Kati tonu tēnā. Ko te tangata e tahuri ana ki te caspering te he i konei, ehara i a koe. Kaua e amo i tō rātou kore kawenga ki runga i ō pakihiwi. Kāore koe e mahi he ana. Whakamutua te whakapae i a koe anō me te whakapae, ka neke atu.
4. Kōrero ki ō hoa, ki tō whānau rānei
Kāore i te mārama tonu ngā whāinga mō te patu i tētahi. Ka pā kino pea tēnei kore māramatanga me te pōhēhētanga e whai ake nei ki tō hauora hinengaro . Me tautoko koe i a koe kia puta ai tēnei raruraru. Kōrero ki tētahi hoa tata, ki tētahi mema whānau rānei e whakawhirinakihia ana e koe, kia mārama ai tō hinengaro. Mā te kōrero nui ki tētahi ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i ngā mea i roto i tō hinengaro, ā, ka taea e koe te mahi i tētahi mea e tika ana.
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5. Rapua he awhina ngaio
He uaua ki te whakapono engari ka taea e te tangata te huri ki te mahi whakaipoipo ahakoa kua maha ngā marama o te whakaipoipo . I roto i tēnei āhuatanga, ka tino uaua te whakatau i tēnei āhuatanga. Ki te kite koe i a koe e manukanuka tonu ana i tēnei tawhiti ohorere e hangaia ana e tō hoa, whakaarohia te rapu awhina ngaio kia mārama ai koe ki tēnei huringa o ngā kaupapa. Ka taea e te tohunga te ārahi pono i a koe i roto i te uaua o te mārama ki te āhuatanga katoa. Ki te whakaaro koe me āwhina koe, kei konei ngā tohunga hauora hinengaro mohio me te wheako o te rōpū Bonobology hei āwhina i a koe.
6. Haere atu, ka neke atu
He māmā ake te kōrero i te mahi, engari kāore te kōrero kino i te katakata. Ki te mōhio koe kei te kōrero kino koe, tukuna atu he poroporoaki whakamutunga ki te tangata, ka haere tonu. Ki te tino mamae koe, kei te riri rānei, ā, kāore koe e hiahia kia kitea e rātou te mutunga , kāore koe e hiahia ki te tuku i te karere whakamutunga. Kei te hiahia tonu te tangata i tērā pito kia whiwhi koe i te tohutohu. Nā, kua mōhio koe, whakarērea ō tumanako katoa, kati te tuku karere ki a rātou. Kāore rātou e aro, kāore hoki koe e aro.
Tohutohu Matua
- Ko te Caspering, e mōhiotia ana ko te soft ghosting, he huarahi hei tapahi i te tangata mā te whakaiti mārire i te whakapā atu ki a rātou.
- Ahakoa e whakaarohia ana he ngawari ake i te whakapohehe, ko te pa atu ā-wā, he mea whakapoauau, he mea whakamamae hoki.
- Mena kei te taha koe o te caspering, he mea nui kia mōhio koe ki ngā tohu whero me te wehe atu i a koe i te āhuatanga.
- Tukua atu he karere kuputuhi whakamutunga ki te tangata kia mōhio ai ia ki ōna whakaaro, ā, ki te kore e mārama te whakautu, me waiho atu, ka arotahi ki tō oranga.
- He mea āwhina te whakawhirinaki ki tō pūnaha tautoko ina pāngia koe e te pouri, ā, ki te kore koe e kaha ki te whakaae ki tēnā, me whakaaro pea koe ki te rapu āwhina ngaio hei whakaora me te neke atu i tēnei wheako kino.
Thoughts Final
He momo whakakorekore te whakahāwea. Kāore he tangata e maioha ana ki te whakakorenga, ina koa ka puta mai taua whakakorenga i roto i te ahua o ngā tohu whakaranu. Ko te hunga e whakamahi ana i tēnei tikanga tuku i tētahi tangata ki raro, e whakaaro ana kei te whakaora rātou i te tangata kē atu i te mamae, engari he nui atu te kino e pā ana ki a rātou. Ki te mea kei te whakahāwea koe, kimihia i roto i a koe te tuku i taua tangata. Kāore he take mō taua momo paitini i roto i tō oranga.
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