Ndi chithunzithunzi chazambiri zamtundu wa anthu, kuphatikiza kuyenera, umuna wapoizoni, ndi malingaliro olakwika okhudzana ndi chilolezo. Kumvetsetsa ndi kuthana ndi zochitikazi ndizofunikira kuti pakhale maubwenzi abwino, olemekezeka pamene kuvomereza kumayikidwa patsogolo nthawi zonse, ndipo kulemekezana sikungakambirane.
Zomwe timaphunzitsa anyamata athu ndi kulimbikira, kufunitsitsa komanso kutsimikiza mtima
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Simungachepetse kapena kuvomereza mfundo yakuti kugonana ndi chinthu choyambirira kwambiri pamoyo waumunthu. Ndipo ndichofunikira kwambiri, njira yachilengedwe yofunafuna kukhutitsidwa, mphotho ndi chisangalalo. Ndipo malingaliro, pamene akukula ndi thupi, amazindikiritsa chikhumbo popanda ngakhale kumvetsa izo. Chifukwa chakuti malingaliro sanadutse magawo ake akukula kuti amvetsetse chikhumbo. Kwenikweni palibe chifukwa chomvetsetsa chikhumbo chilichonse. Timayamba kuvomereza kuti chikhumbocho ndi chabwino ndi choipa pambuyo pake, pamene anthu ndiponso makolo amatiuza mmene zilili zoyenera kapena zosayenera. kufotokoza chilakolako. Kotero, ngati ife, kuyambira pachiyambi penipeni, timaphunzitsa ana athu kuti afikire chirichonse chimene amachita ndi kulimbikira, kufunitsitsa ndi kutsimikiza mtima, ndimotani mmene zofunika kwambiri za zokumana nazo zawo zingakhale zopanda izo? Imakhala malipiro kwa iwo. Ndipo 'ayi' aliyense akuwoneka ngati vuto lina lomwe ayenera kulimbana nalo, kugonjetsa ndi kupirira mpaka atasintha kukhala 'inde'.
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Chifukwa Chiyani Ndipo Mwamuna Akamapewa Kuyang'ana M'maso Ndi Mkazi - Zifukwa 5 Ndi Matanthauzo 13
Zilibe zambiri zokhudzana ndi kugonana komanso zokhudzana ndi mphamvu
Kodi mwaonapo kapena kumva kuti kulira kwamphamvu pamsewu (ngakhale kulibe magalimoto kutsogolo) sikuli kanthu koma kuonetsa mphamvu zakugonana? Ndicho chimene chiri chochita ndi mphamvu. Kukhala mwamuna pafupifupi nthawi zonse n'chimodzimodzi ndi kukhala wamphamvu. Ngakhale monga makolo timakonda kudziwitsa ana athu lingaliro ili la mphamvu: Khalani Mwamuna! Khalani ndi mipira! Anyamata musalire!
Chilichonse chiri chokhudza lingaliro la mphamvu. Choncho, kutenga AYI ndikuvomera kugonja.
Ndipo m’chitaganya ngati chathu, abwenzi ndi anzawo amangotsutsa kugonjetsedwa kotereku. Ndicho chifukwa chenicheni chimene amuna amachitira palibe lingaliro la unamwali, pamene akazi amachita!
“Sikulimbikira, koma kulemekezana. Ubwenzi weniweni umayamba ndi kumvetsetsa.”
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Kusiyidwa Mwamalingaliro mu Ukwati: Zizindikiro, Zoyambitsa, ndi Njira Zothetsera
Ayi akutanthauza Inde
Amuna ambiri amafunanso kukhulupirira kuti 'ayi' aliyense wa mtsikana ali pabedi akutuluka chifukwa cha kudzutsidwa. N’zosadabwitsa kuti amuna ambiri amavutika ndi kugwiriridwa malingaliro, chifukwa amaona kuti mkaziyo akunena kuti ayi monyengerera kuti akufuna kwambiri, ndikuzifuna mokakamiza komanso mwaukali. Lingaliro lawo lomwe la kukhala alpha ndi rough, limapezeka mu 'ayi za akazi awo. Chifukwa chake, nthabwala zodwala: amakonda nkhanza, bambo!
Utsogoleri mu kugonana
Kwa amuna ambiri a ku India, lingaliro la sewero ndilo lingaliro lokhalo lomwe ali nalo la kink! Pamene mwamuna ayenera kukhala wolamulira ndipo mkazi ayenera kukhala kapolo mwachisawawa. Izi zikuwonekeranso kuchokera ku zomwe abambowa amaphunzira za kukhala amuna amtundu wa anthu. Kukhalapo kokha kwa mphamvu zakuthupi, pankhani ya amuna, sikokwanira. Chiwonetsero cha mphamvu imeneyo kupyolera njira zolamulira ndikofunikira kwambiri - kuzindikira ngati mwamuna. Chifukwa chake, kuti munthu akhale china chilichonse kuposa wolamulira sichinthu koma manyazi. Mayiyo amangotengedwa kuti ndi wotsika kwambiri! Zowawa ngati zikumveka, kukana 'ayi' ndikukhala nkhuku!
- Kuvomereza ngati Maziko: Pansi pa kugonana kulikonse ndikuvomerezana. Popanda chilolezo chomveka, chokhudzidwa, palibe ntchito yomwe iyenera kuchitika.
- Connection Emotional and Trust: Ubwenzi wapamtima ndi kukhulupirirana nthawi zambiri zimatsogolera maubwenzi abwino ogonana. Kupanga mgwirizanowu kumatsimikizira kuti onse awiri akumva otetezeka komanso olemekezeka.
- Kulemekezana ndi Malire: Munthu aliyense ali ndi malire osiyanasiyana komanso amatonthozedwa pazochitika zogonana. Malirewa ayenera kukambidwa momasuka ndi kulemekezedwa popanda mafunso.
- Kulankhulana Ndikofunikira: Kukambirana momasuka za zilakolako, malire, ndi zokonda ndizofunikira kwambiri paubwenzi wogonana wokwanira. Kusamvana kungayambitse kusamvana kapena kusamvana.
- Chisangalalo ndi Kukhutitsidwa: Maubwenzi ogonana ayenera kuika patsogolo chisangalalo ndi kukhutitsidwa kwa onse awiri. Isakhale ya mbali imodzi; zilakolako za mbali zonse ziwiri ndi zofanana.
Kuwerenga kofananira: Chifukwa chiyani amuna sangatenge 'ayi' kuti ayankhe
Kulimbikira kwachikondi
Akhale wailesi yakanema kapena ma novel athu. Sing'anga aliyense amaphunzitsa amuna kukhala olimbikira, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti ngati ali, ndiye kuti mkaziyo adzapereka tsiku lina ndipo chilengedwe chidzapanga chiwembu kuti apite kwa iye. Umene uli zinyalala mtheradi! Si kanthu koma romanticising lingaliro lonse la kuzunza mkazi mpaka atayankha kuti inde. Mtima umenewu umaonekeranso tikamagona. Azimayi akamati ayi, amuna amangoona ngati chizindikiro chofuna kukulitsa kudzidalira kwawo ndi kudziuza kuti apitirizebe mpaka atamulola kuti alowe!
Ibibazo
1. Kodi 'Ayi' amatanthauza chiyani kwenikweni?
Zikutanthauza kuti pamene wina akunena kuti "ayi" ku mtundu uliwonse wa zochitika zolimbitsa thupi kapena zogonana, ziyenera kulemekezedwa mwamsanga komanso popanda funso. Kuvomereza kuyenera kukhala komveka, kosalekeza, komanso kosangalatsa.
Priya ndi Rahul anali atakhala pachibwenzi kwa miyezi ingapo ndipo anaganiza zoti ayambe kukondana kwambiri.” Koma Priya ankaopa kufotokoza malire ake. olemekezedwa koma oikidwa patsogolo kuyambira pamenepo, iwo anapitirizabe kukambitsirana momasuka, kupangitsa unansi wawo kukhala wokhutiritsa mwamalingaliro ndi mwakuthupi.”
2. Chifukwa chiyani amuna ena amavutika kuvomereza 'ayi' pakama?
Izi nthawi zambiri zimachokera ku chikhalidwe cha anthu, umuna wapoizoni, ndi zikhulupiriro zolakwika zokhudzana ndi kuyenera kwa maubwenzi. Amuna ena amavutika ndi kukanidwa, kumva kuti ali ndi ufulu wokhala ndi thupi la mnzawo, kapena kusamvetsetsa mtundu wa chilolezo.
3. Kodi anthu ali ndi gawo lotani pankhaniyi?
Nkhani za chikhalidwe nthawi zambiri zimalimbikitsa kulimbikira kwa amuna ndi kulamulira, kwinaku zimapeputsa kapena kulepheretsa ufulu wa amayi. Maganizo oipa amenewa angachititse amuna ena kukhulupirira kuti “ayi” n’ngotheka kukambirana kapena kuti n’zovuta, osati malire olimba.
Maganizo Final
Ndi malire omwe amafunika kulemekezedwa nthawi yomweyo komanso popanda funso. Kuthetsa nkhanizi kumafuna kukambirana mosalekeza za kuvomereza, kusinthasintha kwa amuna ndi akazi, ndi momwe tonse tingagwirire ntchito popanga chikhalidwe cha kulemekezana mu maubwenzi apamtima.
Amuna omwe amavutika kuvomereza kuti "ayi" atengepo mwayi woganizira zikhulupiriro zawo pazaufulu ndi ubwenzi wawo. Pomvetsetsa kufunikira kwa malire ndi kuphunzira kuthana ndi kukanidwa ndi kukhwima, akhoza kupanga maubwenzi olimba, aulemu. Sungani gawo ndi akatswiri athu lero kuti timveke bwino, kulankhulana bwino, ndi kulimbikitsa ubale wabwino ndi wokhutiritsa.”
Zoyenera kuchita: Pa zomwe akazi amafuna pabedi ndi chifukwa chiyani
Mtsikana uja anati AYI pamene akupanga…mudzadabwa kudziwa zomwe mnyamatayo adachita pambuyo pake!
Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
Ayi ndi chiganizo chathunthu.