Chikondi? Ndizovuta. Ukwati? Ndizovuta. Chisudzulo? Ndi zosokoneza. Muubwenzi, njira yopita ku 'chisangalalo chosatha' ili ndi zopinga, zovuta, ziyeso ndi zosintha. Tsoka ilo, sialiyense amene angapange ulendowu ndipo ndipamene lumbiro loti ‘mpaka imfa ikatilekanitse’ limasinthidwa ndi ‘divorce do us part’. Komabe, tisanawerenge malamulowa, pali mndandanda umodzi womwe maanja akuyenera kuukumbukira ngati kuyesa kupulumutsa banja lomwe likuyenda movutikira - mndandanda wa mayeselo olekanitsa.
Kulekana kwa mayesero kwafala kwambiri tsopano. Ndi njira imene mwamuna ndi mkazi, m’malo mopatukana m’banja, aganiza zopumula kukhala pamodzi. Ichi chiyenera kukhala chigamulo chimene onse aŵiriwo agamula motsatiridwa ndi zitsogozo ndi malamulo ofunikira kuti athe kuweruza ukwati wawo mwachilungamo. Pamapeto pa nthawiyi, amatenga foni kuti asankhe kupatukana mwalamulo kapena kukumananso.
Ndi katswiri wodziwa bwino ntchito yathu, tiyeni tikambirane mfundo imeneyi kuti timvetse bwino. Shazia Saleem (Masters in Psychology), yemwe ndi katswiri pa nkhani yopereka uphungu kwa anthu okwatirana omwe ali pabanja komanso kusudzulana, ali pano kuti atiuze mmene kulekana kwa anthu pabanja kumakhalira komanso momwe tingachitire.
Kodi Kupatukana kwa Mayesero Ndi Lingaliro Labwino?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Tisanalankhule momwe tingachitire panthawi yopatukana, tiyeni timvetse ngati ndi chifukwa chake ndi lingaliro labwino poyamba. Kupatukana kwa mayesero? Inde, ndi lingaliro labwino chifukwa maanja ambiri amapeza malingaliro abwino akakhala mosiyana. Ena amasankha kubwererana, ena amazindikira kuti ali bwino kusiyana ndipo amatha kuthetsa zinthu mwamtendere. Kupatukana kwa mayesero kumapereka chithandizo chofunikira kwambiri asanachitepo kanthu kalikonse koopsa. Kuphatikiza apo, kumapereka chiyembekezo kwa okwatirana.
Anthu otchuka, monga nthawi zonse, amatsogolera pankhaniyi. Kalelo mu 2013, miseche inali itamveka mphekesera zoti banja lagolide la Hollywood Will Smith ndi Jada Pinkett akugawanika. Zikuoneka kuti anali ndi mavuto ndipo anali pa kupatukana kwa mayesero. Chilichonse chimene iwo anachita chinagwira ntchito chifukwa iwo ndithudi anabwerera pamodzi mwamphamvu.
Michael Douglas ndi Catherine Zeta Jones 'ndi nkhani ina yopambana yopatukana. Iwo anali ndi chiyambi chovuta kwambiri chaukwati wawo womwe amakambidwa kwambiri. Wina sakudziwa kuti chikalata chawo cholekanitsa milandu chinali chani koma zikuwoneka ngati adatsatira kwa T pomwe awiriwa abwererana ndipo akusangalalabe ndi banja lokhazikika.
N’zoona kuti si aliyense amene angadzitamande chifukwa cha nkhani zopambana zoterezi ndipo pali anthu ambiri okayikira lingaliroli. Akatswiri ena amaona kuti ndi kuwononga nthawi koopsa pamene ena amakhulupirira kuti ndi njira yabwino yopangira malingaliro m'banja. Koma mosasamala kanthu za zotsatira zomaliza, pali mfundo zingapo zowonjezera apa.
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Ubwino wa kulekana kwa mayesero
Shazia akufotokoza kuti, “Kupatukana pa mlandu ndi chisankho choganizirana komanso choganizirana. Mwayi womaliza woterewu umalola kuti ubale wanu upulumuke pa mayesowo komaliza. Pali mwayi waukulu kuti zotsatira za kupatukana pa mlanduwo zingakhale zochepa, zosakhudzidwa ndi zinthu zakunja ndipo nthawi zonse zimakhala bwino kuposa kusudzulana.”
Iwo amene apita kukayezetsa kulekana adzakuuzani kuti ili ndi mapindu akeake ambiri. Poyamba, zimakukokerani kutali ndi kusagwirizana ndi kukangana komanso zimakulolani kuti mukhale nokha kuti muthetse malingaliro anu. Koma zimathandizanso bwanji? Ife tikukuuzani inu.
- Kuphwanya dongosolo la seti: Brad Browning, mphunzitsi wa maukwati ndi chisudzulo, akunena mu kanema wake kuti kupatukana kwa mayesero sikungakhale njira yothetsera mavuto a m'banja koma kuyenera kuwonedwa momwe zilili - kuyesa komaliza kupulumutsa banja. Iye anati: “Nthaŵi zambiri mavuto amabuka m’banja pamene okwatirana amakangana ndi kuchita zolakwa zomwezo mobwerezabwereza.
- Amathetsa mikangano yaing'ono: Nthawi zina mikangano yaing'ono imawonjezera mavuto onse. Mwina wanu mkazi wakwiya kuti simuthandiza kuphika mbale. Mwina mukukwiyitsidwa kuti sakuzimitsa TV. Chabwino, ngati palibe mbale kapena TV yoti muzikangana panthawi yopatukana ndi mayesero nonse mungaphunzire kusatuluka thukuta pazinthu zazing'ono zomwe zimatsogolera ku ndewu zazikulu. Browning anati: “Zingathandize kuti seŵero latsiku ndi tsiku lithe. Pokhapokha ngati mukuchita zolekanitsa m'nyumba imodzi. Zikatero, udindo wothetsa ndewu ndikuwongolera kulankhulana umakhala pa inu nonse ndipo uyenera kuchitidwa mosamala.
- Zimakupatsani mawonekedwe: Ndiye simumamukonda mwamuna/mkazi wanu. Koma mukakhala ndi nthawi yopuma, mungazindikire kuti moyo ungakhale woipa kwambiri ngati simuli ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Kodi kutanthauzira kwachidziwitso chosiyana kudzakhala njira yabwinoko paubwenzi wanu kusiyana ndi kusamvetsetseka kwa kulekana kwa mayesero? Mudziwa mayankho a mafunsowa mukasankha omaliza
- Mutha kukhala abwino kwa wokondedwa wanu: Nthawi yozizirira ikhoza kukuthandizani kuti mupewe malingaliro oyipa omwe mwakumana nawo ndi okondedwa anu. Zingakupangitseni kuyamikira zinthu zomwe simunaziganizire mopepuka. Mwinamwake malire olekanitsa oyesa anakuchititsani kuchokako ndi kusakumana ndi ana anu ndipo tsopano mungazindikire kufunika kwa ‘banja’ lonselo kwa inu.
- Ikhoza kukupulumutsirani ndalama: Ngati mupita kukapatukana mwalamulo, sikuti ndi njira yotalikirapo yokha, komanso imasiyani inu osauka chifukwa cha ndalama zomwe loya amawononga. Pamenepa, mungathe kuona mavuto a m’banja mwanu mwanjira ina popanda thandizo la loya. Zachidziwikire, izi zimatengera momwe mumatsata zomwe muyenera kuchita panthawi yopatukana
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Mndandanda wa Mayesero Olekanitsa
Kupatukana kwa mayesero kuli ndi ubwino wake koma pali mbali inanso. Monga momwe Browning akunenera, "Sizingakhale zothandiza m'kupita kwa nthawi ngati mutabwereranso ku ndondomeko yomweyi mukamabwereranso. Kuti musinthe zinthu, muyenera kusintha kwamuyaya." Zilibe kanthu kuti mukuyang'ana mndandanda wa zolekanitsa zoyesa ku UK, US kapena kwina kulikonse padziko lapansi, mfundo ndi yakuti cholinga cha dongosololi ndikusintha. Mndandanda wanu wa kulekanitsa kwa mayesero uyenera kuwerengera zimenezo.
Kuti zitheke, ndikofunikira kutsatira malire a kulekana kwa milandu ndi malamulo ena, ngakhale atakhala kuti alibe malamulo. Monga momwe zilili ndi mndandanda wa zisudzulo zomwe ziyenera kutsatiridwa ngati mwalekana mwalamulo (zokhudza ana, katundu, ufulu wochezera ndi zina zotero), ngakhale dongosolo losavomerezeka ngati ili likufunika mndandanda wa zisudzulo kuti likutsogolereni pa zomwezo.
Mukhoza kugwirizana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndikubwera ndi mndandanda wapatukana m'nyumba. Simufunika mabatire a maloya kapena chidziwitso chazamalamulo kuti mufotokozere za kulekanitsa kwa mlandu. Komabe, ndikofunikira kuti nonse muli pa tsamba lomwelo za nthawi, malamulo ndi chifukwa chonse cha zomwe zikuchitika. Nazi zinthu zingapo zomwe muyenera kukumbukira ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mukuvomereza chilichonse kuti izi zitheke.
1. Kodi kulekanitsidwa kwa mayesero kumatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji?
Chinthu choyamba komanso chofunika kwambiri pa mndandanda wa kupatukana kwanu m'banja ndicho kusankha nthawi yomwe kupatukanaku kudzakhala. Khalani ndi tsiku lomaliza m'maganizo, nenani miyezi itatu kapena miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ndipo onetsetsani kuti nonse mukugwirizana nazo. Pangano lolekanitsa limadalira zomwe zolinga zanu zili: ndikuwona momwe mumamvera mukakhala patali kapena cholinga chomaliza chothandizira kuthana ndi kusiyana kwanu?
Shazia anati: “Nthawi yokhazikika imadalira anthu aŵiri okhudzidwawo koma nthaŵi yabwino ingakhale miyezi 6. Ndikukhulupirira kuti zimenezi zimapatsa mbali zonsezo nthaŵi yokwanira yomvetsetsana ndi kuunikanso ubale wawo kuti asankhepo kanthu kena.” Mukakhala ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kulemba mndandanda wapatukana mnyumba, lingakhale lingaliro labwino kupanga ndondomekoyi ya miyezi isanu ndi umodzi.
Afotokozereni chifukwa chomwe iyi ili nthawi yabwino yodziwira momwe mukumvera pabanja lanu - m'miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, mutha kuthana ndi mkwiyo, kupwetekedwa mtima, kukwiyira kapena china chilichonse chomwe chikukusakanitsani, ndikuchita ntchito ina yamkati kuti muthetse vuto lanu ndikuyang'ana ubale wanu kuchokera pamalingaliro osalowerera ndale.
2. Kambiranani za ndalama, osazengereza
Ngakhale mutapatukana moyesa m'nyumba imodzi, kambiranani izi ndi mnzanuyo. Ndi mfundo yofunika kuyikapo pamndandanda wanu wolekanitsa woyeserera mosatengera nthawi kapena malo. Kaya ndi mndandanda wolekanitsa woyeserera ku UK, US, Australia, kapena kulikonse padziko lapansi, zachuma ziyenera kukhazikitsidwa. Kodi mukufuna kuchita chiyani pa nkhani ya maakaunti ophatikizana ndi makhadi a kirediti kadi?
Ubale wanu uli kale ndi mavuto ena. Pakadali pano, mavuto azachuma ndiye chinthu chomaliza chomwe mukufuna. Pankhaniyi, nthawi zonse ndibwino kukambirana za momwe mungagawire ndalama panthawi yoyesera kulekana kwanu. Mgwirizano woterewu kapena kukambirana msanga kungathandizenso ngati, ngati mutasankha kulekana mwalamulo mtsogolo.
3. Mfundo yokhudzana ndi nyumba yaukwati iyenera kukhala pa mndandanda wa kupatukana kwanu
Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri - funso loti, ndani achoke kuti? Kodi mudzapitiriza kukhala m’nyumba imene munakwatiwamo kapena mudzapitiriza kukhalabe m’nyumba imene munakwatirirapo? Yesetsani kupanga chisankhochi motengera zinthu zina - mwachitsanzo, ngati pali ana omwe akukhudzidwa, ndizomveka kuti kholo lamanja lipitirize kukhala m'nyumba imodzi, kuti lisasokoneze moyo wawo - m'malo motengeka maganizo. Nthawi zina, mutha kusankhanso kupatukana koyeserera m'nyumba imodzi, makamaka ngati muli ndi malo otsimikizika.
Zikatero, dongosololi lidzakhala la anthu awiri okhala nawo limodzi pamene mukukambirana malo ovuta muubwenzi wanu. Zikatero, ganizirani kufika pa mgwirizano wolekanitsa m'nyumba. Sankhani malo omwe ali anu, dziwani omwe ali awo, kuyankhulana kovomerezeka kapena ngati kuwonera Netflix palimodzi pabalaza kuli bwino. Nthawi ikupita, choncho kambiranani mwachangu ndikuyika chizindikiro pamndandanda wanu wopatukana m'banja.
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4. Ana adzakhala ndi ndani?
Kupatukana kungakhale kopweteka kwambiri kwa banja lonse. Ngati zimenezi n’zachikulire, inuyo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu muyenera kukambirana mmene zingakhudzire anawo. Adzakhala ndi ndani panthawi imeneyi? Kodi mukuwawuza chiyani kwenikweni? Momwe mungachitire panthawi yopatukana kuti zisasokoneze mwanayo?
Choyenera, ichi chikhale chisankho chothandiza chomwe chingatengedwe kutengera mtunda wa kusukulu/ku koleji komanso m'njira zomwe sizingasokoneze moyo wawo. Ndiponso, ngati mukukonzekera kupatukana ndi mwamuna wanu, malingaliro a ana anu angakhale aakulu m’maganizo mwanu. Choncho ganizirani mozama za ichi. Apanso, n’zomveka kuti anawo azikhala ndi kholo logwira ntchito kwambiri. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, kholo linalo sayenera kuchotsedwa kotheratu.
Monga momwe Shazia akunenera, “Chosankha cha kholo chofuna kuyesa njira imeneyi kuti apatsenso mwayi wachiwiri ku unansi wawo chiyenera kuululidwa momveka bwino kwa ana.” Ana ayenera kukhala okhudzidwa ndi kudziŵa zimene zikuchitika popeza kuti chotulukapo chonse chidzayambukira miyoyo yawo mokulira.”
5. Kodi mumaloledwa kukhala ndi chibwenzi?
Mu kupatukana kosokoneza, ngati muli pachibwenzi kapena kukumana ndi munthu panthawi yomwe muli kutali ndi mzake, akhoza kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ngati chifukwa cha chigololo. Koma ngati chikondi chachoka m’banja mwanu, mwina mungakopeke kuti muyambenso chibwenzi.
Zingakhale bwino kuwonjezera ndimeyi kapena kuyankhulana kuti pasakhale zoyembekeza zakugonana kapena kukhulupirika m'malingaliro pa nthawi yopatukana. M'malo mwake, ngati mmodzi wa inu ali wotsimikiza za kukhulupirika, lemekezani. Malamulo okhudzana ndi chibwenzi ndi kugonana ayenera kuphatikizidwa muzolekanitsa zoyeserera ndikufotokozedwa momveka bwino kuti mupewe zovuta pambuyo pake.
Makamaka ngati nonse mukuchita zolekanitsa m'nyumba imodzi, iyi imakhala mfundo yofunika kwambiri pa mgwirizano wanu wolekanitsa m'nyumba. Sizingakhale zokondweretsa kuwonera mkazi wina akuyenda mwamanyazi 7am kutuluka m'chipinda cha mwamuna wanu pamene mukupanga mapuloteni anu kugwedezeka m'mawa. Ndibwino kuti muchepetse mpweya wa madera otuwa kale.
6. Musaphonye chithandizo cha maanja
Nthawi zambiri, alangizi amalangiza maanja omwe akukangana kuti asiyane ndi mayesero. Koma mukamaliza kuchita zimenezo, musagwiritse ntchito ngati chowiringula chothaŵa mavuto a m’banja. Kumbukirani kuti cholinga chake ndi kuona ngati mungapulumutse banja lanu. Kotero ngakhale panthawi yopatukana, musaphonye ndondomeko yanu yamankhwala. Masitepe ang'onoang'ono awa angathandize kwambiri kupulumutsa ubale wanu.
Shazia akutiuza kuti, "Kuchiza kwa maanja ndikofunika kwambiri panthawi yopatukana ndi mayesero. Ndichithandizo choonjezera chofunika kwambiri ndi kumvetsetsa zomwe zingathandize maanja kukhala ndi malingaliro omveka pa momwe akumvera. Zimawathandiza kuzindikira zovuta zawo kapena mavuto awo bwino ndikuwongolera mwayi wa zotsatira zopanda tsankho pamapeto pake."
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7. Sankhani nkhani
Pamene okwatirana ooneka ngati olimba alekana, malilime ayenera kugwedezeka monga momwe anachitira Will Smith-Jada Pinkett ndi Michael Douglas-Catherine Zeta-Jones. Anthu a m’dzikoli komanso a m’banja lanu onse adzasangalala, ngakhale nkhaniyo ikukhudza inu nonse awiri.
Ndibwino kusankha zomwe munganene komanso kuchuluka kwa zowululira kudziko komanso momwe mungachitire panthawi yopatukana pamaso pa dziko lapansi. Moyenera, muyenera kuchepetsa kukhudzidwa kwa anzanu ndi abale. Mukabwera ndi mndandanda wanu wopatukana m'nyumba, ndibwino kuti mukhudze zovuta zazing'onozi. Sungani nkhani zanu kuti zigwirizane ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mukukhala achikondi komanso aulemu wina ndi mnzake pamacheza. Ukwati umene uli kale wokakamizika sufuna sewero lowonjezera la miseche ndi uphungu wosafunsidwa.
8. Ubwenzi muubwenzi wanu ngati mutapatukana m'nyumba imodzi
Kugonana kungasokoneze zinthu komanso kusokoneza malingaliro. Koma mu maubwenzi osakhazikika, kungakhale kusintha kwakukulu ngakhale awiriwa akumenyana. Ngati mukulekana koma mukukhala limodzi, funsani ngati mudzakhala ndi chibwenzi chilichonse ndipo onjezerani mutuwu pa mndandanda wanu wokambirana za kulekana kwa ukwati nthawi yomweyo. Kufunika kwa malire abwino muubwenzi sikunganyalanyazidwe, ndipo izi zimakhala zofunika kwambiri pamene ubale wanu uli pamlingo wovuta.
Shazia akupereka lingaliro lakuti: “Kugonana kungayambitse chisokonezo ponena za chisankho chonse.
Lingaliro: Osayandikira kwambiri chifukwa zitha kukusiyani m'mavuto okhudzana ndi ubale wanu. Mukagona ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu tsiku lina ndiyeno n’kuyesa kuchita zinthu motalikirana, zonse zidzakusokonezani nonse ponena za kumene mukulowera. Kumbukirani kuti mukuyesera kukhazikitsa malire olekanitsa, osati kuwasokoneza.
Momwe Mungapulumukire Kupatukana Kwa Mayesero
N'zosavutabe kupanga mndandanda wa zowerengera za kulekana kwa mayesero ndi malire a kulekana kwa mayesero. Vuto lili pakutsatira. Pali malingaliro ndi zotsatira zalamulo zomwe zingachitike. Mu filimu ya Sex And The City , Miranda ndi Dave akupita kukalekana kwa mayesero atatha kusakhulupirika . Mlangizi akuwauza kuti, "Simukudziwa ngati adzanyenganso koma muyenera kungokhulupirirana kuti sizichitikanso chifukwa cha chikondi chomwe mumagawana."
Ndilo mfungulo pakukambirana bwino za kulekana kwa mayeso. Sizingatheke kunena ngati mudzakhalanso limodzi kachiwiri kapena ayi koma pita momwemo ndikupereka kuwombera kwanu bwino osadandaula za zotsatira zake. Zingathandize kuchepetsa kuwawa ngati palibe china. Koma nthawi zonse pali njira ndi njira zopulumutsira.
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1. Malire olekanitsa mayesero - Osapanga tsiku
Shazia anati: “Pokhala wachikulire, n’kwanu kusankha kukhala ndi chibwenzi kapena ayi. Koma kaŵirikaŵiri sikuli bwino kukhala ndi chibwenzi panthaŵi yopatukana mwachiyeso.” Mpata wopereka mwaŵi wachiŵiri ku chibwenzi chanu umakhala wochepa msanga ngati mulola kusonkhezeredwa kapena kusokera kutali.
Musalowe mu masewera a chibwenzi ngakhale mndandanda wanu woyeserera kulekana umakulolani. Tengani nthawi yoganizira za ubale womwe ukutha, osati watsopano womwe ungakhale ndi mwayi uliwonse. Kugonana popanda zingwe kungakhale kokopa kwambiri koma pewani.
2. Lumikizananinso ndi inu nokha
Nthawi yodzipatula iyi ndi mwayi wabwino wolumikizana ndi umunthu wanu wamkati. Tengani nawo gawo mu magawo a machiritso ndikufika kumapeto kwabwinoko kumapeto kwa nthawi yanu yolekanitsa. Yesetsani kuchotsa kusagwirizana komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha mavuto m'banja mwanu. Dzilimbikireni nokha, zingakuthandizeni kukonza banja lanu.
Shazia akuti, "Kudzifufuza ndi kuzindikira zamaganizo ndizofunikira kwambiri panthawi yopatukana ndi mayesero. Munthu amene sakusangalala ndi iyemwini, sangathe kusangalatsa ubale wake . Ndikofunikira kuti anthu onse awiri adzifufuze okha ndikukhala mwamtendere panthawi yopatukana ndi mayesero."
3. Osawona ngati yankho lomaliza
Monga momwe Brad Browning amanenera, "Kupatukana kwa mayeso sikungathetse mavuto anu mpaka mutathetsa china chilichonse." Pamene mukugwira ntchito yofunikira kuti mubwere ndi mndandanda wokhazikika wolekanitsa m'nyumba ndikusunga mawu ake, musaiwale kuyang'ana mkati. Ngati banja lanu lasokonekera, pali mwayi woti mwathandizira m’njira inayake.
Gwiritsani ntchito kulekana kwa mayesero ngati mwayi wodzifufuza nokha ndikupeza gwero la mavuto anu am'maganizo ndi mavuto am'mbuyomu. Momwe timachitira mu ubale wathu wapamtima zimakhudza kwambiri zomwe takumana nazo poyamba m'moyo. Chifukwa chake, yang'anani mosamala njira yanu yolumikizirana , zovuta zakale, kusatetezeka, kapena zina zilizonse zomwe zimayambitsa, ndikuyesetsa kuzithetsa. Kulekana kwa mayesero kungathandize kupulumutsa ukwati wanu pokhapokha mutadzipereka kukonza zomwe sizikuyenda bwino muubwenzi wanu.
4. Kodi tingachite bwanji pa kupatukana? Lemekezani malire
Kulekana kumeneku kungakhale kuvala zovala zoyeserera kuti musayine komaliza pa mapepala a chisudzulo kapena kungakhale mwayi wowunikiranso malamulo ndi zikhalidwe za ubale wanu wapano ndikubwererana. Ngati mukudutsa mu chilekano choyesera kukhala m'nyumba imodzi, kumakhala kofunikira kwambiri kulemekeza malire ndi malamulo omwe mwasankha. Khalani ndi malire abwino.
5. Osanyalanyaza udindo
Izi zisakhalenso chowiringula chozembera ntchito kapena maudindo. Kaya ndi za bilu kapena maphunziro a ana kapena kusamalira nyumba, chitani zomwe mumachita nthawi zonse. Simunachokere m'moyo wa wina ndi mnzake mpaka pano kotero musamachite manyazi ndi maudindo a tsiku ndi tsiku.
Shazia akumaliza chitsogozo ichi cha mndandanda wa kupatukana kwa mabanja ponena kuti, "Monga katswiri wa zamaganizo, ndimalimbikitsa kwambiri kupatukana kwa mayesero. Panthawi ya ntchito yanga, ndawona maanja ambiri akudumpha-kuyambitsa maubwenzi awo pambuyo pa nthawi yabwino kwambiri. Makamaka mu maubwenzi a nthawi yaitali kapena maukwati omwe ali ndi ana, zikhoza kuchita zodabwitsa. Ndikoyenera kuwombera ndipo akhoza kutsegula maso a munthu wina kuti agwirizanenso ndi wina ndi mzake. pambuyo pake, sizichitika mwanjira yonyansa ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri zimachitidwa momvetsetsa.”
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Zonsezi, maubwenzi ndi aumwini ndipo akafika pamiyala, aliyense amachita mosiyana kwambiri. Mu ubale wowawa ndi woyipa, palibe chifukwa choyesera kupatukana chifukwa mwina sikungapite kulikonse. Koma ngati pali chiyembekezo ndipo mukadali ndi chikondi pachimake, mwina mwina mutha kupumamo moyo. Kukhala kutali kwa kanthaŵi mwinamwake kungathandize kuti mukhale pamodzi.
Ibibazo
Inde, zingathekedi. Ngati wina akufuna kupatukana ndi mayesero, akhoza kuchita popanda kusuntha. Ngati muli ndi mgwirizano woyenera wolekanitsa m'nyumba, zimangothandizira kuti zikhale zosavuta. Mukasankha malamulo ndi malamulo, ikani malire olekanitsa mayesero - ndiye kuti ndinu abwino kupita.
Inde, mungathe bola ngati mnzanuyo akudziwa ndipo akuvomereza. Ndi udindo wanu kusankha njira yomwe ingakuthandizeni kuchira muukwatiwu . Komabe, nthawi zambiri sizikulimbikitsidwa chifukwa zimakulepheretsani kuganizira zolinga zanu zazikulu monga kuwunika momwe mukumvera pa zomwe mukufuna ndikuwunikira ubale wanu wapano.
Cholinga cha kupatukana ndi mayesero ndicho kupeza nthawi yopuma m'banja lanu yomwe yakhala ikukutopetsani. M'malo mosankha chisudzulo, nthawi ino kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa ngati mukufuna imodzi poyambirira. Nonse awiri mukatenga malo awa kuti mukhale bwino, mudzakhala bwino kuti mumvetsetse zomwe mukufuna, ngati ubale wanu ukufunika kukonza komanso ngati mukufuna kuukonza kapena kuchokapo.
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