Kodi Uphungu Waukwati Umagwira Ntchito Motani Kuti Athetse Mavuto Azaubwenzi?

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Kodi uphungu waukwati umagwira ntchito? Mabanja ambiri amene amayesa uphungu wa m’banja amapeza kuti wawathandiza kuthetsa kusamvana kwawo ndi kuwongolera maubwenzi awo. Ndikopindulitsa kupeza uphungu wa maanja ngati vuto lili laling'ono ndipo lingathe kuthetsedwa.

Pamene mwamuna ndi mkazi akukumana ndi zovuta kapena akusiyana maganizo, uphungu ukhoza kuwathandiza kuthana ndi vutolo moyenera komanso mwaumoyo.

Uphungu wa m’banja ukhoza kukhala wanthawi yochepa kapena wautali koma umathandizira kukwaniritsa zolinga zomwe okwatiranawo ankafuna kuzikwaniritsa ataganiza zopempha thandizo lakunja. Uphungu waukwati wa maanja ungathedi kupulumutsa ubale.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Dr. Rima Mukherjee wakhala akupereka uphungu kwa maanja kwa zaka 20 zapitazi ndipo akutchula njira 10 zomwe uphungu wa ukwati ungathandizire ukwati wanu ndi ubale wanu.

Kodi Uphungu Wa Maanja Ungapulumutse Ubale?

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Uphungu wa maanja ungathandizedi kuthetsa mavuto omwe angayambitse chibwenzi. Pamene maanja amalankhulana ndi mlangizi pamodzi, amapeza malingaliro atsopano pa ubale wawo. Mlangizi wabwino angapangitse maanja kukambirana ndi kukambirana nkhanizo, kuwathandiza kumvetsetsa maganizo a wina ndi mzake.

Kuti muyese madzi, mutha kuyesa maphunziro a maanja kunyumba ndikuwona komwe angakutsogolereni. Zachidziwikire, ndibwino ngati masewerawa achitika motsatira malangizo kapena moyang'aniridwa ndi katswiri wodziwa bwino ntchito. Anthu ambiri amapewa kupita ku chithandizo chifukwa amaona kuti kudziwitsa munthu wosamudziwa n'kovuta kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri, malingaliro awo amapangidwa popanda kumvetsetsa bwino zomwe chithandizocho chimaphatikizapo.

Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tiyese kusintha izi mwachidule cha zomwe tingayembekezere mu chithandizo cha banja. Mlangizi nthawi zambiri amayamba ndikufunsa mafunso angapo omwe angaphatikizepo mbiri yaubwana wanu, mbiri ya ubale wanu ndi zifukwa zonse zomwe mudasankhira kulandira chithandizo.

Muyenera kuyankha mafunso moona mtima. Kuyambira pamenepo, makamaka za kutulutsa malingaliro omwe mwina mwakhala mukukayika kugawana ndi mnzanu chifukwa mukuwona kuti akhoza kukhala okhumudwitsa, olakwika pazandale kapena owononga ubale wanu. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, okwatirana onse ayenera kukhala omasuka ndi kumvetsera mwatcheru pamene winayo akulankhula.

Dziwani kuti chithandizo cha maanja chingathandize kukonza banja losweka ngati muli wokonzeka kusintha. Nthawi zambiri maanja amakana kusintha; ndipamene ntchito ya uphungu imavuta.

Mlangizi angayang'ane momwe mukuyendera, kukupatsani homuweki koma muyenera kukhala olimbikira pakuchita kwanu. Ndiye kodi uphungu wa maanja umagwira ntchito? Chabwino, pali njira zina zomwe zingasinthire ubale wanu kukhala wabwino.

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Dr Mukherjee amatipatsa upangiri wofunikira wamabanja ndipo amatiuza momveka bwino kuti ndi liti komanso momwe munthu angagwiritsire ntchito uphungu waukwati.

Pakhoza kukhala mavuto muukwati omwe angakhale akukankhira pansi pa kapeti kuti angathetsedwe ndi kuthetsedwa. Kodi uphungu waukwati umagwira ntchito? Nazi njira 10 zomwe zingatheke:

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1. Uphungu waukwati ungathandize kusintha

Masiku ano, maukwati ambiri amasweka mkati mwa miyezi yochepa. Izi zimachitika ngakhale anthu akasankha okwatirana awoawo ndikukhala m'malo okhala ndi zida za nyukiliya. Ntchito zosavuta monga kugawa ntchito zapakhomo zimatha kukhala mikangano yayikulu chifukwa maloto asanakwatirane samawoneka ngati zenizeni.

M’malo momangokhalira kukangana ndi kukangana pa nkhani zimene zingatheke mosavuta, ndi bwino kuonana ndi mlangizi wa mabanja n’kuthetsa vuto la mano.

2. Kuthetsa nkhani ndi apongozi

Izi zimawonedwa ngati zovuta zomwe aliyense amakhala nazo ndipo amayenera kudzikonza pakapita nthawi. Kungoti, satero. Mabanja ambiri masiku ano amatha chaka choyamba chifukwa cha mavuto ndi apongozi. Nkhani imodzi yodziwika bwino ndi kusokoneza moyo wa mkwatibwi watsopano (akagwira ntchito/osagwira ntchito/kusankha zovala/moyo).

Makolo a mtsikana angakhalenso akuloŵerera, kuwasiya okwatirana achichepere ali okhumudwa ndipo angakhale akukwiyirana. Mapulogalamu opereka uphungu paukwati amathandiza pamenepa.

Chidziŵitso china chosangalatsa chakhala chakuti kaŵirikaŵiri amuna atsopano akalankhula kapena kuchita kanthu kena kwa mkazi watsopanoyo, amamveka ngati amayi awo (amakhala kumbali yake nthaŵi zonse). Chowonadi ndi chakuti, pambuyo pa zonse zomwe amayi adamulera ndi kupanga malingaliro ake kwa zaka zambiri, kotero izi ziyenera kuchitika.

Koma mkazi watsopanoyo akulephera kuvomereza. Komanso, mwamunayo amayembekezera kuti mayi ake achite zinthu zonse zomwe amayi ake ankachita monga kuphika, kusunga nyumba ndi kununkhira. Chomwe samazindikira ndichakuti amayi ake atha kukhala wosamalira pakhomo ndipo mkazi wake anali mkazi wantchito.

Ngati angapeze mlangizi waukwati amene angawafotokozere zimenezi monga munthu wosaloŵerera m’ndale, mkazi wamng’onoyo kapena mwamuna sakhala wokhumudwa chifukwa cha kusamvetsetsana. Kenako mlangizi angathe kuwathandiza kuthetsa nkhani zenizeni.

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3. Uphungu wa maanja umathandiza ngati pali vuto logonana

Kuletsa kukambilana zokhuza kugonana kumapangitsa maanja kukhala chete pamavuto ogonana kwa zaka zambiri. Ndi pamene chitsenderezo chofuna kukhala ndi mwana sichingalephereke pamene nkhanizi zimazindikirika ndikuyankhidwa.

Pamenepa, mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana angaphatikizepo kusiyana kwa zilakolako za kugonana, kusagwira bwino ntchito kwa erectile, frigidity, chizolowezi cholaula ndi ena. Kusagonana kungapangitse wina kapena onse awiri kukhala okhumudwa pakapita nthawi ndikupangitsa kuti chibwenzicho chithe.

Upangiri wamabanja ndi kuyenderana ndi akatswiri odziwa za kugonana ndikofunikira. Zidzathandiza okwatiranawo kumvetsetsa ndi kuthetsa mavutowo ndi kukhala ndi moyo wokhutiritsa m’banja.

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4. Uphungu ukhoza kuthetsa zotsatira za kusakhulupirika

Okwatirana ayenera kupempha uphungu ngati pakhala chibwenzi ndipo asankha kupitiriza ndi ukwatiwo ndikuupatsanso mwayi wina. Wokwatirana naye wonyenga komanso amene wanyengedwa ayenera kuphunzira momwe angapitirire patsogolo ndikuthandizira kumanganso chidaliro chomwe chatayika muukwatiwo.

Wokondedwa yemwe wapusitsidwa nayenso ayenera kuphunzira momwe angapitirire kukwiyitsa ndi kupweteka. Chofunika koposa, phunguyo adzathandiza okwatiranawo kufika pa chifukwa chimene ukwati unasokonekera poyamba.

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5. Alangizi a Mabanja amathandiza kuthana ndi mavuto olera ana

Ambiri modabwitsa okwatirana achichepere amakumana ndi kusokonekera kwakukulu m’moyo wawo waukwati ngati kachitidwe kawo ka kulera kosiyana.

Mwachitsanzo, kholo limodzi lingaganize kuti mwanayo ndi waulesi ndipo amangofunika chikondi cholimba pamene kholo lina likhoza kuganiza kuti mwanayo akungofuna wina yemwe angamuuze. Ukwati ndi maubwenzi zitha kukhudzidwa kwambiri ndi njira zosiyanasiyana zolerera mwana.

Zikatero, okwatirana onse amapitirizabe kuchita zolakwa zazikulu zolerera ana. Sadziwa momwe angasinthire kapena kuthana ndi zovuta zakulera mwana m'dziko lokhala ndi mawaya apamwamba kwambiri. Kusemphana maganizo koteroko kungayambitse mikangano ndipo ndewu zapakhomo zingakhudze mwana ndi ukwati. Iyi ndi nthawi yomwe munthu ayenera kupeza uphungu.

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6. Zosokoneza bongo zimatha kuthana nazo

Mtundu uliwonse wa chizolowezi ungawononge kwambiri banja. Mowa/mankhwala osokoneza bongo umabweretsa mavuto ena monga mavuto azachuma kunyumba, kutukwana, chiwawa, kunama. Uphungu wa chizolowezi ndi wofunikira kwambiri panthawiyi. Anthu omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo amayankha bwino mapulogalamu awo ochepetsa chizolowezi akathandizidwa ndi uphungu.

Anzawo amapindula ndi upangiri waukwati, chifukwa umawaphunzitsa makhalidwe omwe amathandiza kuti adani athetse vutoli komanso amawathandiza kuthana ndi kupsinjika maganizo. Zingakhalenso zopindulitsa kwambiri pakuphwanya machitidwe a codependency.

7. Chizoloŵezi cha intaneti chiyeneranso kuthetsedwa

Kodi uphungu waukwati umagwira ntchito pamene okwatirana (onse aŵiri mwamuna ndi mkazi) nthaŵi zina amakhala oloŵerera kwambiri m’dziko lowoneka bwino kotero kuti banja ndi ukwati zimanyalanyazidwa? Motsimikizika kwambiri. M'malo mwake, vutoli limafunikira upangiri kuti awathandize kuona momwe ubale wawo uliri wopitilira foni yanu.

Tonsefe tikudziwa kuti zida zamagetsi zimatha kuwononga ubale . Ubalewu supeza zakudya za tsiku ndi tsiku pankhani ya nthawi ndi zokambirana. Pakapita nthawi, ukwati umafooka, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu wachitatu alowe mu mgwirizanowu. Ubwenzi wa pa intaneti umalimba ndipo macheza wamba nthawi zambiri amasanduka ubwenzi wakuya kenako n’kukhala nkhani zenizeni.

Maanja omwe ali otanganidwa kwambiri pa WhatsApp kapena Facebook kotero kuti alibe chonena kwa wina ndi mzake ayenera kuganizira za uphungu waukwati. Iwo akhoza kukhala pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti nthawi zonse ndi kupanga zolakwika zina za chikhalidwe cha anthu zomwe zingawononge kwambiri ubale.

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8. Kuchitiridwa nkhanza kumafuna uphungu wachangu

Nkhanza zamtundu uliwonse - zakuthupi, zamalingaliro, zolankhula kapena zogonana - zimawononga ubale nthawi yomweyo. Uphungu umalangizidwa koyambirira. Palibe maganizo achiwiri.

Nkhanza sizimangokhala nkhanza zapakhomo kapena nkhanza zokha, koma zikhoza kukhala zamitundumitundu. Pali kuzunzidwa m'maganizo ndipo mnzanu wowotcha gas akhoza kukumaliza m'maganizo ndipo mwina simungazindikire.

Pakhoza kukhala nkhanza zachuma pamene wokondedwa amakakamizika kupereka ndalama kapena kumangokhalira kudandaula kuti apeze zambiri ndikukwaniritsa zofuna za bwenzi lake. Anthu ochita nkhanza nthawi zambiri samawonetsa kusintha popanda uphungu. Choncho uphungu waukwati ndi wofunikira ngati pachitika nkhanza zamtundu uliwonse.

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9. Malangizo pazovuta zathanzi

Ngati m'modzi ali ndi vuto lalikulu m'maganizo kapena m'thupi, zimakhudza banja. Banja liyenera kupeza uphungu kuti wodwalayo adutse kulakwa kwawo kupita ku lingaliro labwino.

Mnzanu winayo angapindule ndi uphungu wa ukwati wa okwatirana ndipo angasiye kukwiya muukwati chifukwa chonyamula katundu wowonjezera. Matenda aakulu a thupi kapena amisala amawononga ukwati. Pazochitika ngati izi, anthu ayenera kufunafuna uphungu.

10. Kusudzulana mwachisomo kudzera muuphungu wa m'banja

Pamene mwamuna ndi mkazi aganiza zosiya, uphungu umalangizidwa kuti athe kusudzulana mwachisangalalo ndikupangitsa kuti chisudzulo chisakhale chosasangalatsa ndikuyamba gawo latsopano la moyo wawo bwino.

Nthawi zina kulekana kwa mayesero kumalangizidwa koma nthawi zambiri uphungu waukwati umathandiza kuthana ndi ululu waukulu, mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo zomwe anthu amamva akasudzulana.

Uphungu waukwati ndi wotchipa masiku ano ndipo akatswiri ena a zamaganizo apulumutsa mabanja ndikupangitsa kuti zisudzulo zisakhale zovuta. Ndiye ngati mukudzifunsabe, "Kodi uphungu waukwati umagwira ntchito?" Inde, zimatero. Ikhoza kupangitsa ukwati wanu ndi ubale wanu kukhala dziko labwino.

Dr. Rima Mukherji MBBS, DPM, MRCPsych (London)

Iye wakhala akusintha miyoyo ya mabanja ambiri kudzera mu uphungu wa mabanja. Ataphunzira zaka 7 ku UK, Dr Mukherji adakhazikitsa Crystal Minds , malo odziwika bwino a thanzi la maganizo (ndi gulu la akatswiri osiyanasiyana omwe amapereka chithandizo cha matenda amisala ndi zamaganizo kwa magulu onse azaka) ku Kolkata. Kwa zaka 20 zapitazi, wapambana mphoto zingapo chifukwa cha chilakolako chake chachikulu pantchito yake. Masomphenya ake a anthu otetezeka ndi kukhala opanda mantha a manyazi, kukhala ndi chidziwitso ndikulimbikitsa thanzi labwino la maganizo kudzera mu mapulogalamu a uphungu wa ukwati.

Ibibazo

1. Kodi kupambana kwa uphungu kwa maanja ndi kotani?

Pakadali pano, uphungu wa mabanja uli ndi chiwopsezo cha pafupifupi 70%, malinga ndi kafukufuku wochitidwa ndi OpenCounseling.

2. Kodi uphungu waukwati umapangitsa zinthu kukhala zovuta?

M’malo mwake, uphungu waukwati umalimbitsa unansi wawo mwa kuthetsa mikangano yakale ndi nkhani zina zatsiku ndi tsiku za okwatirana.

3. Kodi alangizi a mabanja amanenapo za kusudzulana?

Ayi, si malo a mlangizi kuuza okwatirana zomwe ayenera kuchita kapena sayenera kuchita. Koma ngati okwatiranawo sakugwirizananso, katswiri angawathandize kuona zimenezo, kuwathandiza kufika pa chosankha cha kusudzulana.

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