Kulumikizana ndi munthu wakale ndi gawo lovuta mukakhala paubwenzi watsopano kapena wofunika kwambiri ndi munthu wina. Kufotokozera zamphamvu zanu ndi bwenzi lanu lakale kwa bwenzi lanu latsopano kungakhale kovuta chifukwa amadzimva kukhala osatetezeka. Akhoza kuda nkhawa kuti mwina mungakhalebe ndi malingaliro a wakale wanu kapena kuti mutha kuyambitsanso spark yakale nthawi ina.
Komabe, malingana ndi zimene inuyo mumaona, maganizo anu pa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wayamba kalekale. Zimenezi zachititsa kuti muziona kuti ubwenzi wanu ndi wofunika kwambiri kuposa mmene munalili poyamba. Koma taganizirani, motalika komanso molimbika, kodi zodandaula za wokondedwa wanu zilibe maziko? Ndipo kodi pali njira yomwe mungapangire mnzanuyo kumvetsetsa momwe mukumvera? Kodi zitha kukhala ndi zotsatirapo pa ubale wanu wapano?
Kulankhulana Ndi Ex Ngati Muli Pa Ubwezi Wovuta
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
“Ine ndi mwamuna wanga wakale ndi mabwenzi apamtima, ndipo kunena zoona, mwamuna wanga sadandaula ndikamalankhula ndi anzake aja.
Msungwana waku ofesi yemwe si bwenzi lanu lapamtima amakuuzani izi, ndipo simukufuna kuweruza koma ena mwa inu amadabwa ngati kukumana ndi munthu wakale pambuyo pa ukwati ndi lingaliro labwino. Ndikayikakayika pang'ono za izo. Kupatula apo, kodi tonse sitinamvepo nkhaniyi nthawi zambiri: wina amalumikizananso ndi mnzake zaka zingapo pambuyo pake, mwanjira ina zipsera zimawuluka ndipo chibwenzi chimayamba. Ngakhale zitakhala zotheka pang'ono, kodi ndi lingaliro labwino kusokoneza ukwati kapena ubale wokhazikika pa chinthu chomwe chinafa kale?
Bwanji ngati mwayesedwa? Nanga bwanji kupuma koyera? Kodi kucheza ndi munthu wakale ndi lingaliro labwino? Mafunso ambiri! Tiyeni tiphwanye izi, sichoncho?
Ndi kwambiri subjective
Simungafune kumva izi ngati mukusemphana ndi kulumikizana ndi wakale wanu, koma palibe yankho lenileni ku funso lomwe lili pafupi. Kulumikizana ndi wakale wanu muli pabanja kapena pachibwenzi ndi chinthu chomwe anthu ena amatha kuchichita ndipo ena sangathe.
Zimatengeranso zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Kugwirizana kwanu ndi wakale wanu komanso wokondedwa wanu wapano. Mulingo wachitetezo chomwe mumamva mu ubale wanu wapano. Kaya ndinudi woposa wakale wanu kapena ayi. Kodi mukadali yang'anani ex wanu pa social media? Chifukwa chiyani kwenikweni mumalumikizana ndi ex wanu? Ndi zina zotero.
Ndi chinthu chovuta kuyesa kupanga ubale watsopano ndi munthu yemwe mumamukonda. Zimafuna nzeru zamaganizo ndi kuona mtima kwankhanza, choncho, sizinthu zomwe aliyense angakwanitse kuchita bwino.
Kodi inali nthawi yopuma yoyera?
Kodi ndi bwino kumalumikizana ndi munthu wakale pambuyo pa kusudzulana kosokoneza? Kunena zoona, kupatukana sikuli koyera, koma ngati inu ndi wakale wanu munatha kudutsa zovuta zomwe munakumana nazo mutasiyana, kukhala paubwenzi ndi wakale wanu kungakhale kosangalatsa. Amakudziwani kwambiri kuposa anthu ambiri ndipo ukhoza kukhala mabwenzi enieni ngati palibe mkwiyo wokhalitsa.
Zikatero, onse awiri amadziwa chifukwa chake sanali abwino ngati okwatirana ndipo amafunabe kukhalapo m’miyoyo ya wina ndi mnzake. Zikatero, kukumana ndi wakale wanu sikungapweteke. Komabe, iyi ndi theka la equation. Chinacho chikutifikitsa pa mfundo yachitatu.
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Simumasowa ex wanu, mumangosowa kukhala m'chikondi
Kodi ubale wanu wapano ndi wotetezeka bwanji?
Equation yanu ndi mnzanu wapano iyenera kukhala yomveka bwino komanso yowona mtima ngati mukufuna kupitiliza kulumikizana ndi wakale. Onse awiri ayenera kukhulupirira mgwirizano wawo mokwanira ndikukhala oona mtima kwa wina ndi mzake kotero kuti wakale sangakhale mkangano.
Ngati mnzanuyo akudziwa kuti mumalankhula ndipo sakuvutitsani, ndiye kuti palibe nkhani za trust kubwera mu chikondi chanu. Amadziŵanso kuti chikondi chimene mumagaŵana nacho n’chosiyana ndi chimene munagawana ndi wakale wanuyo ndi kuti kuyanjana kwanu ndi iwo tsopano sikuli kanthu kena koma ubwenzi chabe.
Imeneyi ndi mikhalidwe yabwino imene achikulire angakhale ndi makambitsirano ovuta ndi owona mtima ponena za malingaliro awo ndi kusapangana zambiri ndi munthu wakale pambuyo pa ukwati.
Onani chifukwa chake
Pa nthawi yomwe palibe kumveka bwino koteroko - ambiri ali m'gululi; anthu amavutika kuti amveke bwino pa chilichonse, mocheperapo maubale - muyenera kudzifufuza ndikudzifunsa chifukwa chake mukufuna kulumikizana ndi wakale wanu.
Kodi ndi chifukwa chakuti amakukumbutsani za m'mbuyomu komanso kuti mphuno imakupangitsani kumva bwino? Kodi ndichifukwa choti mumakonda chidwi chomwe mumalandira kuchokera kwa anthu awiri? Ikuti naa mwazumanana kuzumanana kuba acilongwe ciyumu a Leza, ino ncinzi ncomukonzya kucita kutegwa muzumanane kusyomeka? Kodi mukuyesera kuti mubwezere kwa wokondedwa wanu chifukwa cha zolakwa zina polankhula ndi wakale wanu? Simunapitilizebe ex wanu?
Mafunso onse ovuta, koma omwe muyenera kudzifunsa nokha. Ngati mukulankhulana ndi wakale wanu pazifukwa izi, ndiye kuti muyenera kuunikanso ubale wanu wapano. Ubale sungakhale malo omwe mumapeza chilichonse. Si malo ogulitsira.
Koma zinthu zina zomwe mumapeza muubwenzi ndi zopatulika kwa anthu ambiri omwe ali muubwenzi wamtundu umodzi. Ngati mukupita kwa ex pa chimodzi mwa zinthu zopatulika, ndiye inu, bwenzi langa, muyenera kulankhula ndi boo wanu panopa ndi kusintha mawu.
Kuona mtima kukhulupirika
Munthawi ngati izi, muli kale pamalo osasunthika ndipo chithandizo chanu chachikulu chidzakhala chilungamo. Kodi ndi bwino kumacheza ndi ex pomwe okondedwa wanu sakudziwa? Mukayamba kubisa kulumikizana pakati pa inu ndi wakale wanu kwa mnzanu kapena mosemphanitsa, pali chinachake cholakwika.
Zinthu sizifunika nthawi zonse kuti zigwirizane ndi mabokosi ndi magulu pankhani ya maubwenzi achikondi, koma ziyenera kumveka bwino kwa omwe ali ake. Ngati simungathe kukhala woona mtima kwa inu nokha ndi anthu anu, ndiye muyenera kusintha zochita zanu moyenera.
Simungadzinamize nokha; ndi clichéd, koma monga clichés ambiri ndi zoona.
Kusatetezeka ndi munthu
Nsanje imalowa muubwenzi pansi pazimenezi ndi chinthu chachibadwa chaumunthu chomwe chingachitike. Pochita mantha ndikupangitsa kusatetezeka kukhala mawu oyipa, mudzangowonjezerapo. Kumbukirani, kusatetezeka kwa anthu nthawi zambiri kumakhala malingaliro awo ndipo sizikukhudza inu.
Komabe, izi sizikutanthauza kuti si vuto lanu, chifukwa kukayika kwa wokondedwa wanu kumakukhudzani inunso, ndipo muyenera kutero. gonjetsani kusatetezeka pamodzi. Kukhala ndi zokambirana zovuta ndikofunikira pano, nthawi zambiri momwe zimafunikira. Ngati wokondedwa wanu sakukhulupirirani, kuwathandiza kupeza chidaliro ndi ntchito yanu.
Anzanu ndi ofunika koma momwemonso ndi mnzanuyo ndipo muyenera kukhala oleza mtima ndi okoma mtima nawo. Ngati mnzanu sakusangalala, inunso mudzakhala osangalala. Nkhani yayitali, inde, zitha kuchitika. Kulumikizana ndi munthu wakale pamene muli pachibwenzi sikosatheka.
Ingokumbukirani kuti nzeru zambiri zamalingaliro ndi zokambirana zovuta zimafunikira. Ngati simungakwanitse, kulola anthu ocheza nawo kukhala malo am'mbuyomu omwe simumakonda kucheza kapena kukambirana nawo ndi lingaliro labwino, makamaka ngati zikukhudza momwe mulili.
Ibibazo
Ngati mwasiya kuwakonda, ndipo mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu alibe vuto, ndiye kuti palibe vuto kukumana ndi munthu wakale mutakwatirana.
Nthawi ndi nthawi kudabwa za ubwino ndi komwe kuli kumakhala kwachilendo. Komabe, ngati mukuwakondabe, mungafune kukambirana izi ndi mnzanuyo.
Akakutumizirani mameseji osachita bwino kapena ayamba kukuvutitsani mwachisawawa, ndiye kuti akuganiza za inu.
Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
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