Kudzimva Kusokonekera mu Ubale: Zifukwa, Zizindikiro, Njira Zochitira

Chikondi chimene chimalepheretsedwa ndi kudzilamulira ndi kuchipondereza sichingapirire mayesero a nthawi. Mukuwona, mukangoyamba kumva kuti muli pachibwenzi, mumadziwa kuti muyenera kukonza kapena kuthawa kuti mudzipulumutse. Zimakhala ngati kuti positivity yonse ikutha ndipo chomwe chatsala ndi kuwawa.

Ndipo kodi munthu angathane bwanji ndi vuto lotere? Chabwino, m'nkhaniyi, tagwirizana ndi dokotala wa matenda amisala komanso katswiri wa zamaganizo Dr. Shefali Batra (MD mu Psychiatry) wochokera ku California, yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu wokhudza kulekana ndi kusudzulana, kusudzulana ndi chibwenzi, komanso mavuto okhudzana ndi kuyanjana kwa anthu asanakwatirane, kuti akupatseni chidziwitso pa nkhaniyi. Tiperekanso malangizo othandiza kuthana ndi vuto la kupuma movutikira muubwenzi wanu.

N'chifukwa Chiyani Ndimadzimva Kusokonekera Mu Ubwenzi Wanga?

Mukukumbukira chikondi cha Ross ndi Rachel mu Friends ? Kapena ubale wamphamvu koma wovuta wa Bella ndi Edward mu Twilight ? Ngakhale nkhani zachikondi izi zingawoneke zokongola pazenera, nthawi zina zimawonetsa zenizeni zakumva kutopa komanso kutsekeredwa muubwenzi.

Amakhalanso ndi mutu wina wofanana: kugwirizana kwambiri muubwenzi kumatha kufalikira mwachangu ndikupangitsa kuti pakhale zovuta. Ichi ndichifukwa chake anthu amatha kudzimva kuti akusokonekera mu ubale. Onetsetsani ngati mnzanuyo akunena kuti "Ndimakukondani" kwambiri paubwenzi kapena akukupemphani kuti musinthe.

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Pofotokoza mwatsatanetsatane za vuto limeneli, Dr. Batra anati: “Ngati munayamba mwalakalakapo kukhala ndi chipinda chopumirapo kapena mukuona ngati mukukhala m’bwalo lochitira sopo kusiyana ndi kukhala paubwenzi wabwino, simuli nokha.” Kuzindikira zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mukusoŵa m’chibwenzi kungakhale sitepe yoyamba yokuthandizani kuti muyambenso kugwirizananso ndi chibwenzi chanu.” 

Amatchula zinthu zotsatirazi zomwe zingapangitse kuti pakhale vuto losakwanira muubwenzi:

• Mulu wonse wa malamulo: Ubwenzi uliwonse uli ndi malamulo, koma wanu udzalephera ngati malamulo sakulolani kupuma. Izi zimangokupangitsani kumva kuti simunakhalepo pachibwenzi
• Palibe kunyengerera: Palibe amene ali wangwiro. Chifukwa chake, ngati inu kapena mnzanuyo simukufuna kunyalanyaza zomwe mukuyembekezera, pankhani yachuma, mawonekedwe, kapena zolinga za moyo wanu, muli ndi malingaliro okhazikika.
• Zolinga zaubwenzi zomwe sizingachitike: Ngati inu kapena mnzanuyo muli ndi ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka, monga kupita kukadya tsiku lina lililonse kapena kukhala ndi tchuthi chachilendo kawiri kapena katatu pachaka, mmodzi wa inu adzamva kukhala wotopa, ngati sizikugwirizana ndi zolinga za moyo wanu, A. phunziro pamutuwu zatsimikizira momwe maanja ambiri amayembekezera zosayembekezereka pa nkhani ya kugonana komanso kuwerenga maganizo 
• Kuzunzidwa m'malingaliro: Munayamba mwamvapo kuti kukambirana kulikonse kumasanduka mkangano kapena kuti nthawi iliyonse mukafuna kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu, mumamva ngati mukuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira? Zikatero, nthawi zambiri mumangotsala pang’ono kudziuza kuti, “Ndimaona kuti ndasokonekera muubwenzi wanga.”
• Kusowa malo: Ngati palibe mpata muubwenzi, nkwachibadwa kumva kukhala wotsekeredwa. Mnzake wantchito, Andrew, adatsimikiza kupangitsa bwenzi lake, Casie, kuti azicheza / kumathera nthawi ndi iye chifukwa cha ntchito yake komanso nthawi yopuma. Uwu ndi vuto lalikulu la kusowa kwa malo, pomwe adadzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu chifukwa chokhala ndi moyo wake
• Kudalira: Pamene okwatirana ali odalirana (pomwe wina ali wopereka ndipo winayo ndi wolandira), woperekayo amakonda kulekerera zambiri mu chiyanjano kuposa momwe amachitira nthawi zonse. Izi zitha kupanga malingaliro ogwidwa mpaka atasiya
• Nkhani zodalirika: Ngati wina sakhulupirira bwenzi lake, zimatha kuyambitsa zovuta zanthawi yayitali muubwenzi. Mwachitsanzo, mnzanga wina, dzina lake Andrea, anakumbukira kuti mnzanga wina wakale ankamuimbira foni tsiku ndi tsiku kuti adziwe kumene ali komanso ndi ndani. Zimenezi zinachititsa kuti asiyane
• Kuopa kudzipereka: Kuopa kudzipereka kungapangitse mnzanuyo kumva kuti akusokonekera. Moti ngakhale kungotchula za kudzipereka kwa mnzanuyo kungapangitse munthuyo kupatukana kapena kuyambitsa chibwenzi.

15 Zizindikiro Mumamva Kusokonekera Mu Ubwenzi

Kodi kudzimva ngati wadzimbidwa muubwenzi kumawoneka bwanji? Kodi nthawi yeniyeni imene mumadziuza kuti, “Ndikumva ngati wadzimbidwa muubwenzi wanga”? Pofotokoza momwe ubale wodzimbidwa umamvekera, wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit anati, “Popeza ali pano maola 24 pa sabata, sindikhalanso ndi nthawi yopuma ndekha—chinthu chomwe nthawi zonse ndimachiyamikira KWAMBIRI, koma. Ndimakhala kunja tsiku lonse koma iye sali, kotero ndikafika kunyumba, amakhala wotopa ndipo amafuna kucheza limodzi. Masiku ena, ndimakhala wokhumudwa nazo. Masiku ena, ndimangofuna kukhala ndi masewera anga apakanema kapena mabuku anga, ndipo ngakhale kuti “amalemekeza” zimenezo, nthawi zambiri amadandaula kuti sindikumupatsa chisamaliro chokwanira.”

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Ndipo kukanika kumeneku kungayambitse matenda aakulu a m’maganizo, monga kuvutika maganizo kapena nkhawa. Zingakupangitseni kuti muchoke pagulu lanu lothandizira, monga makolo anu ndi anzanu. Kuti muthane ndi nkhaniyi, muyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro omveka bwino azizindikiro zaubwenzi wovuta. Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tiyang'ane pazizindikiro zazikulu zomwe ubale wanu ungakhale ukupita kugawo lovuta. Izi 15 zizindikiro zomwe zalembedwa pansipa zikuthandizani kuti mubwerere ku moyo wathanzi:

1. Muli ndi bwenzi lapamtima 

Ngati mukudabwa ngati mukumvadi kuti muli pachibwenzi, yang'anani ngati muli ndi chizindikiro ichi. Dr. Batra akuti, "Mnzanu womangika muubwenzi ndiye vuto lalikulu kwambiri." Ndipo kumamatira kotereku kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi njira zomangira, monga momwe nkhani ya Attachment Project imanenera momveka bwino. Nazi zitsanzo zina:

• Kuyembekezera kudzikonda (koma zimenezo mwazokha ndi khalidwe lodzikonda)
• Kufunika kutsimikiziridwa nthawi zonse za chikondi chanu
• Kukutumizirani mameseji / kukuyimbirani foni tsiku lonse, komanso kuyembekezera kuti muwayankhe pakati pa nthawi yotanganidwa
• Kunena kuti “Ndimakukondani” kwambiri paubwenzi

2. Samvera 

Ubale ukhoza kukhala gehena wotsekeredwa ngati mnzanu 'sakuwona'nso inu. M’malo mwake, ngati mnzanuyo sakumverani kapena kukudetsani nkhawa, zikhoza kukhala zovuta kwambiri paubwenzi wanu. Dr. Batra anatchulapo zochitika zingapo zoterozo: 

• Sangamve nkhawa zanu, ndipo zonse zimatengera zomwe amakonda kapena kuchita
• Adzanyalanyaza zanu zosowa zam'maganizo paubwenzi ndikunena kuti mwachita mopambanitsa
• Akhoza kuphonya zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe mumawauza monga kutenga mwana wanu kusukulu kapena kulipira bilu pa nthawi yake

3. Salemekeza malo anu enieni

Malo aumwini ndi ofunikira kwambiri pa ubale wabwino. Ndipo popanda iwo, mungasiyidwe muubwenzi wotsekedwa. Dr. Batra akuti "Ubale sungakhalepo kwa nthawi yayitali ngati m'modzi mwa okwatiranawo alibe malo aumwini ." Malo munkhaniyi amatanthauza:

• Ufulu wokumana ndi anzanu
• Ufulu wopita ku makalasi osangalatsa 
• Ufulu wopita paulendo woyenda payekha kuti upumule
• Kupatula tsiku losiyana ndi mnzanu, kuti muzisangalala pa spa
• Nthawi ina yowerenga kapena kuwonera chiwonetsero cha Netflix

4. Kudzimva kuti mulibe chilichonse chomwe chili chanu

Dr. Batra akuti, "Kutayika kwa umunthu komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha ubale woipa kumawononga kwambiri ubale wanu pakapita nthawi." Nazi zina mwa zitsanzo:

• Mulibe zokonda kuchokera pamene mudalowa muubwenzi
• Ntchito zanu zapita molakwika chifukwa muyenera kuwayimbira pafupipafupi
• Nthawi yanu yogona yasokonekera chifukwa chakuyimbira foni usiku kwambiri
• Simumayimba foni kapena kucheza ndi banja lanu
• Simunakumane ndi anzanu kwazaka zambiri

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5. Kukhala kutali ndi okondedwa wanu ndi mpumulo wolandiridwa

Dr. Batra anati, “Mumadziwa kuti muli ndi mnzanu wapoizoni pamene mukuyembekezera kugwira ntchito yothaŵa moyo wanu wachikondi.” Msuweni wanga, Janet, nayenso anakumana nazo. 

Ankakhala ndi chibwenzi chake, chomwe chinali cholamulira kwambiri . Janet akanakonda kwambiri nthawi yomwe amakhala kuntchito kwake kupatula iye. Analankhula kwa anzake ogwira nawo ntchito, nati, "Ndikumva ngati ndikuvutika muubwenzi wanga," ndipo analandira chithandizo chamaganizo chomwe amafunikira. Pomaliza pake anathetsa chibwenzicho.

6. Umanamiza wokondedwa wako kuti mupeze malo 

Inde, kunama n’koipa. Koma ngati mukuyenera kudziteteza ku nkhanza zamaganizo kapena kupeza mpata wofunikira muubwenzi, mabodza oyera mwina ndi oyenera. Mwachitsanzo:

• Mumawauza kuti muli ndi foni yofunikira usiku kwambiri kuti mupiteko, kuti muwonere zomwe mumakonda pa Netflix
• Umawanamiza kuti ukupita kuntchito chifukwa sangakulole kupita paulendo ndi anzanu.

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7. Okondedwa wanu sakonda kuti muzicheza ndi ena

Ichi ndi chizindikiro choopsa kwambiri muubwenzi . Dr. Batra akufotokoza kuti, “Ngati mnzanu sakulola kuti muzikhala ndi nthawi yabwino ndi anzanu kapena abale anu, zimakhala ngati nsanje, ndipo nthawi zambiri mungadziuze kuti, “Ndikumva ngati ndikuletsedwa muubwenzi wanga.” Izi sizothandiza.”

Nsanje imeneyi ingakhale chifukwa chakuti anzanu amakukondani kwambiri (makamaka amuna kapena akazi anzanu) kapenanso chifukwa chakuti mumakondedwa kwambiri ndi anthu (akhale anzanu kapena akuntchito). Mwachitsanzo, mnzanga wina, dzina lake Jake, ankadana ndi mfundo yakuti mkazi wake anali wansangala komanso wochezeka. Moti adamuchotsa pazochitika chifukwa sakanatha kupirira kuti nthawi zonse amakhala pachimake komanso amasangalala nazo. 

Okondedwa anu akapanda kukulolani kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yabwino ndi anzanu kapena abale anu, zimakhala ndi nsanje ...

– Dr. Batra

8. Wokondedwa wanu amayesa kukulamulirani

Kodi nthawi zambiri mumangodzifunsa nokha kuti, "Ndimamva kuti ndasokonekera muubwenzi wanga"? Zitha kukhala chifukwa mnzanu amayesa kuwongolera moyo wanu, womwe ndi mbendera yofiira kwambiri. Dr. Batra anati: “Kulamulira kumaonekera m’njira zambiri pakati pa okwatirana.” Zina ndi izi:

• Amalamulira zomwe mumavala
• Amayang'anira nthawi yanu, ndikukukakamizani kuti muwononge nthawi yanu yambiri kuti muwathandize (kuwaphikira, kuyenda nawo, etc.)
• Amayang'anira momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito ndalama pokulepheretsani kuyika ndalama pazinthu zomwe mumakonda
• Amakunyengererani pokhulupirira kuti mwapenga
• Amakunyengererani kuti mukhale ndi moyo mogwirizana ndi zofuna zawo

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9. Pali chikakamizo chofuna kutsatira

Dr. Batra akuti, “Mudzadziwa kuti muli muubwenzi wovuta mukamachita mantha kugawana nawo maganizo anu.” Pali kukakamizidwa kuti mugwirizane ndi malingaliro awo, malingaliro awo, ndi zikhulupiriro zawo, zomwe zimakupangitsani kuyenda mozungulira mnzanuyo. Izi zili choncho chifukwa mukudziwa kuti chilichonse chomwe mumanena chomwe sichikugwirizana nacho chingayambitse mkangano. Izi zitha kuonekera mu kukakamizidwa kuti mugwirizane ndi:

• Ndemanga Pazandale
• Zolinga zokongola
• Zakudya zizolowezi
• umunthu 

10. Amaona kuti ali ndi ufulu wodziwa chilichonse chokhudza inu

Inde, n’zachibadwa kuti okwatirana azifuna kudziwana zinthu zina. Koma Dr. Batra akulangiza kuti, “Payenera kukhala malire abwino okhudza kuchuluka kwa zomwe mumawauza.”

Mwachitsanzo, mnzanga, Chris, nthawi ina anali pachibwenzi ndi mtsikana amene ankamuyimbira foni nthawi zosamvetseka basi kuti aone zimene iye anali ndi kumufunsa mafunso kuti atsimikizire ngati iye anali kwenikweni kumene iye amati iye. Izi sizongowongolera zokha komanso kusakhulupirirana komanso kuletsa-ayi. Nthawi zambiri ankandiuza zakukhosi, n’kunena kuti: “Ndimaona kuti ndasokonekera muubwenzi wanga koma sindikudziwa kuti ndingathetse bwanji vutolo.

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11. Mumadabwa kuti nthawi zonse amakuwonani

Uku ndikumverera kowopsa. Mukakhala ndi mnzanu amene amakulamulirani amene amakupangitsani kuti musapume, mumamva ngati maso anu ali pa inu nthawi zonse. Nazi zitsanzo zingapo za khalidwe lomwe lingadzutse malingaliro otere mwa munthu:

• Atha kukhala akuwonera nkhani yanu nthawi zonse kapena kuyankha / kukonda nkhani / zolemba zanu za Instagram ndikukufunsani kuti muchotse zolemba zina chifukwa sizinawasangalatse.
• Akhoza kuyang'ana zidziwitso zanu zakubanki kuti aziyang'anira momwe mumawonongera
• Iwo akhoza kuyang'ana mbiri msakatuli wanu
• Akhozanso kukufunsani mawu achinsinsi ndikuyang'ana foni yanu

12. Mumamva kutopa kwambiri mutatha kulankhula nawo

Dr. Batra anati: “Mwina mungatsimikize kuti muli paubwenzi wovuta ngati zimene mumakambirana ndi SO wanu zikukukhumudwitsani.” Tsopano, izi zitha kukhala zilizonse mwa izi:

• Zokambirana komwe muyenera kuwatsimikizira nthawi zonse za kudzipereka kwanu kwa iwo
• Zokambirana zazovuta zomwe mudachita tsiku lonse, kuphatikiza omwe mudakumana nawo
• Zokambirana za ndewu yakale yomwe inu nonse munali nayo

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13. Amakuyitanirani ku zochitika zomwe simukuzifuna

Dokotala Batra akuganiza kuti izi zingawononge mtendere wanu wamaganizo kwambiri. Iye anati, "Kutenga nawo mbali pazochitika zomwe simukufuna kuchita kapena zochitika zomwe simukufuna kupitako kungakupangitseni kuti mutaye mtima. Ndipo ichi ndi chiletso chokhwima muubwenzi wabwino ." Chifukwa chake, yang'anirani zizindikiro izi:

• Amafuna kuti mupite nanu ku chochitika chabanja ngakhale simuli womasuka ndi mmene wachibale wina amakunyozani.
• Amafuna kuti muzipita kumapwando akudziwa kuti simukonda kupita kumalo aphokoso

14. Mukuyenda pazigoba za mazira 

Chizindikiro cha chikondi chobisala ndichakuti mumadzipeza mukukangana kosatha—tsiku lonse, tsiku lililonse. Kodi munayamba mwamvapo kuti kukambirana kulikonse komwe mumachita ndi mnzanu kusanduka mkangano? Dr. Batra akuti, “Ngati mukumva kuti simungathe kufotokoza maganizo anu kapena zosowa zanu popanda kusanduka mkangano waukulu womwe umatha ndi ziwopsezo kapena, choipa kwambiri, kungokhala chete , mukuyenda pa zipolopolo za mazira ndipo muyenera kudzipulumutsa.” Nazi zitsanzo zingapo:

• Wokondedwa wanu amakuopsezani kuti mudzathetsa nthawi iliyonse mukakangana
• Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amakamba za cisudzulo nthawi zonse mukamenyana
• Amasiya kulankhula kwa masiku ambiri pamene mumakhudzidwa kwambiri kapena kulira

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15. Simudzisamaliranso nokha

Kodi ubale wanu wasintha momwe mumadzionera? Kodi mwasiya kudzisamalira nokha komanso zokondweretsa zazing'ono kuyambira pomwe mudakumana ndi okondedwa wanu? Kodi ndi liti pamene munameta tsitsi kapena kudzigulira malaya abwino? Kodi munagulitsa liti mwa inu nokha? Ngati mwaiwala kudzisamalira kuyambira mudayamba kulankhula ndi SO wanu, mukudziwa kuti mwina muli opsinjika kwambiri kuti musawononge thanzi lanu, mawonekedwe, kapena ukhondo. 

Umu ndi momwe vutoli lingawonekere, malinga ndi nkhani yochokera kwa wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit : “Ndimamwa mankhwala a kuvutika maganizo/nkhawa, koma nthawi zina ndimamva ngati khama lalikulu lomwe limafunika kuti ndidye ndekha, kumwa madzi, kumwa mankhwala anga, kutuluka panja/kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndi zina zotero ndi lochuluka kwambiri. Ndikudziwa anthu ambiri omwe amachita zonsezi + zambiri, koma sindikumvetsa momwe ndingachitire. Ndayamba kudzikwiyira chifukwa chofuna kuchita zinthu monga kudya pa nthawi yake, kugona, kumwa madzi okwanira.”

Momwe Mungakonzere Ubale Wovuta - Malangizo 9 Omwe Alangizidwa ndi Othandizira

Ndiye mukudabwa momwe mungakonzere ubale wosokonekera? Dr. Batra anati: “Kuyenda movutikira m’chikondi n’kovuta. Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tiwone momwe mungadziwirenso umunthu wanu ndikubwezeretsanso bwino osaiwala zomwe zidakukokerani kwa mnzanu poyambirira. Nawa maupangiri 9 ochokera kwa Dr. Batra omwe angakuthandizeni kukonza ubale wanu wakusokonekera:

1. Kuika malire 

Ikani malire ndi ziyembekezo zomwe zingatheke . Ndipo musalole. Mwachitsanzo:

• Ikani malamulo okhudza kucheza ndi anzanu. Onetsani momveka bwino kuti muli ndi ufulu wocheza ndi anzanu komanso achibale kumapeto kwa sabata.
• Khazikitsani malamulo oti asapereke ndemanga pazovala zanu, mawonekedwe, ntchito, ndi zina.
• Auzeni kuti simudzalekerera mwano kapena nthabwala zotukwana/zamwano

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2. Afunseni kuti azilemekeza chinsinsi chanu

Dr. Batra anati, “Zinthu zina uyenera kuzibisa kwa iwe wekha.” Ubwenzi siupatsa mwayi wokondedwa wanu kuti akufunseni chilichonse m'moyo wanu. Mwachitsanzo:

• Asamade nkhawa ndi momwe mumagwirira ntchito pokhapokha mutawauza za ntchito yanu 
• Asamakukakamizeni kuti muwauze za anzanu
• Kukufunsani kuti muchotse / kuletsa anzako kapena abwenzi chifukwa samawakonda ndikoletsanso ayi

Kuyenda m'chikondi chophwanyika kumakhala kovuta. Zili ngati kugwidwa ndi lupu losatha.

– Dr. Batra

3. Pezani nthawi yanu nokha tsiku ndi tsiku

Ngati simukudziwabe momwe mungakonzere ubale wobisika, iyi ikhoza kukhala yankho lanu. Nkhani ya Harvard Business Review imalankhula za kufunika kwa 'nthawi yanga' kwa anthu. Ndipotu, 'nthawi yanga' ndi yofunika kwambiri kuti munthu akhale ndi dzina lodziwika bwino. Chifukwa chake, onetsetsani kuti mukukhala nokha ola limodzi tsiku lililonse. Nthawi iyi ingagwiritsidwe ntchito mu:

• wakukhulupirira
• kuwerenga
• Kulima
• Kuwonera makanema omwe mumakonda

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4. Dziwani zomwe mumakonda kudzipangira nokha munthawi yanu

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwataya mtima poyesa kukhala muubwenzi, yesani kuyang'ana kwambiri pa zinthu zomwe munkakonda kuchita musanayambe chibwenzi. Mwachitsanzo:

• Pitani ndi anzanu ngati mumakonda kuyenda koma simunathe kutero posachedwapa
• Khalani ndi nthawi yofufuza zinthu zakale, monga nyimbo, zoumba, kapena sewero
• Yesani zina zomwe simunayesepo, monga kuvina kapena Zumba 

5. Limbikitsani okondedwa anu kuti nawonso azikhala ndi nthawi 

Kuti mubwererenso mu ubale wanu, muyeneranso kuonetsetsa kuti mnzanuyo wasiya kukukondani kwambiri. Ndipo kuti muchite zimenezo, mutha kuwadziwitsa momwe angasiyire kukonda munthu kwambiri, ndipo umu ndi momwe mungachitire izi:

• Alimbikitseni kuti azipita ndi abwenzi
• Afunseni kuti ayitanire anzawo ku maphwando apanyumba
• Afunseni kuti agwiritse ntchito zomwe amakonda

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6. Lankhulani za khalidwe lawo ndi momwe zimakuvutitsani

Palibe amene angatsutse mfundo yakuti kulankhulana momasuka n’kofunika kwambiri paubwenzi. Dr. Batra akupereka lingaliro lakuti “kambiranani ndi mnzanuyo.” Iyi ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yowadziwitsira zomwe zikukuvutitsani.

Lankhulani nthawi zambiri mukakhala pachibwenzi ndipo muwadziwitse momwe mukufunira kuti akonzenso vutolo. Komanso perekani okondedwa anu pansi pa momwe angasiyire kukonda munthu kwambiri, kuti athe kuganizira za moyo wake.

7. Dzifunseni za m’tsogolo

Dokotala Batra anati, “Nthawi zina, ndikofunikira kudzifunsa komwe mukuona kuti izi zikupita ndikukambirana za tsogolo ndi mnzanu.” Ubwenzi umakhala ndi tsogolo pokhapokha ngati mukuwona tsogolo. Kumbukirani, zimafunika anthu awiri kuti muyambe tango. Chifukwa chake, simungasiye mnzanuyo mu dongosololi. Kambiranani ngati kukhalabe muubwenzi ndikoyenera ndipo pitirizani ndi izi.

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8. Yambitsaninso chikondi chanu

Ndikofunikira kwambiri kulimbitsa chikondi chanu mwa kukonzanso chikondi chanu . Ndipo mungachite bwanji? Nkhani ya Gottman Institute ikufotokoza njira zingapo zochitira izi. Kuphatikiza apo, nazi malangizo ena:

• Konzani zosangalatsa zomwe nonse mumasangalala nazo, monga maulendo apaulendo kapena karaoke
• Mukhozanso kuchita zinthu zosavuta, monga kuphika pamodzi kapena kukongoletsa nyumba pamodzi
• Konzani tsiku kunyumba, zodzaza ndi chakudya chamadzulo choyaka makandulo, nyimbo, vinyo, ndi kuvina pang'onopang'ono
• Sakanizani zinthu zaukhondo ndi/kapena zovala zamkati zokongola ndikusangalala pakati pa mapepala

9. Ganizirani za kudzidziwitsa nokha

Dokotala Batra akuti, “Unikani ngati pali chilichonse chomwe mukanachita chomwe muyenera kukonza, chomwe chingakhale chinayambitsa mavuto muubwenzi wanu .” Choncho, ganizirani ngati:

• Mutha kukhala mukugawana nawo kwambiri pazama media ndipo muyenera kuyigwira
• Mukadakhala ndi nthawi yambiri ndi mnzanuyo kuti amve otetezeka mukakhala ndi anzanu
• Mutha kukhala ochezeka kwambiri ndi abale ndi abwenzi a mnzanuyo kuti muwapangitse kukhala osangalala

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Maganizo Final

Maubwenzi amayenera kubweretsa mtendere ndi mtendere. Amapangidwa kuti akuthandizeni kukhala munthu wabwino komanso kukula. Koma maubwenzi oterowo akasanduka zotsekereza zomwe zimakutsekerezani ndikukuchotserani ufulu, pamafunika kuthana ndi mavuto akulu akulu. 

Tikukhulupirira kuti nkhani yathu yakuthandizani kudziwa zomwe zimayambitsa maubwenzi osokonekera. Ndipo tikukhulupirira kuti mutha kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe muli nazo nthawi iliyonse mukakhala pachibwenzi.

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