Kuthetsa Malemba - Ndikozizira bwanji?

Mukuganiza zothetsa chibwenzi pamutu? Ngati inde, ganiziraninso. Childs, izo zimatengedwa ngati mchitidwe wosaganizira koma pamapeto pake zonse zimadalira ubale wanu ndi mikhalidwe. Mukakhala paubwenzi, nonse mumagawana chisangalalo, chisoni komanso mphindi zapadera wina ndi mnzake tsiku lililonse. Ena a inu mwina simumangokhala ndi nthawi yabwino ndi anzanu komanso kukhala limodzi.

Ziribe kanthu zomwe ubale wanu ukudutsamo, kusweka pa lemba kuyenera kukhala njira yanu yomaliza. Pamene mnyamata kuswa ndi inu chifukwa cha mameseji kapena mtsikana kuyitana izo quits ndi uthenga, chinthu choyamba chimene chimabwera m'maganizo ndi kuti iwo sali okonzeka kutenga mlandu ndi kukumana ndi zotsatira za kutha. Mwanjira ina, kupatukana ndi munthu pa meseji kuli ngati kuthawa.

Kodi ndi bwino kusiyana chifukwa cha malemba? Timapeza funsoli nthawi zambiri. Ngakhale kuti ili ndi zophophonya, anthu nthawi zambiri amasankha njira imeneyi kuti apewe mikangano yamalingaliro. Mosakayikira kuti ndi imodzi mwa njira zaposachedwa kwambiri komanso zotsogola zosweka mu nthawi ya digito, koma zabwino ndi zoyipa zake. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuganiza mozama ndikuyesa njira yothetsa chibwenzi kudzera pa meseji.

Kodi Ndi Bwino Kuthetsa Malemba?

Palibe chosangalatsa, chosangalatsa kapena choseketsa pakutha. Ngati mukutuluka muubwenzi wachiwawa / wankhanza / wodalirana womwe udali woyamwa moyo mwa inu, kupatukanako kungabweretse mpumulo koma sikumakhala kosangalatsa kapena kosangalatsa. Ngakhale zili choncho, ngati muli paubwenzi wosayenera, muyenera kusiya zabwino ndipo zilibe kanthu momwe mumachitira - pamasom'pamaso kapena kusiya mameseji.

Ngati munali ndi ubale wabwino womwe, pazifukwa zina, wakuthandizani, muyenera kukumbukira kuti kusudzulana kudzakhala chokhumudwitsa kwa wokondedwa wanu. Choncho muyenera kusamala ndi mmene mukuyesera kuthetsa chibwenzicho. Inde, kufotokoza mwachidule zakukhosi kwanu mu meseji kumatha kuwoneka ngati njira yosavuta kuti muzitha kukambirana movutikira pamaso panu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kusokoneza malemba kwakhala kotchuka kwambiri pakati pa millennials ndi Gen-Zers. Musanadumphire pagululi, dzifunseni kuti, "Kodi ndi bwino kusiya kugawana mameseji?"

Ngakhale kuti ndi yabwino kwambiri kwa munthu amene amakoka pulagi, zikhoza kukhala zonyozeka kwa mnzanuyo polandira. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani anyamata amasiyana chifukwa cha mameseji? Kapena nchifukwa chiyani atsikana amatumizira mameseji othetsa banja kwa abwenzi awo? Ndipo kodi ndi bwino kutero? Pali mafunso ambiri oti ayankhidwe pano, ndipo tifika kwa onse, limodzi ndi limodzi. Choncho, khalani pamenepo!

Zitha kukhala zabwino kuswa mawu ngati ubale wanu wonse wakhala pafupifupi ndipo mwakhala akupereka wanu kumverera kudzera mu mauthenga achikondi pa mameseji, apo ayi kulandira mameseji ngati amenewo kungakhale kosokoneza ndipo mutha kuyembekezera kuyimbira foni pompopompo kuchokera kwa iwo. Kodi mungatani ngati bwenzi lanu lathetsa chibwenzi pa meseji kapena chibwenzi chanucho ndi meseji imodzi? Chabwino, kodi pali zambiri zoti tichite pamene munthu m'modzi ali pachibwenzi wapanga kale malingaliro ake kuthetsa zinthu kamodzi kokha? Zingakupwetekeni kwambiri kuti sanavutike kukambirana naye pamasom’pamaso. Koma nthawi zina kusokoneza malemba kumagwira ntchito, timakuuzani nthawi.

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Kuthetsa Malemba - Kodi Ndi Bwino Liti?

Pali mbali yabwino yothetsa chibwenzi ndipo apa pali mndandanda wa ubwino wosankha kuthetsa chibwenzi motere. Mutha kukhala mukuganiza kuti ndi zabwino ziti zomwe zingatuluke pa meseji pamizere ya "Uwu ukhala uthenga wanga womaliza kwa inu". Koma nthawi zina mtunda womwe umasiyanitsidwa ndi zomwe umapereka kungakuthandizeni kupewa zinthu zoyipa zomwe mungakhale nazo patali.

Kapena mwinamwake mwazindikira kuti wanu ubale wautali sukugwira ntchito ndipo kuyimitsa pamaso panu sichosankha. Izi zithanso kukusiyani m'mavuto ngati mukuyenera kugawana mameseji kapena ayi. Zikatero, zitha kukhala dalitso lomwe limakumasulani ku ukapolo waubwenzi womwe umakhala wovuta kuusunga tsiku lililonse. Kotero, mukuwona, pali zochitika ndi zochitika zomwe ziri bwino kutumiza malemba olekanitsa.

1. Mutha kupewa mafunso osafunika

Kusweka pamalemba ndikoyenera kwa iwo omwe safuna kugwidwa ndi mafunso omwe alibe mayankho. Kodi munganene chiyani kwenikweni mukugwa mchikondi ndipo palibe chifukwa chomveka? Kapena, mwina zilipo koma simungathe kuzifotokoza popanda kumukhumudwitsa wokondedwa wanu. Kotero, kubwereranso ku mafunso monga chifukwa chiyani anyamata amathetsa mameseji kapena chifukwa chiyani atsikana amathetsa maubwenzi ndi uthenga, yankho likhoza kukhala chifukwa ndi njira yabwino yopewera misozi, kukangana, ndi mafunso motere.

2. Zimathandiza kupewa kumenyana konyansa

Sizinapatsidwe kuti padzakhala ndewu nthawi zonse mutatha kupatukana. Koma ndi bwino kukhala kumbali yotetezeka ndikusiya malemba kuti mupewe mikangano yomwe ingakule msanga. Nthawi zambiri, anthu amayesa kuchita zomwe zili zoyenera kwa iwo ndi anzawo omwe angotsala pang'ono kukhala-ex komanso kuthetsa ubwenziwo mwaubwino. Koma n’kutheka kuti kukambiranako sikungapite monga mmene anakonzera.

Chifukwa chakuti mukuyesetsa kuthetsa nkhaniyo mwauchikulire sizitanthauza kuti mnzanuyo aziona maganizo anu nthawi zonse. Mukhozanso kupeza nokha pa mapeto a kulandira kwambiri kukuwa, kukuwa ndi kumenyana ngati iwo sanaone kutha kubwera kapena sali okonzeka kuthetsa ubwenzi. Sikuti aliyense angathe kuthetsa mwamtendere. Kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi munthu wina pamutu kumachotsa sewero pa equation.

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3. Palibe chifukwa chofotokozera zifukwa zazitali

A yochepa ndi khirisipi chifukwa kuthetsa ubwenzi wanu ndi zokwanira pamene kuswa kudzera lemba. Palibe chifukwa chofotokozera ndime zazitali zofotokozera ndi zifukwa, zomwe zimapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuti mutchule zomveka zanu mosanyinyirika. Monga mulibe kukumana ndi mnzanu pamene kuswa kudzera lemba, inu kupeza kukula kuganiza ndi kusankha mawu anu mosamala.

Mutha kusankha kuchuluka kwa zomwe mukufuna kunena komanso kuchuluka kwa kufotokozera komwe mukufuna kupereka kuti muthe kuthetsa chibwenzi. Mukamalankhula zambiri za zinazake, m'pamenenso mumalowa m'magulu momwe simungathe kufotokozera bwino mnzanuyo. Zikatero, kugawanika pa malemba kuli bwino.

4. Pewani nthawi zovuta

Nthawi zovuta monga kukumbatirana kotsazikana kapena kulonjeza kuti mudzakhalabe mabwenzi mpaka kalekale ndi zofala pamene okwatirana amaona kuti chibwenzi sichingapitirire. Izi sizingapeweke ngati mutayesa kutero siyana ndi mnzako amene amakhala nawe pansi pa denga lomwelo.

Kodi ndi bwino kusiyana chifukwa cha malemba? Chabwino, zingakupatseni mwayi ngati simupambana pamakangano. Osachepera, mutangonena kuti mwathetsa chibwenzi ndipo mikangano yatsika, kukambirana ndi mnzanu sikungakhale kovuta. Chifukwa chake, inde, ngati mukufuna kuzemba nthawi zovuta izi, sinthani mawu.

5. Zingakhale zoganizira kwambiri

Kulekanitsa malemba kungakhale chisankho chokoma mtima komanso choganizira kwambiri kuposa kuchita pamasom'pamaso. Ngati mukukonzekera kuti muthane nokha, muyenera kukumana pa chakudya chamadzulo, chamasana, kapena khofi kuti mukambirane. Chifukwa bwenzi lanu Dan analimbikitsa kuswa pagulu kuti muchepetse kulira ndikuchoka nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna.

Mnyamata, simunadziwe momwe zingabwererenso! Mwinamwake mudayitana mnzanuyo ndikunena mawu anayi owopsyawo, "Tiyenera kulankhula", koma iwo sanamvetse bwino zomwe zikuchitika ndipo amayembekezera uthenga wabwino, mwinamwake ngakhale malingaliro. Koma mumagwetsa bomba losweka patebulo mwadzidzidzi. Anthu ena kupatukana mwamphamvu kuposa ena ndipo zidzakhala zopweteka kwambiri kwa bwenzi / chibwenzi chanu. Chifukwa chake, kusankha kulekanitsa mawu sikungakhale kopweteka kwambiri.

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Kodi Ndi Mwano Kuthetsa Mameseji?

Kudziwitsa mnzanuyo pa nthawi yoyenera kuti simukumumveranso kapena kuti simukufuna kupitiriza chibwenzi kungakupulumutseni nonse ku zovuta. Koma zitha kuwoneka ngati zamwano ngati mungowagwetsera mawu otero, kapena choyipitsitsa, koperani ndikumata mawu othetsa banja ndikutumiza kwa mnzanu.

Kusweka sizichitika mwadzidzidzi, pali nthawi zonse zizindikiro zosonyeza kutha. Koma kumudziwitsa wokondedwa wanu za zonsezi kudzera pa meseji si njira yabwino kwa onse. Kuthetsa mameseji si njira yabwino yochitira. Chifukwa chiyani? Pitirizani kuwerenga.

Kuthetsa mameseji ndikuyenda mwamantha komanso mosasamala kumbali yanu, monga kuthawa vuto. Zimasonyeza kuti simukuchita bwino paubwenzi wanu. Kupatula apo, kulekanitsa mawu sikumveka bwino kwa wotumiza. Choncho n’kovuta kuti mnzake amene walandira nkhani ya kutha athane nazo.

Kusudzulana koteroko kaŵirikaŵiri kumasiya kuseri kwa malingaliro oipa osathetsedwa ndi kudziimba mlandu m’maganizo mwa mnzanuyo. Wokondedwa wanu angamve kuti akuyenerera mapeto olemekezeka m'malo mokakamizidwa kuthana nawo kusuntha popanda kutseka koyenera. Kodi mungatani ngati bwenzi lanu lathetsa chibwenzi chifukwa cha meseji kapena bwenzi lanu lakuyimbirani meseji? Munthu aliyense wodzilemekeza ayenera kuvomereza mgwirizanowo ndikupitirizabe popanda kuwapempha kuti akhalebe.

Munthu akathetsa chibwenzi ndi munthu maso ndi maso, amakhalabe ndi mwayi woyambiranso chibwenzicho. Komabe, kutha kwa lemba kumasiya mwayi woyanjanitsa. Simungayembekeze kuti ubale wosweka ubwereranso panjira chifukwa palibe malo otsalira amtundu uliwonse wakulankhulana ndi kukambirana pakati pa awiriwo.

Mawuwa amabwera ngati kugwedezeka kwamwano ndipo amasiya kukoma kowawa komwe simukuwona zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti ubwenziwo ndi wofunika kupulumutsidwa. Kuthetsa mameseji kungakhale kopanda nkhanza kuposa kuzunzika kapena kupeweratu wokondedwa wanu, koma palibe kukana kuti ndi mwano.

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Tangoganizani bwenzi lanu kapena chibwenzi chatha ubwenzi wanu pa lemba ndipo tsopano inu mukudabwa mmene kuyankha lemba. Kumbukirani kuti kusuntha kwanzeru ndiko kuchita mwanzeru ndikuyankha mwamtendere. Nawa mfundo zingapo zofunika kuzikumbukira poyankha mawu olekanitsidwa:

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1. Funsani wokondedwa wanu ngati ali wotsimikiza za izi

Choyamba, ngati mnyamata wathetsa chibwenzi ndi inu chifukwa cha meseji kapena mtsikana kukuuzani kuti sakufunanso kukhala nanu mu meseji, musalumphe mokalimbira. Kulowa mu spiral mutangolandira lemba lolekanitsidwa sikungakupindulitseni. Tengani nthawi yanu kuti mumvetsetse zomwe zidalakwika, ndipo yesani kulingalira ngati padalipo nthawi zonse zikusonyeza kuti ubale wanu watha zomwe simunazizindikire kwenikweni. Mukangodekha, yankhani lembalo tsopano. Mufunseni (kapena iye) ngati (kapena iye) ali wotsimikiza za chisankhocho ndipo sakuchita zamwano pa inu.

2. Osamupempha kuti akhalebe

Kumbukirani kuti kupatukana ndi gawo limodzi la ubale. Ngati nonse simunayenera kukhala, ndiye kuti ndi chinthu chomwe muyenera kuchilandira mwachisomo. Vomerezani kuti ubale wanu watha ndipo moyo wanu sudzatha popanda iye. Simungakakamize wina kuti akhalebe paubwenzi wosakwaniritsa ndikukukondaninso. M'malo moganizira ngati kuli bwino kuti musiyane ndi malemba, muyenera kusunga ulemu wanu womaliza ndi kuwasiya apite m'malo mopempha mopanda chiyembekezo.

3. Pewani kunyoza wokondedwa wanu

Pamene wina wathetsa chibwenzi ndi inu pa mameseji, muyenera kulemekeza chisankho chawo. Kupeza munthu amene mumamukonda kwambiri si ntchito yophweka, makamaka ngati sakulongosola bwino. Koma kudzakhalabe kupanda ulemu kumbali yako kunyoza wokondedwa wako ndi kuchita naye mwano. Yesetsani kukhala aulemu ndi bata pamene mukuyankhula ngakhale mutasweka kuchokera mkati ndipo mukufuna kukhala ndi ndewu yonyansa. Pewani zonsezi, kuti musanong'oneze bondo pambuyo pake.

4. Funsani kufotokozera

Chifukwa chiyani anyamata amasiyana chifukwa cha mameseji? Chifukwa chiyani atsikana amathetsa maubwenzi ndi meseji? Mwina, ndi kuyesa kofooka kuti mupewe mafunso otopetsa okhudza chiyani, liti, chifukwa chiyani komanso bwanji. Koma kuti musangalale, muyenera kuyesetsa kuti mudziwe chimene chinachititsa kuti banjali lithe. Izi zidzakupatsani mtendere wamumtima ndikukumasulani ku zovuta zomwe mnzanuyo wasankha kuti atuluke paubwenzi wanu. Kudziwa chimene chinachititsa kuti banja lanu lithe kudzakuthandizani kuthana ndi maganizo anu bwino. Simudzasungidwa mukulimbana mumdima.

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5. Nenani zabwino zanu mokhwima

Nthawi zonse zimalimbikitsidwa kuti muthetse ubale wanu pazabwino. Pamene nthawi yakwana kunena zabwino kwa munthu amene mumamukonda kamodzi, yesani kukhala wachifundo monga momwe mungathere. Apatseni nthawi yoti alembe lemba lotsanzikana bwino ndikumutumizira kuti mupitirize ndi moyo wanu ndikuwasiya kuti asiyane bwino. Nthawi zonse ndi bwino kumenyera wokondedwa wako koma gawo lalikulu la chikondi ndikusiya munthu amene umamukonda.

Kodi zimatanthauza chiyani ngati wina wasiya nanu pa meseji?

Zimangotanthauza kuti munthuyo sanakulemekezeni kapena ubwenziwo kuti muupulumutse kapena kukambirana za kusiyanako ndi kufika pa chisankho chofuna kuthetsa banja. Zikutanthauza kuti munthu amene anakutumizirani lemba chilekanitso akufuna njira yosavuta muubwenzi ndipo sangathe kumvetsa maganizo anu. Ndiponso, amachipeza zovuta kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo m'njira yoyenera.

Tikuwona kuti mawu othetsa vutoli akuyenera kukuthandizani kuti mupite patsogolo mwachangu chifukwa mukudziwa kuti kukhala paubwenzi ndi munthuyu kungabweretse mavuto ambiri mtsogolo. Satha kupirira pakapanikizika kwambiri ndipo akhoza kukusiyaninso pakangokumana ndi vuto posiya mawu.

M'malo mochita mantha kuti muthetse bwanji chibwenzi chanu, muyenera kusankha njira yoyenera yofotokozera mnzanuyo. Zowonadi, kupatukana palemba sikuyenera kukhala kusankha kwanu koyamba chifukwa kumachepetsa kuchuluka kwa zokambirana. Komabe, ngati ubale wanu ndi wosatetezeka ku thanzi lanu lakuthupi ndi m'maganizo kapena mukungokhalira kugwedezeka, ndiye kuti kusweka pamutu sikukuwoneka ngati njira yoyipa kwambiri kuyesa.

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