Kuthetsa chibwenzi sikovuta, ndi nkhanza. Ndicho chifukwa chake okwatirana ambiri amakhalira limodzi muubwenzi woipa, kukhazikika pa zochepa zomwe amayenera, ndi kumamatira ku chiyembekezo chakuti zinthu zidzayenda bwino tsiku lina. Ngati ndi pomwe muli, ndi nthawi yoti muyambe kuvomereza zizindikiro zomwe muyenera kusiya ndikupitilira. Chowonadi chosasangalatsa ndichakuti ubale ukadzadza ndi nkhani, utha ndipo zinthu sizimayenda bwino m'kupita kwanthawi.
Inde, nkovuta kubwereranso ku moyo wosakwatiwa. Palibe amene akufuna kuthetsa chibwenzi ndipo palibe amene akufuna kuyambanso. Ziribe kanthu momwe zoyambira zatsopano zingawonekere zowopsa, simungathe kumamatira pazomwe mukudziwa komanso zomasuka ngati zikukupangitsani kukhala womvetsa chisoni. Tiyeni tikuthandizeni kudziwa zizindikiro zomwe mungathe kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo musiyane kuti nonse muthe kuchitapo kanthu kuti mutengenso chimwemwe chanu.
Ndiye mungadziwe bwanji nthawi yoti mupatukane? Lero, tili ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Akanksha Varghese (MSc Counseling Psychology) kuti akuthandizeni kumvetsetsa zizindikiro zomwe mukufunikira kuti mupatukane ndikusankha njira yanu.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kufufuza pa intaneti zizindikiro zoti muyenera kulekana kumasonyeza kuti zinthu sizili bwino m'chikondi chanu. Koma kachiwiri, ubale uliwonse uli ndi zolakwika zake, banja lililonse lili ndi mavuto ake komanso mavuto ake. Pankhaniyi, mungadziwe bwanji ngati mavuto ndi kusiyana kwanu kukuyenera kulekana? Kodi zizindikiro zotani zomwe muyenera kulekana ndi mnzanu?
Vutoli likhoza kuvutitsa maganizo a aliyense amene wakhala akulingalira kukhala kapena kusuntha. Ngati mukudabwa "N'chifukwa chiyani ndimaganizirabe zothetsa chibwenzi changa / bwenzi langa?", Ndi nthawi yoti mudziwe. Kuti muthetse chisokonezo chanu, komanso kuti mudziwe chifukwa chake muyenera kuthetseratu, tili ndi mndandanda wa zizindikiro 21 zomveka bwino zomwe muyenera kuziganizira mozama:
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1. Mukungoganizira zam'mbuyo
Ubwenzi uliwonse umakhala ndi nthawi yake ya ukwati pamene zonse zimakhala bwino. Kuyesa kwenikweni kwa momwe anthu awiri alili abwino pamodzi kumayamba pambuyo poti kufulumira kwa chikondi kwatha. Ngati mukumva kuti mwakhala mukukumbukira zakale, mukukumbukira momwe mnzanu wanu anakupangirani zabwino masiku oyamba aja, zikutanthauza kuti palibe zambiri zoti musunge pakadali pano kapena njira yopitira patsogolo mtsogolo.
Mtundu woterewu ukhoza kukhala chizindikiro chakuti ndi nthawi yoti musiyane ndi bwenzi lanu kapena chibwenzi chanu. Muyenera kukhala ndi munthu yemwe nthawi iliyonse ndi yoyenera kumugwira.
2. Mukuyenda pazigoba za mazira
Nthawi zambiri, muyenera kuyang'ana mkati osati pa mnzanu kapena ubale wanu. Kodi chilichonse chimakupangitsani mantha, ngati mukupanga chisankho cholakwika tsiku lililonse? Ngati mwakhala mukuyesera kuti ubale ukhale wolimba pokhala munthu yemwe simuli, mukudziwononga nokha komanso mnzanuyo. Mantha awa pamapeto anu ndizizindikiro zomwe muyenera kusiya ndi wokondedwa wanu. Ndibwino kusiya ndikumanga moyo womwe munthu weniweni angachite bwino m'malo movutikira.
Nawa mafunso angapo oti muwaganizire musanamalize zinthu:
- Kodi mukumva ngati mukuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira mozungulira wokondedwa wanu chifukwa simukudziwa chomwe chingawayambitse kapena kukwiyitsa?
- Kodi nthawi zonse mumabisa malingaliro anu ndikuwongolera zochita zanu zachibadwa?
- Kodi pali mantha kuti pokhala wekha, mutha kupatutsa mnzanu?
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3. Zathadi ngati mukukwiyirana
Nthawi zina, m’modzi kapena onse awiri amachita zinthu zokhumudwitsa kwambiri mnzake. M'malo mothana ndi nkhaniyi, mwaletsa kupwetekedwa mtima ndi mkwiyo, zomwe tsopano zasintha kukhala mkwiyo. Izi zikuwonetsa kuti mwatsekeredwa m'makoma a chakukhosi ndipo chikhoza kukhala chimodzi mwa zizindikiro kuti musiyane nawo.
Tasha, yemwe ali ndi zaka 30, yemwe ndi katswiri wojambula nyimbo zosonyeza kuti akuima, anafunsa katswiri wathu kuti: “Ndikufuna kusiya chibwenzi changa koma ndikuopa kuti ndidzanong’oneza bondo.” Posachedwapa ndinazindikira kuti yankho langa pa chilichonse chimene ndikufuna kuthetsa mkangano ndi lakuti: ‘N’chifukwa chiyani ndiyenera kuchita ZIMENEZI, pamene mnzanga sangathe n’komwe kuchita ZIMENEZI? Ndili ndi nkhawa.
Akanks anayankha kuti, “Sindingakuyankheni zimenezo. Koma ganizirani izi: Kodi mwakhala mukufunafuna zizindikiro zoti musiye chibwenzi chanu? Kukwiyira ndi malingaliro osasangalatsa chifukwa mukuganizira zakale komanso katundu wamaganizo womwe muli nawo. Mu maubwenzi, kuganizira zakale kungayambitse kukwiya kwambiri, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mukwiyire kwambiri. Izi zingayambitse machitidwe ankhanza ngati kuti mukufuna kulanga mnzanu m'maganizo. Kusankha zolakwika, kuyang'ana kwambiri zofooka za ubale, ndi kusunga zolakwa zambiri za wina ndi mnzake ndi zotsatira za mkwiyo. Umenewo si ubale wabwino.”
Kawirikawiri, zimatanthauzanso kuti kulankhulana bwino kwasokonekera pakati pa anthu awiri. Ngati mukufuna zizindikiro zoti muyenera kulekana, ichi ndi chinthu chimodzi choyenera kukumbukira musanakhale ubale wovuta.
4. Mwakhala mukuchita kuvina kobwerezabwereza
Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro tingachipeze powerenga muyenera kusiya ndi chibwenzi / bwenzi lanu ndi kupitiriza kuswa ndi kubwererana. Kapena mumangopuma pachibwenzi. Ngakhale ndizomveka kuti okwatirana angafunike mtunda wautali pamene akugwira ntchito movutikira, sikuyenera kukhala chizolowezi kapena chizolowezi.
Ngati mwakhala mukupuma kangapo ndipo mwakhala mukuvutika ndi vuto la "on-a-re-off-again", ndiye kuti pali mavuto ena omwe akuchitika. Ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu za kutha kwa chibwenzi. Mwina simukudziwa vuto lalikulu, lomwe lingakhale loopsa kwambiri. Likhoza kukhala kusakhutira muubwenzi , kusungulumwa, kapena china chilichonse. Ngati simungapeze njira yothetsera mavutowa, njira zopatukana ndiye chisankho chabwino kwambiri.
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5. Mwakhala mukuchita ntchito zonse muubwenzi
Inde, ubale umafuna khama lokhazikika komanso lokhazikika kuchokera kwa onse awiri. Komabe, ngati mukuona kuti udindo woti ubale wanu upitirire, ndiye kuti ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zakuti kutha kwa ubale kuli pafupi. Mwina nthawi zonse ndinu amene mumawatumizira mameseji awiri kapena kuwaimbira foni atatha tsiku lalitali kuti mukaone ngati ali bwino. Mwina mukumva kuti mwapanikizika komanso kunyalanyazidwa ndi iwo, ndipo chomwe angachite ndi kufika pa nthawi yake. Mwina mungaope kukhala nokha. Koma palibe nthawi yabwino yoti muthe kutha.
Ubale wopanda thanzi woterewu uyenera kukusiyani wotopa komanso kumapeto kwa nzeru zanu panthawi ina. Izi zikachitika, mudzangodumphadumpha. Izo sizikhala zokongola pamenepo. Bwanji osasiya kudzitambasula nokha tsopano m'malo modikirira kuti mufike posweka? Ubale womwe umatha pakufunika ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera nthawi zina.
6. Yakwana nthawi yoti musiyane ngati munabera kapena munapusitsidwa
Kubera pachibwenzi kumapitirira kuposa kusakhulupirika kwakuthupi, kuphatikizapo nkhanza zamaganizo ndi kuphwanya ndalama. Pambuyo pa mfundo imeneyo, kwa anthu ambiri, zathadi. Akanksha akugogomezera zavuto lakumanganso chomangira pambuyo pa kubera, kutchula kukhulupilira ngati chofunikira kwambiri. Iye anati: “Zotsatirapo zake zimabweretsa mantha ndi nkhawa, zomwe zimalepheretsa kuyanjananso.” M’lingaliro langa, kupatukana kungakhale kopambana njuga ya kuchiritsa.”
Kafukufuku wina akugwirizana ndi zomwe Akanksha ananena. Iye anati, “Kusakhulupirika kunapezeka kuti kumayenderana ndi kuvutika maganizo, nkhawa, PTSD nthawi zina, kuchepa kwa kudzidalira, mavuto okhudzana ndi kukondana, ndi zina zambiri.”
Makhalidwe oipa monga kusakhulupirika, chinyengo chosatha, ndi chinsinsi zimawononga kudalirana komwe kuli kofunikira kuti ubale ukhale wolimba. Popanda kukhulupirirana, mtendere ndi mgwirizano zimasowa, ndikuwononga ubale ndi nkhani zakuya. Akanksha amalimbikitsa kuika patsogolo chimwemwe chaumwini kuposa kuzunzika kwautali. Chikhulupiliro chimagwira ntchito ngati mwala wapangodya; kusowa kwake kumathetsa ubale, kumapangitsa kukhala kofunikira kuti mumvere mbendera zofiira.
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7. Anzanu ndi achibale anu akhala akukuuzani choncho
Mumadziwa bwanji kuti nthawi yakwana yoti musiyane ndi mnzako? Chabwino, talingalirani za kutembenukira kwa okondedwa. Mwinamwake akhala akulemba zizindikiro zonse zomwe muyenera kusiya ndi mnzanuyo. Ngati achibale anu ndi abwenzi amakukondani kwambiri ndipo amakufunirani zabwino, ndipo ngati alibe malingaliro abwino pa ubale wanu kapena sakonda wokondedwa wanu, n'zotheka kuti akuwona chinachake chimene inu simunachikwanitse.
Kuwona kwa munthu wachitatu sikuli koyipa, makamaka ngati amacheza nanu nthawi zonse. Mwina mumakonda kwambiri kapena mumangoganiza zopanga kuti izi zitheke. Mverani upangiri wawo ndikukhala ndi lingaliro lopanda chidwi la zenizeni za ubale wanu. Mutha kuwona kuti akhala akulondola nthawi yonseyi.
8. Mukukhazikika ndipo kaonedwe kanu ka moyo kakusokonekera
Mutha kupeza kuti muli m'gulu la maubwenzi okhumudwitsa, kuopa kusweka mtima kwina komanso vuto lina. Kuopa kusungulumwa pa nthawi inayake ya moyo kapena mbiri yakale ndi wokondedwa wanu kungapangitse lingaliro lothetsa zinthu kukhala lotopetsa. Koma kukhazikika pazochepera zomwe mukuyenera kukuwonetsanso kufunika kothetsa banja. Muyenera kuganizira zopita njira zanu zosiyana.
Aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi mnzawo amene amawaona kuti ndi ofunika, amawakonda, komanso amawakonda. Ngakhale kuti kusagwirizana ndi zinthu zachibadwa, kusiya mfundo zanu sikuyenera kukhala mbali ya zimenezi. Kusunga mfundo zanu zofunika kwambiri n’kofunika; musawasiye kuti mungokhala limodzi ndi munthu amene sakumva chimodzimodzi. Wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit analemba molondola kuti, “Vuto lalikulu ndilakuti zinthu zina sizingasokonezedwe. Zinthu monga kukhala ndi ana, kusintha zipembedzo, kapena kufuna chibwenzi chotseguka nthawi zambiri zimakhala kusiyana kosatha, ndipo muyenera kungopitirira.”
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9. Kunyozedwa ndi kunyozedwa ndizizindikiro zomwe muyenera kutha
Kuthetsa ubwenzi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda popanda kumukhumudwitsa kungakhale kovuta. Koma zikatero, uyenera kudziimira wekha ndikutuluka muubwenzi umenewu. Ngati wokondedwa wanu amakupangitsani kumva ngati simuli bwino nthawi zonse, si ubale woyenera kukhala nawo. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu kuti kutha kwayandikira. Nazi zitsanzo zochepa za kupanda ulemu muubwenzi:
- Kuchotsa malire anu nthawi zonse kapena malo anu - zili ngati kunena kuti kutonthozedwa kwanu kulibe kanthu
- Kunyalanyaza malingaliro anu kapena kusakupangitsani kukhala otetezeka mokwanira kuti mufotokoze zakukhosi kwanu
- Kutukwana kapena kunena mawu achipongwe - ndi kupanda ulemu komwe kumayikidwa m'mawu opweteka
- Nthawi zonse kuyankhula mwakachetechete kapena kupewa kukambirana panthawi ya ndewu. Amakutsekera kunja pamene mukuyesera kukonza zinthu
- Kunyalanyaza zikhalidwe zanu zazikulu ndi zoyesayesa zanu kapena kuchita ngati zopereka zanu zilibe kanthu
Khalidwe ndi machitidwe oterewa amasonyeza kusalemekezana ndipo ndi mtundu wina wa nkhanza zamaganizo. Ngati pali zizindikiro zina monga mawu onyoza kapena mawu onyoza omwe amawapangitsa kuti azikangana, musawatenge mopepuka. Palibe chifukwa choti mupirire. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomveka bwino zoti muyenera kusiya chibwenzi chanu.
10. Mumamva njala muubwenzi
Mungafune kukukhudzani mwachikondi, mawu olimbikitsa, kapena kuchitidwa manja mwachikondi. Sikuti wokondedwa wanu amangokwaniritsa zosowazi komanso mumawona kuti palibe njira yowafotokozera zomwe mukuyembekezera komanso zokhumba zanu m'njira yomwe ingawafikire. Kuyesera kulikonse kuti mumve kumveka kumakumana ndi kuyatsa kapena kunyozedwa. Kunyalanyaza kungakupangitseni kuganiza kuti, “Ndikufuna ndisiyane ndi chibwenzi changa koma ndikuwopa kuti ndinong’oneza bondo” — pokhapokha ngati ayambanso kukuchitirani zabwino.
Akanksha akutiuza kuti, “Kulankhulana bwino kuli ngati mpweya wabwino muubwenzi. Ngati nthawi zonse mukumva kuti mwanyalanyazidwa m’maganizo , yesani kulankhula nawo maso ndi maso. Yesani kusasankha mawu otsutsa, yesetsani kusagwiritsa ntchito mawu oti ‘inu’ mopitirira muyeso, ndipo tengani udindo pa malingaliro anu. Ngati sakukumvani ndipo zokambirana sizikuyenda bwino, chingakhale chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoti mulekane kapena kubweretsa mlangizi.”
Kudzimva kuti simunamvepo ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro kuti kutha kwabwino. Ngati ngakhale mutakhala pachibwenzi mukumva kuti muli ndi njala m'maganizo, palibe kukayika kuti muyenera kuthetsa zinthu.
11. Mwasiya kusamala ndipo mukupewa ubwenzi
Kusakhalapo kwa chisamaliro, osati kukhalapo kwa chidani, kumapereka kutha kwa chikondi muubwenzi. Kusayanjanitsika kumasonyeza kutha kwa kuyesa. Zochita zonga ngati kukopana kapena kupita kocheza usiku kwambiri siziyambitsanso nsanje kapena nkhawa, zimasonyeza kuti alibe chidwi ndi mmene chibwenzicho chikuyendera. Ndi chifukwa chokwanira chomwe muyenera kuthetseratu. Ngakhale kuti chibwenzi sichiri chilichonse, kufunikira kwake pakumanga mabwenzi sikungatsutsidwe.
Kafukufuku wina anati, “Zotsatira zathu zinasonyeza kuti anthu omwe anaona kuti mphoto zawo zinali zochepa panthawi ya chibwenzi chawo anali ndi mwayi waukulu wotha kutha.” Linanenanso kuti, “Ngakhale kuti njira zambiri zochiritsira komanso njira zina zochiritsira zakhala zikuyang'ana kwambiri kuchepetsa malingaliro okhudza kuopsa ndi kusatetezeka muubwenzi, zomwe tapeza zikusonyeza kuti chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chomwe chimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale ndi mnzanu ndi kuchuluka kwa mphoto zomwe ubalewo umapereka.”
Pano, kusowa kwa mphotho ndi ubwenzi wapamtima kwachititsa kuti anthu azikhala opanda chidwi. Ngati lingaliro laubwenzi limakulepheretsani, ndipo mukuyesetsa kuti mupewe, ichi ndi chizindikiro chodziwikiratu kuti ndi nthawi yoti muthe. Makamaka ngati zilakolako zichedwera koma kugawana ndi mnzanuyo zimakhala zosasangalatsa. Ndiponso, kusalabadira ubwino wa wina ndi mnzake kaŵirikaŵiri kumalankhula mokweza kuposa chidani.
Akanksha akulangiza:
- Ubwenzi wakuthupi si kugonana kokha. Zimaphatikizapo zinthu zokondedwa monga kugwirana chanza, kukumbatirana, kapena kupatsana ma pecks
- Izi ndizizindikiro za chitsimikiziro ndikuwonetsa kuchuluka kwa momwe munthu wayikidwira muubwenzi
- Ngati pali kusowa kwa ubwenzi kapena kukhudza, mungakhaledi vuto m’paradaiso
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12. Muyenera kusiya ngati mumakopeka ndi ena, osati okondedwa anu
Kodi mwayamba kukondana ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito? Kodi mumadalira mnzanu wakale kuti akuthandizeni kuposa wokondedwa wanu? Kodi "Kodi titha kutha?" kuganiza kosalekeza masiku ano? Ngati mwakhala mukumva kukopeka ndi ena ndikukonzekera kuti mukwaniritse zosowa zanu zamalingaliro kapena zakuthupi kuchokera kumalo ena, ndi nthawi yoti mudzuke ndikununkhiza khofi. Muli pavuto lalikulu, bambo.
Chofunika kwambiri ndi kuzindikira kuti ubale wanu watha kale. Mukungopitiriza mpaka utatha. Dziwani zizindikiro zomwe inu ndi mnzanu simuyenera kukhala limodzi ndipo yesetsani kuyambanso kulonjezana zatsopano - zomwe mwakhala mukuganizira kwa nthawi yayitali tsopano.
13. Mumamenyana ndi kukangana nthawi zonse ndipo mumakhala osangalala nokha
Ngakhale kuti kusagwirizana kuli kwachilendo mu maubwenzi, njira yabwino imaphatikizapo kuthetsa ndi kupita patsogolo. Akanksha ananena kuti: “Kusunga chakukhosi ndiponso kukhumudwa kumachititsa mikangano yosalekeza, ndipo zimenezi zimachititsa kuti pakhale vuto lalikulu.
Wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit akunena kuti, "Miyezi iwiri yapitayi ya chibwenzi, ndinachoka kuti ndikaone ngati thanzi langa la maganizo lasintha, ndipo linakhala bwino. Pomaliza ndinatha kudalira malingaliro anga, momwe ndikumvera, komanso nzeru zanga. Pomaliza, tinakangana kwambiri kwa maola anayi ndipo pamene ndinali pagalimoto yobwerera kunyumba, ndinayimbira foni mnzanga. Ndinamufunsa zomwe ndiyenera kuchita ndipo anati 'Mukudziwa kale zomwe muyenera kuchita.' Choncho ndinasiyana naye tsiku lotsatira."
Ngati kusakhalapo kwa mnzanuyo kumabweretsa mpumulo m’malo mokhumbira, kungakhale chizindikiro cha kuchita zabwino ndi kuthetsa chibwenzicho. Kuzindikira kusiyana pakati pa mikangano yathanzi ndi kusagwirizana kopitilira muyeso ndikofunikira kwambiri pakuzindikira momwe ubale wanu uliri.
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14. Simusangalala limodzi
Ganizirani mafunso awa musanakonzekere zochita ndi okondedwa wanu:
- Kodi nthawi zambiri mumakonda kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino ndi mnzanu?
- Kodi mumamva chisangalalo, kuseka, ndi kukhutitsidwa panthawi yomwe mukugawana kapena mukukambirana ndi anzanu?
- Kodi ndi liti pamene munachita zinthu ndi bwenzi lanu zomwe zidakupangitsani kukhala osangalala, okondwa komanso osangalatsidwa?
- Kodi mumakonda kukhala ndi nthawi yosangalatsa komanso yopepuka muubwenzi wanu, kapena mumamva kukhala wovuta komanso wovuta nthawi zambiri?
Kusapezeka kwa mphindi zosangalatsa kumeneku kutha kuwonetsa kulumikizana komwe kukucheperachepera, chizindikiro chodetsa nkhawa mtsogolo mwaubwenzi. Itha kukhala nthawi yoti musiyane chifukwa chosunga zokumbukira kuchokera ku honeymoon sikumalimbitsa mgwirizano.
Poyambirira, kukhala ndi umunthu wosiyana sikunawoneke ngati chinthu chofunikira pakati pa kukhudzika ndi kukopa. Komabe, m’kupita kwa nthaŵi, zinthu zofunika kwambiri zimasintha. Utali wa moyo umakhala wosatsimikizika ngati zolinga za moyo, zikhulupiriro, kapena zofunika zazikulu zikusemphana. Kuzindikira zizindikiro izi kumayambiriro ndikofunikira kuti mupewe kusweka mtima kwambiri. Ndikofunika kumvera zizindikiro zofiirazi ndikuganizira zothetsa banja m'malo motalikitsa ubale wosagwirizana.
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15. Mwakhala mukuganiza zothetsa chibwenzi
Kodi mumadzifunsa kuti “N’chifukwa chiyani ndimaganizira zothetsa chibwenzi changa?” Ngati mwakhala mukuganiza zothetsa chibwenzi ndi mnzanu, palibe malo oti mukambirane zinthu mopanda nzeru. Ingochotsani bandeji. Mudzadzichitira nokha zabwino kwambiri komanso mnzanu. N’zovuta kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda popanda kumukhumudwitsa, mwina ndi chifukwa chake mwakhala mukuchedwetsa chibwenzi. Koma mukachedwetsa chibwenzi, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri.
Zifukwa Zabwino Zotani Kuti Musiyane Ndi Munthu Amene Mumakonda?
Simukuyenera kupanga mndandanda wa zabwino ndi zoyipa pa izi, koma pali zinthu zina zoti muganizire. Kodi mudadzipezapo mu mkhalidwe womwe mumakonda komanso kusamala kwambiri mnzanu wanu, koma pali china chake chomwe chikuwoneka cholakwika? Nthawi zambiri zimamveka chikondi chikachepa. Koma bwanji chikondi chikapitirira? Kodi pali zifukwa zomveka zothetsa chibwenzi ngakhale chikondicho chikadali champhamvu?
Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mumakonda munthu ndipo simuli pachiwopsezo chilichonse chochokera kwa iwo, ubale womwe sukuyenda ndi wabwino ngati watha. M'mikhalidwe yotere, ngakhale kukhalapo kwa chikondi, zinthu zomwe zikusowa zimatha kutsimikizira chisankho chogwira ntchito paubwenzi kapena kusankha kovuta kwa njira zolekanitsa chifukwa cha chisangalalo ndi moyo wabwino.
Nazi zina mwazifukwa zomwe zingakutsimikizireni kuti nthawi yakwana yoti musiye chibwenzicho ngakhale mumakondana ndi wokondedwa wanu:
- Kusiyanitsa zolinga za moyo: Zokhumba zanu zanthawi yayitali komanso moyo wanu zikasiyana kwambiri, zitha kupangitsa kuti ubale wanu ukhale wosiyana. Ngakhale kuti pali chikondi, kusiyana kumeneku kungalepheretse kuyenda limodzi
- Zowonongeka: Ngati ubalewu uyamba kukhala woyipa, wokhudzana ndi nkhanza, kusokoneza, kapena kusalemekeza nthawi zonse, kuika patsogolo thanzi lanu lamalingaliro ndi malingaliro kumakhala kofunika kwambiri. Chikondi sichilungamitsa kupirira poizoni
- Kuperewera kwa kukula kofanana: Ubale wabwino nthawi zambiri umalimbikitsa kukula kwaumwini ndikuthandizira zofuna za munthu payekha. Ngati mgwirizanowo ulepheretsa kupita patsogolo kwaumwini kapena ukulephera kulimbikitsa chitukuko, ukhoza kulepheretsa kukwaniritsidwa kwanu konse ndi kudzitukumula kwanu.
- Kusagwirizana kwapakati: Nthawi zina, ngakhale mutakhala ndi chikondi, kusiyana kwakukulu m'zikhalidwe, zikhulupiriro, kapena zosankha za moyo kungapangitse kukhala kovuta kuti mukhale ndi ubale wogwirizana komanso wokwaniritsa. Kusiyanaku kukhoza kusokoneza ubwenziwo, kuchititsa kusakhutira kosalekeza
- Kusagwirizana m'malingaliro: Ngakhale ndi chikondi, kugwirizana m'maganizo kumathandiza kwambiri. Ngati pali zosowa zosakwaniritsidwa kapena kusagwirizana kwakukulu pakuwonetsa / kutsimikizika kwa malingaliro, kusakhutira m'maganizo kungapitirire. Izi zidzakhudza thanzi ndi chikhutiro cha ubale wonse
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Momwe Mungathanirane ndi Kuthetsa Ubwenzi Mukakhala Ndi Mimba
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Chikondi pachokha sichitha nthawi zonse kulimbikitsa ubale. Zindikirani pamene zolinga za nthawi yayitali zimasiyana, chiwopsezo chimayamba, kukula kwachuma, kusemphana kwa zikhalidwe, kapena kulumikizana kwamalingaliro kumatha. Ngati zambiri mwa zinthuzi zichitika, ndi nthawi yoti musiyane
- Chikondi pachokha sichitha nthawi zonse kulimbikitsa ubale. Zindikirani pamene zolinga za nthawi yayitali zimasiyana, chiwopsezo chimayamba, kukula kwachuma, kusemphana kwa zikhalidwe, kapena kulumikizana kwamalingaliro kumatha. Ngati zambiri mwa zinthuzi zichitika, ndi nthawi yoti musiyane
- Mbendera zofiira zimaphatikizapo kuchita ntchito zonse zaubwenzi nokha, kusalemekeza wokondedwa wanu, kapena kumva njala - zizindikiro izi zimafunikira kuunika kwakukulu kwa ubale wanu.
- Mvetserani ku intuition yanu ndi malingaliro a okondedwa anu. Ngati malingaliro oti atha kutha atsala pang'ono kutha, zitha kuwonetsa kufunikira kwa chimwemwe chaumwini komanso ubale wabwino
Pali zifukwa miliyoni zomwe maanja ambiri amasonkhana kuti apange maubwenzi. Ndipo zifukwa miliyoni zomwe anthu amakhalabe muubwenzi ndikupangitsa kuti zigwire ntchito. Ziribe kanthu momwe zinthu zilili, kuopa kukhala wekha kapena kuyambanso kuyambira pachiyambi sikuyenera kukhala chimodzi mwa izo. Palibe nthawi yabwino yothetsa chibwenzi koma ngati mungagwirizane ndi zambiri mwa zizindikirozi, ndi bwino kuchitapo kanthu tsopano ndikupanga chisankho choyenera. Ubwenzi wanu udzatha mwanjira ina kapena imzake.
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