Kukangana paubwenzi mosakayikira ndizochitika zosasangalatsa. Kusemphana maganizo, mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa zimene zimadza nawo, kukuwa kumagwirizana kapena kutuluka mwadzidzidzi, kusiya nkhani yosathetsedwa, zonse zingasiye kukoma koipa. Ngati tingathe kuchita zimene tikufuna, sitikanamenyana ndi munthu amene timamukonda kwambiri. Koma zoona zake n’zakuti ngakhale mukondane bwanji, anthu awiri sangagwirizane pa chilichonse. Ndicho chifukwa chake mikangano ndi ndewu ndizofala kwambiri m'mabwenzi.
Komabe, mosiyana ndi chikhulupiriro chakuti kulimbana ndi kusiyana kwanu kungawononge mgwirizano wanu, mikangano ndi yabwino kwa ubale wanu. Malingana ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito njira zabwino zokangana ndipo musadutse mzere wonena zinthu zopweteka kapena zopweteka kapena kusonyeza khalidwe lapoizoni.
Kodi njira zothanirana ndi mavuto ndi ziti? Kodi njira yoyenera yothetsera mikangano muubwenzi ndi iti? Tinalankhula ndi mlangizi Manjari Saboo (Masters in Applied Psychology and Post-Graduate Diploma in Family Therapy and Child Care Counseling), yemwe anayambitsa Maitree Counselling, yomwe ndi njira yodzipereka ku thanzi la mabanja ndi ana, kuti tidziwe momwe mikangano muubwenzi ingakhalire yathanzi.
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Kodi munayamba mwakumanapo ndi banja lomwe silimenyana, kusagwirizana kapena kukangana nthawi ndi nthawi? Ayi? Izi mwazokha zimalankhula za kusapeŵeka kwa mikangano ndi mikangano mu chiyanjano. Palibe anthu awiri, ngakhale atagwirizana bwanji, amawona moyo mofanana. Izi ndizopadera zomwe zimayang'anira mayankho athu, malingaliro athu ndi zoyambitsa zamaganizo pazochitika zosiyanasiyana.
Kukangana muubwenzi ndi chizindikiro chabe cha kusiyana kwakukulu kumeneku. Popeza mikangano ndi mikangano sizisangalatsa, zingatipangitse kuona mikangano ngati chinthu choipa. Monga momwe mudzaonera posachedwa, kukangana n'kwabwino, bola ngati titakwanitsa kukhala aulemu. Ndi chizindikiro chakuti onse awiri ali ndi malo okhala okha ndikukhala odziyimira pawokha muubwenzi . Kupatula apo, kumakupatsani mwayi wodziwa zambiri za wina ndi mnzake komanso kupeza mavuto aliwonse omwe angayambitse mavuto m'paradaiso yanu.
Kukangana kumakupatsani mwayi wothana ndi mavutowa pamodzi ngati gulu. Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi wake samenyana, ndiye kuti asiya chibwenzi. Choncho, sikudzakhala kutambasula kunena kuti maanja omwe amamenyana amakhala pamodzi. Ngakhale zili choncho, sikuti mikangano ndi ndewu zonse zimapangidwa mofanana. Zizindikiro zina zofiira zimasonyeza kuti mikangano yanu ikhoza kukhala chifukwa cha zovuta zina.
“Kodi kukangana m’maubwenzi kuli kwabwino? Kodi kungathandize kulimbitsa mgwirizano wa okwatirana? Ine ndinganene kuti, inde. Mikangano m’maukwati imakhala ndi tanthauzo lalikulu pamene ikugwiritsidwa ntchito pamikhalidwe yosiyana. Kudzera m’mikangano, okwatirana angapeze njira zothetsera nkhani zawo, mafotokozedwe, mtendere wamaganizo, kumvetsetsa bwino zochitika ndi kaganizidwe ka wina ndi mnzake.
Komabe, njira zabwino zokambirana ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pankhani yofufuza ngati mikangano ingathandize ubale. Zizolowezi monga kungokhala chete, kukwiyirana , kuitana mayina, kuopsezana, komanso kugwiritsa ntchito nkhanza zamaganizo kapena chiwawa si njira zabwino zokambirana.
Mikangano yaying'ono muubwenzi siyenera kusinthidwa kukhala machesi olalata, ndipo kusunga chakukhosi kapena kusunga chikwangwani kumangosonyeza kuti mukukambirana kuti "mupambane" m'malo mofika pamalo omvetsetsana. Zikatero, ndi bwino kuganizira zopeza chithandizo cha maanja kuti amvetsetse njira yabwino yochitira mtsogolo.
Kupatula apo, kukangana chifukwa cha nkhani zoyankhulirana kapena kusiyana maganizo ndikwabwino komanso kwabwino. "Inde, nthawi zina mikangano imayambitsa mikangano, ndewu ndi chisokonezo chonse. Kaya kusiyana maganizo kungakhale kwabwino paubwenzi kumachokera ku kuthekera kwa onse awiri kuthetsa mikangano paubwenzi. Mukamagwiritsa ntchito njira zoyenera zothetsera kusamvana, mkangano ukhoza kukhala chida cha kukula. Zimasonyeza ubale wabwino, wozikidwa pa chisamaliro, nkhawa ndi chikondi, "kuwonjezera Manja ayenera kulandiridwa.
Kodi ndi bwino kukangana muubwenzi? Malingana ngati muli ndi njira zothetsera kusamvana m'thumba ndipo musawononge ubale wanu polankhula zinthu zopweteka panthawi yotentha, zingakhale zabwino pa chiyanjano. Chifukwa cha malingaliro abwino pa mzere wabwino womwe umagawanitsa thanzi kuchokera ku zosayenera, tiyeni tifufuze chifukwa chake mikangano ili yofunika mu chiyanjano.
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Zifukwa 12 Zokangana Paubwenzi Zingakhale Zathanzi
Kodi mumadzifunsa kuti kodi ndi zachilendo kumenyana tsiku lililonse muubwenzi kapena kangati okwatirana amamenyana muubwenzi wabwino ? Pali mwayi waukulu kuti inu ndi mnzanu mumakangana pafupipafupi. Kukwiya kumeneku kumatha kukhala kosasangalatsa pamene kubuka komanso ngakhale kusamvana kukupitirira. Koma khalani otsimikiza, bola ngati sikuli chifukwa cha mavuto akuluakulu, mikangano muubwenzi ndi chizindikiro chabwino.
Kodi n'kwachibadwa kukangana muubwenzi? Inde. Ndipotu, ubwenzi wopanda mikangano ndi wachilendo. Komabe, kukhala ndi malingaliro owopsa ponamizira kuti "kukangana ndikwabwino kwa ife" sikuyenera kukhala cholinga. Ndikofunikira kudziwa zomwe zili bwino komanso zomwe sizili bwino, kuti musalole kuti malingaliro anu opotoka apewe mbendera zofiira zomwe zikukuyang'anani. Nazi zifukwa 12 zomwe kukangana muubwenzi kuli kofunika kuti mukhale limodzi, komanso zomwe zili bwino ndi zomwe sizili bwino:
1. Mumatha kukambirana mavuto
Ubwenzi wopanda mikangano kapena ndewu nthawi zambiri umakhala womwe m'modzi kapena onse awiri adakwanitsa luso losesa zinthu pansi pa kapeti. Komabe, chimenecho si chinthu chanzeru kuchita. Simungathe kunyalanyaza mavuto anu ndi kuwakhumbira.
Ngati simunathetse vuto lililonse, ngakhale kusiyana kochepa kwambiri kwa tsiku ndi tsiku kungachititse mkwiyo ndipo mkwiyo umalowa muubwenzi . Kumbali ina, kukangana muubwenzi kumasonyeza kuti mungathe kuthetsa mavuto akamabuka. Izi zimachepetsa chiopsezo cha kusamvana kwakukulu pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu.
"Komanso, kufunikira kwa njira zabwino zokambirana sikungagogomezedwe mokwanira. Mkangano ukhale wongokambirana osati mkangano. Ngati muwona chizindikiro kuti zokambirana zayambitsa mkangano, siyani nkhaniyo kapena mfundo yomwe mukupanga nthawi yomweyo. Mudzakhala ndi mwayi wobwereza izi ndikuyika malingaliro anu kapena kuvomereza za mnzanuyo. Manjari.
Monga momwe Manjari akunenera, kufunsa mafunso monga, "Kodi kukangana kumakhala kofala bwanji muubwenzi?", Ndizopanda phindu ngati mikangano yanu yonse imabweretsa kutchulana mayina koyipa komwe kumawononga ubalewo. Ngakhale mumatha kukambirana zamavuto anu, muyeneranso kuti muzitha kukambirana bwino.
2. Imakhazikitsa mgwirizano wofanana
Kodi mikangano mu maubwenzi abwino? Inde, mikangano ndi yabwino chifukwa imakuthandizani kukhazikitsa mgwirizano wa anthu ofanana moona mtima. Polankhula kusagwirizana kwanu pa zomwe mnzanuyo wachita - ndi mosemphanitsa - mumatsimikizira kuti palibe aliyense wa inu amene anganene kuti ndi wolamulira, kuyembekezera kuti winayo akhale wofatsa.
Kutha kulankhula malingaliro anu pamene simukugwirizana ndi mnzanuyo kumapangitsa kuti musatenge mbali zosasangalatsa za ubale wanu mumayendedwe anu. M'malo mwake, mudzayika phazi lanu pansi pomwe likuwerengera.
Izi zimathandiza kumanga ulemu pakati pa awiri muubwenzi, zomwe zimathandiza kwambiri kulimbitsa ubale wanu. Kodi mikangano imalimbitsa ubale? Mukatha kukhazikitsa maziko ofanana mwa kufotokozera momveka bwino kuti simudzakakamizidwa, kukhazikitsa ulemu pakati pa awiri kungathandize kuti mphamvu zanu zikhazikike.
3. Mumalankhula maganizo anu
Nthawi zambiri mikangano ndi mikangano imachitika muubwenzi chifukwa wina amayembekeza kuti mnzakeyo amvetsetse zinthu zina kapena kuchita mwanjira inayake popanda kudziwitsa zomwe akuyembekezera. Pamene ziyembekezozi sizikwaniritsidwa, mwachibadwa zimadzetsa kukhumudwa.
Komabe, nthawi zambiri sitingathe kunena zokhumudwitsa ndi zokhumudwitsa izi pakadali pano. "Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi vuto ndi momwe Jolene amandidula nthawi iliyonse ndikalankhula. Ndinayesa kusokoneza poganiza kuti ndi chifukwa chakuti ali wokondwa ndipo akufuna kulankhula, koma zinafika poti ndimaona ngati sindingathe kumaliza chiganizo chimodzi popanda kusokonezedwa, "Richard anatiuza.
“Tsiku lina, pamene tinali kukambitsirana za tchuthi chimene timakonda, ndinangomva ngati ndikumvetsera kwa iye ndipo iye sanali kusamala kwenikweni za zokumana nazo zanga.” Kukambitsirana ‘kosangalatsa’ kunasanduka mkangano mwamsanga pamene ndinamukalipira chifukwa chosandilola kulankhula. motalika kwambiri moti zinangophulika nthawi imodzi,” akuwonjezera motero.
Kukangana ndi njira yabwino yothetsera malingaliro otsalira awa. Izi zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale owonekera mu ubale. Mikangano yaying'ono muubwenzi imatha kutha ndi kumvana ndi kumvetsetsana. Choncho, m’malo modikira kuti muphulike, onetsetsani kuti mwalankhula maganizo anu pamene mukufunika kutero. Ngakhale zingayambitse kukangana kochepa.
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4. Kukangana paubwenzi kumabweretsa mayankho
Akuti okwatirana omwe amakangana amakhala limodzi chifukwa mikangano imakulepheretsani kupeza mayankho a mavuto. Zinthu zikayamba kukangana, okwatirana onse awiri amatha kunena momveka bwino zomwe zikuchitika m'maganizo mwawo. Izi zimakupatsani mwayi wowona mavuto anu ndi kusiyana kwanu bwino ndikuyesetsa kupeza yankho.
Kusiyapo pyenepi, mungafika pa gwere la nyatwa zanu na kufokotoza, munakwanisa kupewesa kumenyana mwakubwereza-bwereza. Mwachitsanzo, mukamadziwa kuti zochita kapena chizolowezi chinachake chimakhumudwitsa mnzanuyo, mwachibadwa mudzayesetsa kuti agwirizane nazo. Ngakhale kuti ankakonda kubwebweta, Molina amadana ndi mmene Richard amalankhulira naye pagulu. Iye ankaganiza kuti zinkaoneka ngati zopusa ndipo anatumiza uthenga wolakwika kwa anthu oyandikana nawo.
Poyamba, Richard sankamvetsa chifukwa chimene munthu wamba amayenera kukhala payekha, ndipo anakangana ndi Molina chifukwa chofuna kusintha mmene amalankhulira pagulu. Kwa iye ankangosokoneza. Koma atafotokoza mmene zinam’khudzira, mwamsanga anazindikira kuti anali kunyozetsa mnzakeyo.
"Kodi ndi bwino kukangana mu ubale?" anafunsa Richard, ndipo anawonjezera kuti: “Zikanakhala kuti ndewuyi sinayambike, ndikanapitiriza kulankhula naye pagulu monga mmene ndinachitira, ndipo ndani akudziwa kuipa kumene kukanabweretsa, sindikanafuna kuti azimenyana nane pamaso pa anthu.”
5. Kumathetsa chakukhosi
Tiyerekeze kuti mnzanuyo anakuyimitsani pamaso pa anzanu. Ngakhale kuti angakhale ndi zifukwa zake, zochita zawo zidzakukhumudwitsani. Ngati musunga zonse mkati mwanu, mungayambe kusunga chakukhosi ndikuganiza njira zobwezera. Zizolowezi zimenezi zingayambitse ubale woipa pamapeto pake.
Koma mukakangana nazo, mumapeza mpata wosonyeza kukhumudwa kwanu ndi kukhumudwa kwanu. Simuyenera kupita mfuti zikuyaka, kuyembekezera kufika pamalo osangalatsa ngati mutsegule chitseko ndikukalipira mnzanu. M’malo mwake, mosasamala kanthu za kuwawidwa mtima, ngati muuza mnzanuyo kuti, “Ndakhumudwa kwambiri kuti munandiimiritsa, nchifukwa ninji munachitira zimenezo?”, mukhoza kufika pansi pa zinthuzo mwamtendere.
Mukadekha mukhoza kumva mbali ya mnzanuyo ndi maganizo omasuka. Zimakupatsirani mwayi wokwirira chipolopolo ndikupitilirabe, popanda kukwiyira komwe kumawopseza mgwirizano wanu. Kodi mikangano imalimbitsa ubale? Mukathetsa kusamvetsetsana ndikuchotsa chakukhosi kwanu, ndiye kuti mudzalimbitsa mgwirizano wanu.
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6. Kukangana kumathandiza kumvetsetsana
Kawirikawiri, m'moyo ndi m'maubwenzi, zinthu sizimakhala zoipa kapena zoipa. Pali zinthu zambiri zosayenera kuziganizira. Mukathetsa mikangano bwino muubwenzi, zimakupatsani mwayi wowona mkhalidwe kuchokera m'malingaliro awiri osiyana. Mukuchita izi, mutha kumvetsetsa bwino momwe mnzanuyo amaonera zinthu zina kapena mfundo zake zazikulu zaubwenzi ndi zikhulupiriro zake.
Izi, pamapeto pake, zimathandizira kumvetsetsa bwino ndikukubweretsani pafupi. Ngakhale mikangano yaing'ono m'maubwenzi imatha kukupatsani chidziwitso pa zomwe wokondedwa wanu amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda, kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa bwino komanso mwachikondi. Mukakhala achifundo kwambiri mu ubale wanu, zimakumangani pamodzi ngati gulu.
Komabe, ngati mukukangana ndi kukambirana kulikonse ndipo mukudzifunsa kuti, “Kodi pali mikangano yochuluka bwanji muubwenzi?”, mungafunike kuona chifukwa chake mumasemphana maganizo nthawi zambiri. Kodi mukulephera kumvetsetsa komwe mnzako akuchokera, ndichifukwa chake udani ukupitilirabe? Yesetsani kukulitsa chifundo ndipo kubwereza kungachepe.
7. Kukangana pachibwenzi kumalimbikitsa chikondi
Kuyanjananso mutatha kukangana kungayambitse malingaliro ambiri ndi malingaliro osamveka bwino, zomwe zingabweretsenso chikondi. Kodi tonse sitinamvepo za kugonana kodzikongoletsa kosangalatsa kwambiri! Mikangano yayikulu imabweretsa malingaliro amphamvu, omwe angapangitse kuti malingaliro anu achikondi afike pamlingo wina.
Kupatula apo, kumenyana, ndipo mwina kusalankhulana, kumakupatsani mpata wowona kuti mumalemekezana. Mukathetsa nkhani zanu ndikulumikizanso, zimakuthandizani kuti muwone kupanda pake kwa kutukuta zinthu zazing'ono.
8. Zimasonyeza kuti mumasamala
Ubwenzi wopanda mikangano kapena ndewu umaonedwa kuti ndi wodetsa nkhawa chifukwa umasonyeza kuti m'modzi kapena onse awiri asiya chiyembekezo chokhala limodzi mtsogolo. Mwina avomereza kuti ubale wawo wautali watha. Kumbali ina, mukamenyana kuti mutsutse kapena kuchepetsa zinthu zomwe mukuziona ngati zoopsa paubwenzi wanu, mukuyesetsa kupanga malo abwino komanso abwino ngati banja.
Mfundo yoti zinthu zazikulu ndi zazing'ono zimakukhudzani zimatsimikiziranso kuti simukunyalanyaza mnzanu kapena ubale wanu. “Pamene mkangano uli ndi mbali yaikulu yosonyeza nkhaŵa ndi chisamaliro cha mnzakoyo kwa mnzakeyo kapena chibwenzi, zimachititsa kuti mgwirizano wawo ukhale wabwino ndiponso wabwino kwambiri.” Apa ndi pamene mumapewa mikangano yaing’ono m’maubwenzi ndi kumalimbana ndi zofuna za mnzanuyo ndi ubwenzi wanu pamtima.
“Mwachitsanzo, kukangana pankhani yokhala ndi moyo wabwino chifukwa chodera nkhaŵa za ubwino wa mnzanuyo n’koyenera.” Komabe, chifukwa chakuti zolinga zanu n’zabwino sizikutanthauza kuti mukhoza kumangokhalira kukangana mopanda malire.
Mwachitsanzo, mikangano kapena kukambirana kumeneku kuyenera kukhudza inuyo ndi mnzanuyo. Kukhudza makolo, abale kapena anzanu sikungakhale njira yabwino yochitira zimenezi.
9. Umakhala womvera bwino
Ngati mukugwiritsa ntchito njira zabwino zokangana komanso kumenyana mwaulemu kuti muthetse mavuto anu, mikangano ndi kusamvana kungakupangitseni kukhala womvera wabwino. Kulankhula kuti mutsimikizire mfundo kapena kupereka mkangano wotsutsa ndi chizolowezi choipa chomwe chimakulitsa mkangano pakati pa okondana. Zotsatira zake, kusamvana kumakula.
M’malo mwake, ngati muphunzira kumvetsera mwatcheru ndi kuyesa kumvetsetsa malingaliro a munthu winayo, mikangano muunansi ingakhale njira yomangirira kukulitsa unansi watanthauzo ndi munthu amene mumam’konda.
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10. Mikangano imakupangitsani kumva kukhala opepuka
Kulimbana ndi mnzako kungakhale chinthu chowawa kwambiri nthawi zonse. Bwanji ndi mkwiyo woyaka, kulira ndi misozi. Uh! Koma kodi munayamba mwamvapo ngati katundu wachotsedwa pachifuwa chanu mutamaliza kumenyana ndi kukangana? Ndi chifukwa kutulutsa mpweya ndikofunikira kuti muthawe zokhumudwitsa zanu ndikukhala pamtendere.
Kusasunga zinthu mkati mwa mtima ndi njira yabwino yochitira zinthu zonse pa moyo. Koma ndikofunikira kwambiri pamene mukuyesera kumanga maziko olimba a ubale. Chifukwa chake, ngati mwakhala mukuda nkhawa ndi kukangana koyambirira kwa chibwenzi kapena kumenyana nthawi zambiri, musadzipweteke. Bola ngati palibe mavuto oopsa omwe akuchitika, ndewu ndi mikangano zidzangothandiza kuti ubale wanu ukhale wopanda nkhawa.
11. Kumalepheretsa kulekerera
M'kupita kwa nthawi, okwatirana amapeza nyimbo ya moyo wawo pamodzi. Ngakhale kuti ikhoza kukhala yodziwika bwino komanso yotonthoza, ingakhale yotopetsa kwambiri. Kutsatira chizoloŵezi chomwecho, kuchita zinthu zomwezo mobwerezabwereza ndithudi kumachepetsa chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo mu ubale wanu. Posakhalitsa, mukhoza kuyamba kunyalanyazana.
Imeneyi ndi njira yobweretsera tsoka. Kukangana ndi ndewu zili ngati kudzuka kumene kumakutulutsani m’tulo tomwe n’kumakupangitsani kuona zimene zili pangozi, nthaŵi ndi nthaŵi. Kuzindikira uku kumakulepheretsani kukhala omasuka kwambiri kuti muyambe kuika patsogolo mnzanuyo.
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12. Mumakula ngati banja
Ganizirani nthawi zomwe munayamba kukangana muubwenzi. Kukambitsirana kulikonse koopsa, ndewu iliyonse, mkangano uliwonse zidakuthandizani kuti mudziwe zambiri za mnzanuyo. Zomwe zatulukirazi, zimakuthandizani kusintha zolinga zanu zaubwenzi ndikusankha zomwe zili zabwino kwa inu ngati banja.
Pakapita nthawi, mumavomereza zofooka za wina ndi mnzake komanso kuyamikira mphamvu zanu. Mikangano imakuthandizani kuona kuti simungathe "kukonza" mnzanu koma imakuthandizani kukhala chitsanzo chabwino cha iwo eni. Kukhwima kotereku pamodzi ndi kuleza mtima ndi kukhululukirana m'maubwenzi ndi komwe kumakuthandizani kukula ngati banja.
Kodi n'kwachibadwa kukangana muubwenzi? Monga mukudziwira pakali pano, ndi choncho, ndipo ikhoza kukhalanso yathanzi. Monga momwe mungawanyozere, mikangano iyenera kuchitika muubwenzi. Zimene mumachita nawo zimadalira mmene kusamvanaku kungakhudzire tsogolo lanu. Kuphunzira kuthetsa nkhani zanu pogwiritsa ntchito njira zokangana bwino ndizomwe zimathandiza kuti maubwenzi azikhala olimba komanso osangalala pakapita nthawi.
Zambiri zanenedwapo za njira zabwino zokambirana poonetsetsa kuti mikangano ndi kusiyana sikungawononge ubale wanu. Koma kodi njira zothetsera kusamvana paumoyo ndi chiyani? Manjari akupereka chidziŵitso chosavuta koma chozama, “Ngati nkhani yaing’ono ikafika pokangana ndi mnzanuyo ndipo mumapezeka kuti muli pamalo ovuta, ndikufunsa mafunso ngati “Chifukwa chiyani ine?” "Bwanji nthawi zonse ine?" "Bwanji?", Pumulani kwakanthawi ndikuyankha mafunso awa - "Bwanji osakhala ine?" "Chifukwa chiyani nthawi zonse?" "Bwanji osatero?"
"Mwinamwake, mudzapeza yankho losiyana kwambiri, ndipo mkangano uliwonse womwe ungakhale wovuta kwa inu ungawoneke ngati wosafunikira mwadzidzidzi. Mwachidule, mikangano muubwenzi imakhala yabwino pokhapokha ngati sikuchokera ku zosowa za wokondedwa m'modzi koma ubwino waukulu wa mgwirizano." Ngati ubale wanu pakadali pano ukuvutika ndi mikangano yosasangalatsa kapena simukukangana konse, ganizirani chithandizo cha maanja. Gulu la akatswiri odziwa bwino ntchito la Bonobology lingakuthandizeni kujambula njira yopita ku ubale wogwirizana.
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Kukangana paubwenzi ndikofunikira chifukwa sikulola kuti nkhani ziwunjikane ndikusintha kukhala kusiyana kosagwirizana pakapita nthawi.
Palibe lamulo la momwe maanja ayenera kumenyana kangati komanso nthawi yomwe zimakhala zovuta. Chofunikira ndikukangana mwakukhwima komanso mwaumoyo kuti muthetse kusamvana kwanu osati kungofuna kukhala m'modzi.
Kumvetsera mwatcheru ndi kuyesa kuona zinthu mmene winayo akuzionera ndiyo njira yabwino yothetsera mikangano muubwenzi. Chifukwa ngati simumvera kuti mumvetsetse koma kuti mutsutsane ndikutsimikizira mfundo yanu, mikangano imatha kukhala yoyipa.
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti anthu ambiri amakangana kasanu ndi kawiri patsiku. Komabe, ubale uliwonse ndi banja ndizosiyana. Zomwe zimagwirira ntchito kwa anthu ambiri zitha kapena sizingakhale kwa inu. Ndi bwino kukangana ndi kukambirana nthawi iliyonse pamene chinachake chakudetsani nkhawa m'malo mobisa maganizo anu.
Monga akunena, musagone mokwiya. Imirirani ndi kulingalira izo. Ndi bwino kuthetsa mikangano yanu msangamsanga ndipo musamachite zizoloŵezi monga kungokhala chete ndi kumugenda ndi miyala kuti mubwezere mnzanuyo.
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