Kulimbana kungakhale chinthu chabwino, nthawi zina
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kaya muli m'mavuto okwatirana kumene kapena mwakhala m'banja kwa zaka 20, kusagwirizana kapena mikangano panjira ndi pafupifupi kuperekedwa, koma ndi gawo labwino la ubale uliwonse ndipo limakhala ndi zotsatirapo pa chiyanjano. Ndichizindikiro chosonyeza kuti muli patali bwanji ngati banja.
"Kukangana kwina ndikofunikira paubwenzi," akutero Jane Greer, PhD, wosamalira mabanja ndi mabanja ku NYC. "Ngati simunafotokoze momveka bwino kuti simukugwirizana, ndiye kuti mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo zimapita mobisa ndikuyamba kubwezera, zomwe zingafooketse ubale wanu."
Nkhondo 1: Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito ndalama, wokondedwa?
Momwe ndi momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito ndalama, ndi mkangano wamba womwe ungayambike pakati pa maanja panthawi ina ya moyo wawo. Ngakhale awiriawiri omwe amagwirizana kwambiri amatha kukhala ndi kusiyana pa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito ndalama zomwe adapeza movutikira.
"Ndimakhala ndi mabanja omwe amatsutsana pazachuma chawo chilichonse, kaya ndikuyenda kalasi yoyamba kapena kugula Starbucks espresso AM iliyonse m'malo mongopanga kunyumba," akutero Greer.
"Nkhaniyi nthawi zambiri imafika mozama kuposa ngati ungakwanitse kapena ayi," akutero Susan Heitler, PhD, mlangizi wamabanja komanso ubale waku Denver.
“Sikuti mukungowononga ndalama pogula zovala zodziŵika bwino kapena zogulira magalimoto—mumalimbana ndi makhalidwe abwino,” iye akutero.
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Nkhondo 2: Kugonana kangati
Susan Heitler anachenjeza kuti: “Uwu ndi mtundu wa mkangano umene umapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi chibwenzi chimene chingatsegule njira yothetsera chibwenzicho.
Kugonana ndi gawo lofunikira pa ubale uliwonse ndipo kupeza zosowa zathu mkati mwa ubale ndikofunikira. Maukwati osagonana ndi osayenera ndipo munthu ayenera kukambirana mozama za zokhumba zake zogonana ndi bwenzi lake komanso momwe amafunira pafupipafupi kapena mosawerengeka. Muyenera kuganizira zowonana ndi dokotala ngati simungathe kuthetsa izi mwamtendere nokha.
Nkhondo 3: Momwe mungasonyezere mkwiyo
Tonsefe timaonetsa mkwiyo m'njira zosiyanasiyana - ena amafuula ndipo ena amadzipatula, pamene ena amawakwiyitsa kwa masiku ambiri, kusonyeza mkwiyowo kudzera muzochita zazing'ono. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa momwe wokondedwa aliyense amachitira ndi mkwiyo komanso momwe zimakhudzira chiyanjano.
Susan Heitler akulangiza, kambiranani za izo panthaŵi imene nonse muli odekha, ndipo yesani kumvetsetsa chifukwa chimene mmodzi (kapena nonse) mwa inu muli okwiya kwambiri ndi mmene mungasonyezere mkhalidwe umenewu popanda kuphulika kwakukulu.
“Mkwiyo ndi chizindikiro chosiya, ndiye ngati waumva, uyenera kuima kaye,” akutero.
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Nkhondo 4: Udindo wa mabanja okulirapo
Kuika malire ponena za apongozi/makolo/abale anu kungathandize kupeŵa mkangano uliwonse umene ungabwere chifukwa cha zinthu monga ngati apongozi anu akuimbira foni nthaŵi yachakudya kapena apongozi anu akukambitsirana za ukwati wanu ndi mbale wake kapena makolo anu akuchezera kwa nthaŵi yaitali. Chofunika ndi kukhala wolemekeza mnzanuyo ndi kukambirana za izo.
Chofunika ndi kukhala wolemekeza mnzanuyo ndi kukambirana za izo.
Nkhondo 5: Kugawana ntchito zapakhomo
Izi zitha kukhala zoyipa ngati onse awiri sakhala pansi ndikukonza udindo wawo kuti nyumbayo iziyenda bwino. Kuchapa, mbale zonyansa, kutulutsa galu, zakudya, ndi zina zotero - maudindo ayenera kufotokozedwa momveka bwino.
Nkhondo 6: Mnzako akapanda ntchito
Iyi ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri ndipo ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa zoyembekeza za wina ndi mnzake kuti zisadzetse mikangano yambiri. Amuna amalimbana ndi kukhala opanda ntchito mosiyana ndi akazi, kotero muyenera kukhala achifundo, achifundo kwa wina ndi mzake ndi kudziwa pamene inu nonse mungapewe kupsinjika maganizo kapena kusweka. Kumvetsetsana pakati pa okondedwa kumveka bwino, mutha kudutsa nthawiyi motsimikiza komanso mwabata.
Nkhondo 7: Mmodzi akachita nsanje
Tonse timachita nsanje nthawi zina ndipo zimakhala zokongola muubwenzi wachikondi. Kaduka kakang'ono ndi kopanda vuto, koma kunamizira kubisa kungayambitse mkwiyo ndi kusakhulupirirana ndipo sikuli bwino. Chabwino ndi kuyankhula za izo, lingalirani chifukwa chimene inu mumamverera momwe inu mumamvera kapena mnzanuyo akumvera ndi kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu kwenikweni, ngakhale zitadzetsa mkangano.
Nkhondo 8: Momwe bwenzi limodzi limakhalira
Tonse timakhala ndi ziyembekezo za momwe timafunira kuchitiridwa, tikakhala tokha ndi mnzathu komanso tikakhala pagulu. Nthawi zambiri maanja amakangana chifukwa khalidwe la mnzawo limatsika pamlingo womwe amayembekezera.
Atha kudzisamalira okha ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mosiyana ndi momwe mumayembekezera. Kapena nthabwala zomwe amakamba zingakulepheretseni kudabwa. Kapena mmene amalankhulira za inu kwa anthu ena zingakulepheretseni kukhala okhumudwa ndi onyansa.
Kukangana ndi chinthu chabwino ndipo kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu kudzakuthandizani kupewa mikangano yayikulu pa izi.
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Palibe amene amafuna kumenyana, koma zimachitika nthawi zina. Kaya mumadana nazo kapena ayi, mumakangana ndi anzanu nthawi ndi nthawi. Nkwachibadwa kusagwirizana paubwenzi, komabe zimakhala zovuta kudziwa ngati ndewu yanu ili yabwino kapena yoipa.
Osachita mantha. Kambiranani, kambiranani ndikuthetsa!