'Sankhani mwanzeru wokwatirana naye.' Izi ndi zomwe mwina mwamvapo muzaka zanu zakukula. Pamodzi ndi zimenezo, mwinamwake munauzidwanso kuti kukhala ndi bwenzi loyenera kukakhala mfungulo ya chimwemwe chanu chonse. Kuti linali yankho la kukhala ndi moyo wokwaniritsidwa. Kuti ndi munthu wangwiro, chithunzithunzi chanu chathunthu. Koma ndi malangizo onsewa, n’zotheka kuti simunauzidwepo mmene mungasankhire bwenzi lodzamanga nalo banja kapena makhalidwe oti muyang’ane mwa bwenzi lodzamanga nalo.
Chabwino, mwafika pamalo oyenera lero. "Momwe mungasankhire bwenzi lomanga nalo banja?" munafunsa? Tili ndi mayankho onse.
Kusankha bwenzi moyo amene n'zogwirizana ndi inu maganizo, luntha ndi thupi si zonse zovuta ngati inu mukudziwa kuyang'ana zimene mukufuna.
Ndi psychotherapist Snigdha Mishra m'bwalo lero, yemwenso ndi mphunzitsi wa zamaganizo, woyambitsa Life Surfers, ndi Woyambitsa membala wa Bharatiya Counseling Psychology Association and Lets Talk (COVID mental health crisis supportline Helpline), tiyesetsa kumvetsetsa bwino momwe tingapezere bwenzi lodzamanga nalo.
Makhalidwe Oyenera Kuyang'ana Kwa Wokondedwa Wanu
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Pali zinthu zingapo zimene muyenera kuchita posankha wokwatirana naye amene mukufuna kukhala naye kwa moyo wanu wonse. Kuti muchite izi, choyamba muyenera kulemba mikhalidwe yomwe mukufuna mwa mnzanu, yomwe timayitcha kufotokozera bwino kwa okondedwa. Kuti ndikuthandizeni chimodzimodzi, nawa malangizo ochokera kumbali yathu. Nazi zina mwamakhalidwe oyenera kuyang'ana mwa okondedwa.
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- Wina wokoma mtima: Kukoma mtima ndi chifundo ndizofunikira ngati mukufuna kupeza munthu amene angakupangitseni kukhala munthu wabwino
- Munthu amene alibe maganizo opapatiza: Mukufuna kuti mnzanuyo azilemekeza ufulu wanu wodziyimira pawokha komanso malingaliro owongolera angakhale a mbendera yofiira
- Kumvetsetsa momwe alili azachuma: Mutha kukhala mukuyang'ana chitetezo chandalama kapena mungakhale okondwa kukulira limodzi
- Pezani wina yemwe ali ndi nsana wanu: Kudalirika kuyenera kukhala chinthu chanu posankha bwenzi lamoyo
- Kuseketsa ndikofunikira: Kukhala ndi fupa loseketsa ndikofunikira ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo wanu wonse ndi munthu uyu
- Pezani wina amene ali ndi mapulani: Mutha kufuna munthu wogwira ntchito molimbika komanso wokhazikika ndipo sachita ulesi pantchito kapena zolinga zawo
- Zokonda zofananira: Kukonda kuyenda ndichinthu chomwe mungafune kugawana kapena china chilichonse chomwe chimakuthandizani kuti mukhale limodzi
Pokumbukira mfundo izi poganizira bwenzi lodzamanga nalo banja, tikukupatsani homuweki: Onjezani zomwe mumakonda ndi zomwe simukonda pamndandandawu. Zachidziwikire, kukhala ndi kulumikizana koyenera, kukopa ndi kuyanjana ndizofunikira zonse. Sikuti muyenera kutsatira kapangidwe ka T ndikugwiritsa ntchito ngati buku la malamulo. Koma kulemba izi kungakupangitseni kalozera wovuta mukafuna mayankho ku funso la madola miliyoni: Mungasankhe bwanji bwenzi lodzamanga nalo banja lomwe lingagwirizane nanu?
Ndikofunikiranso kudziwa zomwe simukufuna mwa mnzanu. Kukhala bwana ndi woperekera zakudya kungakhale pet peeve motero, nthawi yomweyo kuzimitsa; kusakhala ndi chiyanjano chozama ndi banja lawo kungakhale china. Mungadane nazo ngati amalankhula kwambiri za iwo eni kapena mwina simukonda momwe amatafuna. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, ulendo wanu wa 'momwe mungasankhire bwenzi lodzamanga naye banja' wayamba.
Choncho sankhani bwenzi lanu mwanzeru.
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Kusankha Mnzanu wa Moyo Wanu Sizingabwere Mosavuta
Kusankha bwenzi loyenera silingakhale ntchito yapafupi. Chifukwa n'zovuta kupeza chilichonse chimene mukufuna ndi kulakalaka mwa munthu mmodzi ameneyo.
Ndipo n’kovutanso kukupatsani mayankho a funso lakuti, “Momwe mungasankhire bwenzi lodzamanga nalo banja?” Pamwamba pa izo, palibe chinthu chofanana ndi kukhala wolondola mwamtheradi ndi kukhala wolakwika mwamtheradi zikafika kupeza bwenzi la moyo. Palibe njira yolondola kapena yolakwika apa, kwenikweni.
Tikukumbutseni kuti mnzanu amene mungakhale naye pa banja akhoza kuyikapo bokosi zabwino zonse, koma izi sizibwera ndi chitsimikizo cha moyo wanu wonse wachimwemwe. M'malo mwake, mutha kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe sali wokondana naye nthawi yayitali ngakhale mutha kucheza nawo kwa maola ambiri!
Snigdha Mishra "Zoyenera kuyang'ana mwa okondedwa ndi mayitanidwe aumwini ndipo zimadalira zomwe munthu amakonda komanso mtengo wake. Koma, monga wothandizira maubwenzi ndi maanja, ndawona njira yomwe imapangitsa kuti maubwenzi asakhale ovuta komanso osavuta kugwira nawo ntchito. Poyamba pamene maanja amagawana zofanana. zoyenera pabanja, kumvetsetsa kwawo ndi kulemekezana ndi kulankhulana zili pazifukwa zofanana. Machitidwe amtengo wapataliwa sakhala a chikhalidwe cha anthu kapena makolo, koma amapangidwa kudzera muzochitika za moyo ndipo ali ngati mfundo zomwe mumazitsatira ndikuzitsatira. Zoyesayesa zomwe mumapanga m'moyo monga anthu zimayendetsedwa ndi mfundo izi. "
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Chifukwa chake pamapeto pake, muyenera kungoyang'ana macheke ndi masikelo ochepa ndikuwona kuchuluka kwa momwe mumayenderana ndi munthuyo pazonse zosiyanasiyana zogwirira ntchito limodzi. Momwe mungasankhire bwenzi muukwati wokonzeratu? Ndi penapake njira yomweyo mu nkhani imeneyi kwambiri.
Muyenera kuthera nthawi limodzi, mwina kuganizira mafunso ena oti mufunse posankha bwenzi lodzamanga nalo banja ndi kupanga kafukufuku wanu mozama. Simukufuna kudula ngodya zilizonse ndikumaliza ndi munthu wolakwika, moyo wanu uli pachiwopsezo pano. Pitani ku nsonga izi 12 ndipo mudzakhala ndi lingaliro loyenera la zinthu zomwe muyenera kuziganizira posankha bwenzi lamoyo.
1. Ndinu omasuka kwathunthu pafupi nawo
Kodi mungapeze bwanji bwenzi lamoyo? Ingowonani ngati angakulandireni chimodzimodzi monga momwe mulili (popanda zopakapaka, popanda kumetedwa). Ganizirani za munthu yemwe mungathe kukhala nokha popanda kudandaula ngakhale kamodzi kuti akuweruzani.
Ndipo ngati ali bwino ndi mtundu wa moyo womwe mumazolowera. Zinthu monga zokonda zanu, usiku wa atsikana kunja ndi abwenzi, kupita kuntchito, kucheza ndi makolo ndi zina zotero.
Ngati sakufuna kuti musinthe kalikonse ndipo muli bwino ndi mabokosi omwe mumavala kunyumba kapena LBD yomwe ikuwonetsa kupatuka kwambiri, ndiye kuti muli ndi chuma m'manja mwanu.
"Ngati munthu ali ndi makhalidwe, ulemu, kukoma mtima ndi EQ, ndiye kuti ndizotheka kuti munthuyo adzakula ndikulakalaka kudziimira payekha m'maganizo, m'maganizo, komanso mwakuthupi monga munthu ndi bwenzi lake. Adzathandiza kupanga malire abwino mu ubale umene ungathandize munthu, luso, maganizo ndi kukula kwauzimu," akutero Snigdha.
Kukhala wekha ndi mnzanu ndicho chinthu chofunika kwambiri m’banja. Simuyenera kubisa chilichonse chomwe mwagula, kucheza ndi anzanu, kapena kuyimbira foni kwa abwana usiku kwambiri.
2. Mfundo posankha bwenzi lomanga nalo banja - kukambirana nawo kumakhala kosavuta
Pambali iliyonse ya moyo wanu, kulankhulana kuyenera kuchitika kuti ukwati wanu ukhale wachipambano. Palibe vuto kuti munthu mmodzi akhale wongolankhula ndipo winanso kukhala wongofuna kutero. Wina akhoza kulankhula zambiri ndipo wina akhoza kulankhula mochepa, koma payenera kukhala kuyenda kwa zokambirana ndi kumvetsetsa pakati pa ziwiri zomwe zimabwera ndi ndalama. nthawi yabwino pamodzi ndi kukhala ndi zinthu zoti tikambirane.
Komanso m’pofunika kuti makambitsiranowo akhale osangalatsa. Kuchokera ku ndale kupita ku mafilimu omwe Spider-man ali abwino kwambiri, zokambirana zanu ziyenera kukusangalatsani ndi kufuna kupita.
Kodi nonse mumatha kuyang'anana wina ndi mnzake mukulankhula popanda aliyense wa inu kusewera ndi foni yam'manja? Ngati inde, ndiye kuti mukuyenda m’njira yoyenera pankhani yosankha bwenzi lodzamanga naye banja.
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3. Muli ndi zokonda zofanana
Limodzi mwa mafunso akulu omwe muyenera kufunsa posankha bwenzi lomanga nalo banja ndi zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe amakonda. Mfundo yathu yachitatu imachokera pa yachiwiri. Ngati mukuyenera kukhala ndi zokambirana zosangalatsa ndiye kuti muyenera kukhala ndi zokonda zofanana. Kusankha bwenzi lomanga nalo banja mwanzeru kumatanthauza kukhala ndi zofanana zokwanira kuti zigwirizane ndi kusiyana kochuluka kuti ubwenzi ukhale wosangalatsa.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati ali pamitu yankhani yamasiku ano ndipo simunawone nkhani sabata yatha, ndiye kuti zokambiranazo zizikhala za mbali imodzi. Poyamba zingaoneke ngati zachikondi kwa iye kukuuzani nkhani za tsikulo, koma zinthu zidzasintha. Padzakhala nthawi pamene iye adzatopa kukhala m'mawa nyuzipepala kwa inu, kapena inu simudzafunanso kumva izo.
Komanso kukhala zokonda wamba angatanthauze kuchitira limodzi zinthu zofanana zomwe zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri m’banja. Ngati nonse mukufuna kuyesa chakudya, ndiye kuti kuyang'ana malo odyera atsopano sabata iliyonse kungakhale chinthu choyenera kuyembekezera muukwati wanu. Zomwezo zimapitanso maulendo, mafilimu, mabuku ndi zinthu zina.
4. Kusiyanaku kumapangitsa kuti ubale wanu ukhale wolimba
Imodzi mwa mfundo za kusankha bwenzi moyo ndi kuti musamathe chibwenzi kapena kukwatira wanu galasi chithunzi. Dziwani kuti ndikofunikira kukhala monga momwe tanenera kale, koma payenera kukhala kusiyana kochuluka kuti ubale ukhale wolimba, apo ayi, banja silingayende bwino. Mwachitsanzo, nonse mukhoza kukhala m'mabuku, koma mabuku omwe mungasankhe angakhale osiyana kwambiri.
Kapena mutha kukhala m'mabuku achingerezi ndipo mnzanu amatha kukhala m'mabuku azilankhulo wamba. Ndiye tinene kuti ngati magetsi aduka pambuyo pa chimphepo chamkuntho, mutha kukhala madzulo athunthu ndikuwuzana nkhani za m'mabuku omwe mumawerenga, makamaka zosiyana kwambiri. Kukhala ndi zosiyana kungatanthauzenso kuti wina akhoza kuchita bwino pa chinachake ndipo winayo akhoza kuchita bwino. Banja likhoza kukhala lopambana chifukwa cha kusiyana kwa maubwenzi.
Kotero pamene iye amakonda kusita zovala, inu mukhoza kukhala bwino ndi kuzipinda ndi kuziyika izo. Mumakonzekera zinthu zonse pamndandanda wanu waulendo ndipo simuli mtundu wophonya chilichonse, koma kunyamula si mwayi wanu. Voila! Mwamuna wanu ndi wonyamula katundu ndipo amatha kuchita zonse mwachangu. Iye akhoza compress kwambiri mu thumba limodzi kuti nthawi zonse amasiyidwa mantha.
Tsopano kupatula kusiyana kwa magwiridwe antchito, ngakhale kusiyana kwamalingaliro kumatha kukhala kwabwino pamlingo wina. Amakulitsa ubale wanzeru kwambiri ndikukulolani kuti mukule muukwati wanu popeza nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi china chatsopano choti muphunzire kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake. Kusiyana kumeneku kungatanthauze kuti mwasankha mwanzeru munthu wodzamanga naye banja.
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5. Mungasankhe bwanji bwenzi lodzamanga naye banja? Pezani munthu amene mumakonda kucheza naye patchuthi
Ngati mwakhala mukuganiza za momwe mungasankhire bwenzi lanu lamoyo ndiye kuti muyenera kuonetsetsa kuti mukukhala ndi tchuthi chachifupi kapena kuchita ulendo wa tsiku limodzi ndi munthu yemwe akuwoneka kuti ali pamwamba pamndandanda wanu. Ngati muli awiri mozama m'chikondi, ndiye kuti izi zikhale zosavuta kwa inu awiri.
Koma kumbukirani, tchuthi limodzi likhoza kukhala vumbulutso lalikulu. Mutha kudziwa ngati mnzanu yemwe mungakhale naye ali wabwino komanso wokhazikika ndege ikachedwa komanso chakudya chikazizira, kapena amalumphira mokwiya chifukwa zinthu sizikuyenda molingana ndi dongosolo.
Kuyenda m'midzi kudutsa m'misewu yabwinja kukagwa mvula amphaka ndi agalu - kodi amawaona kuti ndi achikondi? Kapena amangokhalira kutemberera lingaliro lonse?
M'malo mwake, ndiwe amene sungathe kuchita popanda nyumba yabwino kwambiri ndipo mnzanuyo amakukokerani mumsewu wopita kumtunda ndikukamanga msasa m'mphepete mwa nyanja. Mkwiyo wanu ulibe malire mukakhala maso polimbana ndi udzudzu ukuzungulirani. Ndiye masewerowa agwira ntchito? Pokumbukira malangizo ofunikirawa posankha bwenzi la moyo, mudzadziwa pomaliza pake.
6. Zofunika kuziganizira posankha bwenzi lodzamanga nalo banja: Kukhala oyenerera pogonana
Ngakhale mwauzidwa kuti musankhe bwenzi mwanzeru, kuyanjana kwa kugonana atha kukhala otsikitsitsa pamachitidwe anu omwe mumawayang'ana mwa okondedwa anu. Palibe kukayika kuti kukopeka pakugonana kumachepa pakapita nthawi ndipo ndi kulumikizana kwamalingaliro ndi malingaliro komwe kumalimbitsa ubale. Koma kusagwirizana kwakuthupi kungakhale nkhani yaikulu m’banja pambuyo pake.
Choncho ganizirani mmene kukopeka kwanu kulili kolimba kwa wina ndi mzake. Kodi ndi chemistry pompopompo kapena ndi mtundu wanzeru wokopa womwe mumamvera wina ndi mnzake? Kodi mumasangalala bwanji pabedi komanso mumangokhalira kukumbatirana, kukumbatirana, kupsopsonana ndi kugwirana chanza? Zinthu izi ndizofunikira kwambiri pankhani ya momwe mungapezere bwenzi la moyo wonse.
7. Muli ndi miyezo yofanana yachuma ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu
Sikofunikira nthawi zonse kukhala ochokera m'makhalidwe omwewo kuti mumange mfundo ndi wina. Chikondi sichidziwa malire otero, timapeza zimenezo. Koma kukhala ndi muyezo wofanana wazachuma ndi wamagulu nthawi zonse kumathandiza kupanga moyo wabwino pamodzi. Ngati munthu mmodzi amachokera ku chikhalidwe chochepa kwambiri ndipo winayo kwenikweni ndi Kardashian, ndiye kuti pali kuthekera kosagwirizana m'moyo.
Tsopano zinthu izi zikhoza kugonjetsedweratu ndi chifukwa chake ichi sichiri choyambirira cha makhalidwe posankha bwenzi la moyo. Pali nthawi zina pamene anthu ochokera m'mayiko osauka abwera m'miyoyo yawo chifukwa cha zabwino zawo ndipo adakwatirana pamwamba pa miyezo yawo ndikudzipangira okha moyo wabwino.
Maukwati amenewa amayenda bwino kwambiri komanso amakhala osangalala. Choncho palibe buku la malamulo limene limati muyenera kuchita zimenezi kapena kusachita zimenezo. Ntchito yathu ndikudziwitsani kuti ichi ndi chinthu choyenera kuganizira, chifukwa muyenera kukumbukira kuti kusankha bwenzi lanu kumatanthauzanso kusankha tsogolo lanu.
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8. Kukoma mtima > ungwiro
Popeza bwenzi la moyo, mungakhale ndi mabokosi ena a mtheradi zimene mukufuna monga mwamuna kapena mkazi wangwiro, ndipo inu mwina mwachidwi amakankhira iwo kutali. Koma ziyembekezo zanu, ziyenera kukhala zenizeni. Ngati mukuyembekezera ungwiro mnzako wamoyo ndiye kuti ndi kulakwitsa kwakukulu komwe mukupanga. Ntchito yabwino, banja langwiro, kuvala bwino - izi zitha kukhala zinthu zomwe mumakopeka nazo mwa munthu pakali pano.
Palibe amene ali wangwiro m’dzikoli. Koma momwe mungasankhire bwenzi lodzamanga naye banja zimatengera kuchuluka kwa kupanda ungwiro komwe mungavomereze mwa munthu wina. Nthawi zina, bola ngati mutapeza wina wokoma mtima komanso woona, ndizokwanira, mwinanso kuposa kupeza wina yemwe amakopera mabokosi omangidwa mwachikhalidwe a 'ungwiro'.
Snigdha akuti, "Nthawi zambiri zimanenedwa kuti ngati mukuyenera kudziwa za khalidwe la munthu yang'anani momwe amachitira ndi anthu osauka. Sindikutsimikiza ngati zili zoona zenizeni, koma ndikukhulupirira kuti zimasonyeza kukoma mtima ndi chifundo chawo. N'zosavuta kukhala ndi munthu wokoma mtima komanso wachifundo kwambiri komanso ali ndi makhalidwe abwino aumunthu."
Chotero akakhala ndi mkwiyo wa apo ndi apo mukhoza kukhala wololera kuvomereza zimenezo. Koma iwo amakhala amwano kwambiri ndikuyamba kugwiritsa ntchito mawu opweteka? Kapena kuchita zachipongwe? Ziribe kanthu momwe mumawakonda komanso kumva kuti munapangidwira kwa wina ndi mzake, muyenera kuganizira kaŵirikaŵiri pankhani ya khalidwe lachipongwe. Koma chonde musaweruze mwamuna chifukwa cha tsitsi lake lotayirira kapena dona chifukwa cha nsidze zake zanthawi zina.
9. Kukhala pachibwenzi kumakuthandizani kudziwana bwino
Kusankha bwenzi la moyo wanu ndikusankhanso tsogolo lanu ndichifukwa chake kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi lingaliro labwino. Iyi ndi nthawi yoti mukwatirane, simuli pachibwenzi kapena kukwatirana, koma pali mtundu wina womangirira. Kuyamba kwamtunduwu kumakupatsani mwayi kuyesa madzi m'njira yabwino!
Iyi ndi nthawi yomwe munthu amasiya kusamala kwambiri kuposa kale, podziwa kuti ubalewo watsala pang'ono kutha. Amayamba kukhala omasuka muubwenzi ndipo amatha kukuwonetsani mbali zawo zatsopano.
Ino ndi nthawi yabwino yoti muwone momwe nonse mukuchitira limodzi. Kodi amayamba kudana nanu chifukwa cha nthawi yonse yomwe mumakhala ndi anzanu mukuwonera masewera ku bar kapena amayembekezera kuti muzibweranso nthawi yofanana tsiku lililonse? Kodi amayamba kudzudzula banja lanu ndipo akuyamba kusunga ndalama zanu?
Nthawi zonse ndizotheka kuyimitsa chinkhoswe ndiye palibe chomwe chingataye apa. Osachita chinkhoswe ngati chongofuna kapena kuyesa kucheza ndi anthu. Chitani izi pokhapokha ngati mumakondadi munthuyu. Koma musakhale aulesi pakusaka kwanu ndikumvetsetsa momwe mungasankhire bwenzi lanu panthawiyi. Khalani tcheru, chifukwa miyezi ingapo yomwe muli pachibwenzi ikupatsani lingaliro lomveka ngati mwasankha mwanzeru bwenzi lanu lamoyo.
10. Ulemu ndi wofunika kwambiri posankha bwenzi lodzamanga naye banja
Kufunika kosankha bwenzi lamoyo kumabwera chifukwa chokhala moyo wanu wonse womangidwa ndi munthu m'modzi uyu. Kuyambira mafilimu mpaka chakudya chamadzulo mpaka kugona, mumachita pafupifupi chilichonse ndi iwo. Zokambirana zanu zambiri ngakhale, zidzakhala nawo. Ndi chifukwa chake pamene mukuganiza, "Momwe mungapezere bwenzi lamoyo?" muyenera kupeza wina amene amakulemekezani. Chifukwa ndicho chinthu chachikulu chomwe chimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wolimba.
Kukulitsa ulemu zitha kukhala zofunika kwambiri kuposa chikondi mu ubale. Kulemekezana kumathandiza kuti ubale ukhale wolimba komanso wovuta m'banja. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri kuziyang'ana mwa okondedwa anu.
Snigdha Mishra anati: “Kukhala mabwenzi ndi kulemekeza kusiyana kwa wina ndi mnzake n’kofunika kwambiri kuti musamachite zinthu mobisa komanso kuti mukhale ndi malire abwino muubwenzi.
11. Kodi mungasankhe bwanji munthu wodzamanga naye banja? Khalani ndi munthu amene mungaseke naye
Kusankha bwenzi lanu lamoyo ndikusankhanso tsogolo lanu ndi tsogolo lopanda kuseka kwambiri?
Kukhala ndi nthabwala ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti muthe kuseka m'moyo, nthawi zambiri pamavuto. Ngati wina achita nthabwala ndipo winayo sakupeza nkhonya, zimabweretsa nthawi yovuta pakati pa awiriwo. Ngati mwakwatirana ndi munthu amene alibe nthabwala, ndiye kuti ukwati wanu umakhala wopanda mavuto.
Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti m'modzi ndiye wokonda kwambiri ndipo winayo amakhala wachimwemwe, wokondwa, koma zikafika pa nthabwala zawo, okwatirana ambiri osangalala amakhala pa tsamba limodzi.
Chifukwa chake tikhulupirireni tikakuuzani kuti nthabwala ndi zomwe muyenera kuyang'ana mwa bwenzi lamoyo popeza zidzakuthandizani kukhala osangalala kwambiri mtsogolo. Limodzi mwa malangizo aumulungu posankha bwenzi la moyo, dziwani kuti muyenera kukhala ndi munthu amene nthawi zonse akhoza kumwetulira.
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12. Mfundo posankha bwenzi lomanga nalo banja - kugawana ubwenzi wanzeru
Pamene anthu aŵiri akwatirana, nthaŵi zambiri amakhala achichepere ndipo sayang’ana mtsogolo mwauchikulire kapena kuoneratu zam’tsogolo. Nthawi zina mabanja amasokonekera pamene wina akukula mwanzeru ndipo winayo sangayende bwino. Kenako makambitsiranowo amalephera ndipo anthu aŵiri amayamba kutaya chidwi m’miyoyo ya wina ndi mnzake.
Kukhala ndi maphunziro ofanana, zokonda zofanana ndi cholinga chogawana kungatanthauze kuti mudzakula limodzi mwanzeru. Kukhala ndi mulingo wofanana wa EQ (emotional quotient) kumathandizanso kukulitsa ubale wabwino wanzeru.
Tengani kwa katswiri. “Aliyense ali ndi zakale ndipo amabwera ndi zina katundu wamalingaliro, koma munthu yemwe ali ndi EQ yabwino adzakhalanso ndi luso lolimba komanso luso lothana ndi vuto. Azithanso kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo komanso kugwirizana m'malingaliro ngati okondedwa komanso kuthandizana kukula, "akutero Snigdha.
Ndi izi, tikukhulupirira kuti tsopano muli ndi lingaliro labwinoko la momwe mungapezere bwenzi lamoyo ndikupanga chisankho choyenera. Kumbukirani, kuti yankho mwina lili mkati mwanu monga mukudziwa kale mtundu wa munthu angakupangitseni kukhala osangalala ndikuyamikani bwino. Osathamangira kusaka, osakakamiza bwenzi kapena bwenzi lanu. Tengani nthawi yanu, ndipo zinthu zikhala bwino. Malingana ngati mukumbukira mfundo izi zomwe muyenera kuziganizira posankha bwenzi lamoyo, mudzakhala bwino.
Ngati mukumvabe mukufuna thandizo ndiye uphungu musanalowe m’banja ikhoza kukhalanso njira yakutsogolo kwa inu. Mlangizi wovomerezeka azitha kukuthandizaninso bwino. Alangizi athu odziwa zambiri ku Bonobology ali okonzeka kukuthandizani ndikungodinanso pang'ono.
Ibibazo
Pamene mukuyang'ana bwenzi moyo, yang'anani kukoma mtima, chifundo, kumvetsa, ulemu, nthabwala, mkulu EQ (emotional quotient), komanso kuyang'ana kwa mnzako ntchito makhalidwe.
Wokondedwa wabwino ndi munthu yemwe mudzakhala naye momasuka, simuyenera kubisa chilichonse, mumakonda zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe mungasankhe, mumaseka limodzi komanso mumagwirizana pakugonana.
Pali kufunikira kwakukulu pakusankha bwenzi lamoyo. Choncho ganizirani bwino maganizo anu.
Maonekedwe ndi ofunika posankha bwenzi la moyo, koma si zonse. Muyenera kukhala ogwirizana m'maganizo, mwaluntha komanso mwakuthupi ndi munthu kuti mukhale zibwenzi zazikulu. Mumadziwa kuti mwapeza bwenzi labwino kwambiri la moyo wanu ngati mumalemekezana, mumaseka limodzi, muli otetezeka m'zachuma ndi iwo ndipo muli ndi makhalidwe ofanana.
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