Nkhani Ya Mwamuna Wanga Wa Bipolar

Kufalitsa chikondi

(Monga adauza Anand Nair)

Nthawi zonse ndinali ndi malingaliro abwino kwambiri a ukwati. Pamene ndinali wamng'ono, sindinadikire kuti tsiku lina ndipeze mwamuna wa maloto anga ndi kumanga mfundo. Ndinkakhulupirira kuti moyo umakhala wosangalala tikalowa m’banja. N’chifukwa chake ndinasangalala pamene Atate anandiuza za ‘chifunocho’ chimene chinabwera kwa ine. Samuel anali mnyamata amene ndinali kumuona pamene ndinali kuphunzira Biology ku yunivesite. Anali wokalamba pang'ono kusukulu ndipo anapempha dzanja la bambo anga asanandiyandikire. Ndinkakonda mawonekedwe ake ndipo ndinali wokondwa kwambiri! Kalelo, sindikanaganiza kuti ndidzakhala ndi mwamuna wa bipolar.

Kukhala Ndi Mwamuna Kapena Mkazi Wa Bipolar

M'ndandanda wazopezekamo

Samuel anali dokotala wokongola. Panalibe cholakwika chilichonse ndi iye powonekera. Iye anali munthu wangwiro ndithu. Mawonekedwe abwino, mawonekedwe odabwitsa komanso ntchito yabwino - anali nazo zonse. Ndinkaona kuti ndili ndi mwayi moti ankafuna kuti ndikhale mkazi wake. Ndinkaganiza kuti ndikhoza kukhala mosangalala ndi munthu amene ankafuna kuti ndikhale mkazi wanga. Choncho ndinavomera. Ndisanakwanitse zaka 19, ndinasiya maphunziro anga ku yunivesite ndipo ndinakwatirana naye.

Usiku woyamba m'moyo wathu titakwatirana unali wosasangalatsa kwenikweni. Ankaoneka kuti sankandiganizira ndipo ankangoganizira za zosowa zake zokha. Izi zinandidabwitsa kwambiri, chifukwa pamene ine ndi Samuel tinkacheza m'masitolo ogulitsa mabuku ndi masitolo ogulitsa khofi masiku oyambirira pamene tinkakondana, sankaoneka ngati wodzikonda kwambiri.

Kenako tsiku linafika pamene tinanyamuka kupita ku Ohio kumene analandira ntchito yatsopano. Nditasamuka, ndinkaona ngati sindingathe kulankhula naye ngakhale pang’ono. Ndikapanda kuvomereza chilichonse chimene ananena, ankandilalatira n’kundichititsa manyazi kwambiri. Anali waphokoso kwambiri, ngakhale anthu oyandikana nawo nyumba ankamumva. Atakwiya, ankaponya zinthu n’kuthyola mbale. Kwa miyezi ingapo amakhala waukali, wodzaza ndi hubris. Kenako mwadzidzidzi anayamba kudzimvera chisoni mpaka kufika posintha maganizo ake. Panthawiyo, sindinaganizepo kuti ndingakhale ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wa bipolar.

Patapita nthawi, ndinazindikira kuti mwamuna wanga ndi bipolar

Makolo anga sindinawauze chilichonse chokhudza khalidwe lake lodabwitsali. Chodetsa nkhawa changa chinali chakuti izi zitha kusokoneza thanzi la abambo anga komanso kuwapanikiza. Ndinaganiza zothana nazo ndekha.

Zaka zinapita pamene ndinalekerera khalidwe la Samuel. Ndinabereka ana aakazi awiri okongola. Nthawi zambiri Samuel anali wodana ndi mwana wamkazi wamkulu, pomwe ankakonda wamng'ono. Ankaitana wamng'ono ku sukulu yake, kumugulira zinthu koma nthawi zonse ankanyalanyaza mwana wathu wamkulu. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zolakwa zazikulu kwambiri zomwe munthu angapange polera ana, kusiyanitsa ana ake. Mtima wanga unasweka chifukwa cholephera kulowererapo chifukwa ndikatero, akanatembenuza nyumbayo mokwiya.

Kuntchito nthawi ina anathamangitsa mayi wina wogwira naye ntchito moopseza chifukwa cha kusagwirizana kwina. Kenako anatumizidwa kwa dokotala wa zamaganizo. Ndipamene tinaphunzira chifukwa cha khalidwe lake losokoneza komanso losalongosoka. Samuel anamupeza ndi matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha maganizo (BPD). Anapatsidwa mankhwala kuti athane ndi zomwezo. Anasungabe ntchito yake, chifukwa abwana ake ankamvera chisoni banja lake.

kukhala ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wa bipolar — Posakhalitsa ndinazindikira kuti ndinali ndi mwamuna wa bipolar ndipo zinafotokoza zambiri za ukwati wathu

Koma ndinavutika. Ndinavutika kwa zaka 15 chifukwa chokwatiwa ndi munthu wodwala matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika. Kenako bambo anga anamwalira ndipo mayi anga anatsala okha. Zimenezi zinandipatsa mpata woti ndisamukire kunyumba kwawo kuti ndikawathandize ndi kuwasamalira. Pambuyo pa zaka 15 muukwati wanga, ndinamva ngati ndikutha kupuma momasuka!

Ndinachoka kwa mwamuna wanga wa bipolar koma anabwerera

Moyo wanga unayima ndili ndi zaka 19 pamene ndinaganiza zokwatira ndikukhala mkazi wa Samuel. Koma uwu unali mwayi wanga woti ndibweze zonse. Choncho ndinaganiza kuti ndikhale mkazi wodziimira payekha. Ndinaphunzira kuyendetsa galimoto. Ndapeza ntchito yatsopano. Atsikanawo anali osangalala komanso ankakhoza bwino kusukulu.

Pambuyo pa zaka 20 za ntchito, bwana wa Samuel anam’patsa kusankha kusiya ntchito, kapena ‘kuchotsedwa’ chifukwa cha matenda amisala. Anasankha zoyambazo kenako n’kukhala nafe kunyumba kwa mayi anga. Mosakhazikika ndikumwa mankhwala ake, mwamuna wanga wa bipolar adasinthasintha pakati pa 'mania' ndi 'depression'. Nthawi ina anathamangitsa mwana wathu wamkazi m’nyumba akumupizira mpeni. Usiku wonse sanagone chifukwa anali okhumudwa kwambiri ndi zomwe zinachitika.

M’maŵa mwake, anakambitsirana ndi amalume akewo za izo ndipo anawauza zakukhosi kwawo. Apa ndipamene banjali linadziwa kuti Samuel ali ndi vuto ndipo aliyense anapeza kuti mwamuna wanga ali ndi matenda a bipolar. Banjali litadziwa, linavomereza kuti khalidwe loterolo n’loopsa, ndipo linandiuza kuti ndipemphe thandizo, nthaŵi ina pamene Samuel analakwa ndi aliyense wa ife.

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Chisudzulo chinali kuchitika

Patapita masiku angapo, nditaona kuti mwamuna wanga wayamba kudwala matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika, ndinaitana azisuweni anga aŵiri ndi mlongo wa mwamuna wanga kuti akapeze chithandizo. Atabwera, mwamuna wanga anali akadali wopenga ndipo sanavomere chithandizo chamankhwala. Chifukwa chokwiya kuti ndidayitanitsa thandizo, Samuel adati andisudzula, ndipo adayimbiranso loya mawa lake.

Anandiuza kuti andipatse theka la ndalama zake. Poyembekezera chisudzulo, Samuel anasamukira kunyumba kwa mlongo wake. Iye sakanakhoza kukhala yekha mu chikhalidwe choterocho. Koma patapita masiku angapo, iyenso anakangana ndi mlongo wake ndipo anauzidwa kuti asamuke.

N’zosadabwitsa kuti Samuel anaimbira foni msuweni wanga nati, “Uzani Paige kuti ndamukhululukira. Ndikubwerera.” Kwa nthawi yoyamba m’moyo wanga, ndinatsimikiza mtima. Ndinamuuza kuti sanalandiridwe. Sizinali za ine, ndinanena izi chifukwa ndikufuna kuteteza mwana wanga wamkazi. Ndinamuuza kuti tipitilize ndi mapulani ake osudzulana mwa mgwirizano . Kenako mwamuna wanga anasamukira ku chipinda cha alendo chomwe chinaperekedwa ndi olemba ntchito ake.

Koma kukhala mkazi wa mwamuna wa bipolar kunali tsogolo langa

Khoti la banja linatipatsa miyezi 6 kuti tigwirizane ndi kupeza njira yokhalira limodzi. Ngati titafuna kusiyana pambuyo pa izi, khoti likanatilola kulekana.

Panthawiyi, mwamuna wanga ankangokhalira kukangana ndi mabwana ake. Analibe malo okhala komanso anali lova. Ndikuganiza kuti adadyanso ndalama zake zonse. Choncho mlongo wakeyo anamulola kuti azikhala m’nyumba mwake, pongofuna kuti amwe mankhwalawo malinga ndi zimene adokotala amamuuza. Samueli anavomera monyinyirika.

Patatha miyezi iwiri, mwamuna wanga ankafuna kuchotsa pempho la chisudzulo. Ndinavomereza kuti sitidzakhala m'nyumba imodzi ngakhale titakhalabe m'banja. Ndicho chimene chimachitika mkazi akataya chidwi ndi mwamuna wake . Sindingathe kukhala naye pafupi kwambiri. Tinachotsa pempholo chifukwa chakuti iye anatsatira zomwe ndinkafuna.

Tonse tinakhala mosiyana kwa zaka zitatu zotsatira mpaka mlongo wake Samuel anamwalira chifukwa cha khansa ya m’mawere. Analibenso pokhala opanda kopita. Ndinamuuza kuti abwerenso ndi kudzakhala ndi banja lathu, koma malinga ndi mikhalidwe yanga; makamaka kuti amamwa mankhwala ake pafupipafupi. Anavomera ndipo ndinali kukhalanso ndi mwamuna wanga wa bipolar.

Tsopano patha chaka chimodzi mwamuna wanga atabwerera. Izo si zangwiro, koma izo zikhoza kutheka. Ana anga aakazi asamuka. Ndiye pano ndi mayi anga, mwamuna wanga ndi ine kwathu. Ndine wokondwa momwe ndingakhalire pansi pamikhalidwe. At least sangandipezere nkhanza ngati mmene ankakondera titangokwatirana kumene. Ndikuganiza kuti kukwatiwa ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto la bipolar ndiye tsogolo langa.

Ibibazo

1. Kodi zizindikiro za matenda a bipolar mwa amuna ndi ziti?

Matenda a bipolar ndi amodzi mwa matenda omwe amadziwika ndi kusintha kwa malingaliro nthawi zambiri. Chifukwa chake ngati muli ndi mkazi kapena mnzanu wovutika maganizo, mudzazindikira kuti adzakumana ndi zovuta kwambiri monga kupsa mtima, mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa, komanso mwadzidzidzi kuvutika maganizo komanso kudzipatula. Amuna nthawi zambiri amakhala aukali kwambiri ndipo amathanso kukhala ndi vuto logwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena kukhala chidakwa.

2. Kodi banja lingathe kukhalabe ndi vuto la bipolar?

Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wa bipolar alandira chithandizo choyenera, akhoza kutero, koma padzakhala njira yayitali. Kusinthasintha kwa mtima koipitsitsa kumene munthu amayenera kulimbana nako ali pabanja ndi munthu wodwala matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika n’kovuta kwa mkaziyo kupirira.

3. Kodi munthu wodwala matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika angakondedi?

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