Chikondi ndi kukoma mtima kosasunthika pakati pa okwatirana zasoŵeka m’dziko lamakonoli lokonda munthu payekha. Komabe pali maanja ochepa amene amakondana mopanda malire. Nkhani zosowa ngati zimenezi mwina zimabweretsa misozi m’maso mwanu kapena kumwetulira kosangalatsa pankhope panu. Nazi zina mwa nkhani zoterezi zomwe zingadzaze mtima wanu ndi chifundo.
"Nthawi zina, nkhani zazikulu zachikondi ndizo zomwe zimatsutsana ndi zovuta zonse"
Nkhani Maanja Omwe Sanasiye
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Chikondi, m’mawonekedwe ake enieni, ndicho mphamvu yopirira imene imapirira ziyeso ndi masautso a moyo. Ndi kudzipereka kuima pambali pa wina ndi mzake, ziribe kanthu momwe zinthu zilili. Nkhani zolimbikitsa za maanja amene sanagonje pa wina ndi mzake zidzalimbikitsa ndi kutsimikiziranso chikhulupiriro chanu mu mphamvu ya chikondi.
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1. Anamupatsa malipiro ake onse
Sherinaz ndi Ishan akhala m'banja zaka 6. Chaka chatha, Ishan adachotsedwa ntchito mwadzidzidzi pomwe kampani yake idachepetsa. Mwanjira ina anatha kulimba mtima kuti auze Sherinaz za nkhani yoopsayi. Poyamba, Sherinaz ankaganiza kuti ndi nthabwala koma posakhalitsa anazindikira kuti Ishan anali wopanikizika ndipo ankaganiza kuti anali wovuta. Ishan adabwera kunyumba tsiku limenelo alibe chochita.
Anakhala miyezi 4 osagwira ntchito. Sherinaz adaganiza zomupatsa malipiro ake onse. Sanathe kumuona akuvutika ndi ndalama chonchi. Mwezi uliwonse, kwa miyezi inayi, mpaka Ishan atapeza ntchito, amasamutsa malipiro ake onse ku akaunti yake. Sanadzisungire ndalama ayi. Anasiya kugula zinthu, kucheza komanso kuwononga ndalama pa zosowa ndi zofuna zake. Anamusiya kotheratu kudziyimira pawokha pazachuma kuti apangitse Ishan kukhala bwino ndikumuthandiza m'malingaliro komanso mwachuma panthawiyo.
2. Atazindikira kuti ali ndi kachilombo ka HIV
Ajay ndi Veena anali pachibwenzi ndipo patadutsa milungu ingapo, adaganiza zokayezetsa kachilombo ka HIV. Zachisoni, Ajay adayezetsa. Onse anasweka ndi mantha. Ajay anamuuza Veena kuti amusiye apeze wina. Panthaŵiyo, iye anali wokondana naye kwambiri ndipo sakanatha kukhala ndi moyo popanda iye. Iye anaumirira kuti apitirizabe ngati kuti zonse zili bwinobwino. Anaonana ndi madokotala ambiri ndipo posakhalitsa anazindikira kuti ndi matenda omwe angathe kuthetsedwa ndi mankhwala osasinthasintha.
Veena adaganiza zomusiya Ajay pazifukwa zazing'ono ngati HIV. Masiku ano ali pabanja ndipo akupitiriza kukhala ndi moyo wosangalala. Ngakhale kuti sakufuna kukhala ndi mwana wobereka chifukwa cha zovutazo, akukonzekera kutenga mwana wamkazi. Mmodzi mwa madotolo adauza Veena, "Ndiwe wodabwitsa kuti wasankha kukhala naye. Ukudziwa kuti ukakhala ndi HIV sungakhale wopanda? Ndipo komabe, iwe ..." adayimitsa dokotalayo ndipo adanena kuti ngati atamusiya chifukwa cha zofooka zake, kukhala HIV + ndizovuta kwambiri zomwe zimamudetsa nkhawa.
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3. Wapuwala ndipo kwa zaka 20 akumusamalira
Lalita anadwala matenda ofa ziwalo kwambiri m’zaka zake zoyambirira za m’ma 40 zomwe zinapangitsa kuti mbali yake yakumanzere isagwire ntchito. Panthawiyo ana ake anali azaka 13 ndi 10 zokha ndipo mwamuna wake anali kugwira ntchito ngati AVP mu pulogalamu yayikulu ya MNC ku Pune. Ashoki, mwamuna wake, chifukwa cha malumbiro amene anachita, anachita zonse. Ntchito, kunyumba, sukulu ya ana, thanzi la Lalita, inu mutchule izo ndipo iye anachita izo. Masiku ano ana awo onse ali pabanja ndipo akhazikika ku US ndipo Ashok ndi Lalita, omwe adapuwala amakhalabe m'nyumba yawo yayikulu ku Pune. Tsiku lina, tinali ndi pooja kunyumba ndipo anaitanidwa. Ndinadabwa kuona Ashok akumuchitira zonse Lalitha. Kuyambira kumutulutsa m’galimoto, kum’yenda mpaka pakhomo la nyumba yathu, kuvula nsapato zake mpaka kumubweretsera chakudya ngakhalenso kumudyetsa, anachita chilichonse. Ndinazindikira kuti wakhala akuchita zimenezi kwa zaka 20 zapitazi. Kunyumba Ashok amamuthandiza kusamba, zovala zake, kupanga tsitsi lake ndipo amachita zonsezi popanda kudandaula.
Nthawi zonse ndimaona kumwetulira kwakukulu pankhope yake komanso kunyada komanso chikondi chambiri m'maso mwa Lalita. Lalita ndi wamwayi ndithu kuti wapeza bwenzi lomanga naye banja lomwe limapitiriza kumuthandiza pamavuto ndi pamavuto.
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4. Ngozi yake ndi mphamvu zake
Mansi adakumana ndi ngozi ku Delhi yomwe idadula mbali yake yakumanja. Kwa chaka chimodzi, adachitidwa maopaleshoni 26. Nkhope yake, mkono, mwendo ndi khosi zonse zinali zopunduka. Madokotala ena anamusiya. Anakhala m'chipatala chaka chimodzi pomwe miyezi 5 anali ku ICU. Gunjan, mwamuna wake ankakhala naye nthawi zonse. Chifuniro chake chinali mphamvu ndi chichirikizo zomwe zinapatsa Mansi mphamvu zogonjetsa mazunzo akuthupi obwera chifukwa cha ngoziyo. Gunjan adapeza madotolo abwino kwambiri ochokera mdzikolo kuti akawone Mansi ndikumuthandiza kuti achire.
"Zinali chifukwa cha Gunjan Sindinayambe ndakhala ndikuvutika maganizoAlinso ndi anyamata awiri okondedwa azaka 10 ndi 8. Masiku ano, Gunjan atakhala ndi ngozi kwa zaka 3 komanso atachitidwa maopaleshoni pambuyo pake, amakonda kwambiri Mansi kuposa kale lonse.
Chikondi chikhoza kuchitika nthawi zambiri, koma chikondi chenicheni chikhoza kuchitika kamodzi kokha. Ndi chikondi chenicheni chokha komanso chopanda malire chomwe chimapatsa okwatiranawo, kulimbika mtima ndi mphamvu kuti athe kuthana ndi zovuta zoterezi m'moyo.
Ibibazo
1. Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimapangitsa kuti maanjawa apambane?
Zinthu zazikuluzikulu nthawi zambiri zimaphatikizapo, kudzipereka kosasunthika ku ubale, ngakhale panthawi zovuta. Kulankhulana moona mtima komanso momveka bwino pamalingaliro, zosowa, ndi nkhawa. Kulemekeza umunthu wa wina ndi mzake ndi malingaliro. Masomphenya wamba amtsogolo ndi kufunitsitsa kugwirira ntchito limodzi kuti akwaniritse.
2. Kodi maanja angaphunzire bwanji ku nkhanizi ndikugwiritsa ntchito zomwe taphunzirazo pa moyo wawo?
Maanja atha kuphunzira maphunziro ofunikira okhudza kulankhulana, kukhululukirana, kudekha, chithandizo, ndi chikondi chopanda malire kuchokera munkhanizi. Poganizira mfundozi ndi kuziphatikiza mu ubale wawo, akhoza kulimbikitsa mgwirizano wawo ndikupanga mgwirizano wokwanira.
Kutsiliza
Nkhani za okwatirana omwe sasiya ndi umboni wa mphamvu yosatha ya chikondi, kupirira, ndi kudzipereka. Nkhani zimenezi zosonyeza kupambana pamavuto zimatipatsa chiyembekezo, ndipo zimatikumbutsa kuti ngakhale titakumana ndi namondwe wovuta kwambiri m’moyo, chikondi chingakhalepo. Mwa kuphunzira kuchokera ku zokumana nazo za ena, okwatirana angapeze zida ndi malingaliro ofunikira kuti alimbitse maubwenzi awo, kugonjetsa mavuto, ndi kukulitsa chikondi cha moyo wonse.
Kaya mukufuna chitsogozo, chilimbikitso, kapena chikumbutso cholimbikitsa cha mphamvu yosatha ya chikondi, nkhanizi zimakupatsirani nzeru zambiri komanso zolimbikitsa. Tikukulimbikitsani kuti mufufuze zambiri zomwe zilipo patsamba lathu, kulumikizana ndi ena omwe amagawana zomwe mumakonda pazachikondi ndi maubwenzi, ndikupeza mphamvu yosinthira ya kudzipereka kosasunthika m'moyo wanu.
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Eya monganso nkhani yonseyo mzere wotsiriza nawonso unali chidutswa chodabwitsa kuti chikondi chimatha kuchitika nthawi zambiri koma chikondi chenicheni chikhoza kuchitika kamodzi kokha ndipo chikachitika musalole konse kuti apite tangomanga mfundo ndikumangirira.
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