Mkangano wina wautali wachitika pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu pa zomwe mwina simungakumbukire sabata yamawa. Zinthu zowawa zanenedwa, misozi ikukhetsedwa, ndizovuta kuti tsopano mupite kumalo osungiramo chakudya chamadzulo omwe mudapanga, ndipo mwina mukufunsa kuti, "Kodi ine ndiye vuto muubwenzi wanga?"
Nthawi zambiri ndi pamene mafunde ovuta adutsa m'pamene amazindikira kuti akhoza kukhala wolakwa. Nthawi zambiri, pamene malingaliro anu amakugonjetsani kwambiri, zimakhala zovuta kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro ndi chidziwitso pazomwe mumamva pamene zonse zomwe mukufuna kuchita ndikumverera ndikumveka ndi mnzanuyo. Koma pang'onopang'ono zimakukhudzani kuti akadakhala olondola, ndipo mwina ndi inu amene muyenera kusintha. Apa m’pamene mafunso onga akuti “ndingadziŵe bwanji ngati ineyo ndiye vuto m’banja langa” kapena “ndikulakwa chiyani muubwenzi wanga” amayamba kukuvutitsani.
Choncho, musanachedwe, ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe mungadziwire ngati muli ndi vuto muubwenzi. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Kavita Panyam (katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso wogwirizana ndi bungwe la American Psychological Association), yemwe wakhala akuthandiza maanja kuthetsa mavuto awo aubwenzi kwa zaka zoposa makumi awiri, akupereka chidziwitso cha zizindikiro zomwe muyenera kuziganizira.
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Kukhala wosowa kwambiri, kudzudzula munthu wina kapena kungonyalanyaza ntchito zanu zonse zapakhomo muubwenzi wongokhala naye limodzi kungakhale chifukwa chimodzi chomwe mungayankhire funso lakuti “Kodi ine ndine vuto muubwenzi wanga?” ndi inde. Kavita akutiuza kuti, “Kukhala wokonda kulamulira, woumirira, wansanje kapena wokonda kukangana kwambiri ndi zina mwa zizindikiro zake. Koma ngakhale kukhala wodalira wina ndi mnzake ndikuyesera kukhala munthu wokha kungapangitse zinthu kusokonekera muubwenzi wanu.”
Kuwerenga izi ndikudziganizira nokha, "Bwanji ngati ndili ndi vuto muubwenzi wanga?" Chabwino, moona mtima konse, mungakhale. Koma ndicho chimene ife tiri pano. Osati kukunyozani kapena kuloza zala zilizonse. Koma kukuthandizani kuzindikira makhalidwe ena ovuta omwe mwina simunawazindikire koma akhoza kuwononga ubale wanu.
1. Ndi njira yanga kapena msewu waukulu
Muubwenzi uliwonse - nthawi zambiri pamakhala munthu m'modzi amene amachita zinthu zambiri pofuna kuti zinthu ziyende bwino komanso kuti pakhale mgwirizano. Nthawi zambiri mwamuna ndiye amene amachita zimenezi, koma muubwenzi wotsogozedwa ndi mkazi, maudindo ake amakhala osiyana. Kaya ndi ndani, amachita zimenezi kuti onse awiri akhale odziletsa komanso osangalala. Komabe, ngati muyamba kugwiritsa ntchito molakwika ufulu umenewo, mungakhale vuto lalikulu muubwenzi wanu.
Tiffany Boone, loya, anali ndi vuto limeneli ndi chibwenzi chake, Jeremy. Pokhala iye kukhala chiwongolero cha ubalewu, Tiffany ankakhulupirira Jeremy ndi chirichonse. Koma m’kupita kwa nthaŵi, zinthu zinayamba kukhala poizoni pamene Jeremy anayamba kuyenda pa zimene Tiffany ankafuna. Ngakhale malonjezo monga kukumana ndi amayi a Tiffany pa chakudya chamadzulo sanakwaniritsidwe chifukwa chakuti Jeremy anasankha kusatero. Kuyambira posankha zithunzi zapanyumba zawo mpaka kuchuluka kwa ana omwe akufuna kukhala nawo, Tiffany adamva ngati alibenso chonena.
Ngati mukuwerenga izi ndikumva ngati Jeremy paubwenzi wanu, mutha kukhala olondola ponena za "Kodi ineyo ndi vuto muubwenzi wanga?" hunch. Zitengereni kwa Tiffany, izi zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa kwa mnzanu. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chanu kuti ndi nthawi yoti musiye zingwe pang'ono.
2. Kulephera kudziimba mlandu
"N'chifukwa chiyani nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi vuto muubwenzi wanga?" Kudzifunsa nokha funsoli kungakhale chiyambi cha mavuto anu. Mwachiwonekere, mukuzemba ndipo simukufuna kuyankha pa zomwe mungakhale mukulakwitsa. Kulingalira kotereku kungathe kuyendetsa ubale kutsika.
Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kudziwa kuti mumayamikira kwambiri mgwirizano wanu kuposa kungofuna kuti mukhale olondola nthawi zonse. Komabe, mukakhala vuto muubwenzi, mnzanuyo nthawi zambiri amadzimva kuti ndi wosavomerezeka, wosawoneka komanso wosamveka. Zingakhale chifukwa chakuti mumavutika kuvomereza kuti mwalakwitsa. Ngati ndi choncho, Kavita ananena kuti: “Pali njira zambiri zothetsera vuto popanda kupepesa.
"Koma dziwani kuti ndikofunikira kupeza yankho popanda kunyoza kapena kunenerana miseche, zomwe zingachitike pokhapokha mutadziimba mlandu pa zolakwa zanu ndipo pamapeto pake mudzapeza chikhululukiro muubwenzi . Ndichonso chomwe chimapangitsa mnzanuyo kumva kuti ali otetezeka muubwenziwo."
3. Kodi ine ndiye vuto muubwenzi wanga? Inde, ngati muli ndi vuto la mtima
Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji ngati ndili ndi vuto muukwati/ubwenzi wanga? Ngati funso limeneli lakhala likukudetsani nkhawa, zingakhale bwino kumvetsera mwatcheru zimene mumachita zinthu zikakhala kuti sizikuyenda mmene mukufunira. Kudzimvera chisoni kwambiri chifukwa chochitiridwa zoipa ndi chinthu chimodzi. Koma kugwiritsira ntchito zimenezo monga chodzikhululukira kuputa mkwiyo kapena ngakhale vase pa nkhani imeneyo kumasonyeza chinthu china choipitsitsa.
Ngati mukuona kuti mukuzunza mnzanu mopitirira muyeso mwa kumufuulira mopitirira muyeso, kumutemberera, kapena kuchita zachiwawa kapena kutchula mayina oipa muubwenzi , ndiye kuti yankho la momwe mungadziwire ngati muli ndi vuto muubwenzi wanu ndi lomveka bwino. Ndi chizindikiro chodziwikiratu komanso champhamvu kuti muli ndi vuto loletsa mayankho anu amaganizo ndipo izi zimawonekera mu nkhanza zomwe mumachitira mnzanu wanu.
Kavita akuti, "Mkwiyo pang'ono m'maubwenzi ndi wabwino chifukwa umakuthandizani kumvetsetsa chomwe chikulakwika. Koma mkwiyo ukachirikizidwa ndi nkhanza kapena kumenyedwa ndi munthu wina, ndilo vuto. Pakhoza kukhala ukali wamkati mwa inu chifukwa cha ubwana wanu komanso kuchokera ku banja losayenda bwino.
4. Mumasunga makhadi a zolakwa muubwenzi
Dylan Kwapil, wopanga mapulogalamu, wakhala m'banja ndi Grace kwa zaka zinayi tsopano. Pamene akuyesera kufika pansi pa chipwirikiti chomwe akumva muubwenzi wawo masiku ano, Dylan anazindikira chinachake: amayamba kuimbana mlandu wina ndi mzake chifukwa cha zolakwa zakale mkangano uliwonse.
"Sindikumvetsa kuti nchifukwa chiyani nthawi zonse ndimakhala vuto muubwenzi wanga? Kodi ndikuchita cholakwika paubwenzi wanga? Nthawi zonse ndikanena za zomwe Grace walakwitsa, amanditembenukira ndipo amandifotokozera zonse zomwe ndalakwitsa paubwenzi wathu. Sindingathenso kumangokhalira kudzudzula nthawi zonse, zimandipweteketsa mtima. Ndatopa kupepesa, ndimalakalaka ataona zolakwa zake."
Polimbana ndi vuto linalake, munthu akhoza kupeŵa nkhaniyo mwamsanga ndipo m’malomwake amadzuka nthawi zonse pamene anakhumudwa. Ngakhale kuli kofunika kuti mufotokoze zakukhosi kwanu kwa wokondedwa wanu, musalembe zolakwa zawo ndikuziponya pa iwo nthawi iliyonse akakuimbani mlandu kuti mwalakwitsa.
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5. Kusakhala ndi malire kapena kukhala ndi makoma otalika kwambiri
"Kodi ine ndiye vuto mu ubale wanga?" Yankho la funso ili likhoza kupezeka mu mtundu wa malire omwe mwakhazikitsa mu ubale wanu kapena kusowa kwake. Ngati mulola wokondedwa wanu kuyenda pa inu kapena kukaniza iwo mwa kuwakana malo aliwonse aumwini, sikungakhale kulakwitsa kunena kuti nkhani za ubale wanu zimachokera ku zovuta zanu zamaganizo.
Kavita akuti, "Kusowa malire amalingaliro kapena zotchinga zazikulu kwambiri kungakhale vuto lalikulu muubwenzi uliwonse. Mwina mumataya zonse mopitirira muyeso kapena ena amavutika kukufikirani. Chilichonse mwa izi chingakhudze kwambiri moyo wanu. Izi zingapangitse munthu kukhala ndi umunthu wopewa kapena kudziletsa."
Ubwenzi umayenda bwino mukalankhulana bwino, kutengeka mtima, ndi chikondi. Ngati muli ndi nthawi yovuta yosamalira izo, ndi chifukwa chabwino chokwanira inu kukhala ndi "Ine ndikuganiza ine vuto mu ubale wanga" zowawa. Yakwana nthawi yoti mukonze zinthu ndikukhala m'njira yosangalatsa yomwe imakupatsani mwayi wolankhula bwino.
6. Maganizo anu akukupangitsani kufunsa, "Kodi ine ndiye vuto muubwenzi wanga?"
Bwanji ngati ine ndiye vuto muubwenzi wanga? Mutha kukhala ngati mukuganiza kuti mukufuna thandizo. Pamene thanzi lanu lamaganizo likulendewera ndi ulusi wotayirira, zimakhala zovuta kuti mukwaniritse zomwe wina akuyembekezera ndikukhala bwenzi labwino kwa iwo. Kukhala pamutu paubwenzi kumatenga zambiri kuposa agulugufe m'mimba mwanu.
Mukakhala ndi nkhawa, mumadzimva kuti mulibe zochita ndipo zimenezi zingakupangitseni kukhala mnzanu wosachita nawo zambiri. Mofananamo, mukakhala ndi nkhawa, kuganiza mopitirira muyeso komanso mavuto anu okhudzana ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha chibwenzi kungakukhumudwitseni kwambiri mpaka kufika poti simungathe kupirira. Si nthawi zonse mavuto akuluakulu kapena odziwikiratu omwe amalepheretsa kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino komanso wathanzi.
Ngati ndinu munthu yemwe ali ndi kalembedwe kosagwirizana, izi zidzakhudzanso mtundu wa malumikizano anu apamtima. Ngati ndi choncho, musamadzikakamize kukhala ndi 'nthawi yolakwika'. Dziyikeni nokha poyamba ndikudzilola kuti muchiritse musanatengeke kwambiri ndi wina aliyense.
7. Mwasiya kuchita khama lililonse
Maubwenzi ndi ntchito zambiri. Osati tsiku lililonse ndi chikondi chotentha baluni kukwera koma masiku ambiri ayenera kumva bwino basi monga mmodzi. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, n’zotheka kuti kunyong’onyeka pang’ono kuloŵe muubwenzi wanu ndi kuti zinthu ziwoneke ngati zachilendo. Komabe, ubalewu umangowonongeka mukasiya kugwira ntchito. Ndiye ngati mukudabwa kuti, “Bwanji ngati ine ndili vuto muubwenzi wanga?”, ndiye ganizirani za khama muika mu ubwenzi wanu tsiku lililonse.
Kodi mumachita nawo zinthu pa moyo wa mnzanu? Kodi mukupanga mapulani nawo? Kodi mumalankhula nawo pafupipafupi? Ndipo kodi kugonana kudakali bwino? Mavuto angapo panjira ndi abwino. Koma ngati mukuona kuti ubalewu ukutha ndipo simukusangalala nawo, ndiye kuti vuto likhoza kukhala kuti simukuyesetsa mokwanira kuti zinthu ziyende bwino. Kusunga ubale kumafuna kupirira tsiku lililonse ndipo kusasamala muubwenzi kungakhale chinthu choopsa.
8. Kuyerekeza nthawi zonse maubwenzi anu ndi ena
Koma Ricardo anatenga Gwen kupita ku Miami mlungu watha! "Wanda ndi Oleg amalumikizana bwino kwambiri pa Instagram. Simumandijambula ngakhale zithunzi zokongola." Kapenanso chodetsa nkhawa kwambiri, "mphete ya Olivia pachibwenzi ndi yayikulu kuposa yanga. Simundichitira chilichonse."
Ngati nthawi zambiri mumamva ngati muli ndi zitsanzo izi, ndiye kuti muli ndi ufulu wofunsa funso lakuti “kodi ndine vuto muubwenzi wanga?” Chikondi chimatanthauza kukondwererana ndikumvetsetsa mbali zosiyanasiyana za umunthu wa wina ndi mnzake pa sitepe iliyonse. Inde, kukongola kwa Instagram, malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi zomwe mumauza dziko lapansi za inu nokha ndizofunikira koma sizokwanira kupangitsa winayo kumva kuti ndi wosakwanira.
Tikubetcha kuti zomwe mumakonda muubwenziwu ndizochepa. Ngati mumadzifunsanso kuti, "Kodi ndikulakwitsa chiyani muubwenzi wanga?", Yankho ndiloti mumadalira kwambiri malo akunja ovomerezeka ndipo izi zimakhudza thanzi la ubale wanu. Simukudziwa theka la moyo wachikondi wa Olivia, ndiye palibe chifukwa chomulera ndikusokoneza zanu. Lankhulani ndi bwenzi lanu ngati mukumva kuti ndinu osavomerezeka koma osatero chifukwa thanthwe lanu silinyezimira.
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9. Kusatetezeka kumabweretsa malingaliro akuti "Ndikuganiza kuti ndine vuto muubwenzi wanga".
Kavita akuti, "Kusatetezeka ndiye chifukwa chachikulu chomwe zinthu sizikuyenda bwino m'paradaiso wanu. Ngati kudzidalira kwanu kuli kotsika , simudzatha kuchita zokwanira kuti mupitirize kulumikizana. Ngakhale kulumikizana kungakhale kwakale, ma equation amasintha nthawi zonse ndipo amapangidwa ndi onse awiri. Kudzimva wosatetezeka kungathe kusokoneza zimenezo ndikuwononga malingaliro anu oti ndinu ofunika kwa munthu wina. Pali mwayi waukulu kuti vutoli limachokera ku ubwana wanu komanso momwe mumakonderana komanso momwe mumayankhira."
Izi sizimangowonjezera kutsika kwanu komanso mafunso oti 'kodi ndine vuto muubwenzi wanga?' komanso kumabweretsa nkhani zaubwenzi ndi okondedwa wanu. Nthawi zambiri mumakayikira mnzanuyo, pezani zifukwa zopusa zokayikitsa ndipo nthawi zonse mumakhala m'mphepete mwa mpando wanu muubwenzi uwu. Pokhala njira yopezera chibwenzi cholephereka, ndi nthawi yoti muganizire momwe mumasonyezera makhalidwe osatetezekawa.
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Kulimbana ndi funso lakuti, “Kodi ine ndiye vuto muubwenzi wanga?”, sikophweka. Kuzindikira zizindikiro zomwe zikusonyeza kuti chibadwa chanu chinali chabwino kuyambira kale kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Komabe, chifukwa choti mwapeza kuti mavuto ambiri a muubwenzi omwe inu ndi mnzanu mwakhala mukulimbana nawo amachokera kwa inu, sizikutanthauza kuti chiyembekezo chonse chatayika kapena ndinu mnzanu woipa amene simuyenera kukondedwa.
Mukakhala vuto muubwenzi, muyenera kufufuza njira zodziwira ndikugwiritsa ntchito mbali za umunthu wanu zomwe zingayambitse vuto m'paradiso wanu wachikondi m'malo mogonjera ku malingaliro odzipatulira chifukwa cha izi. Tabwera kukuthandizani kuti muyambe ulendo wodzidziwitsa nokha ndikuchita bwino ndi malangizo awa pazomwe mungachite ngati muli ndi vuto pachibwenzi chanu:
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1. Yesetsani kukulitsa chidziwitso chaumwini
Munayamba ndi malingaliro akuti "Ndikumva ngati ndine vuto muubwenzi wanga" zomwe zidakupangitsani kuti muyang'ane mayankho, ndipo mwina tsopano mwazindikira kuti chidziwitso chanu chinali cholondola nthawi yonseyi ndipo ndinu gwero lazovuta za ubale wanu. Ino ndi nthawi yoti mufufuze mozama ndikukulitsa kudzidziwitsa bwino za momwe mukumvera komanso momwe zimakupangitsani kuti muyankhe pazochitika zosiyanasiyana muubwenzi wanu.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukukwiya, yesetsani kusamala kwambiri za mmene mukumvera komanso kumene kukwiya kumeneku kukuchokera. Dzifunseni kuti: Kodi maganizo amenewa ndi otani? Kodi zikundipangitsa kumva bwanji? Kodi ndikumva bwanji? Kodi zimandipangitsa kufuna kuchita chiyani? Khalani ndi malingaliro omwe amabwera m'mutu mwanu poyankha mafunso awa.
Komanso, yesetsani kulamulira maganizo anu pa chilichonse chimene mukufuna kuchita. Mukakhala ndi chizolowezi chochita izi, mudzakhala ogwirizana kwambiri ndi momwe mukumvera komanso kukhala okonzeka kudziletsa kuti musamapangitse mkangano wanu wamkati kwa mnzanuyo.
2. Dziwani kuti sizimakupangitsani kukhala osakondedwa
Mukakhala vuto muubwenzi ndipo mukudziwa, zitha kuwononga kwambiri kudzidalira kwanu komanso kudziona kuti ndinu wofunika. Mwachitsanzo, ngati muzindikira kuti vuto lanu laubwenzi limakulirakulira chifukwa chakuti mumakwiya msanga ndipo mumakonda kukalipira mnzanu, zingakulepheretseni kudabwa chifukwa chake munthu winayo akukupirirani.
"Ndikumvetsa bwino kuti pali cholakwika muubwenzi wanga. Ndi nkhani ya nthawi yochepa kuti chibwenzi changa chisatope ndi ine n'kuchoka." Maganizo ngati amenewa ndi achibadwa mukazindikira kuti ndinu vuto muubwenzi wanu. Komabe, kulola maganizo otere kukulirakulira kungayambitse kusakhazikika muubwenzi , ndikupangitsa kuti zinthu ziipireipire.
Mukamadzinyansidwa ndi kuchita manyazi chifukwa cha khalidwe lanu paubwenzi wanu, yesetsani kukumbukira kuti makhalidwe enaake samasonyeza kuti ndinu ndani kapena kuti ndinu ofunika. Aliyense ali ndi zolakwika m'njira yakeyake; ndipo ngakhale ndi zanu, mungakhale ndi zambiri zoti mupereke ku ubale wanu chifukwa cha zomwe mnzanuyo wasankha kumamatira ndi inu.
3. Yesetsani kulankhulana moona mtima komanso momveka bwino muubwenzi wanu
Tsopano popeza mukudziwa yankho la funso lakuti “ndingadziwe bwanji ngati ndine vuto muukwati/ubwenzi wanga,” ndi nthawi yoti muganizirenso funso lina lofunika kwambiri: “Ndingatani ndikakhala vuto muubwenzi wanga?” Monga momwe zilili ndi mavuto ena ambiri, vutoli lingathe kuthetsedwa mwa kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire bwino ndi mnzanu.
Choyamba, apatseni mpata woti afotokoze mmene mbali zina za umunthu wanu kapena mmene mungayankhire pamikhalidwe ina zingawakhudzire. Akamalankhula, mvetserani ndi maganizo omasuka ndipo muwone zimene mungachite kuti muthetse vutolo.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati kukhulupirirana kwakhala fupa lalikulu la mikangano muubwenzi wanu ndipo mnzanuyo akukuuzani kuti amanyazitsidwa ndi kunyozedwa nthawi zonse mukapita kumbuyo kuti muwone zomwe akukuuzani, yesetsani kulimbikitsanso chibadwa chimenecho. Pamene mukumva chikhumbo fufuzani mnzanuyo, kubwerera ku sitepe ya kufufuza ndi wekha m'malo. Imvani kuchuluka kwa malingaliro omwe akulimbikitsa kusakhulupirirana mu ubale wanu popanda kuchitapo kanthu.
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4. Konzaninso malire a ubale wanu
"Kodi ndikulakwa chiyani mu ubale wanga?" Kufufuza uku kungakutsogolereni ku nkhani ya malire osadziwika bwino kapena osakhalapo mu ubale wanu. Pali mwayi wabwino woti mwina mukuphwanya malire a mnzanu mosadziwa kapena mwalephera kutsatira zanu. Izi mwinanso zidapangitsa kuti pakhale ubale wodalirana.
Tsopano popeza mukuyesetsa kukonza mavuto omwe ali muubwenzi wanu, ndibwino kuti muwunikenso malire a ubale wanu ndikuwasintha ngati pakufunika kutero. Mwachitsanzo, ngati ndinu munthu amene ali ndi nkhawa yokhudzana ndi kukondana , pali kuthekera kwakukulu kuti simungolola mnzanu kuti akuyendeni komanso kuti mumulepheretse kukhala ndi malo ake muubwenzi chifukwa choopa kuti angakusiyeni.
Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mukambirane za malire a ubale ndi okondedwa anu ndikuyesetsa mwamphamvu kukakamiza anu ndikusunga zawo. Kulemekeza malire aumwini kumatha kukweza ubale wabwino kwambiri - izi zitha kukhala zomwe mungafunike poyesa kuthetsa zomwe zidayambitsa ubale wanu.
5. Funsani akatswiri kuti athetse mavuto omwe ayambitsa
Ndi chinthu chimodzi kugwirizana ndi kuzindikira kuti “Ndimaona ngati ndine vuto muubwenzi wanga,” ndi chinthu chinanso kudziwa chifukwa chake zili choncho. Ngakhale mutazindikira zizindikiro zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti mukuchita zolakwika muubwenzi wanu ndi malingaliro omwe amayambitsa machitidwe ovuta, kuwulula chomwe chimayambitsa zomwe zikuyambitsa zanu kungakhale kovuta.
Apa ndi pomwe katswiri wa zamaganizo angakuthandizeni. Akhoza kukhala bwenzi lanu lalikulu komanso chitsogozo chanu paulendo wanu wamkati kuti mupeze mavuto obisika omwe amalamulira momwe mumachitira muubwenzi wanu wachikulire. Ngati muli vuto muubwenzi, njira yothetsera vutoli imayambanso ndi inu. Ngati mukufuna thandizo la akatswiri kuti muthetse mavuto anu, alangizi aluso komanso odziwa zambiri omwe ali pagulu la Bonobology ali pano kuti akuthandizeni.
Ulendo wochokera ku "Kodi ndikulakwa chiyani muubwenzi wanga" kupita ku "ndingaleke bwanji kukhala vuto mu maubwenzi anga" nthawi zambiri umakhala wautali ndipo ukhoza kusokoneza maganizo. Komabe, ndi khama, kusasunthika, komanso kudzizindikira kokulirapo, mutha kuyandikira kuti mukhale ochita bwino kwambiri, ndikuchotsa zovuta zilizonse za ubale zomwe zimachokera kwa inu. Sizingakhale zophweka koma ngati mumakonda okondedwa anu ndi kuyamikira ubwenzi wanu, ndithudi kukhala ofunika nthawi yanu.
Zolakwa 8 Zodabwitsa Zomwe Mukupanga Zomwe Zimapangitsa Wokondedwa Wanu Kukhala Wokhudzika Kwambiri
Zizindikiro 15 Ukwati Wanu Uli Pamatenda Ndipo Watsala pang'ono Kutha
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
