Sitiganiza kuti zinthu zoopsa zingatichitikire mpaka zitachitikadi. Kodi ndinali wopusa kuganiza kuti chikondi chamuyaya chilipo? Kodi kuona mtima kunali kovuta kwambiri? Sanayenera kundiuza ndikupitiriza ndi ulemu? M’malo mwake bwenzi langa linandinyenga.
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Titatomerana ndi banja, ndinagwira bwenzi langa likuchita chinyengo ndipo ndinaganiza zothetsa ukwatiwo. Ndinasiyidwa wokhumudwa ndipo sindinkaganiza kuti zinthu ngati izi zingatheke.
Momwe ndinadziwira kuti anali ndi mwamuna wina zinalinso zowawa kwambiri. Ndinayenera kukhala ku msonkhano, womwe unali kunja kwa tawuni, koma ndinabwerako dzulo lake kuti ndimudabwitse ndipo ndinafika kunyumba kwake.
Ndinadabwa kuona munthu atakhala pampando wake. Anali m'chiuno chofooka, chosasamala. Nayenso sakanamusiya ngati bwenzi. Choyipa kwambiri ndichakuti ndimamudziwa. Anali atasiya kampani yathu n'kupita kumalo odyetserako zomera zobiriwira chaka chapitacho.
(Monga adauza Mariya Salim)
Kodi Ubale Bwererani Ku Normal Pambuyo Kunyenga?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Sizophweka pamene inu kugawana ntchito ndi wakale wanu ndi ine ndikumverera ngati maso onse ali pa ine ndi maganizo onse kuyesera kuthetsa mfundo Gordian kuti moyo wanga wakhala mwadzidzidzi.
Patha miyezi iwiri sindinamuone mu office. Zikomo Mulungu chifukwa cha izo. Zimandivuta kuganiza kuti mwina adapanga nkhani yanji kuti afotokoze zomwe zidachitika pakati pathu, makamaka ndikakumana ndi anzawo.
Koma kodi chibwenzi chingabwerere mwakale pambuyo pa chinyengo ? Ndamva anthu ambiri akuchira pambuyo pa chinyengo ndikumanganso ubale pamodzi. Koma kwa ine zinkaoneka ngati zosatheka. Sindingathe kuthana ndi kusakhulupirika kumeneku muubwenzi.
Ndinanyalanyaza zizindikiro zachinyengo
Ndimaona ngati wopusa. Sikuti chifukwa ndinapereka zonse zomwe ndingathe paubwenziwo, koma chifukwa chakuti ndinanyalanyaza zizindikiro zachinyengo zomwe ndikuziwona bwino tsopano. Munthu amayamba kudzikayikira, nthano ya moyo wosatha imasweka.
Maganizo anga ndi nkhondo yosalekeza, ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa chomwe chinalakwika. N’chifukwa chiyani anaumirira kuti tikwatirane mkati mwa miyezi inayi kuchokera pamene tinali pachibwenzi pomwe sanali kusamala kwambiri za momwe ndimamvera pa iye? Kapena anali naye kale panthawiyo? Sindikudziwa kwenikweni.
Kodi munthu amachita chiyani ngati sakudziwa zomwe akutsutsana nazo? Kodi munthu amalimbana bwanji ndi mithunzi? Awa ndi mafunso omwe ndakhala ndikulimbana nawo kuyambira pomwe ndidasiya.
Sindikudziwa zambiri ndipo sindinganene ngati zili zabwino kapena ayi, poganizira ena omwe akukhudzidwa nawonso ndi anzanga. Kungoganizabe komanso kusadziwa chowonadi sikutonthoza, koma kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji munthu amalimbana ndi mithunzi? Ino ncinzi ncotukonzya kwiiya kujatikizya cilongwe cangu?
Kodi ndingakwatiwe ndi munthu amene wandinyenga?
Sizotheka kwenikweni. Ngati munthu sangakhale wokhulupirika asanalowe m’banja angakhale wokhulupirika bwanji akalowa m’banja. Sindinamvepo za iye kuyambira pamenepo. Kodi sindiyenera kupepesa kapena kufotokozeredwa chifukwa cha zaka ziwiri ndi theka za umodzi?
Ndikuganiza kuti pali zochepa zomwe zingayankhidwe ndi munthu yemwe sakuwoneka kuti salemekeza kukhulupirika. Pamene chibwenzi changa chinandinyenga ndinasweka mtima kufunafuna mayankho.
Inde, tinali osiyana, koma kusiyana kumeneku kunalipo kuyambira pachiyambi. Luntha lake la nzeru ndilo linandikopa kwa iye, ndipo chikondi chitasanduka chikondi, m'kupita kwa nthawi ndinayamba kuona tsogolo lake ndi iye, makamaka chifukwa cha kukakamira kwake kuyambitsa banja ndi ine.
Mwina nthawi zina sitipereka kufunikira kwa 'zizindikiro' ndi 'zizindikiro', koma kachiwiri, kodi munthu amazindikira bwanji izi ngati zizindikiro osati kusinthasintha kwamalingaliro kapena kusiyana kwamalingaliro, zomwe ndi zachilengedwe? Mwina nthawi zina timawona zomwe tikufuna.
Poyamba sindinali wotsimikiza za ubale umenewu, koma pamene nthawi inkapita, makamaka kumapeto, ndinkafuna kuchita zonse zomwe ndingathe kuti ugwire ntchito. Ndikuganiza kuti zinali zosiyana kwa iye. Ndikungofuna kuti chifukwa chake chisakhale kusakhulupirika.
Sindinakhulupirire kuti bwenzi langa lingakhale wosakhulupirika panthaŵi ya chinkhoswe
Ndikufuna kuponda mosamala kwambiri tsopano. Ndikufuna kukhala wosamala komanso wosamala, kuti ndipewe kuvulazidwa kapena kukhala ndi munthu amene ndingavulazidwenso.
Kodi ndizotheka, ndimadzifunsa. Kodi tingathe kudziwa amene angatipweteke? Kodi timaletsa anthu oyenera kulowa m'miyoyo yathu chifukwa olakwika akwanitsa kutiwononga? Ndani angayembekeze kuti wina akhoza kukhala wosakhulupirika panthawi ya chibwenzi?
Mwina palibe mayankho enieni a mafunso awa. Ndayesa kuthana ndi vutoli mwaulemu ndipo ndikuyembekeza kuti nditha kupulumuka ndili ndi chidaliro. Sindinachite chilichonse chonyoza, ndipo, mwaulemu kwambiri, ndapempha kuti agogo anga andipatse mphete.
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Nchifukwa chiyani bwenzi langa linandinyenga?
Funso ili limandidya usana ndi usiku. Sizinali zophweka. Ndadzikayikira kwambiri. Koma ntchito imandithandiza kupitiriza. Ndikulemba, kukumana ndi anthu atsopano, kuyang'ana kwambiri ntchito yanga tsopano. Zimandipweteka kwambiri, ndikumva kuti anayamba kundida, kundinyoza kumapeto , koma ndikupeza bwino.
Poyamba nditadziwa za iye, ndimaganiza kuti mwina kukwatiwa ndi mwamuna mmodzi si njira yachizoloŵezi ndipo mwina sindiyenera kukhala wosiyana. Ndikuganiza kuti ndichibadwa changa kukhala ndi mwamuna mmodzi. Sindikuganiza kuti ndikufuna kusintha chifukwa cha zochita za munthu wina. Sindinaweruzepo anthu potengera khalidwe lawo logonana, koma ndimawaweruza potengera kuona mtima kwawo.
Sindingayerekeze kuti amandikonda ndipo nthawi yomweyo anali kukhala ndi mwamuna wina komanso kukhala ndi ubale wapamtima ndi iye. Kodi akanatha bwanji?
Akanatha kundiuza kuti anali ndi chibwenzi cha akazi ambiri kapena akufuna chibwenzi chotseguka ndiye kuti ndikanayamikira kukhulupirika kwake. Koma sindingathe kumvetsa mfundo yakuti chibwenzi changa chinandinyenga.
Poyambirira, chiweruzo changa ndi zochita zanga zinazimitsidwa ndi chifuno ndi chiyeso chofuna kumvera makutu opepuka, osadziŵa kalikonse. Osatinso pano.
Pamafunika khama koma ndikuyesetsa kuti ndituluke mu kuphwanya kukhulupirika. Pali masiku omwe ndimadzidalira kwambiri, koma amadutsa. Pali kulowererapo kwaumulungu, ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti abale anga, anzanga ndi Mulungu andisamalira.
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Ndikulimbana ndi mantha omwewo, mwina ndi maganizo anga kapena osamala kwambiri koma pang'ono ndili mu mkhalidwe uwu ngakhale ndili wokhulupirika kwa iye ndipo ndimanyalanyaza mwayi wambiri womwe mwamuna angafune ndipo ndimakana zopereka zambiri zoti ndikhale pachibwenzi, kodi ndikuchita bwino kapena ndikungowononga nthawi yanga, ngakhale ndaona chizindikiro china? Monga momwe akunenera tsopano kuti ndipite kunja kwa dziko ankaganiza kuti ndiye amene anandikakamiza kuti ndisapite ukwati wathu usanachitike .. koma tsopano akunena kuti ndikhale ndi nthawi yochedwa m'banja pafupifupi zaka zisanu, ndikusokonezeka kwambiri sindingathe kupanga zisankho asanachite. Amakhala ndi chifuwa koma zidzandisokoneza. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani, blog yanu ili ndi kuthekera kwakukulu kolemba komanso kuthandiza anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi vuto lotere, ngati mungandithandize chonde nditumizireni uthenga pa Gmail yanga [email protected].