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Mukudabwa choti muchite ngati chibwenzi chanu chikukunyengani? Palibe yankho losavuta ku funsoli. Zimenezi zinandichitikira pamene ndinkayesetsa kuthandiza mnzanga wapamtima Sarah kuti athane ndi vuto la kuchita chigololo. Sarah anali pachibwenzi ndi chibwenzi chake, Alex, kwa zaka zitatu. Ankaganiza kuti ali ndi mgwirizano wamphamvu, koma posachedwapa, maganizo ovutitsa anazika mizu m'maganizo mwake. Alex anali atatalikirana naye, ndipo nthawi zambiri ankazemba kuti aziimbira foni komanso ankakhala kunyumba.

Tsiku lina, Sarah anakumana ndi meseji yokayikitsa pa foni yake, yomwe inatsimikizira kuti anali ndi mantha aakulu. Dziko lake lidafika povuta atazindikira kuti Alex amamupusitsa. Pa nthawiyi, Sarah anakhumudwa kwambiri ndi maganizo osiyanasiyana: kusakhulupirika, kukwiya komanso kusweka mtima. Anadziona kuti wasokonekera ndipo samadziwa momwe angathanirane ndi chibwenzi chobera. Zonse zomwe ndikanatha kuchita zinali kukhalapo kwa iye, monga phewa lolirira, mzati wolimba wochirikiza. Ululu ndi mkwiyo zinali zake kuti apirire.

Poyang'anitsitsa zovuta zake, ndinazindikira kuti ngakhale kupeza kusakhulupirika kumawononga, ndi njira yoyenera, mukhoza kupeza zomveka ndikusankha njira yabwino yopititsira patsogolo moyo wanu. Kuti ndimvetsetse njira yoyenera, ndinalankhula ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Anita Eliza (MSc in Applied Psychology), yemwe amagwira ntchito pazovuta monga nkhawa, kukhumudwa, maubale, komanso kudzidalira. Werengani kuti mudziwe zoyenera kuchita ngati chibwenzi chanu chikuberani ndikusankha bwino pa chibwenzi chanu.

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Pokhapokha ngati mwagwira chibwenzi chanu chiwopsezo kapena kusakhulupirika kwake kuli poyera, musanayankhe funso la zomwe mungachite ngati chibwenzi chanu chikukunyengani, muyenera kutsimikiza kuti kusakhulupirika kukusewera. M'matumbo akumva kuti akubera, koma palibe umboni kubwezera kumbuyo kungakhale malo ovuta kukhala. Nthawi zonse mukuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira, muli ndi mfundo m'mimba mwanu, chifukwa simudziwa zomwe ziri zoona ndi zomwe akuchita kuti aphimbe njira zake. 

Yang'anani naye popanda umboni weniweni, ndipo mumayika pachiwopsezo kuti zokayikitsa zanu zikhale zopanda pake ndikuchotsedwa. Kupatula apo, ngati akubera, kukaikira kwanu ndi kufunsa kwanu kudzalira belu, kumuuza kuti asamale. Kumbali ina, ngati sakuonera ndipo simunawerenge molakwika nkhaniyo, zonenezazo zingawononge kwambiri ubwenzi wanu. 

Tsopano, funso nlakuti, mungadziwe bwanji ngati chibwenzi chanu chikukunyengani? Anita amagawana zizindikiro 9 zosonyeza kuti ali pachibwenzi kuti azisamala: 

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1. Pali mtunda wadzidzidzi wamalingaliro 

Kumva m'matumbo kuti, "Chibwenzi changa chikundibera", chomwe mwakhala mukulimbana nacho mwina chimachokera ku mtunda wamalingaliro mwakhala mukumva. Anita anati: “Mumamva kusiyana pakati pa inu ndi mnzanuyo ngakhale simungagwirepo kanthu.” 

Tsopano, munthu atha kuchita zinthu motalikirana chifukwa cha zinthu monga kupsinjika kapena mavuto pazantchito kapena moyo wake. Komabe, zinthu izi zimakambidwa muubwenzi. Ngati palibe chifukwa chomveka chomwe chimapangitsa kusintha kwa khalidweli, kukhala kutali ndi maganizo kungakhale chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za chibwenzi chachinyengo muubwenzi.

2. Kusintha kwa ubale ndi foni yake 

Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati chibwenzi chanu chikukunyengani, mukufunsa? Zidziwitso zazikulu za kusakhulupirika nthawi zambiri zimabisika mu ubale wa munthu ndi foni yawo. Kudziteteza kwambiri komanso kudalira foni yanu ndi chizindikiro chabodza. Izi ndi zomwe zizindikiro zachinyengo za foni yam'manja zitha kuwoneka ngati: 

• Amanyamula foni yake kulikonse kumene angapite, ngakhale kukayankhira chitseko 
• Ngati mukukhala limodzi, mungaone kuti nthawi yambiri yopuma amatumizirana mameseji m’malo mokumvetserani 
• Ngati simutero, mutha kupeza foni yake ili yotanganidwa nthawi zonse 
• Kapena zindikirani kuti ali pa intaneti, koma samakutumizirani mameseji kapena kuyankha mameseji anu 
• Kusintha mawu achinsinsi, kuteteza mapulogalamu ena, kapena kutseka macheza ena ndi mbendera zofiira zomwe simuyenera kuzinyalanyaza. 

3. Ndi wokwiya komanso wamfupi ndi inu 

Ngati bwenzi lanu nthaŵi zonse limakhala lachisangalalo, lokwiya, ndi lokonzekera kufulumira, mosasamala kanthu za mmene mungayesere kuwongolera zinthu, kungakhale chifukwa chakuti chipwirikiti cha kukhala ndi moyo wachiphamaso chikufikira kwa iye. Mwina akudziimba mlandu chifukwa chobera kapena akuvutika kuti apeze njira yoti achitepo kanthu—kodi ayenera kunena zoona kwa inu, ndiye kuti athetse chibwenzicho, kapena athetse chibwenzicho kuti akhale ndi mkazi winayo? Kupatula apo, sikophweka kuchita maubwenzi awiri ndikusunga zonse pamunsi-otsika.  

4. Kusintha kosamvetsetseka kwachizoloŵezi 

Muubwenzi uliwonse wapamtima, okwatirana amadziwana bwino zomwe amachita. Ngakhale simukhala limodzi, mumadziwa nthawi yomwe bwenzi lanu limadzuka, amapita kuntchito, amapita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, amamwa khofi, amasamba, amadya chakudya chake, ndi zina zotero. Mwina, panali nthawi yomwe mudagawana zithunzi ndi zosintha wina ndi mnzake tsiku lonse. 

"Ngakhale kuti ndi zachibadwa kuti nthawi zambiri zosinthana zithe pamene mukukhazikika pachibwenzi, okwatirana amadziwabe zomwe zikuchitika tsiku ndi moyo wa wina ndi mzake ndipo amatha kuneneratu molondola zomwe winayo akuyenera kuchita pa ola lopatsidwa. chizindikiro cha ubwenzi,” akufotokoza motero Anita.” Tsopano, ngati chizoloŵezi chake chakhala chosadziŵika mwadzidzidzi kotero kuti sudziŵa kumene ali kapena zimene akuchita kwa maola (kapena masiku) pamapeto pake, ndi chizindikiro chofiira chosonyeza kuti bwenzi lako likubera. 

5. Akuchita mobisa 

Ndiye, ndi chiyani chatsopano m'moyo wa bwenzi lanu? Kodi wakhala akucheza ndi ndani? Kodi ntchito yamuyendera bwanji? Ndi antchito anzake ati masiku ano akugwirizana nawo? Ngati simukudziwa yankho la mafunsowa chifukwa akubisa mopambanitsa ndipo amayankha mafunso anu ndi mayankho osadziwika bwino monga, “O, ndinali ndi anzanga ochepa chabe” kapena “Kumwa zakumwa ndi anthu akuntchito”, muli bwino kukhala ndi nkhawa. Nkhawa yakuti “chibwenzi changa chikundibera” siimangokhalapo kanthu. 

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6. Mwamugwira mwabodza

Ngati bwenzi lanu likupitiriza kubwera ndi zifukwa zomveka zomwe sangakwanitse kuchita zinazake kapena kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza nanu, kapena chifukwa chake sanalankhule ndipo nkhani zake sizikuphatikizana, n'kutheka kuti wakhala akunama kwa inu. Pamene munthu akunena zoona, zochitika zake zimakhala zogwirizana. Koma ngati amanama kuti abise njira zawo, mwayi umakhala kuti aiwala zina ndikupereka mitundu yatsopano yankhani nthawi iliyonse mukayifotokoza. Ngati inu munamugwira iye mu bodza lofanana, osati kamodzi koma kangapo, ndi imodzi mwa kunena zizindikiro za chibwenzi chachinyengo paubwenzi. 

7. Amadzitchinjiriza akafunsidwa 

Mukamugwira bodza kapena kumufunsa mobwerezabwereza za vuto linalake, chibwenzi chobera chimadzitchinjiriza, ndikubweza ngati, 

• “Sindikukhulupirira kuti simundikhulupirira.”
• Ukuchita misala, sindidzapirira. 
• “Ungandikayikire bwanji?”
• "Ndiname bwanji?"

Iyi, kwa iye, ndiyo njira yosavuta yodziwira kuti asayankhe mafunso ovuta omwe angavumbulutse njira zake zachinyengo, zabodza. 

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8. Kusintha kwa libido 

Inde, ndi mwachibadwa kuti chilakolako chogonana chiziyenda bwino, ndi machitidwe a kugonana kusintha mu ubale. Komabe, zosinthazi zimachitika pang'onopang'ono ndipo zimamveka ngati organic. Ngati, Komano, pali kusintha kwadzidzidzi komanso kwakukulu mu libido ya bwenzi lanu-sakuwoneka kuti akukukwanirani kwa masiku angapo, ndiyeno, amasonyeza kuti alibe chidwi chokhala pachibwenzi kwa masiku kapena masabata, zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chakuti mphamvu za ubale wake wina zimakhudza momwe amachitira ndi inu. 

Mwinanso mungazindikire kuti nthawi zina mumakhala okondana kwambiri, koma amadzimva kuti ali kutali komanso osagwirizana. Kotero, ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungadziwire ngati chibwenzi chanu chikubera, tcherani khutu momwe inu nonse mumagwirizanitsa m'chipinda chogona.  

9. Simulinso patsogolo

Ubale wopambana umakhazikika pamalingaliro a onse awiri kuyesetsa kuyikana patsogolo. Inde, pali nthawi zina pamene ntchito, mayanjano, ndi ntchito zapakhomo zimasokoneza koma mumapeza njira yochotseramo ndikugwirizanitsa. Komabe, ngati chibwenzi chanu chikukunyengani, mwina sangachitenso zimenezo. M'malo mwake, mungazindikire kuti amaika patsogolo chilichonse ndi chilichonse pamwamba panu. Nthawi zonse amakhala wotanganidwa kwambiri kukumana kapena kuyankhula chifukwa, 

• Wakhala wotanganidwa kuntchito 
• Amathera nthawi yambiri ku masewera olimbitsa thupi 
• Ayenera kucheza ndi anyamata 
• Akuchezera banja lake kumapeto kwa sabata
• Iye amapita ku bar mitzvah ya msuweni wa msuweni wake

Zoona zake n’zakuti palibe chifukwa chofuna kupeza nthawi yambiri yocheza ndi mkazi winayo. Gawo la inu likudziwa izo. Ndichu chifukwa chaki lizgu linyaki mu mutu winu likamba kuti: “Wandinyenga.”  

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"Anandinyenga. Nditani?" Tiloleni kuti tithandize. Kuzindikira kuti bwenzi lanu akubera pa inu kungakhale chimodzi mwa zinthu zowawa kwambiri ndi zowononga mu ubwenzi. The kupwetekedwa mtima ndipo kumva kupweteka ndi kusokonezeka kungakhale kokulirapo, kukusiyani mukulimbana ndi malingaliro monga choti muchite ngati bwenzi lanu likukunyengererani kapena momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi chobera.

Komabe, ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti simuli nokha ndipo pali njira zomwe mungatsatire kuti muthane ndi vutoli ndikupita patsogolo mwaumoyo. Kuyambira kukhala wodekha ndi kulingalira zinthu mpaka kufunafuna chithandizo ndi kuika malire, m'munsimu muli njira zisanu ndi ziwiri zomwe zingayankhe funso lanu, "Akundinyenga. Ndichite chiyani?":

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1. Khalani odekha ndi kuganizira mozama

“Chibwenzi changa chinandinyenga, sindikudziwa choti ndichite.” Simukudziwa momwe mungachitire ndi chibwenzi chonyenga? Eya, n’kwachibadwa kumverera mosiyanasiyana pamene mukukayikira kapena kupeza kuti chibwenzi chanu chikuberani. Mutha kumva kukwiya, kukhumudwa, kuperekedwa, kapenanso kukana. Komabe, kubwerera m'mbuyo, kuvomereza ndikukonza malingaliro anu, ndikuwunika momwe zinthu zilili musanachitepo kanthu ndikofunikira.

Muyenera kudzimva kukhala otetezeka, kulemekezedwa, ndi kulemekezedwa muubwenzi wanu.

- Anita Eliza, katswiri wazamisala

Samalani kumverera kwanu m'matumbo ndi mbendera zofiira zomwe zingakhalepo mu chiyanjano. Ngati muli ndi konkriti umboni wa kusakhulupirika, monga mauthenga kapena malisiti, sonkhanitsani pamalo otetezeka. Musanapange chisankho, m'pofunika kuonetsetsa kuti kukayikira kwanu kuti "Akundinyenga" kumachokera pa zenizeni. Malinga ndi Anita, m'munsimu muli zizindikiro zochepa zoti chibwenzi chanu chinakunyengererani:

• Kusintha kwamakhalidwe: Kusintha kwadzidzidzi kwamakhalidwe monga kukhala okhudzidwa kwambiri kapena kutalikirana kungakhale mbendera yofiira
• Kusawonekera: Ngati mwadzidzidzi akuyang'anira foni yake, imelo, kapena ma akaunti ochezera a pa Intaneti, zikhoza kusonyeza kuti akubisa chinachake
• Kuchulukitsa kwachinsinsi: Angayambe kutuluka kaŵirikaŵiri popanda kufotokoza momveka bwino kapena kudziikira kumbuyo akafunsidwa za kumene ali.
• Kupanda chidwi: Akhoza kutaya chidwi ndi zochitika kapena nkhani zomwe kale zinali zofunika kwa nonse, kusonyeza kusakhudzidwa ndi chiyanjano
• Mtunda wamalingaliro: Ubwenzi wanu ukhoza kukhala wapamtima pang'ono ndi zochepa zosonyeza chikondi kapena chidwi chokhalira limodzi
• Ndalama zosadziwika kapena mphatso: Mutha kuwona zolipiritsa zachilendo pamasitetimenti a kirediti kadi kapena kupeza zinthu zomwe zimawoneka ngati mphatso kuchokera kwa wina
• Kusintha kwa mawonekedwe: Mwadzidzidzi kusamala kwambiri kudzikongoletsa, kuvala mosiyana, kapena kuvala zonunkhiritsa kungakhale kuyesa kukopa munthu wina.

Ngati mukuona kuti zizindikirozi n’zogwirizana, mungakhale mukulimbana ndi vuto loti muchite ngati chibwenzi chanu chikuberani. Anita akuti, "Pumirani mozama ndipo yesetsani kusachita mantha. Vomerezani ndi kuvomereza malingaliro anu opwetekedwa mtima ndi achisoni popanda kulingalira. Dziloleni kuti mumve ndi kuwongolera malingalirowo. Tengani nthawi yopenda ubalewo ndi kuzindikira zizindikiro zilizonse zochenjeza kapena zifukwa zomwe zingafunikire kusamalidwa kuti munthu akule."

Ndikofunikira kuti mufikire zonsezi "anandinyenga ndipo ndakhumudwa" ndi mutu womveka bwino kuti musapange zisankho mopupuluma zomwe munganong'oneze nazo bondo.

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2. Kambiranani za kusakhulupirika

Mukasonkhanitsa malingaliro anu ndi umboni, ndi nthawi yoti mukambirane moona mtima ndi chibwenzi chanu. Sankhani nthawi yomwe nonse mukumva kukhala omasuka komanso odekha ndipo mutha kulankhula momasuka popanda zododometsa kapena zododometsa. Khalani owona mtima pamalingaliro anu popanda kukutsutsani. Pewani kulakwa masewera. Ngakhale kuti zochita za bwenzi lanu zinali zolakwika, kuyang’ana pa kudziimba mlandu kapena kubwezera sikungakuthandizeni.

Kwa anthu amene amadzifunsa kuti, “Akundibera. Malinga ndi iye, nayi momwe ndi zomwe muyenera kunena:

• Fotokozani mmene mukumvera pogwiritsira ntchito mawu akuti “Ine,” monga akuti “Ndikumva kuwawidwa mtima kwambiri ndi kuperekedwa kwa zimene zachitikazo.”
• Pewani kusunthitsa mlandu kapena kupanga milandu, ndipo m'malo mwake muziganizira za makhalidwe enaake omwe akweza mbendera zofiira
• Fotokozani nkhawa zanu ndi malingaliro anu komanso zotsatira za zochita zake paubwenzi
• Khalani okonzeka kuyankha kwake - kukana, kukwiya, kapena kuvomereza mokulira, zonse ndizotheka.

Kukambiranaku sikungapereke mayankho onse, koma ndi gawo lofunikira pakuchira ndi kupita patsogolo. Komanso, onetsetsani kuti mwapatsa bwenzi lanu mpata kuti afotokoze. Kumvetsera kungapereke chidziwitso cha khalidwe lawo ndikuthandizani kumvetsa chithunzi chonse. Izi sizikukhululukirira kubera, koma zimatha kumveketsa bwino zomwe zimayambitsa chibwenzicho.

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3. Pezani chithandizo

Ngati mukuganizirabe momwe mungathanirane ndi chibwenzi chobera, ndiye kuti pali yankho limodzi losavuta - kutsamira pa network yanu yothandizira. Kudutsa mu kupweteka kwa kusakhulupirika zitha kukhala zodzipatula komanso zolemetsa, ndichifukwa chake kukhala ndi bwenzi lanu lapamtima kapena okondedwa pafupi ndikofunikira.

Mwachitsanzo, Sarah ananena kuti kukhalapo kwanga kumbali yake, kumumvera, ndi kumpatsa mpata womasuka kuti alankhule, kunam’thandiza kuti asakhale wosungulumwa komanso kuti asamavutike. Anita akuvomereza ndipo akulangiza kuti: “Yesani kulankhula ndi munthu amene mumam’khulupirira monga bwenzi lanu kapena wachibale wanu za zimene zikuchitika. Timavomereza. Ndikofunikira kuti:

• Osatsekereza malingaliro anu. Yesani kulemba zolemba kuti musinthe malingaliro anu
• Lumikizanani ndi gulu lanu lothandizira kapena gulu la anzanu odalirika kapena achibale omwe angakulimbikitseni komanso kumvetsera
• Lingalirani kujowina gulu lothandizira anthu omwe adaberedwa
• Lowani nawo m'magulu a pa intaneti kapena m'mabwalo kuti mulumikizane ndi ena omwe adakumanapo ndi zomwezi

Poyesera kudziwa choti muchite ngati chibwenzi chanu chikuberani, ganizirani kugawana zomwe mwakumana nazo ndi omwe amakuganizirani. Anita anawonjezera kuti: “Kungathandize kuthetsa mkwiyo ndi kukwiyira bwenzi lako chifukwa cha mtendere wamumtima ndi moyo wabwino.

4. Khalani ndi malire

“Ndinapusidwa ndi chibwenzi changa. Nthawi zonse muzidzifunsa mafunso ngati amenewa? Chabwino, choyamba, ikani malamulo ndi malire. Ngati mwaganiza zokhalabe pachibwenzi, ndi bwino kudziikira malire manganso chikhulupiriro ndikuwonetsetsa kuti onse awiri amvetsetsa zomwe wina akuyembekezera kupita patsogolo. Anita anati: “Sankhani zimene mungalole kapena zimene simungalole m’banja mwanu.

Kupanga malire kungawoneke motere:

• Kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima
• Kuwonekera ndi mafoni ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti
• Kufufuza pafupipafupi za momwe mukumvera komanso kusintha kwa ubale
• Mgwirizano wa khalidwe lovomerezeka ndi ophwanya malonda
• Kulumikizana kochepa kapena osalumikizana ndi mnzanuyo

Ndikofunikiranso kukhazikitsa zotsatira ngati malirewa aphwanyidwa. Kumbukirani kuti muli ndi ufulu wodzimva kukhala wotetezeka komanso wolemekezeka muubwenzi wanu.

Ngati mwaganiza zothetsa chibwenzicho

Komabe, ngati mwaganiza zotuluka muubwenzi, ndiye kuti malirewo amasiyana, koma, mwanjira iliyonse, kukhazikitsa zomwezo ndikofunikira kwambiri pamanjenje anu komanso thanzi lanu lonse. Anita akufotokoza kuti: “Kukhoza kupereka mpata kwa mnzawo wosalakwayo kuti adzimveke bwino, ayambenso kudziona kuti ndi wofunika, ndiponso adziteteze kuti asadzavutikenso ndi maganizo awo.” Thanzi labwino. "

Pankhaniyi, muyenera kudziwa momwe mungapitirire chinyengo chibwenzi. Pazifukwa izi, Anita akukulimbikitsani kuti mukhazikitse lamulo loletsa kulumikizana ndi mnzanu yemwe akubera. Iye anati: “Ganizirani za kudzipatula kwa bwenzi lanu lakale kuti mudzipatse mpata kuti muchiritse ndi kupitirizabe.

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5. Dzisamalire

“Ndinapusidwa ndi chibwenzi changa, sindikudziwa choti ndichite! Chabwino, kudzisamalira nokha ndi nsonga yofunika kwambiri ya momwe mungapitirire chinyengo chibwenzi. Wobera mnzake angayambitse kudzikayikira komanso kudzikayikira, zomwe zingawononge thanzi lanu. Mudzasiya kumukhulupirira. Panthawi yovutayi, ndikofunikira kuika patsogolo ubwino wanu. Anita amalimbikitsa kuyeserera kudzikonda ndikuchita zinthu zodzisamalira zomwe zimakubweretserani chimwemwe ndi chitonthozo. Onani kwambiri pa:

• Kudya zakudya zopatsa thanzi
• Kulumikizananso ndi okondedwa
• Kuwona zokonda zomwe mumakonda
• Zochita zolimbitsa thupi
• Kusinkhasinkha komanso kusamala
• Kuwononga nthawi mu chilengedwe

Iye anati: “Sinthani maganizo anu kuti mukhale ndi zolinga zatsopano, kukwaniritsa zofuna zanu, ndi kukhala ndi tsogolo labwino komanso lokhutiritsa.” Pewani kuchita zinthu zosayenera, monga kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa kapena kuchita zinthu zoika moyo pachiswe, kuti mupirire kusokonezeka maganizo chifukwa cha kupwetekedwa mtima. M'malo mwake, ganizirani za moyo wanu wonse. Kuchita zinthu zolimbikitsa kudzikonda ndi kudzisamalira kungathandize kuchilitsa.

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6. Funsani thandizo la akatswiri

Mukuvutika kuti mutani ngati chibwenzi chanu chikukunyengani? Chithandizo chingathandize. Kaya mwasankha kukhalabe kapena kupitilira, chithandizo chamunthu payekha chingakhale chopindulitsa kwambiri. Wothandizira maukwati kapena maubwenzi omwe ali ndi chilolezo akhoza kukupatsani malo otetezeka kuti mufufuze momwe mukumvera komanso kukuthandizani kuthana ndi zotsutsana zanu ndikupanga zisankho zopita patsogolo.

Anita akufotokoza kuti, "Katswiri wodziwa bwino angathe kupereka malo otetezeka komanso osaweruzika kuti munthuyo afufuze malingaliro awo, kukonza kusakhulupirika, ndi kumvetsa zosowa zawo ndi makhalidwe awo abwino. Chithandizo chingawathandize kumvetsetsa zotsatira za kusakhulupirika pa kudzidalira kwawo, nkhani za kukhulupirirana, ndi maubwenzi amtsogolo. Kuwonjezera apo, angawatsogolere pa kuika malire abwino, ndi makhalidwe abwino. kulimbana ndi chisoni ndi kutayika, kukulitsa kulimba mtima, ndi kuwapatsa mphamvu zopanga zisankho zolongosoka za tsogolo lawo.”

Ngati mwaganiza zokhala pachibwenzi, akulangizani kukaonana ndi ochiritsa maanja kuti "akuthandizeni nonse kulankhula zakukhosi kwanu ndikudziwa momwe mungapitirire patsogolo". Wothandizira ubale atha kukuthandizani nonse kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zidayambitsa kusakhulupirika. Atha kuyambitsa zokambirana zomwe zingakhale zovuta kuyenda nokha ndikuthandizira kubwezeretsa chidaliro chomwe chidatayika ngati nonse mutasankha kukhala limodzi.

Katswiri wathu amagawana chitsanzo chenicheni cha momwe chithandizo chingathandizire munthu kuthana ndi chibwenzi chake chobera

Mira, mtsikana wa ku Bengaluru, anadabwa kwambiri atazindikira kuti Ron, mnzake, anali pachibwenzi ndi mnzake wantchito. Monga mkazi wozika mizu mu dongosolo lake lamtengo wapatali ndi chipembedzo, Mira poyamba ankavutika ndi manyazi ndi manyazi chifukwa cha mkhalidwewo, kuopa chiweruzo cha banja lake ndi dera lake.

Komabe, motsogozedwa ndi dokotala wozindikira yemwe amamvetsetsa chikhalidwe chake komanso kulumikizana kwake ndi zipembedzo, Mira adatonthozedwa ndi ziphunzitso za chikhulupiriro chake, zomwe zidatsindika kufunika kwa chikhululukiro ndi chifundo. Popeza mphamvu kuchokera m'malemba ake achipembedzo, adasankha kukumana ndi Ron za kusakhulupirika kwake ndikudzifunira yekha.

Kupyolera mu kusinkhasinkha, Mira adauyamba ulendo wochiritsa ndi kudzizindikira yekha. Masiku ano, amavomereza kuti ndi mkazi wamphamvu komanso wolimba mtima yemwe amamvetsa komanso amadziwa momwe angakhalire pawokha.

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7. Sankhani zomwe zili zabwino kwa inu

Nayi malangizo ofunikira pazomwe mungachite ngati chibwenzi chanu chikuberani - ganizirani zomwe mukufuna. Anita akufotokoza kuti: “Pezani nthawi yoganizira ngati mukufuna kukhalabe pachibwenzi kapena ayi.” Khulupirirani maganizo anu ndipo chitani zomwe zingakuthandizeni.

Tengani nthawi kuti muyese ubwino ndi kuipa kwa kukhalabe kapena kusiya chibwenzicho. Iye akufotokoza kuti: “Dziŵani ngati mnzanuyo alidi wodzimvera chisoni chifukwa cha chinyengo ndipo ali wokonzeka kuchikonza mwa zochita zake kapena ndi njira imene amakonda kutengera.” Ganizirani mmene mungakhululukire ndi kuyambanso kukhulupirirana. Pansipa pali mafunso angapo omwe muyenera kudzifunsa musanapange chisankho:

• Kodi ndimamukondabe mnzanga ngakhale atandipereka?
• Kodi mnzanga ali wokonzeka kusintha ndi kuthetsa mavuto omwe adamupangitsa kuti achite chinyengo?
• Kodi ndikuwona tsogolo pomwe ndingathe kumverera otetezeka mu ubale?

Pamapeto pake, kusankha kukhalabe pachibwenzi kapena kuchithetsa ndi chanu nokha. Ganizirani zikhalidwe zanu, zosowa zanu, ndi malire anu popanga chisankho ichi. Chibwenzi chako chinakunyengerera. Osamva kukakamizidwa kukhala pachibwenzi chomwe sichikutumikiraninso. Mutha kukhala ndi malingaliro ofuna kubwezera ndipo zili bwino, koma kuchitapo kanthu kungatalikitse ululu wanu ndikulepheretsa machiritso anu. Nawa maupangiri angapo omwe angakuthandizeni, kaya mwasankha kukhala kapena kuchoka:

Ngati mwasankha kukhala

• Dziperekeni kulankhulana momasuka ndi kuwonekera.
• Pitirizani kulandira chithandizo kapena uphungu kuti muthetse mavuto omwe ayambitsa.
• Dzipatseni nthawi kuti muchiritse ndikumanganso kukhulupirirana pang'onopang'ono.

Ngati mwaganiza zochoka

• Ganizirani za machiritso anu ndi kudzisamalira.
• Tsatirani dongosolo lanu lothandizira kuti muthandizidwe.
• Ganizirani za chithandizo chothetsera kupatukana ndi kusakhulupirika.

Anita anati: “Kuchira kumafuna nthaŵi ndi kuleza mtima. Kumbukirani, muyenera kukhala mu a ubale wabwino kumene mumaona kuti ndinu wolemekezeka komanso wofunika.

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Maganizo Final

"Mnyamata wanga adandinyenga." Kuzindikira kumeneku kungakhale kowononga, koma kudziwa zoyenera kuchita ngati chibwenzi chanu chikubera kungakupatseni mphamvu kuti muzitha kulamulira moyo wanu komanso moyo wanu. Kaya mumasankha kukhalabe ndikuthana ndi zovutazo kapena kupitilira, kuika patsogolo thanzi lanu lamalingaliro ndi kudzikonda ndikofunikira. Kumbukirani kuti simuli nokha, ndipo pali zothandizira ndi chithandizo chomwe chilipo kuti chikuthandizeni panthawi yovutayi.

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