"Zonse zili m'mutu mwanu." "Sindinanenepo zimenezo." "Zinali nthabwala chabe." Pamene mnzanu wapamtima akugwiritsa ntchito mawu owoneka ngati opanda pake kuti akukaneni inu zenizeni kapena kusokoneza malingaliro anu, zingakusiyeni mukukayikira bungwe lanu. Kugwiritsiridwa ntchito kwa mawu owutsa gasi oterowo m’maubwenzi kungawononge maganizo a munthu amene akulandirako. Kuyatsa gasi ndizovuta zamaganizidwe zomwe zimachitika ndi cholinga chokhacho chofuna kulamulira ndikudzimva kukhala wamphamvu kuposa winayo.
Ndi mtundu wankhanza wamalingaliro womwe ungathe kusokoneza thanzi lamunthu pakulandira. Nthawi zambiri chida chokonda cha anthu opusitsa - narcissists, makamaka - mawu owunikira magetsi amagwiritsidwa ntchito kupangitsa chisokonezo, kuwongolera munthu, ndikuwononga kudzidalira kwawo.
Popeza kudzidzimutsa maganizo kungachititse munthu kukayikira zomwe akumva zenizeni, osatha kusiyanitsa zoona ndi zongopeka, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuchita masewerawa. Ndicho chifukwa chake, tikulemba mawu 25 odzidzimutsa maganizo, pokambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Juhi Pandey (MA Psychology), yemwe ndi katswiri pa nkhani ya chibwenzi, ukwati usanalowe m'banja, kusudzulana, ndi uphungu wokhudza nkhanza paubwenzi, kuti muzindikire anthu onyenga komanso ozunza maganizo - ndikusiya.
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Tisanafufuze mawu ena omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri okhudza kuunikira gasi, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la kuunikira gasi komanso momwe kumaonekera muubwenzi wapamtima kuti mumvetse bwino momwe chizolowezichi chingawonongere. Ndiye, kodi kuunikira gasi muubwenzi n'chiyani ? Mawu akuti kuunikira gasi akuchokera mu sewero la Gas Light, lomwe linapangidwa mu 1938, lomwe pambuyo pake linasinthidwa kukhala filimu. Limafotokoza nkhani yakuda ya ukwati wozikidwa pa chinyengo pomwe mwamuna amagwiritsa ntchito mabodza, mawu opotoka, ndi chinyengo kuti apangitse mkazi wake misala kuti athe kumubera.
Kuunikira magetsi ndi njira yochitira nkhanza zamaganizo ndi chinyengo chomwe chimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi mnzanu wozunza ndi cholinga chokha cholamulira wozunzidwayo mwa kumupangitsa kukayikira momwe amaonera zenizeni, ndipo motero, kuwadzaza ndi kudzikayikira. Juhi akuti, "Zochita za wounikira magetsi sizingayambitse vuto poyamba. Komabe, pakapita nthawi, khalidwe lozunzali lingapangitse wozunzidwayo kumva kusokonezeka, kuda nkhawa, kudzipatula, komanso kuvutika maganizo."
Cholinga chachikulu apa ndikupeza mphamvu zonse pa wozunzidwayo, kupangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuwasokoneza ndikuwongolera ubale womwe ukugwirizana ndi zosowa za wozunzidwayo. Mutha kuwona momwe zingakhalire zowononga kukhala ndi mnzanu woyatsa gasi kapena mnzanu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kudziwa za njira zawo zopusitsira anthu ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yodzitetezera.
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Kodi ndi zitsanzo ziti zogwiritsa ntchito gaslighting? Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji ngati wina akundiwotcha? Kodi ndingayankhire bwanji zoneneza zomwe mnzanga amakumana nazo pa ine? Ngati muli ndi mafunso ngati amenewa, mwina mungaone kuti pali zinazake zosokoneza mmene mnzanuyo amapotolera mawu anu ndi kuwagwiritsa ntchito motsutsana nanu kapena amadalira mawu achipongwe, mawu achipongwe, kapena kukana mosapita m’mbali kuti apewe kuyankha pa zochita zawo.
Kukuthandizani kuti muwone ngati mukukayikira ndikumvetsetsa ngati mukuyendetsedwa ndi anzanu, tiyeni tiwone mawu 25 owunikira omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri paubwenzi:
1. “Lekani kudzikayikira”
Munthu amene amakonda kupeŵa kudziona ngati wosafunika kwenikweni sangakulole kuti mugonjetse kudziona ngati wosafunika chifukwa kukayikira kumeneku m'mutu mwanu kumakwaniritsa cholinga chake. Ndipotu, mnzanuyo angamudyetse. Ngati mutamufunsa nkhawa, m'malo mounika khalidwe lake, adzakuganizirani. Kuimba mlandu kudziona ngati wosafunika kwenikweni pa vuto lililonse lomwe lilipo kungamuthandize kuti apewe khalidwe lake loipa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake iyi ndi mawu ofala kwambiri opeŵa kudziona ngati wosafunika kwenikweni omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito muubwenzi.
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2. “Ndiwe wongopeka mtima”
Mawu ena omwe amakonda kwambiri omwe ali ndi umunthu wopepuka. Juhi anati: “Nthawi zambiri oyatsira mafuta amakana zimene agwidwa akuchita. Ndipo ndi njira yabwino iti yochitira izi kuposa kukupatsirani mlandu pokuyitanani kuti ndinu wosatekeseka ndi kunyalanyaza kukayikira kwanu ngati kuti ndi lingaliro lopanda pake lomwe siliyenera kunyalanyazidwa? Pamodzi ndi mawu akuti "Ukungoyang'ana", "Ukuwerenga kwambiri" kapena "sindikudziwa momwe ndingayankhire pazifukwa zodziwikiratu" ndi mawu omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri paubwenzi.
3. “Ndiwe wotengeka mtima kwambiri”
Iyi ndi imodzi mwa mawu ofala kwambiri omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi munthu woyatsa gasi ndipo imasonyeza kuti alibe chifundo . Cholinga cha mawu osavuta oterewa ndikukupangitsani kuona momwe mukumvera ngati chizindikiro cha kufooka kapena chinthu choti muchite manyazi nacho. Zimene mungachite zingakhale zomveka, koma munthu woyatsa gasi adzakupangitsani kumva mosiyana. Mukapitiriza kumva mawu otere oyatsa gasi, zidzakulepheretsani kusonyeza momwe mukumvera mtsogolo.
4. “Chonde siyani kukhala odabwitsa”
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo tingachipeze powerenga gaslighting mu ubwenzi kuti makamaka analunjika kwa akazi. Malinga ndi Juhi, akazi amawotchedwa ndi gasi nthawi zambiri kuposa amuna. Iye anati: “M’madera ambiri mmene muli amuna ambiri, akazi amaleredwa m’njira yoti amaphunzira kuika maganizo a anthu ena pamalo oyamba m’malo mwa iwo okha, ndipo zimenezi zimawapangitsa kuti azivutika kwambiri ndi magetsi.” Apanso, cholinga ndikuletsa kuyankha kwanu pazochitikazo pozipangitsa kuwoneka ngati kuchita mopambanitsa.
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5. "Ukungopanga izi"
Iyi ndi mawu akale oti mumvetsetse kugwirizana kwa kudzikuza ndi kudzikuza. Munthu wodzikonda amasangalala akamanyalanyaza malingaliro anu, ndipo palibe chomwe chimakwaniritsa cholinga chake kuposa kugwiritsa ntchito mawu odzikuza muubwenzi. Kwa iwo kuthana ndi mikangano yaubwenzi sikutanthauza kuthetsa mikangano kapena kuthetsa vuto lomwe lilipo koma kutsimikizira kuti ali olondola ndipo inu mukulakwitsa. "Sindikutsutsana, ndikufotokoza chifukwa chake ndili wolondola" ndi mawu a munthu wodzikonda, ndipo kupangitsa funso lanu kukhala loona kuti ndi lolondola ndi khalidwe lawo loipa likugwirizana bwino ndi nkhaniyi.
6. “Lekani kuyerekeza zinthu!
Narcissist gaslighting mawu ngati awa akhoza kukhala owopsa kwambiri ndipo angayambitse kusokonezeka kwa chidziwitso mwa munthu woyatsidwa ndi gasi. Mwa kusokoneza malingaliro anu, mawuwa atha kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wamng'ono komanso wamisala wamalire. Akagwiritsidwa ntchito mobwerezabwereza, mawu ounikira gasiwa amatha kupangitsa wozunzidwayo kusiya kukhulupirira zikhulupiriro ndi malingaliro awo. Chifukwa cha mphamvu yake, imatha kulembedwa kuti ndi imodzi mwamawu abwino kwambiri owunikira gasi, makamaka kuchokera pamalingaliro a gaslighter popeza imagwira ntchito yawo ku T.
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7. “Izi sizinachitike”
Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zodziwika bwino za kugwidwa ndi gasi ndichakuti wozunza amajambula wozunzidwayo ngati munthu wokhala ndi malingaliro amphamvu kotero kuti amatha kupanga nkhani zovuta mopanda pake. Ndipo mawu awa ndi chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri cha momwe zimaonekera, zomwe zimapangitsa wozunzidwayo kumva ngati wamisala pokhulupirira kuti china chake chachitika pamene mnzake akukana kwathunthu. Awa angawoneke ngati mawu atatu osavuta, koma akagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zonse, amatha kukhala chida chochitira nkhanza kwambiri zamaganizo.
8. “Ukungoganiza mopambanitsa”
Mawu awa ndi njira yopewera kukambirana nkhani ina. N'zosavuta kupewa khalidwe loipa mukapangitsa winayo kukhulupirira kuti kupanga zinthu kukhala nkhani yaikulu kuposa iwo. Ngati mumakonda kuganiza mopitirira muyeso, mawu ngati awa angakupangitseni kusokonezeka ndi kutsimikizika kwa malingaliro anu, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ikhale imodzi mwa zitsanzo zoyipa kwambiri za mawu onyoza muubwenzi.
9. “Lekani kukokomeza!”
Ngati mukukhala ndi gaslighter, mumamva mawu ngati awa nthawi zambiri. Mnzanu woyatsa gasi/mnzanu mosakayika adzanyalanyaza nkhawa zanu ngati zazing'ono komanso mokokomeza, zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva ngati munthu woyipa chifukwa chowombera nkhani mosagwirizana. Ngakhale kukumbukira kwanu kwa chochitikacho sikunakokomeke, tanthauzo lotereli lingakupangitseni kudzikayikira nokha. Mwa mawu onse owunikira gasi amakugwiritsani ntchito, iyi ikhoza kukhala imodzi mwazowopsa kwambiri. Mwayi wake, mnzanuyo akudziwa kuti simukukokomeza nkomwe ndipo amagwiritsabe ntchito mawu oterowo kukusiyani muli ndi chikaiko.
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10. “Lekani kuchita zinthu monyanyira”
Kodi kunyoza munthu kumatanthauza chiyani, mukufunsa? Chabwino, chilichonse chomwe cholinga chake ndi kufooketsa malingaliro anu chingaganizidwe ngati chitsanzo cha kunyoza munthu ndipo mawu awa akugwirizana ndi zomwe akunena. Munthu wodzikonda kapena wokonda anthu ena anganene zinthu zopweteka kwambiri ndipo adzachita zonse zomwe angathe kuti wozunzidwayo amve mosiyana. Nthawi ina munthu wina akagwiritsa ntchito izi pa inu, dzifunseni chifukwa chake simuyenera kutenga chinthu mozama ngati chikukuvutitsani maganizo. Ngati chikukuvutitsani, ndi chovuta. Zosavuta choncho.
11. “Phunzirani kuchita nthabwala”
Chitsanzo cha gaslighting ndi pamene wokuchitirani nkhanza akunena zinthu zopweteka kapena kukukhumudwitsani chifukwa cha mawu ndi zochita zawo, ndipo kenako amazipereka ngati nthabwala. Mwachitsanzo, anganene zinthu zoipa zokhudza maonekedwe anu, mmene mumavalira, mmene mumaonera zinthu, ngakhalenso zimene mwakwanitsa kuchita. Chikakukwiyitsani, amachitcha nthabwala yopanda vuto kapena chipongwe. Mawu otanthauza kunyalanyaza mawu osakhudzidwa ndi nkhani ngati nthabwala amayenerera kukhala zitsanzo za mawu osawoneka bwino owunikira gasi.
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12. “Ukungondimvetsa zolinga Zanga”.
Izi ndi mtundu wa zinthu zomwe munthu wa narcissist anganene pokangana kapena kuthana ndi mkangano wamtundu uliwonse. Kuti alepheretse udindo wawo, amalemba mwaluso vuto lililonse chifukwa cha kusamvetsetsana. "Izi si zomwe ndimatanthauza." "Mukuchita zinthu molakwika." “Umo si momwe ndinanenera.” Zitsanzo zotere za kuyatsa gasi paubwenzi zimagwira ntchito bwino pothandiza wozunza kusamba m'manja kuti asayankhe chilichonse pazochita zawo.
Juhi akufotokoza kuti: “Okhulupirira mankhwala ogodomalitsa ndi ochiritsira maganizo ali ndi chizoloŵezi chopeka ndi kuloŵerera m’mabodza ambiri oyera.
13. “Ukuchita nsanje yosayenera”
Kuti munthu amve kufunika ndi kulamulira muubwenzi, munthu wodzikonda angachititse munthu wozunzidwayo kukhala ndi nsanje mwadala. Amasangalala ndi kutsimikiziridwa mwamphamvu pogwiritsa ntchito njira imeneyi. Imalimbikitsa kudzidalira kwawo pamene akunyalanyaza kupweteka komwe angakupangitseni. Mwa mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kunyoza muubwenzi, iyi ndiyo njira yonyenga kwambiri. Juhi akunena kuti munthu wonyenga kapena wozunza angagwiritse ntchito mawu otere chifukwa amasangalala ndi kudalira kwa mnzake pa iwo.
14. “Siine vuto, ndiwe”
Izi ziyenera kukhala mawu owopsa kwambiri pamaubwenzi omwe munthu woyatsa gasi amatha kuwonetsa zovuta zawo kwa wozunzidwayo. Wozunzidwayo amakakamizika kukayikira maganizo awo, zochita zawo, ndi malingaliro awo nthaŵi zonse. Mawu a mbendera yofiyira monga iyi amagwiritsidwa ntchito kudzudzula anthu ena ndi kuwapangitsa kudzikayikira. Wokondedwa wanu wanzeru amadziwa kuti malinga ngati akudzifunsani nokha, adzatha kuchita chilichonse chimene akuchita.
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15. “Mulibe kukhazikika m’maganizo”
Chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zopweteka kwambiri za kukwiya kwa muukwati chimasonyeza nkhanza zamaganizo zomwe zimafala chifukwa zimaukira mkhalidwe wa munthu wosatetezeka kwambiri. Muubwenzi wachikondi, okwatirana ayenera kukhala okhoza kulekerera ndikukhala osatetezeka kwa wina ndi mnzake. Komabe, pamene zinthu zomwe zimagawidwa panthawi ya kusatetezeka zikugwiritsidwa ntchito motsutsana nanu kuti mufunse za kukhazikika kwanu kwa malingaliro, zingakhale zovulaza kwambiri zomwe zingakusiyeni mukukumana ndi mavuto ambiri okhudzana ndi kudalirana.
16. “Ichi sichinali cholinga changa, siya Kundidzudzula”.
Sikuti zimasiyana kwenikweni ndi mawu akuti, “Onani zomwe mwandipangitsa kuchita,” cholinga chake ndi kuchepetsa mkwiyo pa wozunzayo ndikupereka mlandu kwa wozunzidwayo. Mawu owopsa ngati awa angapangitse munthu amene ali pachibwenzi chozunzayo kukhulupirira kuti ali ndi udindo pa momwe wokondedwa wake wakhala akumuchitira kapena kuti akachitiridwa nkhanza, “akupempha” mwanjira ina. Izi sizingangowononga ubale wanu komanso zimayambitsa mabala akuya omwe angapangitse kuti zikhale zovuta kusiya kusokonezana ndi nkhanza.
17. "Ndikuganiza kuti mukufuna thandizo"
Kutcha munthu misala ndiko kuyatsa gasi, ndipo zikutsimikiziranso kuti zomwe munthu amachita komanso momwe amamvera zitha kukhala chifukwa cha zovuta zamaganizidwe - pomwe sizili choncho. Mawu odziwika bwino owunikira gasi ngati awa amafuna kutsimikizira kuti pali china chake cholakwika ndi inu ndikukupangitsani kukayikira zamisala yanu. Ngakhale malingaliro anu ali olimba, mawu ngati awa angakupangitseni kumverera ngati chinachake sichili bwino ndi inu - makamaka ngati chikugwiritsidwa ntchito mobwerezabwereza kusokoneza zonse zomwe mukuchita ndi mayankho anu.
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18. "Ingoiwala za izo tsopano"
Kupewa kuthetsa mavuto ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu za ubale wosakhazikika. Mukakhala paubwenzi ndi mnzanu woopsa, izi zimakhala zenizeni. Amagwiritsa ntchito mawu ena abwino kwambiri owunikira kuti athetse mavuto ndikukukakamizani kuti muyerekeze kuti zonse zili bwino muubwenzi wanu. Izi zingakhudze momwe mumaganizira ndikukusiyani osakhazikika. Kumbukirani, palibe wina amene ayenera kusankha zomwe muyenera "kuiwala" ndi zomwe muyenera kuziganizira.
19. “Inu mukuikumbukira molakwika”.
Inde, anthu amene amayatsa gasi angakuchititseni manyazi. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zoopsa kwambiri za gaslighting mu ubwenzi chifukwa akhoza kusiya maganizo anu zenizeni molakwika pokakamiza inu kukumbukira zinthu mosiyana ngakhale mukanakhoza kulumbira zimene anaona ndi kumva kuti n'zoona. Mukakumana ndi mawu oterowo muubwenzi, ngakhale anthu odzidalira kwambiri amatha kukayikira okha.
20. “Bwerani, lekani kuchita zinthu zazikulu”
Juhi akuwonetsa kuti, "Owunikira gasi amakonda kukhala odzitchinjiriza komanso odziwa kupeputsa nkhani iliyonse yomwe anzawo angabweretse." Ananenanso kuti amakonda kukhalabe okanira ndikuyembekezera zomwezo kwa anzawo, chifukwa zimakwaniritsa cholinga chawo chopewa kuyankha.
21. “Aliyense avomerezana nane”.
Mawu oyatsa gasiwa amagwira ntchito mwangwiro kulepheretsa zodetsa nkhawa za wozunzidwayo, malingaliro ake, ndi malingaliro ake, powapangitsa kukhala osungulumwa. Wokondedwa wanu angagwiritse ntchito malingaliro a anthu omwe mumawakhulupirira ndi kuwalemekeza kuti apititse patsogolo kudzikayikira komwe adakuikani mwa inu nthawi zonse kumakupangitsani kukayikira chiweruzo chanu ndi kutsimikizika kwa malingaliro anu. Izi, nazonso, zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuwona chinyengo chomwe chikusewera.
22. "N'chifukwa chiyani simungakhale ngati X?"
Wowunikira gasi angagwiritse ntchito mafananidwe kuti awononge kudzidalira kwanu ndikukupangitsani kudziona kuti ndinu osafunika paubwenzi. Kukufunsani kuti mukhale ngati bwenzi, mchimwene wanu, kapena mnzako wantchito ndi njira yonenera kuti simuli bwino. Kwa munthu amene akuyatsidwa ndi gasi, yemwe wayamba kale kudziona kuti ndi wosafunika, izi zikhoza kukhala zopweteka kwambiri zomwe zingawapangitse kudziona ngati osayenera komanso kuti wokondedwa wawo amawachitira zabwino posankha kukhala naye paubwenzi.
23. “Ndithunji mukunditsutsa zimenezo!
Mawu awa ndi chitsanzo cha njira ya DARVO - Kukana, Kuukira, Kubwezera Wozunzidwa & Wolakwa - yomwe imagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri ndi ozunza odzikonda. Mawu oterewa onyoza mpweya cholinga chake ndi kutembenuza zinthu mwa kukupangitsani kukankhira pambali mavuto omwe mwina akukuvutitsani ndikuyang'ana kwambiri pakukonza zinthu ndi mnzanu.
24. “Kodi sindikuloledwa kukhala ndi maganizo oipa pa inu?
Apanso, cholinga cha woyatsa gasi pano ndikukupangitsani kuti muwoneke ngati munthu woipa ndikudziwonetsa ngati wozunzidwa. Mawu otere angakupangitseni kufunsa kuti, "Kodi ndi kunyansidwa ngati mnzanga akundipangitsa kumva ngati munthu woipa?" Ndipo yankho ndi inde. Ngati m'malo mopepesa za makhalidwe okhumudwitsa monga kukwiya, kupsa mtima, kufuula, kutukwana , kapena kungokhala chete, mnzanuyo akukupangitsani kumva chisoni chifukwa chosamupatsa mpata woti afotokoze maganizo ake oipa, ndithudi ndi chizindikiro chofiira.
25. “Kuyatsa gasi sizoona kuti wapenga basi”
Mutaphunzira nokha za ntchito zamkati za gaslighting maubwenzi, ngati inu kukopa chidwi mnzanuyo chakuti iwo ntchito mawu awo kusokoneza ndi kulamulira inu, ndipo iwo amayankha ndi chinachake chonga ichi, ganizirani chenjezo chizindikiro kuti muyenera kuchoka pa ubwenzi kuti mudziteteze.
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Tsopano popeza mutha kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la kuyatsa kwa gasi mumaubwenzi ndikuzindikira kuti ndi zomwe mwakhala mukukumana nazo, tikukayikira kuti pali funso lina m'mutu mwanu: momwe mungayankhire pakuyatsa gasi? Juhi anati: “Chiyambi chabwino chingakhale kusiya kupatsa mnzanu amene akukuvutitsaniyo umboni woti akufunika kuti nkhanzazi zipitirire.Nawa malangizo amomwe mungathanirane ndi kuyatsa gasi muubwenzi:
- Pewani kuyanjana ndi mnzanu akamagwiritsa ntchito njira zoyatsira gasi
- Tsatirani mnzanu wodalirika kuti akuthandizeni ndikupempha kuti atsimikizire kuti zenizeni zenizeni
- Yambani kusunga mbiri ya zochitika - zolemba zamakalata, makanema ndi zojambulira zomvera - kuti muthane ndi kuwunika kwa gas ndi zowona.
- Musalole kuti mnzanuyo atsogolere kukambirana kumene angakugwetseni pansi pa dzenje la kalulu lodzikayikira.
- Zikatero, siyani kukambiranako. Ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa ndikukhazikitsa malire ndi choyatsira gasi
- Yankhani ku mawu ounikira ndi mawu monga akuti “Musandiuze mmene ndikumvera”, “Ndikudziwa zimene ndinaona”, “Zomwe ndimamva ndiponso zimene ndakumana nazo n’zachidziwikire.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kuyatsa gasi kumatanthauza kukana zenizeni za munthu ndi cholinga chowapangitsa kuti adzifunse zomwe akumva, zomwe akumana nazo komanso momwe akumvera.
- Ndi njira yonyenga yowopsa yomwe nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito anthu omwe ndimawakonda komanso anthu omwe amakonda nkhanza.
- "Sizimene zidachitikazi", "Lekani kukokomeza", "Phunzirani kuchita nthabwala" - mawu ngati awa, omwe cholinga chake ndi kusokoneza malingaliro anu ndi zomwe mukuchita ndi ena mwa mawu omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito poyatsa mpweya.
- Njira yabwino yothanirana nazo ndikuzindikira mawonekedwe, kusiya, kulimbikitsa chowonadi chanu, ndikuyang'anizana ndi chowunikira ndi umboni ndi mawu otsutsa.
Kupatula kukhala chida chowongolera ndi kuwongolera, kuyatsa gasi kungakhalenso chizindikiro kuti mnzanuyo akulimbana ndi vuto lamalingaliro. Juhi anati, “Anthu amene ali ndi vuto la umunthu, monga matenda a narcissistic personality disorder kapena antisocial personality disorder, kaŵirikaŵiri amagwiritsira ntchito kuunika kwa gasi monga njira yolamulira ena.” Ngati mupeza kuti mawu oterowo akuwopsyeza, dziwani kuti ubale wanu ndi woyipa kwambiri. Zili ndi inu kuti muwone ngati mukufuna kukhalabe ndikupeza njira yokonzetsera mgwirizanowu kapena kuchokapo chifukwa cha thanzi lanu komanso thanzi lanu.
Nkhaniyi idasinthidwa mu Epulo 2023.
Ibibazo
Kuyatsa gasi muubwenzi kungaphatikizepo chilichonse kuyambira mawu achipongwe, mawu achipongwe, nthabwala zopweteka, ndi mabodza osatsutsika, zomwe cholinga chake ndi kuyambitsa chikayikiro m'malingaliro a munthu pa zomwe amakumbukira, kuchita bwino, komanso kudzidalira.
Njira zowunikira gasi zimatanthawuza chinyengo chogwiritsidwa ntchito ndi mnzake womuchitira nkhanza ndi cholinga chokhacho chowongolera wozunzidwayo powapangitsa kukayikira momwe amaonera zenizeni, motero, kuwadzaza ndi kudzikayikira.
Mukudziwa kuti mumanyozedwa pamene wina akukuimbani mlandu, amakudzudzulani mopambanitsa pa chilichonse chimene mukuchita, amakayikira chilichonse chimene mukuchita, ndipo amakukayikirani kuti ndinu munthu wabwinobwino.
Inde, kuyatsa gasi kungakhale mwangozi, kapena chifukwa cha machitidwe omwe munthu sangadziwe. Mawu ngati “simungachite nthabwala” kapena “mukuchita nsanje mosayenera” kaŵirikaŵiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito m’mikangano ngati njira yodzitetezera m’malo ngati njira yokanira munthu zenizeni zake .
Kuwala kwa gasi muubwenzi kumadziwika ndi wolakwirayo pogwiritsa ntchito mawu, mawu, ndi ziganizo zosiyanasiyana kuti atsutse zenizeni za wozunzidwayo. Kuchokera pakulankhula mawu achipongwe ngati nthabwala mpaka kunena kuti wozunzidwayo akufunika kuthandizidwa ndi thanzi lawo lamaganizidwe kapena kuwapangitsa kudzifunsa zomwe amakumbukira, wowunikira mpweya amatha pang'onopang'ono kudzaza wozunzidwayo ndi kudzikayikira kwambiri kotero kuti sangathenso kudalira malingaliro awo.
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