Momwe mungapulumuke zaka 7 zaukwati… muyenera kukhala mukudabwa chifukwa chake nambalayi. Zadzutsa chidwi mwa inu ndi kukubweretsani kuno, sichoncho? Nanga bwanji nambala 7 yomwe ili yofunika kwambiri m'mabanja? Chabwino, chabwino. Kodi mudamvapo za zaka 7 za kuyabwa m'mabanja? Zaka zingapo zoyambirira za m’banja nthawi zambiri zimakhala zabwino pamene inu nonse mukukula limodzi. Koma kudula kwa 7th chaka, ndipo inu mwadzidzidzi anapeza nokha mu zaka zovuta kwambiri m'banja.
Ndipo tili ndi maphunziro otsimikizira izi. Mukudabwa kuti chaka chachitatu chaukwati wanu chimamveka bwanji ngati chisangalalo, ngakhale kuti panjira pali mwana wolira? Chabwino, Malinga ndi kafukufuku watsopano ndi kampani yamalamulo yaku UK Slater & Gordon, okwatirana amakhala osangalala kwambiri m'moyo wawo chaka chachitatu cha chikondi. Koma ndiye, funso lina limabweranso. Kodi chaka chovuta kwambiri m'banja ndi chiyani?
Kuti tidziwe nthawiyi ndi mafunso ena onse okhudzana ndi ukwati ndi moyo, tili ndi zoyankhulana zosangalatsa za inu pano.
Dr. Kalpana Khatwani, katswiri wa zamaganizo wodziwika bwino, akuyankha funso lofunika kwambiri ili - kodi zaka 7 zoyambirira zaukwati zimapita bwanji; zimatheka bwanji? Ndipo ndi zaka ziti zovuta kwambiri zaukwati? Werengani kuti mudziwe.
Zaka 7 Zaukwati - Kodi Kwenikweni Chimachitika N'chiyani?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Zosangalatsa pambuyo pake zomwe mumawona m'mafilimu siziri momwe moyo umakhalira ... konse. Inde, chikondi, kulimbikira ndi ulemu muubwenzi zidakalipo. Koma pali mitundu yambiri ya mankhwala, kusintha kwa nthawi, ndi zovuta kwambiri kugwirira ntchito pamoyo ndi ana, zomwe pamapeto pake zimatenga ulamuliro.
Zaka 7 zoyambirira zaukwati zimasintha panjira yodziwika bwino ndipo ndizomwe tikambirana lero. M’mafunso ndi mayankhidwe awa ndi Dr. Khatwani, tiyeni timvetsetse mmene banja limapitira m’mabvuto ake. Tiyeni tilowe mkati.
1. Kodi mumawona bwanji chikondi chikutumikira m'banja, makamaka m'mabanja achikondi? Ndipo tanthauzo la ukalamba wa mahomoni ndi chiyani?
Choyamba, pali kugwa kwa chikondi, chomwe ndi njira ya mankhwala - endorphins, oxytocin, etc. Chilichonse chimakhala chochuluka pachiyambi. Zimenezo sizingakhale kwamuyaya. Pali anthu omwe amatha zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri mpaka zisanu ndi zitatu. Kafukufuku wanga akuti zimatenga zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, mpaka banja litakhazikitsidwa ndipo ana ang'onoang'ono asamalidwa bwino, ndiye kuti ma hormone amatsika. Ndicho chifukwa chake zaka zovuta kwambiri zaukwati zimayamba pambuyo pa chaka cha 7. Ndipo kwenikweni, chisinthiko chatsimikizira kuti zimenezo zimachitika. Choncho mpaka mahomoni amatha, banjali limakhala limodzi. Ndicho chimene kukalamba kwa mahomoni kumakhudza.
Tiyerekeze kuti muli ndi ana m’zaka ziwiri zoyambirira za m’banja, ndiye kuti mwanayo adzakhala ndi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi kapena zisanu ndi ziŵiri hormone isanagwe, mpaka pamenepo mwanayo wasamalidwa kale. Ndondomeko ya kugwa mchikondi imayendetsedwa ndi mahomoni okha. Izo ndi kwathunthu zamoyo. Ndiye pali kukhalabe m'chikondi ndi zonse zomwe zimatha zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri mpaka zisanu ndi zitatu. Pambuyo pake, zovuta za ubale wazaka 7 zitha kubwera.
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2. Chifukwa cha kusintha kwa mahomoni, mwana mmodzi kapena awiri, mumangomaliza. Ndiyeno nchiyani chimachitika?
Kenako timadzi timadontha. Kenako pamabwera gawo lotsatira kuti muwone ngati munthuyo amakondadi mnzakeyo kapena ayi. Tsopano timafika pakuwona munthu weniweni, mahomoni akagwa. Ndi nthawi iyi pamene anthu ambiri amabwera kwa ife. The 7-year kuyabwa kwenikweni ndi ichi. M'zaka zingapo zoyambirira, zambiri kugonana kwakukulu zimachitika ndipo pamene kugonana kukuchitika, zowonjezereka za mankhwalawa zimapangidwira. Oxytocin imapangidwa ndipo muli pamwamba. Mwalumikizana m'chiuno. Amenewo ndi masiku osangalatsa a zaka 7 zoyambirira za ukwati. Ndiye pang'onopang'ono, simukhalanso m'chiuno, ndipo ndi kusintha kwa mahomoni, ukwati wanu umasinthanso.
“Si zaka zomwe zimakhala zovuta, koma ndi momwe mumachitira nazo ndizofunikira.
Munthu aliyense amayamba kudzipezera yekha udindo wake pakuchita izi. Kawirikawiri, amayi amapita kukalera ana, kubwereranso ku chiyanjano ndi atsikana ena, ndipo amuna amapita kumalo awoawo, kupita kunja, kupanga ndalama. Ndiye musanadziwe, pali danga lalikulu kwambiri pakati pa awiriwo. Ndi pamene iwo amabwera kwa ife, asing'anga. Mkaziyo akuti mwamunayo ali wotanganidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito yake. Ndipo mwamunayo akuti mkazi wanga amakhala wotanganidwa ndi ana.
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3. Ndiye sazindikira kuti chifukwa cha mavuto a m'banja ndi ana, iwo akulekana?
Ayi, satero, chifukwa amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi zinthu zawozawo. Sazindikira n’komwe kuti zaka zowawa kwambiri zaukwati zafika pa iwo.
Kachiwiri, pamene kuthamanga kwa mahomoni kumatsika, munthu weniweni wamkati amayamba kudziulula, ndipo posakhalitsa, mikangano ya ubale kuyamba. Zimenezi zimawachititsa kutalikirana kwambiri m’zaka 7 zaukwati zimenezi. Kwa ife, mphamvu ya ubale imatsimikiziridwa osati ndi kusiyana pakati pa awiriwa, koma ndi momwe amathetsera kusiyana kwawo. Zimenezi n’zofunika kwambiri kuti banja likhale lolimba.
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4. Kodi ndewuzi ndi za chiyani?
Mavuto a banja ndi ana ndi ochuluka paokha. Palinso zinthu zina. Mkazi anganene kuti: “Tili ndi banja lathu tsopano. Ndipo mwamunayo anganene kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani umakhala pa foni nthawi zonse? kucheza ndi anzanu? Chifukwa chiyani muyenera kugula kwambiri, chifukwa chiyani mumayenera kukhala pafoni kwambiri, chifukwa chiyani mabilu awa ali okwera monga momwe alili?
Ngakhale onse awiri akugwira ntchito, mafoni ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti akubweretsa mavuto ambiri.
5. Ndiye pambuyo pa zaka 7 zaukwati, kugwa m'chikondi kwenikweni kumachitika?
Osati kwenikweni; iyi ndi nthawi yomwe ubale umayesedwa kwambiri, kwenikweni.
Panthawiyi, mahomoni sakutithandizanso, ndichifukwa chake zaka zovuta kwambiri zaukwati zimayamba. Zili ngati kusintha kwa msambo pamene estrogen satithandizanso ndipo timakhala osasangalala. Mavuto a ubale wazaka 7 tsopano akudziwonetsera okha. Kukhazikika kwenikweni kwa ubale kudzakhala pambuyo potha kuthana ndi zovuta zina zazikulu - abwenzi anu, kumwa kwanu, makolo anu, makolo anga, tikhoza kukangana m'njira zabwino, ndi zina zotero.
Chilichonse chitha kuthetsedwa ngati mutachiyandikira bwino. Palibe kutchula mayina, osadzitchinjiriza, ayi miyala, palibe kutsutsa - ndiye mutha kuthetsa kusiyana kulikonse.
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Ukwati ukhoza kukhala msewu wa miyala, ndi chinthu chomwe tonse timachidziwa bwino. Koma ndani adadziwa kuti zitha kukhala zambiri zokhudzana ndi biology yanu? Ndizidziwitso izi, tsopano mukumvetsetsa bwino komanso yankho kumavuto anu azaka zisanu ndi ziwiri. Komanso, ngati mutatha zaka 7 m'banja mwazindikira kuti zinthu sizikuyenda bwino, musade nkhawa. Gulu laukadaulo la akatswiri a Bonobology ndi a dinani kutali.
Ibibazo
1. Kodi chaka cha 7 chaukwati ndi chovuta kwambiri?
Osati kwenikweni koma zikhoza kudziwika ndi kusintha kwakukulu. Kusintha pambuyo pa ukwati m'chaka choyamba ndi chinthu chimodzi. Koma pambuyo pa zaka 7 zaukwati, nkhani zatsopano zimawonekera. Popeza ma hormoni athu akusewera, biology yathu imasinthanso makamaka pamene '7-year itch Lingaliro la ukwati limayamba kugwira ntchito.
2. N’cifukwa ciani zaka zoyambilila za cikwati nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta?
Zaka zoyambirira zimaphatikizapo kusinthana ndi moyo wa wina ndi mzake, kuyang'anira zoyembekeza, ndi kuphunzira kulankhulana kothandiza. Kusintha ku maudindo omwe amagawana nawo ndikugwirizanitsa zolinga kungayambitse kusamvana, komanso kumakhazikitsa maziko olimba ngati akuyenda bwino.
3. Kodi n’chifukwa chiyani zaka zapakati pa zaka zapakati pa moyo zimabweretsa mavuto atsopano m’banja?
Zaka 15-20 zimatha kukhala zovuta chifukwa cha zinthu monga kupsinjika kwa ntchito, kulera achinyamata, mavuto azachuma, komanso nthawi zina kusintha kwa "chisa chopanda kanthu". Maanja angafunike kuunikanso ubale wawo ndi kukonzanso mgwirizano wawo pamene akuyandikira magawo atsopano a moyo.
Maganizo Final
Ukwati uliwonse umadutsa m'zigawo zovuta, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimatengera kusintha kwa moyo, kupsinjika maganizo, ndi kuyembekezera kusintha. Ngakhale kuti zaka zina zingakhale zovuta kwambiri kuposa zina, zochitika za banja lililonse zimakhala zosiyana. Chofunikira kwambiri ndikuyandikira nthawi zovutazi ndi kuleza mtima, kulankhulana momasuka, ndi kudzipereka pakukula. Ukwati sukhala wophweka nthawi zonse, koma kuyesetsa ndi kufunitsitsa kusintha kungasinthe zaka zovuta kukhala zochitika zazikulu zakukula ndi chikondi. Alangizi athu odziwa zambiri za ubale ali pano kuti akuthandizeni kuyenda zaka zovuta kwambiri ndikupanga kulumikizana kolimba ndi bwenzi lanu. Musadikire—yambani kuyesetsa kuti mukhale ndi banja labwino komanso losangalala.”
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