Zizindikiro za 11 Zokhudza Mtima - Mutha Kuwoloka Mzere Osazindikira Ngakhale

Mutha kukhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi munthu wina osati mnzanu osazindikira kuti mukuwonetsa zizindikiro zapamtima. Kodi zikutanthauza kuti mukubera pachibwenzi? Pamene okwatirana azaka zatsopano akulimbana ndi malingaliro a mwamuna mmodzi, polyamory, ndi chirichonse chomwe chimagwera pakati, n'zovuta kuzindikira chomwe chikunyenga ndi chomwe sichili. Akukumana ndi zovuta zambiri za momwe angapangire mzere wa kukhulupirika mu ubale.

Zikuwoneka kuti pali mgwirizano, ndithudi, za kulowa pabedi ndi munthu wina osati mnzanu. Anthu ambiri angavomereze kuti uku ndi kubera, pokhapokha ngati muli paubwenzi womasuka kapena wa polyamorous. Koma pa nkhani ya nkhani ya m’maganizo, mizereyo siiikidwa bwino. M'malo mwake, ndi opusa kwambiri kotero kuti mungakhale mukuwoloka mzerewo osazindikira kuti pali kuthekera kwakuti posachedwapa mudzakhazikika m'chibwenzi.

Kuti timvetse mfundo zazikulu za nkhaniyi, tikuyang'ana kafukufuku wa sayansi komanso mlangizi Manjari Saboo (Masters in Applied Psychology and Post-Graduate Diploma in Family Therapy and Child Care Counseling), yemwe anayambitsa Maitree Counselling, yomwe ndi ntchito yothandiza mabanja ndi ana kukhala ndi thanzi labwino.

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Kodi kukhala ndi ubale wapabanja ndi kubera? Kapena kukhala ndi chidaliro chamalingaliro pa wina ndikuberanso? Mumagawana nawo zonse za moyo wanu, mumagawana nawo zisangalalo zanu ndi zowawa zanu ndikugawana nawo kusinthasintha kwanu ndi zomwe mwakwaniritsa. Muli ndi mgwirizano wamphamvu kwambiri ndi munthuyo. Kulumikizana uku kuli pakati pa inu nonse ndipo si anthu ambiri omwe akudziwa za kuyandikana kumeneku. Ndipo ngati mukudabwa ngati chibwenzi chanu chikunyenga, inde. Kumatchedwa kusakhulupirika kwamalingaliro.

Pakhoza kukhala magawo ambiri a chibwenzi chamaganizo . Nthawi zambiri chimayamba ngati ubwenzi wopanda cholakwa. Pamene mukudziika nokha m'maganizo mwanu kunja kwa chibwenzi chanu, ubwenzi wachikondi uwu ukhoza kusanduka ubale wapamtima kwambiri moti ungawopseze ubale wanu. Ubwenzi uliwonse ukadutsa malire amenewo, umakhala ngati zizindikiro zoyambirira za chibwenzi chamaganizo.

Magawo oyambirirawo mungawaone ngati opanda vuto ndiponso osalakwa, koma akatswiri a zaukwati ndi alangizi amavomereza kuti kuchita zimenezi n’kusakhulupirika. Imodzi yokha yomwe ilibe gawo logonana panobe. Nthawi zambiri, chibwenzi cham'maganizo chimakhala choyambira pazochitika zonse ndi kubera.

Ngakhale sizitero, bodza ndi chinyengo zimatha kusiya mnzanuyo akumva kuti waperekedwa pamene kugwirizana kwanu ndi 'bwenzi' kukuwonekera. Zili choncho chifukwa chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti muli ndi chibwenzi ndi chizolowezi chonama kapena kubisira mnzanu.

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Koma nayi chenjezo loyenera. Malinga ndi Manjari , “Onetsetsani kuti mukudziwa kuti mnzanu akudutsa malire musanakumane naye, chifukwa nayi nkhani. Mukangoganiza kuti mnzanuyo akukunyengani, zomwe mudzawona ndi zizindikiro za chibwenzi chamaganizo chomwe chikuchitika kumbuyo kwanu. Mbewu ya kukayikira idzabzalidwa m'maganizo mwanu ndipo mudzawona zochitika zonse kuchokera mbali imeneyo.” Malinga ndi Manjari, zotsatirazi ndi zina mwa makhalidwe omwe ndi zizindikiro za chibwenzi chamaganizo, komanso zomwe zingakhale zizindikiro za mavuto ambiri muubwenzi wanu:

• Mmodzi atha kukhala wodalira kwambiri wina pamalingaliro awo ndikuyamba kutengera umunthu kapena malingaliro ake.
• Mmodzi akhoza kuchita mantha kwambiri ndi wina ndipo sangasiye kuwasirira poyera
• Mmodzi akhoza kukhala kuti alibe chidwi kwambiri ndi wokondedwa wake kapena malingaliro awo
• Kunyalanyaza chiyanjano kumatengedwa kuti ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zodetsa nkhawa za chibwenzi kapena ndi chizindikiro chabe cha ubale woipa.
• Pali kutsika kwakukulu mu nthawi yabwino yomwe wina amayambitsa ndi mnzake

Kuwonekera komanso kukhulupirika muubwenzi zikasokonekera, nkhani zokhulupirirana zimayamba kukhazikika. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuzindikira zizindikiro zakukondana ndi mnzako kapena mnzako, ndikuzichotsa mumphukira. Chabwino, ngati mukufuna kupulumutsa ubale wanu. Ngati sichoncho, ngakhale zili choncho, ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe mukumvera kuti musankhe zomwe mukufuna nokha.

Kusakhulupirika M'maganizo Malinga ndi Kafukufuku

Monga momwe tafotokozera mu kafukufuku wina , ofufuza osiyanasiyana m'mbuyomu anayesa kufotokoza kusakhulupirika kwa malingaliro. Kwatanthauzidwa m'njira zosamveka bwino monga:

• Kuyika kwa chikondi chachikondi, nthawi, ndi chidwi mwa munthu wina osati bwenzi loyamba
• Kupanga ubwenzi wapamtima, kugwa m'chikondi, kapena kukhala ndi chidwi ndi munthu wina osati bwenzi lako
• Kugawana zambiri zachinsinsi
• Kukambilana madandaulo a bwenzi loyamba
• Kukopa
• Kukumana kwa chakumwa choledzeretsa
• Kumva 'olumikizidwa kwambiri'
• Kubisa chinsinsi cha khalidwe lomwe munthu amakumana nalo ngati kusakhulupirika kwa mnzanu (mwachitsanzo ngati kusakhulupirika pa intaneti) ndi kuphwanya kwina kwa malamulo a ubale kapena zikhalidwe.

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Ena mwa matanthauzo a kusakhulupirika m'malingaliro amakhala ovuta nthawi zina koma ichi ndi chiyambi ngakhale sichovuta komanso chofulumira kuti muwone zizindikiro za chibwenzi. Malinga ndi kafukufukuyu, mitundu iwiri ya machitidwe omwe amatchulidwa pafupipafupi poyang'ana zizindikiro za zochitika zamalingaliro anali: 

• Kutumizirana mameseji kapena kuyankhula pafoni ndi munthu mobisa/mokopana/nthawi zambiri
• Kugwirana mosagonana (monga kukumbatirana, kukumbatirana, kusisita, kugwirana chanza)

Kucheza nokha ndi munthu amene mukudziwa kuti amakukondani, kapena kupita (kucheza) ndi munthu amene mumamukonda yemwe si mnzanu, kapena kukambirana zinthu zachinsinsi ndi munthu wina zomwe simunakambiranepo ndi wokondedwa wanu - malinga ndi ena mwa ophunzirawo, umu ndi momwe mungadziwire zizindikiro za chibwenzi chokondana. Nkhani za pa intaneti zikusinthanso lingaliro la kukhulupirika . Mu kafukufuku womwewo, zizindikiro zina za chibwenzi chokondana pa Facebook kapena zizindikiro za chibwenzi chokondana pa intaneti ndi izi:

• DM-ing anthu ena pa TV (kuwauza momwe iwo alili okongola)
• Kumenya 'like' pazithunzi zogonana za anthu ena
• Kulankhulana kosalekeza ndi munthu yemwe si bwenzi lanu / amene akuwopseza ubale / kuyankhulana ndi wina kumbuyo kwa mnzanu
• Kutumiza zithunzi ndi munthu nthawi zonse pa social media

Ngati mnzanu akukana kuti wachita chilichonse mwa izi, kodi izi ndi zizindikiro zonama za chibwenzi chamaganizo? Kapena kwenikweni, si chinyengo? Pazochitika zotere, ndikofunikira kufotokoza tanthauzo la 'kusakhulupirika' kwa inu nonse, komanso kukula kwake. Kaya mukufuna zizindikiro za chibwenzi chamaganizo, kapena mwamuna wanu akuchita chinyengo pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti , muyenera kukhala okonzeka kukambirana naye za vutoli.

Manjari akuti, "Kusakhulupirika m'malingaliro ndi chimaliziro cha zilakolako zosakhutitsidwa ndi zokhumba za malingaliro omwe akudziwa komanso osazindikira." Iye anapereka chitsanzo cha anthu amene ankafuna kugonana ndi banja lake, “Banja lina linabwera kudzandiona pofuna kukonza chibwenzi chawo.” Umu ndi mmene zinayambira: Mkazi, tsiku lina, anali asanakonzekere kugonana koma mwamunayo anaumirira, anavomera, ndipo tsiku lotsatira atauza mnzake za nkhaniyi, mnzakeyo ananena kuti izi zikumveka ngati kugwiriridwa.

“Izi m’kupita kwa nthaŵi zinadzetsa mkangano waukulu pakati pa okwatiranawo pamene anayamba kupita kwa bwenzi lake mowonjezerekawonjezereka kaamba ka uphungu ndi kumuuza zakukhosi kwake zimene sanali womasuka kuchitanso ndi mwamuna wake.

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Lydia, wogwira ntchito zachitukuko ku Philadelphia, adawona zizindikiro zonse za chibwenzi cha Facebook pamene mwamuna wake adakumananso ndi moto wakale waku koleji. Amatha maola ambiri akucheza ndi wakale wake pa Facebook, akukonzekera kukumana naye 'chifukwa cha khofi' pamene Lydia anali kunja kwa tawuni, anayamba kuvala bwino kuti athe kutumiza selfies kwa iye - zizindikiro zonse za chibwenzi pa intaneti.

Iye akuti, "Ndinayenera kumudzutsa kusukulu ya koleji yomwe anali nayo. Ndinamuuza kuti ndikumva kuti ndasiyidwa, kuti ndimamusowa, komanso kuti ndikuwopa kuti ndimutaya posachedwa." Anamvetseradi ndikuzindikira kuti wadutsa mzere wosakhwima. Pambuyo pake amatha kuona zizindikiro za chibwenzi chomwe adadzipangira yekha, ndipo anauza mwamuna wake wakale kuti sangathenso kucheza. "

Mu mkhalidwe wosokoneza uwu, kodi zikutanthauza chiyani ngati mukugwirizana kwambiri ndi munthu wina? Pamene okwatirana awiri akugwira ntchito tsiku lonse, osagonana kwambiri kapena osagonana konse, ndipo osapeza nthawi yokhala ndi wina ndi mnzake, chibwenzi chamaganizo chingayambe kugwira ntchito kapena ndi mnzako wapamtima. Popanda kutchula zabwino ndi zoyipa za mgwirizano wonse, tiyeni tiwone zizindikiro za chibwenzi chamaganizo kuti zikuthandizeni kudziwa ngati mukunyenga chibwenzi mosadziwa :

1. Mumayitana ndani poyamba?

Izi zingawoneke ngati zazing'ono, koma akatswiri amati ichi ndi chizindikiro chofala kwambiri chachinyengo chamaganizo. Nthawi zambiri, ngati chinachake chachikulu chikachitika, chabwino kapena choipa, kuyitana mnzanuyo kuti mugawane nawo nkhani ndi chikhalidwe cha maubwenzi.

Ngati mupeza kuti mukutembenukira kwa bwenzi lanu lapadera munthawi ngati izi, ndikugawana nawo zosintha zofunika pamoyo wanu ngakhale musanakhale ndi mnzanu, mutha kuziwerengera pakati pazizindikiro zochenjeza za chibwenzi.

Lamuloli siligwira ntchito kwa makolo, abale kapena abwenzi apamtima. Koma ngati mumakokera kwa munthu wina panthawi yachisomo kapena chimwemwe, mungakhale ndi chibwenzi. Munthu uyu amalamulira malo anu amalingaliro kotero kuti amatsogola mnzako yemwe mukugawana naye moyo wanu.

2. Iwo amakhala munthu wopita kwa inu kuti mupeze malangizo

Kawirikawiri, mnzanuyo ndi amene amapita kwa munthu kuti akupatseni uphungu ndi uphungu. Ngakhale simungamvere malangizo awo, mumakambirana nawo musanapange zisankho zofunika pamoyo wanu. Iwo kukhala bolodi lanu loyimbira ndi gawo lofunikira pakuyitanira wina mnzanu.

Ngati udindo umenewo watengedwa ndi munthu wachitatu amene wakhala gawo lofunika kwambiri la moyo wanu mochedwa, ndi zina mwa zizindikiro zoonekeratu za nkhani maganizo pa Intaneti kapena m'moyo weniweni.

Simone, wojambula wazaka 31, adapeza kusakhulupirika kwa wokondedwa wake mwanjira iyi. Analandira ntchito ku kampani yatsopano yomwe ikubwera popanda kukambirana kapena kuyendetsa bizinesiyo ndi iye. Anamuuza nkhaniyi atalemba mapepala ake kuntchito kwake. Pamene mkaziyo ankamufunsa za mwayi watsopano, sanathe kuyankha.

Simone adawona kuti palibe chomwe chikuyenda bwino, kotero adayika foni yake kuti amvetsetse zomwe zikuchitika. M'macheza ake amseri, adawona akukambirana kwanthawi yayitali ndi mzimayi. Nthawi yonseyi ankaganiza kuti amangomudziwa wamba, koma apa ankangocheza naye zamumtima zakusakhutitsidwa ndi udindo wake. Chinali chifukwa cha chilimbikitso chake, kuti iye anatenga luntha la chikhulupiriro kuchoka pa ntchito ya malipiro abwino, yosungika kupita ku yosakhazikika kwenikweni.

Atamuyang'ana, iye ankaganiza kuti akupanga phiri ndi phiri. Sanathe kuzindikira kuti mwina ankamuchitira nkhanza. Mosiyana ndi chinyengo chakuthupi, zinthu zambiri zachinyengo zimakhala zobisika, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuzifotokoza, kuzivomereza, ndi kuvomereza.

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3. Kutalikirana ndi mnzanu

Catherine, wowerenga wathu wazaka 29 wochokera ku Illinois, ankadziwa kuti amatha kuona zizindikiro za chibwenzi chamaganizo chomwe chikuchitika pakati pa mkazi wake ndi 'bwenzi' lake, koma sanathe kuchita chilichonse. Chifukwa chiyani? Iye akugawana nafe, "Kodi mungatsimikizire bwanji chilichonse? Sizinali zakuthupi, choncho ndimangoyembekezera kuti avomereze, ndipo avomereze kuti chidaliro changa mwa iye chagwedezeka." Ngakhale kuti panali zizindikiro za chibwenzi chamaganizo mwa mkazi wake, Catherine sakanatha kuchita zambiri chifukwa chakuti ankayembekezera kuti mkazi wake avomereze zachinyengo komanso chifukwa anthu amaika patsogolo ubale wamaganizo kuposa wamaganizo.

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosatsutsika za chibwenzi chamaganizo ndi chakuti mumakonda kusintha wokondedwa wanu ndi munthu wina. Kusintha uku kumachitika kudzera muzochita zomwe sitingazindikire nthawi zonse. Izi zikutanthauzanso kuti mtunda wina umapangidwa mu ubale. Ngati mumakonda kulankhula ndi wokondedwa wanu za mavuto anu ndipo mwadzidzidzi simutero, mnzanuyo amayamba kuzindikira.

Zizindikiro za chibwenzi chokhudzidwa kuntchito kapena kunja kwake zidzawonekera pamene mnzanuyo ayamba kuzindikira kuti simukugwirizananso nawo pa msinkhu womwewo wamalingaliro omwe munali nawo kale. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mukukhutitsidwa ndi kukhudzika kwamalingaliro kuchokera kwinakwake, ndiyeno, kukana mgwirizano wanu wonse wamalingaliro. Udindo wawo ukucheperachepera m'moyo wanu ndipo mukukhaladi ndi chibwenzi.

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4. Zinthu zoyamba zimasintha

Kukula kwa mtunda waubwenzi kumawonekera bwino pankhani zofunika kwambiri. Tengani chitsanzo cha Devon, wowerenga wathu wochokera ku Iowa, mwachitsanzo. Anali kuthamangira kunyumba kwa mnzake, Sandy, madzulo aliwonse kuti akadyere limodzi chakudya. Chifukwa cha madongosolo awo, ichi chinali chakudya chokhacho chomwe akanatha kugawana ndi wina ndi mnzake moyenera ndipo nthawi zonse amaika patsogolo izi.

Koma kuyambira pamene Devon anakhala bwenzi ndi mnzake, sanaone kufunika kwa chakudya chamadzulo ndi Sandy. Kukhala mu ofesi mochedwa kunakhala chizolowezi kwa iye. Sanazindikire kuti kukhala ndi nthawi ndi mnzake tsiku lililonse kudya chakudya chamadzulo ndi mnzake chinali chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti ali pachibwenzi ndi mnzake wa kuntchito, kungopempha kuti aonedwe. Kusintha kumeneku kwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri kungakhale kochepa koma zinthuzi zimakhala ndi chizolowezi chosintha kuchoka pa ubwenzi wopanda chifukwa kupita ku nkhani zogonana.

5. Bwenzi limatenga udindo wa bwenzi

Ubwenzi ndi mgwirizano wolimbikitsa. Kaŵirikaŵiri amalera bwino kuposa maunansi ena aliwonse aumunthu. Komabe, mgwirizanowu ukhoza kulowa m'dera la imvi pamene abwenzi amayamba kuchita nawo gawo la bwenzi. Izi zitha kukhala zovuta ngati pali bwenzi lenileni pachithunzichi.

Kupita kukagula zovala, kugula zakudya, kupanga mapulani okongoletsa nyumba, zinthu zazing'ono izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala zofunika kwambiri m'moyo wa banja. Zinthu zomwe mumagawana ndi okondedwa wanu, maudindo omwe mumachita pa moyo wa wina ndi mzake ndi ofunika koma nthawi zambiri amanyalanyazidwa.

Ngati pali wina m'moyo wanu amene mungachite naye zinthu zimenezi, malo akeake omwe ndi a munthu wina wofunika kwambiri amatayika. Mungathe kupangitsa mnzanuyo kumva kuti sakukondedwa kapena kulowedwa m'malo. Mnzanuyo amakhudzidwa ndi kusakhulupirika kwa maganizo. Kuchita nawo zimenezo kungakhale ngati kupulumuka chibwenzi.

6. Kutumizirana mameseji tsiku lonse

Ichi ndi mbendera yofiyira mtheradi. Ngati mukuyenera kutumiza mameseji kwa munthu wapaderayu tsiku lonse ndipo ngati muli tcheru nthawi yomweyo mukamva ping, ndiye kuti ichi ndi chizindikiro chotsimikizika cha chibwenzi.

Ngati mukufunika kuchotsa zokambitsirana zonse kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu asawaone, ndiye kuti pali chinachake chimene muyenera kubisa. Kukambitsirana kumene mukukhala ndi munthu ameneyu amene mumamuona kukhala “bwenzi” lalikulu sikuli kwachibadwa.

Ray ankaganiza kuti pali vuto muukwati wake. Mkazi wake ankaoneka kuti amathera nthawi yambiri pafoni yake ndipo nthawi zonse ankazengereza kusiya. Sanadziwe momwe angadziwire zizindikiro za mkazi wonyenga koma ankadziwa kuti chinachake chasintha pa iye.

Tsiku lina Lamlungu masana, anapempha foni ya mkazi wake kusonyeza kuti anali wachangu pamene iye anali mkati mwa mameseji, ndipo anaona kuti akucheza ndi mnzake. Ngakhale kuti nkhani ya zokambiranazo inkaoneka ngati yopanda vuto, Ray ankaona kuti chinachake sichinasinthe.

Pambuyo pake usiku womwewo, adayang'ananso foni yake atapita kukagona ndipo adawona kuti macheza, komanso wolumikizana naye, zachotsedwa. Apa m’pamene anadziwiratu kuti bwenzi lake lokhala naye moyo limakhala lokonda mwamuna wina.

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7. Mukufuna kukhala nawo kwambiri kuposa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu

Pamene mukukonzekera tchuthi kapena tsiku lopita ku mafilimu, mumangolakalaka mu mtima mwanu kuti mungakhale ndi munthuyo m'malo momangokhalira kukangana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.

Mukuganiza za kucheza kwautali mutakhala m’nyumba yamatabwa moyang’anizana ndi mapiri pamene mukupitiriza kuthira kapu yotentha pakhonde. Ngati mukuganiza zokhala ndi banja lalitali Loweruka ndi Lamlungu kukukhumudwitsani chifukwa simungathe kumuona wantchito mnzanu amene mwakhala naye moyandikana naye kwambiri, ndi zina mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti muli ndi chibwenzi kuntchito.

Mofananamo, ngati mumakonda kukhala kunyumba m'malo motsagana ndi mnzanu pokagula zinthu kapena kumafilimu kuti muthe kucheza ndi bwenzi lapamtima limenelo mwamtendere, zimawerengedwa ngati chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za chibwenzi cham'maganizo pa intaneti.

8. Mumamufananiza mnzako ndi iwo

Chizindikiro china chodziwika bwino cha chibwenzi ndi chizolowezi chofanizira wokondedwa wanu ndi munthu amene mwakhala naye pafupi. Mulimonse mmene zinthu zilili, n’zosakayikitsa kuti mumadzifunsa kuti angachite chiyani kapena akanatani. M'mafanizo awa, munthu winayo nthawi zonse amakhala ndi malire pa mnzanuyo.

Kuyambira kukonda kwawo nyimbo mpaka mmene amavalira, zochita zawo mwaukatswiri mpaka ku nthabwala zawo, mumawaona kuti ali abwinoko pang’ono kuposa amene muli nawo panopa pazonse. Mutha kufananiza kapena simunganene, koma pamutu panu pali mawu ang'onoang'ono omwe amasunga bwino. Ndipo bwenzi lanu lapadera mosapeŵeka limatuluka monga wopambana.

9. Mumavala kwa iwo;

Tad anali wazaka zake zakumapeto kwa 30 ndipo anali atakwatiwa kwa theka la zaka khumi. Moyo wake udakhala wodziwikiratu komanso wokhazikika momwe zimakhalira. Anali okhutitsidwa ndi moyo womwe adadzipangira ndi mwamuna wake mpaka mnyamata wina wapaofesiyo adamugwetsa masokosi.

Anakopeka ndi mnyamata uyu yemwe anali wosiyana ndi mwamuna wake ngakhale kuti sankafuna kuvomereza. Mpaka tsiku lina, Tad anadzipeza akusankha zovala ndi nsapato mosamala ndipo anayesetsa kwambiri kukonza tsitsi lake chifukwa anali kupita naye ku msonkhano wa bizinesi. Awiriwa anali atagwirizana kwambiri m'nthawi yochepa kwambiri, ndipo sakanathanso kukana mfundo yakuti ankayembekezera kwambiri kukhala naye paubwenzi kuposa mwamuna wake.

10. Mumakambirana nawo mavuto anu paubwenzi

'Osatulutsa zovala zanu zonyansa pagulu' - limenelo ndi limodzi mwa malamulo akuluakulu a ubale wabwino . Kaya zinthu zikhale zovuta bwanji muubwenzi wanu, simumangolankhula monyoza mnzanu kapena kukambirana za mavuto m'paradaiso ndi munthu amene simukumudziwa. Komabe, mukakumana ndi vuto la maganizo, kulankhula za ubale wanu kumabwera mwachibadwa.

Simuperekanso lingaliro lachiwiri pakugawana malingaliro anu amkati, zosungika, zokhumudwitsa ndi munthu yemwe mwakondana naye. Pakhoza kukhala nthawi yomwe mumagawana nawo zinthu zomwe simunagawanepo ndi mnzanuyo. Izi siziri pakati pa zizindikiro zochenjeza za chibwenzi cham'maganizo komanso chimodzi mwazodetsa nkhawa kwambiri. Ngati simusamala, malingaliro anu amatha kutha msanga, ndikuwononga ubale wanu.

11. Umayamba kusunga zinsinsi kwa wokondedwa wako

Mungadziuze kuti munthu wapadera amene wangopezedwa kumene m’moyo mwanu ndi bwenzi chabe. Mumtima mwanu mumadziwa mmene mumawaonera. Mumakopeka, kutengeka, kukanthidwa. Ndichifukwa chake mumachita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mubisire kuyandikira kwanu kwa okondedwa anu.

Mwina sadziwa n’komwe za kukhalapo kwa bwenzi limeneli. Ngakhale atatero, sakudziwa kuti inu nonse mwayandikana bwanji. Kulakwa ndi kupyola malire aubwenzi komwe kumakupangitsani kusunga zinsinsi ndikunamiza wokondedwa wanu. Mukapita pansi pa dzenje la kalulu, m'pamenenso kudzakhala kovuta kwambiri kuchira. Panthawi ina, mnzanuyo adzadziwa za munthu winayo, ndipo mabodza ndi chinyengo zidzawasiya ophwanyidwa.

Kuwerenga Kofanana: Ubwenzi Wosayenera Mukakwatirana - Izi ndi Zimene Muyenera Kudziwa

Manjari akuti, "Ngakhale tidawona zizindikiro zoyamba zaubwenzi, nthawi zonse pamakhala mwayi wosintha paubwenzi uliwonse, zili ndi ife kusankha chomwe chingakhale choyamba kwa ife." Akuti izi ndi zomwe mungachite kuti mupewe vuto la kusakhulupirika m'maganizo:

• Kambiranani za mayesero omwe muli nawo panopa komanso maganizo anu ofooka ndi okondedwa anu
• Mukawona zizindikiro za chibwenzi mwa inu kapena mnzanu, khalani ndi nthawi yambiri yocheza ngakhale poyamba zimakhala zovuta.
• Ngati muyamba kukondana kwambiri ndi wina, ikani mtunda pakati pa inu ndi iwo. 'Zopanda kuwoneka, zachilendo' zimagwira ntchito pakapita nthawi

Chowonadi ndi chakuti maubwenzi achikondi ndi ntchito ya chikondi. Kuti munthu akhale wokangalika kumafuna chikondi ndi chisamaliro chochuluka. Zochita zing'onozing'ono ndi machitidwe ndizofunikira pazomangira izi. Pokhapokha ngati chisamaliro chikuperekedwa ku maudindo omwe timagwira nawo paubwenzi ndi chikondi chomwe chimasinthidwa, timakhala pachiopsezo cha nkhani yamaganizo.

Ndipo tikangokhazikika mu umodzi, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuuchotsa. Chifukwa nthawi zonse umadziuza kuti suli kugona ndi munthuyo kotero kuti suli kunyenga. Koma zoona zake n'zakuti pali mitundu yambiri ya kusakhulupirika.

Ibibazo

10 Kubera Zizindikiro Zolakwa Zomwe Muyenera Kusamala

Zizindikiro 17 Zosadziwika Kuti Mukukhala Ndi Mkhalidwe Wamtima Pantchito

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